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Description: July 2013 Real Estate & Home Issue

HERLIFE MAGAZINE KEEPING WOMEN CONNECTED juLY 2013 Radha Anne Berry Licensed ReaL estate BRokeR Living HeR dReam insigHts into tHe mind of tHe HiRing manageR plus HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Staff and ContaCtS Publisher and Editor-In-Chief Karen alleyne-Means karen Vice President of Business Development shawn P. Means shawn herlifeMagazine.coM Advertising Information sflsales herlifeMagazine.coM (561) 899-0433 ext. 101 Editor Marilyn isaMinger Art Director Todd granThaM Associate Art Director Kellie PaxTon ashleigh ThoMson Advertising Art Director elana Bell Contributing Authors chandra BlacKwell lisa TaranTo BuTler lauren cole hoPe ferguson VicKy gilPin dr. Phil heller Marilyn isaMinger KaThleen M. 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It is available in selected specialty stores doctor and dental offices medical spas hair and nail salons tanning salons public libraries and numerous other high traffic locations. Please call for a location near you or if you would like copies placed at your business. We do not necessarily endorse the views expressed in the articles and advertisements nor are we responsible for the products and services advertised. We welcome your ideas articles and feedback. SUBSCRIPTIONS Subscriptions are available for 26 (for 12 issues). Please go to or mail a check made out to HERLIFE Magazine to the above address. 4 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM herlife contents Radha anne BeRRy radha Anne Berry s ability to innovate and take risks has moved her forward through crisis and crash. She shares her passion for family and business with husband Derrick and their two sons melding all parts into successful creative ventures that benefit both clients and community stability. read more inside about The Good Pirates journey. 16 Anxiety is a natural reaction to something that feels threatening. Our bodies are conditioned to react whether something truly puts us in danger or not. contents Welcome health Beauty Mind Matters inspirations Culinary recipes 6 8 12 14 16 20 22 24 26 28 32 34 36 38 40 42 44 46 50 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 5 8 i am a firm believer in the it takes a village school of thought. But i wasn t in the beginning...and i m referring to that moment as a working mother when you drop off your child for the first time with another caregiver Mother s Perspective Spotlight Trendsetter Spotlight Working Women finance 24 Why is a job interview so nerve-wracking for starters you re probably not wearing the most comfortable clothing unless you re interviewing for a position as a yoga instructor. real estate She Said Yes Tie The Knot Travel 34 Scene & Be Seen in the City herlife welcome CeleBRation of life Have an inspirational woman in your life If you or someone you know has a great story that you think should be told please email us at karen The event happened on my birthday. I don t remember the date I only know it was my birthday because there was no cake or presents. Jarod Kintz This Book Has No Title Like HERLIFE Magazine on Facebook to stay current on great discounts special events and behind-the-scenes details HerlifeSouthFlorida birthday. On that day I was diagnosed with breast cancer. That was five years ago and as I celebrate my birthday this month it will coincide with my being cancer free for five years. So I definitely have something to celebrate. My birthday wish for all of my readers - women and men alike - is this Please be your own health advocate. Keep up with your examinations get some rest exercise and eat healthy and keep stress at bay. I really like the mission and tag line of the American Cancer Society The Official Sponsor of Birthdays . Visit T he quote from Jarod Kintz is almost a representation of what happened on my birthday except that I do remember the date and my children were at home with the cake. The event that I am referring to was my 39th Help us be green Please share the love and recycle when you are done reading this issue their website at for valuable information to assist you in self-advocacy. So join me this July - and prayerfully many Julys in the future - in blowing out my gratefully-lit candles and together let s all celebrate more birthdays. Karen Alleyne-Means p h o t o b y d a na f ra nc e of s ug a rb e lle p ho t o gr a phy 6 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM hot deals Celebrating over 30 years of family tradition. hope heaLth & WeLLness 2 locations Palm Beach Gardens 4290 Professional Center Dr. 561-721-9696 West Palm Beach 655 N. Military Trail 561-686-0120 paLM Beach executive center 2875 S. Ocean Blvd. Suite 200 Palm Beach FL 561-578-8668 zuccareLLi 4595 Okeechobee Blvd. West Palm Beach Florida 561-686-7739 20% off massage - swedish sports tissue and hot stone available. No move in fees Free internet & phone with reception services 1 month service retainer with a 12-month agreement Mention you saw this ad in Herlife Magazine and get 10% off when you spend 50. 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You my dear friend are caught within the grips of anxiety and although so much of this feels awful and beyond your control it s not so. The good news is that there is plenty you can do. Anxiety is a natural reaction to something that feels threatening. Our bodies are conditioned to react whether something truly puts us in danger or not. When you come face-to-face with a bear it s a good thing that you react so strongly. You need to survive so the fight or flight reaction is helpful. However the wedding toast is no bear. It s 8 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM T he wedding is over the reception is under way and it is almost time for you to give a toast. All eyes will be upon you as you offer some heartfelt words. You re first aware of feeling physically uncomfortable. Your mouth is dry though amazingly other parts of your body have no problems time to channel that energy productively. First let s tackle the physical symptoms. When you know your body is getting stressed be intentional with counteracting the naturally-occurring fight or flight symptoms. Diaphragmatic breathing is your most powerful tool. This means you take deep and slow breaths that make your tummy expand--not your shoulders rise. You can count to four as you inhale and again to four as you exhale. By supplying your body with sufficient oxygen you prevent many of the other unpleasant physical freak out reactions. Next scan your body for the spots where you hold tension. Pay special attention to the back shoulders neck jaw and forehead. Stretch and rub the muscles deliberately make efforts to relax them. Now let s address your mind. It is common for us to think I can t stand this as the nervousness begins. Too much anxiety can indeed be paralyzing but research also shows that too little of it throws us off our game. We re not as alert and invested in doing something well so performance suffers. That means we actually do want to experience some anxiety. To prevent it from becoming too much however monitor your thoughts to avoid being overly harsh and self-critical. Continued on page 10 doctor lawrence weinstein Dear Dr. Weinstein What s the big deal about depression We are all depressed at times L.S. Dear L.S. Depression is a very big deal Like you wrote we are all sad from time to time. These feelings may last for a few days and then go away. But just imagine if they didn t. Imagine if the feelings of sadness overwhelmed you every single day of the year You are tired but you can t get to sleep. You sleep but you don t have energy to get up in the morning. Things that gave you pleasure for years no longer hold your interest. You re irritated you can t think straight there is a constant empty feeling in the pit of your stomach and everything can seem so hopeless. Then certain thoughts may crawl into your head. Thoughts like how nice it would be if you went to bed and didn t wake up. At first you may try to ignore these ideas but like the scent of freshly baked bread the thoughts of harming yourself beckon to you and become irresistible. While this may seem overly dramatic the CDC estimates that 10 percent of the adult population suffers from some form of depression. Sadly many people with depression never seek treatment. This is unfortunate as most people will get better with treatment. It s not surprising that major changes in life can cause depression. Things like losing a loved one a job or getting a divorce can cause depression. Even happy events can cause it. Getting married or having a baby can trigger depression. Doctors need to be aware that many medications we give to patients can cause depression. Beta blockers like Lopressor can affect the brain and cause depression. Alcohol can aggravate an underlying depression. Depression may also be the first sign of certain illnesses like cancer of the pancreas. Depression can target the elderly not just because of their age but because of loneliness the multiple medical problems they have and their lack of independence. In fact in some elderly patients their depression is so bad it can look like they have Alzheimer s. These patients respond very well to therapy. There is no shame in seeking help for depression. It is no different than any other illness. The key thing is to recognize the symptoms of depression and seek medical attention. The sooner you act the sooner you will be enjoying life again rather than dreading it. Lawrence Weinstein MD is a board certified cardiologist and Chairman of the Department of Cardiology at Bethesda Hospital. His office is located at 10301 Hagen Ranch Road Suite B-4 in Boynton Beach. Please phone (561) 200-3583 for additional information or an appointment. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 9 That s rather harsh don t you think And yet we have all thought it anxiety is a natural reaction to something that feels threatening. our bodies are conditioned to react whether something truly puts us in danger or not. when you come face-to-face with a bear it s a good thing that you react so strongly. you need to survive so the fight or flight reaction is helpful. Certainly some self-awareness can be helpful feedback to finetune what you do but now is not the time to unleash the inner critic. If you can distract yourself from attending to it. Rather than focusing internally be present with what is happening around you externally here and now. For any thoughts that you do pay attention to actively construct them to be helpful and be careful of statements that include must or should. For example avoid saying to yourself I must do this perfectly or else I have failed myself and others. in some form at one time or another. It does nothing to build you up it only tears you down. Instead think I m going to do the best that I possibly can. I did what is within my power to prepare and from here forward I ll do my best to adapt to whatever else happens. On a side note is it true and did you do what you could to prepare That is a separate but related issue. To put your mind at ease ensure you have done what was healthily possible to be ready for what might be coming your way. You are within a few minutes of giving your toast. You ve been breathing deeply and you will continue to do so as you speak. You relaxed your shoulders and unclenched your jaw. You did your homework and prepared what you want to express. You feel the adrenaline but you know that it is helping you be skillful on your feet and attend to the task with focus. You take one more deep breath as you think to yourself I am ready to do my best. The eyes are upon you because indeed you are admirable in how you are carrying yourself. Besides a portion of the audience doesn t closely attend to your words anyway. They are worrying about what someone else thinks of their words actions attire etc. Anxiety is inevitable and all of us experience it. The key is knowing how best to work with it. For more information about coping with anxiety visit lib 2006 strategies-to-reduce-anxiety-and-stress and topics anxiety index.aspx. 10 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Daniel Man M.D. P.A. Board-Certified Plastic Surgeon and Reconstructive Surgery Specialist Diplomate of the American Board of Plastic Surgery Fellow of the American Society for Laser Medicine and Surgery Winner 2013 Aesthetic Show Best Overall Patient Enhancement Winner 2012 Aesthetic Show Best Overall Surgical Make Over Nominee 2012 Aesthetic Show for Innovative Skin Rejuvenation - Best Non Surgical Procedure volume to various parts of the face neck and body. T tRilift rilift is a new non-surgical combination treatment created in our practice to improve and enhance face neck and body rejuvenation by improving skin color and skin texture and adding In recent years we have been seeing more a new nonSURgiCal PRotoCol Skin Color and Texture DM MD Dr. Man s proprietary no-downLaser Resurfacing Mosaic time facial peel Fractionated Erbium Fractionated CO2 CO2 laser Erbium laser Medium Peel chemical resurfacing SRP Skin Rejuvenation Peel the gold standard of peels Why TRILIFT and more patients who are looking to improve their appearance but don t want to commit to surgery. We believe that patients who are not yet interested in surgical procedures can still benefit and enjoy significant improvement with combination treatments that address the different aspects that can make a person look and feel younger and better. As with most things in life the level of improvement is subjective and varies from one patient to the other. Some aging patients will see fewer significant results with noninvasive and minimally-invasive protocols than the more effective skin-excisional procedures. That is why it is so important to consult a board-certified plastic surgeon in order to get the best course of treatment and set realistic expectations. As we aspire to provide our patients with the best and most effective treatment protocols we offer our patients various options to help improve the different aspects such as skin color and texture skin laxity and volume. For each category we offer a number of treatments and technologies. Skin tightening using Radio Frequency technology REFIT for the body RELIFT for face and neck The radio frequency technology works by heating the layers of the skin breaking the collagen crosslinks and improving the skin elasticity with what is called neocollagenesis. By minimizing collagen deposits and increasing blood circulation healthy collagen production and skin shrinkage in the deepest layer the dermis is promoted. The RF technology works on the face neck jowls eyelids and body. The effect of RF technology is gradual and will improve with time. Volume and neurotoxins Fillers Fat Injection Neurotoxins such as Botox This three-tier approach to aging provides substantial results which allow you to look as vibrant as you feel. The TRILIFT Protocol helps to bridge the gap between how you feel and the person you see in the mirror. Dr. Daniel Man is a board-certified plastic surgeon with 30 years of experience who has dedicated his life s work to helping people look younger and improve their appearance through cosmetic surgery. He is a noted author artist inventor and educator. Dr. Man has been featured on major television networks as well as national and local magazines and newspapers for his work as both a plastic surgeon and an artist. Dr. Man has a private practice in Boca Raton Florida. Email your questions or comments to info or call (561) 395-5508 for an appointment. herlife beauty ChooSing a flatteRing liP ColoR by vic ky gilpi n I discovered that so much more goes into a successful lipstick choice than liking it on the shelf on a friend or celebrity or even dabbing it on the back of my hand. I always wanted to be one of those women who wear red lipstick. I tried for years experimenting with different textures tones and formulas. However successfully pulling off the style always eluded me. As I ve gotten more experienced after years of purchasing and wearing lipsticks and years of trial and sometimes disastrous error warm undertones). The writer advises nude light mocha and mauve for fair skin with cool undertones and shell sand or nude peach for warm undertones. She warns against bright pink dark bronze and dark mocha shades. She suggests people with medium skin with cool undertones use rosy pink pomegranate and cranberry while those with warm undertones should use bronze copper and cinnamon but she advises them to stay away from nudes to keep from looking washed out. The writer also indicates that olive skin of both undertones can handle the same shades brick red brown red caramel and dark berry. Finally dark skin with cool undertones looks best with raisin wine and ruby red and warm undertones require honey ginger or coppery bronze shades. However in many cases dark skin is not most advantageously displayed with orange shades. Skin Tone Everyone knows that a lipstick that looks glamorous playful or just off often depends on how the color looks with one s skin. However because the skin on your face may be a different shade than that on your hand where many women dab color to try it out you make the best decision by looking in a mirror at the lipstick on your lips. Approaching a salesperson at the makeup counter and asking to try a sample of a few colors with the potential to buy them is encouraged not frowned upon. This will allow you to have an accurate perspective on how the lipstick works with your skin tone without the buyer s regret that often occurs if you do not preview the shade. Different colors take on whole new aspects depending on one s skin tone. An article in Women s Health Magazine provided an in-depth look at lipstick shades that focused on complimentary colors for a person s undertone it suggests that you know whether you are cool or warm by the color of the veins on the inside of your wrists when viewed in natural light (bluer means cool undertones while more green indicates 12 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Hair Color As well as skin tone flattering shades may also be affected by hair color. For example redheads have to pay attention to whether their lipstick shade is competing with the vividness of their hair blondes can be overwhelmed by excessively bold or dark choices and brunettes of all skin tones can play up the drama with bright choices. However Lipstick Style Lounge s Ashley Melchior suggests that some blondes can pull off a Marilyn Monroe look with a true red lipstick. Technology The current vivid lip trends provide a great excuse to experiment with defying the boundaries of what you ve always thought of as your shade. In addition modern beauty technology can also play a part in how much you can investigate different lip shades that work for you. Those of us who remember the 80s may have had more than one experience with a smudged purple fuchsia or neon pink lipstick. However the many lipstains lipsticks and other products whose assertion of long-lasting wear not only sells the sizzle but has the steak to back it up provides the opportunity to be more adventuresome by allowing formerly timid lipstick lovers or those in a shade rut to branch out without fear of the smear. Revlon s ColorStay Ultimate SuedeTM lipstick can give a fair-skinned blonde the courage to wear the red-berry Couture or a dark-skinned brunette the freedom to experiment with the brick-red Backstage. For those who don t need quite that much staying power and want a little more hydration L Oreal s InfallibleTM Never Fail Lipgloss can let a redhead with medium skin tone explore flattering colors that don t contrast with her hair. Finally self-awareness is necessary for that final check on whether a color is right for you. Obviously clothes and events can make a difference in how your lipstick shade appears but if you cannot imagine pulling off a certain color with your current wardrobe or profession or personality leave it at the store Sources and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 13 herlife mind matters the foRtitUde of by dr. phil heller photography by karen alleyne-means 42 which is the only number in professional baseball that is retired. While his athletic skill was evident his mental strength was more important. Breaking the color line in baseball required him to be exposed to hatred and racism at its worst. Bigotry and slurs were continually fired at him not only by the public but by his own teammates as well. As Branch Rickey (played so well by Harrison Ford) the manager of the Dodgers indicated Jackie was important to baseball but he had to learn NOT to fight back. Jackie had enemies who openly degraded him tried to arrest him or refused him a hotel room. Despite his tribulations he contributed to his team and the game of baseball. We are tested every day by annoyances. People cut us off on the road. The lady in front of us in the express line has 11 items instead of 10. The waiter delivers our meal before we can finish our appetizers. While these may be petty I saw people act out to these issues on the day I went to see the movie. Yes there are serious problems which we still need to address with mental strength. Remember it is not the stressor that creates the stress it is our reaction to the stressor. Staying mindful of this is easier said than done but changing one s perspective can prevent a tough problem from becoming an ugly one. When a problem arises think how important it is in the great scheme of life. Step back and take a broad perspective without taking it personally or seeing it as an affront. Jackie Robinson looked to the greater good even though it would have been easier to fight. The latter solution would have set back the efforts being made toward integration at the time and for the future. Leaving the theater after seeing this film one feels inspired by the meaning of fortitude. For this boy who grew up in Brooklyn I was proud to have seen Jackie Robinson play. Dr. Phil Heller is a licensed Clinical and Forensic Psychologist who has testified in many high profile criminal cases. He has conducted Social Investigations for Family Court and provided Parenting Plans. Dr. Heller has commented in various media on forensic and psychological issues. He has practiced in Boca Raton Florida for more than 32 years working with children and adults. Please visit his website at or call (561) 994-4565 for an appointment. 14 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM A s a young boy growing up in Brooklyn I quickly learned about the heritage of Jackie Robinson who was a star of the Brooklyn Dodgers. While I only visited him at Ebbets Field for a brief period his legend continues to this day. The valuable lessons of character are portrayed in the movie 42 The Revolutionary Hair Transplantation System... No Scar. No Scalpel. No Stitches. By Daniela Dadurian M.D. Hair loss is a far too common problem equally affecting both men and women. It is a stressful condition because it is visible to others and negatively impacts self esteem. Typically after underlying medical conditions have been ruled out patients are left frustrated without a solution for their hair loss. Fortunately there are many treatments available to combat hair loss including hair transplantation. Historically hair transplant for women was not an option and for men it was considered a last resort because of scarring down time and unnatural hairlines. Now with the advent Neograft an automated hair transplant device transplantation is a viable option for both men and women. This technology allows for extraction of individual hair follicles from the back of the head that are genetically impervious to falling out. These follicles are then re-implanted in areas of hair loss. This process is discreet and natural looking avoiding past problems of unsightly scars and obvious evidence of a transplant even immediately following the procedure. Hair transplantation with Neograft is typically completed in one day and requires minimal recovery time. This revolutionary safe and effective procedure is now available as part of the comprehensive hair restoration program at MD Beauty Labs. For more information call 561-655-6325 or visit Daniela Dadurian M.D. is certified by the American Board of AntiAging & Regenerative Medicine (ABAARM). Board Certified in Laser Surgery Now at MD Beauty Labs Before After Robert L. Hunter M.D. Diplomate American Board of Obstetrics and Gynecology The specialty recognition identified herein has been received from a private organization not affiliated with or recognized by the Florida Board of Medicine. Call for Your Complimentary Consultation Gift Cards Financing Available 320 S. Quadrille Blvd WPB 561-655-MDBL(6325) herlife inspirations by kathleen m. krueger hair and make-up by dana france of sugarbelle photography wardrobe by bloomingdale s of boca raton 16 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Radha Anne Berry Resilience stRength & success when all else fails tap into your strength as a woman. Shortly after Radha received her bachelor s degree from Florida Atlantic University in Boca Raton she met Derrick D. Berry the man who would eventually become both her husband and her business partner. It was their mutual passion for business and success that drew them together initially. As they discovered their compatibility in almost every area of their lives the two business partners decided to create a personal partnership as well. They ve been married for 10 years even though they ve worked together for 13 years and have known each other even longer. Radha s childhood goal of becoming a landlord has been reached and surpassed but it wasn t a quick and easy dream to realize. It costs money to own real estate and neither Radha nor Derrick had the resources necessary to invest in property when they first met. But they did have a relentless drive to succeed and a willingness to put in the hard work and sacrifice needed to reach their goals. They decided to start a business that required little overhead as their first step into entrepreneurship. They began and steadily grew a residential cleaning business. This may have seemed like a step backward for someone with a HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 17 less of circumstances. I try to live a dream life every day with regard to both my personal life and professional life Radha asserted. That s saying a lot for someone who was riding on the crest of the wave in 2008 when the booming real estate industry crashed and devastated a large number of brokers and agents. Even as a child Radha seemed to know that her success would be tied to real estate. When asked what she wanted to be when she grew up her answer wasn t typical in any way. Instead of becoming the president a doctor or even a movie star Radha responded with I want to be a landlord. T hat s advice from Radha Anne Berry successful real estate broker wife and mother of two boys. She says she has drawn on the unique strength of womanhood both in the realms of business and motherhood. Radha strongly believes that you can enjoy life regard- college degree but Radha believes it is accurate thinking that is critical to success not just accepting the ideas and standards that seem to be the norm. The cleaning business provided a foundational step to move her further toward her real estate goal. Despite the success of the cleaning business Radha and Derrick knew that it would take additional effort on their part to raise the financial capital they needed to begin investing in real estate. To achieve their goals in a shorter length of time they made another bold move that went against the grain from the choices most young couples were making. Instead of seeking out housing that would allow them to live comfortably within their means they chose to move into a less-than-desirable neighborhood where rent was low and crime rates were high. We were simply deferring gratification Radha said. Their double-sided strategy of increasing income and decreasing their cost of living worked. In a very short time they were able to purchase their first duplex. They lived in one side and rented out the other side. Radha had become a landlord Within four years they increased their ownership to ten rental units. It was time to move on to the next step in their journey. Radha and Derrick became licensed as real estate agents and mortgage brokers and opened Buccaneer Mortgage. The business grew quickly and it wasn t long before Radha had set aside her cleaning business to commit herself full time as a buyer s real estate agent assisting Buccaneer Mortgage clients in finding properties that met their needs. Radha quickly became a multi-million dollar producer. Another expansion was in order. Radha and Derrick opened two new businesses a real estate brokerage and a real estate investment company. By 2006 their various businesses employed over 80 licensed professionals in either real estate or mortgage brokerage. Radha was now a top Realtor in South Florida generating a seven-figure income. She could afford to live a life of comfort and enjoy the success they had worked so hard to achieve. In 2008 two big changes occurred for Radha and Derrick. Having achieved so many of their goals they began their family. Their first son Dylan was born that year. Unfortunately on the business side the change was not a positive one. It was the beginning of the recession which sent the real estate and mortgage industries into a deep dive. At our worst our companies revenues tumbled by almost 75 percent making it nextto-impossible for our existing business model to continue Radha recalled. We had to make many tough decisions in order to survive. Once again Radha and Derrick chose a unique strategy in the face of these difficult circumstances. They decided to diversify and expand. They added short sales REOs and rentals to their real estate specialties and reverse mortgages to their mortgage products. They also started two new businesses an insurance agency and a title company. The new companies and products helped bring in the critical cash flow needed as the other revenues were declining. They also expanded their geographical reach to the entire state of Florida for both their real estate and mortgage businesses. The mortgage brokerage reached out even further into the Caribbean. Their expand and diversify strategy paid off. They not only survived a recession that caused many other businesses to fold but came out even stronger than they were before. You must constantly evolve and identify new trends that may change your strategy or business model Radha advised. It is possible for even a 100-year-old business to become obsolete if it does not evolve as a business. The family was expanding at home as well. Their second son Donovan was born in 2011. Not wanting to give up time with her children or her work within their businesses Radha came up with her own solution for combining the two she created a nursery at the office for her two boys. Her nanny came with the boys to the office to care for their needs while Radha was busy running her business but Radha was always nearby to be the mother she wanted to be. Never 18 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM one to keep a good thing to herself Radha made the nursery available for the children of her employees if they needed to bring a child to work for a day or a few hours. Not every couple can successfully operate in business together but Derrick and Radha are a great example of how two people can make it work when they share the same goals and values. We complement each other Radha said. Derrick is the heart and I am the hands. She also notes that their two families are very similar and have been very supportive of them in both their personal relationship and business ventures. Radha s parents have been examples for her of what it takes to succeed in the world both in business and in marriage. They ve been married for over 45 years Radha smiled proudly. I give my mother credit for helping me to become a strong and independent woman and my father credit for helping develop my entrepreneurial spirit and teaching me to think outside the box. Radha was only 19 years old when her father allowed her to join him in managing his own business. As Radha and Derrick make plans to expand nationally they ve decided to rebrand and trademark their businesses as The Good Pirates Mortgage The Good Pirates Realty and The Good Pirates Insurance to differentiate themselves from the many businesses with Buccaneer in their names. They ve set their goals high as usual. They hope to become active in 18 different states in addition to the Caribbean through this expansion. Radha feels that real estate is a great career for someone who has the ability to develop a financially successful career and is looking for flexibility in their work schedule. She also highly recommends the book The Law of Success in 16 Lessons by Napoleon Hill originally published in 1928 for anyone interested in succeeding in business and in life. She has been able to implement the lessons it contains in almost every area of her life. Radha provides this final piece of advice for those wanting to succeed in life Never stop believing in yourself. A healthy dose of confidence goes a long way. 19 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM herlife culinary by la u re n c o le ph o t o g r a ph y pro v i d e d b y joe w ool f Vic A &elo s ng dishes that are truly appreciated by their patrons. They are also dedicated to pleasing diners and they will happily accommodate diners who have specific menu requests and or dietary needs. Thankfully every meal starts with a serving of warm crunchy garlic bread sprinkled with Parmesan cheese which is wonderfully addictive. When it comes to appetizers favorites include their signature Old School Kobe Meatball which is served with San Marzano tomato sauce whipped ricotta cheese peppers and fresh basil and their stuffed squash blossoms which are distinguished by a combination of ricotta smoked mozzarella and crushed red pepper. Other noteworthy starters include the grilled calamari dressed with a gentle lemon vinaigrette the delicate yellow fin tuna crudo the baked clams al forno the shrimp scampi toast and the creamy burrata. The latter is served with prosciutto arugula roasted red peppers and a balsamic reduction. Diners longing for salad should definitely consider the Grilled Shrimp Cobb the Italian Chop the Grilled Tuna Tuscan or the Caesar which sports imported anchovies and shaved Parmigiano Reggiano. The portions are plentiful and this makes sharing a pleasure. There are also ten artisan-style coal-fired pizzas cooked in a 900-degree oven which guarantees a super crisp crust. The Originale with fresh mozzarella Parmigiano Reggiano and San Marzano tomato sauce is a perennial hit. Naturally pasta dishes reign supreme. Superb choices include pappardelle with wild mushrooms and a Parmesan cream sauce traditional lasagna Bolognese house-made spinach fettuccine which is served with Commons and the Delray Beach location is situated in heart of Restaurant Row on Atlantic Avenue both restaurants have engendered a loyal following thanks to a combination of wonderful food attentive service and a warm and welcoming atmosphere. These popular eateries also feature true conviviality which adds to the exceptional dining experience both inside the restaurants and outdoors on the patios. Talented restaurateur and entrepreneur John Rosatti along with charming general managers Stefano Barbagallo in Palm Beach Gardens and Diego Nassisi in Delray Beach and gifted executive chefs Alain Zimmer in Palm Beach Gardens and Erick Miranda in Delray Beach along with their expert staffs all work in unison to ensure that every meal is truly memorable. The restaurants feature an expansive menu and there are a myriad of options that will delight every palate. Diners can feast on refreshing salads soul-satisfying house-made pastas crispy thin-crust pizzas fresh fish and seafood juicy Prime steaks and enticing veal and chicken dishes. Both V&As also feature full bars with indoor and outdoor seating. They serve a great selection of signature cocktails as well as over 100 wines from all over the globe along with 15 wines by the glass. Chef Alain and Chef Erick bring an enthusiasm for their craft a wealth of experience and a willingness to experiment with ingredients and 20 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM W Sister restaurants in Palm Beach Gardens and Delray Beach offer delicious rustic Italian cuisine hen it comes to finding delicious rustic Italian cuisine in Palm Beach County residents and visitors can head to two sublime sister restaurants Vic & Angelo s in both Palm Beach Gardens and Delray Beach Florida. While the Palm Beach Gardens restaurant is situated in PGA jumbo lump crab meat jumbo shrimps toasted garlic and cherry tomatoes in a white wine sauce penne alla vodka served with shrimp and pear and four-cheese tortelloni. The lobster risotto sings thanks to scrumptious bites of this popular crustacean along with Pecorino cheese peas and white truffle oil. There are many traditional Italian dishes with an updated accent such as veal Milanese topped with a mixture of arugula and chopped tomatoes veal scallopine with sweet pea risotto and garlic broccoli rabe veal and or chicken picatta with artichoke hearts capers white wine and lemon butter sauce veal and or chicken Marsala with a mixture of wild mushrooms Marsala wine sauce garlic spinach and sweet pea risotto and the superb Branzino a nifty roasted Mediterranean sea bass which is cooked to perfection and served with sweet potato mash spinach and lobster nage. Seafood lovers will also enjoy the Oregenatta Trio which is comprised of a succulent half-lobster along with calamari and shrimp. The perfect finale to any meal should include one of V&A s decadent desserts. While the house-made tiramisu is a fluffy dream the multi-layered giant chocolate cake and the zeppoles (cream puffs) served with dipping sauces and a frothy swirl of pink cotton candy are also sublime indulgences. From June 1 through September 30 2013 both restaurants are offering diners two three-course Summer Tasting Menus for 25 and 35 per person (excluding tax and gratuity) for lunch and dinner Sunday through Thursday. These terrific menus allow diners to choose one appetizer one entree and one dessert -- from either menu -- which include salads pizza chefs alain zimmer (left) and erick miranda (right) pasta and seafood chicken and veal dishes. Diners who opt for either prix fixe menu may also add a bottle of Coastal Vines Pinot Grigio Chardonnay Cabernet Sauvignon or Pinot Noir for 15 per bottle. Vic & Angelo s in Palm Beach Gardens Florida is located at 4520 PGA Boulevard in PGA Commons. Please phone 561-630-9899. Vic & Angelo s in Delray Beach Florida is located at 290 East Atlantic Avenue. Please phone 561-278-9570 for reservations information. Both Vic & Angelo s restaurants serve lunch and dinner daily and they also offer Happy Hour daily at both the indoor and outdoor bars. Brunch is served on Saturday and Sunday. Please visit for additional information. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 21 herlife recipes CRanBeRRy almond gRanola BaRS re c ipes an d phot ograp hy b y v er y cu l i n ar y. com Makes 16 bars Prep time 10 minutes Cook time 30 minutes ingredients 2 cups rolled oats cup packed light brown sugar cup wheat germ 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon 1 cup all-purpose flour 1 cup dried cranberries 1 cup slivered almonds teaspoon salt cup honey 1 egg beaten cup grapeseed or other neutral oil 2 teaspoons vanilla extract directions Preheat the oven to 350 degrees. Coat a 9 13 inch baking pan with nonstick spray. In a large bowl mix together the oats brown sugar wheat germ cinnamon flour cranberries almonds and salt. Make a well in the center and pour in the honey egg oil and vanilla. Mix well using your hands. Pat the mixture evenly into the prepared pan. Bake for 30 minutes in the preheated oven or until the bars are just golden brown at the edges. Cool for 5 minutes and then cut into bars while still warm. Do not allow the bars to cool completely before cutting or they will be too hard to cut. 22 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM tomato and BaSil taRt re c ipes an d phot ogra p hy b y v er y cu l i n ar y. com Serves 4-6 Prep time 10 minutes Cook time 35 minutes ingredients 1 sheet frozen puff pastry thawed 1 egg beaten 3 ounces cream cheese softened 3 tablespoons pesto sauce 1-2 tablespoons milk 2 medium tomatoes thinly sliced 4-5 large fresh basil leaves torn or chopped salt and pepper extra virgin olive oil directions Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Line a baking sheet with parchment paper or lightly coat with cooking spray. Unfold the pastry on a lightly floured surface and transfer to the baking sheet. Brush entire pastry with egg wash. Pierce pastry several times with fork. Bake about 15 minutes or until golden brown. Remove from oven and gently lift pastry to a rack to cool off a bit. Reduce oven temperature to 350 degrees. In a small mixing bowl combine cream cheese and pesto. Add a tablespoon of the milk at a time and determine whether you need to use both you want the mixture to be loose but not runny. Mix well. Spread cream cheese mixture carefully over bottom of pastry leaving a -inch border. Arrange tomato slices overlapping on top of cream cheese mixture. Drizzle with a bit of olive oil and sprinkle with salt and pepper to taste. Bake in a 350 degree oven for 20-25 minutes or until tart has set up and there are no visible juices. Remove from the oven and sprinkle with basil. Serve hot or at room temperature. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 23 herlife mother s perspective ChooSing a PReSChool oR ChildCaRe PRovideR b y k e lly j o m c d o n n e ll giver s training help her work with your child to increase learning opportunities. Do the actual caregivers lead the activities Do they attend the classes and workshops with the children Are the children supervised at all times even during naptime What are the procedures for discipline It should be positive clear consistent and fair at all times. Ask if the childcare provider has been accredited by a national organization. Providers falling under that umbrella have to meet voluntary standards that are higher than most state licensing requirements. There are several however the biggest players are the NAEYC (National Association for the Education of Young Children) and the NAFCC (The National Association for Family Child Care). It s also a good idea to check staff turnover. I found at my center that most staff members had been there eight years or more and a few even longer. That was a big deciding factor for me. It s best for kids to stay with the same caregiver if possible. Caregivers who come and go can make it hard on your child--and you. Check out the adult-to-child ratio. It comes down to how many kids are there for each adult. The fewer children for each adult supervisor the better it is for your child. You want them to get plenty of attention especially for a younger child. Keep in mind that babies need an adult-tochild ratio of no more than one adult for four babies while four-year-olds (on average) can do well with a ratio of one adult to ten children. And caregiver will be a partner in your happy village it will help. And we are not alone--70 percent of parents place their young children in some form of daily care. Start early It will take time no matter what type of care you are considering. At-home care (a nanny) wasn t an option in my area so I began touring in-home daycares and daycare centers. It s a good idea to begin your search by calling local experts one example is your area Child Care Resource and Referral agency (CCR&R). You can find information such as the licensing requirements in your area licensing violations and complaint information through this organization. If your family qualifies for any childcare financial assistance the CCR&R can help there too. Keep your budget front and center while you set up visits. When visiting prospective facilities here are some things to look out for or ask your guide along the way. What are the caregiver s qualifications Ask about their education and training. They ll be happy to fill you in on any degrees or special training they may have. The extras in a care24 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM I am a firm believer in the it takes a village school of thought. But I wasn t in the beginning...and I m referring to that moment as a working mother when you drop off your child for the first time with another caregiver. Whether it s a baby or a four-year-old a parent will never forget this moment. If you have the peace of mind that your since you re asking about ratios how about the group sizes too And how are they organized within the building I noticed with my son who was an only child that he preferred the smaller groups with fewer adults rather than the large massive groups with many adults. Every child is different but it s good to have options that work with your child. Once you make up your mind however the work isn t quite done. After all you and the other caregivers will be partners going forward. Regular meetings (parent conferences if you will) are a great way to stay connected and to ask questions that may be on your mind. Every day when I picked up my son there was an activity sheet waiting for me that bullet-pointed his day. I was also able to chitchat with his caregiver if I chose. In addition I found that being at the center for birthday parties or holiday parties was a great way to stay connected. I also volunteered to read books aloud certain days in my son s group. If you can plan ahead with work and get the time off join in for these special events or better yet be a volunteer helper on a field trip. This gives you a perfect chance to see all the cogs of the well-oiled machine in action. To this day when we drive past my son s old daycare facility he asks if we can swing in and visit. He s ten years old now and in fourth grade. That s a mark of a happy and successful partnership. Yes--it definitely takes a village. Sources Department of Health and Human Services Parent s Guide and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 25 herlife spotlight b y kath l een m . kr u ege r p hotogr a p hy p rov id e d b y t r u e t re a s u re s discovering unique pieces of d cor furniture and art was one of mrs. Johnson s special gifts during her life-long career as one of the premier interior decorators of her time. her eye for detail and creative flair for combining colors and textures put her in high demand among names that were known around the world. and her husband Howard C. Scrappy Johnson when they decided to name their stores True Treasures Antiques & Fine Consignments when they opened their first location in 1990. All it takes is a short chat with Mrs. Johnson to realize that she really does consider all items displayed in her shops to be true treasures. Her personal knowledge of almost every piece shows her deep appreciation for history craftsmanship and artistic beauty. It is no wonder that she was deeply devastated when the store located in the Crystal Tree Plaza in North Palm Beach experienced a fire in April of 2013. Although the sprinkler system quickly put out the fire there was still extensive damage from both smoke and water. The fact that the fire occurred after business hours meant there was no injury or danger to employees. Mrs. Johnson s pets and store mascots Molly the dog and birds Ralph and Alice were also not in the store at the time of the fire. The local media immediately expressed concern for the animals thankfully they were all at home was Mrs. Johnson s statement released to the press. Mrs. Johnson has never been one to crumble when confronted with obstacles. True Treasures Antiques & Fine Consignments has dealt with difficult and frustrating circumstances before. After all they were in 26 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM O ne of the best things about visiting antique and consignment shops is that the items you find there are possessions that have been treasured by another individual or family in the past. That heart-warming fact must have been in the minds of Elena O Brien Johnson their 60s and 70s at the time they started the business and in spite of a down economy and limited finances they managed to turn it into what it is today. Restoration of the Crystal Tree Plaza location following the fire was just a temporary setback in operations. A portion of the store was already open and back to business as usual in May. Discovering unique pieces of d cor furniture and art was one of Mrs. Johnson s special gifts during her life-long career as one of the premier interior decorators of her time. Her eye for detail and creative flair for combining colors and textures put her in high demand among names that were known around the world. Oil barons and movie stars sought out her design services for their homes even the quarters of Madame Chiang Kai-shek are listed in her portfolio. Unique items of high quality and rare beauty don t necessarily have to have a high price tag. You will find that items displayed for sale in the True Treasures Antiques & Fine Consignments shops are priced fairly and have price tags from as low as 10 to over 100 000. Many regular visitors stop in often just to see what new arrivals have been added or to enjoy the ambiance provided by being surrounded by lovely pieces of art jewelry furniture and other d cor items. The consignment aspect of True Treasures Antiques & Fine Consignments is an important part of what makes these South Florida shops so attractive. Fine estates frequently contact Mrs. Johnson for her assistance in selling their items of high quality. Her impeccable reputation for honest and fair dealings extends to all her staff as well. A Matter of Trust is their motto and one that they have lived up to for over 23 years. Their impeccable reputation has earned them the designation as Best Palm Beach Consignment Shop in South Florida from Fox News. Mrs. Johnson loves to share beauty with others. That s really what it s all about. She demonstrated this in a very tangible way when she provided antique pieces from True Treasures Antiques & Fine Consignments to be used at the Palm Beach Opera House s performance of Lucia di Lammermoor. The beautiful items from True Treasures have also been used by real estate agents for staging of homes that they had listed for sale. A luxurious home shows so much better with furnishings and d cor items that match the high quality of their surroundings. Most homebuyers have found it difficult to buy the home without buying some or all of the staging pieces along with it when the staging was provided from Mrs. Johnson s collection of wonderful treasures. Mrs. Johnson and the True Treasures Antiques & Fine Consignment shops have been a valued part of Palm Beach County for over 23 years. Her philanthropic contributions cover a wide range of organizations including Safe Harbor Animal Sanctuary and Hospital Treasure Coast Humane Society and St. Jude s Research Hospital for Children. Mrs. Elena Johnson is certainly one of the true treasures of Palm Beach County. The True Treasures Antiques & Fine Consignment shops are located in the Crystal Tree Plaza at 1201 U.S. Hwy. 1 Suite 15 North Palm Beach and 3926 Northlake Blvd. Palm Beach Gardens. Visit them on the web at HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 27 herlife trendsetter laSt danCe pearl georgina chapman of marchesa aqua peppermint applique tulle dress 28 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM ivory tulle dress with sequins and baubles by masquerade models hunter denoyelles and courtney bucher of mc2 hair by jessica brand of team beauti makeup by christine rose for dresses provided by jc penney s of boynton beach handmade jewelry art designed by betty potler of time by design creations shot and styled on location at robbins park davie fl by photos retouched by gustavo wijeweera HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 29 fuschia mxi gown with sparkles and seafoam embellished party dress by masquerade 30 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM pearl georgina chapman of marchesa passion red organza dress with rosettes HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 31 herlife spotlight to Massachusetts said Michael. Granite and other forms of natural stone are a prominent part of the natural landscape in Massachusetts. It s easy to come by and it blends well into the natural habitat. When Michael began spending half of the year in Florida five years ago he was immediately struck by the lack of stonework used in landscape design here. His creative mind immediately began envisioning lush tropical gardens with water features sending trickling streams over natural stone and natural stone patios with gurgling fountains and stone benches for seating. There are no two ingredients in landscape design that make a better combination than water and stone Michael explained. Michael is much more than another landscaper who lays sod and installs patios and plantings. One look at the gardens that he has designed tells you that he is an artist who uses the elements of nature to 32 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Y by kat h l een m . kr u ege r p h o t o g r a p h y p ro v id e d b y m ic h a e l m a z u r ou have to love stone to work with it according to Michael Mazur of Original Earthworks. One glimpse at Michael s landscape designs will tell you that Michael most definitely loves stone. I fell in love with stone when I moved from Texas create amazing pieces of art. However his pieces of art are as functional as they are beautiful. The creation of one-of-a-kind- natural stone sculptures for the gardens Michael designs for his clients has set him apart from his competition. Mosaic patterns made from natural stone are often found imbedded in his patios and walkways. He has a unique eye for color combinations and making use of space in ways that is truly inspirational. At the same time his stone work ranges from symmetrical patterns to rugged strong-featured slabs that appear to have just been unearthed from their glacial deposit. Michael s landscape designs have been publicly acknowledged with the repeated awards he has received. His creations won Landscape Design Award I from the Landscape Design Council of Massachusetts in 2004 2006 and 2010. In 2006 and 2010 he also won the Emily Seaber Parcher Award for outstanding use of stone the integration of plants and hardscape and the skilled balance of large specimen plants. The judging panel in 2010 called his naturalistic design style a true feast for the senses and applauded the integration of New England granite falling water and plants in an artistic yet naturalistic setting. In 2010 Michael had his first major installation in a public botanical garden when he placed one of his stone sculptures at the entrance to New England s premier wildflower garden The Garden in the Woods managed by the New England Wild Flower Society. Michael also created two stone benches to be used for seating while viewing the sculpture. You get a true taste of Michael s artistic eye for pieces of stone as he describes these benches. The larger bench has a beautiful golden and gray patina with fascinating layers shared Michael. The first time I saw this piece of stone I knew I wanted it for a bench and I knew it was meant to be horizontal. there are no two ingredients in landscape design that make a better combination than water and stone michael explained. one look at the gardens that he has designed tells you that he is an artist who uses the elements of nature to create amazing pieces of art. Of course Florida and Massachusetts are two different worlds when it comes to climate and outdoor living. We have coral rock instead of granite palm trees instead of pines and use our patios year-round not just in the summer. Michael recognizes this and is enjoying the new inspirations that develop as he works with these broader parameters. The porous nature of coral has created an entirely new dimension when it comes to incorporating native stone into Florida landscapes. At the same time Michael has enjoyed bringing some not-so-native stone work into his Florida hardscapes as well creating a whole new look for homeowners who want to make a more individual statement through their outdoor living spaces. On the Original Earthworks website Michael provides before and after photos of some of the landscapes that he s transformed from dull and boring to eye-capturing natural beauty. The contrast is amazing particularly because the after shots look so natural you would assume that the shrubs and stone pathways had been there for decades. Having lived in Florida for five years Michael has developed a love for the natural beauty that can only be found here in South Florida. It offers a totally different climate and variety of plant species than what he enjoyed in New England and although the stones may be of different types than those he found in the North they still have a language that speaks to the artist within him. Visit the Original Earthworks website at or give Michael a call at 413-563-5820. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 33 herlife working women Cooling off the hot Seat by chandr a bl ackw el l Y inSightS into the mind of the hiRing manageR our heart rate is elevated. Heat creeps up your neck. Your palms are damp and you re crossing your shaking fingers that your deodorant holds up against what your body thinks is either a Zumba marathon or the threat of bear attack--but is in reality only a job interview. interview also serves as an opportunity for you to evaluate the company and no company wants to come across as Evil Inc. A good interviewer will try to put you at ease in order to see behind your interview face. Not only will that let the interviewer know what you ll be like to work with every day it will also increase the likelihood that you ll reveal an unflattering truth about yourself. Be sure to temper your comfort with a little caution. Why is a job interview so nerve-wracking For starters you re probably not wearing the most comfortable clothing unless you re interviewing for a position as a yoga instructor. Second there s the fact that you re being evaluated not just for your professional skills but for your personality as well which is always cause for anxiety. Finally if you re interviewing for your dream job it can feel as if your whole life is on the line. Yet through all of this you re supposed to project an air of Zen-like confidence and efficiency. Believe it or not there are people who love job interviews they thrive on the challenge love the opportunity to show their stuff and view each interview as a win-win because even if it doesn t end in a job offer it offers a networking opportunity. If you re one of those people you can probably stop reading now. For the rest of us tips abound for acing a job interview. However what might be more helpful than pre-interview power poses is a glimpse into the mind of the person on the other side of the conference table. Hiring managers have a few secrets that might help you understand more about what really matters in an interview--and land the job. . . . but they don t really want to fix you coffee. Chances are when you walk in for the interview you ll be offered a drink usually water or coffee. While it s okay to accept a cup or bottle of water (especially if you know the interview will take longer than an hour) coffee is a more labor-intensive process and most hiring managers have better ways to use precious interview time than fetching you java. Above all there s the possibility of a hot staining spill. If you re a coffee drinker have your coffee at home before the interview for the sake of everyone involved. Sometimes the jewelry matters more than the suit. Like most job seekers you carefully select interview outfits that make you look your professional best. However some hiring managers report that what they really notice is what you re wearing on your hands specifically whether you re wearing a wedding ring which could signal that you either have or are planning to have children and therefore may require maternity or sick-kid leave that someone without a ring won t. As unfair as that is you may want to downplay your relationship status until the job is yours. They want you to relax . . . Doesn t that sound nice Well it is--mostly. All interviewers have been through job interviews themselves and most likely have some sympathy for you. Furthermore every hiring manager is aware that your 34 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Your temperament may trump your talents. Of course there s a baseline skill set for the job without which you never would have landed the interview. However you could have all of those qualifications and more and still not get the job. Why Because employers aren t just looking for specific skills they re also looking for people who will thrive in their working environment. If a hiring manager thinks you won t mesh well with the company culture you and your impressive resume could wind up on the other side of the door. Their plans don t always work out. Almost every job interview wraps with a discussion about the timeline for filling the position. Frequently the hiring manager underestimates how much time that s going to take. He or she might plan to schedule second interviews for the following week or have the position filled by the end of the month. That timeline could get derailed by other work emergencies the office-absence of key decision-makers budget issues or a reference check process that takes longer than expected. When you ask an interviewer about the timeline for the hiring process it s probably safe to insert these words (silently to yourself ) before the response In a perfect world... Of course in a perfect world perfect jobs would simply fall into our laps. But for now job interviews are a necessary part of the process. Hopefully this little bit of insight on how hiring managers think will make your next interview your last...for a while. Sources and Have HERLIFE delivered to your home all year 26 SUBSCRIPTIONS southflorida 2875 S. Ocean Blvd. Ste. 200 Palm Beach FL 33480 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 35 SUBSCRIBE ONLINE AT OR MAIL A CHECK TO herlife finance what to Know BefoRe b y ho p e f e rg us o n maRRying hiS finanCeS And what about that money you ve socked away for retirement Talking finances is essential no matter what your age but for mid-life couples it simply cannot be put on the back burner. Problems with money according to experts are one of the top reasons couples struggle and sometimes abandon their marriages. But talking finances can be more discomfiting than discussing sex. Experts say you need to talk about your spending styles frugal or lavish spender or saver and what money attitudes you developed as a child that impact your spending style today. A profligate new spouse can destroy your decades of good credit. Wayne Titus chair of the financial literacy task force with the Michigan Association of CPAs commented When talking about finances you should consider how you feel about money what is important to you about money what your biggest worries about money are and what were the best and worst decisions you made involving money and finances. After this discussion you may determine that a professional advisor is called for. Then there are credit cards debt bankruptcy outstanding finan36 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM L ove can be challenging at any age but for baby boomers it can be complicated by the history and sometimes baggage left from other relationships. Maybe you re both divorced and have kids between you. Or you each have a home and a mortgage and one or both of you own a business or a vacation home. cial commitments like alimony child support or student loans (your own or your kids ) health insurance (whose to use which kind to buy) and whether to share a checking account or draw up a pre-nuptial agreement. The very thought of broaching any of the above can tempt a woman to become a runaway bride. But broach it you must experts emphasize. Your prospective mate s financial history can impact decisions large and small from whether you can buy a home together to what kind of vacations you can afford and when you can retire. It s a matter of trust said Mary Hunt founder of Debt Proof Living and author of 7 Money Rules for Life who dug her family out of 100 000 of debt. When we don t share things with another person it s because we fear rejection or judgment. We re talking about intimacy intimacy. Only when we trust fully can we share everything there is to know about ourselves knowing that the other person will give us a soft place to acceptance. Anything less than that [trust] is a very dangerous platform on which to build a relationship. Dr. Terri Orbuch of the University of Michigan s Institute for Research has undertaken the longest-running study on marriage in the U.S. with funding from the National Institutes of Health. At first the focus of the study was the first years the challenges and what kept couples together. However because 46 percent of the couples who were part of the original 1986 study are divorced today she penned Finding Love Again 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship to reveal what they had learned in their first marriages and how it impacted their decision-making in subsequent marriages and relationships--and money was at the top of their concerns. over money did not predict which couples would divorce it was cited as a contributing factor that exacerbated other underlying issues. In her study focusing on divorced couples most said that one thing they would change is how they talked about or managed money. Orbuch believes money is such a hot-button issue because Our society doesn t teach us to talk about money with our children or friends so there is a lot of difficulty because we are not taught to talk about it. When it comes to having that talk one must be willing to compromise and negotiate she adds. Ellie Kaplan CEO and founding partner of Lexion Capital Management concurs. Financial intimacy is a key part of the foundation for any happy and lasting relationship. Just like a physical relationship you don t have to jump in all at once. Maybe you discuss loans one day credit card debt another day. Couples should discuss their short- and long-term financial goals and clearly outline their mutual and individual objectives she said. Kaplan is not alone in believing that couples should exchange credit reports which will reveal the good the bad and the ugly. You can t plan for every possibility or contingency but by discussing these things in advance you have a sense whether or not further conversation on the topic is warranted said CPA Titus. Every woman owes it to herself to initiate the talk about money personal finances and trust before making the leap into marrying his finances. Sources and Content Home.aspx when talking about finances you should consider how you feel about money what is important to you about money what your biggest worries about money are and what were the best and worst decisions you made involving money and finances. after this discussion you may determine that a professional advisor is called for. Conflict over money was the number one source of disagreement especially in the first year of marriage she said. But it continued to be a source of disaccord over time. Seven in ten of the couples in the study said that money caused conflict she explained. Although conflict HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 37 herlife real estate home BUying ome is where the heart is. Home is where you hang your hat and spend your nights. Home is where you get to know your neighbors and discover the neighborhood around you. Home is also where your gutters leak your trees need trimming and your kitchen needs updating. you are moving locally you may want your kids to stay in your current school district. Make sure to check with school authorities to ensure your new home is within the boundaries. Even if you don t have children the general rule is that good schools give the local real estate stability and thus higher pricing. This may be a crucial factor especially if it fits with the rest of your house-hunting goals. PiCKing yoUR deSiRed dwelling b y lis a tar anto butle r H No matter how you look at it home ownership requires much consideration before you buy. Finances location and emotions all play a large part in a successful home purchase. Here are just a few things to consider before closing the deal on a new dwelling. Updating Your Digs If your new home requires some updating before you call it cozy try to check with the previous homeowners for any past problems or issues. For instance if the bathroom has an odd layout you may want to change to a more appealing design. The previous homeowners may have encountered a costly structural impediment that kept them from placing the toilet in a more appropriate place. Knowing obstacles ahead of time will save money and stress. Cash Commitment If you ask friends or family no one will tell you that buying and maintaining a home are less costly than they planned. When preparing to purchase your new living quarters think about the quarters in your pocket. Know your real budget--what you can afford to pay each month without putting your finances in jeopardy or making everyday living difficult. When estimating costs like monthly utilities insurance and other household expenses think higher than what you are expecting. This will tell you the dollar amounts needed each month for every budget category and keep you from being surprised later. Knowing what you can handle financially is the first step toward understanding the commitment of homeownership. Neighborly Considerations Just because the neighborhood seems nice doesn t mean it is The Five Year Plan You may think you ve found the perfect home for you today but will this ideal dwelling work for you tomorrow or several years down the road If you want to stay in the same home for a while think about how your life may change over the course of five or ten years. Will you have babies or will older children be moving out leaving you as empty nesters Do you entertain a lot Will you need extra space for an aging relative or a budding home-based business These are all important future plans to consider. School Daze Location location location You ve heard it time and again. That s because it matters--especially when it comes to schools. If 38 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM right for you. Consider what businesses and amenities are nearby. Do you want to be close to your preferred dry cleaner take-out restaurant and grocer or can you find new favorites for your family If you are fairly new to the area you may not realize that your welcoming neighborhood backs right up to a glum industrial area. You may feel safe being next door to a police station or fire department but is safety competing with your sanity Expect to hear sirens if you live near our uniformed officials. Invest in Your Nest We often hear that our home is the best investment but often this is not the case. We all have different tastes and budgets so what may be a good investment for one person may not be the same sound commitment for another. Overall though buying a home is if you ask friends or family no one will tell you that buying and maintaining a home are less costly than they planned. when preparing to purchase your new living quarters think about the quarters in your pocket. Know your real budget--what you can afford to pay each month without putting your finances in jeopardy or making everyday living difficult. typically a better investment than renting as long as you are in it for the long haul. Typically a break-even period occurs after four to five years but if you own a more expensive home it may take longer. For most people though coming home to a relaxing place where good memories can be made is a good investment for the whole family. Home Emotion The gut feeling you get when walking into your dream home is undeniable. Many times that emotion causes you to fall in love with a house. This is fine as long as you remember that love grows fainter with flaws. Every home no matter how new or old comes with problems to be fixed and issues to be addressed so strive to buy a home that is a good decision for both your finances and your feelings. Be emotional but be rational and your dream home won t give you nightmares down the road. Sources and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 39 herlife she said yes Stefany&Tony Date of Proposal April 4 2013 by m a rily n i sa mi nge r p h o t o g r a p h y b y e mi l y a l l ongo T he romance of the wedding of mutual friend Elizabeth to her incredibly talented husband Ben served as the backdrop for Stefany and Tony s meeting. During the cocktail hour Tony was overwhelmed by the choices of sushi appetizers (he had never eaten sushi). Stefany saw the confusion across his face and offered some suggestions of where to start. From there they began chatting and flirting. And it continued throughout the wed- ding the after-party and until 5 in the morning With sparked interest the following day Tony invited Stefany to lunch at her favorite restaurant (unbeknownst to him). After lunch they went to the beach then to dinner and again talked into the wee hours of the morning. The next day Tony was scheduled to return home to Milwaukee. Stefany happily went to lunch with him and drove him to the airport. They promised to keep in touch and much to Stefany s delight Tony kept his promise They have been together for almost two years a long-distance romance. It hasn t been easy but they knew this was something special from the beginning and that it was worth the commitment. There have been many tearful goodbyes and dateless nights. But the good has definitely outweighed the bad including lots of virtual dates flower deliveries and homemade gifts sent via USPS. Being apart has added an element of romance every time they see each other. However they can t wait until they can actually live in the same place with each other And that chance is closer than you think since Tony popped the question on April 4 2013. After an exhausting day of meetings Stefany headed home ready to curl up in her bed. As she pulled her car into the driveway of the house the headlights flooded the front porch revealing a note on the door. Extremely confused Stefany jumped out of the car and noticed the lit candles spelling out love on the ground with a ring pop in the center of the o. The note was in Tony s 40 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM handwriting asking her to come to the back of the house. Still confused instead of going through the house like a rational person would Stefany walked through the side garden in the dark. Trying not to trip over the plants she took her phone out to light the way. As Stefany rounded the corner to the back yard she was taken aback. The dock was lined with glowing paper lanterns and at the end of the dock stood Tony. She tried to remain composed as she happily skipped across the dock into his arms. Tony looked into Stefany s eyes sweetly saying I have a question to ask you. Then he lowered himself to one knee and took out the most spectacular ring from his pocket. In that moment Stefany s surprise was captured as he had arranged for Stefany s sister (a professional photographer) to be there for the moment. She had been hiding in the boat all along Stefany exclaimed YES and they intertwined into the longest embrace of their lives. Both Tony s parents and Stefany s parents married on March 8. They have been married 37 years and 33 years respectively. With the shared date falling on a Saturday in 2014 Tony and Stefany will wed at the Palm Beach Zoo on March 8 surrounded by family and friends. As owner and chief wedding coordinator of The Majestic Vision Stefany is looking forward to using her personal expertise in creating the perfect day for their wedding. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 41 herlife tie the knot & Bryan tied the knot on May 5 2013 b y m ar i l y n i s am ing e r p h o t o g r a p h y b y g in a b a rc a earned her degree in nursing. She puts her skills to work at Arnold Palmer Children s Hospital. Magen s favorite color is purple she loves the movie Dirty Dancing and also enjoys practicing yoga and reading. Bryan Orth grew up in Appleton Wisconsin and went to Embry Riddle Aeronautical University in Daytona Florida for aviation. Bryan works for United Express airlines as a commercial pilot. Bryan is a huge Green Bay Packers fan and his favorite snack is protein bars. Bryan loves weight lifting and the beach. When asked to describe their relationship in three words Bryan s response was Whatever. She. Wants. Magen and Bryan met through the online dating service match. com and have been together since January of 2009. Their first date was at Starbucks where Bryan won her heart over a cup of coffee. Magen took Bryan for a weekend getaway on his birthday to Si42 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Magen M agen and Bryan Orth are truly a success story within our contemporary world of new ways to find the love of your life. Magen (Jones) Orth is from Lake Wales Florida and went to University of Central Florida where she esta Key and little did she know Bryan had planned his proposal for her that same weekend. It was a very intimate moment on the beach where he asked her for her hand and she said Yes The blissful couple tied the knot on May 5 2013. Five bridesmaids and five groomsmen all friends from childhood to college stood beside Bryan and Magen as they said their vows. Bryan and Magen were married on a hot and bright Cinco de Mayo afternoon at the beautiful Paradise Cove in Orlando Florida. Magen was stunning in her classic strapless ball gown. Her blonde curls fell sweetly on her shoulders as her veil framed her face. The color scheme was lavender and grey with beach accents throughout the tiki covered pavilions. One hundred guests joined Bryan and Magen for their marriage celebration. Guests enjoyed the venue s scenic view of the lake and beachfront lounging area under the mossy oak trees hanging above providing shade. The entertainment the live band Blue Stone Circle led the party with popular dance music and special performances by band members. The beach-themed affair was everything the couple had hoped for. BUSINESSES THAT SHARED IN THE LOVE HAIR STyLINg Tiffany Lungsford MAkEUP Christina Moore PHOTOgRAPHy Barca Designs FLORIST Lee Forrest Design LLC ENTERTAINMENT Blue Stone Circle CATERER Cocktails Catering CAkE Party Flavors VENUE Paradise Cove OFFICIANT Kirk Bane TRANSPORTATION VIP Wedding Transportation HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 43 herlife travel Seeing eURoPe via eURail b y bre roach picking a destination it s what to do and how to get around when you get there. Many people don t realize the Eurail train system also known as Eurorail makes it very easy to move around the continent. Traveling by train in Europe is not at all like traveling by train in the United States as trains are the main form of transportation in Europe. For many Americans trains are a thing of the past more of an idea and a secondary means of travel. When we think of trains we think of old Western movies and inefficiency but in Europe the trains are incredibly modern and dependable accommodating everyone and everything. There are restaurants and bedrooms inside these trains and the best part is that you don t have to pay baggage fees or squish in between two other people. You don t have to stay in your seat either so if you want to go up to the observation deck and watch the beautiful scenery fly by then you are able to do so in comfort. Traveling by train in Europe is also much easier than driving considering you re in a foreign country with strange road signs in a strange language that you don t speak. Taking the rail will ensure you arrive at your actual destination. Another bonus of riding on the train is that you re able to take in everything that s around you as opposed to focusing on the road as you drive. Many of the rails have outlets and WiFi also so you can do 17 things at once like a true American. And if you want to really multitask European night rails are very popular and they can get you across the country in the time it takes for you to get seven solid hours of shut eye. Prices for Eurail passes are extremely reasonable. If you want to travel in one country you can do so for up to 10 days for the equivalent of 50. Consider that fact from this perspective. If the United States offered a rail pass for only 50 and you could travel to your heart s desire within 44 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM T here is nothing quite like taking a vacation overseas and many people would suggest starting with Europe. An immense amount of history lies within Europe as well as the breathtaking views and of course the food. You cannot forget about the food. But the problem with traveling for most people isn t when we think of trains we think of old western movies and inefficiency but in europe the trains are incredibly modern and dependable accommodating everyone and everything. there are restaurants and bedrooms inside these trains and the best part is that you don t have to pay baggage fees or squish in between two other people. the entire United States for up to 10 days we Americans would have no excuse for not seeing all of our country. Eurail even offers a Global Pass that allows travel anywhere within Europe for up to three months for about 501. Some people spend more on gas in one month than the cost of the Global Pass. On you can talk with a travel agent if you feel it s necessary and they will help you figure out which trains to take from what location. Instead of flying within Europe take the train and you ll get to your destination more economically while seeing awesome scenery and being comfortable the entire time. For instance you want to travel from Paris France to Florence Italy. If you took a train you would probably board around 7 00 p.m. and arrive around 7 00 a.m. meaning you could sleep the entire time and catch up on sights to see in Florence when you arrive. If you flew from Paris to Florence you would wait in line at security and then sit in a very uncomfortable seat for the length of the flight. Any traveler can be sure that travel is more comfortable on a train than on a plane. There are multiple ways to receive a train ticket as well. The standard paper ticket is still available but more modern ticketing methods include e-tickets and purchasing at a kiosk within the station. There are apps to download on your phone that will book your train ride for you and reserve your ticket. If you do happen to reserve a ticket and then decide you would like to go somewhere else refunds and exchanges are available. Some things in life just make more sense. Enjoying a vacation makes sense and so does furthering your cultural knowledge and taking that vacation overseas. Taking a train and seeing as much of the country as possible makes sense while spending a large portion of your travel budget and being uncomfortable doesn t. You can travel in luxury and see all of Europe even if your funds are tight. Exploring the world and learning about different cultures is something that everyone can do no matter what their circumstances. There are some things that Europe has done well and making travel by train accessible to all is definitely one of them. Sources and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 45 herlife scene and be seen veuve Clicquot s fashion on the field pho to graphy by lila p h ot o F pho to graphy by mike j u r u s ph ot ogr aph y ashionable outfits and over-the-top style have always been part of the scene at the International Polo Club Palm Beach. This year as a salute to the trendsetters polo sponsor Veuve Clicquot introduced their new Fashion on the Field tribute awarding a standout fashionista a magnum of Veuve Clicquot. Fashion on the Field takes place during the traditional divot stomp which marks the match s halfway point and was presented every Sunday through April 21 at the International Polo Club. Broken Sound Country Club n April 15 Broken Sound Country Club a 5-Star Platinum Club unveiled its 13 million lifestyle investment the final phase of a three-year 26 million transformation program. The new club includes an expansive two-acre resort-style poolscape and bistro oasis at the main clubhouse a 38 000-square-foot spa and fitness center and 23 tennis courts. Broken Sound Country Club host to the PGA Champions Tour s season opener Allianz Championship is near two international airports Boca s burgeoning office parks and vibrant downtown pristine beaches A-rated public and award-winning private schools two universities and one state college sports arenas and stadiums and exciting shopping dining art and culture recreation and nightlife. O 46 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 2013 allianz Championship tournament pho to graphy by kaye com m u n i cat i on s celebrated roster of 81 PGA Champions Tour players took to The Old Course at Broken Sound Country Club for the 2013 Allianz Championship all vying for a 1.8 million purse. Spectators were treated to an exciting down-to-the-wire finish and a series of interactive tournament events all while driving net proceeds to benefit the Boca Raton Regional Hospital. In addition to tens of thousands at the course millions saw Boca Raton at its best with all three rounds televised live. More than 15 million in economic impact is brought to the area each year as a result. The tournament aimed to continue toward green benchmarks set by the 2012 event keeping it one of the greenest of its kind. In addition new donation efforts by Boca Helping Hands the Moabery Family Foundation and Allianz Life joined more than 100 major sponsors to increase the philanthropic impact of the tournament on the community. A HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 47 ascension awards may 2013 pho to graph y by photos by roos ev el t he Black Chamber of Commerce of Palm Beach County honored ten local business professionals in February at the 2013 Ascension Awards which recognize professionals who have ascended to excellence in their fields of expertise and have made a positive impact through community or civic service. Over 300 guests attended the luncheon at the Palm Beach County Convention Center. WSWN Sugar 900 gave a live broadcast during a reception before the winners were announced. Keynote speaker Rick Caldwell of RCultures discussed generational diversity. 2013 winners were Nonprofit of the Year Martin Luther King Jr. Coordinating Committee Small Business of the Year Bryan Boysaw & Associates PA Large Business of the Year Best Protective Services Emerging Business Leader James Taylor and Zenith highest in the ascending category Derrick Berry. Contact fundraising for more information about the Black Chamber of Commerce. T 48 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM think Pink Basketball pho to graphy by down tow n ph oto n Saturday March 9th Think Pink Basketball hosted by Mario Chalmers and Specialty Automotive Treatments proved to be a slam dunk event raising over 43 000 for Mario V. Chalmers Foundation and Dorothy Mangurian Comprehensive Women s Center. Miami HEAT players Udonis Haslem Shane Battier Joel Anthony Chris Birdman Anderson and Juwan Howard and the official DJ for the Miami HEAT DJ Irie joined Chalmers and Specialty Automotive Treatments owner Rafael Jorge at the cocktail reception which featured delectable catered fare from Grille 401 on Las Olas cocktails from Potions in Motion the cool sounds of DJ Irie and fabulous live and silent auction items. Raising funds for women with breast cancer has been a cause supported by Chalmers since a dear childhood friend lost his mother to the disease. O HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 49 herlife in the city films of all time and winner of two Academy Awards (Best Music Original JUly 7 Bobby and The Beachcombers Date July 7 time 4 00pm 7 00pm Location Costa d Este Resort DetaiLs Come out and enjoy the sounds of Bobby and The Beachcombers. more information Visit verobeach for details. Score Best Music Original Song Under The Sea 1989) comes to life on stage this summer. Alan Menken s Oscar-winning music and Disney s acclaimed 2008 Broadway production and have been edited and annotated for this enchanting production performed by the Broward Center s talented corps of Summer Theatre Camp Young Professionals. more information Visit to learn more. 12 Suits Stilettos and lipstick Date July 12 Location The Ritz-Carlton Ft. Lauderdale time 8 00am 6 00pm DetaiLs Please join us for Suits Stilettos and LipstickTM The 2nd Annual The Balancing Act Conference hosted by the International Holistic Center 10 Zonta Monthly Dinner Meeting Date July 10 time 6 00pm Location The Holiday Inn 2809 South Ocean Blvd. Highland Beach DetaiLs Zonta is an international organization of business and professional woman who work together for the betterment of the status of women. more information To learn more call Kathe Koch at (561) 482-1013 or e-mail info in partnership with the Women s International Holistic Council. The main focus of the conference is women s health but the program will also feature speakers with expertise on other subjects that really matter to women such as anti-aging business finances fashion sex relationships and family. Each year a portion of the proceeds will be donated to our charity partner the Women s International Holistic Council a philanthropic foundation that supports other selected non-profit organizations whose mission is to empower women and or children. Additionally we have a line-up of exhibitors that are also in tune with women and their needs. more information Visit for details. 13 Boca Burger Battle A Grilling Affair Date July 13 time 6 00pm 10 00pm Location Sanborn Square Park Downtown Boca Raton DetaiLs More than 20 contenders from all over south Florida will create their grilling masterpieces and present them to a prestige table of Grill Master Judges including a few well known burger connoisseurs --Sef the Burger Beast Jamie Frankel from Burgers by the Beach Stephanie Miskew from the Glamorous Gourmet and well-known celebrity Chef Dean Max--in hopes of winning the Golden Burger Trophy and earning the title of the Best Boca Burger. The sizzling summer street festival is held in Sanborn Square Park located in downtown Boca Raton near Palmetto Park Road and Federal Highway. Tickets are 85 VIP 55 general admission. more information Visit for details. radiant Woman Tour West Palm Beach Date July 20 time 8 30am 5 00pm DetaiLs Calling all South Florida women Are you ready to join Kellie Kuecha in igniting the Radiance Revolution Join her for one incredible day where beautiful and brilliant women will come together to have a meeting of the minds and a bonding of the souls. This isn t going to be a run of the mill business event. Although you ll learn some great business techniques Kellie will show you the underlying reasons (which have nothing to do with business) that are holding you back and keeping you indescribably frustrated. That little voice inside of you that says things could be different and that things should be different is finally going to get a chance to be heard and understood more information Visit to register and 20 11 Disney s The little Mermaid Date July 11-13 Location The Broward Center time Various DetaiLs Disney s The Little Mermaid one of the most celebrated animated 50 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM obtain full details. All calendar events must be submitted by June 30th for consideration in our August issue. Please include event location date details and contact information and email to karen Events considered for publication are normally limited to community wide charity events or events hosted by our advertisers. We cannot guarantee that all events submitted will be published. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 51 Want to Get Away For a weekend Extended stay-cation You deserve it Exotic yet casual luxury and culture are right here in Palm Beach County Florida s Cultural Capital VISIT THE ARTS CALENDAR TO DISCOVER FUN THINGS TO DO