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HERLIFE MAGAZINE TWIN CITIES KEEPING WOMEN CONNECTED HEALTH 7 TIPS FINDING THERAPY FOR GLORIOUS GARDENS OCTOBER 2013 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM VINTAGE JEWELRY FOR YOUR STYLE THE HOPEFULL COMPANY S STEPHANIE WILLIAMS AND JESSICA BREKKE & THEIR MISSION Smart solutions for managing hectic family schedules during the school year Julie Gilbert Newrai Founder PreciouStatus Minneapolis MN-grown company S chool days mean hectic schedules for most families. Older kids head to the classroom younger ones go to child care and parents try to manage the early mornings and increased extracurricular activities. How can parents stay organized reduce stress and stay involved in their kids education and care If you care for both your kids and other loved ones such as aging parents it s easy to quickly become overwhelmed and confused. No one knows this better than Julie Gilbert Newrai. As a wife mother and serial entrepreneur she offers these tips for managing hectic schedules during the busy school year to ensure kids and families thrive. BUILD A LIFE INFRASTRUCTURE Parents try to do it all particularly women. That s why it s important to find a balanced approach to managing your work and home life. Map out what needs to be done each day and then make deals with your partner. Split the necessary to-dos and don t be afraid to ask for help. Don t beat yourself up over accepting a friend s offer to bring something when they come to your house or hiring a house cleaner once a month. You ll be a better parent and better executive. CREATE A MEAL COOKING SCHEDULE School means early breakfasts and bag lunches. Try mapping out each Sunday at 4 p.m. to plan and fill the refrigerator with delicious and nutritious foods for the week. Cut up veggies ahead of time and pop into individual containers for easy packing and snacking throughout the week. A little planning goes a long way. UTILIZE TECHNOLOGY Technology can help keep busy parents organized sane and connected to loved ones. Make sure to sync your calendar to your spouse s so you both stay in the loop. Ask your child care schools and eldercare centers about PreciouStatus so you can better manage your loved ones days. BOND WITH TEACHERS AND CAREGIVERS It s important to really know who is caring for your children and loved ones. Introduce yourself to your child s teacher and your family s nurses and other caregivers. Put a face with names and open the doors of conversation. It s also important to recognize caregivers for a job well-done good teachers and nurses deserve a pat on the back for going above and beyond. ABOUT PRECIOUSTATUS PreciouStatus is an award-winning mobile technology used by child care centers hospitals schools and pet care providers to allow loved ones to receive in-the-moment updates to their cell phones. Special Offer for HERLIFE Readers Refer PreciouStatus to your child care school (public or private) eldercare facility or pet kennel and receive a 50 gift card when the center signs up with PreciouStatus 888-959-8982 sales INTERNATIONAL MARKET SQUARE 275 MARKET STREET SUITE 519 MINNEAPOLIS MN 55405 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 5 HERLIFE contents Cover Girl The HopeFULL Company The gift of themselves to a friend battling leukemia set Jessica Brekke and Stephanie Williams on the path to an innovative and award-winning business. The HopeFULL Company might even be taglined Nutrition on a Stick. Learn more in our Inspirations pages about these sisters lives and plans for growth. 22 Finding a therapist who is a good fit is so essential for therapy to be beneficial. If there s a particular type of therapy desired it is good to be up front in asking whether therapists have such expertise. contents 8 12 14 16 18 20 Welcome Health Ask the Expert Beauty Culinary Recipes Inspirations Mother s Perspective Fine Things Trendsetter Green Living Working Women Spotlight Home Travel Spotlight In the City 12 For most vintage jewelry it can quite literally be like finding the diamond in the rough--you might have to kiss a few toads before you find your Peruzzicut prince. 22 26 28 30 36 38 40 42 44 46 48 28 When we face dealing with a lousy leader we must develop strategies to keep our own work and behavior on track. Six strategy suggestions are discussed here. 38 6 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE welcome BASIC NEEDS Have an inspirational woman in your life If you or someone you know has a great story that you think should be told please email us at llee T he basic needs are traditionally food water clothing and shelter. In so many ways they re far from basic. What each represents to us is dependent on our life s circumstance. These basics are so often paired with some type of support from others. Is it a stretch to say that support is another basic need A child depends on his or her parents for their basics and as we grow older and move through life oftentimes the support of friends spouses and family are what allow us to not only meet our basic needs but also thrive and find happiness. As you know October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. To me it s recognizing your basics month. It s a time to remind myself of how fortunate I am to have the basics and beyond including so much support of friends and family. It also reminds me how lucky I am to have my mother who is a breast cancer survivor in my life each and every day. Like HERLIFE Magazine on Facebook to stay current on great discounts special events and behind-the-scenes details HERLIFEMagTC The need for basic nutrition coupled with the support of loved ones was the foundation for The HopeFULL Company our cover story. Sisters Jessica Brekke and Stephanie Williams had a friend who was struggling not only with cancer and chemotherapy but also with eating due to the therapy. Jessica and Stephanie developed a way of making her nutritious foods that would taste good and be easy to eat. A seemingly simple act of love and support is now benefitting so many others who are having difficulty eating or getting good nutrition for a variety of reasons. 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Please go to or mail a check made out to HERLIFE Magazine to the above address. 10 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM To contact HERLIFE Magazine SUBSCRIPTIONS HERLIFE health FINDING THERAPY & A THERAPIST FOR YOUR NEEDS by h e a t h e r n o b le p h d needed to find a way to happiness Did she need to change something in regard to her marriage It was clear she was overwhelmed and I shared with her that a therapist could be just the kind of support that would help her sort through these concerns and guide her in finding some relief. She lives a few states away from me so I couldn t be of assistance by sharing names I know as a psychologist. However I still had some ideas for her to find a good fit which is so essential for therapy to be beneficial. First if there s a particular kind of issue to address or type of therapy desired it is good to be up front in asking whether therapists have such expertise. For instance while all therapists should be trained to have good listening skills and to support their clients some have additional training for treating specific concerns such as trauma or eating disorders. It never hurts to ask a therapist if he she has worked with individuals who have similar concerns. Additionally it could make a big difference if my friend wanted therapy just for her or couple s therapy that included her husband. Some therapists have training and experience to work with couples others do not. I encouraged her to be an educated consumer and ask before scheduling an appointment. Second consider how the cost of therapy will be covered. I encour12 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM A while back a dear friend of mine called and asked for advice on finding a good therapist. She was in tears and she was unsure why and what needed to happen to help her feel better. She was definitely depressed but also she was quite dissatisfied with her marriage. Was it just her issue and she aged my friend to check with her insurance on eligibility for mental health benefits. What might she have for a deductible or co-pay and are there limits on the services provided If she was not using insurance and planned to pay out-of-pocket I suggested she inquire about sliding-scale fees in which the cost is usually based upon income. While money can be an awkward conversation it is more than fair to be clear on this before initiating services. Therapists are used to getting these questions. Furthermore if cost was especially concerning I suggested she look into local universities with community clinics staffed by graduate students in training who are supervised by licensed staff. Community mental health centers are also good options. Third therapists have very different approaches for how they view the process of growth and change in their clients. This is good because people are very diverse when it comes to what is helpful. However this also means that not every therapist is a good fit for every client. For instance one therapist might explore in-depth the way my friend thinks about things including herself. This focus on cognitions would assist her in becoming more aware of what she tells herself and consequently how that impacts her feelings and behaviors. It might be determined she has detrimental self-critical thinking that could be replaced with more self-compassionate thoughts. Another therapist might instead focus on her earliest relationships. These would be viewed as formative for how she understands relationships and expects them to work. It would be explored how she attached to her parents along with how she perceived her parents relating to each other and how those early views of relationships remain influential in her marital relationship. Yet another therapist might focus on better symptom management by exploring times when she feels better and what is different then. Therapy would be a process of reconnecting her with personal strengths and resources that have been helpful in the past and that can be used again. There are countless other approaches that therapists might utilize and in reality many therapists blend multiple approaches anyway. Nevertheless I encouraged her to ask therapists how they view the change and development process that their clients undergo in therapy. I also encouraged her to pay close attention to whether the therapist s response resonated with what she personally felt might be helpful. Most importantly and consistently evidenced by research conducted on therapy it is essential that the client feels comfortable sitting and talking with the therapist. The relationship between the client and therapist is often a major vehicle for change. Only with strong rapport can trust be formed to share deeply personal information take a close look at it and courageously move forward with healing and growth. I suggested to my friend that she pay close attention to the connection she forms (or doesn t form) during her initial contacts with the therapist. My friend did find a therapist who was a good fit and provided helpful support and guidance. As her depression lightened her marriage strengthened. For more information on this topic visit and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 13 HERLIFE ask the expert SELLING YOUR HOME We asked an experienced local realtor to answer some of our reader s home-selling questions. b y kr i s ta w ol t er Q. How can I make my home presentable for buyers and is staging really necessary A. Neutralizing the style of the home to be less taste specific is key. Flooring paint and light fixtures are always great investments but they do need to be the right choices You want to appeal to as many buyers as possible not to your own personal style and you should focus on what will give you the best return on your investment. A deep cleaning is also a must. Clean the windows carpets light fixtures floorboards get rid of clutter. I bring a staging expert in on each of my listings no matter the price point to ensure we have a professional s input in my opinion presentation is that important The right kind of staging definitely sells homes. The home also needs to be staged from the right perspective. Some homes show better with furniture and some without unfortunately there is no exact blueprint for staging and we base much of this on room sizes layout style and who we think might be buying the home. Q. Do open houses really work A. They definitely have their place and work well in certain areas and price points. I find that serious buyers still want a private showing with their personal agent as the savvy buyer expects personal service private representation and the expertise of an agent who understands their needs. With that said it is in the seller s best interest to have their home available to as many buyers as possible. Many times an open house is one more way of exposing the home to those potential buyers. They certainly don t hurt but are not a guaranteed home run either. Q. I hear that spring is the best time to list my home is that true A. This depends on the market. You need to know your local market (or work with a Realtor who does) to assess what the inventory is your competition your recently sold comparables and how many buyers are in the marketplace. A few years back I did research for a client on a lakeshore market in Wisconsin and found that 60% of the homes were selling between October and April. The seller was listing the property only during the summer months and in that particular market the fall was actually a stronger time. I do sell a lot of homes in the fall and winter--you may not have as many showings but they will tend to be better more serious buyers. As a career agent Krista has been through the ups and downs of the market and continues to shine as a valued partner to her clients. Having quickly risen to the top 1% of Twin Cities agents she has established a reputation as a trusted real estate advisor who always puts client interests ahead of her own while delivering a level or service that is above and beyond expectations. My goal is to serve the people I m working for and deliver the best and most complete home buying and selling experience possible. Krista Wolter. For more information call (612) 247-5106 or visit Photo taken by Erik Mickelsen 14 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 15 HERLIFE beauty CHOOSING A HANDBAG FOR YOUR BODY TYPE AND CAREER by hallie sawyer P vocation. etite curvy pear-shaped tall inverted triangle hourglass and apple-shaped are all body types you have heard of but did you know they also dictate what type of handbag you should carry Turns out not everyone can rock the hobo bag. It s all about balance proportion distraction and attraction. This bag also works for many different professional paths from publishing and marketing to photography. Tote This bag works well for those who are apple-shaped distracting the eye from the top-heaviness of this body type. It s practical as well as functional for the workplace and is great for carrying big items such as a laptop camera and notebooks. However it s best to invest in a nice leather tote for the office keeping the more casual one for the pool. Shoulder bag These can come in a variety of sizes but they all come with a long strap for looping over the shoulder. This is one of the most popular styles of handbags for good reason. They usually have multiple compartments and hit at the natural waist just above the hip. Inverted triangles rectangular athletic and hourglass are great shapes for this type of bag. Smaller in shape it s an everyday style that gives you the chance to make a great first impression at a job interview. Briefcase While this one isn t really able to mask any body type flaws or distract the eye from any less-than-desirable body parts it does say a lot about a person s level of professionalism. It s a classic handbag that lawyers have used for years to carry documents. A briefcase offers the utmost functionality and nothing says has it together better than this type of high-quality leather handbag. When shopping for the best bag for your shape keep these tips from in mind. The size of a handbag should be proportional to the person s body type. Short and petite women appear taller with small handbags and shorter with large handbags. Tall and slim women appear larger with small handbags and look best with midsize large and oversized styles. The shape of a handbag should be opposite of the person s Along those same lines fashion experts say there are handbags to match your career as well. Your handbag can reveal your level of professionalism as well as your attention to detail. Here are some tips for choosing the right handbag for your body type as well as your Crossbody Messenger This handbag works for those who have wider shoulders than hips (called Inverted Triangle) giving the illusion of balance. This type of bag also works for the curvy or hourglassshaped ladies as long as the bag is proportionate. When it comes to the career since the crossbody bag has such a casual feel this one isn t a fit for the executive professional wardrobe. This works best in the occupation the name describes as a messenger. Hobo This bag is versatile fitting inverted triangles hourglass petites or those with a leaner rectangular shape. It works because it adds curve where it s needed most. Not all hobos are created equal and they can look slouchy if not chosen wisely. For a work setting look for one that has more structure (more rare but they exist ) and without a lot of detail. One that is simple and sleek with supporting structure will also function for carrying documents in style. Satchel This handbag has been around since the 17th century and for good reason. It s a flat-bottomed bag with a short strap or handle giving shape where it s needed most. This is great for rectangular or hourglass figures and especially good for pear-shaped women. A bag like this will fall between hip and natural waist making the shoulders look broader therefore balancing out these figure types. 16 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM body type Short women look taller carrying a long rectangular handbag. Slim and tall women benefit from a round handbag. The length of a handbag where the bottom hits the body emphasizes that area. Short handbags make busts appear larger so choose styles with longer straps to divert attention. Most women look good wearing handbags that hang to the mid-torso. Size and comfort are just as important when it comes to purchasing the right handbag. It s important to make sure it has enough compartments for your items and is comfortable to carry. Also a handbag is a great way to accessorize an outfit. Consider seasonal colors to spice up your wardrobe and neutral tones to avoid clashing with a busier outfit. Make sure the bag is durable for its intended use and has proper closures for your security needs such as commuting or airport travel. Finding the right handbag for your body shape and your career is not as hard as you may think. After all it may be the hardest working part of your wardrobe as you use it every day. Why not take the time to pick one that is functional yet flattering Sources HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 17 HERLIFE culinary TOOLS AND GADGETS EVERY KITCHEN SHOULD HAVE b y s he rry l. g ra na d e r S tocking your kitchen with the right tools makes cooking any meal so much easier. Take a walk through your local gourmet kitchen store and you ll find some of the most innovative inventions for solving any kitchen preparation issue imaginable. collapsible rubber measuring cups that are easy to use and lie flat in the drawer. They come in measurements from one-eighth cup to one cup. Paring Knife A paring knife can be used for all those small jobs like slicing mushrooms or hulling cherries. Look for a sturdy stainless-steel blade with a strong handle. Many of them come with a plastic shield to store the knife in which also makes it easy to take with you on a picnic for cutting up an apple or cheese. Here are ten tools and gadgets that will yield more professional results and make your life easier in the kitchen. Chef s Knife A good set of knives is essential in any kitchen but a chef s knife makes chopping slicing or mincing of vegetables herbs and meats a pleasure. The most popular size is between 6 and 8 inches however choose a size that is most comfortable for you. Silicone Spatula This utensil will replace the use of all other spoons and can be used for scraping stirring saut ing and scooping. Most are heat-resistant to very high temperatures and are strong yet flexible. They come in different colors but consider purchasing a red one that won t show stains from ingredients like tomato sauce or tomato paste. Microplane Grater This tool came from the woodworking world and cooks soon discovered it works efficiently for grating nutmeg ginger cheese and chocolate. It works perfectly for grating garlic cloves in recipes that require finely-chopped garlic. Kitchen Shears A good pair of scissors is a must in any kitchen for opening up packages trimming vegetables cutting the stems of flowers and more. Some come with handy tools built-in like a row of teeth between the handles that can be useful for opening difficult lids on bottles or jars. One of the easiest ways to chop herbs or green onions is with a clean pair of kitchen shears the clippings can go right into a bowl or pot through easy snips. Flexible Cutting Mats Practicing good sanitation in the kitchen is a must and can be accomplished easily by using flexible cutting mats that come in different colors. For example use a green one for cutting vegetables only a yellow one for cutting poultry a blue one for fish and so on. Plus they make it easy to transport all the cut-up food into a bowl or pan. Stainless Steel Whisk Collapsible Measuring Cups If space is limited it can be frustrating having all the different sizes of measuring cups taking up space in a kitchen drawer. Look for the 18 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM You may have seen some bright-colored whisks in the gourmet kitchen store that are made with flexible rubber. You would think they would be an added bonus to your kitchen however they do not stand up to a standard stainless steel whisk. Use it for beating eggs whisking liquids or mixing dry and wet ingredients efficiently. Glass Custard Cups A set of glass custard cups will be used for more reasons you can list. Many chefs use them to measure ingredients out first before firing up the stove or preparing a recipe. They are also a perfect choice for serving condiments dipping sauces or grated Parmesan cheese on the table. If you slice a lemon and want a place to put the other half for later use they make a perfect storage container or they can help organize ingredients like minced garlic chopped herbs vinegars or olive oil. If you like to bake biscuits or cookies when inverted they are the perfect size to cut out the dough. Electric Wine Opener Granted this is a luxury item but if you enjoy a glass of wine with dinner or entertain quite a bit this gadget is worth every penny. It makes it easy to remove the cork of any size wine bottle simply by pushing a button. Look for them at gourmet food stores or wine shops. You will reach for these tools and gadgets over and over again making your jobs in the kitchen a breeze with a professional touch. Sources The writer s personal experience in Culinary School University of Montana and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 19 HERLIFE recipes SAUSAGE LASAGNA ROLLS rec ipes and ph otograp hy b y v er y cu l i n ar y. com Makes 8 rolls Prep time 20 minutes Cooking time 25 minutes Ingredients 8 lasagna noodles 2 teaspoons extra virgin olive oil 1 pound ground pork 2 cloves garlic minced 1 cup ricotta cheese 1 egg 1 3 cup grated Parmesan cheese 1 3 cup grated mozzarella cheese 2 tablespoons milk tablespoon Italian seasoning salt and pepper 2 cups traditional or marinara spaghetti sauce Directions 1. Bring a large pot of water to boil add a pinch of salt and lasagna noodles. Cook until al dente. Drain drizzle with a bit of olive oil to prevent sticking set aside. 2. While the pasta cooks warm oil in a medium non-stick skillet over medium-high heat. Add pork and garlic cook for about 3 minutes until no pink remains. Drain and set aside. 3. In a large bowl stir together ricotta and next five ingredients. Season with salt and pepper. Add sausage and cup spaghetti sauce mix until just combined. 4. Preheat oven to 375 . Spread one cup of spaghetti sauce on the bottom of a 9 13 baking dish. Spread 1 3 cup of the sausage mixture on each lasagna noodle and roll up like a jelly roll. Arrange rolls seam side down in the baking dish. Top with remaining spaghetti sauce. Cover loosely with foil and bake for 25 minutes. 20 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HALLOWEEN PRETZEL RODS re c ipes an d phot ogra p hy b y v er y cu l i n ar y. com Makes 25 Prep time 30 minutes Ingredients 1 package thick pretzel rods 6 ounces white baking chocolate chips 1 (2.5 ounce) container chocolate sprinkles 1 (2.5 ounce) container orange sprinkles Directions 1. Line a cookie sheet with parchment paper or foil. 2. In a small bowl combine the chocolate and orange sprinkles. 3. Place white chocolate in a medium microwavable bowl and melt in the microwave in 30-second intervals on low stirring in between. Repeat until melted and smooth. Transfer to a tall mug. 4. Place a pretzel rod inside the mug and twirl around coating about 2 3 of the rod and wriggle to shake off any excess chocolate. Sprinkle the chocolate and orange sprinkles (as much or as little as you like) over each rod. Lay each pretzel on the cookie sheet. 5. Place cookie sheet in the refrigerator for 5-10 minutes to set and dry completely. Store in a cool place. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 21 HERLIFE inspirations COMPANY chock full of wholesome treats by k a t h le e n k rue g e r p h o t o g r a ph y by m ic h e lle lo c k w o o d ha ir & ma k e u p b y m e g hum e o f s a vin g f a c e llc the hopeFULL they knew they were in the big leagues. So when their HopeFULL Kit tied with 3M for the Quality of Life category Jessica Brekke and Stephanie Williams couldn t have been more pleased. It was a big confirmation that all their hard work had paid off. They had developed a product that provided real-life benefits to people in need. The HopeFULL Company wasn t born out of a need or desire to start a business or even a saleable product. It was born out of a simple request from a close family friend with leukemia who asked Stephanie and Jessica to make her nutritious foods that would taste good and be easy to eat. Their friend knew that these two ladies had made their own whole food baby food for their children. Small servings of food that carried the nutrition she needed seemed like the perfect solution for feeding her body during the weeks of chemotherapy she needed to endure. 22 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM W hen two Twin Cities moms found their product in competition with products created by big name corporations like 3MTM for the coveted Silver Edison AwardTM for Innovation HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 23 HERLIFE inspirations Jessica and Stephanie set to work creating meals for their friend. They found that freezing their recipes gave their friend the option of eating the food frozen like a Popsicle thawed like a smoothie or warmed as a hot meal. As the weeks went by they experimented with new recipes to give their friend more variety from which to choose. With each delivery of frozen nutritious pops the ladies included a small message of peace and hope to their friend. Unfortunately this dear woman lost her battle with leukemia about six months later. However the benefit that the two sisters had been able to provide for her made them realize that their nutritional solution could benefit others who were having difficulty eating as well. It took them about 20 months of research and planning but in November 2010 Jessica and Stephanie finally launched The HopeFULL Company. A HopeFULL Kit includes a ring of 20 nutritious recipes that Jessica and Stephanie have created themselves a HopeFULL silicone mold that can create eight frozen pops and birch wood spoons that can be used as handles for the frozen HopeFULL pops or for stirring and eating thawed or heated HopeFULL meals. Although HopeFULLs were originally created for adults and children dealing with the side effects of chemotherapy customers were soon buying them for other reasons as well. Pregnancy autism degenerative diseases and oral surgery were just a few of the many reasons people were purchasing the kits. Some bought them just to create healthy snacks for themselves and many began buying them to create healthy options for children who were finicky eaters. Catering to this new direction a new kit was developed called BellyFULLs with a whole new set of fun recipes that both kids and adults can enjoy making and eating. Stephanie says that the Super Power Pop made with strawberries and squash is a favorite of her four-year-old picky eater while her personal favorite is Royally Yummy a concoction that includes bananas sweet potatoes yogurt honey lemon and ginger. Jessica and Stephanie are not just friends and business partners they re sisters. Each has one son and one daughter under their care and Stephanie s and Jessica s daughters are the same age. Being close in age and geographical location during the first seven years of their lives has created a very strong bond between these cousins. The girls call themselves sister-cousins. The two boys have a five-year age span between them despite their age difference they share a close connection as well. The last three years have been a busy exciting time for these two sisters as they worked to bring their product to market and then launch it into retail settings. Both women have had to face the challenges that accompany balancing their personal lives with the high demands of an entrepreneurial venture. Finding funding and retail outlets for their products was both challenging and rewarding. We had a great experience working with WomenVentureTM which provided our small business loan Stephanie shared. She also gets a special thrill from walking into pharmacies food coops and hospital gift shops and seeing HopeFULL and BellyFULL Kits sitting on their shelves. As rewarding as it has been to place and win in competitions like the Stevie Awards for Women in Business and the Market Mommy s S.T.A.R. Mom Entrepreneur Award both Stephanie and Jessica agree that it is the personal connection with individuals using their product that they treasure the most. One family in particular has special meaning to Jessica and Stephanie. The HopeFULL Company had donated some HopeFULL Kits to a fundraiser for a family whose daughter had neuroblastoma. The young girl with cancer was the same age as the sister-cousins of Stephanie and Jessica. As a result of their donation the family contacted Stephanie and Jessica. We have been honored to be invited into their family in such an intimate way shared Jessica. Stephanie also was able to witness first-hand the benefit HopeFULLs provide as her mother-in-law used them while she was dealing with esophageal cancer. Beyond their entrepreneurial adventures the sisters are busy with 24 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM their families and other interests as well. Jessica is an avid runner and artist who enjoys a variety of media particularly film photography. She recently celebrated nine years of sobriety and remains active in recovery support groups. She speaks candidly about her sobriety stating that it is hearing the stories of others that has contributed most to her recovery. Jessica revealed There is a stigma that addiction looks a certain way. I feel compelled to be open and honest about my illness in hope that someone even if it s just one person can relate. That s how recovery begins. Stephanie enjoys traveling and staying fit. She had the pleasure of completing a portion of her college studies in England and spent a summer in Thailand following graduation from college. It was when she returned home to the Twin Cities after college that she became interested in whole foods and cooking from scratch. Jennette Turner a natural foods educator from Minneapolis was a big influence on Stephanie at that time. It was a turning point in my life Stephanie recalled. Stephanie s husband Jamie is also an entrepreneur and recently took over management of his father s business in Atlanta Georgia. This has meant a big move for the family and a lot of traveling between St. Paul and Atlanta for Stephanie. I usually travel to the Twin Cities at least once a month for business explained Stephanie. Personal visits with the kids to visit family are frequent as well. The HopeFULLs have been so popular with hospital patients even beyond those undergoing chemotherapy that hospitals in the Twin Cities have expressed interest in having the HopeFULL frozen pops produced for distribution. Schools have also shown an interest in providing the BellyFULL frozen pops as part of a healthy option for students. The company is now conducting research in those directions. As the business continues to evolve Stephanie and Jessica continue to develop new recipes and hope to have their recipes available in an e-reader version in the near future. The HopeFULL Company generously supports several organizations through donations of their products and financial gifts. In addition to many cancer-related organizations and the CaringBridge organization are two non-profits the company strongly supports and promotes. Two sisters decided to help out a friend by using basic skills they already had developed at home. That s not too unusual. It is the willingness to put in the hard work of research development and marketing that concept so that others can receive the same benefit that is to be applauded. The HopeFULL Company wasn t born out of a need or desire to start a business or even a saleable product. It was born out of a simple request from a close family friend with leukemia who asked Stephanie and Jessica to make her nutritious foods that would taste good and be easy to eat. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 25 HERLIFE mother s perspective HOW TO KNOW WHEN YOU RE READY TO START A FAMILY b y lis a t a ra n t o b u t le r F irst comes love then comes marriage then comes so-and-so with a baby carriage At least that s how the old playground song goes but are those sentiments true for you Do you daydream about family life or think you need a little more time on your own have two incomes or one Have you considered the costs of daycare or babysitting Do you have baby equipment and clothing If not where will you get it Are you breastfeeding or feeding with formula These are all factors in family finances. If you do not already have a financial advisor you ll definitely want to consider working with one to ensure you are prepared for baby s arrival. Does the sound of a crying infant make you want to rock-a-bye baby or buy a pair of ear plugs Deciding to start a family is exciting but requires much thought and consideration. Before you take the plunge into parenthood tread the shallow waters to see if the baby pool is for you. Career Conclusion Children and jobs each require time. How will raising a child affect your career or your partner s career Make sure to realistically consider how having a child will change your livelihood. Will one or both of you continue to work Is working part time an option Do you need to keep the income at or above what you are currently making What about maternity or paternity leaves Is your workplace supportive of families and children s needs Having a child means sick children doctor s appointments school functions and daycare pick-up at specific times. If your job doesn t offer a flexible schedule the ability to work from home or daycare benefits you may want to reconsider your options. However if the pay is substantial then you may be able to reconsider the lack of family emphasis. Partner Harmony Unless you are starting a family on your own when it comes to having children no one plays a bigger part than your significant other. Although you may have agreed that children would someday be in the picture your partner may be on a different timeline than you. Make sure to have an open honest conversation about your family visions. Deciding to have a baby is a major life decision and if someone isn t quite ready for parenthood things can go awry. Keep the lines of communication open be honest and address any concerns that one or both of you may have. Assess Your Finances From toddlers to teens kids cost cash. Carrying a baby for nine months is different than carrying all the expenses that come with having a child. Decide if your finances can handle the added demands and take a thorough look at your budget. Will you need a bigger home Will you 26 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Time Whether it is time alone with your honey or just time for yourself kids take up a bunch of it. Babies require diapering feeding bathing and soothing in 24-hour increments. Housework organization and free time take a back seat to babies but making time for you and your partner is important so including this in your parenting plans is crucial to family success. Energy Children are full of energy and can zap you of yours so consider how much get-upand-go you have now and multiply that by a hundred. That s about how much energy you will need when kids come into the picture. Nurturing a child takes quite a bit of effort not to mention endurance. Consider your current health status. Do you eat right exercise and generally feel good If not maybe holding off on kids and tending to your own needs may be the better option for now. Try recharging your battery by exercising daily. Studies continually show regular exercise is better than a nap for boosting energy levels. Once a baby is born it is easy to tend to his or her needs and forget your own but that isn t good for any family. The Daily Grind The day-to-day life of a parent is ever-changing. What happens one day may not be anything close to what happens the next but following a schedule is important to keeping things on track. Think of your life right now. Are you a Sally Scheduler or Willy Nilly If being able to go out a lot and sleeping late are important to you then having a family now may not be the answer. Babies and toddlers need a schedule to make sure they are eating and sleeping enough and getting adequate stimulation. Parents need a schedule to maintain cohesiveness and to keep our sanity. Surprise You can plan and prepare for having a child but when it comes right down to it everything from pregnancy and labor to life after baby is unpredictable and erratic. No one truly knows how they will feel after taking a look at that brand new face but gut instincts are usually right on the money. Sources HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 27 HERLIFE fine things WHAT TO BUY AND WHAT TO AVOID by b re ro a c h VINTAGE JEWELRY T here s something about the word vintage that makes everything sound more authentic. For example if your jacket is vintage leather then it s probably going to be more sought-after than an everyday leather jacket. Vintage furniture is another trending item but perhaps the most desired vintage item is yourself with some household vintage designers. If the piece of jewelry is older more elaborate or in excellent condition then you re probably going to be paying a higher price for it than something that s simple and only 30 years old. Be wary of chips or cracks corrosion or discoloration because those flaws cannot be repaired. Study the photographs they post online intensely. The next step is to get friendly with the names of vintage jewelry. If you prefer big costume jewelry then keep Weiss Juliana Coro and Haskell in mind when shopping online. Brush up on your history of the designs of the jewelry as well. It may sound a little extensive but think of it this way would you date a guy without doing a little background research on him Probably not so don t treat your jewelry like some guy you re grabbing coffee with. Treat it like a guy who s taking you out to a four course meal. Chanel jewelry for example has changed its design since the 1960s so if you know exactly what you want what era you want it from and which designer you will make your search much less complicated. Don t be fooled by misspelled logos or manufacturing location either. Look extremely close because you don t want to find out you got scammed by a Versace that was Made in France and not Made in Italy. Two of the top vintage jewelry websites are The Vintage Frames Company and Dope Couture. If you ve got your search narrowed then you ll have an easy time navigating around the jewelry on both of these websites. However if you want to physically see and feel the jewelry jewelry. Not only does it have a history but it has already stood the test of time reassuring you that it will only get better with each passing day. For most vintage jewelry however it can quite literally be like finding the diamond in the rough--you might have to kiss a few toads before you find your Peruzzi-cut prince. A good eye and sharp mind are required when searching for vintage jewelry. One great site to find vintage jewelry is eBay where they have numerous products from which to choose. It s important to note before getting started shopping online that vintage and antique are two differ- ent things so if you re looking for the real thing then you have to learn how to spot it. Antique jewelry is typically 100 years old or older. If you see a ring online that is only 20 years old that s not necessarily antique. Vintage jewelry on the other hand was made during the retroModern period the 1940s and 1950s.There may be a vintage reproduction (see also knock off ) that is made to look like the authentic jewelry piece but isn t which is why it s important to know the difference. EBay has an entire vintage jewelry buying guide that details how crucial it is to look at the condition of the piece as well as familiarize 28 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM then head to a consignment that is known for its jewelry display. Ask the retailers and staff members as many questions as you can because it s worth it and that s their job. After finding your perfect piece of jewelry follow these helpful tips on maintaining its quality. First wear it with care because vintage jewelry is extremely difficult to repair. Second store it in pouches that are soft and preferably have zippers. Finally use a jewelry polishing cloth and never place it directly under running water. These few steps will definitely keep your jewelry in mint condition and when you re ready to sell the piece it will be in good enough shape to get some money in return. When it comes to finding vintage jewelry it can be a little intimidating. Just make sure you know what you want before diving in head first because the waters of vintage jewelry buying are murky and endless. Be determined that you won t get scammed and then make an effort to be critical of the details regarding the piece. Vintage jewelry is quickly becoming a lifelong gift from one person to another (think engagement ring) because it shows that they put research and effort into obtaining the piece. Vintage is trendy and rare so don t be afraid to get creative and think outside of the box especially since you know you ll be one of very few people with the piece. Your wardrobe will thank you later. Sources and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 29 HERLIFE trendsetter FRANK MURPHY FASHIONS clothing provided by frank murphy fashions opening november 2013 downtown white bear lake 651.762.9200 photography by momento images models sarah gunther and taylor burch of wehmann models and talent inc. hair & makeup by meg hume of saving face llc 30 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM this page dress by adrianna papel lace banded cocktail dress (shown in black) 237.00 opposite page dress by maggy london stretch dress with grommet detailing (shown in black) 192.00 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 31 HERLIFE trendsetter 32 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM this page dress by london times tiered cocktail dress (shown in magenta) 132.00 opposite page dress by london times animal print dress (shown in neutral) 102.00 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 33 HERLIFE trendsetter this page dress by adrianna papel long blouson gown (shown in buff) 387.00 opposite page dress by maggy london mad men style fitted dress with stretch (shown in black and white) 162.00 34 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 35 HERLIFE green living GOING GREEN AT YOUR GROCERY STORE by lindsay whel chel seem daunting to some. But in a grocery store we quite literally have the world at our fingertips. And if we make a few smart decisions where we can that world will thank us in a very tangible way. We really want women to understand that the importance of the green conversation is about creating a healthy home and healthy families rather than singularly trying to solve the climate change debate said Terri Bennett founder of Do Your Part a green information initiative aimed at empowering women with tools to make their homes and lives healthier by going green. For Terri a former meteorologist the environment is directly affected by the purchases we as consumers make. The greenest thing you can do is become an educated consumer so when you re buying things you re buying products that are not only safer for the environment but are made by companies that are walking the walk and talking the talk Terri said. Labels like fair trade and organic might mean slightly higher prices but there are benefits and ways to save. Start small and work more organic items into your budget as you go along Terri explains. The Environmental Working Group a nonprofit organization has outlined the Dirty Dozen a list of produce most susceptible to pesticide absorption. These are foodie favorites such as blueberries 36 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM W e ve all been there at the grocery store faced with the task of gathering the weekly essentials. With a multitude of inner battles that range from conquering your sweet tooth to making your purchases fit into a budget the idea that we should go green might spinach and strawberries and are the items one should switch to organic with first to avoid consumption of potentially harmful chemicals Terri notes. The organization also has a Clean 15 which is a list of produce not as impacted by chemicals and therefore not as imperative in the organic debate. These are goodies like avocados and mangoes. This list can help you save to pay higher prices for the Dirty Dozen. And speaking of the organic debate the term goes beyond what ingredients are going into your body though Terri stresses to make a habit of reading the labels to make smarter decisions. Organic items have benefits deep-rooted to the farmers and communities where the food was grown. I m not bringing those chemicals into my body but more importantly the farmers who have grown those crops have not been exposed to the chemicals. The people who live around the farms have not been exposed and when it rains the chemicals used on the crops are not washing into our waterways. So organic has multiple levels of importance Terri said. Another area to consider being green with an added benefit to your budget is with household items such as cleaning supplies. What most people who go to the grocery store fail to recognize is that there are so many chemicals used in the products that are made today. There s a great misconception that if you can buy a product in the United States it must be safe and that is simply not true. Terri asserted. She advises to check for the ominous skull and crossbones graphic on an item and if present steer clear. My green cleaning kit consists of six ingredients which are vinegar baking soda hydrogen peroxide olive oil oxygenated bleach and borax. I can clean my en- tire house on those inexpensive products safely and without bringing toxic chemicals into my home Terri said. So now that you ve made a few purchasing decisions how are you going to get the basket full of stuff from the store to your home Beyond the easy answer of reusable cloth or canvas shopping bags the big question is paper or plastic According to a report from the Washington Post plastic bags take less energy to produce than paper ones and given that the production of paper bags takes an annual total of 14 million trees one might proclaim plastic the prime option. But when we learn that chemicals commonly used to produce plastic bags are classified as generating hazardous waste and the process to recycle plastic is expensive and complicated we might be at a loss as to what to choose. In this case whatever you decide re-use. Go with sustainable bags or no bags at all when you can. When you can t put those plastics and paper to use around your home as trash can liners and packing materials the report advises. Ultimately it s about making small changes that add up. We never say throw everything out and start over. There s no way you could possibly do everything to be green but we can all start doing our part creating healthier lives which in turn can lead to a healthier planet Terri affirmed. Sources HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 37 HERLIFE working women by mar i l yn isaminger and encourages she respects and listens to others she is proactive in planning setting goals and exploring new ways to do business. But what occurs when these skills are lacking in a person with whom or for whom you work According to Dr. Laurence J. Peter author of The Peter Principle People tend to be promoted up to their level of incompetence...The cream rises until it sours. During the path of promotion the potential leader missed acquiring basic skills that promote teamwork and the achievement of the organization s goals. Nevertheless when we face dealing with a lousy leader we must develop strategies to keep our own work and behavior on track. Here are some of the most common ineffective styles and suggestions for turning them to your advantage. W The Bully HOW TO HANDLE LOUSY LEADERS hat is effective leadership Each of us whether working woman mom spouse or volunteer instinctively has several responses to this question. An effective leader influences and enlists the help and support of others to accomplish a common goal she motivates inspires than well achieve or exceed deadlines pay attention to details communicate with your leader continue to act proactively. The Poor Communicator When tasks and responsibilities are assigned it s important for the leader to provide enough direction to allow the coworker to get the job done. If he does not provide adequate information or direction the task may need to be completed or redone at the last minute. Head off the poor communicator by gathering as much information as you can at the outset. Ask specific questions in a neutral manner be diplomatic and not aggressive. Remain flexible to the ideas or tasks you are asked to work on and continue to respectfully communicate your concerns or questions. If you stay focused on the quality of the tasks at hand even a poor communicator will eventually divulge more information or rationale for the assigned responsibility. The Saboteur This leadership style destroys organizations and businesses. He undermines the work and professionalism of others. He doesn t give credit when due or may take credit himself for the ideas or work of another. But wait until something goes wrong and see who he blames. To overcome the saboteur make him look good provide outstanding ideas and work product. Nevertheless keep your own career advancement in mind. Document every idea you provide and its sources. Keep copies of reports maintain a paper trail of memos and emails. If at some point your job is on the line you will have the evidence to demonstrate your performance and worth. An executive needs to be assertive and occasionally just plain pushy but the bully takes it to a toxic level publicly or privately threatening and humiliating coworkers. Your response Take the high road don t bully back become loud or angry. Take the emotion out of it. Calmly stand up for yourself and explain your position. Be the voice of reason tactfully firmly and repetitively if necessary. Stress that you are part of the team and will work to achieve the goals of the organization. The Micromanager Doing the job yourself ensures that it s done correctly but the micromanager can be a helicopter keeping a tight leash and constantly looking over shoulders to manage every detail. This leader has a lack of trust in coworkers and their abilities. Create and build trust by doing your job more 38 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM The Fickle Boss This leader may be pleasant but may lack clarity and decisiveness. His changeable directions and mood swings can create confusion within the organization. If you don t know who he will be on any given day productivity goes into the shredder. Don t take this behavior personally there may be forces at work you know nothing about. Limit contact or communication to urgent matters keep your nose in your own work stay out of office politics and keep your comments and opinions about the behavior to yourself. This will encourage your coworkers to see you as a leader. The Unprepared Pilot This executive flies by the seat of her pants. She makes decisions based on personal whim not statistics or research. She often operates in crisis mode. Frequently you will see this leader when you have been with the organization for a short time and it may have already reached the tipping point. Counter with doing your own research and if possible delve into company history and statistics to see trends so that you can assist her with developing plans for the company s future. Anticipate crises and have strategies in mind to overcome the worst outcomes. If your proactive nature can t turn the tide the company itself may be history. Practicing these responses to less-than-effective leadership will develop your own skills. In the end though you can t change or improve another person you can only change yourself. It may be time to brush up on your other skills networking communication technological interpersonal update that resume and leave these lousy leaders behind. Sources and the experience of the writer. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 39 HERLIFE spotlight distinction b y k a thleen kr ueger p hotogr a p hy b y m om en t o i m ag e s floors of A ny business can toot their own horn but it always means more when your customers do it for you. During the last couple of years the customers of Floors of Distinction have voiced their approval in more than one way. Due to customer reviews on Angie s List the store was listed as a winner of the Angie s List Super Service award for the last two years. They were also voted in the Sun Newspaper Readers Choice Survey of 2012 and 2013 as the Best Flooring Store in Plymouth. These acknowledgements are highly valued by the staff at Floors of Distinction. It means that they are accomplishing their mission of exceeding their customers expectations and providing the best flooring experience in the Twin Cities. Floors of Distinction is entering their 25th year in business. Bruce Beaudoin the owner has provided consistent leadership since the beginning. He has gathered an excellent team of professionals who offer the same strong customer rapport that has created the bedrock of trust that underlies the business success. In anticipation of their upcoming silver anniversary for the business Floors of Distinction has done an extensive remodel of their 4 000-square-foot showroom. The perimeter walkway for the showroom is made up of more than 40 different flooring sections. These large sections allow a real-life view of what the flooring would look like if you were standing on it in your home this provides a great improvement over simply looking at a sample board. The showroom floor also includes cork flooring. The cork flooring however is not new to the showroom. Its lack of visible wear demonstrates just how durable this product is and why it has become so popular in both kitchens and basement levels. The cushioned density of the cork makes it one of the most comfortable floors available for those who spend a lot of time on their feet in the kitchen or a playroom for children. It also absorbs warmth which means it isn t cold like tile can be on a lower-level concrete floor. Christina Burns the sales manager says that one of the biggest misconceptions she discovers when discussing flooring with customers relates to engineered hardwoods. High-quality engineered hardwood flooring can be sanded and refinished as many times as a solid wood product Christina explained. In Minnesota where temperatures and humidity levels are so volatile engineered hardwood flooring can actually be a better choice than solid wood since its layers keep it more stable than solid wood with less expansion and contraction. The other members of the sales staff Colleen Kelly and Heather Sandberg are both certified interior designers with degrees from UW Stout known for its accredited design program. What sets their design skills apart from many other interior designers is their in-depth understanding of flooring products. While most interior designers can assist you with choices based on color and texture the designers at Floors of Distinction can also educate you on distinguishing quality differences between products which may seem similar in appearance. Current flooring trends include a continuing use of exotic hardwoods. Additionally dark stained hickory oak and maples that are oiled wide plank and distressed finishes are becoming popular giving 40 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM an aged and handcrafted look. Warm greys offer an appealing palette and linear styling creates visual movement in carpet ceramic and luxury vinyl tiles. Since 1999 Floors of Distinction has been a Co-Op member of CCA Global s Flooring America. CCA is the nation s largest floor covering buying group. As a part of the buying group Floors of Distinction has the buying power to assure low prices that are backed by the most comprehensive warranties in the floor covering industry. In 2007 they also became a Karastan Showroom an important affiliation as Karastan is one of the most recognized carpet brands in the flooring industry. In addition to offering excellent flooring Floors of Distinction has an outstanding staff and group of installers. Our installers are our unsung story Christina insisted. Their installers are extremely experienced in their specialties and have been certified for Karastan carpet and linoleum installation. Linoleum installation requires special training. It isn t installed like vinyl flooring explained Christina. Their project manager oversees every aspect of each flooring project from doing the measurements to the final installation so your job goes smoothly. For a flooring company that can capture your vision and turn your dreams into reality visit Floors of Distinction. Floors of Distinction is located at 12642 Bass Lake Road on the Plymouth Maple Grove Border. Contact them by calling 763553-1800 or visiting their website HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 41 HERLIFE home PREPARING YOUR GARDEN AND LANDSCAPE FOR WINTER by ho p e f e rg us o n I n July Kerry Ann Mendez s garden was buzzing with life. There was a golden four-foot Japanese maple we spotted rose bushes yarrow spiraea and hydrangeas interspersed with sweet-smelling oriental lilies and hostas with delicate white bell-shaped blooms. Mendez is the author of two gardening books Top Ten Lists for Dividing Plants Now is also time to divide your flowers. Dig the plant out using a spade sharp knife or a garden fork. Cut the flowers apart not injuring the bulbs and reset in fresh soil and compost or manure to help add nutrients to ensure a healthy bloom. You may find some baby bulbs buried in the dirt. In a few years these babies should be able to produce full-fledged flowers so let them be says Fillion who also cautions that many tulips especially the new hybrid tulips tend to bloom for only three to five years before they need to be replanted. Some may lose their brilliant color as well as the hybrid reverts to a natural color. For ailing beds the problem could be poor soil so make sure to fertilize those plants. It also could be chipmunks or bolls Mendez noted so be sure to sprinkle that gravel. Beautiful Shade Gardens and The Ultimate Flower Gardener s Top Ten List. She is particularly fond of her ornamental Japanese forest grasses and of gardens that display lots of color. She likes the interplay of shape and texture using foliage as well as blooms. Foliage can be so dramatic in a garden. But as with all good things gardens come to an end this time of year and with that transition comes the need to consider what we can do now to help our gardens bloom and bring us pleasure next spring and summer. Mendez and Stacey Fillion of Power Equipment Plus gave us a few tips to keep those gardens glorious next year. Watering I always remind people to remember to water especially if we have a dry autumn. A lot of people get tired of gardening late in the season so you have plants that are very thirsty. Planting Bulbs Late September through first frost is the time to plant bulbs. It s still too early to cut the garden back but you can start planting or replenishing your tulips lilies daffodils hyacinth and crocuses. To prevent critters from devouring your hard work (Mendez says tulip bulbs are like candy to deer) you can throw a handful of crushed gravel or chicken grit in with the bulbs and on top of your flower bed to protect it. When it s time to cut back flower beds when the growing season ends keep at least two inches of the flower intact. To protect vegetable gardens Fillion suggests planting a top crop of winter wheat which will help keep weeds at bay. In the spring when you till the soil it also makes nice compost she explains. The top crop will also add nutrients for the plants to use during growing season. Evergreens For rhododendron holly and boxwood you may want to spray in November with an anti-transpirant like Wilt-Pruf to protect leaves over the long winter because evergreens can lose moisture from their leaves and they aren t able to replace it during the winter Mendez explained. Ornamental Shrubs Leave them be advised Mendez. Don t prune them let them naturally go to sleep. Even your woody flowering shrubs need a natural rest. Weeding Take time to weed your gardens especially the annual and peren42 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM nial beds. The more you weed in the fall the less you will have to do later. Remember the gardener s maxim one year s seeding equals seven years weeding. Plus it s cooler and there s less growth. Continue to mow the lawn Mendez said. Proper Tools To put your garden to bed you need to use the right tools. For that we consulted Stacy Fillion of Power Equipment Plus again. For weeding she prefers a small hand tool although she also will use an electric cultivator which is four to six inches wide and makes light work of it. She will use a saw-tooth shovel machete or a garden fork to divide her flowers. She is especially enamored of the garden fork which gently separates the flowers. Once I get the flower up and out I push right into the middle to separate she says.To plant bulbs she likes the coneshaped bulb planter. All flower beds have a moat to separate them from the lawn filled either with mulch or plastic to keep the lawn from growing into the flower bed she explained. To edge her lawn I use an edging spade. It looks like a hoe but straight. I put it at a 45-degree angle and take out whatever is in there. Electric edgers on wheels are also an option she says. Now that we have a list of tasks and tools we can get to work then greet our beautiful garden next spring. Sources and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 43 HERLIFE travel CULINARY TRAILS by ho p e f e rg us o n theme fish wild rice wild berries and any o natural food fare that you can catch. Traveling a northern trail sampling culinary delights sounds easy. Traveling north with three boys in tow all under the age of ten is quite another thing. But an interesting culinary challenge presents itself. Exploring northern Minnesota bites that appeal to both adults and kids-- now that s an intriguing challenge. The journey s goals were for both kid and adult sample north woods fare all the way up to the Canadian border with the final destination being Crane Lake in Voyageurs National Park known for its fishing and fish cuisine. Charming little towns salt and pepper the highway many located in the heart of wild rice country. Even with the first stop in Hinckley Minnesota it was easy to find the goods. Hinckley population 1 400 is known for its white pine trees logging history and Grand Casino Hinckley run by the Mille Lacs Band of Ojibwa. Tobie s was an easy pit stop on the menu was the Northwoods Walleye Breakfast lightly hand-breaded then deep-fried. Served on the side Jam made 44 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM W hen one thinks about the North Woods several images may come to mind--pine trees lakes and of course fishing. Naturally the culinary trail that follows along a north woods trail specifically northern Minnesota up to the border of Canada consists of a similar from a nearby berry farm. The bakery had Wild Rice Cheese and Onion bread The boys didn t quite like that you could see the wild rice slivers in the bread ( but it doesn t LOOK like rice ) but its organic rich grainy texture more than passed the adult taste test. As we passed Sandstone and Moose Lake the scenery morphed into a lumberjack s dream. In Cloquet located by the Fond Du Lac Indian Reservation it was time to test the palate again. Cloquet s long history begins with the fur trade in the 1700s and the lumber industry in the 1800s. According to locals a favorite was Gordy s Hi Hat serving spectacular burgers and fish sandwiches. However we were on the hunt for a savory wild rice soup and we found it at The Avenue Coffee House. They had cooked down a creamy chicken wild rice soup for the day which sounds like it s the soup for every day as there s a Wild Rice Lake seven miles from Cloquet. There s a Tribal Rice Harvester listed if you need connections for purchasing your own hand-harvested wild rice. While the younger crowd preferred the burgers at Gordy s (it seems wild rice may be more popular with the adult palate overall) the wild rice soup deserved a blue ribbon. It was creamy yet still rooted in a raw grainy taste which seems to be wild rice s forte in dishes. Wild rice the state grain is grown all over in these marshy areas. The Ojibwa consider wild rice an important ingredient of social and ceremonial life. It became the state s symbol in 1977 and it s actually an aquatic grass unrelated to common rice. Winding northward we drove until the road ended. Literally. Crane Lake opened up as the road ended at its banks. The fishy part of the challenge was about to begin. Crane is the closest entry point to Voyageurs for almost all visitors. To the east Crane Lake is a gateway to the lakes of Superior National Forest including the Boundary Water Canoe Area Wilderness and Quetico Provincial Park. From Crane you can travel by water about 60 miles in several different directions. And if you re up for a few portages you can go at least 1 000 miles. Portages aside this crew was focused on fish. On our species list walleye northern pike bass and any pan fish we could catch off the docks with cane poles. Crane Lake is home to all of them. And the first night there the lake didn t disappoint. The fishing boat sat tied up to the dock as grownup and child pulled fish after fish right off the dock. Perch walleye blue gill and bass were the species of choice until a monster northern pike was snagged by a ten-year-old with a cane pole and immediately went in the to eat basket. Cleaning the fish is part of the culinary experience with the help of other experienced fisherman and guides the northern pike s Y bone is tricky we had our catches cleaned and filleted in no time. The menu included fresh fried walleye and perch and baked northern pike. The verdict Entire group couldn t eat enough. Turns out there s nothing like eating fresh fish that you caught yourself. Lessons learned by all ages Sometimes the best destinations and food are at the end of the road. Ya you betcha HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 45 HERLIFE spotlight BUILDING A STRONGER FUTURE by kath l een kr u eger ph otograph y m om en t o i m ages D counsel. oes your teenager or college student know what questions to ask when they look for their first apartment to rent or buy their first car Do they understand how credit scores are determined and what ways credit scores can impact things like insurance rates and lending rates If as a parent you ve explained all those things to them (and they actually listened to what you were saying) you should pat yourself on the back. Unfortunately a lot of teenagers and young adults don t always put a lot of stock in what their parents are telling them during those years. They haven t yet reached the stage in life where they realize that Mom and Dad actually can provide some pretty wise Wings Financial Credit Union has developed an extremely effective way of delivering this type of valuable financial information to its young adult members. It s called the SOAR Young Adult Program and targets members ages 13 through 22. The program which began in 1997 offers four 90-minute classes for the younger set to attend. The class teaches students how to manage their bank accounts definitions of banking terms protection against identity theft the risks and benefits of different credit options how to apply for college loans and grants and financial life skills related to budgeting lease agreements and vehicle purchases. A 100 deposit to their savings account upon successful completion of all the classes provides the incentive for students to both attend and absorb the information that is presented. Wings Financial is a not-for-profit credit union that provides financial services to residents in the Twin Cities Metro Area as well as employees of the air transportation industry nationwide. They have branch offices in Apple Valley Eagan Edina Brooklyn Center Bloomington Minnetonka St. Paul and several in Minneapolis. Wings Financial branches can also be found in several other locations in the United States. In addition to the many financial and banking services that they offer for their members Wings Financial has one of the strongest educational programs available. It is one of the few Twin City financial institutions that has a full-time staff position just for administering its educational and youth programming. Trysh Olson is the Education and Youth Programs Manager for Wings Financial Credit Union. In addition to facilitating the SOAR Young Adult Program for members Trysh spends a lot of time in the public school system working alongside teachers providing financial management instruction to elementary middle school and high school students. In just the first six months of 2013 the program has reached 1 410 adults and children through financial literacy classes. We use games to make learning fun for the younger students Trysh explained. She also answers question about what materials are used to make money and the history of the use of money as a trade medium. For the middle school students lessons may explain the difference between checking accounts and savings accounts or how math is used in the banking industry in many different ways. In the SOAR program in the high schools Trysh says that the Educational Programs for Young Adults from Wings Financial 46 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM number one topic that students ask about is credit. They want to know how to establish good credit or how to repair a credit rating after it has been damaged. Some kids say they don t want to use credit at all. They want to pay cash for everything Trysh remarked. In those cases Trysh uses the opportunity to explain to them the value of developing a credit record and how a cash-only philosophy can hinder their ability to obtain low insurance rates rental agreements loans and more in the future. Trysh understands exactly where those questions and comments are coming from. Prior to taking her current position she had worked in collections for Wings Financial and other organizations for a total of 19 years. She is very aware of the devastating effect the economic downturn had on many families during the last five years. It is very sad to see people lose their homes and vehicles due to situations outside their control said Trysh. At the same time a big part of her job in collections was to help families find ways to avoid these situations. It was the success stories that made it all worthwhile Trysh explained. Along with the youth-focused educational programs Wings Financial offers financial workshops and community outreach programs dealing with Social Security benefits and Medicare for those nearing or in the retirement-age bracket. Wings Financial was founded by a small group of airline employees in 1938. It has continued to provide its members with convenient and impactful services and solid financial value. Visit to find out more about their financial education services branch locations and membership opportunities. Trysh Olson can be reached at 952-997-8000 or polson HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 47 HERLIFE in the city OCTOBER 1 Albertville Premium Outlets Pink Event DATES October 1 - 31 LOCATION Albertville Premium Outlets DETAILS Shop Pink for a Cause and save Albertville Premium Outlets and Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure are teaming up to support breast cancer awareness research and treatment programs in our community. During the month of October visit the on-site Information Center to donate 10 to support the cause and receive added savings on your favorite brands. For more information visit dance entertainers. 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