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KEEPING WOMEN CONNECTED fresh spring style buying vs renting real estate APRIL 2014 Pam Shelton A MATTER OF THE HEART 4 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM staff & contacts Publisher and Editor-In-Chief Kimberly Mullen kimberly herlifemagazine.com 209-224-8810 Beth Dostal beth herlifemagazine.com For advertising information please call 209-224-8810 Kelly Moore kelly herlifemagazine.com 209-200-1229 Vikki Sandor-Girolami vikki herlifemagazine.com 209-629-5382 Editor Art Director Associate Art Directors Advertising Art Director Contributing Authors Marilyn Isaminger Sarah Abend sarah herlifemagazine.com Paige Fisher Ashleigh Thomson Elana Bell elana herlifemagazine.com Adriana Brogger Joseph R. Burlin M.D. Melody Bussey Lisa Taranto Butler Patty Cook Hope E. Ferguson Rebecca Flansburg Dr. Lisa Hunt Marilyn Isaminger Laura Leiva Heather Noble Linda R. 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We welcome your ideas articles and feedback. 8 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 9 HERLIFE CONTENTS features 30 40 78 74 66 12 14 18 Welcome From the Publisher Health Pain Relievers 101 Integrative Medicine Reduce Inflammation The Natural Way Spotlight Valley MRI Beauty Spring To The Occasion Behind The Music Nina Hajian Cosmetic Surgery The Facial Profile Inspirations Pam Shelton 36 38 40 Cravings Bueno Italiano Culinary Know Your Knives Recipes Creamy Goat Cheese Pasta Slow Cooker Corned Beef Foodies Behind The Menu Thai Spices Travel Food Festivals Trendsetter Violet Muse 56 60 62 64 66 68 72 74 Finance Solving Your Financial Crisis Working Women Nontraditional Careers Community Spotlight Russ Munson Mother s Perspective Autism Awareness Real Estate Buying or Renting Home Fertilizing Facts Spotlight The Perfect Pear Green Living Creating a Beautiful Rain Garden 76 78 She Said Yes Alana and Christian Trendsetter Nantucket and Whimsical Bridal Tie The Know Jackie and Chad Scene and Be Seen Voila Grand Re-Opening Book Club Girl Three Horoscope Calendar of Events 84 88 90 94 96 20 22 24 28 30 42 44 46 50 10 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE WELCOME time to heal of this group were more than contacts they were friends. I was intrigued and honored when she asked me to come with her to the luncheon. I arrived a few minutes early and Tammie introduced me to other members and shared my journey with the launch of HERLIFE Magazine. I handed out my first copies of the magazine and enjoyed the positive feedback and excitement that was growing over a new women s magazine for the Central Valley. This group of inspiring and warm hearted women welcomed me with open arms and encouragement. We sat down at our table for lunch and the meeting began with a few announcements and member introductions. At each table the members of the group would stand and introduce themselves and share a message about their businesses. The microphone was passed from table to table and stopped at the last member. The room became quiet and I thought I heard few women gasp. I looked next to me and Tammie had tears in her eyes. Quietly I sat and observed what happened next. A woman stood up at the table and one of the leaders of the group who was facilitating the meeting stood by her side and held the microphone. Hello my name is Pam Shelton she exclaimed with a strong voice and a sense of pride. The women in the room cheered stood up out of their chairs and clapped. I was a little lost until we sat down and Tammie leaned over to explain that Pam had recently lost her husband K i m b e r l y Mu l l e n A lmost three years ago I was invited by a friend to visit a networking group in Modesto Women s Success Network. My dear friend Tammie Webb had shared with me how the group was supportive of one another the community and especially women-owned businesses. She shared with me that the members to a heart attack on the fourth day of their honeymoon and this was her first meeting back with the group. Shelton was Pam s married name and I admired her strength as she addressed the group and thanked the women and their families for their continued support love and prayers. I knew at that moment Pam s story needed to be told but I also knew it wasn t the right time to approach her. Two years later Pam and I met again at a different networking group where I was a guest speaker. I had learned previously that Pam had gotten involved with the American Heart Association and I wanted to learn more about her efforts. After the meeting I approached Pam and gently asked her if she was ready to tell her story to the readers of HERLIFE Magazine. She graciously agreed and gave me a big hug. I will never forget the first moment when I met Pam. She was a force of strength and pride and I am beyond grateful and honored to share her story of loss love and life. p h o to by st u di o m o h s o h facebook Herlife of Central Valley twitter HERlifeCali pinterest HERLIFE California 12 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE HEALTH pain relievers 101 by lis a t ar ant o b ut ler are a wide variety of pain relief choices we just need to be choosy how we medicate. Here is some basic information to help you stay on top of the pain without confusing your brain. There are two major types of over-the-counter pain relievers nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs known as NSAIDs such as aspirin Advil Motrin Aleve and other medications and acetaminophen such as Tylenol and some generic pain relievers. NSAIDs (Nonsteroidal Anti-Inflammatory Drugs) NSAIDS are primarily used to treat inflammation fever headaches arthritis menstrual cramps and mild pain. NSAIDs available over the counter include aspirin (Bayer Bufferin Excedrin ) ibuprofen (Advil Motrin IB ) I 14 n the midst of a throbbing migraine or after an excruciatingly long jog choosing a pain reliever can actually be a pain in itself. To some of us the thought of deciphering which over-the-counter pain medicine to use is daunting. What do we take for a headache What should we use for mild muscle pain What about cramps The good news is that there because it is the only NSAID that inhibits the clotting of blood. This makes it an ideal drug for helping to prevent blood clots that can cause heart attacks and strokes. Ibuprofen is often taken because it acts quickly without staying in the body too long so per dose it has a lower risk of causing stomach and kidney problems. Naproxen such as Aleve is longer acting than ibuprofen and may have fewer cardiovascular side effects than other NSAIDs. How to Use NSAIDs Take NSAIDs exactly as directed on the label or as prescribed by your doctor. Drink a full glass of water with this medication or if you are prone to stomach upset when taking medication eat food or drink milk with your dosage. Do not lie down for at least 30 minutes after ingesting. Risks of NSAIDS Although uncommon the biggest risk with NSAIDs is severe and sometimes fatal gastrointestinal bleeding. NSAIDs may also trigger an increase in stomach acid reducing the stomach s normal protective mucosal layer. NSAIDs may also increase blood pressure in patients with hypertenc o n ti n u ed o n pa ge 1 6 and naproxen (Aleve). Aspirin is a unique NSAID not only because it is a pain reliever but HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM sion. When taking NSAIDs people should be careful that their alcohol consumption does not exceed three beverages per day as this increases the chance of developing stomach ulcers. Acetaminophen The other major form of non-prescription pain medication is acetaminophen. Found in Tylenol and a variety of generic pain relievers acetaminophen works primarily in the brain to block pain messages and seems to influence the parts of the brain that help reduce fever. Used to treat conditions such as headache arthritis muscle aches backache toothaches colds and fevers acetaminophen is not as effective against pain associated with inflammation. How to Use Acetaminophen Take a product containing acetaminophen exactly as directed on the label or as prescribed by your doctor. Do not take in larger or smaller amounts or for longer than recommended. An overdose of acetaminophen can damage your liver or cause death. Risks with Acetaminophen More than 600 over-the-counter and prescription medications contain acetaminophen. Some people accidentally exceed the recommended dose when taking multiple products at the same time often without realizing they contain acetaminophen or by not reading and following the instructions. Check with your doctor or pharmacist before using any additional cold allergy pain or sleep medications. Some may contain acetaminophen and may lead to an overdose which causes liver damage if too much is ingested. Check all labels to see if a medicine contains acetaminophen or APAP as it is sometimes written on labels. Avoiding Problems with Over-the-Counter Pain Relievers As with any medication if it is taken incorrectly there can be complications. To avoid problems follow a few simple steps. Read and follow the directions. Always look for the active ingredient on the label so that you know what you are taking and how much. Children s recommended dosage of medication is different than adults. Always consult with a doctor before giving to children. Use these medications as briefly as possible. Over-thecounter pain relievers should only be used for the temporary relief of acute pain. See your doctor if pain lasts longer than ten days. Keep any OTC pain relievers and any other medicines out of the reach of children. Do not share medicines with others and use medication only for the indication prescribed. Choosing a pain reliever doesn t have to be a pain. Just do your research check with your doctor or pharmacist and take your medication responsibly. That way you can say goodbye to any anguish and hello to a little relief. HLM Information for this article was found at webmd.com rxlist.com and drugs.com. 16 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE INTEGRATIVE MEDICINE put out the fire - reduce inflammation the natural way T his month Dr. Lisa Hunt and the Valley Wellness Center staff are excited to bring another opportunity to attend an educational workshop to our HERLIFE readers. Thursday May 8 from 6 00 p.m. to 7 00 p.m. Johanna Finney will present Put Out the Fire Reduce Inflammation the Natural Way at Valley Well- destruction of the tissue. Of particular importance is the integrity and immune function of our gastrointestinal system in helping to keep inflammation under control. Learn about an innovative multidimensional approach that supports proper inflammatory control and offers a unique way of using powerful phytonutrients to promote overall gastrointestinal health. Johanna will share information about how to support a healthy inflammatory response strengthen gastrointestinal function provide key nutrients for cell replication and increase antioxidant protection. Please visit us online at drlisahunt.com or call our office at (209) 577-2799 for more information about this and other upcoming events. ness Center. Johanna a Certified Nutrition Educator and Consultant will be talking to guests all about inflammation what it is the effects it can have on your body and how to deal with it in a natural and healthy manner. Inflammation is a natural part of the body s immune response a cascade triggered to protect the body and maintain normal tissue repair. Because inflammation plays a role in so many health challenges it is essential to support and maintain a healthy cycle of inflammation to achieve optimal health. And if inflammation is prolonged it leads to a progressive Dr. Lisa Hunt Lisa J. Hunt D.O. is the Medical Director of Valley Wellness Center in Modesto whose mission is to build on every level of your health to achieve the best quality of life. She is Board certified in Family Medicine and Holistic and Integrative Medicine. She specializes in anti-aging treatment natural thyroid replacement menopause andropause therapy (including bio-identical hormone replacement) strengthening the immune system neurotransmitter analysis replacement and nutritional support guidance. 18 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 19 HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT Valley MRI and Radiology Inc. Provides Quality Service and Care support their primary care physicians and help improve the accuracy of their diagnoses. Valley MRI and Radiology is a radiologist-owned and -operated imaging facility that has served the San Joaquin and Calaveras counties for more than 25 years. Their board-certified radiologists have a long history of radiological experience in the Central Valley area which demonstrates a high level of skill in all of their professional interactions. Valley MRI and Radiology s offices provide diagnostic services that include MRI MRA (both High Field and High Field Open) high-speed CT ultrasound digital mammography fluoroscopy and X-ray. Valley MRI and Radiology s flagship Medical Imaging Center was founded in 1991 by Dr. Aubrey Federal a board certified radiologist with more than 35 years experience. In 2001 Dr. Federal and his team expanded their services to the Lodi area by opening an office in that community as an extension of their medical imaging services. Together these two American College of Radiology-accredited facilities are committed to providing the best care possible for patients a commitment that is reflected in their mission statement Our goal is to provide you with the best quality and value in diagnostic imaging services in the area for your needs now and in the future. Always striving to stay on the forefront of medical technologies that provide improved patient care Dr. Federal and his team are proud to share their newest offering in state-of-the-art modalities. Their GE Lightspeed VCT 64 Slice CT scanner may have an alarming name but it was developed with more effective treatment and patient comfort in mind. Capable of capturing images of a beating heart in five heartbeats or scanning an entire organ in one second this scanner gets the job done faster while providing improved image quality for patients and doctors. This high-tech device is designed for more effective scanning information for physicians and less procedure time for patients. The GE Lightspeed VCT 64 Slice CT scanner gives us a three-dimensional look at the body affirmed Dr. Federal. We can rotate and slice the 20 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM T wr i t t en by rebecca flans b ur g p hot o by t im howar d he beating of our hearts and the function of our internal organs are something we usually take for granted but there are times when our bodies need a little extra TLC. Valley MRI and Radiology Inc. prides itself on providing residents of the Central Valley region with outpatient diagnostic imaging services that body image like a banana to get a better look. It is our commitment at Valley MRI and Radiology to continue to initiate and invest in the most technologically advanced medical modalities and office software both allow us to make referrals to our office easier and we re able to return the information needed to best care for each patient much more quickly. Another advantageous procedure for patients who are in need of MRI care is the High Field Open MRI option. Valley MRI patients seem to appreciate the elimination of the stuffed in a tube feeling and applaud the High Field Open MRI service. This more comfortable yet just as effective method is achieved by magnets inside the machine being located on top of and below the patient bed. This new Open MRI process also allows family members to be in the room and is designed for claustrophobic or anxious patients who find the traditional MRI too confining. For babies and young children the Open MRI is a good alternative to traditional High Field MRI as well. Advanced technology and care are just two of many attributes that set Valley MRI and Radiology apart from similar facilities. With their attention to being a patient-focused imaging center the Valley MRI team is continually working to provide the very best in diagnostic imaging services in a comfortable safe and clean setting for patients. Knowing first-hand that diagnostic imaging is an important part of patient s health care Valley MRI offers the highest level of on-site board certified radiologists for a quality of care that patients can trust. Other differentiators include high quality yet affordable imaging services same day or next day appointment scheduling same day reporting of test results friendly and knowledgeable staff and two convenient locations that provide multiple scheduling options for patients. We are committed to helping our patients feel comfortable at a time when they are concerned about their health situation stated Tim Howard marketing director for Valley MRI. We have a real and genuine approach of caring for people. By letting the doctors who work with us know what is wrong with their patients in a quick and timely manner we help to get those patients on the road to feeling better as soon as possible. HLM Valley MRI and Radiology Inc. s Stockton office is located at 546 East Pine Street phone (209) 467-1000 and the Lodi office is at 801 South Ham Lane Suite Q phone (209) 366-1000. Visit the website at www.valleymri.com for more details about services and personnel. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 21 HERLIFE BEAUTY spring to the occasion by m e r ri tt re th l a ke secret that the spring season swarms with special occasions. Here s another secret that s worth spilling high heels have flat-lined this season and feminine flats have been revived. So do your outfit (and feet) a favor and find a pair of flirty pointed-toe flats to go with a mid-length skirt or dress. Pointed-toe shoes will help make your legs look longer and a lack of heels will also keep you from aerating any grass lawns you may be crossing between ceremony and reception. Plan on welcoming tea to this party tealength skirts which fall between a midi and maxi are key to a classic feminine look and have taken the runway by storm this season. Since this length of skirt or dress is less than revealing consider showing off your arms or 22 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM I t s finally time to wave goodbye to wintry ice and slip into something more fresh and fun for spring festivities. But for many people it s hard to find a free weekend to hit the stores for spring s hottest trends. It s no shoulders to balance out the look. Finding balance between trendy and timeless pieces will not only keep your look original but also keep you from wincing at wedding pictures a few years down the road. As always steer clear of wearing white and capitalize on spring trends instead Lace florals and pastels are always on the guest list. Minty greens and ladylike lavenders will give you a romantic look. If you don t want to commit to full-on floral try incorporating it into one part of your outfit. A flowered chiffon clutch for example is just enough to bring in some spring and keep you in your style comfort zone. Just because florals and pastels are springing forward doesn t mean a black dress has to fall back into your closet. If accessorizing is your MO take to an LBD for an unforgettable and classy ensemble. A springy peach and gold statement necklace will accent perfectly against black making you feel more blissful than the bride. April showers may be trickling outside but fellow wedding-goers will be inside dripping with jewelry envy. While weddings are a great place to show off your chunky necklaces or arm party it s best to leave them at home if you re attending a graduation party. With countless handshakes and hugs the last thing you ll want is your bangles getting caught on the dress zipper of an old friend--talk about a reunion. If the party is hosted outdoors feel free to go a little more casual. Rock a trendy patterned shift blouse with pastel shorts for a maximum mix of fun and sophistication. Either girly Grecian sandals or your favorite wedges are a go-to for outdoor parties and both will keep your feet happy. Pair them with a maxi dress or skirt for just the right combination of class and casualness. Your free-flowing maxi can be topped with a blouse crop top or tee to reflect your style so make it your own Looking to complete the look A denim jacket is perfect for spring weather and complements any top or bottom from an animal print to a white tee. For a funeral dress in a way that reflects the tone of the occasion. Black is not a must a neutral color is fine for a funeral but the key is keeping the outfit conservative and respectful. It s not the time to try out your fuchsia-colored pumps but a small colorful piece of jewelry can be okay. As spring weather can be iffy layers are ideal. It always seems to be either ice cold or stifling hot during a service so plan accordingly. Combine a conservative dress or skirt blouse combo with a scarf as it may also double as a more modern shawl or wrap that can cover your shoulders. Something in your black dress collection should pair nicely with a blazer or cardigan. Avoid sundresses and patterns and leave the sandals and athletic footwear at home. Instead opt for shoes that are neutral in color and keep your toes hidden. A good rule of thumb is to channel an outfit you might consider wearing to a job interview. Also remember to keep religious traditions and cultural attire in mind. Be sure to doublecheck with the family or close friends if there is a traditional or cultural piece of clothing to include (or avoid ) when paying your respects. Keep the occasion in mind and let your spring staples shine this season. Don t forget to give your outfit an extra glimmer of glam with an accent of radiant orchid Pantone s Color of the Year. Its rosy undertones complement the skin and give off a blossoming glowing look when worn at any and every occasion. HLM Sources dignitymemorial.com focusonstyle.com glamour.com InStyle Magazine January 2014 issue marieclaire.co.uk pantone.com stelladot.com teenvogue.com washingtonpost.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 23 HERLIFE BEHIND THE MUSIC Nina Hajian Behind the Music w ri tte n by re b e c c a f l a n sb u rg p h o to s by b ri g g s ph o t o gr a phy h a i r a n d m a ke u p by m e l i ssa b oye s sh o t o n l o c a ti o n a t be a t n i k s t u di o s because I wanted to learn how to get my songs played on the radio and learn the music business Nina offered. That internship turned into the greatest thing that has ever happened to me because within six months I was on the air. I was at the right place at the right time and was willing to learn. I worked countless hours and basically lived at the radio station. I even kept a toothbrush in my locker That change in professional direction also led to an unexpected move to Sacramento three years ago. A Washington native Nina spent the first ten years of her professional career working for a Seattle radio station. I finally decided I wanted my own morning show with my name in the title she revealed. So I began putting all my energy into making that happen and it did Sacramento program director Chad Rufer gave me a shot and paired me with my co-host for the Todd and Nina Morning Show. We are on the air weekdays from 5 30 to 10 00 tress all-around Sweetheart simply has a knack for engaging people both on the air and off. Being a 13-year veteran of radio was not something that was originally in Nina s plans. Determined to break into show biz and nurture her desire to perform she graduated from high school and began immediately writing her own songs performing and spending all her time in the recording studio. I also went to college to get BA in communications from the University of Washington Nina stated. During that time I got an internship at radio station worked two other jobs and even put in the time to become a personal trainer. I took on a full load of clients to train while still working at the radio station just to pay my rent. It was grueling but a girl s gotta do what she s gotta do. Landing a job as a radio station intern was not just a fluke or a way to pay the bills in those early days. I got an internship in radio 24 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM O a.m. and I love every second of it. nce upon a time I thought I was going to be a pop star. For anyone who knows Nina Hajian the bubbly outgoing radio personality for NOW 100.5 FM radio s Todd and Nina Morning Show the declaration is not surprising. This self-described Radio TV Host Pop Culture Princess AcDespite the success of her radio career Nina s thoughts soon turned to television. Television was something else I knew I wanted to do admitted Nina. Mark S. Allen and Amy Carabba from Good Day Sacramento really mentored me and taught me how to put in the work to make that happen. I want to give them a huge thank you for their time and also to Brent Baader for taking a chance on me. Now besides my radio work at NOW 100.5 FM I also work for Good Day Sacramento on the weekends as a feature reporter. I m so lucky to do what I love Being a visible personality on both radio and television has provided Nina with countless opportunities. Through her work in radio she has been invited to walk the red carpet and interview celebrities at the GRAMMY awards in 2007 the 2013 Golden Globe awards and other events like Teen Choice Awards and even American Idol . The moment I realized that anything really is possible was the first time I went to the GRAMMYs Nina shared with a smile. Amazing opportunities like that just reinforce my belief that anything is possible. I firmly believe in a person s will over circumstance and I am living proof of that. As I walked that red carpet I watched people in gorgeous gowns drink beer out of plastic cups and found myself breathing the same air as people like Stevie Wonder. Interviewing artists is a rush for me because I get so excited about the fact that they re real people who had the courage to chase their dreams. I know that could be me one day. After experiencing all of these unique opportunities Nina felt more committed than ever to give back to her community. Wanting to share the special feeling she herself had while walking the red carpet she teamed up with employer and program director Chad Rufer and the idea of the NOW That s A Dress event was conceived. I was initially talking about my dress from the Golden Globes on the show and what we could do with it Nina noted. Then I got a call from a teacher who suggested we donate the dress since prom season wasn t far off. The more I thought about it the more I loved the idea. How special would it be to be able to give a young girl the opportunity to wear a dress that was on the red carpet at the Golden Globes Soon the event expanded to include all types of dresses from formal to daytime casual and even wedding dresses. The event just completed its second year on March 26 and was held at the Hyatt Regency. The beauty of this event is what woman doesn t have at least one dress in her closet that she doesn t wear anymore Nina offered. This little idea turned into a huge event and women from all over donated their dresses. Local businesses volunteered to be dropoff sites and even donated dry cleaning services so each dress could be sold for only ten dollars. We wanted to give everyone the opportunity to feel beautiful. Proceeds from NOW That s A Dress are donated to WEAVE Women Escaping A Violent Environment a local Sacramento nonprofit that helps women transition and recover from domestic violence. This special event not only helped many girls get dresses that they otherwise would not have been able to afford it was also an opportunity to help out WEAVE Nina reflected. The people at WEAVE are amazing and I want to do everything I can to support them. This event has been a huge success and I am thrilled to be able to keep doing it. In light of all of her professional and personal accomplishments Nina credits having a strong family and support system as a key ingredient in that success. My family is everything to me she confirmed. The relationship I share with my parents is unique how close I am to my mom is pretty special. My dad is from Tehran Iran and is your typical overprotective Persian father. My grandfather sent my dad to HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 25 the United States to have a better life when he was young and ever since the moment he set foot in this country he has worked very hard to provide for his family. His work ethic was instilled in me from a very young age and I really think he s the reason I am the way I am today. Despite her strong work ethic Nina shares that she still likes to relax and have fun. During her off-air hours she can be found enjoying new music and live music opportunities with friends those experiences become topics for her morning radio show. The absolute best part of my job is that I get to hang out share music talk about the things I find interesting and just be myself she admitted. I m an open book and there s not much I won t share on the air. If I got wasted and fell down the night before I ll tell you. If I got rejected by a super-hot guy with tattoos I ll tell you. But when it comes to my friends and family I will respect their privacy...to a point she added with a laugh and a wink. The I want to be a pop star dream that Nina had as a child has evolved into something deeper and more intentional in her adult years and her love of communication and people has sent her a new path with new dreams. My goal is to touch as many people s lives as I can in a positive way Nina revealed. I always joke that I want to be a cross between Oprah and Ryan Seacrest but the reality is that I want to take this ride as far as I can. I want to create things and help other people along the way. I don t have specifics because I don t know yet. I ve always had a plan but now that plan has become more of a rough draft that is open to changes as I go. HLM 26 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE COSMETIC SURGERY JOSEPH R. BURLIN MD American Board of Plastic Surgery Stanford Trained More than 25 Years of Experience The Facial Profile Largely Determined by the Nose and Chin Nancy is a 27-year-old bookkeeper who is shy. She has difficulty in meeting people and is always the quiet one of the group. When she met new people she often felt uncomfortable because she was certain that they were staring at the prominent hump on her nose even if they were not. Her large nose completely distorted her self-image and made it difficult to be comfortable around others. Following rhinoplasty (nose rejuvenation) surgery she became much more confident outgoing and happy with herself. There is no doubt that the nose is a key facial feature. A nose that is in harmony with the face blends in and goes unnoticed. A nose in disharmony draws attention and can often be a cause for embarrassment poor self esteem and social withdrawal. Fortunately there is a surgery that can reshape the appearance of the nose. This surgery typically addresses the areas of greatest concern for patients reducing the hump on the top of the nose narrowing or straightening the nasal bones and refining and elevating the tip of the nose. If the nostrils are large or wide they can also be proportionately reduced. The surgery is typically performed on an outpatient basis under general anesthesia (patient is completely asleep for the surgery). The surgery typically takes about one and one-half hours to perform and is usually not painful. Recovery is complete in about two weeks. Following surgery the patient will wear a light protective splint over the nose for about ten days. herself from the side she realized that moving her chin forward would balance her face and bring her profile into harmony. She underwent a chin augmentation procedure and remains pleased with the proportions of both her nose and chin. Chin augmentation surgery typically involves the placement of a soft silicone implant against the chin bone (mentum) thus lifting and enhancing the shape of the chin. The incision to place the implant is most commonly made under the chin. The chin implants come in a wide variety of sizes and shapes. It is the responsibility of the surgeon to pick the one that will most blend with and flatter your face. This surgery can be done either with local anesthesia (shot of numbing medicine) or under general anesthesia (you are asleep for the entire time). The silicone material used in the chin implants is both very safe and natural feeling. There is minimal swelling. The procedure takes about 45 minutes to perform. Recovery is rapid. Matt is a 45-year-old landscaper who had his nose broken 20 years ago while playing basketball. Ever since then he has been unable to adequately breathe through his nose which makes it hard for him to sleep at night and enjoy sports. There is a vertical cartilage plate (septum) that divides the inside nose into independent right and left tunnels. If this cartilage plate is straight breathing is excellent. If the cartilage septal plate is bent or twisted it then interferes with airflow through the nose. This is referred to as a deviated septum. When the cartilage plate is surgically corrected (septoplasty) patients are usually able to breathe far better than before. HLM Kay is a 33-year-old social worker who always thought her nose was too large for her face. She ultimately saw a plastic surgeon who suggested to her that the problem was actually a weak chin. When she studied photos of If you have questions or would like to hear about a certain topic relating to cosmetic surgery or skin care please email your questions to Kimberly herlifemagazine.com 28 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE INSPIRATIONS PAM SHELTON Love Loss and Triumph w ri tte n by re b e c c a f l a n sb u rg p h o to gra p hy by d e e ya te s ph o t o gr a phy hair by melanie s im as of p er fec t b alan c e sa l o n & d ay sp a m a ke u p by l y n d say l o e b s o f p e rf e c t b a l a n c e sa l o n & day s pa for m alwear p r ov id ed by t he elizab e th b ri d a l sh o t o n l o c a ti o n a t tr u c ke e a n d d o n n e r p a ss se t a ssi st a n t l i z kr a m e r spent 15 years working as a sales administration manager for a large food manufacturer. When she found her job becoming the same-old-same-old she yearned for a change which came soon afterward in the form of a promising career as a State Farm agent. I love my job Pam shared. I love that I can help people better their lives and protect what they love. My agency is soup to nuts and we offer everything from auto home and life coverage to retirement plans. Taking a more holistic approach to her W ho knew that when Pam Shelton a State Farm agent in Modesto turned the key in the lock of her new business in September 2006 it would change her life in more ways than one A former member of corporate America Pam had business and clientele Pam has watched her business bloom since that first day in 2006. As fate would have it her new business also presented her with another gift. Jerry and I had met at local jazz events in the past. But I got to know him better when I inherited him as a client when I opened my State Farm office back in 2006 Pam revealed. We had the opportunity to really get to know each other at a jazz planning event and I discovered what an amazing guy he was. When he called and asked me out I had butterflies I was like a giddy teenager on a first date We were kindred spirits from the beginning. Both very active and athletic Pam and Jerry were avid hikers and cyclists along with their fondness for jazz and local jazz events. Soon the 30 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 31 two were inseparable. We started dating in 2008 and we were married June 26 2011 Pam affirmed. Our wedding day was perfect. It was the most beautiful day you could imagine and we couldn t have scripted it better. Pam and Jerry honeymooned in Truckee near Donner Lake and the first few days of their wedded bliss were spent doing what they loved best hiking and cycling around the Tahoe and Donner Lake area. But four days in their fairy tale took a dramatic turn for the worse. I remember getting up that morning with a bad feeling Pam revealed. We had planned on cycling Donner Pass which is a grueling task. It s three miles up to the summit and then thirteen miles down the other side. I was nervous but Jerry kept reassuring me by saying You ll be fine honey. Trust me. Being reassured by Jerry Pam agreed to the cycling challenge a decision that would change her life forever. We got to the top of Donner Pass and I was ready to go back Pam said. But Jerry wanted to press on. He was in amazing physical condition so I knew he could do it but I couldn t shake the bad feeling. Finally I conceded and we began our descent down the other side of the mountain. It was a beautiful and leisurely ride. Jerry teased me for feeding the squirrels and ants during our stop for a picnic lunch. He kept telling me how happy he was. I took the opportunity to take a photo of him by the river and it ended up being the last picture I ever took of him. Signs of trouble began when the couple started the long thirteen-mile climb back up the mountain. About three-quarters of the way up Jerry who always rode ahead of her had come to a stop. At the time I didn t know the signs of a heart attack Pam revealed quietly. I know now but back then I didn t. Jerry was sweating profusely from every pore of his body and his skin was ashen. He commented to me that he had hit the wall. Thinking he was just tired the couple rested briefly and soon Jerry said he was ready to go again. He said Okay let s go. I love you Pam added. He leaned over kissed me and we started riding again. 32 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Ten minutes later Pam saw her husband stop stand up on his bike and then fall to the ground. I vaguely remember leaping off my bike and diving to the ground where he was Pam said. Lucky for us there was a car stopped just ahead of us tourists taking pictures. I yelled for them to call 911 as I started to do CPR on Jerry. Within minutes a Sheriff s officer Brandon Corchero was on the scene assisting me. I remember screaming at him Don t stop Whatever you do don t stop Within 15 minutes Life Flight arrived and took over. Pam distinctly remembers a flight nurse a woman with curly brown hair leaning over and telling her that Jerry was gone. I went from newlywed to widow in four days Pam noted. In that Pam has also used her story as an opportunity to teach others. The American Heart Association called me in November 2011 to ask if I would chair the 2012 Stanislaus County Heart Walk. I couldn t say yes fast enough Pam affirmed. I knew I had a voice and that I had a message to share. moment I couldn t talk I couldn t walk. The shock was debilitating. California Highway Patrol officer Scot Loetscher stepped in took Pam under his wing and helped to get her back to the lodge where she and Jerry had been staying. I remember him telling me later that he heard me say I was just married but he realized that meant Just Married when he pulled into the lodge s parking lot and saw those words written on our truck Pam remembered. The minutes and hours that followed were a blur and Pam remembers fondly how incredible her children were. My kids Megan and TJ showed up and our roles were reversed. They were suddenly the ones who had to be the responsible adults taking care of their mother who was a distraught mess. My son-in-law Daron had to literally carry me out to the car to take me home. I am so proud of the strength and love my children showed that day. I can never express the depths of my gratitude thanks and pride for how they were that day. The days and months that followed were painful and filled with grief for the young widow. Friends and family surrounded her with support and tried to help her navigate the new path of a life that was no longer the same. My team at my State Farm agency is amazing Pam confirmed. They are like extended family to me. After Jerry died Sharon Murillo and Bryon Chapman took over and kept my ship afloat even though I felt like sinking. Even her beloved bicycle the item that had brought her so much joy in the past now brought little solace. At first Pam reported. I was buried in grief. I couldn t imagine living much less riding my bike again. I instructed my daughter to sell my bike so I would never have to see the reminder of that horrific day again. Her daughter refused. As time passed the veil of grief began to lift and Pam felt herself getting stronger. The bicycle I loathed suddenly became my salvation she shared. I rode my bike and I rode it hard. As I rode I could feel Jerry with me I could almost feel his arms around me. I could have curled up and succumbed to grief but fighting back was my choice and riding my bike was how I found the strength to fight. Since that fateful day Pam admits she looks at life and business in an entirely new light. The business has changed because I have changed Pam assured. I look at people differently. I take the time to ask the right questions and really listen to the answers. I don t focus on the products in my business but instead focus on how my knowledge can help others. Pam has also used her story as an opportunity to teach others. The American Heart Association called me in November 2011 to ask if I would chair the 2012 Stanislaus County Heart Walk. I couldn t say yes fast enough Pam affirmed. I knew I had a voice and that I had a message to share. I wanted to share my story and wake people up. I wanted to shout from the mountaintops and tell people to take care of themselves go to the doctor and stop putting good health off for another day. In 2012 Pam took her fundraising efforts back to Donner Pass by organizing a memorial ride to honor Jerry and his zest for life and to raise awareness about the silent dangers of heart disease. It was her mission to celebrate Jerry s life raise awareness about heart disease raise funds to purchase a defibrillator for the lodge in Truckee where the pair had honeymooned and to celebrate with friends and family. In 2013 Pam s focus shifted to the Go Red For Women campaign and she is co-chair of the upcoming May 9th Go Red For Women Luncheon in Modesto. Go Red is the American Heart Association s national campaign to increase awareness of heart disease the leading cause of death for women and to inspire women and men to take charge of their heart health. There were days I felt myself falling into grief Pam advised. But in those moments I knew that if I let myself get sucked into the darkness I wouldn t feel life s joy. So I specifically look for the joy in life and that joy can be as simple as the warmth from the sun. Joy is what burns out the pain. Jerry s tragedy is not what made me broken it is what has made me whole. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 33 L di Living 34 34 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 35 35 HERLIFE CRAVINGS Bueno Italiano Sharing Food & a Family s Legacy wri t t e n by adriana brogger p hot os by b r e b as zler W hen Sara Coldani Randall got married to her husband Richard of 29 years her mom Barbara bought her a freezer. Barbara bought the freezer because Sara couldn t cook. Barbara ended up making frozen dinners for the newlyweds for an entire year for them. I can t tell you how many times the food was critiqued by my mother. Well Sara figured it out. Now she s cooking her family recipes for all the Bueno Italiano customers alongside her daughter Heather Randall. Let s start with the minestrone soup probably the best minestrone soup ever. But what do I know about great minestrone soup Don t take my word for it. A more convincing endorsement is that of older Italian farmers who flock to Bueno Italiano for soup that tastes just like mama made it. Sara described old-school soup connoisseurs who would come in with hesitation not expecting much only to leave as faithful believers. The soup is thick and hearty served in a mug with a spoon. Every spoonful has big chunks of hand-cut vegetables grown right in Sara s garden. It s perfectly seasoned and so good you ll beg for the recipe but you can t have it. This one comes from Barbara. Next we had the tuna melt albacore tuna mixed with olive oil mayo dried onion and parmesan cheese all piled onto thick slices of bread. Then it s broiled until toasty brown and bubbly. (The olive oil is another family tie--it s Calivirgin Olive Oil from the Coldani family ranch in Lodi.) This dreamy sandwich is served open-faced topped with healthy slices of avocado and tomato accompanied by a wonderful orange and spinach salad one of the many delicious side dish options.. We also tried the tri-tip salad composed of tri-tip and fresh garden veggies. Delish And the homemade salad dressings They are so so good. I tasted a couple of them on our visit all are great but do yourself a favor and try Sara s homemade red Italian. The spaghetti is made in the tradition of northern Italy featuring a brown sauce instead of a red one. It is a tasty authentic Italian dish no visit to Italy needed The spaghetti is served with salad choice and foccacia To say things have changed is an understatement. Sara is now the When my dad became ill I started to cook for my parents. I was never taught to cook my mom thought I was too messy in the kitchen. I really didn t learn to cook until I was almost thirty Sara laughed. Barbara Coldani was always cooking. When Sara was growing up hers was the house everyone came to. We always had parties at our house. It was always about the food it s a passion. As my parents became older I was the one who cooked head chef and owner of her own restaurant Bueno Italiano Caf in Lodi. 36 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM wanted to get something that could be shared. A young family at a nearby table overheard and paid the bill. Their little boy even crebread homemade daily. Heather is the chief baker. She cooks too but Sara asserted Heather has the chemistry her pies are great. The pie recipe comes from Sara s in-laws who owned apple orchards and sold fresh apple pies in the 50s. Since Grandma and Grandpa Coldani owned a restaurant in Lodi during the same decade Heather is a natural third-generation culinary whiz. Her pies are very popular during the holidays and for special occasions they re made from a family recipe and the fruits come from the family orchards. There s more to Sara than a love for cooking and family. I cooked turkeys for people who couldn t cook their own turkeys. I came in on Thanksgiving and Christmas Day. It s safe to say that she likes to lend a helping hand. So do her customers. One day an elderly couple came in. The pair didn t have a lot of money and were concerned about the cost so they One of the Central Valley s leading proponents of all things multimedia Adriana Brogger has worked as a reporter blogger producer host emcee writer and actress performer in local media for more than ten years. She teaches Multimedia Production at San Joaquin Delta College and loves it Born in the year of the monkey Adriana has a clever wit and a magnetic personality. Seriously though she enjoys good comedy spending time with her hubby and four cute boys and of course great food. If you know of a local restaurant that would welcome a visit by Adriana HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 37 please contact Kimberly Mullen at Kimberly herlifemagazine.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 37 ated note to be delivered to the elderly couple instead of their bill that read I hope you have a nice day Sara shared Things like that happen every so often and it s rewarding to see that others care. It s like a really big family here. Bueno Italiano Caf is located in the Bella Terra Plaza on the second floor and offers great rooftop dining it s accessible by elevators at both ends of the building. The heated patio and fountain must be divine on a cool evening. I loved the charming feel of the garden patio. The indoor decor is just as nice with family photos on the walls and a cozy fireplace to add to the ambience. Bueno Italiano also offers a beer and wine menu an espresso bar catering and more. Call them to plan your next event HLM Bueno Italiano Caf is located at 1110 W. Kettleman Lane Suite 9 in Lodi. Find them on Facebook or call at 209-369-1446. HERLIFE CULINARY know your knives by p a tty c o o k W 38 hen friends talk about their latest kitchen purchases it is often an electronic gadget that generates discussion such as steamers juicers and coffeemakers. But it s rare for conversation to turn to the most-often-used cooking tool kitchen knives. at the function of various knives and materials. Most kitchen knives today are made of stainless steel but before stainless steel was common knives were made with carbon steel blades. These knives are still being made and deserve consideration. A carbon steel knife blade is harder than stainless steel holds a sharp edge much longer and is easier to sharpen than a stainless steel blade. But they are affected by acidic and salty foods and can rust pit and stain if not properly cleaned and dried. Carbon steel blades are also reactive and can impart an off-putting metallic flavor to foods such as fish. Stainless steel knives are more resistant to the effects of corrosion over time. These knives combine steel with other metals to make them rust resistant and durable. Chromium is the most common metal used in stainless steel as it prevents rusting. Other metals added to make blades harder and tougher are molybdenum vanadium manganese cobalt and nickel. Ceramic knives hold their sharpness for a very long period of time Many couples receive knife sets as wedding gifts with name-brand culinary knife sets costing 200 or more. These sets are less costly than purchasing individual knives and typically consist of one or more cook s knives (or chef s knives) with six- eight- or ten-inch blades paring knives a boning knife a bread knife a sharpening steel and perhaps a set of steak knives. But even the nicest knife set may not provide you with the right size knife and you may end up with knives you will never use. A home cook develops a sense of what feels best in their hand and puts together a knife collection over time often from a variety of manufacturers. The best way to select knives is to consider your cooking style and what material you prefer in a blade before going shopping. Let s take a look HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM A bread knife with its long narrow blade and serrated edge will easily slice through the thick crust of artisanal loaves of bread without mashing the bread itself. A knife with a serrated edge mimics a saw and these knives work best when used with a sawing motion. and are 50 percent harder than steel. They are much lighter than steel knives which makes them a good choice for cooks who spend a lot of time in repetitive tasks such as chopping slicing or dicing vegetables and fruits. However ceramic blades require special care. If you drop or knock one against hard surfaces such as counters or sinks you may chip the tip or the blade. Ceramic knives are not meant to twist or flex so look for a steel blade instead when carving bone-in meats or smashing cloves of garlic with the flat side of the blade. The three essential knives are a cook s knife paring knife and bread knife. A cook s knife that is used for chopping and slicing may have a six- or eight-inch blade while a ten-inch blade provides more leverage for disjointing a chicken. A paring knife with a classic spear point is the go-to knife for coring and peeling fruits and vegetables or slicing and dicing small items like shallots and garlic cloves. Serrated paring knives are perfect for the home bar as they make quick work of slicing limes and lemons and the serrated edge remains sharp for a longer period of time than a straight blade. A bread knife with its long narrow blade and serrated edge will easily slice through the thick crust of artisanal loaves of bread without mashing the bread itself. A knife with a serrated edge mimics a saw and these knives work best when used with a sawing motion. Bread knives are also great for thin-sliced tomatoes and other soft-skinned large fruits and vegetables. As you add knives to your collection remember the rule of thumb for the function of knives is the thinner the blade the thinner the slice. A heavy thick-bladed cleaver is useful when you need to whack a thick-rinded squash or large cuts of bone-in meat. A good boning knife has a thin flexible blade and is ideal for boning poultry and fish. A cook s knife can certainly be used to carve meat but the longer thinner carving knife yields thin slices of large roasted or grilled meats and poultry. Treat knives well by using a wood or plastic cutting board and never put a good knife in the dishwasher. Hand wash knives immediately after use dry them with a soft clean towel and store them in a block or on a magnet rack to preserve the blade. If you are not experienced in using a sharpening steel or stone have knives professionally sharpened every three to six months. Whether you use three essential knives or a 12-piece set proper use and care will ensure their service for a lifetime. HLM Sources realsimple.com Knives Cooks Love Sur La Table and Sarah Jay 2008. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 39 HERLIFE RECIPES creamy goat cheese pasta with lemon and spinach Serves 2 Prep time 10 minutes Cook time 10 minutes ingredients pound thin spaghetti 3 ounces crumbled goat cheese cup fresh parsley chopped Juice and zest from one medium lemon 4 cups baby spinach cup pine nuts Salt and pepper directions Bring a large pot of salted water to boil cook pasta according to package directions al dente about 7 minutes. About 2 minutes before the pasta is done remove 1 cup of the water. In a medium saucepan over medium heat stir 1 2 cup of the pasta water and goat cheese together until the cheese is dissolved. Add in the parsley lemon juice and zest. Stir in the spinach until just wilted. Add in the pasta adding more water if necessary to create a light creamy sauce. Season with salt and pepper. Serve in bowls and sprinkle the pine nuts on top.. HLM recipes and p hot ogr ap hy by ver y c ulinar y.c om 40 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM slow cooker corned beef and cabbage Serves 4 Prep time 15 minutes Cook time 10 hours on low ingredients 4 cups water 2 Tablespoons sugar 2 bay leaves 3 pound corned beef brisket with spice packet 5 yellow potatoes washed and cut into halves or quarters depending on the size 1 sweet onion peeled and cut into quarters 2 cups mini carrots head of cabbage cut into 4 segments leaving a piece of core intact Butter directions In a 6 quart crock pot combine the water sugar and bay leaves. Place corned beef fat side up in the water mixture along with the contents of the spice packet. Scatter the potatoes onions and carrots along the sides and top. Cover and cook on low for 8 hours. Remove lid and scatter the cabbage wedges over the top. Put lid back on and continue cooking for another 1 hours. recipes and p hot ogr ap hy by ver y c ulinar y.c om Thinly slice the corned beef against the grain and serve with the vegetables some of the cooking liquid and butter. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 41 HERLIFE FOODIES foodies Woodbridge Crossing Juice It Up EAT GATHER SHARE We pride ourselves on being the best at all we do... Lunch dinner brunch special events cocktails and your location for live music every Friday and Saturday evening. Your second home 18939 N. Lower Sacramento Rd Woodbridge (209) 366-1800 woodbridgecrossing.net We are more than just your local smoothie shop. We now offer a full variety of fresh fruits and vegetables that we juice. You can order from the menu or customize any drink to your liking. We hope to see you soon and happy juicing 2533 W. Kettleman Ln Lodi (209) 333-5227 facebook.com juiceituplodi La Strada 88 Italian-born chef Attilio Siena prepares Italian-inspired dishes made daily with fresh seasonal ingredients purchased locally or grown in-house. From fresh pasta to our famous brick-oven pizzas to fresh fish to prime rib served on weekends We strongly suggest reservations on weekends but are open 7 days a week from 11am-10pm. Book our full banquet facility for your special event 18938 E. Hwy 88 Clements (209) 603-9451 facebook.com pages La-Strada-88 156268141197656 Thai Spices Chef Bun Khotakoon has long been captivated by the many ways to combine sweet and fiery spices to bring together flavors that mingle and enchant each other. Pair the traditional and monthly special menu items with a fabulous local wine or ice cold Thai beer to create a fascinating culinary experience. 2401 W Turner Rd. Ste. 224 Lodi (209) 369-8424 thaispiceslodi.com Whirlow s Whirlow s Tossed and Grilled specializes in build-it-yourself tossed salads cafeteria style or choose from excellent sandwiches burgers and full plate dinners. Don t forget to make us your first call for catering carry out and private parties for the holidays 1926 Pacific Ave Stockton (On the Miracle Mile) (209) 466-2823 whirlows.com Papapavlo s Dine in one of our 5 private banquet rooms or choose our open dining room full service bar or all season patio dining while enjoying our Continental cuisine. 501 N. Lincoln Center Stockton (209) 477-6133 papapavlos.com 42 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Macaronage Macarons For the newbies French Macarons are almond-based cookies sandwiching a concoction of filling flavors. They are light and airy on the inside and a little crunchy on the outside Macaronage Macarons make the perfect dessert table highlight at birthdays weddings and other special occasions. A box of these goodies also make the perfect gift Open Weds-Sat 10am-7pm and Sunday 11am-6pm. 7610 Pacific Ave Suite B6 Stockton (209) 955-0857 facebook.com macaronagebygrace DeVega Bros. Catering for large or small events Semi-private Banquet for all occasions Patio Seating Happy Hour daily from 3pm-6pm 5757 Pacific Ave Stockton (209) 323-4339 515 N Main St Manteca (209) 823-0947 devegabrothers.com Rolling Scones Bakery and Teahouse Come join the revolution at Rolling Scones Bakery and Teahouse. Featuring not your average Quiche Richards homemade soups along with some bloody good scones Also serving salads coffee and espresso drinks and hand pies All baked daily for you using fresh seasonal ingredients 322 N. California St Lodi (209) 747-3418 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 43 HERLIFE BEHIND THE MENU Bun Khotakoon of Thai Spices p h o to by b re b a sz l e r T he Central Valley is well known for many things excellent agriculture beautiful weather the ever-growing popularity as wine country but home to one of the best Thai res- taurants around Not the claim to fame that immediately springs to mind. Bun Khotakoon is sure to change your mind after you ve stopped at her home-away-from-home Thai Spices in Lodi. She invites you to visit Thai Spices and be transported to the tastes aromas and hospitality of Thailand. Thai Spices may be a little off the beaten path in Lodi but it is well worth the drive to enjoy delicious authentic Thai cuisine. Owner and head chef Bun Khotakoon has been serving up her favorite flavorful foods to the Central Valley since 2007. Here she has found the perfect way to blend her passion for Thai cooking and healthy fresh ingredients. Using local fresh produce and ingredients Bun creates beautiful flavor-packed dishes guaranteed to tickle the taste buds of even the most discerning Thai food connoisseur. Choose from traditional regular menu items or branch out and try something 44 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM O w ne r a n d h e a d c hef Bun K hotakoon has be e n s er v i n g u p h e r f avorite f lavorf ul f ood s to th e C entr a l Va lley s inc e 2007. H ere she has fo u n d the p e r f e c t w ay to b lend her p assion f or Th a i cook in g a n d h e a lthy f resh ingred ients. besides your usual with one of the many monthly special dishes. Bun incorporates delicious well-known Thai tastes such as lemongrass ginger galangal coconut and Thai chili bringing each dish to life with layers of complex flavors. Bun is even happy to tailor each dish to each customer altering the spiciness as requested by each Thai Spices patron. If you re looking to branch out and expand your culinary horizons or simply searching for your new favorite Thai restaurant look no further than your own backyard Lodi s Thai Spices and Chef Bun Khotakoon will have deliver culinary perfection via an array of the some of the best Thai dishes the Central Valley has to offer. HLM Please visit Thai Spices at 2401 W. Turner Rd Suite 224 in Lodi call them at (209) 369-8424 or find them online at thaispiceslodi.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 45 HERLIFE TRAVEL food festivals by hop e e. fer g us on F ood festivals are as old as humankind. Our ancestors gathered around the table as a way to acknowledge the bounty of the harvest and to give thanks to a deity or deities. Today food festivals are multiplying like mushrooms. In fact there s even a Telluride Mushroom Festival in Colorado on August 14-17 2014. world. Walk-around tastings on the beach intimate dinners educational seminars and late-night parties provide variety. New events are featured each year. Hilton Head Island Wine and Food Festival Tastings of award-winning wines wine pairings with authentic low country fare and coastal cuisine and an international wine competition of more than 850 international wines take place against the backdrop of the classic American beach town. The festival culminates in the largest tented public outdoor wine tasting event on the East Coast with wine representatives from domestic and international vineyards on hand to share their expertise. Apr s Ski Cocktail Classic This event invites you to raise your glass and celebrate the best in apr s-ski culture with everything from hot toddies to mountaintop parties seminars fireside chats a Grand Tasting Village and the Great Apr s Ski Pub Crawl. A Taste of St. Augustine Festival With cuisine influenced by the diverse cultures Timucuan Spanish French British African Minorcan Seminole and Swiss that have melded during the coast s 450-year history this has grown to be the city s premier outdoor food festival serving up exciting tastes from more than 20 of St. Augustine s famous restaurants and all-day music. Proceeds benefit EPIC Community Services Inc. Festivals are sprouting up due to a number of converging trends the slow artisanal and local food movements emphasizing food that has been prepared carefully in small batches using fresh and environmentally friendly ingredients as well as the promotion of agri-tourism. Food festivals whether as large as Taste of Chicago which draws millions or small such as the cheese tour in Washington County New York are becoming so prolific that there is even a backlash against them. The New York Post ran a story about why folks are fed up with food festivals citing long lines and insufficient or expensive food and drink. One thing is certain food festivals are here to stay. Here s a sampling of the diverse festivals across the U.S. during the year. Many feature seminars music art and celebrities. All occur annually and are listed chronologically please check their websites for the current year s dates. Forks & Corks Sarasota Florida This epicurean extravaganza created by a group of restaurateurs promotes the independent culinary scene in the area. Held on the grounds of the John and Mable Ringling Museum of Art Forks & Corks unites food wine and beer enthusiasts with regional chefs and more than 60 vintners from around the world culminating with The Grand Tasting. Food Network South Beach Wine & Food Festival This fun festival features more than 70 events and 250 chefs winemakers spirits producers and culinary personalities from all over the 46 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Food & Wine Classic Aspen The Classic brings the Food & Wine brand to life with three unparalc o n ti n u e d o n pa ge 4 8 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 47 leled days of cooking demonstrations wine seminars panel discussions tasting events and the famed Grand Tasting Pavilion all set at 8 000 feet in majestic Aspen Colorado. Maine Lobster Festival Love lobster This event offers 20 000 pounds of lobster in nine tents the world s greatest lobster cooker a sea goddess parade entertainment craftspeople U.S. Navy ship tours amateur cooking contests and more. Crave Lexington Drawing 10 000 foodies the festival debuted last year promising everything from scratch. Local vendors offered delights from locally sourced seafood to artisanal ice cream. This year promises a chef competition cooking demos cooking science demos and music all on several festival stages. Loaf N Jug Chile & Frijoles Festival Pueblo s annual harvest celebration showcases the town s most loved crop green chilies particularly the mirasol and frijoles. The event also features music cooking competitions and arts and crafts. Mountain Harvest Festival During this celebration of locally grown and produced agricultural prod- ucts across Delta County Paonia Colorado attendees can participate in a grape stomp chili cook-off pie contest farmer s market farm and wine tour and live music. Parade of Nations Houghton Michigan In a town where the only ethnic food is Chinese the Multicultural Festival highlights the heritages of nearly 60 nations represented in the student body of Michigan Technological University. They cook their native dishes and serve them to the community in a festival that also features singing and dancing of many nations. Louisiana Seafood Festival This free festival at City Park debuted in 2006 as the New Orleans Seafood Festival and features all Louisiana seafood from the best restaurants in New Orleans. With such a diverse community it truly becomes a melting pot of people and personalities which take on a life of their own at an event with no inhibitions said organizer Tony Abadie. With such a diversity of festivals foodies will have no trouble finding one to satisfy their tastes HLM Sources apresskicocktailclassic.com cravelexington.com foodandwine.com hiltonheadwineandfood.com mainelobsterfestival.com mountainharvestfestival.com mtu.edu nypost.com pueblochilefestivalinfo.com sobefest.com staugustine.com technorati.com telegraph.co.uk visitsarasota.org Wikipedia.org 48 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE TRENDSETTER Violet Muse 2600 fair oaks blvd sacramento www.violetmuse.com (916) 481-6873 photographed by dario leventini of f3 studios photographers assisted by shawna briggs models emily ose & kelly krause stylist karri grant hair provided by missy o daniel of allure salon makeup provided by jasmine cardenas shot on location at sweet jean photography studio 50 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 52 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE FINANCE financial crisis by l a u ra l e i va solving your D ebt is one of the leading factors of stress in life and the amount of money you owe has a great impact on your future. Mistakes made early in life such as missing a few car payments or racking up thousands in credit card debt can follow you for years and affect whether you can buy a house send card with the highest interest is best while it does make sense to get rid of it as soon as possible there is an effective method to minimize your debt--the snowball plan. This method touted by financial guru Dave Ramsey works by paying minimum payments on all of your credit cards except the one with the smallest balance. While making the minimum payments you can put most of your effort into paying off the smallest balance quicker and check it off your list of open accounts. Once you knock that card out of the way take the amount you were paying with the smallest credit card and add it to the minimum payment of the second smallest credit card building a snowball until you can effectively direct all of your attention to the largest balance. Why start with the smallest credit card balance if the minimum payment isn t that high Even though a smaller balance is easier to manage by placing all of your attention on one card and paying it off you can keep track of your milestones. Not only do you eradicate debt with each card but your efforts make a difference that you can see Otherwise trying to pay a high balance while staying on top of minimum payments can dilute your efforts plus it s not very motivating. Maintaining debt for a long period can sometimes be just as harmful to a credit history even if you pay the minimum monthly amount. Other factors have an impact on your score such as your debt-to-credit ratio. If your credit cards are at the limit they are likely having a negative effect on your credit history this provides another reason to pay balances off quickly and c o n ti n u ed o n pa ge 5 8 children off to college or even save for retirement. Understanding your financial position is the first step toward solving any debt crisis and moving in the direction of fiscal freedom. One important tool in determining where you stand financially and where you need to improve is the credit report. Experian TransUnion and Equifax are the three reporting agencies required by federal law to provide one free report annually to a consumer. The credit score can be obtained for a fee. You can also obtain credit monitoring through numerous websites be sure to read the fine print on the order form as some credit reporting websites require a credit or debit card number to sign up for the complimentary trial period. The credit report contains pertinent information such as the credit score (if purchased) and details about open or closed accounts. A credit history and score have an impact on your ability to obtain credit cards and the interest rates you ll pay or the interest rate for a mortgage when you buy your first home. When you re ready to put debt behind you permanently there are a few options from which to choose that will help you tackle debt and make progress in your payments. Consumers often think that paying the credit 56 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM effectively. Tackling your financial situation takes time and patience after all you likely didn t accumulate it all within a few short weeks so it s important to remember that getting out of debt is more like a marathon than a sprint to the finish. Budgeting is one essential habit to develop as soon as possible as it will help you stay on top of minimum payments and allow you to make aggressive payments to the card you re focusing on at the moment. Creating a budget and following it for even a month will show all the ways in which your money is spent and it allows you to get a clear picture of where you spend more than you should such as dollars expended on dining out or that frequent cup of gourmet coffee. When you see where your money is going it will be much easier to make significant changes to your financial habits. When it comes to debt and feeling swamped by credit card bills you are not alone. In fact countless households spend more money than they make which is why credit card spending and debt has grown exponentially over the last few decades. Resolve to get control over your monthly spending by creating a budget organizing your finances and starting a debt snowball. Use budgeting programs on your computer or mobile phone to keep it front and center in your daily routine. Once you have your debt paid off you will experience a financial freedom that positively influences other areas of your life. HLM Sources annualcreditreport.com DaveRamsey.com MSN Money CNN Money. 58 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 59 HERLIFE WORKING WOMEN nontraditional careers by re b e k k a sc h l i c h ti n g six women and 29 men selected by NASA (from 8 000 applicants) in 1978 in its expansion of the astronaut corps. It was tougher for a woman but the reason was really the surrounding culture at the time the culture at NASA...and also the culture in the country...Of roughly 4 000 technical employees at the Johnson Space Center I think there were only four women so that gives you a sense of how male the culture was. When we arrived we more than doubled the number of women with PhDs at the center. An occupation employing less than 25 percent of men or women is considered nontraditional. Such jobs for women run the gamut from engineers computer repairers building inspectors machinists and truck drivers to construction occupations computer programmers and pilots. In America 4.8 percent of firefighters are women and 24.8 percent of architects are women. Women have clearly made inroads in some careers previously considered nontraditional. In January 2013 the American Bar Association noted that 33 percent of legal professionals were women. Thirty-four percent of physicians and surgeons were women in 2012 per Bureau of Labor Statistics. Still a wide range of nontraditional choices exists for women in 2014. 60 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM W hat do an architect mechanical engineer and HVAC technician all have in common If they re female they re part of the changing role of women in the workplace the United States Department of Labor says. Dr. Sally Ride the first woman in space was one of Skill sets required for these areas parallel those used in careers such as event planning nursing and personal care. For instance nurses and civil engineers both must have a deep knowledge of science and math sound judgment and decision-making skills as well as the ability to actively listen and communicate clearly and to monitor and maintain equipment. Construction managers and event planners share critical thinking time management social perception operational and systems analysis and time and material resources management skills. Common skill sets for firefighters and personal care aides include active listening critical thinking negotiation coordination and physical strength and resource management. But a shared skill set is not a cure-all for the challenges brought on by change. Stereotypes will always exist. A female mentor might be harder to find however professional associations such as Society of Women Engineers IEEE Women in Engineering and those in other disciplines provide support and connection to women in many fields. Women and men have different communication styles it s important for women to arm themselves with skills required to communicate well with the diversity of the global workforce think strong interpersonal skills including body language a firm handshake and assertiveness. Cheryl Sandberg COO of Facebook calls this leaning in and taking your seat at the table. Smart CEOs know that women possess the skills described here and more that make their companies successful and profitable. Implementation of family friendly policies recognition of accomplishments increased compensation and a defined ca- reer ladder lead Many STEM careers fall within the Department of Labor s classification of nontraditional paths. Key skills for these career choices include Analytical skills research a topic develop a project plan and timeline draw conclusions from research results. Science skills break down a complex scientific system into smaller parts recognize cause and effect relationships defend opinions using facts. Mathematical skills calculations and measurements. Attention to detail follow a blueprint record data accurately write instructions. Technical skills troubleshoot the source of a problem repair a machine debug an operating system. Communication and cooperation skills listen to customer needs interact with project partners. Creative abilities solve problems develop new ideas and solutions. to retention of the women in whom they have invested training time and dollars. Entrepreneurship combined with education and professional expertise is another vehicle for the ambitious woman seeking selfdetermination work life balance and pay equity. Inc. com notes that In recent years women entrepreneurs have been moving rapidly into manufacturing construction and other industrial fields. Jan Hohn award-winning ceramic tile installer and owner of Hohn and Hohn Inc. of St. Paul Minnesota shares I established my business 20 years ago as the result of a DIY project and a contractor s comment that You do tile work better than most of the guys out there. When my children were small I had the flexibility of setting my own hours and my clients understood. In many areas I m self-taught but I ve gained skills industry knowledge and mentoring from our international professional association. My skills in sales communication problem solving paying attention to detail and creating solutions for clients have all been valuable to my business. I encourage women to identify their skills support and encourage each other and not hesitate to pursue a career in a nontraditional field. Nontraditional careers are wide open to women in all phases of their lives. For women armed with education and focus as was Sally Ride the sky s really the limit. HLM Sources achievement.org dol.gov swe.org forbes.com inc.com iseek.org careers and nawbo.org. Read the full transcript of Dr. Sally Ride s 2006 interview with the Academy of Achievement at achievement.org. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 61 HERLIFE COMMUNITY SPOTLIGHT Russ Munson is energized to make a difference in San Joaquin County Roses he s a local business owner running for San Joaquin County Supervisor District 4 in the June election. I believe our region deserves to have local leaders who are accountable and will work aggressively to get things done Munson said. I am a businessman who understands how to solve problems not a career politician. For the last 15 years Russ and his wife of 45 years Kathryn have worked to build Wine & Roses into a successful business that employs 220 people. Early on in this endeavor of Visit Lodi. R uss Munson is known as the driving force behind Lodi s Wine & Roses Hotel Restaurant Spa. He now wants to use his 30 years of business experience to be a driving force that creates a better future for San Joaquin County. As the managing general partner for Wine & he made a commitment to the Wine Grape Commission to build a Visitor s Center that would showcase local growers and wineries. And now Wine & Roses and the Visitor s Center is a flagship for the region. Raised in Lodi Russ attended local schools and graduated from San Jose State with a degree in Business Administration. Russ also served as an A-7 Naval Aviator on the aircraft carriers USS Roosevelt and USS America. Even with these experiences he chose Lodi as his home and has been actively engaged as a community volunteer ever since. Russ and his wife have two children and five grandchildren. He has served as a board member and chairman of the Lodi Chamber of Commerce and is a former board member 62 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Most notable of all of his accomplishments however Russ is most proud to highlight our regional commodities whether it is wine or food to showcase all that San Joaquin has to offer. I am proud of my role in San Joaquin County s agriculture tourism industry building a business that has helped shape our region as an agriculture tourism destination he added. And while Russ believes that San Joaquin County is an amazing place he sees a lot of challenges and opportunities ahead. In building a local business I know the issues impacting our region he said. I want to champion policies that create jobs strengthen public safety protect agriculture and preserve our water supply. I have a record of getting things done and I hope to use my 30 years of business experience to move San Joaquin County forward. It s that business know-how and commitment to San Joaquin County that encouraged other community members to support his campaign. I am proud to support Russ Munson for San Joaquin County Supervisor said John Ledbetter agricultural leader and owner of Vino Farms Inc. As a local business owner Russ has dealt with the challenges we face in running a business in San Joaquin County. We need a local leader with the business know-how to help our region thrive and Russ is the right candidate for the job. Russ notes that he is up for the challenge. We have to stay ahead to move our district forward and I know that with my experience and passion that I can make a real difference he added. HLM Approved by Russ Munson and the committee to elect him. Donated by Kimstry LLC. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 63 HERLIFE MOTHER S PERSPECTIVE and intense interests in particular objects or actions. Symptoms of ASD are present from an early age and they cause varied degrees of impairment in the individual s functioning especially within social academic and occupational contexts. Impairments in intellectual and language abilities might or might not be present. As you might guess individuals with ASD vary widely in terms of their skills areas of difficulty courses of development and prognoses. Thus it truly is considered a spectrum of disorders. This means that it can sometimes be a challenge to diagnose. Increasingly children at younger ages are being identified as early as 15 to 18 months. Some concerning early features include non-responsiveness to one s name little eye contact and lack of interest in toys and or people. Nevertheless the average age at which children in the U.S. are diagnosed is approximately four years when it can be done with more certainty. A great deal of research is dedicated to better understanding how and why ASD occurs for individuals. At this time a complete association between any particular factor and ASD has not been identified. There is a high heritability rate or greater prevalence within families. It seems the causes for the symptoms are much more complex however and likely to include a number of factors given the wide variations of symptoms. It s expected that more will be known in the near future as ASD is becoming increasingly common. The increase in diagnosis is likely due to the broadened diagnos- autism awareness by heat her nob le p hd American children has a disorder within the autism spectrum. It is highly likely that if you do not know someone who is impacted you will soon. ASD is often misunderstood. People think of a child who rocks back and forth or a savant like the character in the movie Rain Man. While such individuals could have a disorder fitting within the spectrum the definition is much broader. It includes difficulty with social communication and interaction. An individual with ASD struggles to engage with others and effectively share thoughts and feelings through verbal and nonverbal means. Body language is difficult for the person to understand and to use. Additionally an individual with ASD is known to have restricted and repetitive patterns of behaviors interests or activities. This might mean repetition of movements repeating words excessive adherence to routines or fixated 64 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM tic label that includes spectrum improved diagnostic instruments and increased awareness by treating professionals and parents among many contributing factors. Because ASD is more prevalent and children are identified at a younger age effective treatments are heavily researched. Behavioral treatments are proven to effect positive change. Such interventions involve several repetitive learning trials in which instructions are consistently presented and rewards are reliably provided when the desired response or skill is demonstrated. Rewards might include a favorite food praise or permission to Does the blue puzzle piece mean anything to you It s the symbol created by Autism Speaks to spread autism awareness. If your family has recently received an autism diagnosis autismspeaks.org can provide a 100-Day Awareness Kit with important facts and answers about autism spectrum disorder. It includes tips for the extended family early intervention and education rights information on therapies and treatments resources and safety tips. Families whose children have been diagnosed in the last 6 months may request a complimentary hard copy of the 100 Day Kit or the AS HFA Tool Kit by calling 888-AUTISM2 (888-288-4762) and speaking with an Autism Response Team Coordinator. The kit may also be downloaded from autismspeaks.org. AUTISM SPEAKS It s Time to Listen A pril is the designated month for raising awareness about Autism Spectrum Disorder or ASD. Within families and in social circles many of us already know someone with an autism spectrum disorder which includes Asperger s Disorder. A report by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention stated that 1 in 88 engage in a fun activity. There can be limitations to this treatment since the real world environment is less likely to provide such consistent and structured instructions with corresponding rewards. Therefore a variation of behavioral therapy can be used that is less structured and considered more naturalistic. The aim of this therapy is to be inherently fun and enjoyable so the child wants to participate. Often directed by the child and considered play-based children are prompted and encouraged to engage in more natural adult-child interactions that mirror what might be encountered in everyday settings. Social engagement through verbal and nonverbal means is increased along with opportunities for playing and imitating adults. If you know a child with ASD one of the most powerful things you can do to help is to be informed. Know how the child is uniquely impacted including struggles and areas of strength. Learn about treatment options including their objective evidence for being truly effective. Some wonderful organizations with members who have personal connections to ASD can assist you with a wealth of knowledge and tools for how best to be an advocate. For example Autism Speaks was founded by grandparents of a child with autism and The Autism Society was founded by a number of parents of children with autism. Both work to raise awareness of issues related to ASD advocate for the needs of individuals impacted and provide information on current research including the latest developments in treatment. Though we don t know everything about ASD research is increasingly shedding light on it. Take the opportunity to raise your awareness. HLM For more information apa.org autism-society.org autismspeaks.org nimh.nih.gov. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 65 HERLIFE REAL ESTATE buying or renting own place O by ga i l si l ve rste i n Speaking of finances there are occasions when we forget to pay our rent on time. It s rarely reported when you re simply late on a rent payment but unpaid rent can hurt your credit score if you move without paying (which shows up as a collection account) or if you are evicted. A collection debt on your credit report will directly affect your ability to qualify for a mortgage because mortgage companies view your commitment to making all expected payments as a good prediction of how you ll handle mortgage payments. This is not the case with home ownership. Paying past the grace period one too many times can wreck your credit score you can even lose your home if you fall behind on paying the mortgage. If the joys of going to Home Depot on the weekends are not so joyous to you then renting might be the way to go at least until you can afford to pay a handyman to do maintenance paint jobs and repairs. When you rent you don t need to worry about fixing broken appliances repairing the roof and other costly additions. In fact someone else (such as a landlord or rental agency) handles all repairs and replacements. Sometimes you can even rent a place already furnished which saves you more money not to mention time spent in finding the right furniture. Flexibility is another factor in the choice to rent. Renting can be short or long term. Month-to-month and other options are also available. This can be ideal if you just moved to an area and want to become better acquainted before you buy or if you are having a home built and need temporary housing. wning a piece of the proverbial American Dream is a value in which many of us grew up steadfastly believing. But in today s marketplace with an unsteady economy and employment insecurity is the dream of home ownership a viable reality Are there times when you should rent rather than own your Purchasing a home is usually a long-term commitment. If you or your spouse has a job that requires you to relocate often renting may be the perfect solution. That s one of the several benefits to renting besides the large financial commitment that home ownership entails. If you rent you don t need to put down a tremendous amount of money so your money s free to use for other investment opportunities (think IRAs and mutual funds). This is especially prudent advice for young new college graduates or others who aren t too sure where they want to settle. That adage about throwing away money when renting might not apply to everyone. If money is tight and you are concerned about wiping out your savings to use as a down payment renting is a practical way out of increasing debt. Remember Home buyers also pay closing costs real estate agent fees homeowner s insurance premiums property taxes and sometimes refinancing costs according to Anand Chokkavelu CFA editorial director of The Motley Fool. Despite this sobering fact he makes the case for home ownership in an online article. 66 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM The flip side of renting is that you can t reap the tax benefits of home ownership or enjoy the freedom of painting the walls fuchsia without permission. With the housing market on the upswing many homeowners are enjoying real estate profits when they sell and as a renter you won t share in these proceeds. More importantly when renting a home even though you have a short-term lease you may be asked to move out at any time if the owner wants to move back in or sell. If visions of paint swatches and carpet samples permeate your dreams home ownership might be beckoning you. When you buy a house or condo it s yours to do with as you please. Repairs can be made the way you want when you want and decorating is your dream. If stability and security are the cornerstones of your psyche then homeownership might be the right road to travel. No other investment can give you the financial leverage that owning your own property does. Even though you may put only a small percentage down you still receive the full value of the appreciation if the home value increases. Home ownership also provides tax benefits and the financial power to borrow against the property should an emergency arise. Don t overlook the emotional factors that come into play. That sense of pride in obtaining the goal of buying can be a powerful motivator in itself. Some of us also dream of passing down our homestead to our children. Others find worth in belonging to a community. Only you can really have the final word on whether renting or buying fits your lifestyle. HLM Sources experian.com realtor.com and fool.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 67 HERLIFE HOME fertilizing facts L by m a ri l y n i sa m i n ge r report with recommendations for required soil amendments. Know Your Numbers The pH Scale Acidity or alkalinity is measured on the pH scale which goes from 0 (pure acid lemon juice is pH 2.2) to 14 (lye bleach is pH 13). Slightly acid soil about pH 6.5 is best for most plants although a few like rhododendrons need pH 4-5.5 to survive. Acids are produced as organic matter decays so most garden soils that have been amended become more acidic over time. To increase the alkalinity of the soil finely ground limestone may be worked in during the fall. Learn Your Letters N-P-K Seventeen elements are necessary for plant growth. Carbon hydrogen and oxygen are found in air and water. The macronutrients nitrogen phosphorus potassium magnesium calcium and sulfur are absorbed from the soil and are used by the plant in relatively large amounts. Plants use micronutrients the remaining eight trace elements in minute quantities usually without soil depletion. The nutrients most critical to plant growth and thus most likely to be quickly depleted in the soil are nitrogen (N) phosphorus (P) and potassium (K). The label of each bag of fertilizer shows at least three numbers which ush landscapes don t occur accidentally. If you garden you re nodding your head in agreement. If you re developing your black thumb here s some basic information to start you in the right direction. The Skinny on Soil Soil whether supporting turf grass ornamental plantings or containers is a complex mixture of diverse ingredients containing all the nutrients that support life. Its texture may be sand silt or clay loam is the good soil that s a mixture of all three and encourages the organic activity that makes most nutrients available to roots. It s the gardener s gold standard but from time to time it still needs to be amended with fertilizers humus and other additions to correct pH levels for plantings. Soil testing sets your green standard and reveals the soil s properties and deficiencies. All states maintain cooperative extension offices that can direct you to the appropriate agency or lab to have your soil sample analyzed. Collect samples from several similar areas to a depth of six to eight inches and place in a clean plastic container use stainless steel or chrome-plated tools to avoid contaminating the sample with other metals. Submit to the appropriate agency or lab and in turn you will receive a 68 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM disclose the NPK ratio and indicate what proportion of each macronutrient by weight is in the fertilizer. For example a 100-pound bag with a 10-10-10 NPK ratio contains 10 pounds of nitrate (nitrogen) 10 pounds of phosphate 10 pounds of potash (containing potassium) and 70 pounds of filler which makes the fertilizer easier to spread. If your soil test reveals deficiencies use a formulation tailored to the needs of the soil or the plants you are growing. Nitrogen stimulates production of chlorophyll promoting healthy leaf growth. Plants need phosphorus for vigorous development of roots stems blossoms and fruits potassium helps plants digest and manufacture their foods. Timing is Key If you have planted trees and shrubs in the fall giving them time to establish their root systems wait until spring to fertilize. If you re planting in the spring wait six to eight weeks to fertilize. Application of a slow release fertilizer around the perimeter of the planting hole will be adequate since newly installed plants are under stress and shouldn t be pushed to grow too quickly. For established plantings use new growth as a guide to determine fertilizer needs. Fertilizer normally isn t needed if new shoots grow more than six inches in one season. Two to six inches of growth indicate that fertilizer is optional. However smaller than normal leaf size poorly colored leaves or leaf drops are symptoms that the plants are hungry for what their soil is not providing. c ont inued on p a ge 70 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 69 Lawns should be fertilized in the spring when the soil temperature reaches 55 degrees Fahrenheit. In most of the U.S. the first feeding should take place about mid-April. Feed again about four weeks later and then every six to eight weeks through October. Putting It All Out There Granular fertilizers deliver nutrients slowly but have the advantage of consistency. Broadcast application can be done with a hand-rotary or a drop spreader. Top dressing is appropriate for beds and containers and can be done by hand or with garden tools. Foliar feeding takes advantage of the large leaf surfaces of trees and shrubs plants can absorb nutrients up to 20 times more efficiently through their leaf surfaces than through their root systems. Spraying liquid nutrients can produce great results spray during critical growth stages such as during transplantation blooming time and immediately after fruit sets. Just remember--as with humans more food is not always better for your plants or lawn. The proper amounts of the correct nutrients applied at the appropriate times will give you a gorgeous landscape that s the envy of the neighborhood HLM Sources bhg.com ces.ncsu.edu csrees.usda.gov finegardening.com gardeners.com popularmechanics.com Reader s Digest Illustrated Guide to Gardening (1978). 70 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT Fun Fashion and Friends The Perfect Pear of Lodi wr it t en by r eb ec c a fl a n sb u rg p h o to s by j u l i e n i c o l e p h o to gra p hy I f fun and fashion had an address it would be located on South School Street. The Perfect Pear a fresh little retreat for those who love to embellish themselves in pretty accessories fashionable handbags and casual chic jewelry is calling their new and charming Downtown Lodi address home. Our business is unique in so many ways shared owner Brenda Vec- customer s creative mindset. Chamilia charms and jewelry inspire creative self-expression romantic sentiment family motifs hobby and sport symbols or an array of other themes to personalize jewelry and tell a story. The Chamilia line also includes charms themed beads Swarovski crystals and Disney -licensed beads. Brenda and Chuck took their business brick and mortar in 2010 with a location at the Lakewood Mall in Lodi using the opportunity to expand their line to include handbags jewelry and accessories with a goal to provide fabulous prices in a fun and feminine atmosphere paired with top-notch customer service. The name and logo for The Perfect Pear were created as a play on words like the perfect pair of earrings or the pairing of handbags with outfits Brenda revealed. I also wanted a recognizable and catchy icon on our logo not unlike the apple in the Apple trademark and I feel our little green pear logo does just that. In 2013 Brenda and The Perfect Pear made the move to a larger retail space that afforded her business not only the benefits of visibility and chiarelli. But one way is the fact that we actually have two separate client bases. We have our storefront customer who visits and shops our physical location and then there s the customer who buys our Chamilia bead products online. Either way I m able to meet and do business with amazing people every day and I love that. It was the Vecchiarelli s online business that evolved into what is now The Perfect Pear. Brenda shared that she and her husband Chuck started their online business back in 2002 and focused mainly on the high-quality Chamilia bead line. This beautiful interchangeable jewelry includes an assortment of beads bracelets necklaces earrings and locks to inspire 72 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM location by being in the downtown Lodi area but also the ability to share the space with good friend Julie Wooldridge of Julie Nicole Photography. We are so excited about being part of the activities events and culture of the Downtown Lodi area Brenda offered. We are firm believers in the fact that our downtown is the heart of our community and we should all work to keep that area vibrant and alive. Dedicated to setting themselves apart from the competition and becoming a destination for Central Valley residents Brenda and her team have a mission of offering their customers the best selection of their favorite lotions bags scarves cellphone covers head wraps jewelry and accessories all at fabulous prices in a fun atmosphere. We have something for every budget and every age at our new store affirmed Brenda. Not only do we have affordable options like our earrings for around 12 we also have amazing handbags that are high quality yet don t break the bank. Our Big Buddha handbags from the Steve Madden line are affordable enough for my female shoppers to justify buying new bags seasonally. Our Lollia line of lotions perfumes and candles are a huge seller along with our cross jewelry. As a wife business owner and mother of three Brenda admits that sometimes the work life balancing act is a struggle. But she finds and her clientele agree that her shop is a fun sanctuary from the everyday worries of life. We like to keep the atmosphere light and happy here as well Brenda added. I have a staff of three amazing women and they help us set The Perfect Pear apart from similar businesses. It s not hard to find a place to buy jewelry every big box store has some so we work to set ourselves apart by giving people a vast selection of fashionable and hip items displayed in a classy way and allow customers to choose what they like with no pressure. A self-described driven entrepreneur Brenda prides herself on her tenacity and ability to find a solution when the going gets tough. I m a do-er she admitted. But I think that s what makes a successful business owner. Yes there are always bumps in the road but we always figure out a way around the bumps and keep powering forward. Committed to always growing and being the best she can be for her family staff and customers Brenda had these words of wisdom to share. When it comes to business sometimes the thing you think won t be a good fit turns out to be exactly what you needed. The Perfect Pear is proof of that Always keep your eyes and mind open to the possibility of any opportunity that comes your way. HLM Find The Perfect Pear at 14A South School Street in Lodi (209) 3688248 and find their online products at theperfectpeardesigns.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 73 HERLIFE GREEN LIVING creating a beautiful rain garden by m a ri l y n i sa m i n ge r S pring is here the time to put into action the plans you made during the dreary winter months to beautify your garden and improve your landscape. Designing and creating a beautiful rain garden will accomplish both goals and begin your spring fitness program to boot about 40 square feet. For an area with loamy soil use 30 to 35 percent as the factor and for clay use 45 to 50 percent. If you are unsure of what type soil you have a soil test done through your state s Cooperative Extension Office can confirm this. If the test reveals sandy soil you may need to amend the soil with water-absorbing compost and topsoil. Lay the Garden Out The garden should be approximately half as wide as it is long with the long side perpendicular to the slope of the drainage area or facing upslope. Determine the depth of the garden which depends on the slope of the ground. Optimal depth is between four and eight inches. Define the area with a string or paint keeping in mind that curved slightly irregular shapes are visually pleasing. To ensure that the base remains as level as possible put stakes every five feet on the uphill side and corresponding stakes on the downhill side. Tie level strings between each one to act as guides to maintain correct depth through the area. Measure from the string to the ground to maintain a level base. Dig and Fill Sharpen your shovel and get to work If the garden is on a steep incline you ll need to dig out more at the upper level of the garden. Working in sections use the soil you remove to build a berm around three sides of the area leaving open the side into which the water will flow. Continue digging and filling using a tiller if needed to make the work easier. Add compost and other amendments as needed. The berm itself should be rounded on both sides and compacted well to prevent erosion. Design Your Garden Here s the fun part Plant selections should lean toward native spe- In today s urban and suburban neighborhoods rainwater gushes off roofs through downspouts across sidewalks and pavement frequently carrying with it fertilizers and pesticides from lawns. This water may be diverted into storm drains which channel it into our streams rivers or bays. A rain garden can create a natural filter that will protect the environment from storm water runoff provide valuable habitat for birds butterflies and insects and potentially help your landscape survive the next inevitable drought. Here are a few steps to get your project started. Choose Your Location Experts advise placing the garden at least ten feet away from your home to divert water from the foundation. Don t situate it over a septic field. Avoid areas where water already pools as this indicates a lack of natural filtration the goal is to encourage infiltration. A sunny flat spot away from tree roots will make digging much easier. It s also crucial to call 811 the national hotline for location of underground utilities to verify that your selected site can be safely excavated. Confirm Drainage Area and Soil Type Measure the area that will drain water into your garden. This includes roof area pavement or other areas of the yard that will drain into the rain garden. Multiply this area by the guideline percentages for the type of soil that you have. For example if you have sandy soil which will collect water from 200 square feet use a 20 percent factor your rain garden should be 74 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM cies perennials and even include drought-tolerant plants. In general the garden should contain three zones in concentric rings that correspond to the plants tolerance for standing water. The center section should contain plants that like wet feet as the water will linger longer here. In the next ring place plants that can tolerate occasional standing water. The outermost ring is best for plants that prefer drier climates. Plant in drifts and multiples of three for overall impact. Small evergreen shrubs have good root systems for soaking up water and will provide longer seasonal interest especially blooming shrubs. It s better to use established plants rather than planting from seed and worrying about the seeds washing away. Your local garden shop or Extension Office experts can advise about the best selections for your USDA zone and soil conditions. Polish It Off Encourage grass growth at the upper portion of the rain garden to slow water entering the garden. Plant grass or ground cover on the berm to help keep it in place and then apply a layer of protective mulch to keep weeds down. Heavier mulches such as pine straw or wood chips also will stay in place in the event of heavier rainfall before the plant roots become established. Now you can pour a cold beverage relax and enjoy the results of your efforts HLM Sources are bhg.com clean-water.uwex.edu pubs raingardennetwork.com and thisoldhouse.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 75 HERLIFE SHE SAID YES w ri tte n by m a ri l y n i s a m i n ge r p h o to gra p hy by d e e ya te s ph o t o gr a phy During spring 2011 Christian and I along with our sisters joined a TRX fitness class at a studio in Lodi. We had no idea that we were beginning a life-changing relationship. As the class progressed Christian and I formed a friendly (or not so) competition that created a bond between us. We joked and laughed in class but never moved past friends. The class ended and so did what Christian hoped would be a chance at something more until I sent him a text asking where he and his sister were working out. This might have been a ploy...I took his response as my chance to suggest that we grab a beer to catch up and he went for it. The night we were to meet Christian s nerves kicked in and he nearly backed out. Luckily his friend Jeff talked some sense into him. When we met it became apparent to him that I was as nervous as he was. But after some liquid courage we were chatting and laughing away. We had an amazing night and we re still together Christian describes his proposal on May 25 2103. Alana had a graduation ceremony to attend that morning and I took the time she was gone to ask her mom for her hand in marriage. Although I didn t have a doubt that she would give me permission it was still a nerve-wracking experience. Nina said yes and was very happy for us. Now I knew my time 76 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM F itness and family brought Alana Ghilotti and Christian Weisz together and will be the bonds that hold them together forever. Alana begins their story. Alana Christian & was limited because she was holding a huge secret and those Ghilotti women love to talk. After the graduation we went to her grandparents orchard to pick cherries for my grandma. Alana wanted to go home and change from her dress and high heels but I suggested that she remain as she was promising I d do all the work. At the orchard we started picking cherries my plan was to propose immediately but my nerves kicked in before I could. After tree upon tree box upon box of cherries Alana said Enough One more tree Make it a good one It was my last chance so I went for it. Her back was turned to me (and she was complaining) needless to say it wasn t as I had planned. But words started coming out of my mouth. She turned around and I dropped to one knee. I proposed and she was shocked. There was a long period of silence and then she did say Yes Alana and Christian learned early in their relationship that they shared similar values and wanted many of the same things in life. We have maintained balance and transitioned with ease in bringing our separate lives together. Each of us is better with the other and we know there will be adversity which we haven t been able to work through and overcome Alana smiles. Christian adds Our relationship is about the life we are building together and the memories we have made and will continue to make. We both are dedicated to putting our relationship first and making the other person happy. Alana and Christian will marry on May 31 2014 at Morris Chapel University of the Pacific. The reception will be at the home of Christian s aunt and uncle in Acampo. We both have large families and amazing friends and we re looking forward to having everyone together to share the day and celebrate with us HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 77 HERLIFE TRENDSETTER shoot concept styling and flora provided by annie zunino of az floral design photographed by NEWVINTAGE Photography by Jen models mia rogan madeline baysinger and casey vink clothing provided by bliss bridal salon jewelry provided by e.m.pedrini hair and makeup provided by jessica van ruiten 78 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM NANTUCKET A classic way to mix the popular color scheme of navy and pink with a twist. Nautical details give a nod to the Central Valley that is surrounded by yacht clubs and waterways. Adirondack chairs natural teak wood and blue and white stripes. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 79 80 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM WHIMSICAL For the couple that likes to have fun and has multiple hobbies. Artistic and eclectic details that are funky and personal Bright colors 3 balloons and handmade swag. 82 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 83 HERLIFE TIE THE KNOT businesses that shared in the love bridal gown mira s bridal couture Jackie & Chad tied the knot on September 14 2013 wr it t en by mar ily n is am inger p ho to gra p hy by b ri g g s p h o to gra p hy bridesmaid s gowns mira s bridal couture groom s and groomsmen s suits formal connection hair styling rachelle graham sassy salon photography briggs photography florist country flower hutch dj elite entertainment caterer fagundes meats and catering cake my sweet spot venue union hill inn J 84 ackie Ringler Kite 30 grew up in Manteca California and attended Manteca High School graduating in 2001. Jackie describes herself as the queen of DIY projects Chad Kite 33 grew up in Virginia and Christian Hestness captain of Bella on the Bay. This was special Chad took me sailing with Christian as a birthday gift the year before and it was one of my favorite dates. I knew I would need Dramamine to make it through the sailing trip so we stopped into my dad s work to buy it. Little did I know this was part of the master plan Chad wanted to ask my dad s permission to marry me. We chatted with my dad for a while then were off to buy what we needed. Chad said he forgot his sunglasses in my dad s office and that he would meet me on the sales floor--just a little white lie so he could talk to my dad. Of course my dad said yes During our sail Christian suggested we look at the sea otters at the front of the boat. I became discouraged that couldn t find any until I saw Chad is serving in the U.S. Army. Chad and Jackie live in Clarksville Tennessee. Jackie shares Chad and I met through my friend from high school Justin Nielsen. While Justin and Chad served together in the Army they became good friends. After Justin got out of the Army Chad would visit Justin on the weekends and we became the three amigos. After eight months of friendship we started to date. Chad proposed during a trip to Monterey. Jackie smiles On the way he said we were going sailing with HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM down on one knee. I was shocked and without thinking I yelled out Shut up covered my face with my hands and nodded my head up and down. I still can t recall if I actually said yes out loud. We went to Domenico s on the Wharf to celebrate part of his well-thought-out plan since that s where we had our first date and the day he proposed was the date of our first kiss. It can t get much sweeter than that The blissful couple tied the knot on September 14 2013. Jackie s older sister Taunya Hernandez served as Maid of Honor bridesmaids were Vanessa Pearson Jenny Sanchez and Annette Green with Emily Sisneroz Jackie s younger sister as junior bridesmaid. Kevin Kite Chad s older brother was Best Man groomsmen were the bride s brothers Chris Ringler Alexander Sisneroz and Evan Sisneroz. The couple s dear friend Justin Nielsen was the officiant. Jackie and Chad wanted the wedding to reflect who they are combined with a little Southern charm. She notes We used vintage tins HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 85 that I discovered while cleaning out Chad s late granddad s garage. It was important to me to represent the family and friends who passed in our wedding. The colors represented my grandmother who loved pink roses and my grandfather who liked yellow roses. On my bouquet I placed my best friend s dolphin ring and had the comfort of her being with me. We wanted everything to be fun from the ceremony that our friend Justin wrote for us to my walking down the aisle to I Wanna Grow Old With You by Adam Sandler. For special details I hand crafted the invitations burned names into hangers hand-embroidered letters on handkerchiefs for my dad mom mother-in-law and flower girl found mix-and-match vintage napkins for guests to use and created 150 Mason jar wine glasses as take-home gifts. Chad shares Our honeymoon was very last minute We finally booked a trip to Hawaii two days before the wedding HLM 86 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE SCENE AND BE SEEN Voil Grand Re-Opening information about Voil please find them on Facebook by searching Voil Gifts and Home D cor or visit them at 24 W. Locust St in downtown Lodi. HLM p hot ogra p hy by h e r l i f e sta f f V oil hosted its Grand Re-Opening Wednesday February 19 at their new location 24 West Locust Street in downtown Lodi. Guests were treated to delicious hors d oeuvres cupcakes and local wine and champagne. All those in attendance were encouraged to shop all of Voil s new spring home decorating inventory fortune cookies with discounts inside were given away to assist eager shoppers. For more 88 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 89 HERLIFE BOOK CLUB girl three by tracy march rev iew by lind a r. p r ic e from her sister and father federal Judge Ryan Croft who has made all the plans for Sam s funeral. Nevertheless Jessica drives to Washington to visit her college friend Nina Daniels and attend her sister s service. Nina works in the toxicology department of the medical examiner s office. She tells Jessica she did the lab report on Sam and found Rohypnol in Sam s system. Even though the autopsy confirmed Sam s death as caused by a congenital heart defect the coroner ignored Nina s findings of the date rape drug and presence of semen. The medical examiner submitted a sanitized version of the toxicology report leaving Nina suspicious of the circumstances surrounding Sam s death. Jessica assumes her father knew of the report and had it suppressed. She is determined to confront him and find out why. Former Secret Service agent Michael Gillette works for Judge Croft on private projects one of which was Sam. Croft hired Michael to keep him informed of Sam s activities after Sam refused a job her father arranged with Senator Thomas Talbot. Sam died while Michael was attending the funeral of his father and he too is surprised that the seemingly healthy Sam died. As soon as Jessica arrives in Washington Croft offers Michael an90 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM B ioethicist Jessica Croft is being vetted by White House envoy Mr. Bishop for a nomination to the Presidential Commission for the Study of Bioethical Issues. During Jessica s meeting with Bishop he receives a phone call telling him that her sister Samantha (Sam) has died unexpectedly. Jessica is estranged other contract. He is to keep Croft informed of Jessica s stay in Washington and to protect her from any harm. Since Michael became attached to Sam Croft warns him to avoid any emotional or physical relationship with Jessica. Croft has been recommending Michael for security jobs in the D.C. area and could easily blackball him so Michael signs the contract even though he feels angry and cornered. Jessica is puzzled that her father has selected a private service in the desolate Congressional Cemetery. After the service Jessica is alone with her father for the first time in many years. Ryan Croft shoves a thick envelope of papers at Jessica and asks her to settle her sister s estate. Jessica refuses but her father insists. Jessica ignores her resentment and decides to go ahead with her promise to Nina to investigate Sam s death. No sooner than she returns to the inn where she is staying an envelope arrives for Jessica. It contains a picture of Senator Elizabeth Briel Counselor Philippe Lesort Samantha Croft Dr. Ian Alden and Helena Alden with a banner reading Embryonic Stem Cell Research Our Present to Our Future in the background. Puzzled Jessica studies the photograph wondering who sent it how they found out where she was staying and why they sent it. Jessica decides to begin her investigation by visiting each person in the picture. That same night Jessica invites Nina to meet her at Sam s townhouse. They are shocked at how expensive the townhouse looks and the exclusive neighborhood in which it is located. Knowing that Sam had a well-paying job but no other sources of income they both wonder how she could afford a place that cost in the millions. Hoping to find answers about Sam s death Jessica moves into Sam s townhouse the following day. During the development of the story Jessica teams up with Michael. She discovers that her sister was active in the Hope Campaign or embryonic stem cell research to which her father was vehemently opposed. As they try to unravel the mysterious life Sam was leading and the significance of the enigmatic Girl Three one event leads to another. The more she discovers the more serious the threats on Jessica s life become. Tracy March based Girl Three on her work in the pharmaceutical industry as well as her interest in science and politics. As Jessica investigates the circumstances surrounding her sister s death March mixes the nuances of bioethics morality and greed in a fast-paced novel that glosses over the issues and does not overwhelm the reader with ethical discussions. March shares her knowledge of D.C. and brings to life lesser-known sites in the capital city. Jessica stays at the Embassy Circle Guest House Michael takes Jessica to Kramerbooks & Afterwords Caf for coffee and hot cocoa. Philippe treats Jessica to a Southern Belle cupcake at the Red Velvet Cupcakery and Helena meets Jessica at the Market Inn bar. Setting plays an important part in the novel yet never intrudes. A skillful young novelist March keeps the story moving by interweaving the action with the power players and background of Washington. Regardless of your position on the issues discussed this romantic thriller will keep you intrigued as you try to solve the mystery. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 91 92 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE HOROSCOPE star journeys This month s planetary journeys are about communication and connecting with others. When the energy is right life will seem magical. Take this opportunity to determine the course of your life putting yourself in the driver s seat rather than letting life drive you. In the end you will benefit from taking charge of your life reaching out to others on your own terms and contributing to the greater human experience. HLM by m e l o dy b u ssey Scorpio OCT. 23-NOV. 21 The eclipse is going to happen in your house on the 15th so make sure that you don t overschedule yourself or make any major decisions that day. Emotionally you may want to nest. It s okay to do so as that s the best use of that energy. Taurus APR. 20-MAY 20 With the planets at their maximum position you are going to find it easier to live life by design rather than by default. April 10 through 25 will be good days for starting new projects and you will have the energy to make it happen. With Mercury in Pisces your financial instincts are spot on so trust your little voice when it tells you not to buy those shoes. Sagittarius NOV. 22-DEC. 21 Jupiter is in your seventh house of love which means that those complications that were plaguing your relationships will lift. Plan to do something special with your significant other or family members this month. Gemini MAY 21-JUNE 20 You hit the ground running at the beginning of the year and by now you may be feeling a little wrung out. It is okay to slow down and indulge yourself. There may be job changes on the horizon so make sure that you have your resume up to date. However the planets are on your side in almost all aspects so you can literally name your desire and sit back to watch it take shape. Capricorn DEC. 22-JAN. 19 The planets are all moving into the lower sector of your chart meaning that this is a great time for some mental and spiritual housekeeping. This is not the time to move forward on the career front but rather to focus on those you love. Cancer JUNE 21-JULY 23 The planetary shift to the East is going to put cosmic wind in your sails. A new level of confidence and independence will find you trying new things and having a satisfying month in all of the areas of your life. The lunar eclipse on the 15th will mean that your considerable talents for being warm and nurturing to other signs will come into play. Aquarius JAN. 20-FEB. 18 Change is the name of the game this month. You are likely to experience some shifts on all fronts and when the eclipse happens you may really feel stretched thin. Be careful of mental overload as otherwise you may have some burnout. Leo JULY 24-AUG. 22 The universe seems to be offering you a cosmic do-over this month. You may feel as if you are finally moving forward and enjoying some momentum in your career and family life. If you are single this is the time to get out there. Those in relationships are going to find love blossoming again. Plan to be kind to yourself during the lunar eclipse which will mess with your emotions. Pisces FEB. 19-MAR. 20 This month will be one that is populated with highs and lows with no middles. You will experience financial strength while your beliefs are being challenged on the other hand. This may bring a crisis of faith and of deep soul searching. Virgo AUG. 23-SEPT. 22 The alignment of the planets has combined to produce a powerful magnetism in your life. This can manifest in many ways. For many it will mean a more active sex life (enjoy ) while for others it may mean coming to terms with those things that you ve been trying to put off dealing with. Aries MAR. 21-APR. 19 The sun is your friend Aries and has been since last month giving you tremendous energy. Opportunities seem to find you without your even trying and the tendency will be to judge those whose lives don t seem to be as sun-kissed. Be particularly observant on the 9th as Venus may bring an unexpected love interest your way. Patience is a virtue and if you aren t careful you could end up alienating the very people you care about the most. Libra SEPT. 23-OCT. 22 Love is still in the air for you and hasn t stopped since Valentine s Day. Make sure that your rose colored glasses aren t keeping you from seeing the real picture especially in the financial department. Take a quick inventory and get real with yourself. You ll be glad you did. 94 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 95 HERLIFE CALENDAR april 10 Reptile DATE April 10 TIME 10 00am-3 00pm LOCATION WOW Science Museum 2 North Sacramento Street Lodi DETAILS The WOW Science Museum is teaming up with local reptile enthusiasts to bring you the 4th Annual Reptile Round-Up and an entire hands-on day of reptile fun Enjoy arts and crafts throughout the museum and all of your favorite scaly friends. For more information please visit WOWScienceMuseum.org or call (209) 368-0WOW (0969). Round-Up of award-winning wineries. For more information or to purchase tickets please visit lodichamber.com or call (209) 367-7840. 24 DKG Epsilon Nu Chapter Fun Raiser Film Night DATE April 24 TIME 5 30pm-9 00pm LOCATION State Theatre 1307 J Street Modesto DETAILS Join DKG Epsilon Nu Chapter for their Fun Raiser Enjoy wine appetizers opportunity baskets and a screening of the film Driving Miss Daisy. Proceeds from this event will benefit the Education Foundation of Stanislaus County MJC CSUS scholarships and our local library. Tickets can be purchased online at thestate.org by phone at (209) 545-0883 or at the door. Lodi Community Concert Association Presents The Gothard Sisters DATE April 10 TIME 7 00pm LOCATION Hutchins Street Square 125 S Hutchins Street Lodi DETAILS Enjoy the beautiful music and dance of The Gothard Sisters. This trio started Irish dancing and playing violin at a young age and continue to be a delight to their audiences. To learn more about this and other performances please visit hutchinsstreetsquare.com. To purchase tickets please call (209) 333-0360 or purchase tickets at the door the night of the event. 25 Grammy Nominated Songwriter to Perform Benefit Concert DATE April 25 TIME 7 00 pm LOCATION Hutchins Street Square Kirst Hall 125 S. Hutchins Street Lodi DETAILS Lodi Arts Foundation presents the Art for All Benefit Concert featuring singer songwriter Steve Seskin. This solo performance will have you wiping away a tear one minute and laughing out loud the next. Steve has written seven hit songs including Grammy-nominated Grown Men Don t Cry by Tim McGraw. Proceeds benefit art programs for underserved children and others. To learn more or purchase tickets please visit www.lodiarts.org or call the ticket office at (209) 333-5550. 12 In the Dog House DATE April 12 TIME TBA LOCATION Whirlow s parking lot 1926 Pacific Avenue Stockton DETAILS Help save local animals with Whirlow s In the Dog House Businesses will have dog houses displayed that will be raffled off. Raffle tickets are available for purchase and proceeds support local animal non-profits Whirlow s will host a celebration April 12th with a silent auction music food and pet-related vendors. For more information please call Whirlow s at (209) 466-2823. SAVE THE DATE 3 Lincoln Center Semi-Annual Sidewalk Sale Lodi Wine Stroll DATE April 12 TIME 5 30pm LOCATION Downtown Lodi DETAILS Sip the newest vintages from more than 25 wineries at the Lodi Wine Stroll Winemakers will be available to discuss their creations and share why they think Lodi is home to a growing number DATE May 3 TIME 9 00am-5 00pm LOCATION Lincoln Center 374 Lincoln Center Stockton DETAILS Come enjoy Lincoln Center s Semi-Annual Sidewalk Sale with great deals from more than 25 participating stores Indulge in amazing shopping and fabulous finds for the whole family For more information please visit Lincoln Center online at lincolncentershops.com. 96 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 7 Valley Garden Fair DATE May 7 TIME 9 00am-5 00pm LOCATION Residence of Roger and Laurie Schrum DETAILS Join in the annual Valley Garden Fair presented by the Children s Home of Stockton Auxiliary Enjoy the spring debut of fashion while dining on a delicious lunch and shopping at local boutiques all set in the beautiful gardens of this grand estate. Proceeds will support educational and social events for the Children s Home of Stockton. For more information or to purchase tickets please call (209) 466-0853. 9 An Evening at Tiffany s Girls Night Out DATE May 9 TIME 6 00pm-8 00pm LOCATION Tracy Downtown Plaza 6th Street and Central Avenue Tracy DETAILS Enjoy the City of Tracy s annual Girls Night Out Purchase of your 25 ticket includes a goodie bag wine tasting food sampling shopping at the girls only vendors and admittance to the after party The best Audrey Hepburn look-alike will win a prize so be sure to dress up Tickets will be available online at atthegrand.org or call (209) 831-6858 for more information. All calendar event submissions must be received by April 1st for the May issue and adhere to our guidelines. E-mail beth herlifemagazine.com for guidelines or to submit entries. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 97 98 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 99 100 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM