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Description: May 2014 Annual Bridal Issue

HERLIFE MAGAZINE SOUTH FLORIDA MAY 2014 KEEPING WOMEN CONNECTED BRIDAL FASHION TRENDS BEAUTY PRODUCT ROUNDUP BOAT TOURS AND MORE ROMANCE ISSUE WEDDING HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM BRINGS PICTURE PERFECT IMAGES TO LIFE staff & contacts Publisher and Editor-In-Chief Vice President of Business Development Senior Account Executives Karen Alleyne-Means karen herlifemagazine.com Shawn P Means . shawn herlifemagazine.com Pamela Parris pamela herlifemagazine.com Shantelle Sinclair shantelle herlifemagazine.com Account Executive Advertising Information Editor Art Director Associate Art Directors Advertising Art Director Contributing Authors Tara Gray tara herlifemagazine.com sflsales herlifemagazine.com (562) 899-0433 ext. 101 Marilyn Isaminger Paige Fisher Sarah Abend Ashleigh Thomson Elana Bell Lisa Taranto Butler Patty Cook Dr. Phil Heller Judy Goppert Marilyn Isaminger Kathleen Krueger Lindsay Laderoute Virginia Martin Kristi Northcutt Hallie Sawyer VeryCulinary.com Karen Alleyne-Means Barca Designs John Dubon Dana France Photos by Roosevelt David Scarola VeryCulinary.com Contributing Photographers To contact HERLIFE Magazine 8461 Lake Worth Road Suite 209 Lake Worth FL 33467 Phone (561) 899-0433 Fax (561) 828-5975 Subscriptions Subscriptions are available for 26 (for 12 issues). 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We welcome your ideas articles and feedback. 4 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE CONTENTS features 12 22 38 40 42 06 08 Welcome From the Publisher Health What to do about Stuttering and Stammering Beauty Beauty Product Round-Up Inspirations Jamilah Newcomer Mind Matters Perfection to a Fault Culinary The Newest Culinary Gadgets 20 22 28 30 Spotlight Cakes by Queta Trendsetter Bridal Trends Spotlight Fabuluxe Events Working Women The Glass Ceiling Does it Still Exist Finance Identity Theft Book Club Night Circus by Erin Morgenstern Spotlight Lara s Theme HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 5 38 40 42 Tie The Knot Virgie & Sean Travel All Aboard Recipes Penne with Sausage and Mushroom Ragu and More Mother s Perspective Sending Your Child to Camp Calendar May Calendar Scene and Be Seen Events Around Town 10 12 16 18 44 46 48 32 34 36 HERLIFE WELCOME emergent soul Just like moons and like suns With the certainty of tides Just like hopes springing high Still I ll rise. MAYA ANGELOU STILL I RISE us all is a life altering experience and good things can come from those experiences. When you share your experience you open yourself up to possibilities and inspire others to do the same. However that experience MUST NOT define who you are. You are more than isolated moments in time. You are meant to live a full and rich life a life that is abundant and that only happens when you live deeply through all of your experiences not just the ones you could have done without. We are meant to support one another and be a blessing also. Take a minute today and refocus your mind on letting go of the self-limiting beliefs and BE the person that you are destined to be. In this issue of HERLIFE Magazine we are pleased to introduce several local businesses that are creating special memories for local brides. The wedding season is approaching and it is destined to be a beautiful one. Happy Mother s Day to the beautiful women of South Florida and especially Dora Alleyne. I want to start off this month by saying THANK YOU for all who came out and supported me at the Emergent Soul Rise & Reclaim Your Inner Power conference. It could not have been any better The message of the conference was one that resonates with many. Emergent Soul is based on the premise that what connects Karen Alleyne-Means p h o to by p h o t o s by r o o s eve l t inspirational women 6 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM If you or someone you know has a great story that you think should be told please email me at karen herlifemagazine.com Like HERLIFE South Florida Magazine on Facebook to stay current on great discounts special events and more HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 7 HERLIFE HEALTH stuttering and stammering by l i sa ta ra n to b u tl e r what to do about tering are Nicole Kidman Emily Blunt Marc Anthony and Carly Simon. Perhaps more surprising is that stuttering affects more than 3 million people in the United States. Men are 4 times more likely than women to stutter and about 5 percent of children will experience a period of stuttering that may last 6 months or more. Approximately 75 percent of those will recover by late childhood with only about 1 percent having a long-term problem. What is Stuttering Stuttering or stammering is a communication disorder involving disfluencies or disruptions in a person s speech. Examples are repetitions of syllables (su-su-such as this) prolongations (mmmmy problem) or stoppages of syllables. People who stutter may also experience physical tension embarrassment nervousness and a fear of speaking both interpersonally and publicly. For people who stutter these symptoms often make it difficult to say what they want to say and to communicate with those around them. Stuttering issues can range from mild to se8 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM L istening to the deep resonating tone of James Earl Jones as Darth Vader from Star Wars or Mufasa from The Lion King you wouldn t think that this charismatic actor with the baritone voice would have suffered a stuttering problem as a child and still battle it today. Other famous personalities who suffer from stut- vere and people who suffer from it may find that their stuttering can be random or fluctuate from one day to the next. What Causes Stuttering Approximately 60 percent of people who suffer from stuttering have a family member who also stutters. Other factors include child development neurophysiology or the way people process speech and language and family dynamics fast-paced lifestyles and high expectations can lead to disfluencies of speech as well. Research shows that people who stutter process speech and language slightly differently than those who do not stutter. Stuttering can also occur when a combination of factors comes together which causes different reactions in different people. Often what causes stuttering differs from what continues it or what makes it get worse. Experts say the key to combating stuttering is early intervention and treatment. How is Stuttering Treated While there is no simple cure for stuttering people who suffer from it can learn to speak more easily gain confidence in their speaking ability and communicate more effectively with those around them. School-age children adolescents and adults can benefit from speech therapy. For these individuals treatment is designed to help them learn to cope with their stuttering enhance their speech fluency and improve their self esteem. For toddlers and young children who stutter considerably (more than 10 percent of their speech) working with a speech pathologist who specializes in stuttering can often eliminate stuttering completely or offer strategies to make speech easier and less tense. However both mild and severe stutterers can benefit from at-home practices. Parents and family members should aim to speak slowly and in a relaxed manner when talking with a child who stutters. Words should not be spoken so slowly that speech sounds abnormal but being unhurried and adding several pauses can be helpful. Television s Mr. Rogers was one example of a calming relaxing speech pattern. These approaches combined with time taken each day to give the child undivided attention can be a successful combination for treating stuttering. Parents and family can give self-assurance to children who stutter by listening intently when they speak or ask a question pausing before they answer and offering a slow and controlled response. Not showing frustration or a change in facial expression when the child stutters is key to helping him or her stay calm and focused on the words. If the child becomes frustrated in a conversation gentle reassurance can get them back on track. Saying something like I know it s hard to talk doctor lawrence weinstein Dear Dr. Weinstein Why are doctors so reluctant to prescribe antibiotics K.G. Dear K.G. Doctors by nature feel the need to do something when a sick patient comes to their office. After all when someone goes to a doctor they expect to be treated. Like my mother who equated food with love physicians often equate treatment with a medication. By that logic my mother loved me very much because every evening meal had enough food for a midnight buffet on a cruise line. There is also a mistaken belief on the part of physicians that patients will be dissatisfied if they don t leave without an antibiotic. In fact a study looking at that very issue revealed patient satisfaction was not based on getting an antibiotic but on getting a satisfactory explanation of their illness by their doctor So why is there a push not to give antibiotics For one not all infections need antibiotics. Antibiotics are for bacterial infections not viral illnesses. Most colds sore throats bronchitis and sinus infections are caused by viruses. Antibiotics will not help in treating these infections. Giving antibiotics when unnecessary can lead to super-bugs that are resistant to routine therapy. One of the more dangerous bacteria normally seen in the hospital is Methicillin-resistant Staphylococcus aureus (MRSA). It is now spreading outside of the hospital setting partly due to overtreatment with antibiotics. Simple skin infections can now become life-threatening. In medical school the adage there is no such thing as a safe drug was drilled into me. This is especially true of antibiotics. Patients can have allergic reactions to antibiotics that can be mild or deadly depending on a patient s reaction to them. A medication like Cipro or Levaquin can cause your Achilles tendon to rupture. Antibiotics can cause a severe colon infection that can lead to dehydration and death. Antibiotics can lead to fatal skin infections. It is also extremely important not to give leftover antibiotics to children. Cipro or Levaquin may affect growth rates in children. Tetracycline can cause permanent discoloration of a child s teeth. The new mantra in healthcare is the triple aim--give the best care at the lowest cost to improve the health of the population. In other words give the right care at the right time. When it comes to the use of antibiotics it turns out less is more Lawrence Weinstein MD is a Board-certified cardiologist and Chairman of the Department of Cardiology at Bethesda Hospital. His office is located at 10301 Hagen Ranch Road Suite B-4 in Boynton Beach. Please phone (561) 200-3583 for additional information or an appointment Parents and family can give self-assurance to children who stutter by listening intently when they speak or ask a question pause before they answer and offer a slow and controlled response. sometimes but lots of people get stuck on their words. It s okay is an effective response and encouragement. Some children may respond well to a soft touch or hug when they seem aggravated. Plus it makes parents and other family members feel better Adults with stuttering may benefit from speech therapy and stuttering treatments. In addition trying to relax the body and the mind can also lessen the occurrence of stuttering. Relaxing the body by releasing the tension in the back neck arms and legs is a helpful start. Reading books out loud and visualizing the words to be said are great tools to offer more self-confidence to stutterers. Above all stutterers should try not to sweat the small stuff. Mistakes and stutters will occur. It s adjusting to those setbacks that move them forward. Where Can You Get More Help Stuttering can be frightening for both a stutterer and their family. Fortunately there are many ways to get help both professionally and by using strategies at home. For more information explore the website of the National Stuttering Association. HLM Information for this article was found at stutteringhelp.org and westutter.org. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 9 HERLIFE BEAUTY beauty product round-up by l i n d say l a d e ro u te F eeling overwhelmed in the beauty department of your favorite store is something most of us experience. Hundreds of choices available for every beauty product can make selecting the appropriate one a nightmare. But with the right information you can turn the nightmare into a beautiful daydream. For this issue we ve Treat your face with the best products to fully enhance your natural beauty. In the realm of anti-aging try Lotus Youth Preserve Face Cream With Super 7 Complex by Fresh . This anti-aging cream helps prevent signs of aging while providing maximum hydration and improving skin elasticity. For a daily moisturizer choose a bottle of Puristics SPF 15 Daily Anti-Aging Sunscreen Lotion. It goes on light protects against UVA UVB rays and uses no harsh chemicals. Tinted moisturizers are an easy way to knock out moisturizer and foundation in one step. Try out theBalm Balm Shelter SPF s 15 Tinted Moisturizer. It s available in seven shades and gives light but full coverage sun protection and moisture. If you struggle with under eye problems such as dark circles puffiness and dryness DERMAdoctor Wrinkle Revenge Rescue & Protect Eye Balm will do wonders for all three problems. To complete your overall beautiful look you need shiny healthy hair. Start in the shower with L Or al Paris Total Repair 5 Shampoo and Conditioner. The duo will help repair weak damaged hair to give you smooth shiny healthy hair that smells wonderful. Before blow drying or straightening be sure to use John Frieda s Frizz Ease Thermal Protection Serum. Not only will it protect your hair from heat damage it will leave locks shiny and protect your color from fading. After styling if you ve created a hairstyle you don t want to budge spray on Aussie Instant Freeze Hairspray. For a softer hold use Oscar Blandi s Lacca Hairspray. If your hair needs some love after heavy processing or a weave DOO GRO Mega Thick Growth Oil will help picked out the top beauty products from hairspray to anti-aging cream so you can create a beautiful reality. The starting block of beauty is having healthy glowing skin. Get this by using products that help moisturize and smooth your skin. Start moisturizing in the shower with Olay Ultra Moisture In-Shower Body Lotion for unbelievably soft and moisturized skin. If your skin needs a buffing rub on some 100% Pure Body Scrub which is made of 100 percent natural ingredients and available in 18 scents. While in the shower get your face completely clean with Biore Steam Activated Cleanser. This mint-infused cleanser works with the steam from your shower to give you the deepest clean. After a shower is the best time to moisturize If you are a lover of body oils Philosophy Pure Grace Satin-Finish Body Oil Spray is a marvelous choice. This spray-on oil works for your skin hair and nails and is enriched with a combination of sunflower and olive oils. If you re more of a lotion lover add a bottle of Aveeno Moisturizing Lotion to your beauty routine. Known for its soothing qualities enhanced by the power of oatmeal this lotion sinks in quickly and is available in an array of special formulas. 10 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM strengthen new hair and condition your scalp. To get maximum moisture back after a relaxer try K rastase Paris Fiber Architecte reparative serum to make damaged rough hair strong and smooth. Complement fresh skin and healthy hair with the perfect makeup. When it comes to foundation a great choice is Maybelline s Fit Me line available in powder or cream in 18 shades. For blushing cheeks a longlasting favorite is COVERGIRL Classic Color Blush. It comes in the perfectly sized compact with a brush you will actually use. Find your perfect eye shadow by picking out a palette by bhCosmetics with 30 palettes to choose from you re almost guaranteed to find a favorite. Lining your eyes like a pro is easy with Maybelline s Line Stylist Eyeliner. The super-thin tip allows you to trace extremely close to the lash line giving you a more natural look. Finish any eye look with Voluminous mascara by L Or al Paris for thick luscious lashes with lots of volume. Love your lips by using one of the 82 available shades from Revlon s Super LustrousTM lipstick line. The lipstick goes on smoothly and stays that way even after a full day at the office. When it s time to take it all off use Neutrogena Deep Clean Oil-Free Makeup Remover Wipes. The pre-moistened wipes clear away all makeup and leave skin feeling soft and subtle not tight or irritated. The beauty aisle can be overwhelming and being prepared with knowledge about which products to try makes it much easier to tackle. Creating a beautiful look is no problem with our product round-up. Hopefully it will make your next beauty aisle browse simple instead of stressful HLM Sources Allure.com Beautyhigh.com Huffingtonpost.com Glamour.com TotalBeauty.com Realbeauty.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 11 HERLIFE INSPIRATIONS C Certain life experiences help mold our view on life. Having lost a sister a dad and a grandmother I know how short life is. It s certainly too short to not follow your dreams Jamilah shared honestly. jamilah newcomer that joy and love will transpire into my work. The images I capture are not just the couple you re seeing it s a reflection of my heart. Originally from Michigan she is the youngest of four girls and grew up in a household of women including her mom and grandma. My poor dad she laughed. She attended a small private school with a graduating class of 69 students and then went to Oakland University a small university just 45 minutes from her home. While she studied to become an elementary teacher her desire to become a photographer came to life and she began taking black and white photography classes. Just before graduation she met a Palm Beach recruiter seeking teachers for the Sunshine State. Needless to say I was easily swayed. He had me at no winters reativity cannot be measured. It is something you are born with. As life happens that spirit expands in intricate ways and no two creative souls are alike. Jamilah Newcomer has honed her skill as a photographer over the past five years and now that she has a new bouncing baby boy Ethan she is evolving even more. My son changed me the moment I knew I was pregnant and then the moment I heard his first cries I didn t know it was possible to love any more than I could but my son teaches me every single day how much your heart can truly expand and that the capacity to love is infinite Jamilah mused. The joy he brings me makes me see the world in a different light and I know HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 13 w ri tte n by j u dy go ppe r t p h o to gra p hy by da n a fr a n ce h a i r a n d m a ke u p by l u l u go m e z go rge h a i r & m a ke u p go rge h a i ran dm a ke u p.co m sty l e d by j a m i e gj e r u l ff r u n aw ay g yps y and palm trees So I found a teaching job in Florida and have never moved back. Photography was put on the back burner while I was teaching and I shot occasional family pictures for friends but nothing more. It wasn t until seven years later that my dreams began evolving which proves it s never too late to chase after your dreams Jamilah confirmed. Meeting the love of her life Dave had much to do with this dream becoming reality. They have been together seven years and married for four. While meeting wedding photographers she realized she could be doing what they do and how much fun it would be to capture the happiest moment in a couple s lives. For our first Christmas together he gifted me a DSLR my very first legit camera a Canon Rebel He knew how much I loved photography. It sounds clich but he made me fall in love with photography all over again she shared. In 2009 Jamilah decided to start her own business. After a crazy year of planning 14 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM her own wedding and starting a business while still teaching her new husband encouraged her to take the leap. Two years after the initial shoots she quit teaching and became a full-time professional wedding photographer. Dave is the love of my life Even though we have opposite personalities we complement each other perfectly. I m talkative and bubbly while he s quiet and mellow. Marriage is not always rainbows and butterflies but I wouldn t want to be on this journey with anybody else she remarked. I love our little family of three. We feel so incredibly lucky to have a very happy and healthy baby. He brings so much joy into our lives. As a strong business owner Jamilah admits she has struggled lately as a new mom and is striving to find balance as so many others have. She has been completely focused on her business for the past five years and she now is torn by the desire to be with her son. She is honest with her clients and shared how amazing and understanding her clients have been. I know with time that balance will come and having Ethan will only bring my life more meaning which will deepen my desire to push my photographs to new heights. Jamilah loves when clients choose her and she is humble about her talents but gladly gives of herself. I do believe in my work and I believe my images are beautiful. But there are so many talented photographers out there and wedding images all start looking the same. The thing that makes me stand out is really quite simple--it s me. There s only one me with my perspective and my life experiences that affect my pictures how I see the world around me my distinct laughter behind the camera. With my laid-back approach I m able to put people at ease and make them feel comfortable in front of my camera she voiced. I m not just taking a picture I m trying to capture a moment of love and joy. When people see my images I don t want them to just see a pretty picture I want them to feel something to have an emotional connection with the image. As is the practice of successful women Jamilah stays abreast of the latest photography techniques and continues to educate herself to better her craft. Every year she attends photography or business workshops and in the past few years has attended WPPI (Wedding and Portrait Photographers International) in Las Vegas a three-day photography conference in Santa Barbara and a lighting and business workshop in Nashville as well as other events and seminars. She gives credit to her family and their love and support for where she is today especially her amazing sisters. Being the youngest sister I was really good at being the baby of the family. My sisters Annaliza and Farida loved me through my crazy years and showed me tough love. They have kept me grounded and helped to shape the woman I ve become. I d like to thank my Mom for all that she s done and all she continues to do. And my three nephews and niece make my life exciting and fun she asserted. I have to thank everybody who has had a positive impact in my life and my business--clients who believed in me from the beginning and who continue to support me. My small business wouldn t even exist without my amazing clients I m grateful to the people who I look up to in the industry friends who have become like my family. And my second shooter Michell who is amazing at what she does and never fails to have my back I extend a special thank you to Charmaine for always being there for my family. Finally and importantly thanks to my Newcomer family for their constant support and love and for making me a part of their family from the beginning. I feel fortunate to have a family in Florida that I can call mine. I cannot thank you all enough Certain life experiences help mold our view on life. Having lost a sister a dad and a grandmother I know how short life is. It s certainly too short to not follow your dreams Jamilah shared honestly. Owning and operating your own business is not a glamorous life and not easy. You wear many hats and don t get sick days or holidays most of the time you find yourself working all hours. But being my own boss has been such a gratifying experience. It s more than just being able to make my own hours it s about the relationships you get to build along the way. It s about the life skills you learn. I ve been fortunate to have connected with so many amazing people from all over the country and I wouldn t have had the opportunity if it weren t for photography. It can also get very lonely. So keep yourself in good company--surround yourself with positive people. Always be ready to learn ready to help and ready to give. Lastly Jamilah shares appreciation for her husband. I have to thank Dave for always supporting me and for pushing me to chase after my dreams. He is an amazing husband He has made so many sacrifices to help me get to where I am today. He used to shoot weddings with me kept me company while I edited pictures until midnight brought home carryout when I was too busy to cook. It s been wonderful to see him become the amazing father I knew he d always be. Every day my love and gratitude overflow and I can t imagine growing old with anybody else. HLM Visit jamilahphotography.com to see Jamilah s work and inspiration. Owning and operating your own business is not a glamorous life and not easy. ... But being my own boss has been such a gratifying experience. It s more than just being able to make my own hours it s about the relationships you get to build along the way. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 15 HERLIFE MIND MATTERS perfection to a fault w r it t en by d r. p hil heller photograp hy by k ar en alley ne- means T life he other day I received a call from a concerned mother who felt that her son s perfectionism may be a learning disability. The youngster works very hard but has a difficult time finishing his work in class or meeting deadlines for projects. Something is wrong as the child toils to get it right but he is not enjoying his The perfectionist has bouts of anxiety and low self-esteem. As a result they live in a world filled with stress which in itself can lead to illness. Many perfectionists are not lazy in fact they identify with their goals and become workaholics missing out on some of the simple pleasures of life. Ana an attractive executive sought my help for her anxiety and panic. She was dressed impeccably but indicated that she just had an hour before she had to return to the office. I was beginning to feel tense just listening to her schedule and list of all the things she had to do. One of my first questions was What do you do to relax I received a puzzled look as she indicated I have things to do. I was now becoming fatigued listening to her. Ana s critical need to achieve was such that she sacrificed the vital necessity of relaxation. At first glance Ana appeared perfect but underneath she was self-victimized by chronic stress. Ana was a maladaptive perfectionist. The healthy perfectionist accepts mistakes and learns from them. They realize that making an error is an opportunity to grow. They take a broader perspective on what they are doing. If they are getting caught up in insignificant details they recognize the mistake and drop the behavior. The healthy perfectionist enjoys the process of working. They don t just care about the result. Balance is important and relaxation is incorporated in their activities. The healthy perfectionist identifies their beliefs because their perfectionistic beliefs are self-destructive and interfere with the exact goal that they wish to achieve. The healthy perfectionist sets realistic goals. They challenge themselves in avoiding obsession to details. Getting all As is nice but it s destructive if you can t finish the exam on time. They are willing to take the risk of submitting their work for they will either do well or they will have an opportunity to learn. They don t musterbate by telling themselves that they must or should be perfect. The mother who was worried her son s perfectionism could be seen as a learning disability was correct. By her addressing this at an early age she will help her child to realize more of his potential and enjoy a fulfilling life. HLM We live in a world where perfection is rewarded. There are Gold and Silver champions in the Olympic Games. There are Academy Award winners creating the Best Picture or becoming legends in the film industry. There are geniuses on Wall Street earning millions of dollars a year. There are those who strive to be perfect but are they Without a doubt those who excel in their fields have a trait of perfectionism. It is that trait which fuels the energy to devote the time energy and talent to the sport invention or the art of their interest. Some become obsessed with their goal and do not waver until they achieve what they sought. Yes there are more strivers or dreamers than those who actually accomplish stardom. Don t stop dreaming but the trick is to be an adaptive or healthy perfectionist. In school the perfectionist may want to be seen as neat and organized as they strive for stellar work product. However perfectionism can be detected by missed deadlines low productivity and wasted energy focused on meaningless details. Ironically the perfectionist becomes the underachiever as they procrastinate or can t meet the deadline for the class project. There is a method of thinking that engulfs the perfectionist. First they have black and white thinking. Their work is either exceptional or horrendous with no shade of gray. The writing meets Pulitzer Prize standards or it is trash. The perfectionist often may confuse high standards with impossible achievement. Often they undervalue their work or contributions and carry a shroud of negativity. A doctoral dissertation is a feat. I know because I ve done it. The real goal however is to get it finished. There are many students around college campuses who are All But Dissertation (ABD) because the work wasn t good enough the research is not perfect enough or they are simply afraid to fail. 16 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE CULINARY the newest culinary gadgets by p a tty c o o k P eople who love cooking often make serious investments in kitchenware over time. Frying pans make way for saut pans that old coated skillet is replaced with a good cast iron version. New recipes call for a Dutch oven or a braising pot. Once you ve acquired basic tools for your kitchen pots pans kitchen If you ve visited a local dairy or creamery the idea of churning your own butter might have crossed your mind. You can make that happen if you have cream and salt--and a Chef n Butter Maker from Williams-Sonoma ( 14.95 online). Recipes are included to help you customize a signature blend of butter with herbs and spices that best suit the dishes you love. The summer herb garden s bounty is a blessing but if you ve picked more herbs than you can use it seems wasteful to toss them in the trash or compost pile. With the Chef n Herbsicle also at Williams-Sonoma you can freeze these flavorful leftovers in a cylinder that s about 8 by 4 inches. Once they re frozen a plunger lets you push out just the right amount needed to grate or cut. The plunger can also be marked to identify the herbs in it so you ll know if you grabbed basil oregano cilantro or mint. This dishwasher safe gadget can be found online at Williams-Sonoma for 9.95. A creative way to use up any leftover fruits juice and yogurt is the Zoku Mini Lolly Maker Set found online at Sur la Table. These tiny ice pops make nine right-sized treats. The silicone molds can be filled frozen and popped out as needed. They can be found online for about 17 and are BPA- and phthalate-free. There are a plethora of peelers on the market that create the delicate curls and thin strips of vegetables and fruits that will make your homeplated meals rival those at restaurants. Here s a look at some different styles offered by Williams-Sonoma. The Open Kitchen Sharpened Julienne knives they never become obsolete. But there are always new and inexpensive little gadgets coming on the market. If you ve ever seen a kitchen item that you never knew existed yet realized you could not live without you have fallen for a culinary gadget. Let s take a moment to look at the latest greatest glitter of kitchen tools. One of them may be an item you ll find you can t live without. Anyone who s discovered a great recipe on an iPad must then find a place to safely stow his or her electronic device in the kitchen while prepping the recipe. If you fall within this category check out the CTA Digital Bamboo Cutting Board. At 35 online this bamboo board provides a safe home for your iPad while protecting it from the flotsam and jetsam of any chopping slicing or dicing. It even has built-in storage slots for kitchen knives as well as a bamboo stylus for your iPad. One dreaded chopping-block chore is cleaning cauliflower which seems to always require at least two knives. Bring on the Cauliflower Corer sold online at Sur la Table for 9.95. This stainless steel corer is 2 by 4 inches and works like the smaller version made for apples with a push pull motion. 18 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Peeler has a 2 -inch blade for creating quick julienne strips of vegetables for salads side dishes and garnishes and it can be found online at 9.95. The Ghidini Dual Blade Peelers can handle tougher vegetables such as carrots as well as softer vegetables and fruits such as tomatoes and kiwi to create the right ribbon or garnish for each dish. Prices range from 10 to 15 online. The pricier R sle Julienne Peeler costs about 28 and is made of 18 10 stainless steel. This hardy gadget is designed to create delicate julienne slices over uneven surfaces such as butternut squash. Kitchen string is a great tool for trussing roasts or stuffed meats or fish. If spending time learning to properly truss and knot kitchen string seems daunting consider using TheFoodLoop . These flexible heat-resistant silicone loops can be used in the oven microwave stovetop or freezer. They easily connect and disconnect and they can be looped together when used on large items. Cleanup is easy and you don t need to worry about scratching any of your pots or pans. You can find TheFoodLoop at area kitchen stores or online ranging in price from 4 to 20. Perhaps these gadgets will inspire you to browse kitchen stores for new culinary tools for yourself or as gifts for your foodie friends. As you do remember to avoid becoming the crazy cat lady of culinary gadgets. Put some thought into how often a new gadget really will be used as well as where it will be stored. There is a place in the heart of every home cook for these indispensable and inexpensive tools. HLM Sources amazon.com williams-sonoma.com surlatable.com thefoodloop.com. eyewitness misidentification role in nearly 75 percent of convictions overturned through DNA testing. Studies show that 80 percent of juries will believe eyewitness testimony. However 30 years of strong social science research has proven that eyewitness identification is often unreliable. Research shows that the human mind is not like a tape recorder the average human cannot take a photographic snapshot of the perpetrator in their mind. We neither record events exactly as we see them nor recall them like a tape that has been rewound. There are currently no government-endorsed policies to reform eyewitness misidentification. The need for policy to minimize errors is evident especially when addressing the system variables that the criminal justice system can control. Solutions would include witness instruction on lineups and emphasis that the suspect may not be in the lineup thereby discouraging guesswork. The lineup should always be conducted blindly by law enforcement officers who are not working the case and don t have a suspect in mind already. The witness should immediately make a sworn statement as to their level of certainty. Records need to be kept of every lineup in many cases multiple lineups are conducted and law enforcement maintains only the evidence that builds their case. Here are two of the thousands of real cases of people wrongfully convicted. Shawn Massey spent 12 years in prison based on false eyewitness identification. At the time of identification the eyewitness was shown several photos and pointed out a resemblance between Massey and the perpetrator. However she also told investigators that Massey did not have the correct hair his skin was much lighter and he weighed much less than the perpetrator. None of this information was given to Massey s defense attorney and did not come to light at trial. Calvin Willis is our second victim of injustice. In 1982 a man described only as wearing cowboy boots came into the house and raped a 10-yearold girl. She testified that she was shown a photo lineup and instructed to pick Willis who was convicted and sentenced to life in prison. In 2003 DNA evidence proved Willis innocence he had spent nearly 22 years in prison for a crime he didn t commit. This injustice needs to be stopped and our system needs to be reformed. HLM Attorney Brook Butler is a criminal defense lawyer with offices in the Regus Executive Suites 601 21st Street Suite 300 in Vero Beach. Butler has been practicing family and criminal law since 2006. For more information please visit her website at www.verobeachdefenselaw.com. She can be reached at 772-453-2820. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 19 I by b. b u tl e r p h o to gra p hy by p h o to s by ro o seve l t n the last several editions I have opened the book on why people are wrongfully convicted in our country. This month I will focus on the leading cause of unjust verdicts eyewitness misidentification. According to the Innocence Project Eyewitness misidentification is the single greatest cause of wrongful convictions nationwide playing a HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT w ri tte n by j u dy go ppe r t p h o to gra p hy by c a ke s by qu e t a cakes queta ing school in Broward County she ventured out to graduate with a liberal arts degree from Johnson C. Smith College in Charlotte North Carolina. She followed her mother s footsteps and became a teacher and then taught at the primary level for three years before experiencing a loss that altered her life path. My father died and I began baking as a way to calm my soul from the pain and sorrow Marqueta expressed. I ever tasted. Her specialty was when friends and family would come over for a chat and would end up chewing on something that she had whipped up in an instant Marqueta smiled. People were always able to come over and get a meal before they left. She loved people and feeding them and I have taken on that same role now in my adult life. As the skilled cook she is she definitely believes in the difference between boxed cake mix and cake mix from scratch and she knows there is no comparison between store-bought icing and icing made from scratch. I like to make my cakes icings and candies all from scratch. I prepare everything the day before and make my icing and cake the day of so that all of my customers have a fresh product. I truly love what I do and that love is evident in all my products she confirmed. Family is important to Marqueta and she enjoys being around friends and family to laugh and just be together. Her life is full and by batter into bliss that melts hearts and brings joy. Marqueta James started her company Cakes and Chocolates by Queta with this as her goal. And the proof is definitely in the pudding or cake or chocolate Originally from Miami she grew up in Lauderhill where she currently lives. After attend20 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM S ugar eggs flour and milk do not necessarily make cakes taste good. The hands and heart blending the ingredients turn the As she baked she literally poured a piece of herself into every dish. While most people enjoy the presentation of baked goods and ignore the lack of flavor Marqueta assures not only an excellent detailed presentation but also a taste that s out of this world. Her tagline is Where every order is a special order and she lives that idea. I learned the majority of my cooking from my mother. When I was a little girl I would sit in the kitchen with her as she prepared some of the most delicious meals that that is partly due to the man in her life. I am in a committed relationship with a man who treats me as his queen she reflected. She is also actively involved in her sorority Alpha Kappa Alpha where she holds the position of scholarship chairperson. She added Besides life I am dedicated to making my business known. She takes pride in her wedding cakes and knows that although a cake may be elaborate and breathtaking if the taste disappoints the beauty fades. The intricate designs would have any woman wishing that cake was hers. But many times after the cakes are cut and distributed amongst the guests I see people peeling back the fondant or giving the ugh face or whispering The cake is dry This is nasty or Looks good but tastes horrible. These comments always make me giggle because I know that none of my orders disappoint she assured. The most common trend Marqueta has noticed this wedding season is the selection of cupcakes as opposed to traditional wedding cakes and the flavors along with them. So far this year she has done ten weddings in which the bride and groom chose a cupcake tower instead of a wedding cake with a variety of flavors such as Ravishing Red Velvet Kicking Key Lime Strawberry Margarita Seduction and Chocolate Desires. The cupcakes are easier to serve to guests and more fun she noted. Marqueta has some practical advice for those who are planning a wedding soon. I think it is important that I stress that brides and grooms when placing an order for any product make sure the company is well aware of your intentions and what you want. Quality is the key factor in any of my orders. Whatever you order you should be satisfied and want to return because you know your order was a special order. HLM Follow Marqueta on Instagram Cakebyqueta or on Facebook Cakes & Chocolates By Queta. While most people enjoy the presentation of baked goods and ignore the lack of flavor Marqueta assures not only an excellent detailed presentation but also a taste that s out of this world. Her tagline is Where every order is a special order and she lives that idea. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 21 HERLIFE TRENDSETTER bridal TRENDS designed by victor harper designed by jean-ralph thurin HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 23 designed by victor harper HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM designed by anne barge 25 designed by sarah janks designed by sarah janks HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 27 HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT wr i t t e n by judy gopper t wedding and event planning business featured in Jupiter Magazine The Palm Beacher and on Wedding Wire serves Palm Beach Broward and Martin counties. Jennifer got her feet wet in this industry by volunteering for local nonprofits and helping to plan their fundraisers. I worked in corporate real estate for 15 years and had always wanted to start my own business so I did research on our market and the competition. I wrote a business plan then shadowed other trades in our industry. I even carried camera equipment around for a photographer and watched what she did during a photo shoot she explained. I worked in the kitchen with a caterer to see how they handle large events and a florist let me help in the design and creation process. Soon she planned her first few weddings for a very small fee just to gain experience. I have been fortunate to work with some amazing people in the last four years. Jennifer truly enjoys the relationships she develops with her clients and she believes cou28 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM C fabuluxe events ples come to Fabuluxe Events because none of their weddings look or feel the same. We strive to celebrate the uniqueness of each couple share their unique story and make their wedding very personal. I am involved in every wedding and believe I m approachable and easy to relate to. I can be the voice of reason for many of our couples so it all goes to building that strong relationship and trust throughout the process. Remaining friends with her clients long after the wedding is a regular practice for Jen and her team and she enjoys that bond. She credits her experience in the corporate world for the advantage she may have over someone who is strictly creative expressing that her team is skilled at the creative aspects as well as the organizational detail side. On the creative side we are incredibly fortunate to have Mandi Sewell. She is both a DIY guru and an ACE Certified Personal Trainer. She can help our couples get in shape before the big day Mandi has been with Fabuluxe since its inception and has been vital to our success and growth. Mandi and I balance each other with the creative and organizational aspects of planning events. I become very close to our couples and their families throughout the planning process. We realize we are celebrating the love of two people making a lifetime commitment to each other and the joining of two families. It s incredibly emotional There is always one moment that gets to me at every wedding it could be when the groom sees the bride for the first time when the father sees his daughter as a bride for the first time or a stolen moment between mother and daughter or father and son a moment between friends...but that moment makes me cry or gives me chills. That is what drives me. I get to help create those moments she mused. Weddings are visually beautiful and fun to plan but the emotions are what make them so special for me and my team. This year Fabuluxe has 15 weddings in various stages of planning with capacity for October weddings available. This year the team has accomplished one large charity event is working on a baby shower and bar mitzvah and is already booking into 2015. In 2013 s history were 11 weddings 2 charity events a 50th birthday party and a deluxe baby shower. Jen especially enjoys planning events for nonprofits to which she has a personal connection. Again it goes back to the relationships. The nonprofits we work with have affected my life or the life of someone on our team in a positive way. To those looking to follow that path of ouples who call Fabuluxe Events to plan their dream wedding find experienced thoughtful creative ideas for their special day. Jennifer Hardiman is the owner who inspires smiles and memories. Her owning their own business Jennifer recommends following their passion and reminds women that quality of life and doing what you love are so important. She works harder now as a business owner but the ability to create nurture and grow a business she adores is priceless and she can work her schedule around her family. I am blessed to have a husband who supports me and my dreams for my business. And my mom lives nearby and helps with our son. If you don t have a strong support system you ll burn out quickly. In the beginning you have to be good at a lot of things. I designed our website handled all of the administration bookkeeping marketing and planned all of the weddings and events she revealed Women should be prepared to understand all aspects of running a business and have a defined business plan. I love learning about new trends in my industry social media and marketing business practices and more. HLM 2014 looks to be a year of exciting new love and laughter for the Fabuluxe Events team. To see their work visit fabuluxeevents.com or find them on Facebook. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 29 HERLIFE WORKING WOMEN does it still exist by m a ri l y n i sa m i n ge r the glass ceiling N o the glass ceiling no longer exists declares Tina Savas entrepreneur and business owner. What we have in its stead is gender asbestos which is embedded in the very walls of our institutions and is very difficult to dispel. percent of senior management positions globally in Thailand China Taiwan and Vietnam respectively the numbers are 30 19 18 and 16 percent. In 2011 there were 98 female CEOs among the 3 049 publicly traded companies in the U.S. The phrase glass ceiling has been used since the 1980s to describe an unacknowledged and ultimately illegal barrier preventing women and persons of color from reaching the higher echelons of business management. Yet today discussion centers more on leadership and the styles women bring into the C-suites rather than the dismal statistics with many analysts affirming that women actually make better leaders and are more suited to the leadership styles needed in today s organizations. In addition the career ladder is no longer linear. Patricia Sellers Fortune Magazine editor-at-large has said The most successful people I know don t think of their career as a ladder but rather a jungle gym. A woman s life choices may inevitably push her along a lateral course. Sellers also opines that women tend to view power more horizontally than men tend to--less about rank and status and size. [It s m]ore about influence and spreading it broadly. Jack Zenger and Joseph Folkman authors of The Inspiring Leader writing in the Harvard Business Review Blog Network contend that based on 30 years of research on leadership effectiveness and a 2011 survey of more than 7 000 leaders from successful and progressive organizations in today s business world women may possess superior leadership capabilities Savas coauthor of Women of True Grit newspaper publisher and busi- ness consultant goes further. Gender asbestos is a societal norm. For the last 60-plus years we as women have labored to establish equality in the workplace. Yet the fact that we are not equal to men has been pushed aside. Women work differently from men. Studies note differing behaviors men tend to function as solitary competitive personalities women value teamwork and validation. The old corporate values of exclusion logic and domination are giving way to inclusion intuition and coexistence. As women we are faced with shifting the old value system we helped to create by asserting equality. We must now demonstrate that we are different and that we work and lead in different ways. Agree or disagree Check the statistics. A review of Fortune 500 CEOs in 2013 reveals 22 women at the top of public corporations including wellknown names like Hewlett Packard IBM Pepsico Dupont Campbell Soup and groundbreaker Xerox led by the first African-American CEO in the history of the Fortune 500 Ursula M. Burns. At the rate women are advancing Savas predicts that gender parity in the U.S. will be achieved in 2075. A 2011 Grant Thornton International Business Report notes that women now hold 20 30 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM compared to men. In the survey women at every level were rated by peers bosses and associates as better overall leaders than their male counterparts--and the higher the level the wider the gap grows...Two of the traits where women outscored men to the highest degree taking initiative and driving for results have long been thought of as particularly male strengths. that women reaching the higher levels of management are dying of asbestos poisoning. They leave they don t perform and the business suffers. What s more telling senior management in these companies was either unaware of this fact or indifferent to it. Savas asserts This will change only if the CEO has the foresight and determination to regard and frame diversity as a business issue and not a women s issue. Hiring training promotion and retention of women and minorities create what I term the diversity dividend. The talent within a company s work force should be its first priority and its market approach its second. Ultimately I m concerned that due to lack of attention to these principles a huge dearth of talent is about to hit many CEOs between the eyes. The companies that focus in these two areas L Oreal is a prime example become gender and diversity bilingual and moreover communicate this focus well will be the ones to succeed in today s business environment. Glass ceiling or gender asbestos However one describes it the diversity dividend is good for business and smart leaders are paying attention to it. Editor s Note On January 15 2014 Mary Barra punched a hole in the glass ceiling when she assumed the wheel of Fortune 500 company General Motors. Barra started at GM when she was 18 as an electrical engineering co-op student. HLM Sources blogs.hbr.org catalyst.org cnn.com dol.gov forbes.com impactinstruction.com psychologytoday.com shrm.org zfco.com Sandberg Cheryl Lean In Women Work and the Will to Lead. In addition the career ladder is no longer linear. Patricia Sellers Fortune Magazine editor-at-large has said The most successful people I know don t think of their career as a ladder but rather a jungle gym. A woman s life choices may inevitably push her along a lateral course. Kellie McElhaney and Sanaz Mobasseri of the Haas School of Business at the University of California Berkley conclude in their report Women Create a Sustainable Future ...companies that explicitly place value on gender diversity perform better in general and perform better than their peers on the multiple dimensions of corporate sustainability. These comments echo Savas earlier statement and segue to her additional concern that the many stereotypes of gender asbestos and its results are ringing a death knell for businesses. A recent Catalyst study revealed HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 31 HERLIFE FINANCE identity theft by v i rg i n i a m a r ti n don t be the victim of M 32 odern technology has made life easier in so many ways. Headed to the store No need to go to the bank to get cash just pull out your debit card. When you do need to bank you can do it online. Tired of walking to the mail box You can get all your bills through email along with mes- the federal government they called to tell people they needed new insurance or Medicare cards. Many Americans were tricked into sharing personal information that then could be used to hack into their accounts. That scam sages from your favorite stores and services. To the extent that technology has made life easier for you it s also made life easier for con men and thieves. They don t even have to break into your house to clean you out anymore. They can wiggle their way into your financial accounts. The Federal Trade Commission estimates Americans lose more than 1 billion a year in scams of one sort or another. So how do you avoid being one of the victims You can t eliminate the risk completely that would require living on a cash-only basis and unplugging yourself from the world. But with a little common sense and diligence you can greatly reduce the likelihood you ll become a victim and minimize the damage if you do. Know the dangers Scammers are always changing up their routines so you should enter any unsolicited transaction with skepticism. Scammers even took advantage of confusion over the Affordable Care Act. Claiming to be from HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Scammers even took advantage of confusion over the Affordable Care Act. Claiming to be from the federal government they called to tell people they needed new insurance or Medicare cards. Many Americans were tricked into sharing personal information that then could be used to hack into their accounts. was so brazen it earned the Better Business Bureau s recognition as Scam of the Year for 2013. Other scams can be a twist on the tried-and-true. Scammers call and say you are eligible for a free medical alert or alarm system then they want your credit card information to charge you for the first month of service. That s 35 you ll never see again. Or a caller will say you ve won a sweepstakes but you have to pay a processing fee to claim the prize. Never do this. No legitimate sweepstakes will charge you to claim a prize. Scammers may call you and let the phone ring just once. Do not return that call unless it s a number you recognize. The line may have been set up as a premium service number and with no more action than hitting dial you ve incurred charges of 20 or more a minute. Some of the sneakiest scams arrive in your email or by text message. If you get an email or text telling you to follow a link to update your personal information reactivate your account or avoid some imagined tragedy be wary. Chances are you ll get to an official-looking website that asks you to sign in and now the scammers have access to your account. Or the link launches malware that gives the scammer access to any information on your computer or phone. Know who you are dealing with Scammers are sophisticated at making their calls emails and websites seem credible. In general the wisest course of action is not to share any of your personal information with someone who has contacted you unsolicited. If you think you might be dealing with a legitimate business look up their phone number independently and call them back. Or look up companies on the internet to gauge their credibility. While you re at it put the word scam in the search engine with their name so you can see whether others have reported them for fraudulent dealings. Get Proactive The adage the best offense is a good defense applies to protecting yourself from fraud. Read your credit and debit account statements every month to make sure there are no suspicious transactions. Install a good internet security program on your computer to combat the dangers of malicious software that could be downloaded without your knowledge. Also consider contracting with a credit monitoring service to alert you of any suspicious activity. What to do if you think you ve been had Despite all your efforts you could become the victim of fraud. But there are steps you can take to minimize the damage. If you see any suspicious activity on a credit card immediately contact the company and your bank. Both can help track down fraudulent transactions and monitor activity on your accounts. File a police report and a complaint with the Federal Trade Commission. Contact one of the major credit bureaus and ask them to put an alert on your account. This not only is a declaration that you ve been the victim of identity theft it also could help authorities track down the culprits more quickly. Time is of the essence when you re dealing with suspected identity theft. Scammers can bleed you dry in small ways over the course of months or in big ways over just a few days. The possibilities may seem overwhelming but with a few steps now you can minimize your risk of being victimized in the future. HLM Sources consumer.ftc.gov fbi.gov scams-safety scambusters.org forbes.com bbb.org. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 33 HERLIFE BOOK CLUB r ev i ew by k a th l e e n k r u e ge r T he finest of pleasures are always the unexpected ones. This quote from Erin Morgenstern s debut novel The Night Circus epitomizes the book as a whole. Although you may find the familiar elements of magic mystery and romance within its pages none of these will present Visually everything about the circus is black and white. Not just the tents but the costumes of each performer the intricately detailed clock that is perfectly positioned to welcome visitors as they enter the gate even the carousel. The realities of the circus however are never clearly distinguishable they are not so black and white. They are enveloped in a shadowy mist leaving you uncertain as to what is real what is illusion and what fits into a category entirely unto itself. As the circus travels from one unsuspecting location to another the fascination of circus-goers grows--they eventually develop into a loosely connected fan base known as r veurs. They learn to recognize one another by a subtle distinction in their dress they dress in solid black or white with one bright red accessory a scarf a hat or a flower to set them apart. When they depart they shake hands and embrace like old friends even if they have only just met and as they go their separate ways they feel less alone than they had before is the author s description. The story begins not with the circus but years before it has even entered the imagination of its creator. It begins by introducing us to the two characters with a shared destiny a little girl named Celia and an orphan boy named Marco. Celia is being trained by her father. Marco is being trained by his benefactor Alexander. Their skills are given no particular label but they involve forms of manipulation and illusion on a grand scale. Each is totally unaware themselves in predictable or familiar forms. Each chapter is a puzzle piece turned over raising more questions as to what the completed picture will look like. The title however is quite clear as to the story s setting it is a circus that is open only at night. Without advance notice the circus arrives. A previously empty field becomes populated with tents of various shapes and sizes all made of black-and-white-striped canvas. The grounds are enclosed within a fence with a large locked entry gate. A notice upon the gate informs the curious that the circus Opens at Nightfall Closes at Dawn. The name of the cir- cus is written in scripted neon lights over the gate Le Cirque des R ves-- The Circus of Dreams. Everything about this circus is exceptional from the contortionist whose body seems as moldable as putty to tiny chocolate mice that melt in your mouth to the mazes of magical beauty that keep you enthralled from the entrance of the tent until you exit. The scent of popcorn spiced cider and hot chocolate swirl through the air creating a sweet-salty scent that you can almost taste. 34 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM of the other s existence or the true nature of the competition for which they are being so carefully groomed until the setting for the competition the circus is ready for their entrance. This is not a competition of one-on-one in a ring with spectators cheering on their favorite challenger. Only the opponents are aware of the game being played--they and the two chess players who have set them on the board as opposing pawns. The rules are minimal but must be followed. The final goal and winning move is left undefined a detail left to be disclosed at the proper time. A competition that begins as an attempt to out-do the other with their creative wonders transforms into a romance between the two challengers. As they gradually join forces the delicate balance of enchantment that holds the entire circus together begins to crumble. Celia and Marco find themselves and everyone connected with The Circus of Dreams in peril. The author is a master of description able to paint intricate scenes of perfection without overwhelming you with the details. She carefully uncovers clues to the complexities that hold the entire mystery of the circus together never telling too much and always adding new elements of uncertainty as she provides a bit of clarity to another. Fans of the book are begging for the movie. Although Summit Films bought the rights in 2011 The Night Circus has not yet hit the big screen. If and when that film opening occurs I would anticipate an audience of r veurs all dressed in black and white accented with a bright splash of red. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 35 HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT Lara s Theme wr it t en by judy gop p e r t p h o to gra p hy p rov i d e d by l a ra s th e m e of flowers in Italian so it would seem this chosen career is perfect for Lara. She owns Lara s Theme a full-service wedding and event planning firm offering a variety of levels of services. Lara believes every couple is different and therefore every wedding should 36 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM L ara Fiorelli is in love That makes her job of planning and staging weddings even more thrilling. Her last name Fiorelli means for the love be unique and she takes pride in customizing their services to meet those individual needs throughout the planning process and wedding day. They offer event planning and flower design and her fianc is an officiant. I started out going to school for fashion marketing and my roommate worked at a flower shop. My first job after having my son was at a flower shop. That s where I really got my training over 20 years ago Lara noted. I worked for several flower shops in town and then started my own business five years ago. She always enjoyed designing flowers for weddings and Facebook propelled her into her business. With it and her background in marketing she found she could market herself easily. She began networking on Facebook and found vendors that she works with. I had photographers cake designers bridal shops and makeup artists online The first thing I did was a photo shoot and I realized I wanted to put my own designs out there. Over the last five years I have done many photo shoots showcasing my designs that can be found on stylemepretty.com and 100layercake.com. I love the styling aspect and my brides love that. I try to make every wedding different. I m not a cookie cutter flower shop. Every wedding is uniquely styled. She enjoys the planning process with brides and has some news herself. I got engaged on Valentine s Day and my fianc is now an officiant. He s really good at it and we work together with planning. Their love story is sweet. She met her fianc Richard Andrews on Facebook. He had a business in Fort Lauderdale called ShangriLara a wedding accessory business. She found him and friended him because of the name. I remember seeing how he worded things and that he was waiting on a jet plane like I was. I started talking with him. He said he would be in town the following weekend and we could have lunch and talk about our businesses. We went to lunch and were both hoping it was more than a business lunch. We had lunch at Waldo s which my family built. Well we had everything in common we both like good food traveling gardens weddings and we are both very romantic A month or two later he invited me to Fort Lauderdale and took me on an amazing boat tour all over the coastal waters different restaurants beautiful houses gardens and we ve been together ever since They have talked about eloping to Italy or Paris in January during their slow month then coming back to celebrate with a wedding party. They have expanded their wedding planning to Fort Lauderdale and Lara opened an office at 2925 Cardinal Drive Suite H above Polished Salon in Vero Beach Florida. Having an office away from home helps her focus. She blends her creativity with experience to envision themed weddings that are out of this world. I really understand how the brides feel when they come to me now more than ever. Many of my brides become my friends. For Lara starting out on her own was scary. She was a single mom making ten dollars an hour and decided she was going to do it now or never. With every step you keep on going to succeed. If something isn t working then you come up with another idea to make it happen. There were pitfalls in the last five years. I thought I wanted to have a wedding dress shop a magazine but they didn t work so I kept focusing on the one thing I wanted to do. That s important. I definitely recommend focusing on one part of your business educate yourself and know what you re talking about she reflected. When you own your own business you wear a lot of hats and need a lot of patience. You must keep on trying and take one thing at a time. You never know who you re talking to and who you re going to meet. I treat everyone the same and of importance. For example I had one bride I helped out who couldn t afford a lavish wedding. She ended up referring 50 brides to me Referrals are good Lara affirmed. Lara s Theme feels love is in the details when it comes to flowers and planning. This creative and exciting firm services all of South Florida from Vero Beach and Stuart to Fort Lauderdale and the Florida Keys. HLM Find out more at larasthemes.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 37 HERLIFE TIE THE KNOT 38 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Virgie Sean Tied the Knot March 16 2014 businesses that shared in the love Bridal Gown Mariolka s Bridal Boutique Bridesmaids Gowns Mariolka s Bridal Boutique Hair Styling M3 Makeup Makeup M3 Makeup Photography Barca Designs Caterer Mystic Dunes Resort Cake Cupcake Hearts Venue Mystic Dunes Resort V State. wr it t en by m ar ily n is am i n ge r p h o to gra p hy p rov i d e d by b a rc a d e si g n s irgie Elizondo Korte is originally from Costa Rica. Her favorite color is blue. She loves chocolate and the Miami Heat and she likes to hang out with her dogs and have wine nights with friends. Sean Alexander Korte moment to fix my shoe. I caught her completely off guard The blissful couple tied the knot on March 16 2014. The wedding party consisted of six bridesmaids Virgie s sisters and close friends and six groomsmen who were Sean s brothers and close friends. Four junior attendants all nieces of the groom two flower girls and a ring bearer filled out the bridal party. Virgie shares the details of their wedding day. We were married at Mystic Dunes Resort in an outdoor ceremony overlooking the golf course with 95 of our closest friends and family present to share our happiness. I planned a neutral color scheme with shades of gold ivory nude and blush. The four junior bridesmaids each carried a sign that read Here Comes the Bride as they preceded me down the aisle Our reception was in the ballroom with dinner and dancing. We had a very romantic and fun day with a sparkler exit and departure from the reception in a golf cart that said Just Married. HLM originally from North Miami is a huge Miami Hurricanes fan he loves all Miami sports teams but the Hurricanes are his favorites. In his free time Sean enjoys playing poker football and road trips. Virgie and Sean both attended Tallahassee Community College and work for the Florida Department of Virgie and Sean met through a mutual friend at a softball game. She shares We have been together now for five years. For our first date Sean took me out to dinner and a movie and we ve been together ever Sean relates his calculating move for his proposal. Virgie loves her dogs so I planned for a nice walk with the dogs and waited for the right moment to fix my shoe. I caught her completely off guard since. Our favorite date night now as a married couple is to make bruschetta and chocolate-covered strawberries and watch movies at home. Sean relates his calculating move for his proposal. Virgie loves her dogs so I planned for a nice walk with the dogs and waited for the right HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 39 HERLIFE TRAVEL by k ri sti n o r th c u tt E with. all aboard The city of Savannah is following Miami s lead with historic and architectural tours by boat. In a historic riverboat the captain s intriguing tales of times gone by appeal to all ages during this two-hour ride. Tourists learn the history of Savannah and the port and see statues that tell their own stories along the way. veryone has heard the Gilligan s Island premise the three hour tour that turned into years. Well the little boat tour may just be the way to go especially if you want to see the city Hail a cab and see it from the ground up ride the elevator to the top of the highest tower for the bird s eye view or take to the water and see it from a unique vantage point that a growing number of tourists are on board Touring the town by boat is a growing trend in city tourism with a resurgence and revitalization of many downtowns and canals once untouched or left behind. These tours are not limited to the coasts. In fact from the nation s boundaries all the way in there s a river (and a city) with a view. Tourists in San Diego enjoy sightseeing on the bay every day of the sunny year. Narrated tours delight explorers who are longing to see the scenery and the beautiful skylines and may want to do some waterfront shopping. The water taxi picks up at stops along the way so passengers can eat shop and play on the water. Hopping coasts Miami takes on a different vibe with their version of the river tour. Local historians narrate one route including history of the Tequesta Indians and the cargo district. This waterfront city is undergoing a complete transformation as dozens of hotels condos and buildings are popping up along the banks making it a cultural hotbed of past meets present. Modern yachts seat up to 140 people and navigate what isn t the prettiest body of water in the city it s not the clearest or the cleanest and it s certainly not made for swimming. But along its banks are remnants of Miami as it once was and as it longs to be. 40 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM One of the most well-known and popular river tours is in the Windy City of Chicago. Being dyed green every St. Patrick s Day brings fame to this waterway but the tours by boat are heralded as the most iconic in the land. What would river tours be without the mighty Mississippi Experience New Orleans the way our ancestors did--with paddles With tributaries stretching into more than 30 states the Mississippi has hosted passengers and cargo boats on the bustling riverfront throughout history. Today passengers experience the paddleboat as they float past the French Quarter Port of New Orleans landmarks the devastation of the 1815 Battle of New Orleans and the modern day battle scars of Hurricane Katrina. While out East don t miss the Chattanooga Riverboat Cruise aboard a 70-passenger catamaran the first of its kind in the Southeast. This scenic waterway is home to a wide variety of plants and animals each pointed out by a Chattanooga Aquarium naturalist who also narrates points of interest along the route. If history calls your name choose the Southern Belle a three-deck paddlewheel tour that highlights Confederate and Union army points of interest and the history of Lookout Mountain. One of the most well-known and popular river tours is in the Windy City of Chicago. Being dyed green every St. Patrick s Day brings fame to the Chicago River but the tours by boat are heralded as the most iconic in the land. The breathtaking skyline vibrant city history and famous architecture triumph as visitors head out to Lake Michigan and back. Slow romantic cruises by candlelight to fast fun connections between major tour destinations include the Navy Pier Michigan Avenue Bridge Trump Tower the famous Corn Cobs and Union Station. Two more tours staking their claim in canal revitalization are river tours in Oklahoma City and St. Louis. People often don t consider these landlocked lands as boat-friendly but the downtown areas and their river walks are taking the Midwest by storm. The Bricktown Water Taxi in Oklahoma City runs continual service like a bus water ambassadors narrate points of interest along the way. In nearby St. Louis take a ride on a replica 19th-century paddle-wheel boat from the riverfront below the south leg of the Gateway Arch. While cruising passengers are treated to a historical overview of the area and the role this working river still plays today. Finally travel deep into the heart of Texas for the original and arguably most famous and most photographed Riverwalk. River taxis make 39 stops for passengers to board or hop off at eat meet and play destinations in iconic San Antonio. This tour set the standard for many of the others to follow and has set the stage for river tourism in America. Seeing the city from the water gets tourists outside the norm. Whether you re looking for a lesson or leisure touring the town by boat has what you need to get a new vantage point. Sit back relax and let the Skipper take you on a tour. Just steer clear of the three-hour version. HLM Sources creolequeen.com Riosanantonio. com gatewayarch.com bricktownwatertaxi.com Shorelinesightseeing.com islandqueencruises.com savannahriverboat.com historymiami.org sandiego.org chattanoogariverboat.com tnaqua.org. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 41 HERLIFE RECIPES penne with sausage and mushroom ragu Serves 6 Prep time 15 minutes Cook time 15 minutes ingredients 1 pound penne pasta 1 Tablespoon olive oil 1 small sweet onion diced small 3 garlic cloves minced 8 ounces baby bella mushrooms sliced salt and pepper teaspoon red pepper flakes 1 pound Italian sausage 1 cup white wine 3 1 can (28 ounce) diced tomatoes 4 cups baby spinach cup freshly grated Parmesan cheese directions Bring a large pot of salted water to boil. Cook the pasta according to package directions until al dente. Meanwhile heat the olive oil in a large nonstick saut pan over medium-high heat. Add onion and cook until soft and translucent about 3 minutes. Add garlic cook for about 20 seconds. Add mushrooms and cook until softened about 3 more minutes. Season with salt and pepper and red pepper flakes. Add sausage and cook breaking up into small pieces until no pink remains 3 more minutes. Raise heat to high and pour in the wine cook until evaporated. Add tomatoes and their juice bring to a simmer. Drain pasta add to the sauce with the spinach. Toss to coat and allow the leaves to wilt. Add in the Parmesan taste and season with salt and pepper if necessary. Serve in individual bowls and pass some fresh parmesan at the table. HLM recipes and p hot ogr ap hy by ver y c ulinar y.c om potato and cheese pierogi with saut ed cabbage and apples Serves 4 Prep time 10 minutes Cook time 10 minutes ingredients 1 (16 ounce) package Monterey Pasta Potato and Cheese Pierogi 2 Tablespoons unsalted butter 1 medium sweet onion sliced thin 1 large apple cut into -inch pieces 1 (10 ounce) bag shredded green cabbage 1 Tablespoon white balsamic vinegar 1 teaspoon sugar teaspoon kosher salt teaspoon freshly ground black pepper Sour cream optional directions Cook the pierogi according to the pan-fry package directions. In the meantime heat the butter in a large nonstick saut pan over mediumhigh heat. Add the onion and cook stirring occasionally until soft about 4 to 5 minutes. Add the apple and cook for 1 minute. Add in the cabbage vinegar sugar salt and pepper. Cook stirring until the cabbage is slightly wilted but still crunchy about 2 to 3 minutes. Divide the cabbage mixture among plates. 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Email your questions or comments to info drman.com or call (561) 395-5508 for an appointment. HERLIFE MOTHER S PERSPECTIVE by h a l l i e saw ye r before sending your kids out on their own. Preparation Getting prepared doesn t just mean labeling your child s underwear and buying sunscreen. It also means getting your child mentally prepared for the days without you. Even though they may be begging to go to camp a good first step may be starting with day camps before plunging into sleepover camp. Explain to your child that homesickness is normal especially during family routine times like meals and bedtime. Let them know the counselors are trained to help when they feel this way and to share these feelings. Give your child a diary to write down their feelings helping to personalize their bunk space when they arrive may be all they need to feel at home at camp. If your child is going to sleep away camp nearby a quick trip to tour the camp would be a good way to settle some nerves. Check with the camp to see if they have a checklist of things your child will need while there and help them pack so nothing is left behind. Researching the Right Camp Start with referrals. Checking with friends and neighbors will give you first-hand accounts whether good or bad which are worth their weight in gold. There s no need to make your child a pioneer when so many have gone before them. 44 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM C sending your child to camp Another handy resource is the American Camp Association whose website lists almost 2 400 accredited camps. ACA accreditation means that a camp underwent a thorough review of its operations (up to 300 standards) from emergency management to staff qualifications and training. Camps are great ways to explore your child s interests. Do they love nature and exploring Are they a science or math whiz Have they always wanted to learn to ride a horse Specialized camps centered around sports music theater or culture offer kids the chance to learn new skills and try new adventures in a safe and controlled environment. Do s and Don ts Do have your child involved in the decision. It will get them excited and give them ownership of the experience. Don t tell them you ll come get them if things get too hard or they miss you too much. This will undermine their confidence to try new things as well as their resolve to stick it out when things get tough. Do notify the camp if your child has food allergies create a Food Allergy Action Plan. Learn their procedures to prevent cross-contact and keep your child safe. Don t overstep your boundaries when it comes to communication with your child. Camp counselors are trained to handle any issues and it will show your child you trust them. Do take advantage of the alone time to reconnect with your spouse. When s the last time you went on a date Don t waste this perfect opportunity Don t let your own fears and anxieties keep your child from experiencing camp for themselves. Camp is an opportunity for your child to learn independence confidence and to become more self-assured. Camp Costs Summer camp costs can range widely depending on what the camp offers. The variation in costs often reflects the camper-to-counselor ratio and the amenities provided. Overnight camps are more expensive because of the need for 24-hour staff and sleeping facilities. Some camps offer financial assistance early bird discounts reduced rates if siblings also attend Groupons may also help defer some of the cost. Going to camp is actually good for your child s health. Tina Payne Bryson a PhD and pediatric and adolescent psychotherapist revealed in a recent article that going to camp actually helps develop a child s brain. An experience such as going to camp activates the middle prefrontal cortex the part of the brain that regulates our body and emotions gives us insight helps us feel empathy adapt to new situations and overcome fear. Recurring experiences exercise that part of the brain the more they happen the stronger it gets especially when those experiences are emotional challenging and outside the norm. If that doesn t sound like camp then I don t know what does. HLM Sources acacamps.org sheknows.com. amp season is just around the corner and soon sleeping in bunk beds will be all the rage. Whether it s day camp or a week away from home there are some things to do and not to do hot deals HOPE HEALTH & WELLNESS JO LI NI Z ALTERATION & TAILORING 561-392-8969 33 South East 7th St. Suite J Boca Raton FL 33432 Palm Beach Gardens 4290 Professional Center Dr. 561-721-9696 West Palm Beach 655 N. 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