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We welcome your ideas articles and feedback. 8 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 9 10 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 11 HERLIFE CONTENTS features 28 76 78 58 40 14 18 20 Welcome From the Publisher Health Multiple Sclerosis Beauty Color Palettes for Your Skin Type Spotlight Dr. Ramin Manshadi Cosmetic Surgery Body Contouring and Scar Treatment Inspirations Kathy Duran Home Spring Cleaning Real Estate Leverage Your Home for Investment HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 38 Garden The Emotions of Gardening Green Living Xeriscaping Trendsetter Bridal Hair and Makeup Trends She Said Yes Sarah and Robert Tie The Knot Samantha and Rod Behind the Camera Dee Yates Studios Travel Road-Trip Wonders Pets Boarding Your Pet 64 Spotlight Cherry Frame of FEG Insurance Finance Stock Prospectus Working Women A New Way to Work Mother s Perspective Adoption Language Fine Things Fine Writing Instruments Cravings Bueno Italiano Culinary Ask the Cook Recipes Thai Fish Curry Shamrock Wonton Crackers 82 Wine Wine and Cheese Pairings Under the Cork Macchia Behind the Menu Olas Mexicali Grill Foodies Book Club The Divorce Papers Scene and Be Seen Lodi Health Celebrates Careers of Two Physicians Horoscope Calendar 40 42 66 70 72 74 76 78 80 84 86 88 90 92 22 24 50 52 56 58 62 28 34 36 94 96 12 HERLIFE WELCOME six M y baby boy turns six years old this month. In the blink of an eye he is growing up into a little man. It feels like yesterday I was holding him in my arms in the hospital delivery room looking down at him in wonderment at his little face and his red hair. I knew there was something special about this little boy but I had no clue how this tiny baby would forever change my life. I was in my late 20s when Jackson was born. Bryan and I had just moved to Portland Oregon a year earlier. I was heavy into a feud with my mother that had lasted over a decade. My career was on hiatus as I didn t know yet what my passion was or what in the world I wanted to be when I grew up and I thought I had all of the answers of what it was to be a good mother. There I sat in the hospital with my baby boy clueless of what the next six years would bring. Joy happiness exhaustion sadness frustration and back to joy again was the cycle of my emotions over the first year of Jackson s life. I felt like I was on a roller coaster that never stopped. The highs made me feel on top of the world but the low moments made me feel like someone punched me in the gut. I didn t realize it at the time but I was learning about life and what I wanted from my life and that was just as rewarding as watching my baby grow and experience all the firsts of his first year. Jackson has been such a blessing to me and my family. He is a free spirit with an amazing heart. He is passionate and wild. His sense of humor is beyond his years. He changes every week but the changes that have surprised me the most are the changes I see in myself. Patience love empathy respect and understanding are values I have learned through being his mother. I am forever changed because of him. My relationship with my own mother changed almost in an instant when he was born. I gained a son and a best friend in March 2009. I am truly blessed. Happy Birthday baby p h o to by stu d i o m o h s o h K imb er ly M ullen facebook Herlife of Central Valley twitter HERlifeCali 14 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 15 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 17 HERLIFE HEALTH multiple sclerosis by l i sa ta ra n to b u tl e r million people have MS. The typical person has about a 1 in 750 chance of developing MS but someone with a family history or other risk factors are more likely to get it. If you or a loved one has been diagnosed with multiple sclerosis you may not only be scared but also may have a multitude of questions to ask. What is MS MS is thought to be an immune-mediated disorder in which the immune system attacks healthy tissue in the central nervous system causing the tissue to become inflamed. The protective covering (called myelin ) of the nerves is damaged and over time the nerve cells may also become damaged. As a result messages from the brain and spinal cord going to other parts of the body may be delayed or have trouble reaching their destination causing symptoms of MS. Symptoms The onset of MS symptoms typically happens between the ages of 20 and 40. While some symptoms come and go others may linger substantiating the unpredictability of the disease. Triggered by stress body temperature and other factors symptoms will vary from person to person and may include the following Tingling or numbness in arms or legs Partial or complete loss of vision usually in one eye at a time often with pain during eye movement double vision or blurriness Electric-shock sensations when moving the head in certain ways Imbalance tremor or lack of coordination slurred speech muscle fatigue or dizziness Problems with bowel and bladder function As the disease progresses other symptoms may include deteriorating thought process general fatigue and possible sexual disturbances. Who Gets MS Studies have connected certain viruses with an increased risk of de18 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Diagnosis Because people experience various symptoms MS is very hard to diagnose. Doctors may mistake the symptoms of MS for other diseases and because there is no exact way to test for it MS can take awhile to confirm. Although there is no cure for MS it is not considered a fatal or contagious disease. Most people with MS have a normal life expectancy and many challenges are preventable or manageable veloping MS. One in particular is the Epstein-Barr virus (EBV) which causes mononucleosis. Women are twice as likely as men to develop MS and over the last 50 years the gender difference has been increasing. All ethnic groups are at risk for getting MS but it is more common in Caucasians. While studies suggest that genetic risk factors increase the likelihood of developing MS there is no evidence that the disease is directly inherited. Smoking and lack of vitamin D have also been shown to increase the risk of MS. One study in 2013 suggested that babies born in May have significantly lower levels of vitamin D and are at much greater risk for developing MS than babies born in November. O ftentimes the most frightening aspect of being diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis (MS) is its unpredictability. No one knows how they will feel from one day to the next let alone one month to the next. According to the National MS Society more than 2.3 Moving Forward with MS Currently there are 15 therapies for treating and managing MS while more and more very promising treatments are in development. To ensure a better quality of life individuals with the disease should take basic steps. Educate yourself and your loved ones about the disease treatments and symptoms. Take help where needed. Create a support network of family and friends and use resources such as the National MS Society the Multiple Sclerosis Foundation Community Internet boards and other community services to be a guide. Know your body. Everyone is different when it comes to MS. Know how and why your symptoms begin and if they are triggered by certain things you do. Plan your day according to how you feel. If you have more energy in the morning get the most difficult chores or work out of the way first. Prepare for the unpredictable. Think of alternatives for everyday activities in case your symptoms flare or you have a relapse. Do for others. Sign up to be an activist for the rights of the disabled join a self help group or start one of your own. Lead a healthy lifestyle. Exercise nutritious food and sleep make MS symptoms more manageable. Although no one can say with any certainty just how MS is likely to behave over time the possibilities for new and effective treatments have never been higher. And although the unpredictability still lingers the fight to live life to its fullest is a battle that can be won. HLM Sources mymsaa.org nationalmssociety.org and everydayhealth.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 19 HERLIFE BEAUTY color palettes for your skin type by m e r ri tt r e t h l a ke spite its seemingly perfect shade. Understanding your skin tone will break down any beauty barriers such as the lipstick debacle that come your way. Choosing the right color palette for your complexion will work wonders and luckily color matching your clothes jewelry and makeup has some hard and fast rules so you can find the best palette for your skin type. Colors are divided into pigments which helps determine a color analysis that looks at your natural coloring based on skin tone and hair and eye color. The most important step is determining if you have a cool or warm undertone which is the color right beneath your skin. Because it never changes it s the most accurate way of determining what colors are right for you. So while it s possible to have the same 20 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Y ou ve found the perfect shade of lipstick and a knockout dress for a party this weekend. But when you take a second look in the mirror the color doesn t look quite right de- skin tone as someone you most likely have a different undertone than they do Pink red or bluish hues signify cool undertones while yellow peachy or golden undertones suggest a warmer tone. It s possible to have neutral undertones which is a combination of both cool and warm tones and gives you the power to wear any color. Contrary to popular belief fair-skinned women can have warm undertones and similarly dark-skinned women can have cool undertones. After determining what warm cool and neutral means it s time to figure out how to understand your undertone for yourself and how to match colors accordingly. Do you tan easily Warm-toned women will bronze easily and quickly while a cool-toned woman s skin will burn first and then turn pink. Fair-skinned cool tones will simply burn and medium-skinned cool tones will burn then tan. Luckily your natural eye and hair color are also easy tricks to help you figure out your un- Do you tan easily Warm-toned women will bronze easily and quickly while a cool-toned woman s skin will burn first and then turn pink. Fair-skinned cool tones will simply burn and medium-skinned cool tones will burn then tan. dertones. Cool-toned people will generally have blue gray or green eyes and blonde brown or black hair (Think January Jones Anne Hathaway Lucy Liu.). If you re a woman with brown amber or hazel eyes and red brown strawberry blonde or black hair you are most likely warm toned (Think Jennifer Aniston Beyonc Rachel Bilson.). Or discovering your undertone can be done For jewelry cool skin tones favor platinum silver and white gold jewelry. Look for stone colors such as pink blue purple or magenta to really bring out the natural gorgeous pigment of your skin and undertone. with a flick of the wrist If you look at the inside of your wrist right now are your veins more greenish or more blue Green equals a warm tone and blue equals a more cool tone. When it comes to choosing a color palette that s best for your skin type look to plums pinks and magentas emerald and blue-based reds if you have a cool complexion. Warm-toned people will look best in warm reds or burgundy yellow-greens browns ivory and oranges. For jewelry cool skin tones favor platinum silver and white gold jewelry. Look for stone colors such as pink blue purple or magenta to really bring out the natural gorgeous pigment of your skin and undertone. Complementary jewelry hues for warm-skinned women are gold brass pewter and copper. Turquoise and coral-colored stones will look beautiful on you as will green orange or gold. But don t limit yourself to just gold or just silver depending on your pigment. Mixing and matching silver and gold is so trendy you ll find many pieces including both metals. And by adding complementary colored stones to your jewelry you ll make everything look elegant and cohesive. A makeup palette can work wonders when you find the right shades. When choosing a lipstick pick shades that are similar to your undertone. Look for shades with blue purple or pink tones if you have a cooler complexion and then warmer hues such as an orangey-red if your skin has more of a golden tone. No matter warm or cool everyone should stay away from pale or ashy accented lip colors. There s no room for 50 shades of gray in your color palette. For foundation you ll again want to match your undertones so warm women should go with a yellow or peach base and cool women opt for neutral or pink-based foundation. When it comes to eye shadows cool skin undertones will pair perfectly with silver pink or any jewel tones (such as emerald or sapphire) and you can complete the look when you match it with a cool pink or rosy blush. Gold copper and bronze will make your eyes and complexion pop if you have warm undertones. Pair it with a warm peach or coral blush for the ultimate beauty look. There are combinations of makeup that will complement either warm- or cool-skinned women as well as skin tones ranging from fair to olive to dark. Smoky or metallic eye shadow will look great on all women as long as it s applied sparingly. Now get out there and make that color wheel stop spinning HLM Sources beautyandbedlam.com examiner.com glo.com makeup. lovetoknow.com stylecaster.com and thebeautydepartment.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 21 HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT by r e becca flansburg ph o t o s by briggs photogra p hy I encourage readers to take a proactive approach to good heart health that includes annual physicals maintaining a healthy diet and exercise. Early detection of heart disease means early treatment and early treatment saves lives. D r. Ramin Manshadi cares about your heart. As the founder of Manshadi Heart Institute Inc. a premier cardiovascular practice in Stockton he is committed to providing patients with the best possible services with great results that set the standard for leading-edge and results-based care. Dr. Manshadi and the larger medical community here in Stockton work as a team to meet the medical needs of their community. MHI is a Cardio and Vascular center so we focus on the heart the arteries and the veins Dr. Manshadi confirmed. My practice focuses on prevention and intervention. Heart disease is still the number one cause of death among Americans but many people are unaware there may be a problem with their heart. For 50 percent of heart attack sufferers the first indication of a heart attack is sudden death. That s where the prevention piece comes in and I feel we should all be educated on our heart health. We provide patients with services such as cardiovascular executive heart health evaluation and venous evaluation and treatment. Another area of our focus is the recognition of how women are different than men in their presentation for having heart disease. There has been a longstanding belief that men are more to prone to die from heart attacks than women. Statistics show that on average 410 000 men die from heart attacks every year. But those same studies show that 455 000 women die from heart attacks annually. Women tend to present symptoms differently than men and they also tend to seek medical intervention less frequently. We re now witnessing an increased tendency for women over 50 to develop heart disease just as men do. At Manshadi Heart Institute we recognize this trend and encourage women to check into our advanced cardiovascular testing that is essential to providing the most accurate and complete diagnosis of their heart-related conditions. Dr. Manshadi has performed more than 1 000 interventional procedures during his career. Manshadi Heart Institute provides state-of-the-art interventional procedures that are excellent alternatives to open heart surgery and carotid artery surgery such as cardiac catheterization coronary artery stenting renal artery stenting iliac stenting drug-eluting stents balloon angioplasty pacemaker implantation and defibrillator implantation the majority of which are done on an outpatient basis at St. Joseph s Hospital and Dameron Hospital. Dr. Manshadi is an accomplished researcher speaker and writer on a variety of cardiology-related 22 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM DR. RAMIN MANSHADI AND MANSHADI HEART INSTITUTE INC Excellence in Cardiovascular Care topics and has penned numerous books chapters and research articles. In his latest book The Wisdom of Heart Health Attaining a Healthy and Robust Heart in Today s Modern World Dr. Manshadi brings his extensive knowledge of cardiovascular health directly to readers. This information-packed book covers a wide range of important topics related to heart health that should be mandatory reading for everyone concerned about cardiovascular disease. This book is for my patients not for me Dr. Manshadi advised. I took all of my knowledge on improving the lives of patients through excellence in cardiovascular education and prevention and paired it with the most common questions my patients have asked over the 15 years that I have been practicing. The result was my book. What many readers may not know is that this knowledgeable physician has generously pledged proceeds from the book to help purchase automated external defibrillators (AEDs) for placement in schools throughout California. Named a Top Doctor in 2011 and 2012 by U.S. News and World Report Dr. Manshadi believes his teamwork approach has helped him succeed in his field of cardiology. I feel privileged to be a cardiologist in this medical community he added. Given that there are such great-caliber cardiologists in this area as a team we have been able to have one of the best outcomes in cardiac care and delivery particularly at St Joseph s Hospital. As an associate clinical professor at the University of California Davis and president of his local medical association he professionally balances his work in private practice in academics and in the leadership activities for his cardiac society. When he isn t at the office Dr. Manshadi likes to spend quality time with his wife and their three children and stays active by being a head soccer coach for two competitive soccer teams skiing and community service. Dr. Manshadi shared sage advice about taking control of heart health. I encourage readers to take a proactive approach to good heart health that includes annual physicals maintaining a healthy diet and exercise. Early detection of heart disease means early treatment and early treatment saves lives. Get regular cholesterol and blood pressure checks take your medications as directed by your physician and maintain a healthy weight for your body type so your heart doesn t have to work as hard. At Manshadi Heart Institute we can conduct the appropriate exams to evaluate your condition and your cardiac risk factors and develop a treatment plan based on your individual needs. We as the larger medical community serving this area want everyone to live as long as possible and to enjoy life to the fullest. HLM To learn more about Manshadi Heart Institute Inc. visit their website at drmanshadi.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 23 HERLIFE COSMETIC SURGERY NATHAN A. KLUDT MD UC Davis Trained Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery body contouring and scar treatment Q I work out regularly and I m happy with my current weight but can t seem to get rid of the fullness by my bra strap. Are there any options A When it comes to our appearance it s the little things that tend to feel the most irritating. Those small isolated problem spots often continue nagging at us even after accomplishing major weight loss or other fitness goals and even when we re otherwise happy with our appearance. Even naturally slender women may feel embarrassed about fattiness in the back and upper torso especifically those small bulging areas that sneak out around bras and swimsuit tops. Some well-targeted body contouring can eliminate these trouble spots for smoother uninterrupted curves. Women aren t the only ones troubled by problem areas. Men are often plagued by persistent love handles and some may develop fullness in the chest as they age related to hormonal changes. Liposuction can reveal more muscular definition to the male chest and torso for a firmer more streamlined appearance. If you are happy overall with your body but the feeling of frustration over stubborn spots sounds all too familiar it might be time to consider liposuction to eliminate those little imperfections. Q I have been interested in a tummy tuck but I m concerned about the scar. What can be done to make it less noticeable A Anytime an incision is made on the skin there will be a scar. Unfortunately there is no way around that. However there are many techniques used by plastic surgeons both at the time of surgery and afterwards to help improve the scar s final appearance. Careful planning for placement of the incisions is crucial in defining the final location of the scar. With this taken into account incisions on the body can easily be concealed by clothing (even swimsuits and underwear). Incisions on the face are easily concealed within the hairline or an existing skin wrinkle to do away with any stigmata of surgery. At the time of surgery the utmost care is taken to handle the skin delicately which in addition to decreasing postoperative bruising and swelling will improve the final outcome of the scar. The tissues are closed precisely in their individual layers in order to recreate the body s natural state which leads to improved healing. These techniques can often be performed with sutures that completely dissolve on their own underneath the skin so there are no unsightly sutures to be removed. After the operation the incision will need to heal. The complete maturation process of the scar can take six months to a year. During this time there are a few things that can be done to improve your incision scar. The most proven (as well as cheapest) modality is simple scar massage. Applying pressure and massaging the well-healed scar has been shown to improve the appearance as it breaks up the scar tissue hopefully producing the finest scar possible. Other modalities that have been shown to add benefit are the application of silicone-based ointments. In addition avoidance of direct sunlight and the use of sunscreen on the incision will significantly help the appearance as the exposure to UV light can otherwise lead to darkening of the scar during the healing process. Occasionally some individuals have the tendency to form excessive scar tissue whether from injury piercings or surgical incisions. There are two types of excessive scarring hypertrophic scars and keloids. The former generally tend to grow for up to two years but then improve over time after that. Keloids however tend to exhibit continuous growth. Treatments for hypertrophic scars are similar to those mentioned above including massage silicone-based ointments and occasionally steroid injections into the scar itself. If these treatments do not adequately improve the appearance surgical revision of the scar itself can be considered. Keloid scars can be much more resistant to treatment and have a higher tendency to recur. For unclear reasons they tend to be more common in people of African-American and Asian descent. Treatment options often involve surgical excision with meticulous closure followed by multiple treatments of steroid injections into the healing scar to try to prevent the recurrence of the keloid. For extremely resistant or disfiguring keloids radiation therapy can be an effective mechanism to reduce recurrence rates in combination with surgical excision. HLM If you have questions or would like to hear about a certain topic relating to cosmetic surgery or skin care please email your questions to Kimberly herlifemagazine.com 24 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM L di Living 26 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 26 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 26 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 27 HERLIFE INSPIRATIONS 28 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM KATHYDURAN of Voil Gifts and Home D cor wr it t en by r eb ec c a flans b u rg p h o to gra p hy by j u l i e n i c o l e p h o to gra p hy s hot on lo c at ion at voil g ift s and home d co r h a i r a n d m a ke u p by j e n n i f e r ste a r n s o f p e rf e c t b a l a n c e d ay sp a one would use that word if something is being presented or shown as in Voil Here it is shared owner Kathy Duran. As you can imagine it makes for some interesting conversations Voted 1 Boutique Gift Store by The Record s Best of Lodi in 2014 this boutique is found at its new location on Locust Street. Fully stocked with a wonderful selection that is as unique and vibrant as its name Voil Gifts and Home D cor offers up products such as high-quality candles clocks and seasonal decorating accents. The shop also stocks a wide variety of women s accessories such as scarves stackable charm bracelets Twisted Silver jewelry and hats. Their seasonal d cor includes custom wreaths made from local sources ornaments and charming accents for any holiday occasion. Retail has been in Kathy s blood for many years due to the fact that her parents Carl and Judy Fink co-owned (with Nick and Dolores Spanos) Lake- C l assical and Uni que Gifts forAll W hen shoppers in the Central Valley region see the name Voil Gifts and Home D cor the catchy name is enough to pique interest. But once they set foot inside this flourishing Lodi business their interest turns to delight as they discover the treasures within. The name is actually pronounced vw -l and wood Drugs and Gifts an independent pharmacy and gift shop in Lodi for over 40 years. Retail has just been a part of me for as long as I can remember she shared. I remember when I was as young as eight years old helping my parents in their store by stocking greeting cards. Toward the later years they expanded their store into a 12 000-square-foot business that included a wide variety of gift shop items. I credit my father for instilling a strong business sense and work ethic in me and I also believe it was at that point that my fascination with the gift and d cor industry really took hold. Building on her love of the gift industry Kathy studied business with an emphasis on marketing at California Polytechnic State University SLO. After college she opted to work the other side of retail and enjoyed a successful stint in giftware sales in a San Francisco Bay Area territory. Instead of working in a retail store I sold to retail stores and enjoyed that work for more than 11 years Kathy remembered. After I met my husband while on vacation in Cancun together we decided to move back to Lodi. At the time I was still working in giftware sales but I was able to switch territories so I was able to work in and around the Lodi area. Once we were settled in and married we started a family and I was stay-at-home mom for a few years. After her three children started school Kathy felt it was time to try someHERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 29 thing new. Around that time in 2010 my sister Lana Carouba approached me about the idea of starting a small gift shop in the Lodi area. As one of the main buyers for our parents store she had a real feel for what types of items area shoppers would have an interest in and she had a strong customer following. Our parents store was no longer open since they had decided to retire and sell. It just seemed like the right time for us to join forces and create a business of our own. Together the sisters hatched a plan to create a small gift boutique for the upcoming Christmas season. We literally threw everything together in six weeks Kathy revealed. It was a very small location around 400 square feet which we were able to rent just for the holiday season. But it was so much fun to create and was so well received we felt we were onto something exciting. Then as life often does things took an unexpected turn for the two businesswomen. Two weeks after we opened Lana was diagnosed with breast cancer Kathy shared. It was a stressful and scary time as you can imagine. Lana was pretty much the lead on this whole gift boutique project and I was basically helping where I could behind the scenes. My main role for our business was more in a marketing and customer service capacity and she was the main force behind ordering and product display. In an instant everything shifted and changed. Lana worked as long as she could but there came a time when she needed to step back from our business to take care of herself and heal. When that happened I was thrown into the ownership role and it was very unfamiliar territory for me Finding herself in the driver s seat of her business only fueled her determination to make it work. I had a couple of other gals helping me so I wasn t completely alone Kathy informed. Our close friend Kelly Valenzuela worked the store whenever she could including Saturdays. My mom also was a tremendous help and support during this time and to this day she continues to work one day a week in the shop. I kept things going for my sister in hopes that she would be able to join me in the business once again. But that didn t happen. Her priorities changed and she chose to focus on health and family and I supported her completely in that decision. By then we were about two years in as a successful business and I was really starting to feel like I was getting the hang of things. Plus I was thoroughly enjoying running all aspects of this business With that under my belt I decided to keep the business going instead of closing the doors. It s a decision I am very glad I made. Fast forward a couple of years and Voil Gifts and Home D cor continues to grow and prosper. Kathy moved her successful boutique into a larger space in February 2014 30 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM and added more products and gift items to accommodate the business growing needs. I credit my husband Pedro for having the vision of moving to a bigger location. We made the decision to move into a larger better-located space and since he is a general contractor he remodeled and repaired our new location for me. We are so blessed with a wonderful customer base who continues to visit and shop here for all occasions. We work hard to bring in affordable items as well and I believe great things don t have to be expensive We ve added fun products such as table runners unique picture frames hostess or birthday gifts and stunning wall art and we ve expanded our jewelry lines to include pieces created by local artisans. I know our customers appreciate the extra-special touches that we do such as gift wrapping special orders and the fact that we support community events and causes whenever possible. I really do try my absolute best to help my customers find what they re looking for and have the best shopping experience possible when they come to my shop. As a business owner who has faced adverse times and persevered Kathy had these words of advice to share. The support of God family and friends can help you get through even the toughest of times. Pedro our kids Dominic Brendon and Talia my parents and my sister have always been my biggest supporters and the reason Voil is as successful as it is. When it comes to creating a business that you will love I just like to tell people to work hard have faith enjoy the journey and just know that if it s meant to be it will happen. HLM The support of God family and friends can help you get through even the toughest of times. Pedro our kids Dominic Brendon and Talia my parents and my sister have always been my biggest supporters and the reason Voil is as successful as it is. When it comes to creating a business that you will love I just like to tell people to work hard have faith enjoy the journey and just know that if it s meant to be it will happen. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 31 32 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 33 HERLIFE HOME spring cleaning by a l l i so n tu r n b e rg T here s something so satisfying about turning the calendar from February to March. Although that change doesn t instantly bring with it 70-degree warmth it signifies the light at the end of the long dark tunnel that is winter. It also signifies renewal which is why we often jump to perform all the usual spring cleaning duties that seemed to Window screens Dirty smudged windows are a sure sign that it s time to give them a wash but how do you know when to wash the window screen According to CNN window screens should be washed once a year. Give your screens a power wash with the garden hose. To go the extra mile make a solution of one part ammonia and three parts water and scrub them down with a sponge. Let them dry in the sun while you clean the windowsills and tracks. The next time you open the windows you ll be sure that the air coming through actually is fresh. Refrigerator coils Usually located on the back top or underside of the refrigerator the coils are overlooked more often than not when it comes to refrigerator cleaning. However dusty coils can cause the refrigerator to malfunction leading to lukewarm beverages and higher energy costs. Regular cleaning can maximize your fridge s energy efficiency. Make sure you unplug the refrigerator first to prevent injuries from electric shock. Then take a refrigerator coil brush (easily found at most hardware stores) to dislodge any dust pet hair and dirt. A vacuum attachment hose can pick up the dust that falls off or gets left behind on the coils. escape us while we were hibernating. But as you break out the carpet cleaner the bleach the furniture polish and the duster consider this list of commonly overlooked household items that could probably use a scrub. Coffee maker You wash your coffee pot and mugs but the coffee maker most likely needs more TLC. All the moisture inside can lead to mold and hard water deposits causing a poorly tasting brew. Don t leave this chore only for the spring cleaning though you should clean your coffee maker once a month. Simply place an empty filter in the coffee maker and fill the water reservoir with equal parts water and white vinegar. Brew about half of this mixture then turn off the coffee maker and let it sit for half an hour then finish the brew. Use a new empty filter and brew two pots of plain water to rinse. Remember to wipe down any damp surfaces on the inside after this cleaning and every use. 34 34 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Pillows Most people know better than to go months without washing their sheets but bed pillows sometimes never get washed in their lifespan. Down or synthetic fiber-filled pillows can easily be washed two at a time in the washing machine on the gentle cycle (be sure to place them vertically if your machine has an agitator that can t be removed). An extra rinse is ideal to ensure there s no soap left behind. Tumble dry on low heat. Unfortunately foam pillows aren t so simple they ll disintegrate under too much heat. Either spot clean or hand wash them per the instructions on the tag and air dry. Air ducts and return registers What about the air in your home While the thought of regularly cleaning your home s ductwork may seem logical it s best to do this only on an asneeded basis and with a professional company. The National Air Duct Cleaners Association has a database of certified professionals so you can find the best one for your home. According to the NADCA up to 40 pounds of dust is created through daily living each year so if you can t remember the last time you had your air ducts cleaned find a service to inspect them. However the Environmental Protection Agency maintains that having your air ducts cleaned has not been proven to prevent health problems which is why it should only be done as necessary. If your ducts are infested with vermin or clogged by mold or dust it might be time for a cleaning. Otherwise simply vacuuming or dusting the return registers and air vents on a regular basis will suffice. There are so many aspects of housekeeping that it can be tough to remember what items to clean and when to clean them. If you re worried you ve been skipping over an important and very dirty item try looking at what s right underneath your nose. The most commonly overlooked dirt and germ factories in the household are usually tied to items that we know to clean often. We clean pillowcases so we should clean pillows. We clean the coffee pot so we should clean the maker. Pay closer attention to some of the things you might have been ignoring over the years and this can be your most successful spring cleaning yet. HLM Sources cnn.com epa.gov geappliances.com goodhousekeeping.com huffingtonpost.com nadca. com and realsimple.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 35 HERLIFE REAL ESTATE for investment how to leverage your home L everage is a scary word to many people conjuring up complicated real estate deals. Simply put it means using other people s money (OPM) to make money. Sounds pretty good right Leverage should not be feared. Sure there is always risk in any investment but leverage is one of the most exciting and profitable ways to make money. The pros know this and do it all the time. You can take advantage of the power of leverage too. It s not a simple task if you re a beginner but the payoff may be well worth your efforts. First you should try to determine what your house is worth in the current market. You can do a comparative analysis yourself or hire a professional appraiser. That way you have an amount you can safely use for investment purposes real estate or otherwise. If you still owe on your home with a primary or first mortgage your banker may offer you a second mortgage based on your equity. Equity is the difference between what your home is worth and how much you owe on it. These loans come in two forms home equity loans and home equity lines of credit (HELOC) loans. Be prepared for higher interest rates than your primary loan because the bank is taking on more risk. In the event of a foreclosure these loans take a second position meaning your first or primary mortgage will be repaid first. Still this interest rate will be lower than a credit card. Keep in mind that with either of these loans the more you borrow the higher your monthly payments are. Be cautious that you don t get upside down where your new investment loses value and you can no longer make your loan One of the most famous real estate tycoons is Donald Trump a New York entrepreneur who continually leverages his net worth to buy fancy New York hotels as well as other landmark buildings. Not all of Trump s investment ideas are profitable and these surely hit the news on a recurring basis causing people like us to question our ability to make money in real estate. by t i n a v. savas payments. If this happens the bank can foreclose on your house. People generally take out home equity loans to pay for a specific one-time cost but use HELOC funds over a period of time. Another option is a cash-out refinancing where you refinance your existing or first mortgage and also borrow an additional sum from your equity at the same time. This gives you cash that you can use for investment purposes as well and it is the only type of refinance where you can actually use your home equity. You should carefully consider this option depending on the new interest rate and how much cash you take out your mortgage payments could increase. Make sure your new investment can handle the additional payment. Your banker can assist you in calculating how much your new loan payment will be but generally it depends on the value of your house and the banker s maximum allowed loan-to-value (LTV) ratio. Some lenders let you refinance up to 100 percent of your home value but you may have to pay private mortgage insurance until you rebuild 20 percent equity. Another popular form of leverage for people 36 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM today is called a reverse mortgage. Directed at seniors with limited incomes and a significant amount of home equity this tool allows you to take the equity out of your home without selling it or making any more payments. It s the reverse of a typical mortgage in which you make payments each month increasing your equity and decreasing your debt. With a reverse mortgage the lender pays you reducing your equity and increasing your debt. As long as you live in the house you do not have to pay back the mortgage. There are also requirements to qualify. Whoever is listed on the title must be 62 years old or over live in the home and have equity in the home. Reverse mortgages can also be costly for you as well as for your heirs. But thousands of seniors are benefiting from them today. And of course there is also the option of securing a first mortgage on your house if it s already paid for. You can apply for a loan and use the cash proceeds which is an excellent way to leverage your home for investment. Finally consider selling your house. You can purchase a less expensive one and take the remaining cash for your investment. Seldom do people realize how lucrative this can be especially if their house has greatly appreciated in market value. Whatever option you choose it s important to think carefully and seek professional guidance before putting your house on the line for any investment. But if you re convinced that your new investment will have the ability to make the new payments and offer you peace of mind then leveraging your home may be a wise financial decision. HLM Sources interest.com investopedia.com and wikibooks.org. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 37 HERLIFE GARDEN The Emotions of Gardening by s. e . filomeo photo by s .e. filomeo G nourished. ardening is fraught with emotions. Although you may never have given it much thought gardening comes with myriad states of consciousness. There is no feeling quite like the satisfaction of digging up and preparing the soil planting your seeds watering and then walking away at the end of the job with a sense of ac- There is a great peace of mind in knowing the origins of my soil as well as that of the manure which comes from contented cows across the way. The assurance in knowing I am truly organic is indeed comforting. Now begins the anxiety as I watch the forecast for a window of dry weather so the patches can be tilled without fear of clumping. If the soil is too wet or not friable meaning a handful breaks apart smoothly in the hand there will be problems with the dreaded clods forever. This of course is not such a concern with raised beds as the soil used is generally a highly friable mix of topsoil and various organic compounds. But since I use the ground that Mother Nature bestowed upon me so many years ago I still build up my rows the old fashioned field way like my family has been doing for generations. If one would have mentioned raised beds to my grandmother she would have replied ingenuously I like to touch the floor when I get up in the morning. As I rake the freshly tilled plots smooth and build up my levies I am guided by the vision of abundance I will be harvesting in the near future. Digging my holes and planting my little seedlings I ve started indoors for this very day gives me a great feeling of contentment even as the darkening sky brings to my task a sense of urgency. More often than not I will find myself racing against the waning daylight as I cover the roots of the last few tomatoes. And then there are the countless times my planting window has been dimmed by a sprinkle of rain or even a streak of lightning. But dusk and drizzle are no match for my determination to finish the job. No matter the dark or deluge I will persevere until every last plant is watered in and my tools are put away. No matter that I am exhausted and every muscle and bone feels like I ve been beaten with the shovel that I wearily lean upon. I stand in the twilight squinting through bleary eyes as a deep sense of satisfaction and pride fills me with profound euphoria. And if we are courageous enough to plant a winter garden the drama begins all over again in the fall. Happy glorious gardening my friends planting time is upon us For daily garden goodness follow me on Facebook Pinterest Instagram and Twitter. HLM complishment. You wait patiently watering every day to keep the seeds moist inspecting the bare ground for signs of cracking soil where a tiny cotyledon may be emerging to stretch its tiny leaves toward the sun. Sometimes the anticipation is near excruciating as you wait the one or two weeks hoping you ve given them enough water and praying the birds or snails haven t devoured the little seedlings before you get a chance to see them growing. And then there is the excitement of the first true sprout and even more gratification that your back-breaking labor and vigilance is going to pay off. A calm acceptance is needed while waiting for your garden to come to fruition. The first ripe tomato brings infinite joy while the slicing of your first melon fills you with pride for your dedicated efforts. And oh there s the frustration of weeds threatening to strangle what you have so painstakingly prepared and But the weeds are nothing compared with the disheartening defeat of aphids and spider mites sucking the life out of your lush green plants before they ve matured and perished of their own biological accord. The feeling of being overwhelmed comes after you have cooked canned frozen pickled and given away only a fraction of what your garden has produced. You feel as if so much is being wasted as you throw those gargantuan zucchini (which you could not pay the neighbor to take off your hands) on the compost heap. And at the end of the season you are filled with resignation and sadness as you watch the frost creep in turning to mush everything you have worked all summer long to create. For me each season begins with anticipation and excitement. In early spring it s my husband s job to secure a load of aged cow manure from the dairy across the road and to dump it on the designated areas. We let it set and stew atop the ground which has been raked clean of last year s crops. 38 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 39 HERLIFE GREEN LIVING xeriscaping by m a ri l y n i sa m i n ge r H alfway into the second decade of the 21st century the debate about global warming continues. But this gardener s convinced. It s time to look at the water-wise principles of xeriscaping and get ahead of the inevitably unpredictable drought cycles that are assuredly in our future. Choose the right plants You re not limited to cacti and yucca with xeriscaping. Drought-tolerant native plants and grasses shrubs and trees chosen with an eye to the exposure they will endure and grouped properly can survive many a mini-drought. Look for plants with thick roots that store water such as peonies or daylilies or long tap roots that dive deep into cooler soil such as baby s breath or butterfly weed. Lamb s ears salvia argentia and silvermound often grown for silver foliage have hairy leaves that add texture the gray and silver leaves reflect sunlight and the hairs shade the leaf surface. Spiraea is an easy-to-care-for shrub that makes an interesting ornamental plant in a rock garden or as a border along hardscape. The varieties of viburnum commonly known as snowball or cranberry bush are versatile as hedges screening or focal plantings. Crape myrtles Lagerstroemia indica and hybrids within this species are hardy in USDA Zones 7 to 9 Lagerstroemia fauriei is reliably hardy as far north as Zone 6. Look for its cultivars Miami Natchez Apalachee Osage Hopi Comanche or Regal Red but in Zone 6 plant in a microclimate that minimizes northern exposure. Locust trees native to North America tolerate adverse conditions in Zones 4 through 9. The term xeriscaping was coined by the Denver Water Department in 1978 it s based on the Greek word for dry and uses xeric plants those tough drought-tolerant and colorful perennials that seem to survive no matter what. By choosing plants that are compatible with the water conditions of a particular area a gardener can enjoy a lower-maintenance landscape and decrease her water bill at the same time. A well-designed xeriscape uses 40 to 50 percent less water than the traditional landscape. Since the lawn is the usual water guzzler in the average yard that s often the area that would-be xeriscapers choose to begin by either replacing grass or reducing its area. Other ideas include incorporating hardscaping stepping stones large rocks and pebbles along with the suitable native plants for your USDA zone. Know your climate Determine your USDA zone by visiting planthardiness.ars.usda.gov this information is key if you like to shop for plants on the internet rather than your local garden shop. Research your locality s average annual rainfall if there s an annual monsoon period with a higher amount of rainfall your plant selection should reflect that. Scrutinize your property for microclimates. Are there areas of dry shade that may be cooler or sections next to a wall or fence that receive more sunlight and will be subject to higher temperatures and receive less rain Areas with water runoff such as roof drip lines or the bottoms of slopes are the perfect spot for thirstier plants. 40 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Plan interesting designs Group plants according to their water requirements giving a nod to color foliage and shape. Flowing native grasses such as maiden grass or pampas grass are useful for borders or as ornamentals and add height. Incorporate perennials in a wide variety of blues or greens and then add colorful sedums or yuccas or add native perennials such as yarrow or penstemon for pops of color. Look for plants with narrow leaves to reduce transpiration the amount of water lost from leaves. Review the irrigation system installing drip irrigation or soaker hoses. Mulch well to slow evaporation. Now s also the perfect opportunity to plan a gravel or brick walkway terracing or steps that may have an impact on the next discussion saying goodbye to your grass. Limit Lawn Space If you must have grass plant low-water turf grasses. Bermuda grass native to the drylands of Africa goes dormant during the summer and revives when rain returns in cooler weather. When it s established it survives without additional water. Heat Wave a new turf-type tall fescue grass has a deepgrowing root system that allows access to more water and nutrients without supplemental watering. Pennington s Smart Seed is a fescue-bluegrass mix that combines the beauty and dark color of Kentucky bluegrass with the drought-tolerance of tall fescue and adapts to a wide variety of soil conditions. Maintain Healthy Soil The quality of your dirt can t be overemphasized. To increase the level of nutrients and water retention in the soil mix in compost or other rotted plant material to a depth of six inches or more. Perform a soil test if you re in doubt about overall soil quality. Fertilize sparingly using a slow-release fertilizer saves time and energy and doesn t encourage fast straggly growth that s not sustainable. If you re a beginning gardener the principles of xeriscaping make getting started easier. Even the old hands with black thumbs can embrace the savings of time energy and water of this way of growing HLM Sources clemson.edu gardeningknowhow.com grasspad.com hgtvgardens.com penningtonseed.com and wikihow.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 41 HERLIFE TRENDSETTER Model Cindy Sperling Hair Artist Chelsea Taylor of Visible Changes Make up Artist Jennifer Lynn of Flawless Faces 42 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 2015 Bridal Hair Trends photography julie nicole photography jewelry and accessories the perfect pear bridal gowns the elizabeth bridal stylist holly quesada assistant stylist lori woodard Model Cecelia Tran Hair Artist Bobbi Putnam of Ciao Bella Make up Artist Jennifer Lynn of Flawless Faces HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 43 Model Cecelia Tran Hair Artist Bobbi Putnam of Ciao Bella Make up Artist Jennifer Lynn of Flawless Faces Model Amanda Bell Hair Artist Tracy Stirlen of Ciao Bella Make up Artist Casey Means of Makeup by Casey Means Florist Belle s Lodi Flower Shop HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 45 Model Amanda Bell Hair Artist Tracy Stirlen of Ciao Bella Make up Artist Casey Means of Makeup by Casey Means 46 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Model Kaitlin Stanton Hair Artist Jessica Van Ruiten Make up Artist Casey Means of Makeup by Casey Means HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 47 Model Kaitlin Stanton Hair Artist Jessica Van Ruiten Make up Artist Casey Means of Makeup by Casey Means 48 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE SHE SAID YES SARAH and ROBERT DATE OF PROPOSAL DECEMBER 25 by m a ri l y n i sa m i n ge r p h o to s by b ri g g s p h o to gr a phy registered nurse at a local hospital. Robert was born in Redding but spent most of his life in Rio Vista. He played soccer for many of his growing-up years he took an interest in pottery during high school and continues this hobby today. Robert graduated from UC Davis as a mechanical engineer and works for the family business as an automotive technician. Robert prepared creatively and in great detail for his anticipated proposal to Sarah on December 25 2013. He handcrafted a beautiful scrapbook detailing their journey together Sarah represented as a princess and Robert as a prince in true fairytale fashion the cover stated Once Upon A Time... As Sarah perused this expression of his love she reached the final page which read And the best part was... When she found him on one knee with a beautiful ring she completed the sentence on that page by saying Yes Sarah and Robert believe their relationship is unique because they con50 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM sider themselves a perfect match. Among other compatibilities they discovered that they grew up vacationing at the same beach without even knowing it The future bride and groom have set their wedding date for June 20 2015. It s important for both that they create a memorable day that will be shared with their many family members and friends. Sarah and Robert have selected historic Morris Chapel at University of the Pacific as the location for their wedding ceremony. It s auspicious for Sarah as this is where her grandparents and parents were married and the chapel holds wonderful memories for her family. The reception will be held at the River Mill in French Camp they re planning a wonderful relaxed party with drinks dinner and dancing following the ceremony and looking forward to the beginning of their married life together. HLM C yber love struck Sarah Kidwell and her handsome groom-to-be Robert Lapp when they met online several years ago. Sarah grew up just outside Stockton near the small town of Linden. She was active in extracurricular activities dancing playing sports and raising animals for FFA. Sarah works as a HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 51 HERLIFE TIE THE KNOT Samantha and Rod TIED THE KNOT AUGUST 30 2014 businesses that shared in the love Bridal Gown Mira Bridal Bridesmaids Gowns Macy s Groom s & Groomsman Tuxes Tuxedos of Lodi Hair Styling Salon Avanti Makeup Megan Manna Wedding Planner Event Design So Eventful Photographer Dee Yates Florist Blossoms by Lisa Floral Design Videographer Sato Studios DJ Sound Extreme Caterer Angelina s Catering Desserts Old Vine Bakeshop Rentals Classic Party Rentals W by mar ily n is am inger p hot ogr ap hy by d ee yat es stu d i o s e cannot kindle when we will the fire that in the heart resides penned poet Matthew Arnold. Yet that spark brightened when Samantha and Rod Ruegsegger began dating in 2009. Samantha and Rod live in Linden California with their canine children Bear and Chance. Samantha works locally for the American Cancer Society and Rod is a firefighter. When the couple began dating Samantha was working in Boston Rod visited her there and they had the opportunity to travel the East Coast together where Samantha shared her love for New York City with Rod. In 2012 they chose to experience the Big Apple during the Christmas season and planned a five-day trip. On our first night we went ice skating at Rockefeller Center Samantha remembers. Rod asked a couple to take our 52 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM photo in front of the famous Christmas tree and fountain. Before they could take the second photo he got down on one knee and proposed to me I was shocked and surprised and of course I said Yes They celebrated by sharing a large pizza and pitcher of beer their favorite meal and calling their families to share the good news. The blissful couple tied the knot on August 30 2014 in a traditional ceremony under an arbor at a private ranch in Linden. Samantha s Maid of Honor was her best friend Nicole Coco Orosco bridesmaids were dear friends Heidi Costaillo Shelby Shock Megan Nixon Jessica Sanchez and Rod s sister Stephani Respicio. Rod s Best Man was his older brother Brandon groomsmen were his brother-in-law Pat Costaillo his cousin Ricky Ybarra and friends John Piambo Martin Garcia and Tyler Watson. The pre- cious flower girl was Leah and the ring bearer was Carson. Samantha and Rod had a vision of rustic elegance for their wedding and reception and their venue with an old wood barn and a pond provided a wonderful backdrop to create it. Cocktail hour was held in the barn and a white tent was set up to shelter guests for the reception. Samantha s talented mother created rustic wood benches for extra seating and crafted gold-framed chalk boards that were used as directional signs and to display fun quotes. Wedding colors were neutral hues of gold silver champagne and white. The bridal party carried white floral bouquets with hints of greenery floral arrangements were simple and elegant contained in rustic wood boxes with hints of pinks and corals for an eye-catching pop. The two-tier bride s HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 53 HERLIFE TIE THE KNOT cake in a champagne flavor was accompanied by a full-scale dessert bar that included cookies bundts and bars and was a great favorite of their 300 guests. I am my father s only child and I knew the Father-Daughter dance was going to be a very special moment for my father and me smiles Samantha. My dad is a man of few words but I allowed him to choose our song he selected the beautiful and poignant I Loved Her First by Heartland. Needless to say I bawled almost the entire dance with him. It was one of my favorite moments of the day. Since we both work in public service and the non-profit field we understand the importance of giving back to the communities we live in Samantha reveals. Therefore in lieu of favors we decided to make a donation on behalf of our guests to the Ladybugs of San Joaquin County a local non-profit owned by Thelma Stewart. In addition the centerpieces from the reception were distributed to the senior living communities and homes in Stockton. HLM 54 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 55 HERLIFE BEHIND THE CAMERA photo by briggs photography hair and makeup by joie sousa and jennifer stearns of perfect balance day spa going to have a long-lasting love affair with photography. Fifteen years later she is still shooting professionally with a small boutique studio at 428 West Pine Street in downtown Lodi. With years of experience and a degree in photography she specializes in photographing women weddings boudoir maternity and glamour. Dee Yates has a distinct brand that not only makes women look gorgeous but also makes women feel gorgeous. I can t tell you how personal the moments get in sessions with my female clients Dee shares. More times than not women end up speaking very candidly about self-love body image relationships and so on. I take that trust very seriously with my clients. Women are safe to feel and to be their true selves in front of my camera. Dee s approach is unique in that way. Women are 100 percent appreciated inside and out in my studio and I work hard to capture that through my camera. Dee believes choosing the right photographer comes down to a few key elements. I ve shot everything from hotel art (for the Hampton Inn Lodi) to pets weddings real estate and everything in between. No matter what kind of photographer you are looking for it s about creative style technical ability and experience but by far number one is the relationship you have with the photographer. When having your portrait taken in any manner you must be able to feel good and relate. And no just because a mom bought a camera doesn t mean she knows what she is doing nor does it mean she will treat your images with the privacy and respect that you deserve. Remember when you get in front of someone s camera they technically have copyrights to those images. Will you trust that person with your most intimate and revealing image or moment It s certainly something to think about. Choosing a photographer with a long-lasting reputation in your community is definitely the best thing you can do for yourself and your family. Dee has been a part of the HERLIFE team since 2012 and only continues to grow in her role. She has captured cover girls Trendsetters Spotlight features and more and her work has been appreciated and loved by HERLIFE staff and readers alike. She looks forward to the creative challenges that come from working with HERLIFE Magazine and she loves the variety that comes from working with a magazine. HLM For more information about Dee Yates Studios visit her studio at 428 W. Pine Street in downtown Lodi or visit online at deeyates.com. A s a homegrown girl of several generations in the Lodi area Dee (Meidinger) Yates first picked up a camera as a young girl. She knew that very first time she fired a shot that she was photos by dee yates studios 56 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE TRAVEL by kr i s t i n o r t h cu t t road-trip wonders T aking the road less traveled is often a scary thing unless you re on a scenic byway. Then well it s just cool. Scenic byways are making a royal comeback across the continental U.S.A. appreciate it. The largest of national scenic byways Route 66 stretches for 1 408 miles through Illinois Oklahoma New Mexico and Arizona. In Arizona don t miss Red Rock Scenic Byway which winds through Sedona s Red Rock Country often called a museum without walls. Travelers are amazed by the high desert s power diversity and sense of intimacy with nature. The stunning red rocks are alive with a timeless spirit and a camera lens just doesn t do it justice. Stop in Anthem while you re in the area. This master planned community popped onto the map just 15 years ago but the Anthem Veteran s Memorial is gaining worldwide acclaim. The engineering of the five-pillar memorial which shines a natural solar spotlight on the Great Seal of the United States for just one minute a year (at 11 11 on Nov. 11) is a spectacular sight year-round. Where the weather is a tad cooler check out Cripple Creek Colorado. While most of Route 66 is scenic because of its landscape this historic town drips with history. About 45 minutes north of Colorado Springs Cripple Creek s glory days were as a mining town in the heyday of the Gold Rush. Theaters and opera houses have come and gone but one historical venue the Butte Theater still features original entertainment. In 1976 the Cripple Creek & Victor Narrow Gauge Railroad started taking passengers into the heart of the Rocky Mountains. An impeccably restored steam locomotive and historic 1894 station house make this a worth-it stop. The Fire Station completed in 1900 stands as an answer to two catastrophic fires in 1896 that burned 47 acres and destroyed more than 400 buildings. Head north a few days and find yourself in Oregon on Hells Canyon Scenic Byway which pays homage to the Nez Perce Indians along the historic Oregon Trail. This 208-mile loop begins and ends at Hells Canyon and the Snake River North Ever since people starting getting their kicks on Route 66 (and inspiring kids with movies such as Cars) driving off the beaten path has had a romantic quality. It s an homage to the past and brings us back to our desire to slow down a bit and take in what once was to feel our ancestors in the walls of an old building and fantasize about what it might have been like before the world of the selfie. Let s take a trip down a few of these byways and see what we discover. There are movies songs and characters everywhere to remind travelers of Route 66. But unless you ve driven it shopped on it picnicked near it or just stood in wonder you can t possibly HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 59 Established by a social reformer as a Utopian society New Harmony became a center for advances in education and scientific research. There are two labyrinths here one in a beautiful garden that duplicates Chartres Cathedral a 12th century cathedral in France the other a hedge labyrinth just south of town built in 1939 to commemorate an original built by the Harmonites. America s deepest gorge. A few days of driving east and you ll land in New Harmony Indiana about 30 miles north of Evansville. Established by a social reformer as a Utopian society New Harmony became a center for advances in education and scientific research. There are two labyrinths here one in a beautiful garden that duplicates Chartres Cathedral a 12th century cathedral in France the other a hedge labyrinth just south of town built in 1939 to commemorate an original built by the Harmonites. Buildings that date back to 1825 are today s vibrant downtown a perfect weekend getaway. Galena Illinois also inspires history buffs. This scenic drive takes you to the claimed hometown of Ulysses S. Grant and his ascension from ordinary clerk in his father s leather goods stores to Commander of Civil War Union Forces to President. Grant wasn t the only notable citizen. Galena claims nine residents who reached the rank of General during the Civil War. So much of Galena s original architecture remains that over 85 percent of the community is listed in the National Register of Historic Places. Head south about five hours to land in Vandalia Illinois and catch the Historic National Road (also known as the Cumberland Road yes like the song) to Maryland the first major highway in the United States built by the federal government. About 620 miles long the road allows travelers to go back through 300 years of history with natural scenery to admire. Oakland Maryland boasts antique shops boutiques and an old-fashioned soda fountain. Don t miss the still-intact Tomlinson Inn in Little Meadows Maryland. Built circa 1816 by Revolutionary War veteran Jesse Tomlinson this stone tavern is said to have hosted the likes of Presidents-elect James K. Polk and William Henry Harrison. The full road has extensions east to Baltimore and west to St. Louis. So put down your phone for a few days (unless you need a navigation device) and follow your heart to one of these scenic destinations. Discover what lies off the hustle and bustle of the interstate. Vow to take the road less traveled now and then. You might learn that it makes all the difference. HLM Sources drivethetop10.com galenahistory. org oregon.gov scenicbyways.info travelchannel. com visitcripplecreek.com and visitnewharmony. com. 60 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 61 HERLIFE PETS boarding your pet by l i n da r. price often expensive but they may be the best choice especially if your pet is elderly a pup or has medical problems. Even if the vet doesn t offer boarding facilities they may be able to recommend a reputable kennel in your area. Before you board your pet The American Kennel Club recommends that you use common sense and your senses when visiting a possible kennel. How does the kennel smell It is okay for the kennel to have a different smell than your house but it should be well ventilated and without offensive odors. Ask to see the area where your dog will be staying. Is it clean Is the temperature comfortable for the season Will the animal be kept in a run or a crate What about the dog runs How often will the dog be exercised Is there a secure area where the pets can roam and play Is the area clean How often is it cleaned Ask what requirements the kennel has for vaccinations. Reputable kennels will require up-todate certificates to be presented the day of the boarding that include rabies distemper parvo and bordatella. Other vaccinations may be required such as the quick vaccination for kennel cough. Ask and get your pet vaccinated well in advance of their stay. Inquire if there are restrictions. Some kennels will not board puppies elderly dogs or animals that have medical conditions. Inquire about the rates and if there are any special add-on fees such as a charge for giving medication. If you like the kennel make your reservations early. Bookings can be 62 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM On the day you leave Take your pet in early. This gives the staff and your pet a chance to get to know each other. It gives the animal a chance to settle down before the staff leaves for the evening. Have your vaccination card and your credit card ready. You should also have a list of medications special instructions proportioned packages of food (especially if a special diet is required) your contact numbers a favorite toy and a piece of old toweling with your scent on it. Don t make a big deal out of leaving the dog. Say goodbye and leave. It s a little like your child s Picking up your pet Complete the financial arrangements before receiving your dog. Ask if there were any problems or medical conditions you need to be aware of. Check your dog over before leaving. Thank the staff receive your dog and take her home. She may be thirsty and excited and she may be tired for the first few days. Relax and let her settle down into the home routine. Keep a close watch on her potty training for a couple of days she may be accustomed to the kennel s routine and not yours. Be vigilant and err on the side of caution. heavy during the holidays and you don t want to find out there is no space available when you need it. first day at kindergarten the bigger deal you make out of leaving the dog the bigger deal it is for the dog I t s unavoidable. Your pet must be boarded. You re worried about finding the best kennel for them but it may be as easy as asking at your veterinarian s office. Many veterinarians offer boarding facilities many do not. They re Other options Friends and family Friends or family who have their own pets and are willing to take on yours may be the best option if your budget is limited or you have an animal that needs special considerations because of age or infirmity. See if they are willing. Be sure to introduce the pet to them well before the stay. Pet Hotels and Spas Luxurious accommodations are available in many places even in your local pet store. Dogs may be boarded in private suites with their own bedding and a companion (if you have two dogs you want to board at the same time for example). Conveniences such as a TV tuned to pet channels are provided. Special play areas with or without other dogs can be arranged. Training sessions may be provided if needed. Dogs may take advantage of the boarding time to get a bath with grooming while they stay at the hotel. Cats Many of the above considerations apply to cats but you need to ask if the facility is prepared to board cats. Some have separate areas for the cats and are willing to board them others are not. What s next Hopefully the experience went well for both you and your pet. The animal enjoyed her vacation and so did you. This will make future experiences go more smoothly and perhaps you will even enjoy boarding the animal over the weekend so you and your significant other can spend a weekend at the hotel after an evening of theater and dining. It s a thought. HLM Sources akc.org clickerzoneuk.co.uk dogs.about.com ncraoa.com and petsmart.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 63 HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT CHERRY FRAME of feg insurance services by r eb ec c a flansb u rg p h o to s by j u l i e n i c o l e p h o to gra p hy I t s a well-known but very unsettling fact that 80 percent of today s retirees will outlive their money. The same studies have shown that every single day Americans fall deeper into financial poverty. It s a situation that Freedom Equity Group insurance agent Cherry Frame knows all too well but also has the solution for. Freedom Equity Group is a financial service company with more than Would they have the funds to keep their business open and running Traditional life insurance is designed to provide security for your loved ones in the event of your premature death but an Indexed Universal Life Policy allows you to use that money if the need should arise during your living years. Cherry shared that FEG s access to Indexed Universal Life Policies allows her to provide for a tax-free retirement and income that people can t outlive. This unique policy is indexed to the market but is not in the market so that their money keeps growing. Since it s indexed to the market it never goes down when the market goes down which eliminates financial loss due to market fluctuation. Policy holders can then access this money in retirement and that money is deducted from the death benefit after the policy holder passes away. But amazing life insurance options are not the only benefits Freedom Equity Group offers its customers. As an FEG insurance agent Cherry specializes in educating people about how to accumulate real wealth and the simple differences between qualified plans such as 401(k)s and IRAs and properly structured IUL programs. Their programs and offerings also include help for small businesses who are struggling to grow but can t obtain financing. My entire business centers on giving individuals and businesses access to capital when they need it most but are not receiving any Cherry affirmed. FEG has a small business lending platform that I have access to that is comprised of around 3 800 lenders across the U.S. with 43 different kinds of loans. These loans can include everything from lines of credit to angel capital and venture capital. The benefit of this lending platform is that conventional lenders fund only about 7 percent of business loans and the lending platform that I work with offers the opportunity to fund the other 93 percent. Cherry describes what she loves most about helping the people who come to her for financial help. I never feel like I am selling to my clients. I feel like I am educating them on what s available to them to help their businesses their lives and their retirements. I have met some of the most wonderful people as an FEG insurance agent and I especially love the look of relief I see on people s faces when they see that they will not outlive their money yet have a death benefit for their loved ones. I am helping the American family prosper one family at a time HLM To learn more about Cherry Frame visit cherryframe.freedomequitygroup.com. 80 years of cumulative experience and a wide variety of unique and effective services including wealth universal life overviews life insurance with living benefits IRA rollover management and other wealth strategy options. Our company has helped thousands of individuals and families throughout the United States protect and preserve money in a tax-free environment with living benefits Cherry stated. My goal is to financially save people s lives so they can live in comfort during their golden years. Saving lives has been a recurring goal in this ambitious businesswoman s life since 1998 when she started her career as a registered nurse in geriatric care management. I saw so many clients who had worked incredibly hard all of their lives only to have their life savings drained away by major medical issues or the need for in-home care Cherry revealed. I had a there must be a better way moment and thankfully I discovered Freedom Equity Group. As a widow Cherry learned about FEG s services and options and began using them herself. I saw that what Freedom Equity Group offered was a new kind of life insurance that offered living benefits. In other words your money is growing and there is a death benefit but you can also access this money while you are still alive. I knew this was something I wanted to share with others. Armed with knowledge and a determination to help others Cherry chose to leave her career as a nurse to be an agent for FEG in 2011. Thankfully many people who suffer from heart-attack stroke or cancer survive but oftentimes go bankrupt when they are unable to maintain their income to support their families. This policy with living benefits allows them to draw money from it tax free so they can continue to pay bills while they recover. I always ask my clients to think about what would happen if they suffered a major medical event. I ask them to ask themselves if their family would be able to maintain their standard of living if they were financially impacted by a serious illness. 64 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM As an FEG insurance agent Cherry specializes in educating people about how to accumulate real wealth and the simple differences between qualified plans such as 401(k)s and IRAs and properly structured IUL programs. Their programs and offerings also include help for small businesses who are struggling to grow but can t obtain financing. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 65 HERLIFE FINANCE stock prospectus by d a p h n e tay l o r a lot to consider. But before you make a move it s a wise idea to check out a company s stock prospectus You ll certainly want to do this before making any investment decisions. A prospectus is a formal legal document that is required by and filed with the Securities and Exchange Commission. It provides all details regarding an investment offering for sale to the public including an Initial Public Offering (IPO). For instance the prospectus includes investment objectives and strategies as well as past performance risks performance distribution policy fees and expenses and fund management. Here are other details you can find in the prospectus The company directors and advisors Key statistics relating to the issue such as the number of shares the price the market capitalization at that price the proceeds the company will receive from an IPO The trading history of the company usually for the past three years Illustrative financial objectives and the main risk factors associated with investing in the company A profit and loss account balance sheet and notes relating to both The executives former directorships Significant legal or tax matters related to an IPO How to apply for shares and the terms of applications As you can see the prospectus gives you 66 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM a clearer picture of where you are investing and it helps to keep you from being misled. You can obtain the prospectus by mail phone and email or through a financial planner or advisor. In some instances you can view it on a company s website. Once you obtain the report you might find that it s not a very exciting document to sift through however it is necessary for you to obtain in order to make an educated decision before investing. You might also find it difficult to read or interpret. That s normal. But here you ll find some interpretations that might help you when you obtain your own documents. I t s about time for spring cleaning and what better way to kick off spring than to get your financial house in order while you re reorganizing your living space. If you re thinking of making investments with your money there s You can obtain the prospectus by mail phone and email or through a financial planner or advisor. In some instances you can view it on a company s website. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 67 Here s some sample language from a prospectus for a company. Let s start with the Risk Factors section which contains important information for you to know. The Prospectus Says Information contained in this prospectus relative to markets for the company s products and trends in net sales gross margin and anticipated expense levels as well as other statements including words such as anticipate believe plan estimate expect and intend and other similar expressions constitute forward-looking statements...actual results of operations may differ materially from those contained in the forwardlooking statements... Interpretation Every forward-looking figure in the prospectus is only a projection. Therefore there is no guarantee the company will meet all or even any of its targets for sales or profits. Here s what else the company says under Risk Factors. The Prospectus Says Risks for the Company include but are not limited to an evolving and unpredictable business model and the management of growth...There can be no assurance that the company will be successful in addressing such risks and the failure to do so could have a material adverse effect on the company s business prospects financial condition and results of operations. Interpretation This company faces substantial risks. If it fails to address these potential pitfalls this is always possible there s a good chance that the company will go broke. Here s more. The Prospectus Says The Company believes that it will incur substantial operating losses for the foreseeable future and that the rate at which such losses will be incurred will increase significantly from current levels. Although the company has experienced significant revenue growth in recent periods such growth rates are not sustainable and will decrease in the future. Interpretation According to the prospectus this company is losing money and will continue to lose money in the foreseeable future. Company growth rates will slow. If you find such statements in a company s prospectus this is like finding a gold mine. It tells you that profits will be negative for some time. This is definitely what you want to know before you invest in it. Reading the prospectus means getting through some legalese and cautionary statements that tend to protect the company more than the investor. Nevertheless the legal nature of the prospectus can provide the investor with important information about the company and its prospects as an investment tool. When reading the prospectus pay more attention to information that is unique to the company rather than information that might apply to any public company. Look at the experience of the principals and managers their track record of success may provide confidence for the success of a new venture. Do some of your own product or market research to get a feel for its viability. When you do your homework by investigating a prospectus you are more likely to become a wise investor of your money HLM Sources bankrate.com incademy.com investinganswer.com investopedia.com nasdaq.com and sharebuilder.com. 68 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 69 HERLIFE WORKING WOMEN a new way to work by ti n a v. sava s T do now. century. he next time you go into the office you may notice something different about your environment or your co-workers. That s because little by little changes are happening to the way we work. It was bound to happen. After all this isn t our parents office any more. Desks are disappearing along with those cubicles and rows and rows of people shelling out work that computers Yes the culture of work and the application of talent are morphing whether or not we are ready for the change. What are the new work buzzwords Flexible adaptive and collaborative methods that are bringing a tsunami of change from the outdated operations of the twentieth century to the twenty-first Undoubtedly this is also bringing uncertainty front and center for every one of us. So why is this happening The majority of workplaces are still designed around a mid-twentieth century lifestyle with an outdated approach to where when and how work happens. Talent in the twentieth century mainly consisted of men and the majority of women stayed home to raise the family and look after the home. The work day was typically eight hours topped by a train ride home to suburbia. Well we all know this is not the case today. Plus talent is transforming into a vastly different new breed of employee. Our jobs don t have as much to do with word or number processing anymore because computers are replacing us for these tasks. Workers should no longer be too competitive but collaborative since every major management school study has shown this improves performance. Instead of relying on an individual s strength alone we are working in collectives. We are learning to tolerate and embrace 70 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM differences among our co-workers even going to diversity training seminars to gain a better understanding of people. Co-existence has replaced domination. And inclusion rules over exclusion. Management wants us to work as a team collaborating on a shared goal. By 2019 Generation X born between 1965 and 1978 will be in charge of the workplace and management across the globe is intent on getting ready for them. This new way to work is stressful think video conferencing while at the dinner table. It is also fraught with deadlines which only makes matters more intense. Instead of hanging around the water cooler discussing last night s television show workers find that these new work situations will demand more work in less time. And less work in traditional office space too with more collaborative decision making with teams around the world. Team leaders may never meet in person but will need to be globally cultural enough to deal with anyone from China to Canada. This non-traditional office work style could also work in favor of families helping alleviate some of the problems associated with work-life balance. This is good news for women because they will inevitably play a key role in this new working world. Since women s management styles are quickly becoming essential to today s marketplace pioneering companies are focusing on results not time spent in an office chair. If a woman gets her work done at midnight after cooking dinner and putting the kids to bed what difference does it make if she isn t at the office As an added bonus companies see less need to spend money on office infrastructure. Companies without mandatory office time translate into companies without walls. This flexibility doesn t just make families happier productivity goes up. Best Buy had a system called ROWE Results Only Work Environment and in some cases their productivity went up 40 percent. When the company CEO cancelled the program employees found it difficult to go back to the old way of working. Deloitte the mega accounting firm is perhaps most famous for their creative experimentation with reduced hours unpaid furloughs and lateral movement instead of the old-fashioned climb up the corporate ladder. They tend to focus on life goals instead of career goals. Employees can choose to dial up or dial down during their tenure seeking flexibility and perhaps moving laterally in a way that may or may not result in a pay cut. Referred to by Deloitte as a lattice instead of a ladder this system doesn t mean falling off the grid it s just another incentive to offer employees who desire flexibility. And it s not only women who are taking advantage of these career moves better known as maneuvering the mommy track. More and more men are seeking a way out of the up or out model in which you either keep getting promoted or get gone. Millennials (born from 1980 to 1995) are demanding better balance too. Not only are they sharing child-care duties they want time off for meaningful vacations philanthropy work or to pursue a passion. At the end of each working day we will be paid for our work instead of our hours. HLM Sources deloitte.com and forbes.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 71 HERLIFE MOTHER S PERSPECTIVE adoption language by re b e c c a f l a n sb u rg T here s an old saying about raising kids that goes something like this Parenthood requires love not DNA. Parents who have traveled down the amazing path of adoption know this firsthand. ber. It means caring for them and guiding them through their growing years. It means giving them the love and understanding they need to develop their full potential. Adoption of a child is a labor of love and one that is filled with strength selflessness courage love and sacrifice. It s a journey that can take months even years and those who have been through the rigorous process can also affirm that their child or children are hard-foughtfor hard won and fiercely loved. Adopting a child equates to changing lives forever and allowing hearts to grow in ways families didn t even know were possible. But this new change in the family dynamic can also initiate a stream of questions from friends family and even nosy strangers on the street. Questions that may seem harmless and appropriate can instead be hurtful negative and downright insulting to adoptive parents. These comments are rarely made with malice but instead come from a place of not knowing or understanding how hurtful words can be. Adoptive parents do not expect special treatment kudos or awards but they do expect respect for themselves and for the little lives that they are committed to. Using proper adoption language works to dispel adoption myths to show respect and to give objectivity and dignity when speaking about those who are a part of an adoption. Respectful Adoption Language (RAL) includes words or phrases used to describe decisions made by birth parents and adoptive parents in discussing the family planning decisions they have made for children who have been adopted. First introduced by Minneapolis social worker Marietta Spencer in 1979 as a template for positive adoption language the use of RAL has worked to eliminate the myth that adoption is a second-best or lesser-than alternative for creating a loving family. The use of RAL acknowledges that those involved in the adoption process are responsible people and that being part of an adoption does not signify that someone has missed out on a real family experience. Another key point to remember is how unkind and disrespectful comments can affect the Adoption refers to the process of accepting a child into your home as a permanent family mem- 72 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Here are some examples of respectful ways to talk about adoption with families and children as well as language and phrases to avoid unless you have experienced adoption in your own life. Source itsaboutlove.org. Negative Terms Gave up her child for adoption Real parent natural parent Adoptive parent His her adopted child Illegitimate Adoptee To keep Adoptable child available child Foreign adoption Track down parents Unwanted child Is adopted Preferred Terms Placed her child for adoption Birth parent biological parent Parent His her child Born to unmarried parents Child who was adopted To parent Waiting child International adoption Search Child placed for adoption Was adopted littlest people in this equation. Although adoption may be a story that includes many people it is the child s story first and the adoption piece is only a small part of that story. The language we use to talk about adoption can have significant positive or negative impact on children especially when illworded questions such as Where s his real mom or How much did she cost are asked in front of the child. Even a seemingly innocent term like give up insinuates that a birth mother turned away from her children. But the truth is that a woman who chooses adoption for her baby is making one of the most selfless courageous decisions imaginable. On the flip side a child who was placed for adoption is that family s child. Their parents would not refer to them as our adopted child any more than they would introduce them as my C-section daughter. As a mother I can speak from experience that I do not think of myself on a daily basis as an adoptive mother but just as a mother. Our beautiful bright funny and challenging children (one adopted one biological) are 100 percent equal in our minds. We love them equally and they drive us nuts equally. Singer songwriter Sheryl Crow also an adoptive mom summed it up in an amazing and profound quote My son Wyatt is all mine. Little souls find their way to you whether it s through your womb or someone else s. Adoption shouldn t be and isn t viewed as a dark family secret. Today s adopted children celebrate their adoption stories and most grow up knowing not only how special it is but also what a beautiful gift they were given by their birth parents. The words we all use in regard to adoption need to reflect the fact that at its core adoption is about completing families and sharing love. Parenthood is miraculous and I can assure you that the feelings of undying love and devotion toward our children are real and deep regardless of whether there is a biological connection or not. HLM Sources adoptionmamablog.com en.wikipedia.org. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 73 HERLIFE FINE THINGS fine writing instruments by l i n d a r. p ri c e O nce again you tossed your ballpoint pen into the trash bin. Surely there is something worth keeping out there. Well there is. Fine writing instruments have been around for centuries and only get more luxurious with time. Luxury pens range from a few hundred dollars to an astounding 730 000-plus plated rhodium and gold. The type of ink is also important. Will you be signing documents such as checks with the pen Then you will need a black ink that can t be bleached. Gel pens are the choice of many since gel ink is indelible waterproof and light fast. But it s the beauty of the pen that attracts most connoisseurs. Montblanc has been making fine pens since the 1900s. Their pens are exquisite and synonymous with fine craftsmanship. The pens were renamed after Mont Blanc in 1909. In 1913 the iconic white star became the recognized logo and trademark of the pen. The legendary Meisterst ck was launched in 1924. Ever since the pen has been synonymous with fine writing instruments. In 1924 the height of Mont Blanc 4810 feet was engraved on the nib of the pen. Today the company produces many different series of pens for its customers. One of the most beautiful is the Grace Kelly collection. The ivorycolored pen has a pink topaz on the clip and the cone is a mother-of-pearl cabochon. The Montegrappa company of Italy is another famous pen maker. They began production in 1912 and still use the same historic building today on the banks of the River Brenta in Bassano del Grappa. One of their most famous pens is the Dragon pen issued in 1995 only in yellow gold with white diamonds and rose gold with black diamonds. The dragon s eyes are set with rubies. David Oscarson s pens are works of art combining the art of guilloche engraving with a centuries-old technique of fusing glass and metal oxides to create a hard enamel surface. The plant and floral elements in seven translu- What on earth could make a pen worth that much Materials crafts- manship and rarity. It s that simple. When you toss in a few diamonds a little enamel or lacquer and meticulous craftsmanship the dollar signs will trigger a seismic shudder in your wallet. Major designers such as Cartier Dior Bulgari Swarovski and Herm s have their own line of pens. Then there are those who devote themselves to making pens such as MontblancTM Montegrappa and David Oscarson. Cross Parker and Waterman offer more modest pens for the discerning. Where does one start if cost is no object There are several things to keep in mind. Most people prefer to use their pens and their individual tastes in weight girth length nibs balance comfort and hand must be considered especially if the owner actually plans to use the pen to exercise their fine penmanship. Many devotees of fine writing instruments never use them They are collectors who simply purchase the beautiful pens for their own pleasure. The elements of weight length girth (how round or slim) balance and hand contribute to the way a pen feels in your hand as you get ready to write. Is the pen comfortable for you Pen owners must consider the nib they want. Do you like a fine line or a broad stroke or something in between when you write The nibs are made of different materials for beauty and durability. High quality nibs can cost up to 2 000 and more for finely But it s the beauty of the pen that attracts most connoisseurs. Montblanc has been making fine pens since the 1900s. Their pens are exquisite and synonymous with fine craftsmanship. 74 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM cent enamel colors on the Carl Linnaeus pens are a tribute to the patience of the artisans who are required to undergo a five-year apprenticeship in order to ensure each piece achieves the highest quality standards of the company. Ancient techniques and materials are beautiful but many companies are experimenting with newer designs and more modern materials. Omas created the 50th anniversary Lamborghini pen in titanium. The hexagonal-shaped pen is made completely of titanium. The titanium the streamlined shape and the carbon fiber composite used on the automobile knob are a tribute to the innovations of both companies. Another innovative design is Porsche Design s P 3110 Black Tec Flex fountain pen. The barrel is made of a finely woven stainless steel that flexes when the user activates or retracts the ball pen. It s made with a rhodiumplated 18k white gold nib and the stainless steel threads are coated to resist scratches. As for the 730 000 pen it s by Montblanc and Van Cleef and Arpels. The Mystery Masterpiece was created in 2006 to herald both companies centenary years. The pen was presented in three unique designs featuring diamonds and emeralds diamonds and sapphires and diamonds and rubies. And it s not even the most expensive writing instrument ever made. That distinction belongs to Tibaldi s Fulgor Nocturnus Latin for Night Glow a oneof-a-kind pen that sold for a staggering 7.5 million dollars U.S. in a charity auction in Shanghai. HLM Sources bornrich.com davidoscarson.com www.masterhorologer.com montblanc.com omas.com picassomio.com and youtube.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 75 HERLIFE CRAVINGS Bueno Italiano by a dr i ana brogger phot ogr ap hy by b r e m eyer L odi s Bueno Italiano Caf is a popular spot for authentic Italian food. With three generations of strong Italian women behind the business there s a whole lot of heart and flavor coming out of the kitchen. Sara Coldani Randall is the head chef and owner. Her mother Barbara Coldani influenced many of the traditional recipes while her daughter Heather Randall adds her own modern unique flavors. Together they create culinary magic for their guests to enjoy. Bueno Italiano is well known for its fresh delicious food. Many of the dishes are a variation of long-standing family recipes from a 1936 cookbook. Others are brand-new creations that Heather has put together. A popular dish is Barbara s hearty minestrone soup. Bowls of perfectly seasoned soup with vegetables and beans are a crowd favorite Pasta Cacio e Pepe is a genuine Italian tradition that is quickly gaining a group of local devotees. It literally translates to cheese and pepper and as the name suggests that s what this dish is all about. It is a simple but impactful flavor that Bueno Italiano does perfectly. Sara s version has bacon and we all know bacon perfects anything. A house favorite is the tuna melt featuring albacore tuna mixed with olive-oil mayo dried onion and parmesan cheese all piled onto thick slices of bread. Then it s broiled until toastybrown and bubbly. The sandwich is served open faced topped with healthy slices of avocado and tomato. And then there s the lasagna a family recipe that s been perfected through the years. It is a flavor explosion made in the tradition of northern Italy featuring a brown sauce instead of a red one. And you can t go wrong with a slice of the homemade foccacia bread 76 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Pasta Cacio e Pepe is a genuine Italian tradition that is quickly gaining a group of local devotees. It literally translates to cheese and pepper and as the name suggests that s what this dish is all about. It is a simple but impactful flavor that Bueno Italiano does perfectly. Heather has put together a gluten-free menu which is really exciting news for people with gluten sensitivities. The current gluten-free offerings include lasagna pasta and even desserts. Other naturally gluten-free choices include the vast array of salads available. Bright colors and flavorful veggies are always a good healthy choice. And no need to skip the dressing here they re all homemade using whole ingredients and no preservatives. Feel free to indulge in the tasty dressings. If you re planning an event Bueno Italiano can accommodate private parties. With springtime love in the air Bueno Italiano is the perfect place to host bridal showers birthday parties and more. They can host 10 to 50 people at their location but can also take food and servers to your venue if needed. Sara makes booking your event worry-free and lots of fun Menus are customized to suit your specific event. You make the choices and Sara will make it perfect. She ll bring the wine or champagne you choose too. Just call ahead and make an appointment to go over the details. Sara and her team can even come to you to make the planning process easier. Bueno Italiano Caf is located in the Bella Terra Plaza on West Kettleman Lane. It s on the second floor offering great rooftop dining (there is an elevator). The charming dining patio has a great view of the area. Bueno Italiano also offers a beer and wine menu an espresso bar catering and more. HLM Bueno Italiano Caf is located at 1110 W. Kettleman Lane in Lody. Find them on Facebook or call them at 209-369-1446. One of the Central Central Valley s leading proponents of allmultimedia Adriana Adriana Brogger has as a reporter One of the Valley s leading proponents of all things things multimedia Brogger has worked worked as a reporter blogger blogger producer host emcee writer and actress performer in localfor more than ten years. She teachesteaches producer host emcee writer and actress performer in local media media for more than ten years. She Multimedia Production at San Joaquin Joaquin Delta College and loves it Born in the the monkey monkey Adriana has a Multimedia Production at San Delta College and loves it Born in the year of year of the Adriana has a clever wit and wit and a magnetic personality. Seriously though shegood comedy comedy spending time with her hubby and clever a magnetic personality. Seriously though she enjoys enjoys good spending time with her hubby and four cute boys and of course course great you know ofknow of restaurant that would welcome a visit by Adriana Adriana four cute boys and of great food. If food. If you a local a local restaurant that would welcome a visit by 77 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM please contact contact Kimberly at Kimberly herlifemagazine.com. please Kimberly Mullen Mullen at Kimberly herlifemagazine.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 77 HERLIFE CULINARY ask the cook seven-course meals of French Italian Moroccan Indian or Thai dishes. My friend Jamey is well versed in authentic Mexican cuisine I can ask her how to prepare fresh nopales (cactus leaves) or what epazote is used for. (It s a leafy plant used in preparing simmered food such as pinto beans.) All of us are in different stages of learning when it comes to kitchen skills. Indeed we each started at the same point of knowing very little. My first lesson in culinary confusion occurred at a pizza parlor in high school. As the new girl in town I was out with a group of friends for the first time. When it came time to take our orders mine was for an anchovy pizza. Everyone in the group questioned that choice but I insisted that I wanted an anchovy pizza. In fact I had confused the word anchovy with artichoke. I mistakenly believed that I was ordering a pizza with artichoke hearts. Needless to say when my pizza arrived laden with an abundance of salt-packed tinned fish nobody was interested in sharing it. I resolved to smile and eat my words along with every bite of that pizza with gusto in order to save face that was a teachable moment. A less stressful teachable moment came when I was given a new recipe. A friend who baked delicious biscotti gave me her recipe which called for anise seeds and anisette. I realized I didn t know anise from anchovies. With a little research I learned that the anise plant star anise seedpods and fennel all impart a licorice flavor in cooking although true licorice is made from the root of yet another plant. Anise seeds are a baking spice anisette is a Medi78 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM terranean liqueur made from the leaves of the anise plant or from roots of the licorice plant. Other liqueurs such as Ouzo and Sambuca are based on this flavor as well. How confusing Whether you re dining out or cooking at home a number of foods and cooking terms are confusing at first. Here is a list of my favorite culinary challenges. I know I owe a debt of gratitude to patient servers who explain how each dish is prepared as well as to friends and family whose hands-on instruction in the kitchen helped me learn how to be a better cook. If you are familiar with all of these terms take advantage of opportunities to share your knowledge. By doing so you may help others avoid culinary consternation. Who knows you may prevent an unwitting teenager from ordering an anchovy pizza. Amuse bouche Chefs send out this complimentary bite-sized appetizer at the beginning of a meal. Think of this as public relations at its best it s a showy little tidbit meant to welcome you to the table and whet your appetite. Braise Bake Broil Braising usually refers to meat such as lamb shanks or vegetables. The technique involves searing the ingredients followed by clarifying the pan with stock or wine and slow cooking the covered dish at a very low temperature. Before serving the liquid is often reduced. Baking means cooking food in an oven at a constant temperature. Broiling food involves using the heat from the broiling element I count myself lucky to have a diverse group of friends of all ages and cultural backgrounds. Many of my friends possess formidable culinary skills. I m in awe of my friend Angha who can serve impressive by pa t t y co o k which is hotter than the highest oven temperature and is similar to a grill. Chop Dice Mince Food that is chopped will be in uniform squares small enough for several to fit in a spoon about 1 2 inch square. A dice is finer than chopped food at about 1 4 inch square. Minced food is cut with a knife until the pieces are as small as they can be cut. Confit This usually refers to a leg of fowl usually duck that is cooked slowly in its own fat. EVOO This acronym refers to Extra Virgin Olive Oil produced by crushing olives (also called cold-pressed ) it contains no additives or chemicals. Flamb When alcohol such as brandy or cognac is added to the cooking pan (often at the serving table) and is lit dramatic flames are created. Parchment or En Papillote These are methods of steaming food in a pouch of cooking paper which seals in juices. Reduction Liquids are reduced by simmering or boiling this is usually done with a stock a wine or cream sauce or a balsamic vinegar. Simmer Boil A boiling liquid will bubble and roll in the saucepan. Simmering occurs just before the boiling point bubbles may appear at the edge of the pan but will not cover the surface of the liquid. Sweetbreads Don t mistake sweetbreads for bakery items. These are glands the thymus gland or pancreas of veal lamb or pork. HLM Sources bonappetit.com foodsubs.com francescad.hubpages.com indiacurry.com lifehacker.com and oliveoiltimes.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 79 HERLIFE RECIPES thai fish curry Serves 4-6 Prep time 20 minutes Cook time 30 minutes ingredients 2 teaspoons extra virgin olive oil 1 jar (4 ounce) yellow curry paste 3 medium carrots peeled and cut into thin rounds 1 medium sweet onion diced small 1 red bell pepper cut into 1-inch pieces 3 medium Yukon Gold potatoes peeled and cut into inch cubes 1 can (15 ounce) unsweetened coconut milk 1 cups low sodium chicken broth 2 Barramundi fillets (about 8 ounces total) skin removed cut into 1-inch pieces Chopped fresh parsley directions Heat oil in a large heavy pot over medium heat. Add curry paste and cook stirring until fragrant about 1 minute. Add carrots onion and bell pepper cook stirring occasionally until onion is translucent about 10 minutes. Season with a dash of salt and pepper. Add potatoes coconut milk and chicken broth (or water) and bring to a boil. Reduce heat to a simmer and cook stirring occasionally for about 15 minutes until potatoes are almost tender when pierced with a fork. Add in fish and cook an additional 5 minutes until cooked through and potatoes are tender but not mushy. Divide curry among bowls and top with parsley. HLM recipes and p hot ogr ap hy by ver y c ulinar y.c om 80 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM shamrock wonton crackers Makes 60 Prep time 15 minutes Cook time 8 minutes ingredients 1 package (12 ounce) square wonton wrappers cup pesto Salt directions Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Line baking sheets with parchment paper. Using a 2 -inch shamrock cookie cutter punch out shapes from each wonton wrapper. Place on the baking sheets brush with pesto and sprinkle with a little salt. Bake for about 8 minutes or until edges are golden brown. Let cool then store in an airtight container for up to 3 days. HLM recipes and p hot ogr ap hy by ver y c ulinar y.c om HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 81 HERLIFE WINE wine cheese pairings by m e l i ssa h a i n e s l av i n petizer assortment for a nice evening at home hosting a more formal cocktail hour wine and cheese pairing or putting together a nice picnic outing there are easy ways to please everyone With the spring season upon us there are so many fresh cheese options at your local market that will surely please your palate. W ine and cheese go together like...peanut butter and jelly Horse and carriage Why is this the case Whether you re putting together a small ap- Why do wine and cheese go so well together There are reasons this classic pairing has withstood the test of time. No matter the varietal of the grapes wine is made regionally. Affected by the environment wine flavors and scents carry floral components earthiness and spice of the areas where they are grown. Cheese benefits from the same influences that spring from the richness of soils along with grasses consumed by goats sheep and cows throughout the regions of the world. When the flavor profiles of both wine and cheese come together it s a magical combination. If you consider the busy work of bees honey contains a regional signature from where they obtain pollen therefore every local honey tastes unique. Fermented food products such as wines cheeses and honey contain histamines as well. Whether your favorite cheese varieties are hard or soft local or imported they contain a specific flavor profile just like your favorite wines Enjoying wine and cheese together is good for us as they can provide a balance of good bacteria that aid in digestion fight infection and keep good balance for our health. As cheeses come quick four survival list In wine circles it s often said Something old something new something goat and something blue. Any way you slice it cheese is most usually considered a wonderful companion for wine any time of year and can be prepared quickly. Here s my Quick Four Survival List an easy group of items you can keep on hand for any occasion including picnics so you are ready to impress anyone including yourself 4 Cheeses Double cream brie smoked gouda herbed goat or blue cheese manchego 4 Fruits Nuts Dried apricots dates almonds walnuts or pecans 4 Condiments Cranberry sauce hummus lemon curd olive tapenade 4 Wines Chardonnay Pinot Grigio Pinot Noir Malbec 82 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Fermented food products such as wines cheeses and honey contain histamines as well. Whether your favorite cheese varieties are hard or soft local or imported they contain a specific flavor profile just like your favorite wines from a variety of regions of the world so does our wine Spain Italy France England and Switzerland are providing great cheesy inspirations for our wine love. Let s share three ways ways we tend to approach wine and cheese enjoyment. As an appetizer a pre-dinner plate with one to two cheeses is put together as an evening warm up. In the late evening or after an evening out a selection enjoyed with fruit can be a healthy alternative to dessert. And when you re entertaining whether you re hosting a dinner party of eight to twelve or if you were asked to contribute to one this pairing opportunity can become the highlight of any gathering. The pairings that garner my largest affections are the ones during which my guests are the main attraction the recipients of good wine flavor-rich cheeses and lively conversation. After all these years as an oenophile I still utilize a few key points that I ve learned from restaurants and sommeliers to guide me in the purchase of charcuterie cheeses and wines Fat Oak The creamy nutty goodness of brie and camembert are beautiful with the toasted oak of Chardonnay aged pungent blue cheeses partner with Cabernet Sauvignons very well. Spicy Sweet Peppered white cheddars perfectly embrace the sweetness of Muscats and Sauternes. Smoky Robust Smoked gouda cheese becomes creamy with Zinfandels and Malbecs. Fruit Acid Apricots melons and nuts mesh nicely with the acidic Sauvignon Blancs and Chenin Blancs. Notably these wines also easily pair with nuts of all varieties as well as savory dishes that contain bacon onion and garlic including breads pastas and legumes. If you prefer white wines they generally maintain the delicate balances of softer cheeses. Red wines will typically have a bolder distinctive profile and stand up to cheeses that are strong in texture. Softer red wines such as Pinot Noir or Beaujolais pair easily with nearly all cheeses and palates. And sometimes it s the simple things such as a glass of wine and wedge of cheese that make the perfect meal. Remember that wine pairings don t stop at cheese Fruits savory meats soups salads and vegetables can be inspired by the delicious flavors and textures of cheese and wine. Believe it or not a grilled peanut butter and jelly sandwich on sourdough bread is savory and delicious with a glass of Chenin Blanc. Try it Pairings are fun and it s most important to enjoy the wines you like with the cheeses you ll enjoy. After all you want to savor the moment and not get too caught up with the details HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 83 HERLIFE UNDER THE CORK COME TASTE CALIFORNIA S MOST WANTED by b et h d o sta l p h o to by j u l i e n i c o l e p h o to gra p hy their barrel tasting as well True to their usual above-and-beyond release parties Macchia M acchia Winery is celebrating their semi-annual release party with guns a-blazing On May 2nd and 3rd Macchia will be turning out tastings of all of their available wines including their newest releases like Sangiovese Barbera and Zinfandel. Make sure you come for 8484 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM is going all out yet again Tanya McMahan general manager wine club manager reminds us all Dress up in your finest western-themed duds. We like all of our customers to participate in the theme Lani Holdener owner lets us in on a little inside knowledge if you dress up you re eligible to win one of the many prizes and deals she ll be handing out such as a percentage off of your wine or a free gift While they re expecting large crowds as usual Tanya and Lani have made sure to provide there will be plenty of extra parking as well as golf carts to assist you with all of your amazing Macchia purchases. Along with their excellent wines Macchia will also be offering up plenty of entertainment such as vendors selling unique arts and crafts as well as live music both days Visit three different tasting areas one of which is for Club Red members only. Indulge in some excellent eats too with rustic oven pizzas as well as a Spanish-Mexican caterer So come on down to Macchia and taste California s most wanted HLM Visit Macchia at 7099 E. Peltier Rd in Acampo or find them online at macchiawines.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 85 HERLIFE BEHIND THE MENU Mexicali Gril by be th dos tal photo by b r e m eyer Ismael and Katina Perez come in. Owners of the extremely popular Olas Mexicali Grill the Perez s have been serving up high-quality healthy eats since 2003. When this health-conscious duo couldn t find the perfect restaurant that provided delicious but healthy dishes they just decided to create their own. We started out with just creating dishes that we want to eat Pulling from some of their favorite dishes and memories such as fish tacos in Cancun or saut ed fresh vegetables in Cabo San Lucas this creative couple took a leap of faith and landed on success Olas Mexicali Grill bases their menu off of quality over quantity and prepares meals in a careful healthy manner. They boast a total of zero microwaves in their kitchen and absolutely no iceberg lettuce in their fridge Using fresh nutrient-rich ingredients and treating them with healthy flavorful cooking methods is the only way to go for the Perez s. Lard and deep fryers are not allowed in the Olas Mexicali kitchen but flavor and delicious eats are always present Along with delicious fresh dishes they even put in the work to create all of their salad dressings and marinades in house from scratch. (Stay tuned for bottled versions of their salad dressings currently in the works ) And the Perez s (along A with their three lovely children Sethan Iverlynn and Emmersan) are exs we all start getting ready for our warm weather (read swim suit season) many of us have one thing on our minds eating healthier. Better yet eating healthy and clean. And just when you start dreading the meal planning prep time and cooking that will go into your healthy meal that s where tremely (and literally) hands-on working the cash register cooking and prepping right alongside their chef in the kitchen and always ensuring the excellent quality and scrumptious dishes for which they are so well known. Olas Mexicali Grill has quite the following and they are constantly updating their menu with new delicious ingredients and dishes all aimed at being satisfying but not fattening. Next time you want to get out on the town but don t want to worry about breaking your healthy eating streak visit Olas Mexicali Grill. HLM Visit Olas Mexicali Grill at 1700 McHenry Ave Suite 138 in Modesto or find them online at olasmexicaligrill.com. 86 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 87 HERLIFE FOODIES foodies Corner Scone Bakery and Teahouse Komachi Sushi Come visit our boutique bakery for some award-winning pie Featuring madefrom-scratch daily scones hand pies quiches and other unique baked goods. We also offer many delicious lunch items such as homemade soups cafe wraps savory hand pies and fresh green salads for healthy eating on the go Join us for High Tea this month March 21st and 22nd. Call to reserve 322 N. California St Lodi (209) 747-3418 cornersconebakery.com A personalized Japanese dining experience catered to you and your taste buds. Choose fresh exquisite dishes both on and off our menu. Come as a customer leave as our family. Open Mon Thurs 11am 9pm Fri Sat 11am 9 30pm and closed on Sunday 307 S Lower Sacramento Rd Suite D Lodi (209) 334-3131 www.sushikomachi.com Whirlow s Whirlow s Tossed and Grilled specializes in build-it-yourself tossed salads cafeteria style or choose from excellent sandwiches burgers and full plate dinners. Don t forget to make us your first call for catering carry out and private parties for the holidays 1926 Pacific Ave Stockton (On the Miracle Mile) (209) 466-2823 whirlows.com De Vega Brothers Italian Cuisine DeVega Brothers Happy hour every day full service bar and patio dining. Semi-private banquet for all occasions. Catering for large or small events. Serving traditional Italian food Seafood Steak and Chicken. Open 7 days a week. Sun-Thur 11am- 9pm Fri and Sat. 11am -10pm. 5757 Pacific Ave A140 Stockton (209) 323-4339 devegabrothers.com The Shadows Steak House The Shadows Steak House Thai Spices Visit us for excellent drinks and some of the best steaks around and more Join us for dinner and stick around Friday and Saturday nights for our live band. Book Shadow s for your next special event or mixer too Dinner at 4pm bar opens at 3pm. 7555 Pacific Ave Ste 155 Stockton (209) 473-3200 shadowsteakhouse.com 88 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Chef Bun Khotakoon has long been captivated by the many ways to combine sweet and fiery spices to bring together flavors that mingle and enchant each other. Pair the traditional and monthly special menu items with a fabulous local wine or ice cold Thai beer to create a fascinating culinary experience. 2401 W Turner Rd. Ste. 224 Lodi (209) 369-8424 thaispiceslodi.com foodies Macaronage Macarons Vita Dolce HERLIFE FOODIES Finally a gluten-free pastry shop is open in San Joaquin County. Macaronage Macarons believes that gluten-free baking can also be delicious Come in and try not only our delicious French macarons but also cupcakes tartlets and other delectable gluten-free desserts. Macarons make the perfect dessert table highlights at birthdays weddings and other special occasions. New location now open 2111 Pacific Ave Stockton (on the Miracle Mile). Open Mon-Sat 10am-7pm and Sun 11am-6pm. 7610 Pacific Ave Suite B6 Stockton (209) 955-0857 facebook.com macaronagebygrace Two Italian-Swiss sisters have combined energies to bring to Tracy a small cafe filled with high quality cookies panini s homemade soups fresh salads and delicious coffee. Topping off any time of the day would be a delicious scoop of San Francisco s very own Mitchell s Ice Cream. Come on in and enjoy some of the sweet life of Vita Dolce. Call us to cater your next event and be sure to ask about our sundae of the month 11 East 6th St Tracy (209) 834-1234 Facebook.com VitaDolce HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 89 HERLIFE BOOK CLUB the divorce papers by susan rieger r ev iew by lind a r. p r ic e T 90 he Divorce Papers by Susan Rieger is an epistolary novel. The story is told entirely through interoffice memos attorney s work papers court documents medical reports letters to wealthy real estate mogul Bruce Meiklejohn recommends the firm of Traynor Hand Wyznski his lawyers to his daughter. He instructs the firm to treat her as if it were he using their services i. e. go all out. He guarantees their fees. Managing Partner David Greaves drafts the very junior attorney Sophie Diehl into acting as Mia s attorney. Sophie protests vehemently to her boss to no avail. She is a criminal lawyer not a civil one she has no experience in civil law the firm has three excellent divorce attorneys and she doesn t like talking to clients face to face. Sophie s boss swears he will guide her through the process and Mia s interests will not suffer but Sophie has to take the case because no one else is available. So despite all her objections Sophie does the intake interview warning Mia that she has never done a divorce before. Mia decides she likes the novice divorce lawyer after all Mia states It s my first divorce too. Mia probably respects her honesty more than anything else and Sophie grudgingly begins to like Mia. In many senses they proceed like two good friends. Finally Sophia s boss warns her in a memo that she must retain her professionalism and not become involved like a friend. Even though Durkheim wants a speedy settlement so he can move on with his new girlfriend the negotiations are protracted. Mia tries to get things moving because her daughter Jane is taking the divorce hard but to no avail. Sophie reminds Mia constantly that time is on their side and a valuable negotiating tool. She urges Mia to hang in there. The back-andforth likely resembles a real divorce but for a novel the paperwork is repetitive and somewhat boring. Yet it s interesting to see how the friends and emails. The narration progresses neatly through the various forms of communication between the interested parties. Once you get used to it you can read the story like any other novel. The novel begins when Mia (Maria) Meiklejohn Durkheim s husband s lawyer serves her with divorce papers in Golightly s a most exclusive restaurant while she is having lunch with friends. Daniel later swears it wasn t his idea but his lawyer s. Mia is not having it. After all as she says He chose the sleaze ball. The genteel Mia becomes a tigress. With this opening salvo Mia s father the HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM rich live and how figures can get switched around until finally both parties are satisfied. The novel would be tedious except for the charming Sophie and the hilarious Mia. Sophie is a bright young attorney who loves criminal law. When she gets roped into handling the divorce her killer instincts come out. Her legal maneuvers are daring and unorthodox but very effective in keeping the other attorney off balance. During the negotiations Sophie is forced to take a hard look at her own relationships especially her relationship with her parents. Mia is a lovely socialite who minces no words when dealing with her highly successful husband a respected pediatric oncologist. Her scathing characterization of the law firm Daniel hired is guaranteed to improve your use of the English language She is out for blood and longs to take her insufferable husband down a few pegs. As the novel reaches its climax Mia sends a note to Sophie jokingly claiming that she has discovered the seven stages of divorce similar to the seven stages of grief. In addition to exploring the woe that is in marriage and how it affects everyone involved Rieger lets Sophie become a victim of the back-stabbing maneuvers common at many firms both large and small. She explores the nuances of Sophie s new-found love divorce law. Rieger The novel would be tedious except for the charming Sophie and the hilarious Mia. Sophie is a bright young attorney who loves criminal law. When she gets roped into handling the divorce her killer instincts come out. Her legal maneuvers are daring and unorthodox but very effective in keeping the other attorney off balance. celebrates the arts by reminding us of all the good books we read and others we should read. Rieger illustrates Mia s statement that divorce can be mentally challenging for the different parties even when it is emotionally shattering. The epistolary form has been around for centuries and Rieger thoroughly mastered the form for The Divorce Papers her first novel. As noted some of the paperwork is repetitive for a novel yet it is important to the complete picture Rieger paints. My advice is to skip over the dull parts and go on to the meat. The story is juicy but much of the paperwork is dry as shoe leather and of interest only to a lawyer negotiating a divorce and her client. Anyone recently divorced will probably want to skip this one. For everyone else especially those contemplating divorce this comedy is required reading. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 91 HERLIFE SCENE AND BE SEEN D 92 Lodi Health Celebrates Careers of Two Family Practice Physicians r. James Grady and Dr. Kenneth Mullen leave big shoes to fill within the Lodi Health community. After serving their community for many years the two family practice physicians were honored on January 28th in the lobby of the hospital of Lodi Health. Both physicians have recently retired after years of service to the Lodi community. HLM photography by HER L IF E s t aff HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 93 HERLIFE HOROSCOPE star journeys The winds of March will be blowing through all of the signs this month bringing with them change change and more change. Whether the change is good or bad is completely up to you though so make a point of looking at everything from a distance weighing its worth in the long run. Many signs will be making career changes or will shift their careers into different directions. The Grand Trine that is happening is shaking things up and will support the changes you wish to make. A great deal of energy and passion will surround this month making even your dream life vivid. HLM by m e l o dy b u ssey Scorpio OCT. 23-NOV. 21 Progress on many projects will be rapid but along with this will be the increased stress level. Be careful not to lash out as this will undo many things you ve taken care to nurture. Financial issues may cause this stress to become worse but sit tight because toward the end of the month the pressure will let up. Taurus APR. 20-MAY 20 This is a fifty fifty month for you as you will feel either completely in control or completely out of control. Trying to find balance will be key this month. People around you will tend to be impulsive and unsupportive doubting your abilities and challenging your desire to be grounded and focused. Stay the course listen to yourself and do what you know to be right. Sagittarius NOV. 22-DEC. 21 This month will start out with a great deal of stress but if you will simply weather the storm your patience and good will are rewarded. Do not give in to the temptation to burn the candle at both ends. It will end badly for you. Gemini MAY 21-JUNE 20 The full moon that will happen on the 9th will happen in Virgo and this will give you an added energy boost to achieve goals in the home family and domestic arenas. This will also be an important career month but won t be without hiccups. Focus on what is really important and let lesser things drift away. Your mental prowess will be elevated. Capricorn DEC. 22-JAN. 19 You will have a vivid dream life this month and you should take note and pay attention to what your dreams are showing you. There are those who are pretending to be your friends (even family members) who reveal their true intentions. Understand that this will lead to greater growth and understanding for you and deals with past life experiences. Cancer JUNE 21-JULY 23 Changes are coming for you this month. Venus goes retrograde on the 9th which means that many things will need to be put on hold until it rights itself. Big purchases should be stalled off until next month while Mars and Pluto in conjunction the 16th to 20th show that a creative idea may pay off positively for you. Aquarius JAN. 20-FEB. 18 Is it time for a career change If you ve been considering it the change is supported by the conjunction of Mars and Pluto mid-month. Pay attention to that inclination that you ve been having to take care of yourself. It is spot-on. Leo JULY 24-AUG. 22 Personal progress will move at lightning speed this month due to the Grand Trines that are happening on the 6th to 11th. Clarity of thought passion financial opportunities will come at you rapid fire so make sure that you pace yourself. Pisces FEB. 19-MAR. 20 Unwillingness to accept less than you want or are worth will come out this month. Just make sure that if you burn a bridge you do it all the way. Leaving anything smoldering or half done will come back to haunt you. That need to feel right will be intensified this month. Learn from it. Virgo AUG. 23-SEPT. 22 Ideas and concepts will come to you this month that will indicate ways to place yourself on a larger stage financially. Enjoy the excitement but do not rush things or you will regret it. Careful planning will see your ideas come to life. Aries MAR. 21-APR. 19 With all of the planets moving forward until the 9th this month is set to be a high-energy month for you. Many of the planets will be in the Eastern sector which governs self-development and personal charisma. The Universe is giving you a nod so when Mars and Pluto make a rare conjunction (16th to 20th) let go of anything that no longer serves any purpose in your life. It will be okay. 94 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Libra SEPT. 23-OCT. 22 This is the kind of month that if you are to enjoy any personal success you must do so through the help of others. Self-assertion will get you nowhere this month so relax and let your charm lead the way. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 95 HERLIFE CALENDAR march Omicron Omicron Lodi Chapter Luncheon DATE March 7 TIME 11 30am LOCATION Scooter s 121 W. Elm Street Lodi DETAILS Delta Theta Tau Omicron Omicron Chapter invites you to celebrate Women s History Month with our annual luncheon fundraiser. Enjoy a delicious lunch and honor women in the San Joaquin Valley who made a difference. Proceeds will benefit Lodi House. For tickets please call Mary at (209) 256-4887 or Elaine at (209) 333-8748. Hutchins Street Square presents HAPA DATE March 13 TIME 8 00pm LOCATION Hutchins Street Square Charlene Powers Lange Theatre Lodi DETAILS Often encapsulated as the Sound of Maui or the Soundtrack of Hawaii the music and sound of the group HAPA evokes a place that many people have referred to as heavenly. Purchase tickets at hutchinsstreetsquare.com or call the box office at (209) 333-5550. Jean Justeau Payne Art Show DATE March 11 TIME 5 00pm 8 00pm LOCATION Whirlow s Tossed and Grilled 1926 Pacific Ave Stockton DETAILS Whirlow s will be showcasing paintings of blues musicians in the San Joaquin Valley Enjoy beautiful art and blues music featuring Shad Harris and others. Visit whirlows.com for more information. American Association of University Women Panel Discussion DATE March 19 TIME 7 00pm LOCATION Martin G. Petersen Event Center 720 12th Street Modesto DETAILS The AAUW presents their panel discussion on Ending the Culture of Violence on School and College Campuses. Panel members include various upstanding members of the community. For more information please email endcultureofviolence gmail.com. Presentation Parish School s Shrimp Feed 2015 DATE March 21 TIME 6 00pm - 11 00pm LOCATION Presentation Parish Community Center 6715 Leesburg Place Stockton DETAILS Support Presentation Parish School and come enjoy shrimp tri-tip pasta salad oysters drinks and a raffle and silent auction All proceeds benefit Presentation Parish School. For more information and to purchase tickets please call Jana Frontella at (209) 969-7061. 2015 Modesto Camellia Show DATES March 21 and 22 TIMES Saturday 2 00pm - 5 00pm Sunday 10 30am 5 00pm LOCATION E & J Gallo Administration Building 600 Yosemite Blvd. Modesto DETAILS Come view all of the beautiful camellia entries or view and purchase other rare and unusual plants at the Camellia Society of Modesto s annual show Admission is free. Find out more to be a contestant or an attendee at camelliasocietyofmodesto.org. All calendar event submissions must be received by April 1st for the May issue and adhere to our guidelines. E-mail beth herlifemagazine.com for guidelines or to submit entries. HLM 96 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 98 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM