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Description: Herlife Magazine of South Florida - July 2012 Issue

HERLIFE MAGAZINE KEEPING WOMEN CONNECTED Michelle Marton A Cheeky Chick Who s Bringing Sexy Back I love what I do and feel very fortunate to pursue my passion. JULY 2012 Herlife Fitness Plus Issue sLEEP MATTERs TOP sTYLE MIsTAKEs OCEANFRONT PROPERTY HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 2 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM content JUly 2012 welCoMe health SPotlight BeaUty inSPiRationS CUlinaRy ReCiPeS content HERLIFE 6 8 11 12 14 16 18 22 23 24 26 28 34 35 36 40 42 44 46 48 SCene and Be Seen love and RelationShiPS 18 MICHELLE MARTON Michelle Marton has more than just a leg up on the fitness competition in Palm Beach. She recognized a need to offer a sexier more vibrant type of workout and opened Cheeky Fitness and Palm Beach Kangoo Club to fill that niche. She s proving that pole dancing is good clean fun for everyone MotheR S PeRSPeCtive CoMMUnity SPotlight 24 12 WHy sLEEp MATTERs here s a riddle. we all want more of it but many of us aren t getting enough of it. we might be envious of those who seem to be getting more of it than we are getting. once we do get it we feel relaxed and energized. what is it no it s not what you re thinking. it s sleep. KEEpINg yOuR fAMILy sAfE ONLINE For most families the internet has become a universal tool for research entertainment banking shopping connecting with friends and a variety of other useful purposes. although there are many benefits and conveniences available online there are also threats to your personal identity and safety. tRendSetteR woRKing woMen StRategiCally engaged SPotlight FinanCe Real eState tRavel tie the Knot CalendaR HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 3 Staff and Contacts Publisher and Editor-In-Chief Karen Alleyne-Means karen 561-899-0433 ext 105 Chief of Operations Shawn P. Means shawn 561-289-4491 Senior Marketing and Brand Development Director Denise Rossi Strategic Marketing Manager Rocio M. Davis Sandy Hector Vivian Hunt Account Executives Advertising Information Editor SFLSales 561-899-0433 ext. 101 Candi Smith candi Creative Director Casey Jones casey 913-402-6994 Design and Production Todd Grantham todd 913-402-6994 Art Director Elana Bell elana 913-402-6994 Contributing Authors Chandra Blackwell Kristen Doyle Vicky Gilpin Carl E. Johnston Kathleen M. Krueger Natasha Logan Candi Smith Catie Watson Marista Yzaguirre Contributing Photographers Karen Alleyne-Means Gina Barca Kristen Doyle Chelsea Erwin Dana France Misty Lundeen Lorie Rebecca Tom Rollo Christine Rose To contact HERLIFE Magazine 10751 Oak Meadow Lane Suite 201 Wellington FL 33449 Phone 561-899-0433 Fax 561-641-0473 2012 HERLIFE Magazine of South Florida is operated locally by KAM Enterprises Inc. an independently owned and operated franchisee of HERLIFE Magazine LLC. To reach national headquarters call 913-402-6994. 2012 by HERLIFE Magazine. All rights reserved. Although some parts of this publication may be reproduced and reprinted we require that prior permission be obtained in writing. HERLIFE Magazine is owned by HERLIFE Magazine LLC and is a free publication distributed locally and is supported by our advertisers. It is available in selected specialty stores doctor and dental offices medical spas hair and nail salons tanning salons public libraries and numerous other high traffic locations. Please call for a location near you or if you would like copies placed at your business. We do not necessarily endorse the views expressed in the articles and advertisements nor are we responsible for the products and services advertised. We welcome your ideas articles and feedback. SUBSCRIPTIONS Subscriptions are available for 26 (for 12 issues). Please go to or mail a check made out to HERLIFE Magazine to the above address. 4 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 5 HERLIFE welcome Cel eb r ate the J our ney Stop worrying about the potholes in the road and celebrate the journey - Barbara Hoffman C an you believe that summertime is here already Where did the time fly The month of July is always full of festivities and celebrations especially on the 4th of July. Did you know that Independence Day in the United States is the Biggest Birthday celebration in the world It is recognized to commemorate the adoption of the Declaration of Independence from the Kingdom of Great Britain in 1776. I know that was a very long time ago but we should celebrate those who forged a path for our freedom and those who still fight for us. In this month s issue we are happy to spotlight Detective Casey Thume of the Delray Beach Police Department a woman serving her community for the past 18 years. She is one of the few female detectives in the city of Delray Beach who is doing her part daily to keep Delray a safe place. To her and the other men and women who serve our community I say Thank You. p h o to by d an a franc e of s ugar bel l e photography This issue is also our fitness issue. As we want to keep healthy and look our best check out all the local fitness experts we have in South Florida. From Kangoos to working out in the gym whatever it is-- just keep moving Someone once said that pain is weakness leaving your body so do not worry about the potholes in the road just celebrate the journey--and get fit In closing Happy Birthday to me as I celebrate 43 years of living and 4 years of being a cancer survivor. Here s to more birthdays and healthy living Life isn t about waiting for the storm to pass it s about learning how to dance in the rain. - Author Unknown to o rd e r yo u r s u b s cr i p t i o n a n d s ign up fo r o ur viP l is t go to H ERL I F EMagazine .c o m 6 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 7 HERLIFE scene and be seen Fourth annual Proper affair p h o to g ra phy by chris t i ne ros e photography O n april 18 Boston Proper and the achievement Center for Children and Families co-hosted the Fourth annual Proper affair a fabulous evening of fashion and entertainment at the swanky Boca Resort. the proceeds raised benefited low-income children and families of the delray Beach community.the achievement Center provides low-cost child care enrichment programs meals adult education and resources to families in need. For additional information about the center please visit 8 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM executive women of the Palm Beaches honors women in leadership award Recipients p h o to g ra phy by karen al l eyne- m eans O n May 3 Joan lunden was the keynote speaker addressing a sold-out audience at the Kravis Center for the Performing arts during the executive women of the Palm Beaches award recipients luncheon. lunden told the audience that the key to success is having transferable skills and never doubting oneself. executive women of the Palm Beaches (ewPB) was the first organization in Palm Beach County to honor professional women leaders in the community who also are successful at transferring their skills.the women in leadership awards were presented to women in three community sectors volunteer public and private whose talents and qualities have an impact in their business and charitable activities. the 2012 recipients were Rena Blades dorothy Bradshaw and dr. Maureen whelihan. additionally a special inspirational leadership award was given to Cynthia allen gracey. ewPB s mission is to promote the professional and personal advancement of women through networking and helping others also to become leaders. Proceeds from the luncheon support the scholarship and grant programs administered through its charitable foundation executive women outreach. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 9 HERLIFE scene and be seen Sacred heart third annual heroes golf tournament p h o to g r ap hy by chels ea er w i n T he Sacred heart School of lake worth held its third annual heroes golf tournament at the Fountains golf Course. Michael Pontano and John Clark were honored as this year s heRoeS. the money from this fundraiser is going to help fund technology for the school and scholarships for students. the tournament was a Pro am event and included over 104 players 26 of whom were pros. a luncheon and an auction followed the tournament including auctions items such as a six-night stay in an irish castle and a golf vacation in the dominican Republic. Some of the sponsors included the Palm Beach Kennel Club the John Scarpa Foundation Mr. william Finneran Mr. & Mrs. Richard Schmeelk and many other wonderful supporting benefactors from Palm Beach. if you would like to get involved and help the Sacred heart School please visit thanks to the time talent & treasure of co-chairs Jack donsky and Richard Schmeelk this year s heRoeS tournament raised over 90 000. 10 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE love and relationships ask Mar it s a by m a rit s a y zaguirre p h o to gra phy by lorie rebec c a Q a Where do you go to meet single professionals looking for a relationship I m over 40 and don t want to have the bar club meat market experience. -Looking for Mature Love Boca Raton Dear Mature Thank you for your question--it s one I get quite often. It all depends on your interests and what you re looking for. I would suggest that if you have hobbies look into places that have events where groups may be present. Meetups are popular and you can find one by visiting meetup. com and typing in your interests. It will show events in your surrounding area that match. Or consider taking a class at a local high school church or gym. There are also Internet dating sites which seem to be pretty popular these days. Good luck Maritsa Yzaguirre (Ritz) is the owner of Peace of Mind Counseling Services. A graduate of NSU psychological studies she is also a nationally certified professional counselor. Maritsa focuses on helping couples and families communicate and enhance understanding. Just like anything in life relationships take work. Email your questions to Maritsa at Maritsa HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 11 HERLIFE health women desiring their well-deserved sleep. But what steps can you take to make it happen Exercise may increase your overall sleep time by 1.25 hours each night according to a recent study published in the journal Sleep Medicine. Not only is exercise good for you but working out significantly increases your core temperature so when your body temperature returns to normal a few hours after a workout it becomes easier to fall asleep. For the best rest don t work out less than two hours before bedtime. Added weight especially in the upper body makes us prone to why Sleep Matters by l i s a t aranto but l er Sleep loss can affect daily functions such as alertness short-term memory and creativity. Chronic sleep loss can lead to diseases such as diabetes obesity depression and high blood pressure. obstructive sleep apnea (OSA) a condition in which the soft palate at the back of the throat collapses causing the airway to become blocked during sleep. Research shows that losing just ten percent of your body weight significantly improves symptoms of OSA including snoring. Here are a few more suggestions to slide you into slumber. Take a chill pill or better yet just set your thermostat a little cooler. Start at 68 degrees Fahrenheit and crank it down to 65 degrees (or even as low as 60 degrees) if you still have trouble getting shut-eye. Make sure you are not hungry before you go to bed but don t eat a sweet treat because sugar can be a stimulant on the body revving it up instead of calming it down. Put the cell phone down and keep it at least three feet away from your bed. Turn off the alerts unless you need the alarm clock. Use the bedroom for sleep and intimacy--not texts. Caffeine just before bed is definitely not a smart decision but even a latte at lunch may have a similar effect. Understand how your body reacts to caffeine even if you down it earlier in the day. Slowly inhale for five counts hold for three counts and exhale for five counts then repeat this pattern. By slowing breathing the body relaxes physically and mentally making it easier to drift away. Contract and relax your muscles one area at a time. Start at the feet and move your way upwards. By the time you reach your shoulders you are one step closer to getting a little shut-eye. Finally if sleep seems unattainable take 15 minutes to visualize waking up the next day with mounds of energy and completing your tasks. We don t have to solve any riddles to know that sleep is critical for our minds and bodies. When we don t get enough of it it can make us feel terrible but when we get an ample amount we can take on the world. Now go get a good night s sleep Sources for this article are and do get it we feel relaxed and energized. What is it No it s not what you re thinking. It s sleep. According to most experts adults should get between seven and nine hours of sleep each night. But the truth is most of us don t get anywhere near that amount and more than 30 percent of us are getting less than six hours of slumber. Why is getting enough sleep essential Sleep loss can affect daily functions such as alertness short-term memory and creativity. Chronic sleep loss can lead to diseases such as diabetes obesity depression and high blood pressure. So why aren t we getting enough sleep Being too connected is one obvious reason we aren t sleeping. Staying up late using computers phones and other media keep us tuned in instead of relaxing us before bedtime. We may try to make up for our lack of weekday slumber by sleeping late on weekends. But although we may be accumulating more sleeping hours our bodies become out of rhythm with normal sleep patterns. As a result sleep isn t as restful and our minds and bodies are just as tired. Additionally research suggests a direct relationship between sleep and weight control. Poor sleep quality and quantity causes the body to produce hormones that increase appetite and cravings for highcarbohydrate high-fat food the next day. So if you get more sleep you essentially snooze to lose. We burn more calories during REM or deep sleep. If people gained at least one more hour of sleep per night they could lose 14 pounds in a year. That s enough proof to get most 12 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM h ere s a riddle. We all want more of it but many of us aren t getting enough of it. We might be envious of those who seem to be getting more of it than we are getting. Once we Daniel Man M.D. P.A. Board-Certified Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery Diplomate of the American Board of Plastic Surgery Fellow of the American Society for Laser Medicine and Surgery Over 30 Years of Experience Stop Sweating Start Living 10 million people are affected in the USA Lisa is a beautiful 23-year-old girl who suffered from excessive underarm sweating and found this to be very embarrassing. The sweating was so bad that she had to carry napkins and two extra shirts of the same color in the trunk of her car. Lisa decided on the Body Jet method which was developed in She felt so awkward and had so much anxiety regarding her sweaty condition that it affected not only her personal life but her professional life as well. Lisa wanted to stop sweating and start living So Lisa researched and found a new method Body Jet a cure for underarm sweating. She immediately booked an appointment with Dr. Man and was told that she had hyperhidrosis the medical term for excessive sweating. She was also surprised to learn that about 10 million people in the U.S. suffer from the same problem. Here in Florida the climate plays a huge role in making this situation worse. While at the gym three days later her friends couldn t help but notice that her workout top was wet except for her underarms. She and Dr. Man call it a great success. This technique was a permanent solution to a very embarrassing problem and cost 3 000 which was cheaper than Lisa s dry cleaning bills and buying three blouses of the same color Body Jet is safer than all the other methods as it is non-invasive done under local anesthesia in about 30 minutes and does not injure the skin. Germany by Dr. Meyer. Lisa did not want to take unnecessary risks with procedures that required general anesthesia or other procedures that were dangerous expensive and not effective. SPeCial adveRtiSing SeCtion HERLIFE spotlight Max by ka th lee n m. krueger p h o to g rap hy by mis t y l undeen FItness Club bCx boot Camp and wife team who operate their fitness club with a very hands-on approach. Fitness is more than just a business to them they take a very personal interest in the individuals and families who make up their membership. It s important for us to have a personal connection with our members Bonnie says. That sense of family and the promotion of fitness as a complete lifestyle approach are demonstrated in the Club s allinclusive membership packages. Childcare is a free offering for members when they are using the facilities and attending classes at the Fitness Club. Even the classes themselves are included in the membership fees. Steve and Bonnie have made participation in their fitness programs as simple and accessible as possible. The phrase fitness is a lifestyle has been used to promote many different types of fitness programs but Steve and Bonnie truly exemplify the ideal both in their own lives as well as their approach to their business. Steve has enjoyed the benefits of working out since he was a teenager who struggled with his weight. His love of fitness training took him into the bodybuilding arena during his college years and he has since earned 19 trophies in various competitions. However Steve s knowledge and experience in the fitness world covers a much broader spectrum than just bodybuilding. Steve has a degree in Physical Therapy and studied Exercise Nutrition to complement his certifications as a personal trainer and aerobics instructor. Bonnie admits that she does not enjoy working out to the same extent that Steve does. Her commitment to fitness takes a bit more determination but that is exactly what makes them such a perfect pair for leading a fitness club in her opinion. Not everyone who wants to live a fit lifestyle enjoys working out. I can identify and empathize with our members who have to push them14 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM I t s truly a family affair at Max Fitness Club. Steve and Bonnie Pfiester owners of the club are a husband since it includes unlimited Boot Camps and InBody sessions. Last but certainly not least we must mention Capoeira. Capoeira has its origins in Brazil and is a fitness art form that combines rhythmic music acrobatics and martial art moves. You really do need to see Capoeira in action to fully appreciate the beauty of this fitness form and you can do that by viewing the videos available on the Max Fitness Club website. We ve only touched the tip of the iceberg when it comes to selves to show up for their fitness classes. Bonnie and Steve do share several things in common however. They both enjoy helping individuals and families discover the benefits of living a healthier lifestyle and they are both excellent communicators in a variety of formats. Bonnie maintains the pFit blog which is an entire website filled with fitness tips healthy recipes weight loss help and lots of encouragement and motivational support for everyone. She also writes fitness articles for a variety of local and national publications. Besides his in-person fitness training through classes and BCx Boot Camps Steve is also finding himself in front of television and video cameras on an increasing basis. Steve has completed two weight loss reality shows Fat March on ABC and VH1 s Bridal Bootcamp. In addition you can exercise with Steve via the Internet on every Friday or any day of the week at FitStudio. com where Steve and Bonnie are the Celebrity Boot Camp Trainers selected by Sears the largest fitness retailer in the nation and sponsor of the site. In spite of these exciting opportunities to share the message of fitness it is still the personal connection with local people through programs like their BCx Boot Camps that Steve and Bonnie are most excited about. The BCx Boot Camps combine fitness training aspects from several of the best training models in the world. This means that participants not only get topnotch training but a great variety of activities that go beyond most common exercise routines obstacle courses kickboxing sports conditioning Crossfit and many other training programs are incorporated into the three different Boot Camp levels. They have also initiated a new VIP Program with the club that adds even more benefits than their already extensive membership inclusions. In addition to the free classes and free childcare that are included with a regular membership the VIP Program adds free BCx Boot Camps and InBody body composition analysis and discounts off their protein shakes. The Chrome VIP level is the biggest bargain HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 15 the many different health and fitness opportunities available through Max Fitness Club. There are new programs and events being added for every age group on a continual basis. Steve and Bonnie have truly created a fitness community through Max Fitness. It is definitely more than just another fitness club. To see the full range of offerings provided through the healthy living community at Max Fitness Club visit their website at HERLIFE beauty Top style Mistakes & How to Avoid Them by v i ck y g ilpin If you remain aware of what flatters your body at your age in your physical condition and in your profession you can prevent major mishaps. SIzE AIN T NOTHIN BUT A NUMBER Even though women are encouraged to love themselves at any size the moment you face the tags in the store it s easy to forget. However nothing makes a woman look more self-conscious than illfitting clothes. Whether you like to hide in swathes of fabric or strain the architectural integrity of buttons on items not cut for your body type you are going to appear unprofessional. Many women particularly in rushed situations eyeball an item before buying it rather than trying it on. Make if I don t try it I won t buy it your mantra so you can see how and if items fit no matter the size on the tag. n o one intends to look unkempt disheveled or inappropriate when she leaves the house but sometimes it happens. People tend to repeat their favorite style mistakes because of habit or reinforced perceptions of how they think they appear. Therefore it makes sense to attempt to refrain from making some of the most common errors while striving to look your best. The most commonsense preventative to making major style mistakes can be borrowed from Shakespeare To thine own self be true. Too often dressing ourselves to match someone else s body type age Make if i don t try it i won t buy it your mantra so you can see how and if items fit no matter the size on the tag. or profession causes problems such as ill-fitting clothes unflattering patterns styles or colors or an unprofessional appearance. If you remain aware of what flatters your body at your age in your physical condition and in your profession you can prevent major mishaps. 16 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM THINk CLASSIC OR FLATTERINg OvER TRENDS Even though many up-to-the-second fashions seem fun they can become style mistakes if they scream this was popular for a month five years ago. Examine modern trends with an eye toward items already in your closet your personal style your profession and their durability. For example autumn s influx of buckled black boots can add a funky edge for years to come but the frog-printed neon green rubber rain boots may seem silly next year. However you are the best judge of your own style. You know if you can incorporate certain trends into your wardrobe. However if you constantly buy articles that are more trendy than classic you will not only spend a lot of money each year you may find yourself pushing some pieces into retro fashion before time for their comeback. THINk FLATTERINg OvER EvERyTHINg ELSE On one hand with the variety of fashionable and interesting pieces available through a spectrum of prices mature women need not assume matronly as their required fashion approach. However that doesn t mean you don t want to have some guidelines. If your look is more Seventeen than HERLIFE you might reconsider how ing to project a professional or adult image. Again your own style should win out as some women can make stilettos and miniskirts work for the office. In addition some of us spin the other direction into the world of comfort over everything in combination with finding a look and sticking with it--forever. That can also be a style mistake. If your look hasn t changed with your age and professional status since high school you may be enjoying the return to the 80s fashions but is that really the best look for you No matter what fashion gurus may say there is nothing wrong with a woman of any age wearing a t-shirt and jeans. However you should see if that combination includes the most flattering items available. For example skinny jeans may not be the best choice for you particularly if you choose longer t-shirts to hide problem areas as a t-shirt does not have stealth capabilities and may just make you look bulky. Instead look for good quality flattering jeans (and they don t have to look like mom jeans from the 80s just because you are an adult). You can even keep the concert t-shirts or those featuring animated or cutesy animals but a fitted blazer or jacket in combination may add a touch of adult flair while also draw- examine modern trends with an eye toward items already in your closet your personal style your profession and their durability. your preferred items can convey elegance rather than I got lost in the teen department and couldn t find my way out. Every so often you might want to look at your closet and ponder whether stilettos are appropriate at 60 or if the micro-mini trend popular among high schoolers and undergrads is really appropriate for someone attempt- ing the t-shirt and jeans combination to a more flattering level. Remember we all have the tendency to fall into style traps often the same traps over and over again. Let your personal style be your guide but with this constant question on your mind Does this look present my style in the most flattering way HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 17 HERLIFE inspirations MiChelle Marton Cheeky Fitness & M 18 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM ichelle Marton is quite cheeky and she s getting Cheekier every moment. As the founder and owner of Cheeky Fitness Pole Dancing and Fitness Studio and Palm Beach Kangoo Club she really can t help it. by ka t h l e e n m. k rue ge r p h o t o g r ap hy by da na f ra nce h a i r a n d ma ke u p by re b e cca s orga nics s h o t o n l o c a t i o n a t ch e e k y f i tn e s s roya l pa lm be a ch Michelle s roots are in the Northeast where she grew up in Boston Massachusetts. When it came time for college she headed south to get away from the cold and wet weather and ended up at the Miami International University. She earned an Associate s Degree in Fashion Merchandising and her Bachelor s degree of Fine Arts in Film. Gyorgy Marton Michelle s husband was also part of the Fine Arts program at the University and they married shortly after their college graduation. Although Michelle dabbled in both Fashion Merchandising and Film like many college graduates she never truly pursued a career in either field of study. Instead she became a stay-at-home mom. Shortly after the birth of her second child Michelle returned to work as a Financial Aid Director of a local exotic dancer she clarified. This is one of the biggest misconceptions about pole fitness that Michelle fights to overcome. Our clients are everyday women moms business owners doctors attorneys and students...anyone who wants to have more fun pursuing their fitness goals but are not aiming to be exotic dancers although our doors are open to anyone The physical benefits of better health improved physique increased energy and more confidence through pole dancing are becoming more widely known. Generally after one introductory pole class women see and feel how hard it can actually be. They gain a new respect for the fitness required for Pole. Michelle is gradually seeing the public s attitude change and become more accepting of pole fitness as our clients are moms business owners doctors attorneys and students...anyone who wants to have more goals pursuing their but are not aiming to be exotic dancers although our doors are open to anyone women everyday fun fitness private college. Although staying fit and working out had always been a part of Michelle s lifestyle she d never really considered it as a career path. However she began considering taking on the new adventure of starting a business of her own. She saw a gap in the fitness offerings in Palm Beach County that presented itself as an opportunity that she felt capable and qualified to fill. Michelle had discovered Pole Dancing and Fitness about a year prior to this juncture in her life while looking for new ways to rejuvenate her fitness routines. She loved the total body workout afforded through pole fitness and the fact that it was both fun and full of diversity. And no I ve never been an a great option for both men and women. That s right. Pole is not just for women. Michelle has had several men participate in the pole fitness routines at her studio. In particular men with a gymnastic background are drawn toward the similarities in pole fitness routines. One of Michelle s former male students has even competed in international pole fitness competitions in Japan as well as competitions here in the States. Pole fitness works a unique set of body muscles. The weight you are attempting to lift is your own body weight so it s great for increasing upper body strength but it doesn t stop there. It is a very HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 19 progressive fitness program that doesn t feel or look like exercise. The classes are small which provides a greater level of personal attention and an opportunity for clients to be coached during the process to help them reach their own personal goals. Many of Michelle s clients see results in as little as two weeks through weight loss and dramatic changes to their physique. And just as important according to Michelle many feel much more confident and sexier than they did when they began. Cheeky Fitness has diversified their offerings to the public to include Pole Parties for corporate groups and bachelorette parties boot camp conditioning extreme stretching Kettle Bell and Aerial yoga. In addition they offer frequent guest instructors (including world champions) workshops for pole booty dancing burlesque and chair dancing and often host boudoir photo shoots for their female clientele. So what does Michelle s husband Gyorgy think of all this I m very fortunate that my husband is very supportive of what I do and also enjoys working out as much as I do. We work out together every day and also teach our children the importance of healthy eating and exercising daily. Over and above running and developing her business family is Michelle s number one priority. Gyorgy has the privilege of working from home as a computer programmer which allows them a lot of flexibility. He plays a very active role in the responsibilities of raising and homeschooling their two boys. I couldn t do it without his never-ending support Michelle confided. Their home garden is also something that is a natural fit into the healthy lifestyle that 20 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM i m very fortunate that my husband is very supportive of what i do and also enjoys working out as much as i do. We work out together every day and also teach our children the importance of healthy eating and exercising daily. Michelle and Gyorgy have developed for their family and one that Michelle enjoys during her time away from the studio. Pole fitness isn t the only unique offering at Cheeky Fitness. It is also the first fitness studio in the area to introduce and offer Kangoo Jumps which has been a very popular fitness trend in Europe for many years and is continuing to grow in popularity in the U.S. Like Pole Kangoo is all about combining fun with fitness. Special Kangoo rebound shoes are worn which allow you to bounce through your exercise routines while lowering the impact on your joints. In addition Kangoo classes are held both indoors and outdoors. You can jog run dance or just plain have fun into your Kangoo Jumps. Michelle says it is so easy to learn that she can have you up and bouncing in less than two minutes. They started the Kangoo and then finds ways to share her discoveries with her clients. She makes the assumption that if she enjoys something there are bound to be plenty of others in the community who will also enjoy it. So far that philosophy of sharing her fitness passions has paid off well. Through Michelle s direction Cheeky Fitness is also building a reputation as an important contributor to the community. Many of Michelle s weekends are filled with community events that Cheeky Fitness chooses to participate in or sponsor. These include Women for Women 5K Run Florida Brain Cancer 5K Undy 5000 Colon Cancer Alliance and the M.A.D.D. Dash. One of those events is the Susan G. Komen South Florida Race for the Cure to raise funds and awareness for breast cancer research. Cheeky Fitness and Palm Beach Kangoo Club sponsors a team each year. They also sponsored a team this past March in Walk Now for Autism Speaks a cause that program in November 2011. And the club will also be offering Aerial Yoga beginning this month. Michelle is a true entrepreneur. She saw a niche that wasn t being filled in the community and took the initiative to start a brand new business to meet that need. Today Palm Beach has many more creative and fun-filled ways to achieve your fitness goals thanks to Cheeky Fitness and Palm Beach Kangoo Club. Michelle s fitness businesses keep growing even during these hard economic times. She attributes her success to the fact that she is fiercely independent and never gives up. I love what I do and feel very fortunate to pursue my passion said Michelle. It appears that Michelle has discovered a pretty simple formula for success--she just keeps trying different and new aspects of fitness has personal meaning to Michelle because of her connection with an adorable neighbor child who has been diagnosed with an autism disorder. In many ways Michelle Marton is an average American woman of today. She s raising a family participating in her community and pursuing her passions. However Michelle also shows women that by pushing yourself a little bit further you can take those everyday parts of your life and turn them in a means of making a significant difference in the lives of others and the overall good of the community in which you live. You just need to be a little Cheeky Cheeky Fitness is located at 370 Business Park Way 113 in Royal Palm Beach. You can also find them online at CheekyFitness. com and or call 561-215-9125. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 21 HERLIFE culinary eat meal has arrived. Have you ever thought about what delivering a meal really means Airlines do it. Hospitals do it. Prisons do it. I ve yet to experience prison food but most industrial meal delivery services are like factories and the food leaves a bit to be desired. Why is this Well we all have to eat but in our fast-paced world eating seems to be a bit of a nuisance. Yet somebody has to fill the demand. It brings to mind an old sales motto Cheap fast and good--please choose two. Any two that you choose will automatically exclude the third. If you want cheap and fast it s not going to be good. If you want good and fast it s not going to be cheap. Unfortunately with huge corporations the bottom line comes into play. When it comes to meal delivery there are three safe bets in my book--Chinese pizza and Grandma. They all arrive piping hot and are just as good if not better the next day. But most others fall short. Although there are no shortages of meal delivery services most are all about quantity and sales and not so much quality. Diet food delivery services have exploded in the last decade. Fortunately for these services there is no shortage of overweight celebrities and athletes to peddle these meals and convince you that the pounds will fall off if you only purchase three meals and snacks a day. Every day. This generally falls into the frozen meal delivery category. I ve never personally tried any of these services although I m certain the choices and quality go from one end of the spectrum to the other. So do your research and remember just because an actor holds up a giant pair of pants doesn t mean it s your magic bullet. (I m also sure that if you order a five-day supply and consume it in three days it s by c arl e. j ohns ton Many Meanings Of Meal Delivery The not going to be quite as effective.) Then there is hot food delivery. Local restaurants are beginning to offer this service and for the most part you seem to get a lukewarm version of their offerings. Basically it s being done so they can keep up with the Joneses. Adapt to the customers desires or fall behind. As I said pizza and Italian eateries seem to do the best jobs primarily because they designed their menus and restaurants to do this from the beginning. When other restaurants add this amenity they aren t quite as prepared. As a chef I know that during the busy dinner rush when a ticket comes into the kitchen with TO GO in red letters printed at the top it generally moves to the end of the line and is sometimes of less concern than the customers in the dining room. Catering is a type of meal delivery but is more of an experience delivery. With this service you get what you pay for so don t be afraid to splurge once in a while just for the pampering and experience of bringing a restaurant into the comfort of your home. It s kind of like renting somebody who can cook better than you and clean your dishes. I m not talking about barbeque or Mexican food that s dropped off. I m talking about full service catering complete with china flatware and tuxedo-wearing servers. Or try this. Just for today develop your own meal delivery service and take a fresh baked pie to your friends or neighbors. Source for this article is thoughtfully and carefully prepared by somebody s mother or grandmother. Deviled eggs relish trays fried chicken biscuits three-bean salad casseroles pies and cakes all simply prepared and presented. Times of joy and sadness seem to stimulate this response which is always appreciated because there is no better food than somebody else s home cooking. The first meal deliveries are believed to have started in wartime London in the 1940s by the women s volunteer services out of necessity compassion and philanthropy. Meals were delivered to injured soldiers and families who lost their homes in raids and bombings. This is the purest form of meal delivery and still exists today in programs like Meals on Wheels an all-volunteer program designed to help feed the elderly and less fortunate segments of our population. In North America we call it take out the Scots call it carry out in Australia it s take away and it s parcel in India. No matter what you choose to call it it is securely ingrained in our society and ubiquitous all over the world. We ve all grown accustomed to the anticipation of that knock on the door indicating that our ready-to22 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM a t funerals and family reunions is where it all really started. I have dreams about long tables filled with Dutch ovens Tupperware and baskets filled with homemade creations recipes HERLIFE g r illed lem on Pep p er s hr i m p re cip e s an d p hotogra phy by kri s ten doyl e ingredients cup olive oil teaspoon Dijon mustard 2 garlic cloves minced Juice of 1 lemon Zest of 2 lemons 1 teaspoon ground pepper teaspoon Kosher salt teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes 1 pound medium (31-35 count per pound) shrimp peeled and deveined Small handful chopped fresh basil 4 cups fresh salad greens instructions 1. In a plastic container combine olive oil Dijon mustard garlic lemon juice lemon zest pepper salt and red pepper flakes. Whisk to combine. Add the shrimp and toss well to combine. Cover the container and put in the fridge. Let the shrimp marinate for up to 4 hours. 2. Heat an outdoor grill to medium high. Add the shrimp in batches cooking on each side for about 2 minutes or until the shrimp is just cooked through. Do not overcook. slow Cooker Mar inar a ingredients 6 pounds fresh tomatoes peeled 1 medium yellow onion diced 2 garlic cloves minced 1 6-ounce can tomato paste 2 whole bay leaves 1 Tablespoon dried basil Tablespoon dried oregano 1 Tablespoon brown sugar 1 Tablespoon balsamic vinegar cup water 1 teaspoon salt pepper to taste instructions 1. Place peeled tomatoes in a food processor and process until smooth. 2. Place diced onion and minced garlic into a slow cooker. Add tomatoes tomato paste bay leaves basil oregano brown sugar balsamic vinegar and water. Stir until well combined. 3. Put the lid on the slow cooker and cook on low for 8 hours. 4. Remove bay leaves. 5. Season with salt and pepper and serve. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 23 HERLIFE mother s perspective KeepingYour Family Safe Online by c a ti e wa ts o n F or most families the Internet has become a universal tool for research entertainment banking shopping connecting with friends and a variety of other useful purposes. Although there are tispyware protection as well as an Internet firewall. It s also important to pay an annual subscription fee to make sure your security software is updated on a regularly basis so your computer is protected against new viruses. Many Apple computer owners assume that security software is not required on the Mac platform. Recent cyber attacks have shown that Mac computers are also vulnerable and Apple now recommends the use of security software. In addition to running with security software it is important to install operating system updates on both Windows and Mac computers as they become available. You should also protect your wireless network by using a router password (otherwise anyone in the neighborhood can gain access to your network). In addition to running security and firewall software everyone in the family needs to be aware that opening email attachments or downloading files from websites can install viruses spyware and other types of malicious software (or malware ). Don t open attachments or accept downloads unless you re sure that the source is reliable. The media portray kids of today as computer savvy but most are very na ve when it comes to online safety. As soon as a child starts using the computer it s important to lay the groundwork for safe online many benefits and conveniences available online there are also threats to your personal identity and safety. Every day cybercriminals think of new ways to prey on innocent users of technology. By protecting your computer with security software establishing some basic Internet safety rules and monitoring your kids online activities you can make sure your family stays safe online. Locking the doors and windows of your home is not enough to protect your computer and its data from would-be thieves. Hackers use Trojan horse viruses to destroy photos financial information and other important information on your computer or to secretly install spyware that monitors all of your online activity. These viruses can infect your computer through email downloads or even by visiting a malicious website. The first line of defense against hackers and identity thieves is keeping your technology secure. The Microsoft Safety and Security Center recommends installing Internet security software from an established company. The software should include antivirus and an- 24 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM behavior. Parents can no longer assume they will be able to personally monitor everything their children are doing online. Computers are available at schools libraries and at friends homes. Children who have been educated about online dangers will be better equipped to protect themselves when using the Internet. If your family includes young children computer location is an important aspect of online safety. Place the computer your children will use in a high-traffic area where you can see what they re doing. Limit their screen time and stay involved in their online activities. Become familiar with the websites they visit and the applications they use. Talk to them about whom they re communicating with online. Many parents use monitoring filtering and blocking software to control the content their children can access online. These can be great tools to help protect children but they should not be used as a substitute for parental involvement. Social media applications like Facebook YouTube and Twitter have created new challenges to online privacy and safety. Parents should become familiar with these applications before allowing their Parents also need to explain to children that they should never give out personal information such as their name address or phone number while online. children to create accounts. Privacy settings should be used to make sure that photos posts and personal information can only be viewed by friends and family members. Children should be reminded that anything they post online has the potential to be viewed by everyone they know (as well as many people they have never met). Explain the consequences of posting inappropriate or rude content. Children should also be warned against sharing any of their passwords with friends since inappropriate material could be posted in their name. Parents also need to explain to children that they should never give out personal information such as their name address or phone number while online. If they are contacted by an unknown adult or feel that they are the victim of cyberbullying they need to let their parents or another adult authority figure know. Kids today can connect to the digital world in a multitude of ways and we can t always be around to help them. By establishing some safety rules and monitoring their use of technology parents can help their children become good digital citizens who are able to avoid the most common online dangers. For more information about protecting yourself and your family while online visit the website of the Family Online Safety Institute ( an international non-profit organization that promotes online responsibility. Sources for this article are and the Family Online Safety Institute. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 25 HERLIFE community spotlight A A Woman Serving Her Community rifle and a taser aren t standard equipment for most working moms but for Casey Thume a mother of a nine-year-old they re just part of the package. Casey is Detective Thume on the Delray Beach Police Department where she has served for over 18 years. For the past 10 years Casey has been a detective in the Criminal Investigations Section which investigates fraud-related cases. However she s served in a number of different positions during her law enforcement career including road patrol special task force positions and as a Field Training Officer responsible for training rookies as they entered the Police Department. One of the things Detective Thume enjoys about her job is the fact that every day is different. She never knows what she will be encountering or what she ll be asked to do when she shows up for work. One of the interesting but not so pleasant duties that Casey participated in was an evening working as an undercover prostitute. The undercover assignment involved a group of women including Casey who dressed in a provocative manner and positioned themselves in an area known to be frequented by prostitution traffic. Having never been involved in this type of police work before Casey was amazed at the line of cars that began to develop as potential johns approached the group of women. Casey managed to attract one of the men who Detective Casey Thume by ka t h lee n m. krueger phot ogr a phy by chel s ea e rwi n 26 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM pulled up to her in his vehicle and voiced his prefer- ences for her services--in a very direct manner. Upon being charged with soliciting prostitution the elderly gentleman rather than being upset seemed to find the whole experience quite exciting. He was 92 years old In relating this story Casey emphasized that she has never enjoyed going undercover in any regard. Pretending to be someone I m not is just not something I feel comfortable with Casey said. These days Detective Thume investigates criminal cases of another sort--those involving fraud. The criminal element is always coming up with new ways to prey upon unsuspecting victims through deceptive means. Recent targets of fraudulent activity that her department has been investigating are timeshare owners. Having gained access to the contact information of a list of timeshare owners the scammers began by contacting these property owners during the economic downturn and convincing them that they could provide a quick and profitable sale of their property--for an up-front fee. wouldn t want a police officer and a fireman as next-door neighbors When asked about the issues related to being a woman in a maledominated profession she said it really hasn t been an issue for her. I ve always been treated with respect by my colleagues on the force whether male or female she shared. The number of women serving in the Delray Beach Police Department has grown from only 3 or 4 when Casey started to around 15 now. According to Detective Thume serving in law enforcement requires similar traits in women as it does in men. They all have to undergo the same rigorous testing have good moral character and be able follow a chain of command. It also requires a lot of commitment and dedication. It s a great way of life and a great career Casey enthused. It s one I m glad I chose. Because fraudulent crime often preys on the elderly and other trusting adults fighting to protect them and put an end to those who would take advantage of their vulnerability is something that Detective Thume pursues with great passion. As duped property owners began reporting these activities to law enforcement authorities the scammers quickly adjusted their tactics and retargeted their victims claiming to represent either government agencies or other parties who would help them recover their losses. Detective Thume and others working on these cases found themselves faced with some victims who had been defrauded many times over. Because fraudulent crime often preys on the elderly and other trusting adults fighting to protect them and put an end to those who would take advantage of their vulnerability is something that Detective Thume pursues with great passion. Casey Thume doesn t fit some of the typical law enforcement stereotypes. She doesn t have a law enforcement family background for one. She is the first in her family to choose a criminal justice career. Her first thought that it was the career path she wanted to pursue came during a family visit to Washington D.C. where they toured FBI headquarters. During that visit something about the idea of taking a stand for justice appealed to 14-year-old Casey and she knew then and there that she wanted to have a career in the justice system. Casey s off-duty time is focused around spending time with her husband Patrick a Captain with the Palm Beach County Fire Rescue and their 9-year-old daughter. Their dual representation of local public services has made them welcome neighbors wherever they lived. Who HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 27 HERLIFE trendsetter bika bazaar bi kabaz aar. c om 888- 811- 0223 p h o to g r ap hy and s tyl i ng by chr i s t i ne r os e phot og ra p hy m a k e u p by cr ys tal r os a a ssi ste d b y y uliya s ir ot i ns k aya 28 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM j ew e l ry prov i d e d b y l e t s b e ch i c b o u t i q u e mod e l s b ra n d o n l a v i n a l i c e l o p e z a n d y u l i y a s i ro t i n s k a y a shot on l o c a t i o n a t t h e h o o k a h h o u s e 80 2 l a k e a v e . l a k e w o rt h f l o ri d a HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 29 30 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 31 32 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 33 HERLIFE working women should i Work in the Corporate World or Work for Myself by nat as ha l ogan also compensated with health insurance paid time off and other benefits. But these perks come with a price--your employer usually expects you to honor a set work schedule and meet goals and deadlines. There are a few guidelines to help you succeed in the corporate world. Generally a dress code is as much about the image you project as it is about grooming and hygiene. You may love wearing loud colors but most managers appreciate neutral tones. Having a can-do attitude is appreciated while conveying an attitude of I m always right is not. And even though it s not much fun to put up with a surly colleague or nasty clients you have no control over anyone s behavior but yours. Show that you are capable of being the person who takes the higher road. There s a theory that most corporate employees work 30 percent of the day and at only 40 percent of their capacity. If you make it your goal to exceed these standards a smart manager should recognize your efforts. In the corporate world a lot of moving up the ladder involves networking. And sometimes it involves getting face time with the boss. If this opportunity presents itself prove yourself to be trustworthy dependable and confident in your abilities. Finally learn that sometimes it s acceptable to decline an assignment. If you re being taken advantage of or work is being delegated to you while someone else takes the credit assert yourself. While no manager wants an employee who shirks responsibility they also won t respect one who s a doormat. But let s say you re one of those people who has tried working in the corporate world and didn t like it (or it didn t like you ) or you just want to find your own niche. How do you know if you have what it takes to work for yourself Many people feel they have more stability by starting their own business than if they stayed in the corporate world. And they re also finding that money is not the only measure of success on their career paths. Following their passion instead of their pocketbook makes their livelihoods much more livable. One thing self-employed people tend to enjoy is work life bal34 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM M ost people work as employees in a corporate environment with jobs that are worked generally 9-to-5 Monday through Friday. Besides being paid a salary employees are usually ance. They make time for their families and themselves which is often hard to do if you re tied to a cubicle 40 hours a week. They invest in their own well-being both financially and spiritually and it s immensely rewarding. If you work for yourself you determine how tightly you want the ship to be run. Some people choose to work a lot of hours while others determine they would rather scale back their lifestyle than to return to the stress of working overtime. Additionally many find that if they put their time and efforts into doing things they love work stops being work and becomes their life s calling. Those who have discovered non-profit work understand this concept. But before you take the plunge into working for yourself there are a few steps to ensure you re ready to dive in. First take a look at your current salary and determine if you re ready to survive on 30 to 50 percent less for a few years. Starting up a business can be tough in the beginning years. Don t do anything drastic until you ve weighed the financial impact. Before you launch yourself into self-employment build a firm foundation. Get whatever education or training you might need to shore up your credentials. This not only helps you market yourself it builds your inner confidence. Look to others who have left the corporate world and succeeded. They can help you network and build your business base as well as give you tips on what to avoid and what to embrace. Expect to be a solo act until you re financially and professionally in a position to take on employees or contractors. This will require the ability to multitask and make quick decisions. And sad to say not all people who try to work for themselves are successful. Give yourself a set period of time to determine if your business will succeed or not and establish an exit strategy. Sometimes the price of working for yourself is too steep to pay and you have to find a viable way to support yourself even if it means returning to the corporate world for a while. Sources for this article are and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 35 HERLIFE spotlight The let s Talk initiative inc. by ka th l e e n m. k ru e ge r phot ogr a phy by chel s ea e rwi n a n d to m ro l l o a t g ra c e p h o to g ra p hy s ilence is NOT golden according to Dena Sisk Foman founder of The Let s Talk Initiative Inc. Dena would also challenge the old saying that Children are to be seen and not heard. She would cross out the not heard and replace it with MUST be heard. Dena feels so strongly about the healing value provided to elementary children when they are able to talk about their pain fears and struggles in a safe environment that she established the non-profit The Let s Talk Initiative Inc. to serve as an advocacy foundation committed to that premise. The passion with which Ms. Foman approaches this subject is born out of her own experience as a child born into a family situation of mental illness addiction and dysfunction. At the tender age of 11 Dena was abandoned by her mother a drug addict and left in the care of her alcoholic father. With parents either absent or consumed by their addictions Dena lived with inner turmoil and confusion uncertain of her identity and her own value as a person. Her memoir Only I Can Define Me Releasing Shame and Growing Into My Adult Self tells her story of a teenager searching for love and acceptance a teen pregnancy early marriage to an abusive husband and her journey from the life of a single mother on welfare to her current career as a successful attorney. Dena s story is not limited to her own childhood pain however. It also includes her own son s struggles with ADD bipolar disorder and drug addition--a road of turmoil that included two suicide attempts. This nonprofit organization is motivated to move forward by the belief that when a child is able to talk openly about their life situation in a safe setting with supportive adults they are in turn given a sense of empowerment. Dena shares her story openly and honestly in her book her blog ( and through her nonprofit foundation s website She shares her story with the belief that her words can bring hope to others who have struggled with similar cycles of family dysfunction and with the hope that others will be encouraged to break the silence and experience the healing that can come from talking about their experiences. The Let s Talk Initiative Inc. is just getting off the ground but is already at work networking with other organizations that have similar family and mental health-related missions such as The Action Alliance for Mental Health and the Mental Health Commission in Palm Beach. However the Initiative has a more specific age group focus 36 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM than many of the other organizations out there. Reaching and helping kids before they reach middle school or their adolescent years is a key component to the mission focus of The Let s Talk Initiative. We want to reach kids before the scabs on their mental and emotional wounds turn into permanent scars Ms Foman explains. In a JVM Productions video created to communicate the mission and need for The Let s Talk Initiative Inc. Dr. Cynthia Clayton a pediatrician and educator highlights the value of children simply talking about their home situations when she says ...often the telling of the story shows the solution to the problem... This nonprofit organization is motivated to move forward by the belief that when a child is able to talk openly about their life situation in a safe setting with supportive adults they are in turn given a sense of empowerment. Dena desires to get the message to children that they don t need to bear the weight of their fears and uncertainties by themselves they can ask for help and receive it. The goals of The Let s Talk Initiative Inc. are to bring a greater awareness of the mental health needs of children. They want to help develop and fund group counseling sessions with licensed counselors that are age-appropriate and provide a supportive forum for kids to talk about their concerns and fears while also receiving positive feedback and life coping skills to assist them in breaking the cycle of dysfunction in their families. Having lived on both sides of the issue as the child and as the parent of a child dealing with mental health issues Ms. Foman is quite aware that parents are also in need of support and assistance in how to provide a nurturing environment for their children. As a result The Let s Talk Initiative Inc. also hopes to sponsor support groups for parents who grew up in dysfunctional homes themselves and do not have positive role models to pattern themselves after as well as support groups for parents of children with mental health issues. Dena Sisk Foman discovered that her life did not need to be defined by the circumstances of her childhood. It is her hope that through The Let s Talk Initiative Inc. that other girls and boys will make that same discovery but at a much earlier age. You can contact Dena on Twitter onlyidefineme or through or her law firm s website or the firm s phone number at 561-659-4020. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 37 sPeCial aDverTising seCTiOn The Office of Small Business Assistance (OSBA) is responsible for monitoring conditions affecting small businesses within the marketplace that can provide goods and services to Palm Beach County thus creating an environment that encourages the growth and development of small businesses in Palm Beach County. The programs and initiatives offered by the OSBA are designed to assist entrepreneurs in developing the skills they need to start and operate an efficient and profitable business. These programs are tailored to support the growing number of small businesses in Palm Beach County. OSBA s primary services are certification contract compliance training outreach and referral to resources for financial or technical assistance. SMALL BUSINESS CERTIFICATION PROGRAM ELIGIBILITY O Your business must be domiciled in Palm Beach County. O Your business must be independently owned and operated. O Your business must provide a commercially useful business function to Palm Beach County for procurement purposes. O The applicant business together with any subsidiaries affiliates must meet the size standard for small businesses based on gross receipts averaged over a three year period as follows Construction related business must not exceed 9 million Commodities must not exceed 5 million Professional Services (CCNA) must not exceed 5 million Professional Services (Non CCNA) must not exceed 4 million Palm Beach County Office of Small Business Assistance 50 South Military Trail Suite 202 West Palm Beach FL 33415 osba (561) 616-6840 sPeCial aDverTising seCTiOn HERLIFE finance Tipping DemYSTiFieD a guide to gratuities EvEryday Tipping Like it or not there are many people out there who work for tips. They frequently earn very low wages because their income consists mostly of gratuities. And sometimes they re required to pay additional costs a restaurant server often tips bussers and bartenders at the end of a shift and a hair stylist pays rent for the chair in which to trim your tresses. So when you receive services from the following folks be prepared to give a little extra Airport baggage handlers At least 1 per bag. If your bag is heavy enough to constitute an Olympic weightlifting trial another dollar or two is nice. Bartender 1 to 2 per drink is customary or 15 to 20 percent if you run a tab. Beauty In a salon the standard tip is 15 to 20 percent for haircuts nail care facials waxing--any service that makes you feel a little bit prettier walking out than you did walking in. Cabs A 1 to 3 tip is the norm for fares under ten dollars for larger fares ten percent is good. Dining A 15 to 20 percent tip on the pre-tax total is the going rate for meals. For large parties (usually six or more) the server will often include a 15 to 18 percent tip in the bill but it s fine to leave a little extra for fantastic service. Food Delivery Similar to a cab driver food delivery drivers appreciate 1 to 2 on an order of less than ten dollars and ten percent on larger by ch a nd ra b lackwel l orders. But if you ve made the driver bring your pizza through a blizzard it s only polite to throw them few extra bucks. Food Takeout Even when you re picking up restaurant fare to go someone still has to prepare your order and make sure it s correct so a 10 percent tip is customary. Hotels Your bellhop should receive 1 or 2 per bag when you arrive and when you leave. 2 to 4 left daily in your room for the housekeeper should keep the clean towels coming. Massage Though a good massage therapist is worth his or her weight in gold the typical massage tip is 15 percent. Parking In daily parking garages the standard is 1 for someone who retrieves your car. A valet should be tipped 2 to 3. Holiday Tipping At the end of the year some services are traditionally rewarded with money or a gift. When holiday time rolls around think about the people whose services improve your life on a routine basis hair stylists house cleaners landscapers and babysitters fall into this category. But your gratitude doesn t have to be expressed in dollars. You probably know a little bit about the people who provide these services for you so feel free to give Q uick quiz What do politics religion and tipping have in common They re all conversation topics that could cause an argument. Nearly every tipping conversation I ve ever witnessed degenerates into one side declaring that bad tippers are spawn of Satan and the other insisting that anyone who makes a living based primarily on tips needs a new line of work. (And no matter which side of the argument you take you ve gotta admit there s a tiny bit of truth in both.) Experts who ve studied tipping habits maintain that not only do most people hate tipping they don t even do it for the right reasons. They do it to avoid embarrassment and gain social approval rather than to show appreciation for well-provided service. Furthermore while more than 26 billion dollars a year is spent on gratuities approximately one third of us don t know how much to tip. Sure most of us know the 15 to 20 percent standard for restaurant servers but some tipping situations aren t as cut and dried. Here are a few tipping guidelines that should help you maintain social acceptance--and appropriately reward good service. It s a win-win 40 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM a gift. Symphony tickets for a classical music fan or a special heirloom for a lover of antiques will be greatly appreciated. If you do choose to give money however here are some of the more common holiday tip recipients and suggested amounts Baby sitter An average evening s pay Building superintendent 30 to 100 Dog walker One week s salary Doorman 25 to 100 Garbage collector 10 to 20 Hairdresser 25 to 100 Housekeeper maid service One to two weeks salary Manicurist 10 to 50 Nanny One to two weeks salary plus a small gift from your child Newspaper carrier 5 to 10 Parking garage attendant One-third of your monthly bill Personal trainer Price of one session Though the jury still seems to be out on tipping in coffee shops (most people tip 1 for any drink involving steaming frothing or the suffix -ccino but keep their wallets closed for a plain cup of joe) and tattoo parlors (tipping for skin art is not yet a universal practice but it seems like a good idea if you plan to come back for more) tipping is a way of life in the U.S. Hope these tipping tips will make your life a little easier Sources for this article are and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 41 HERLIFE real estate when you re not using it find out if there s a demand for rentals in the area. According to Forbes some beach communities that were hit hard by foreclosures have an excess number of rentals. Buying in one of these communities will make it harder to find renters for your beach house. Before you decide to become a landlord talk to a tax expert about how rental income will affect your tax situation. When you pinpoint an area where you would like to purchase a home create a budget that includes all the costs associated with beach ownership. Find out if your budget needs to include extra insurance. In some areas flood and hurricane insurance is sold separately from homeowner s insurance. Without this insurance your home may not be covered if it is damaged during a storm. Besides insurance costs be sure to factor home maintenance into your budget. Exposure to wind and water can take a toll on a home s exterior ongoing maintenance is needed to protect the windows doors siding deck and roof from the elements. Before you make an offer on a beach home check the property title and loan status through the county assessor s office. You may be able to make a low offer if the homeowner is about to be foreclosed oes your dream home include cool sea breezes and a sandy beach for a back yard With year-round opportunities for outdoor recreation living by the beach is like being on peron. When it comes to the condition of the property be sure to complete your due diligence. A good home inspection is a necessity. In addition to obvious damage the inspection should focus on less visible problems like mold termites and foundation shifting. Be especially wary of the condition of a home that has gone through foreclosure since essential maintenance may have been ignored. If your dream property is a condo make sure that the homeowners association has maintained common areas and is properly funded to make future repairs. Perhaps your dream of oceanfront property includes a yearning for adventure. In this case you may want to consider the international housing market. Some Americans are buying beach homes in Costa Rica Mexico Central America and the Caribbean as an alternative to dealing with uncertain property values in the U.S. International beach property can be a good investment especially if you plan on making it a source of rental income. Before buying property on foreign soil it s essential that you become familiar with local laws as well as with how your foreign rental income will affect your U.S. taxes. Real estate experts recommend that you personally visit another country to purchase property and don t rely on an agent or website to find foreign property and finalize the sale. It s also recommended that you consult an attorney who specializes in international rentals before you rent out your property. There s no guarantee that purchasing oceanfront property will be the answer to your dream but if you do your homework and go into the sale equipped with all the facts you ll increase your chances of making a good investment that you ll enjoy for years to come. Sources for this article are Forbes USA Today The Washington Post and Coastal Living. Buying Oceanfront Property by c at i e wat s on manent vacation. You may have thought that your oceanfront property dream was out of reach but this could be the best time to make your move to the beach. Over the past two decades the prices for even the most modest oceanfront homes soared. Property values doubled every few years in some beach communities. When the housing bubble burst even the most desirable oceanfront homes were eventually affected. Property values along both the East and West Coasts have declined or stayed flat and the amount of time beach homes stayed on the market before being sold has increased. For many investors and home buyers this market slowdown offers the perfect opportunity to take the beach property plunge. Oceanfront home prices are at their lowest level in a decade and there s plenty of available inventory. Whether you are looking for a rustic cottage or a comfortable family home it pays to do some digging before you buy your own piece of the beach. Even before you start looking for a beach house it s important to do some research on the areas where you would like to buy. According to Coastal Living magazine some of the most desirable beach communities are located in Florida Hawaii Northern and Southern California Oregon Washington New Jersey South Carolina Georgia Virginia and Texas. Seasonal weather should be one of your top considerations. Has the area been affected by severe weather in recent years Are flooding or beach erosion a problem Obtain information from the state geological survey to make sure your future beach home is on solid ground. If you plan on purchasing a vacation home and renting it out D 42 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 43 HERLIFE travel Have Child Will Travel Kid-Friendly Cities by l i s a t aranto but l er quest for fun The dialogue gets a bit dicey after that but you get the picture. Traveling with children can be spontaneous or well-planned but everyone wants the same thing--to have fun. So whether you are headed to Walt Disney World or to the world s largest ball of twine you want to create great vacation memories for the whole family. Here are a few (big) cities that make traveling with kids a hit. AnAheim CAliforniA Anaheim boasts a world-famous amusement park but there is so much more than rides and shows in this Southern California town. Known for beautiful year-round weather Anaheim offers endless activities including hiking boating beaching and sports. If indoors is where you choose to be lace up your bowling shoes and experience playing amongst the pins of an amazing light and video show in one of the world s largest bowling alleys. With more than 40 lanes for potential strikes kids under 12 get a free game and shoe rental during the summer. Afterwards take the whole family on a leisurely stroll to the city s famous Garden Walk. On the way stop for a bite at one of the many restaurants or shops and end the evening with a show at the IMAX Theater. St. louiS miSSouri Don t miss this Midwestern jewel of a city. Small enough to get around but large enough to find plenty of entertaining things to do the Gateway to the West boasts a world-class baseball team zoo and children s museum. Check out the St. Louis Cardinals and Busch Stadium. Brandnew and beautiful this stadium offers a Family Pavilion with batting cages speed pitch video games and a play area. Afterwards meander through the Anheuser Busch Brewery tour. Kids can see the Clydesdales and moms and dads can down a free brew. 44 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM A lways struggling to impress his family Chevy Chase may have said it best in National Lampoon s Vacation Well I ll tell you something. This is no longer a vacation It s a quest. It s a One of the city s many free attractions the St. Louis Zoo has been recognized as of one of the nation s leading zoological parks. Explore attractions like Big Cat Country Penguin & Puffin Coast or the Interactive Stingray Pool. Spend some time at The City Museum where kids can flail about the outdoor playground and get a peek at an airplane suspended three stories above ground. End your day with a famous St. Louis-style pizza and ice cream concrete. WAShington D.C. Appealing to moms and dads not only for governmental and historic reasons Washington D.C. is truly a family destination. Known for its many pedestrian areas a superb public transit system and easyto-navigate streets this city takes family-friendly to another level. One of the most kid-friendly places to visit in the nation s capital is the National Zoo where over 400 different species of animals reside. Kids of all ages love money Why not see how it is made Watch paper bills being printed at the Bureau of Engraving and Printing. Interesting to just about everyone this tour demonstrates how U. S. paper currency is printed stacked cut and inspected for defects. orlAnDo floriDA When you think of Florida Walt Disney World easily comes to mind but this panhandled state has so much more to offer than Mickey and Minnie. Florida boasts the oldest city in the United States (St. Augustine) is home to the U.S. space program and has loads of national forests and park destinations. Be hands-on at Green Meadow Farms a petting zoo where kids can chase pigs milk cows and hold chicks. Pull on your kickers for an afternoon hayride around the premises. If you re not too frightened by animals with extremely large teeth head to Gatorland to get a glimpse of these remarkable reptiles. Hold the tiny ones in your hand or just gawk at the 18-footers. SAn Diego CAliforniA The typical review of San Diego is FANTASTIC With loads of family-friendly things to do and a calendar of generally gorgeous weather San Diego is a sure win for active kids and adults alike. If water is what your family adores then get wet at Coronado Beach or Sea World. For more action take surfing lessons. With over 75 miles of surfing coast line San Diego waters offer plenty of opportunities to catch a wave. Just like skiing kids can enroll in half- or whole-day surf schools. LEGOLAND sparks the imagination of children and the child in all of us while woofing down a couple of hot dogs and peanuts at a Padres game will have your whole family cheering. By adding in the popular San Diego Zoo numerous museums and shopping the only drawback to traveling to this mild-weathered town is deciding what to do next. Of course these five cities aren t the only places to find family fun. Check out these websites for more information and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 45 HERLIFE tie the knot Mr. & Mrs. Clarke TiED THE KnOT MArCH 24 2012 lOCal Businesses THaT sHared in THe lOVe Bridal gOWn Alfred Angelo Bridesmaids gOWns Alfred Angelo Hair and makeuP Team Beauti PHOTOgraPHy Gina Barca of Barca Designs FlOrisT Carla Tovolacci of Creations Production dJ ALB Events and Productions CaTerer Ovations Catering Cake Sugar Chef Venue Holy Trinity Episcopal Church West Palm Beach The Harriet Himmel Theater Tuxes Men s Warehouse VideOgraPHer Mark Klatman of Epic Media 46 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM by c a n d i s mi th phot ogr a phy by gi na b a rc a o f b a rc a d e s i g n s p h o to g ra p hy S this year. arah Clarke is 25 years old and was born in Miami Florida and raised in Wellington Florida. She studied Health Administration and Health Sciences at the Uni- as her Matron of Honor because Jen is always there to listen and make her laugh and is such a great friend. Sarah s bridesmaids were Briana Weiser (Sarah has known Briana since elementary school and they have remained close friends through the years) Andrea Unger (Sarah has known Andrea since elementary school and they attended UCF together where they lived together for a year and a half) Michele Heyman (Sarah has known Michele since middle school where they used to do cheerleading together and they also attended UCF together) and Amanda Enos (Sarah has been close friends with Amanda since elementary school and they lived together at UCF for four years). Jim s Best Man was Steve Clarke II Jim s older brother. They are close in age so they have always gotten along really well. Jim s groomsmen were Michael Raghunath (Mike is Jim s best friend they met while working together at the Orange County library and realized they have a lot in common) Will Murillo (Jim has known Will since his freshman year at UCF where they instantly became friends and have remained close over the years) Joshua Johnson (Jim met Josh through Will at UCF and they also have a lot in common like a love for football) and Jason Sanchez (Jim has known Jason since middle school they attended UCF together and have continued their friendship throughout the years). Sarah planned the entire wedding down to the last detail. She wanted the event to be formal but still fun. The church where they got married has been around for hundreds of years a fact which Sarah thought was really neat. Sarah was always fascinated by The Harriet Himmel Theater and when she found out it could be used for weddings she knew that would be their venue. One of the many special touches Sarah planned for the day was that her bridal clutch was made out of her mother s old wedding veil which served as her something old. The newlyweds went on a seven-night cruise to Puerto Rico St. Thomas and St. Maarten. They wanted to take a long honeymoon and this was their best option. Sarah had never been on a cruise before and they had a blast versity of Central Florida (UCF) where she graduated in 2009. In her spare time she enjoys working out playing the piano and watching TV shows and movies with Jim. Jim Clarke is originally from Orlando Florida and is also 25 years old. He studied Business Marketing at UCF where he graduated in 2011. Jim is currently a leasing consultant at an apartment complex in Boynton Beach. In his spare time he enjoys working out working on his car and spending time with Sarah. The newlyweds live in West Palm Beach Florida but are hoping to move somewhere up north The couple met at UCF during their junior year of college. They had a lot of mutual friends and when they first met they instantly became best friends. Jim came down to West Palm a few times over winter break to take Sarah to Miami Dolphins games and shortly after this they started dating. A year and a half later he proposed and a year and a half after the proposal they married. Sarah had just moved to Jacksonville Florida to begin nursing school in a city where she knew no one. She was having a hard time adjusting to living alone and two weeks after she moved there Jim came up to visit. He took her shopping for a dress during the day and told her they were going to a special dinner that night. After they had dinner at III Forks in Jacksonville they drove home. Upon entering Sarah s apartment she saw candles and rose petals all over the floor in a path leading to a chair in the middle of the room. When she entered her living room she looked around and saw the faces of all her friends and family and immediately started crying. She was so overwhelmed and happy to see everyone. Jim got on one knee and told her how much he loved her and how he would always be there for her. When he asked her to marry him Sarah said Yes The happy couple tied the knot on March 24 2012. Sarah s Matron of Honor was Jennifer Miles (Sarah and Jen attended UCF together and became close during their college years). Sarah chose Jen HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 47 HERLIFE in the city C alen d ar of E ve n ts NOTE All calendar events must be submitted by June 30th for consideration in our August issue. Please include event location date details and contact information and email to karen Events considered for publication are normally limited to community wide charity events or events hosted by our advertisers. We cannot guarantee that all events submitted will be published. 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