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Description: HERLIFE Magazine of South Florida September 2012 Education Issue

HERLIFE MAGAZINE KEEPING WOMEN CONNECTED THE EDUCATION ISSUE TOP LIVABLE CITIES FOR WOMEN COMPARING THE PAY OF WOMEN AND MEN LITTLE KNOWN ROMANTIC GETAWAYS SEPTEMBER 2012 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM & Kristin alder CREADING BY EXAMPLE 2 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM content SEPTEMBER 2012 WELCOME HEALTH BEAUTY SPOTLIGHT INSPIRATIONS CULINARY RECIPES content HERLIFE 6 8 12 14 16 18 22 23 24 26 28 33 34 38 39 40 42 44 46 48 SCENE AND BE SEEN 18 KRISTEN CALDER PROMOTING PALM BEACH S LITERACY COALITION Everyone agrees that no child should be left behind but too often children find themselves unable to move on to the next stage in their education because of their inability to read. Kristen Calder is determined to help increase literacy one book at a time. MOTHER S PERSPECTIVE SPOTLIGHT TRENDSETTER 34 44 COMPARING THE PAY OF WOMEN AND MEN There s the old saying The more things change the more they stay the same. Despite the rise of women to C suites and executive offices and press that touts the power of women in business and the near-world-domination of Oprah Winfrey when it comes to the pay differences between men and women the gap is alive and well. LITTLE KNOWN ROMANTIC GETAWAYS In the world of romantic getaways there are two classifications. First there s the destination that everyone at the cocktail party and their sister has visited. You may recall having that moment when you mention a certain place on your upcoming agenda and everyone within earshot starts offering advice on where to go stay and eat. STRATEGICALLY ENGAGED NON-PROFIT SPOTLIGHT WORKING WOMEN LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS FINANCE REAL ESTATE TRAVEL TIE THE KNOT IN THE CITY HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 3 Staff and Contacts Publisher and Editor-In-Chief Karen Alleyne-Means karen 561-899-0433 ext 105 Chief of Operations Shawn P. Means shawn 561-289-4491 Account Executives Rocio M. Davis Vivian Hunt Advertising Information Editor Intern SFLSales 561-899-0433 ext. 101 Candi Smith candi Bianca Elysse Ungerman Creative Director Ashleigh Thomson ashleigh Design and Production Todd Grantham todd Art Director Elana Bell elana Contributing Authors Lisa Allen Chandra Blackwell Beth Blair Kristen Doyle Dr. Phil Heller Carl E. Johnston Kathleen M. Krueger Natasha Logan Linda R. Price Candi Smith Contributing Photographers Karen Alleyne-Means Gina Barca Kristen Doyle Chelsea Erwin Dana France Christine Rose To contact HERLIFE Magazine 10751 Oak Meadow Lane Suite 201 Wellington FL 33449 Phone 561-899-0433 Fax 561-641-0473 2012 HERLIFE Magazine of South Florida is operated locally by KAM Enterprises Inc. an independently owned and operated franchisee of HERLIFE Magazine LLC. To reach national headquarters call 913-402-6994. 2012 by HERLIFE Magazine. All rights reserved. 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Please go to or mail a check made out to HERLIFE Magazine to the above address. 4 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 5 HERLIFE welcome Read i ng C o u n t s You are just too good not to be better. - Author Unknown S ummer is over and the kids are back in school. Are you celebrating or stressing as you have to add more appointments to your already full schedule such as waiting in the bus loop or for cheerleading practice For our family when the children are in school we have the extra pressure of balancing work and family. We have three children in three different schools (sigh) and it takes a lot of work managing their school work and extracurricular activities and of course the day-to-day operations of the magazine. Boy do I need an assistant For this issue we decided to focus on Education since September is National Literacy Month. In my opinion every family has to do its part in teaching their children and improving literacy in the home. No longer is it just the school s responsibility for the education of our children. Without literacy a person cannot function to their fullest potential. Our cover story in this issue features Ms. Kristin Calder. Kristin serves on the Board of the Literacy Coalition of Palm Beach County and also volunteers for the George Snow Foundation Bethesda Hospital Foundation and much more. Her path has been embedded in literacy since she was a child since both of her parents were teachers. The Mission of the Literacy Coalition of Palm Beach County is to improve the quality of life in our community by promoting and achieving literacy. photo by da na france of s ugar bel l e photography Their goal is to ensure that every child and every adult in Palm Beach County becomes a reader. We also introduce Dr. Phil Heller a licensed clinical psychologist in the area who discusses bullying. We felt this was an appropriate subject matter and is a part of education. We also feature Sacred Heart School of Lake Worth and The Schoolhouse Children s Museum of Boynton Beach two exceptional educational institutions making a difference in the community. My tip for families this month is to encourage your children to reach for the stars. As a wise person once said You are just too good not to be better. To o r de r you r s u b s cr i p t i o n a n d s t ay conne c te d with H ERL I F E So c ie ty go to H ERL I F EMagazine .c o m 6 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE scene and be seen Feldman & Schneiderman Fundraising Event for Candidate Lois Frankel photog rap hy by karen al l eyne- m eans O n June 28 the law offices of Feldman & Schneiderman P.L. held a Lois Frankel for Congress Fundraiser event in their offices. Lois spoke to the supporters in attendance about what she would fight for if elected. Her message to the women voters was that she believes that a woman must have the right to make choices about her body without the involvement of government officials. She is a lifelong supporter of women s reproductive rights. Lois is a committed supporter of Roe v. Wade and believes that access to effective birth control and emergency contraception should be guaranteed for all women. As a working mother Lois knows the demands that a career can have on parents and families. She supports creating legislation that helps employers and employees strike the proper work life balance. For more information please visit and 8 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Runway Fashion Show & Luncheon at Mar-A-Lago photography by christi ne ros e photography scrumptious luncheon in the White and Gold Ballroom. The Jewish Guild for the Blind s Mission statement is to foster independence and dignity for individuals for all ages who have lost or are losing their vision by providing individualized programs and services to foster physical and emotional well being. For further information about the Jewish Guild for the Blind please visit T he Jewish Guild for the Blind held their annual fashion show and luncheon February 28 2012 at Trump s Mar a Lago Club on Palm Beach Island February 28 2012. The show featured fabulous pieces from designer house Badgley Mischka s spring collection and a HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 9 Second Annual Deerfield Beach Wine & Food Festival photog rap hy by che ls ea er w i n T he Second Annual Deerfield Beach Wine & Food Festival took place on April 27 and April 28 2012 at Quiet Waters Park. This year the festival was one that no one would forget with five very special events. Friday night s kick-off festivities had two unique events--the VIP Dinner Under The Stars which featured an intimate three-course wine and food pairing dinner with a personal chef and wine sommelier and the Grand Tasting Launch Party with gourmet food tasting wine beer and spirits and live entertainment to dance the night away. Saturday began with the Jazz Blues Brunch with plenty of Bloody Marys and mimosas. That evening top chefs from the tri-county area converged upon Quiet Waters Park for the incredible Grand Tasting. 10 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 11 HERLIFE health &Treating Genetic Diseases by l i n d a r. p ri c e Recognizing standing of the basic concepts of genetics. However it was not until the DNA structure was described in 1953 that an increased understanding of genes and how they work occurred and genetics became an important issue in modern medicine. Genes are the hereditary segments of DNA located on chromosomes. Each human cell has 23 pairs of chromosomes 22 of which are autosomes or non-sex chromosomes. The remaining pair contains two sets of sex chromosomes that determine gender. Autosomal genetic disorders are caused by a problem with one gene. There are over 6 000 known single-gene disorders occurring in about 1 in every 200 births. Examples of monogenetic disorders include cystic fibrosis sickle cell anemia Marfan syndrome and Huntington s disease. Cystic fibrosis is the most common genetic disease affecting Caucasians in the United States. It is characterized by thick sticky mucus that builds up and causes problems in many organs especially the lungs and pancreas. Treatment usually consists of preventing damage to the major organs such as the lungs controlling infections and providing nutritional supplements to offset the malabsorption of nutrients. Dennis Rosen M.D. Division of Respiratory Diseases Children s Hospital Boston and Assistant Professor of Pediatrics at the Harvard Medical School states Cystic fibrosis is a genetic disease that affects every cell of the body. The course of the disease is extremely variable. Doctors try to prevent damage to the organs. Hopefully one day there will be a cure. Many disorders are multiple-gene disorders called multifactorial disorders. People can also have reduced penetrance where the gene is not wholly dominant or recessive. This person may show milder symptoms if they have only one recessive gene but a full-blown disorder if they have two copies of the gene. Another class of genetic disorders is chromosome disorders caused by an extra or missing chromosome. In Down syndrome or trisomy 21 the patient has three copies of chromosome 21. Other diseases with chromosome abnormalities include Turner syndrome Klinefelter syndrome and cri du chat (cry of the cat or cat s cry) syndrome. Occasionally spontaneous genetic mutations occur. In achondroplasia a type of dwarfism 90 percent of the children born with the condition have parents without the condition. Yet when the child grows up he or 12 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM G enetic diseases are hereditary diseases caused by abnormalities in the genes. Austrian monk Gregor Mendel is considered the father of modern genetics. His experiments led to an under- she will pass the gene on to his or her children following the laws of autosomal dominant inheritance patterns. We can t change our genes but knowing genetic risks leads to earlier and better diagnosis management and treatment says David Stockton M.D. Chief of Genetic and Metabolic Disorders of The Children s Hospital of Michigan part of the Detroit Medical Center. Dr. Stockton believes that a key to recognizing and treating genetic diseases is recognizing atypical symptoms that present. Knowing your medical history as well as that of your family is necessary for any area of medicine but especially true when considering whether or not a disease has a genetic component. Doctors can evaluate a 20-year-old patient presenting with breast cancer more accurately if they know whether or not her grandmother mother and sister had breast cancer. If they did doctors would undoubtedly assume that there is a genetic predisposition to the disease and recommend a more aggressive treatment than they would for a 40-year old woman with no familial history of the disease. In other cases doctors may be unaware of the genetic component in a disease or disorder. Patients may have symptoms for years without an accurate diagnosis being made. In these cases the patient may engage in doctor shopping seeking relief without getting results. A good idea in these cases is to move up the ladder of professionals until you reach specialists in the specific area or a teaching hospital where doctors are more familiar with rare diseases and unusual symptoms. Many times a local general practitioner never sees cases of rare genetic disorders. Many geneticists believe that each human being carries five to ten defective recessive genes. Future parents may be worried about having a child with genetic diseases especially if there is a family history of a specific genetic disease. For those concerned many medical centers offer genetic testing and genetic counseling. A genetic counselor can help prospective parents determine if they are at risk of having a child with genetic problems. Genetic testing provides knowledge and with knowledge comes responsibility. 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ACNE MELASMA Dr. Daniel Man is a board-certified plastic surgeon with 30 years of experience who has dedicated his life s work to helping people look younger and improve their appearance through cosmetic surgery. He is a noted author artist inventor and educator. Dr. Man has been featured on major television networks as well as national and local magazines and newspapers for his work as both a plastic surgeon and an artist. Dr. Man has a private practice in Boca Raton Florida. Email your questions or comments to info or call 561-395-5508 for an appointment. SPECIAL ADVERTISING SECTION HERLIFE beauty Why Wedding Dresses Are White and Other Wedding Tr aditions by chandra bl ackwel l W hether your wedding bells are echoes from the distant past still pealing in your newlywed ears her past and to her family while the something new represents a new life with a new family. The borrowed item if loaned by an alreadyhappily-married wife is said to grant a bit of good marriage mojo to the new bride. The color blue represents a host of qualities ideal for a successful marriage like faithfulness and loyalty. And finally the penny (originally a sixpence) in the bride s shoe is of course said to bring the newlyweds good fortune. GROOMSMEN AND BRIDESMAIDS Today the men and women granted the honor of standing up next to the bride and groom on the blessed day take on a great deal of responsibility hosting showers and throwing parties delivering heartfelt and crowd-pleasing toasts at the reception and flying to the rescue in the event of an 11th--hour wardrobe malfunction. Originally however the guy who served as a groom s Best Man was also required to be a partner in crime--literally. Back in the days when it was more common for a groom to take a bride by force than to smile and sweat his way through an uncomfortable dinner in an attempt to win the favor of her parents the Best Man s role was to assist the groom in kidnapping his bride. In this scenario then the best part of the Best Man title was more about his superior skills with weapons than it was about lifelong friendship. Similarly the women chosen by the brideto-be as her wedding attendants were required more for physical protection than for moral and emotional support. Whereas these days a bridesmaid s dress for the special day generally morphs her into a clone of her fellow bridesmaids its original purpose was to morph her (along with the other bridesmaids) into a clone of the bride. That way any evil spirits or jealous former suitors BOUQUET AND GARTER TOSS In ancient times even before brides started wearing rhyming items as good luck wedding day talismans a bride was considered especially lucky on her wedding day. So lucky in fact that wedding guests would tear off parts of her dress as good luck talismans for themselves. Generally a bride did not plan to wear her wedding dress again. However as you can imagine it was still moderately unpleasant to have it ripped bit by bit from her body by wedding guests. As an alternative the bride began throwing personal articles such as her bouquet and garter to the crowd in order to appease luck-grubbing guests and keep her attire intact. (And to think that these days we consider it rude when a wedding guest fails to RSVP on time ) So it seems that a good number of wellknown wedding traditions sprung from the fact that what we now know as a blessed occasion used to be a pretty dangerous business Luckily we don t seem to have those issues now the most dangerous element of most weddings is the potential for an injury involving high heels and a conga line but still it never hurts to honor tradition and possibly earn Fortune s favor in the process. Sources for this article are yourwedding101. com and would have a hard time distinguishing the bride from the other ladies thereby failing at any plans to kidnap or hurl stones at her. or softly chiming in your future one thing s for sure--you will always remember your wedding as the day you embarked upon a lifetime of love togetherness and occasional befuddlement about your beloved spouse. But did you ever stop to wonder why we do the things we do at the wedding itself Some of the answers may surprise you but most of these traditions just like love itself have stood the test of time. ALL DRESSED IN WHITE Prior to the mid-19th century a bride s attire was simply the best clothing she owned in any color. Whereas today the layered look isn t something we normally associate with a wedding a bride in those days often piled on layers of fur silk and velvet in order to convince her husbandto-be that she came from a well-to-do family. Then in 1840 England s Queen Victoria stepped out in a white gown trimmed with orange blossoms for her wedding to Prince Albert thereby becoming well-known not only for representing an era of emphasis on morals modesty and decorum but also for influencing the fashion choices of brides for centuries to come. From that point on ivory-clad brides abounded and white became the color of choice for weddings the world over. SOMETHING OLD SOMETHING NEW Queen Victoria s influence on weddings didn t stop at the dress however the Victorian era also spawned the famous (and poetic) tradition whereby a bride wears certain items which when combined are said to bring good luck. The something old forever links the bride to 14 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 15 HERLIFE spotlight Dr. Phil Heller on BULLYING Bullying is a learned behavior a survival technique. Phil Heller Psy. D. P.A. by kat hl een m . kruege r p h o t o g r a p hy by karen alleyne-means that he has addressed often and he frequently consults with schools and parents on the subject both from the perspective of the victims of bullying and the bullies themselves. However one of the key players in a bullying scenario who is often overlooked according to Dr. Heller is the role of the bystanders. Dr. Heller reminds us that when bystanders witness someone being bullied they have three choices they can ignore it join in the bullying or support the victim. In many cases bystanders choose to ignore it not wanting to make themselves a target for the bully. However at other times bystanders will actually join in with the bully and hurl their own insults or at the very least make light of or laugh at the situation. With a crowd of bystanders it is easy for the guilt to be dispersed among the crowd without anyone feeling they have to take personal responsibility for their actions. Unfortunately these responses even simply ignoring reinforce the bully s power and add to the devastation experienced by the victim. A simple acknowledgement from a bystander to the victim that they 16 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM D r. Phil Heller is a licensed clinical psychologist as well as a forensic psychologist who is often sought out to provide expert testimony in court cases. The issue of bullying is one didn t deserve the treatment they received can provide a huge benefit while their silence or added participation reinforces the victim s sense of helplessness and isolation. Too often society underestimates or makes light of the emotional damage that can be caused by bullying. Kids have been known to hide out in school bathrooms afraid to venture out into the halls or attend their classes out of fear of confrontation by their tormentors. Many times their parents have no idea what their child is facing or do not recognize the significant amount of damage being done to their child s psyche when faced with these unrelenting attacks on their personhood. When asked what parents and schools can do to help the victims of bullying and put an end to bullying in the schools Dr. Heller offers several suggestions. Disperse the crowd is Dr. Heller s first instruction for teachers or school officials who may witness a scene on the playground or in a hallway. Bullies seldom operate without witnesses and other participants to share in their guilt. Along with this schools should work harder to educate their students about the power and responsibility of the bystander to help eliminate the power of a bully. Secondly Dr. Heller encourages parents and teachers to watch for the signs of a child being bullied such as skipping or being late for class in an effort to avoid altercations by hiding. And always take a child s report of harassment seriously enough to act upon it. With the availability of technology bullying has become even more sophisticated and can reach right into your home via text messages social media and email. Save those pieces of evidence Dr. Heller says to parents. You may even want to use them to file a police report. Your child deserves your support and protection. The reasons behind bullying are more complex than many people realize according to Dr. Heller. There are many different factors that play into the development of the intimidating behavior of a bully. Most bullies have experienced the power of intimidation and demeaning behavior as a control tactic used against them by Most bullies have experienced the power of intimidation and demeaning behavior as a control tactic used against them by the adults in their lives siblings or other bullies. In order to be in the place of control and not be the victim they emulate that behavior. the adults in their lives siblings or other bullies. In order to be in the place of control and not be the victim they emulate that behavior. Bullies often rationalize their behavior according to Dr. Heller convincing themselves that the victim deserves the treatment they are receiving. This rationalization removes any guilt or remorse for their actions (lack of remorse being an all too common trait of those who bully). Dr. Heller stresses the importance of both parents having an active role in the lives of their children. The roles of both the mother and the father are necessary components in the life a child Dr. Heller says. A united front even when parents live in separate homes is a stabilizing factor that parents often overlook in these days where oneparent homes are frequently the norm. Bullies and their victims come in all sizes ages and backgrounds. There are adults who bully children children who bully adults and the common peer-to-peer variety. Regardless of the type of bullying going on it should not be ignored or taken lightly. Everyone has a responsibility to do what they can to put a stop to what has become an epidemic in our society. You can learn more about Dr. Heller and his work from his webpage at Podcasts of Dr. Heller s discussions on bullying can be downloaded from under The Experts Speak. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 17 HERLIFE inspirations E PROMOTING PALM Kristin BEACH S LITERACY Calder COALITION ducation is in her blood. Both of Kristin Calder s parents were teachers and many of her aunts and uncles also have careers in education. So it s natural that she would be so passionate about In spite of the strong educational focus in her family Kristin motes the importance and impact that supporting a non-profit hospital can make for everyone in our community. But that doesn t stop Kristin from making her own waves of impact in the realm of education. Kristin is a very active community volunteer with several nonprofits most of which have ties to education in one way or another. She has co-chaired Education Day for the Palm Beach County leadership class participants for the past three years. She also served on the Get Real Program committee in partnership with Palm Beach County schools helping schools deliver education that is relevant to career and the role that education plays in our society. did not follow that career path herself. The mother of three children Kristin shares her career choice with her husband Glen in the area of public relations and holds the position of Public Relations and Annual Giving Director for the Bethesda Hospital Foundation where she pro- by ka th l e e n m. k ru e ge r phot ogr a phy by da n a f ra n c e o f s u ga rb e l l e p h o to g ra p hy ha ir by j e n n i fe r a l o i o f j u l i e t s a l o n m a ke up by ka ti e h u l tg re n o f j u l i e t s a l o n clo t hes pr ov ided by bl oom i ngda l e s o f b o c a ra to n fe a tu ri n g e l i e ta h a ri & s t. j o h n s 18 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM college preparation. Her leadership abilities and her knowledge and talents in the publicity arena make Kristin a valuable asset to any organization of which she is a part. However it is her passionate belief that individuals and organizations can make a significant difference in the communities in which they live and the future of society as a whole that fuels Kristin s drive to give of her time and energy to these causes. All you have to do is ask her about why she serves as a board member for the Literacy Coalition of Palm Beach County and her enthusiastic response will have you wanting to join their ranks before she s done. Kristin first became aware of the work of The Literacy Coalition through her good friend Maggie Dickenson who served as a President of the Coalition. Beginning as a member of the advisory council for the southern portion of the county Kristin quickly found that this organization was addressing and meeting some very real needs in Palm Beach County. The Literacy Coalition has a Parent-Child Home Program that visits 250 homes a year to bring books and readers directly into homes. When Kristin discovered through this program that there are hundreds of homes in our county that don t have a single book in them and homes where children have no one to read to them she was appalled. My children love to read and be read to Kristin said. Earlier this year when I was pregnant with Stirling my nine-year-old Harrison would read to my tummy and now that Stirling is here Her leadership abilities and her knowledge and talents in the publicity arena make Kristin a valuable asset to any organization of which she is a part. However it is her passionate belief that individuals and organizations can make a significant difference in the communities in which they live and the future of society as a whole that fuels Kristin s drive to give of her time and energy to these causes. my five-year-old Caroline asks if she can read to the baby too. It makes me sad to think what a family is missing that doesn t have reading as part of their lives. Kristin wants her children to learn from her example and it seems that they already are. Her children participate in a service project at their school Gulf Stream School where they visit a local childcare center to read to the children. She shared It gives the child readers a great sense of pride and accomplishment and inspires and excites the child being read to. It is magical to watch. It is the high quality and significant impact of the programs that are sponsored by the Literacy Coalition that made Kristin willing to commit her time there. She has been extremely impressed with how well the entire organization operates and has nothing but praise for Darlene Kostrub the CEO of the Literacy Coalition of Palm Beach County. Darlene is the most amazing dedicated leader she enthused. Darlene feels the same. She said Kristin has gotten tremendously involved because she is passionate about reading and knows how deeply reading and literacy skills impact lives. We are so pleased she volunteers with the Coalition giving of her time and sharing her talents. Literacy is a priority for Kristin Literacy statistics jump from Kristin s tongue so easily you d think she d done the research herself. Two-thirds of all fourth graders nationwide are not proficient readers and that percentage HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 19 increases to four-fifths in the low-income bracket. Those statistics translate into a huge impact on society in general. If you aren t reading proficiently at your grade level by the time you finish third grade the statistics show that you have little chance of succeeding in the future either academically or in a career Kristin stated. That s why Kristin is particularly excited about a nationwide Grade-Level Reading Campaign in which the Coalition participates. It directly addresses the reading proficiency of children who are in third grade or younger. By improving the reading skills of children before they reach the fourth grade you provide kids with the most important tool they need to succeed during their coming years of school which in turn translates into reasons to stay in school graduate and go on to further education. It s as simple as Once you learn to read you can read to learn. There are so many issues in our society today that it can be overwhelming when trying to make a choice as to which will make the most positive impact but Kristin sees literacy and educa- The Literacy Coalition doesn t just focus on children. There are plenty of adults in Palm Beach County one in seven statistics show who are struggling through life due to a lack of literacy and the Coalition has several programs that address their needs as well. tion as such foundational keys that she is convinced this is where her time has the most value. Being able to read and comprehend what you ve read is such a critical piece to everything we do in life but especially when it comes to navigating the educational system. How can one study for a test if simply reading the textbook is a struggle Why would you bother paying attention in class if you know your lack of reading comprehension will keep you from passing the class It s a vicious cycle that spirals downward all because of a lack of learning to read and to enjoy reading at a young age. That s why the goal of the Literacy Coalition in Palm Beach County is not simply that every adult and child can read but that they can read well. One of the programs sponsored by the Coalition that Kristin actively participates in is the Read for the Record Campaign. This campaign involves 2 000 adults who are sent out through the 20 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Literacy Coalition into childcare centers for one morning in the year. On October 4 this year adults will all be reading the same book to preschool children across Palm Beach County just as other adults are reading it to children across the country. One of the goals is for children to see adults reading for pleasure according to Kristin. Teaching young children that reading is fun and enjoyable is an important part of the Coalition s campaign to change the current literacy statistics. The Literacy Coalition doesn t just focus on children. There are plenty of adults in Palm Beach County one in seven statistics show who are struggling through life due to a lack of literacy and the Coalition has several programs that address their needs as well. They offer workplace education that brings instructors into worksites to teach employees who have limited literacy skills and provide outreach to adult learners through various agencies faith-based groups and civic organizations. Improving the literacy skills of adults creates more effective parents more highly skilled workers and citizens who are more involved with their community. Of course the work that the Literary Coalition accomplishes requires more than just volunteer hours--it also requires finances. Books are expensive and the Coalition distributes over 60 000 books to families in need each year. The Coalition is also in the process of creating the Literacy Center for Education Training and Outreach to ensure that literacy has a permanent home in Palm Beach County. The Coalition puts on several major fundraising events each year to provide citizens the opportunity to contribute to their budgetary needs. Those events range from the Loop the Lake for Literacy (which will be held in 2013 at Lake Okeechobee on February 23) to the Love of Literacy Luncheon featuring author Ann Patchett (which will be held in 2013 on March 8 at the Kravis Center). Kristin s favorite fundraising event for the Coalition is the Great Grown-Up Spelling Bee which she has co-chaired for the second year in a row. It s held each year in the fall. Businesses and civic groups sponsor a team of three adults to participate for a 1 000 entry fee. Community members can attend the event to cheer on their favorite team. It s a lot of fun for everyone while raising awareness and funding for literacy in Palm Beach County. Kristin Calder was recognized by the Soroptimist Club of Boca Raton as a Woman of Distinction for her volunteer service with the Junior League of Boca Raton which has extended over a decade and included various leadership positions. We would certainly agree with that title. However at HERLIFE Magazine we would deem Kristin Calder as a woman of distinction in the realm of educational patronage as well. You can learn more about the Literacy Coalition of Palm Beach County and how you can contribute to their important work on their website at HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 21 HERLIFE culinary Nuts about Nuts by c a rl e . j o h n s to n Here are a few tidbits about the more popular nuts we enjoy. PEANUT. This is not really a nut yet it s perceived as one. Instead it s a bean or legume. The roasted version is an American favorite at sporting events and the butter made from peanuts is an ageless staple in school lunches. In the South they are boiled in salt water before they are fully how to do it. When I landed my first job 36 deviled eggs it took me about a week to complete the order. After delivery I made a follow-up call to ensure everything was up to the customer s satisfaction. Well she was so happy that she asked me if I could deliver 500 boxes of spiced nuts to her for corporate gifts by December 20. It was Thanksgiving. I said Sure no problem. We can handle that. I hung up the phone had a panic attack and began my education about nuts. My nuts were the best nuts I had ever tasted. They were inspected for quality tossed in egg whites and coated with my own secret spice mix. They were so good I decided to branch out and sell my nuts wholesale starting with a local gourmet food store. In my research I learned that sophisticated people called the part of the nut that we eat nutmeats. My sales pitch to the owner of the gourmet grocery was going to be that I had the finest handmade spiced roasted nutmeats in Texas and that he should sell them. The big moment went something like this. Him These are really good. What do you call them Me Um meatnuts. Him Huh Me Spiced meatnuts...and roasted. Him Okay can you leave me five boxes Thanks. Bye. So now I was a wholesaler. And I needed to know about nuts fast I learned that nuts were probably one of the earliest forms of food and nutrition in our brief history. Nuts just lay there waiting to be eaten. They didn t chase you or run away. As gatherers and eventually hunters prehistoric man was either looking for food or conserving energy to look for more food (and a mate). If you study this lifestyle closely you will see distinct similarities between early man and teenagers. 22 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM I ripe and are a favorite snack during the spring months. PISTACHIO. These are my all-time favorite. They are grown primarily in the Middle East yet are growing in popularity as a crop in California and other Southwestern states. They are high in both potassium and essential antioxidants. MACADAMIA. We all know that macadamia means Hawaiian expensive and an excellent gift for all occasions and people you don t know too well. Did you also know they are high in monounsaturated fat and considered a heart healthy food PECAN. This is the only nut indigenous to the Americas and as far south as Mexico. The trees which can be a hundred feet tall and hundreds of years old grow primarily in the Mississippi River Valley. George Washington planted pecan trees at his Mount Vernon home. The trees were a gift from Thomas Jefferson who is credited with their initial popularity in the South. And pies pralines and turtle candies wouldn t be the same without them. WALNUT. This nut was first introduced to the United States by Spanish missionaries in the early 1800s and established primarily on the California coast. Today California is one of the largest producers of walnuts. Walnuts are both high in protein and fatty acids and when included in a regular diet can improve blood vessel elasticity and plaque build-up. CASHEW. Originally native to northern South America cashews grow from a single seed at the end of a cashew apple. The apple is used for fruit drinks in Latin America as well being as fermented for alcohol in India and Tanzania. Cashews are most commonly found in Indian Thai and Chinese cuisine. Cashews are high in iron magnesium phosphorus zinc copper and manganese which are utilized in holistic health solutions and healthy diets. ALMOND. The almond is primarily grown in and native to North Africa and Asia. It can be ground and used to make flour. Or by adding sugar you can make marzipan a confection used by chefs to form edible replicas of almost anything. Filled with Vitamin E and proven to lower cholesterol the almond is a healthy and versatile nut. Nuts to you until we meet again Sources for this article are and have fond memories with my first run-in with nuts. I was about 21 years old and had just started a catering company in Houston Texas. I knew this was what I wanted to do but I didn t really know HERLIFE recipes Buffalo Chicken Wonton Cups recipes and ph oto graphy by kri s ten doyl e Ingredients 1 pound boneless chicken tenders boiled and cubed 24 wonton wrappers 2 containers (6 ounces) plain Yoplait yogurt cup prepared Buffalo Wing sauce 1 cups shredded cole slaw cabbage and carrots (without sauce) Instructions 1. Preheat oven to 425 F. 2. Line 2 cupcake pans with wonton wrappers. Bake 3-4 minutes until edges are brown. 3. In a medium bowl combine yogurt and wing sauce. Slowly add cubed chicken and shredded cole slaw cabbage and carrots. Mix until well blended. 4. Place one large spoonful of chicken mixture into each prepared wonton cup filling each cup completely. 5. Place in the oven again baking for 4 minutes or until mixture is warmed throughout. Serve hot. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 23 HERLIFE mother s perspective How to and Other S chool the ideal picture is that our children leave us in the mornings and enter a place that fosters their intellectual curiosity their creative natures and their social needs. With images of amicable soccer games and melodic concerts the ideal school day consists of a solid balance of learning friendships and individual growth. Until that dreaded note comes home the note that says another child in your child s class has the most dreaded of all cooties lice. Lice the common and pronounceable name for over 3 000 Combat Lice Cooties at School species of winged insects of the Phthiraptera order are scavengers that feed on the skin of their hosts. Humans can suffer from three forms of lice head lice body lice and pubic lice. Most often children are affected by head lice. Schools birthday parties and daycare centers are places that make easy transfer from one infestation to another person and children who commonly share hats brushes and combs can share the creatures without intentionally trying to. Some symptoms of lice infestation include itching swollen glands in the back of the neck a foul smell of the hair and stretch marks along the hairline and on the neck. An unmistakable sign of head lice infestation is the presence of nits defined as eggs of a louse. Nits cluster close to the scalp and might be difficult to see with just a cursory glance. Many of those eggs will never hatch and an infestation is classified as the presence of crawling lice. Schools typically have a school head lice policy that dictates when all children are inspected for lice how parents are notified and when children who have been affected by infestation are allowed back in school. Often diagnosed by a school nurse lice are highly communicable and proper care must be taken at home even if it is not your child who was diagnosed with an infestation. Most schools will send home specific care instructions to help you eliminate nits and the possibility of infestation but there are a few general rules to follow. Inspecting the hair for nits is the first step. Sometimes gray in color the nits might also be pink or red and if live will be moving but do not jump or fly. Removing the nits with a special comb is typically recommended but some people use tape or tweezers to remove nits as well. It is vital to check everyone in the house as lice 24 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM by l i s a a l l e n Some symptoms of lice infestation include itching swollen glands in the back of the neck a foul smell of the hair and stretch marks along the hairline and on the neck. An unmistakable sign of head lice infestation is the presence of nits defined as eggs of a louse. are highly communicable. Using a commercial lice shampoo is the next step for many people. It is important to follow the directions exactly as prescribed or to follow the directions of your health care provider. The pesticides in some treatments can be harmful if used incorrectly. A natural alternative that some have tried with success is olive oil. The oil is thought to suffocate the nits. Saturating the hair and scalp with olive oil and allowing it to sit as long as possible before working through with a fine tooth comb might be an option for some families. Head lice can also attach to eyebrows and eyelashes so it is important to inspect and treat those areas as well. Coating the areas with petroleum jelly works similarly to olive oil and might kill live nits and allow for easier removal. Another important step is to clean all bedding stuffed animals pillows and other soft surfaces so that nits cannot thrive. Washing in a hot water cycle and drying with high heat are recommended. Thoroughly vacuuming carpets and upholstered furniture is also recommended. Rechecking and watching for additional signs of nits is important as reinfestation is not uncommon. Typically checking every day for at least a week is recommended. Of course preventive measures should be taken and include not sharing hats or head gear stuffed animals clothing brushes or combs. Information for this article was gathered at parasites lice and The information here should be verified with your health care provider before taking a specific action. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 25 HERLIFE spotlight Schoolhouse Children s Museum & Learning Center I by kat hl een m . krueger ph oto gr a phy by chel s ea er w i n All the exhibits activities and classes scheduled there are fully interactive and encourage the kids to use their sense of touch as well as sight and sound. ing session is part of this interactive experience that combines astronomy oceanography and earth sciences for children who are between the ages of 5 9 each Tuesday. Several new opportunities have also been made available on Mondays this fall a day when the Museum is closed to the general public. Lindsey says that they have now dubbed Mondays as Moms Group Mondays and have scheduled special classes geared for groups of moms with young children. A Baby & Me yoga class will offer an opportunity for moms to bond with their new babies while gaining strength and flexibility while mothers with toddlers can attend the Gentle Growers class which utilizes the Waldorf education model to create a nurturing environment for observation and discussion of child behavior. In addition to classes Mondays will be made available for moms groups to schedule exclusive access to the exhibits in the Museum or to customized areas of interest within the Learning Center. Moms groups aren t the only type of groups to which the Schoolhouse Children s Museum caters. Their specialized classes are designed to serve as a fun and interactive way to reinforce learning for school-age children. Public school private school and homeschool groups utilize these opportunities for their students on a regular basis. The Palm Beach Etiquette class is one of the most popular. It is taught by life skills expert image consultant and actress Sherry Thomas. Each class covers a differ- n 2013 the Boynton Beach Schoolhouse will celebrate its 100th year of providing educational opportunities to the children in South Florida. Listed on the National Register of Historic Places the two-story concrete block building no longer serves as a school building but learning continues there nevertheless as it now houses the Schoolhouse Children s Museum & Learning Center. Centrally located at 129 Ocean Avenue the learning activities that children participate in at the Schoolhouse Children s Museum are nothing like the stoic disciplined classes held there almost a century ago. All the exhibits activities and classes scheduled there are fully interactive and encourage the kids to use their sense of touch as well as sight and sound. Even the story time each Tuesday becomes an adventure in which kids fully participate in through singing movement props and crafts. If you ve visited the Learning Center several times in the past don t make the assumption that your kids have seen all there is to see or do. It s been thrilling to watch our education classes and programs flourish this past spring and summer says Lindsey Nuzzo Interim Director. We look forward to continuing to meet the needs of our community s children and families by offering even more dynamic classes programs and events this fall and winter. The Oceans to the Stars class is one of those new classes. Thanks to the donation by Hunters Run of a high-powered telescope a stargaz- 26 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM ent topic including how to extend a thank you shyness friendship table manners bullying gossip peer pressure Internet safety and other general life skills that help kids deal with the pressures of today s society in a positive way. The Schoolhouse Children s Museum & Learning Center regularly draws in groups from Boca Wellington and other areas and has become a central focal point in the drive to re-energize the downtown area of Boynton Beach. There is a strong commitment among the Board of Directors and the staff members of the Learning Center to working with the City and partner with other downtown businesses to restore the economic life of Downtown Boynton Beach. Under the leadership of the Board of Directors the membership of the Children s Museum has remained steady to include approximately 500 family units and it garners approximately 25 000 visitors annually. Membership fees provide families with unlimited free admission to the Museum for an entire year. There are also individual memberships or grandparent memberships that allow grandparents to list up to five of their grandchildren under their membership. Additional benefits available with some memberships include free or reduced admission to other children s museums in Florida or in other parts of the nation. Basic family memberships all include the benefits of priority registration for classes plus ten percent discounts at the Gift Shop and for the scheduling of group visits or birthday parties. Yes birthday parties The Schoolhouse Children s Museum has become a favorite destination of both parents and kids for birthday parties. The Museum s Package option is one of the most popular as its comprehensive nature leaves the parents with nothing to worry about other than determining a date and time and then providing the guest list and the food. There s no cleanup for Mom and Dad and the kids all have a fun time with crafts and cake in the party room and then play on the playground afterwards. Whether it is a spur of the moment getaway with the kids taking part in an educational class or combining learning with fun at a birthday party the Schoolhouse Children s Museum & Learning Center offers a great resource for South Florida families. Learn more about the Schoolhouse Children s Museum & Learning Center by visiting their website at HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 27 HERLIFE trendsetter it s a mod world fashionist a pal m beach w w w.fa shionis t apal m beach. c om pb locat ion 561. 249. 6302 w pb locat ion 561. 444. 2172 28 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM tunic by top two 150 yellow patent leather handbag by stuart weitzman 250 mustard wedge by louis vuitton 275. photography by christine rose photography shot on location in the historic northwood district wardrobe and accessories by fashionista palm beach hair by jessica brand of team beauti makeup by faemy vanleeuwen model madeline hall of BMG models skirt by mui mui 200 ivory silk blouse by balenciaga 475 orange blouse by jennifer t 60 shoe by prada 800 handbag by bryal & rolande 550. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 29 skirt and top by geoffrey beene 350 handbag by chanel 3200 vintage ceramic bracelet 125 glasses by mannequin 350. 30 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM shirt dress by diane von furstenberg 175 ivory silk blouse by ysl 280 alligator handbag by judith leiber 3000. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 31 dress by missoni 500 sunglasses by balenciaga vintage cream handbag 50 vintage beaded necklace. 32 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 33 HERLIFE non-profit spotlight SACRED HEART SCHOOL A Visionary Model by kat hl een m . kru e ge r p h o t o g r a p hy by ch e l s e a e rwi n What would it take to get you to kiss a pig model for what a private school can be. During the 2011-2012 school year the school implemented several major advancements in its use of technology which certainly exemplifies that goal. Their 30-station computer lab was updated Smart Boards were added to all classrooms Wi-Fi was made available throughout the school building 30 iPads were purchased for use within the classroom and 25 laptops were purchased with the 30-language Rosetta Stone software installed. The iPads contain the textbooks for the middle school students allowing them easy access to multiple textbooks in one small device. The school intends to eventually switch all their textbooks to the e-book format a much more economical means of purchasing and updating teaching materials for their students. The high-tech environment found at Sacred Heart School isn t the only aspect of this private school that sets it apart. Sacred Heart is strongly committed to providing an inclusive learning environment that meets the needs of every child from the most gifted learner to those with unique learning differences. The opening of the Cathleen McFarlane Ross Learning Lab this past school year is evidence of that publicly kiss a pig. That was the challenge Principal Tamposi offered. The students met the goal and Principal Tamposi fulfilled her part of the bargain. In front of the entire student body she puckered up and kissed a pot-bellied pig named Spamcakes. Candace Tamposi is the principal at Sacred Heart School a private school located in Lake Worth Florida that serves children from preschool through the eighth grade. Principal Tamposi has 26 years of service within the education profession with 18 years of that time served as a school principal. Serving within a faith-based education environment allows her to fulfill her vision of instilling spiritual principles and values in children through their integration into the natural learning environment. One of the goals of Sacred Heart School is to be a ...visionary 34 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM F or Principal Candace Tamposi the price was 3 million. Not 3 million dollars but 3 million words. If 3 000 000 words were read within 10 days by the students of her school she would commitment. The Learning Lab offers a comprehensive program for students who have learning differences. The 2012-2013 academic year promises to be a very exciting year for Sacred Heart School with a record enrollment of over 200 students. They will also be opening their state-of-the-art technology-based Montessori Program for preschool and kindergarten--the Sacred Heart School Academy of Early Learning Where Bright Futures Begin. The ongoing support of the entire community has been a huge key to the school s success according to Principal Tamposi. We rely heavily on community benefactors for our support. In 2009 when the school faced a financial crisis the community demonstrated their commitment with gifts of substantial financial resources. In response to that season of crisis the students made a music video which is posted on YouTube to Kelly Clarkson s number one hit What Doesn t Kill You Makes You Stronger which was co-written by Ms. Tamposi s daughter Ali Tamposi a graduate of Sacred Heart and a published Sony songwriter. In addition to private donations and the collection of tuition (which is lower than most private schools) Sacred Heart students also have access to some great scholarship programs. The Step Up for Students Scholarship is one of those programs. It is a need-based scholarship that was instituted by the State of Florida but funded through private funds (not taxpayer dollars) to help provide equal access to private education for those who otherwise lack the financial resources for private school tuition. Sacred Heart students also have access to the McKay Scholarships for students with learning disabilities and the VPK scholarship. Sacred Heart School is a Catholic School of the Diocese of Palm Beach. However you will find that the families who enroll their children in Sacred Heart are not limited to families of the Catholic faith but generally are families who are seeking the Christ-centered education for their children which can be found at Sacred Heart. In addition to academics Sacred Heart School has a very strong sports program. The girls and boys varsity basketball girls varsity softball and girls varsity soccer teams all placed second in the Diocese competitions with other schools during the 2011-2012 school year. Sacred Heart School has been providing high-quality Christcentered education within the community for over 65 years. It has maintained and continues to pursue excellence in both academic and moral education for its students. But it would not be able to do so without the many hours of service by faithful volunteers and the generous financial support of the community and private donors. Sacred Heart may not be a public school but it has been and always will be a community school. For more information about Sacred Heart School its programs and ways in which you can contribute to their support visit their website at call their office at 561-582-2242 or visit them at 410 North M Street in Lake Worth. You can also view the Sacred Heart School video on Youtube at watch v xSgdJagMKYI. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 35 The Office of Small Business Assistance (OSBA) is responsible for monitoring conditions affecting small businesses within the marketplace that can provide goods and services to Palm Beach County thus creating an environment that encourages the growth and development of small businesses in Palm Beach County. The programs and initiatives offered by the OSBA are designed to assist entrepreneurs in developing the skills they need to start and operate an efficient and profitable business. These programs are tailored to support the growing number of small businesses in Palm Beach County. OSBA s primary services are certification contract compliance training outreach and referral to resources for financial or technical assistance. SMALL BUSINESS CERTIFICATION PROGRAM ELIGIBILITY O Your business must be domiciled in Palm Beach County. O Your business must be independently owned and operated. O Your business must provide a commercially useful business function to Palm Beach County for procurement purposes. O The applicant business together with any subsidiaries affiliates must meet the size standard for small businesses based on gross receipts averaged over a three year period as follows Construction related business must not exceed 9 million Commodities must not exceed 5 million Professional Services (CCNA) must not exceed 5 million Professional Services (Non CCNA) must not exceed 4 million Palm Beach County Office of Small Business Assistance 50 South Military Trail Suite 202 West Palm Beach FL 33415 osba (561) 616-6840 36 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 37 HERLIFE working women Comparing the Pay of Women and Men by l i s a a l l e n business and the near-world-domination of Oprah Winfrey when it comes to the pay differences between men and women the gap is alive and well. President Obama announced the release of a new report by the White House Council on Women and Girls titled Keeping America s Women Moving Forward at a White House Forum on April 6 2012. At the time President Obama acknowledged the continued pay gap between men and women saying Overall a woman with a college degree doing the same work as a man will earn hundreds of thousands of dollars less over the course of her career. President Obama has said that closing the pay gap is about more than just equity in compensation rather he says it is about strengthening families community and the economy at large. Statistics have remained largely unchanged in the recent past. In 2010 women s earnings were 77.4 percent of men s compared to 77 percent in 2009. Both men s and women s earnings showed slight increases from 2009 to 2010 with men earning an average of 47 715 to a woman s 36 931. According to Census data 50 years ago women earned 61 percent of what men earned. While full-time working women earn less than full-time working men in every state the wage gaps vary. The District of Columbia boasts the smallest wage gap where women earn 91.4 cents to a man s dollar while Wyoming claims the most disparate rates. Women in Wyoming represent only 63.8 percent of men s earnings. T here s the old saying The more things change the more they stay the same. Despite the rise of women to C suites and executive offices and press that touts the power of women in Not all women earn less than their male counterparts however. Data compiled by Bloomberg showed that female personal care and service workers which includes the likes of butlers valets house sitters and shoe shiners earned 1.02 for every 1.00 their male counterparts made in 2010. That job category which includes 38 210 full-time workers in the U.S. was the only one of 265 major occupations where the number of both female and male workers exceeded 10 000. On the opposite end of the spectrum the six occupations with the largest pay gaps are in the financial sector. Insurance agents managers clerks securities sales agents personal advisers and other specialists comprise this group. A chief reason female professionals earn less in the financial sector is that they tend to take lower-paying positions such as public finance rather than more lucrative roles like trading desks. The lack of transparency is also an issue much of Wall Street salaries are based on bonuses that are kept under wraps. Advanced-degreed professionals didn t fare much better in recent reports. Female doctors made 63 cents for every dollar earned by a male physician. Among advanced-degreed professionals female lawyers report annual median earnings of 97 964 which is 78 cents for every dollar earned by their male colleagues. Female university professors with a median salary of 55 282 earned 80 cents to their male counterparts dollar. Taking time off to care for children and aging parents is cited as one reason female salaries suffer. Lower pay for female physicians has long been attributed to an assumed prevalent choice of lower-paying primary care specialties yet a February 2011 Health Affairs study by researchers at the University of Illinois Chicago Northwestern University and Yale University found that the pay gap was consistent even though fewer women join the ranks of primary care providers now than in the past. The job title of secretary might be the most illustrative of the continuing battle for equal pay. Although 96 percent of the 2.6 million secretaries and administrative assistants in the U.S. are women they are paid 87 cents for every dollar made by a male with the same title. Female butlers currently buck the trend earning slightly more than their male counterparts. Unlike hairdressers flight attendants and registered nurses all of whom make significantly less than males in the same industry the demand for female butlers seems to be on the rise. Sources for this article are and 38 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE love and relationships Ta l k i n g t o Ou r C h i l d re n by dr. phil heller photography by karen alleyne-means readily announce that they love their child but what is love Experts agree love is recognizing appreciating and celebrating the other person s integrity and individuality. Basically we respect and appreciate the ones we love but do we allow our children to be themselves Children will enter many developmental stages as they move through childhood and be different people with a variety of ideas and feelings some of which may initially run counter to the parents perspective. Surprisingly the loving parent may not accept or even deny the child s feelings. Some parents may be quick to give advice like suggesting what the child should do to make friends or blame their child for not doing well on tests. All these scenarios have one main theme in common. The child s feelings are disregarded leaving the child feeling empty and unheard. The simple truth is that the child s behavior is directly linked to their feelings. As a result the words that go unheard may leave a youngster frustrated and angry. In one of my parent groups I had people sit back-to-back while trying to carry on a conversation. The participants felt uncomfortable as they missed the eye contact and body language. Is this any different than a parent talking to a child in a different room I also had them converse but the listener simply echoed the speaker. They were not listening to feelings just words causing the intimacy of a relationship to be lost. Unfortunately this goes on in households everywhere. Our children will teach us about their feelings if we just watch and listen attentively. We need to tune into the feelings not just the words. Don t be too quick to give advice or clean up the mess just listen What do you say if Jane says When I came to class the girls laughed at my new haircut The feeling is embarrassment. If Mom says That must have been embarrassing with an understanding tone the child will immediately respond Right The parents will get feedback even some understanding if they don t recognize the feeling immediately. The parent and child are now on their way to a solid line of communication that can only grow with practice. M ost people admit they love their children. From the time of their birth they are showing pictures exchanging stories and enjoying the daily activities of their offspring. A parent will Dr. Phil Heller is a licensed Clinical and Forensic Psychologist who has testified in many high profile criminal cases. He has conducted Social Investigations for Family Court and provided Parenting Plans. Dr. Heller has commented in various media on forensic and psychological issues. He has practiced in Boca Raton Florida for over 32 years working with children and adults. Please visit his website at or call 561-994-4565 for an appointment. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 39 HERLIFE finance Should Your Teen Have a Credit Card by l i s a a l l e n to using a debit card rather than cash. Making the leap to a credit card however is what some teens see as a rite of passage. Parents might see it as more of a horror story waiting to happen but knowing when your teen is ready can help quell those fears. A 2005 study by the Jump tart Coalition for Financial Literacy revealed that about 32 percent of high school seniors use a credit card. Half of those hold cards in their own names and the rest use a card issued in their parent s name. Perhaps more sobering is the statistic from Richmond Credit Abuse Resistant Education (CARE) Program that the number of 18- to 24-year-olds declaring bankruptcy has increased 96 percent in the past 10 years. Additionally according to the U.S. Department of the Treasury more people filed for bankruptcy than graduated from college in 2002. The Credit Card Accountability Responsibility and Disclosure Act of 2009 (the Credit CARD Act) which was signed into law by President Obama on May 22 2009 was designed to eliminate unfair credit card practices that had resulted in thousands of complaints to regulators and legislators. The Credit CARD Act requires credit card issuers to verify proof of income or alternatively require a co-signer before issuing a credit card to anyone under the age of 21. Issuers are no longer allowed to send prescreened card offers to anyone under the age of 21 unless they have consented to receive such offers and card issuers cannot raise the credit limit on an account for persons 21 or younger with a co-signer without written permission from the co-signer. Perhaps one of the most notable changes is that card issuers are now prohibited from providing free incentive items in exchange for applications as was the practice on so many college campuses in years past. Despite the tightened restrictions however the real issue is whether or not your teen is ready for the responsibility of a credit card. The upside for teens of obtaining a credit card in their own name is the ability to establish a credit history earlier rather than later. This only happens of course if your teen is responsible enough to manage credit wisely. While it s impossible to issue a blanket statement that will apply to all teens there are a few 40 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM I t s one thing to have a credit card yet quite another to understand the long-term impact of short-term credit card debt interest fees and the like. In today s plastic world most teens are accustomed guidelines that will help you determine whether the time is right for your teen. Evaluate how your teen has handled money in the past. Have they saved their allowance deposited birthday gift money and dropped coins from their lemonade stand into their piggy bank Or were they ready to spend before it was even really theirs to spend The best time to instill sound budgeting principles is long before they hit their teenage years. Does your teen understand basic money management Have they worked through a budget understand the concept of savings and realize that income is subject to taxes Credit cards are an advanced subject that should be preceded by solid basic education. Do they understand that credit cards are not free money They must realize that there are fees for delaying payment by bor- rowing money from yourself in the form of a credit card. Do they understand that credit card purchases should still be part of their overall budget Have they mastered the concept of interest Can they explain why something costs more if they take longer to pay it off Do they realize that making a minimum payment can make an item exponentially more expensive than the original sticker price The smartest way to understand whether or not your teen has a solid grasp of these concepts is to make them privy to your budget. By seeing actual figures and equations in play they can understand the tangible effects of credit rather than talking in vague terms. Walking your teen through the specifics of each step of a credit card transaction from purchase to payment can help them understand not only the effects of credit but the logistics of managing their credit history. It is vital to talk about the potential negative impact poorly managed finances can have on their future and to ensure they understand that when used wisely stellar credit can ease some of life s financial challenges. By teaching them through your example in ways big and small from making online payments before the due date to monitoring your credit card issuer s Terms of Use you can not only set an example for financial responsibility but truly understand when your teen is ready to undertake the responsibility of a credit card. Sources for this article are and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 41 HERLIFE real estate Top Livable Cities For Women by nat as ha l ogan cities across the nation In 2009 Women s Health Magazine categorized cities best for women s health life and fitness and they made a few eye-opening observations. When it comes to diseases such as cancer diabetes and stroke for some reason cities with cooler climates prevailed. Women are least likely to die of breast cancer in Portland Oregon of colon cancer in Colorado Springs Colorado of diabetes in Aurora Colorado of heart disease in St. Paul Minnesota and of stroke in Fargo North Dakota. As for lifestyles Manchester New Hampshire has the highest percentage of single men per single women Seattle Washington boasts the most women with a college degree the lowest unemployment rate can be found in Sioux Falls South Dakota the most job growth can be found in Raleigh North Carolina and the shortest commute time is in Fargo North Dakota. When looking at maintaining a fitness regimen San Jose California has the other cities beat with women who are most likely to lift weights do aerobic exercises be swimmers and or joggers and work out at home. Women in Salt Lake City Utah are most likely to work out at least three times a week while women in Washington D.C. are most likely to exercise regularly. In 2009 Forbes Magazine published its inaugural findings of the top 50 cities for women to work. They looked at factors such as income unemployment cost of living healthcare pediatricians school quality education costs childcare crime rate and parks. Using data derived from The Dartmouth Atlas of Health Care (which tracks the quality of healthcare in America) and GreatSchools (a non-profit which works to involve parents in raising the quality of schools) Forbes determined that the top city for a working woman to live is New York New York. It s gotten a bad rap for being overcrowded and not a safe place to live. But the truth is that it s got a low violent crime rate lots of parks good salaries and the city takes care of their children by spending generously on education and providing quality childcare. Following close behind is Austin Texas. Their education system 42 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM T hink about the city in which you currently live. You re probably proud to call it home. But when it comes to providing for your needs as a woman how does it fare when compared against other is top-notch it has one of the lowest unemployment rates in the nation has plentiful outdoor spaces for families to use and offers a wide range of childcare options. Other cities that made the top ten from the list include Minneapolis-St. Paul Minnesota Milwaukee Wisconsin Portland Oregon Cincinnati Ohio San Jose California Pittsburgh Pennsylvania Seattle-Tacoma Washington and Denver Colorado. Now let s say you re a single female looking to mingle shop work and simply have it all What are the top cities for a girl who just wants to have fun According to the Single Minded Women website New York New York is again at the top of the list. With plenty of places for single ladies to hang out such as cultural venues eateries who appreciate the statement I m dining alone sample sales and clubs New York was almost designed for women. The downside however is that with its high cost of living it s going to cost you a pretty penny to take a bite out of the Big Apple. And there are about 200 000 more single women than single men so the competition might be fierce if you re looking for a man. Austin is also at the top of the list with its plethora of job opportunities and low cost of living. Plus there are 106 men for every 100 women so a determined gal is likely to make a love connection if she s so inclined. There s a thriving nightlife and music scene here but it takes a hit on the lack of a major museum. So if you re an arty girl you just might have to make your own scene While Boston didn t make the Forbes or Women s Health lists Single Minded Women votes it in their top three because of prestige derived from its parks universities and history. There s culture galore with top-notch theaters classical music venues and at least 23 of the best museums in the U.S. And let s not discount the shopping Newbury Street is well-known for its designers and their sales. So while Boston s cost of living is steep and some of the choices in men might be on the young side it s still a great place to be a girl Other cities rounding out the top ten list include Madison Wisconsin Denver Colorado Raleigh North Carolina Vancouver British Columbia San Diego California Alexandria Virginia and Chicago Illinois. Sources for this article are According and to CNN Money 2010 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 43 HERLIFE travel ROMANTIC GETAWAYS certain place on your upcoming agenda and everyone within earshot starts offering advice on where to go stay and eat. But then there s the other category--the secret getaways that none of your friends have been to. Luckily for you we know of some of these dreamy locations... FORT BRAGG CALIFORNIA Ambiance is one of the most important details of a romantic getaway and you will certainly be enveloped by it in Fort Bragg California. Between the soft ocean breeze and blue waves crashing against the jagged rocks there s something soothing about the Mendocino Coast. The slow pace of this region makes it an ideal setting for enjoying the simple things in life like a fresh scoop of premium ice cream at Cowlick s Ice Cream Caf exploring the 100-year-old Point Cabrillo Lightstation or taking a ride on the Skunk Train through the looming California Redwoods. There are plenty of coastal nature trails providing wonderful opportunities for sea life watching including harbor seals sea lions and the seasonal migrating whales from December through April. It s unlikely that any other botanical garden has views comparable to the property of the 47acre Mendocino Coast Botanical Gardens. Couples can easily spend hours strolling through the forest trails fern canyons bluffs and colorful gardens. As for where to retire for the evening there are a number of bed and breakfasts and inns including the Victorian-style Little River Inn which has been owned by the same family for five generations. LAKE PLACID NEW YORK While Lake Placid hosted two Olympic Winter Games you don t have to be an athlete to appreciate this charming Adirondack Mountain town. However if you and your sweetheart are active this may be your paradise. During the winter months the atmosphere is full-on fun as it transitions to a booming ski resort while over the summer the region becomes a glorious outdoor haven with near-perfect temperatures and endless opportunities for fishing boating hiking biking and even Olympic bobsledding. The Lake Placid Olympic Museum celebrates the momentous moments of the 1932 and 1980 Winter Olympics and is open year-round. Don t miss the scenic drive up Whiteface Veterans Memorial Highway to the top of the 4 867-foot high Whiteface Mountain to explore the native stone castle and hike to the peak for gorgeous 360-degree views. Little Known by be t h bla ir I LAKE CHARLES LOUISIANA The state of Louisiana has one of the richest cultures in the country. And while certain major cities tend to claim the spotlight frequently throughout the year this Cajun region has plenty of other welcoming towns including the Festival Capital of the State Lake Charles. Their calendar is filled with 75 fair and festivals which means there s always something going on. The outdoors draw is also pretty impressive especially on the Creole Nature Trail All-American Road. Often referred to as Louisiana s Outback this rugged 180-mile trail welcomes guests to appreciate all the region has to offer including wildlife habitats and estuaries and not surprisingly alligators. Another trail that s especially tempting for foodies is Louisiana s Seafood Sensation Culinary Trail featuring the best of southwest Louisiana s seafood concoctions. LEXINGTON KENTUCKY Behind the miles of elegant white fences in Lexington Kentucky are three things that thrive thanks to the limestone beneath the ground s surface strong thoroughbred horses aces of bluegrass and the state s legendary bourbon. The latter of the three lends itself to a special attraction called the Bourbon Trail. Guests can dance from distillery to distillery to learn about bourbon history see the process in action taste-test the end results and enjoying the lush scenery and rolling bluegrass hills between stops. The oldest and smallest distillery in Kentucky is Woodford Reserve and in addition to the Bourbon Discovery Tour guests can enjoy the picnic on the porch special to this location. QU BEC CITY CANADA It ends up that crossing an ocean in search of cobblestone streets and foreign language isn t necessary. Qu bec City Canada s first European settlement has managed to keep its French heritage intact even after 400 years as you will see in the Historic District of Old Qu bec which was formerly a walled city though the ramparts still stand. Overlooking the St. Lawrence River the buildings old stone and detailed architecture help keep the historic impression intact as do the delectable restaurants and shop offerings with the highlights being the Gulf of St. Lawrence shellfish cheeses maple syrup and one of the most popular offerings ice cider. During the coldest months located on the outskirts of town is H tel de Glace an inn completely constructed of snow and ice. The interior features dazzling crystalline ice sculptures and ice beds topped with reindeer pelts. There s even a chapel for a romantic wedding ceremony if you feel inclined. Sources for this article are and bonjourqu n the world of romantic getaways there are two classifications. First there s the destination that everyone at the cocktail party and their sister has visited. You may recall having that moment when you mention a 44 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 45 HERLIFE tie the knot LOCAL BUSINESSES THAT SHARED IN THE LOVE TIED THE KNOT BRIDAL GOWN David s Bridal BRIDESMAIDS GOWNS David s Bridal HAIR STYLING Jenilee Coconato by c andi s m i th p ho t ogr a phy by gi na barc a of barc a d e s i g n s p h o to g ra p hy PHOTOGRAPHY hristy Potochney is 27 years old and was born and raised in Lake Wales Florida where she graduated from Lake Wales High School in 2003. After going to Tallahassee for school she finished her Bachelor of Arts degree in Elementary Education at Warner University in 2009. She currently works at Webber International University as an admissions counselor. She enjoys being outside going on the lake spending time with family and friends and playing with their two dogs Hunter and Lily. Eric Potochney is 28 years old and was born in Wilmington Delaware. When Eric was eight years old he relocated from Wilmington to Tampa Florida. He graduated from Tampa Bay Technical High School in 2001 and then enrolled at Webber International University where he played football and 46 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM graduated with his Master s in Business Administration in 2008. Eric went on to coach football at Webber and currently works as the defensive coordinator for the Webber Warriors. Eric enjoys fishing playing sports spending time with family and friends and coaching football. The newlyweds and their dogs reside in Tampa Florida. Eric and Christy met when Eric moved from Tampa to Lake Wales. Christy always thought Eric was very handsome and joked with her friends about him one day being her boyfriend. Several years went by and after both being in relationships that ended they found themselves single again and got back in touch through mutual friends. Ironically their first date was at a friend s wedding in Clearwater Beach Florida. Eric s proposal was a complete surprise to Chris- Gina Barca with Barca Designs FLORIST Tammy Stanley DJ Johnny Q CATERER Good Buddies BBQ CAKE Greg Phillips VENUE Webber International University ty although it took him months of planning. They had planned a vacation to Pompano Beach with family and Eric planned to propose one night on the beach. Eric told Christy he wanted to go for a walk on the beach right after sunset. They walked down to the beach and saw small glowing lights. Eric said to Christy Let s go see what that is. As they approached the lights Christy realized there were candles surrounding the words Marry Me which were spelled out by glow sticks in the sand. Her heart dropped and all she could say was Shut up as she squeezed his hand. Eric then got down on one knee and asked her to be his wife. As she said Yes fireworks exploded in the night sky. It was very romantic--Christy couldn t have asked for a more perfect proposal The happy couple tied the knot July 7 2012. They had seven bridesmaids and seven groomsmen. The bridesmaids consisted of several childhood friends a couple of high school friends and a couple of college friends. The groomsmen consisted of the groom s older brother a high school friend and college friends. Christy and Eric were married at Webber International University in Babson Park Florida. The college has a private beach on Crooked Lake where the couple exchanged their vows. Christy and Eric spend much of their free time together on the lake so the ceremony location was the perfect spot for the two to be married. The groom and groomsmen wore Columbia attire and arrived to the beach by pontoon boat. The bride and bridesmaids walked down the aisle in sunbeam yellow dresses and bare feet in the sand. After the ceremony everyone gathered at the college gymnasium which was transformed into an apple orchard. The wedding colors were green and yellow and the d cor consisted of green apple centerpieces and warm twinkle lights strung from the ceiling. Since Eric had never been on a cruise the couple took an exciting Carnival cruise with stops in Key West Grand Cayman and Cozumel. They got a lot of sun went snorkeling shopping and relaxed. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 47 HERLIFE in the city C al en dar of E ve n ts NOTE All calendar events must be submitted by August 30th for consideration in our October issue. Please include event location date details and contact information and email to karen Events considered for publication are normally limited to community wide charity events or events hosted by our advertisers. We cannot guarantee that all events submitted will be published. 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