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We welcome your ideas articles and feedback. 8 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE CONTENTS features 30 40 52 40 64 36 12 14 16 18 20 22 Welcome From the Publisher Health Stuttering and Stammering Integrative Medicine The HCG Diet Spotlight Massage Envy Beauty Beauty Product Round-Up Pets Taking The Perfect Pet Picture Behind The Weather Tamara Berg Cosmetic Surgery 2013 Was A Good Year For Plastic Surgery 30 36 38 40 Inspirations Heather Maurin Cravings Cactus Mexican Restaurant Culinary Newest Culinary Gadgets Wine It s Your Party and You ll Wine If You Want To Recipes Penne With Sausage and Mushroom Ragu Potato and Cheese Pierogi Behind The Menu Ernie s Food and Spirits Winery Vicarmont Vineyards and Winery 48 50 52 54 56 62 64 66 Foodies Travel All Aboard Fine Things Pretty Designer Shoes Spotlight St. Joseph s Trendsetter Stella Boutique In Her Closet Mary Ann Bird Home The Accidental Garden Real Estate Advice For First Time Homeowners Green Living Collecting and Using Rainwater 72 74 76 78 82 86 90 94 96 Working Women The Glass Ceiling Mother s Perspective Sending Your Child To Camp Finance The Finances of Retirement Book Club The Night Circus She Said Yes Allison and Ross Tie The Knot Megan and Michael Seen And Be Scene The Wedding Loft Horoscopes Calendar of Events 42 24 28 44 46 70 10 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE WELCOME barnacle to me as I dropped him off at preschool or left him with a babysitter. His separation anxiety seemed normal to me as I consulted my stacks of parenting books our pediatrician and other moms. I was told by many that he would grow out of it this was just a phase and eventually dropping him off for school in the morning would become easier. I listened to other moms as they suggested strategies and routines. Eventually it became easier and easier to leave Jackson at school or with a babysitter. I would watch him as he began to become more independent. The time he spent alone in his playroom increased and I started to feel more productive around the house. I was relieved and happy to have some quiet moments to myself. I could fold a load of laundry or make dinner without a toddler attached to my leg. Finally I thought to myself we made it past the separation anxiety. My quiet moments didn t last. Something changed in Jackson over this last holiday season and early this spring I lovingly nicknamed him Barnacle. He no longer wants to play alone in his playroom he is right next to me every waking moment. No matter where I go in the house or what I am doing Barnacle sticks tight to my side never releasing his tenacious grip or sightline. He wants me to do everything story time bed time brushing teeth and more. Nobody can do the job like Mom and he won t accept anything less. As much as I am craving some relief from my clingy appendage I know this phase won t last. Soon he will be too cool for Mom and I will be begging him for hugs. For now I will sit back and try to enjoy the permanent fixture on my side my little Barnacle. p h o to by st u di o m o h s o h M y five-year-old son Jackson has a new nickname. He is well-deserving of the name and has taken his attachment to me to an entirely new level. We are beyond clingy at this point he is practically a permanent appendage surviving off his host me. I call him Barnacle. When Jackson was a toddler we went through the normal phase of him clinging K i m b e r l y Mu l l e n facebook Herlife of Central Valley twitter HERlifeCali pinterest HERLIFE California 12 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE HEALTH stuttering and stammering what to do about by l i sa ta ra n to b u tl e r cies of speech as well. L istening to the deep resonating tone of James Earl Jones as Darth Vader from Star Wars or Mufasa from The Lion King you wouldn t think that this charismatic actor with the baritone voice would have suffered a stuttering problem as a child and still battle it today. Other famous personalities who suffer from stuttering are Nicole Research shows that people who stutter process speech and language slightly differently than those who do not stutter. Stuttering can also occur when a combination of factors comes together which causes different reactions in different people. Often what causes stuttering differs from what continues it or what makes it get worse. Experts say the key to combating stuttering is early intervention and treatment. How is Stuttering Treated While there is no simple cure for stuttering people who suffer from it can learn to speak more easily gain confidence in their speaking ability and communicate more effectively with those around them. School-age children adolescents and adults can benefit from speech therapy. For these individuals treatment is designed to help them learn to cope with their stuttering enhance their speech fluency and improve their self esteem. For toddlers and young children who stutter considerably (more than 10 percent of their speech) working with a speech pathologist who specializes in stuttering can often eliminate stuttering completely or offer strategies to make speech easier and less tense. However both mild and severe stutterers can benefit from at-home practices. Parents and family members should aim to speak slowly and in a relaxed manner when talking with a child who stutters. Words should not be spoken so slowly that speech sounds abnormal but being unhurried and adding several pauses can be helpful. Television s Mr. Rogers was one example of a calming relaxing speech pattern. These approaches combined with time taken each day to give the child undivided attention can be a successful combination for treating stuttering. Parents and family can give self-assurance to children who stutter by Kidman Emily Blunt Marc Anthony and Carly Simon. Perhaps more surprising is that stuttering affects more than 3 million people in the United States. Men are 4 times more likely than women to stutter and about 5 percent of children will experience a period of stuttering that may last 6 months or more. Approximately 75 percent of those will recover by late childhood with only about 1 percent having a long-term problem. What is Stuttering Stuttering or stammering is a communication disorder involving disfluencies or disruptions in a person s speech. Examples are repetitions of syllables (su-su-such as this) prolongations (mmmmy problem) or stoppages of syllables. People who stutter may also experience physical tension embarrassment nervousness and a fear of speaking both interpersonally and publicly. For people who stutter these symptoms often make it difficult to say what they want to say and to communicate with those around them. Stuttering issues can range from mild to severe and people who suffer from it may find that their stuttering can be random or fluctuate from one day to the next. What Causes Stuttering Approximately 60 percent of people who suffer from stuttering have a family member who also stutters. Other factors include child development neurophysiology or the way people process speech and language and family dynamics fast-paced lifestyles and high expectations can lead to disfluen- 14 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM listening intently when they speak or ask a question pausing before they answer and offering a slow and controlled response. Not showing frustration or a change in facial expression when the child stutters is key to helping him or her stay calm and focused on the words. If the child becomes frustrated in a conversation gentle reassurance can get them back on track. Saying something like I know it s hard to talk sometimes but lots of people get stuck on their words. It s okay is an effective response and encouragement. Some children may respond well to a soft touch or hug when they seem aggravated. Plus it makes parents and other family members feel better Adults with stuttering may benefit from speech therapy and stuttering treatments. In addition trying to relax the body and the mind can also lessen the occurrence of stuttering. Relaxing the body by releasing the tension in the back neck arms and legs is a helpful start. Reading books out loud and visualizing the words to be said are great tools to offer more self-confidence to stutterers. Above all stutterers should try not to sweat the small stuff. Mistakes and stutters will occur. It s adjusting to those setbacks that move them forward. Where Can You Get More Help Stuttering can be frightening for both a stutterer and their family. Fortunately there are many ways to get help both professionally and by using strategies at home. For more information explore the website of the National Stuttering Association. HLM Information for this article was found at and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 15 HERLIFE INTEGRATIVE MEDICINE T the HCG diet here is a lot of information about the HCG Diet on the internet in various books and other sources. However much of what you hear or read may not be consistent with Dr. Emma s HCG Diet Program used by Dr. Hunt and Valley Wellness Center. Dr. Emma has spent years conducting research and clinical trials a minimum of half a pound per day up to greater than one pound per day. Individual results vary and are affected by baseline metabolism medical conditions and compliance. The benefits of HCG include better more restful sleep lower counts for cholesterol and blood pressure improved energy levels reduced symptoms of fibromyalgia and arthritis decreased symptoms of depression boosts to self-confidence softer skin and resolution of brittle nails average weight loss of up to half a pound to one pound per day and decreased hunger. Dr. Hunt and Valley Wellness Center is proud to offer Dr. Emma s HCG Diet Program along with giving patients the knowledge to implement a healthier lifestyle once they complete the HCG program. For more information on the HCG programs available through Valley Wellness Center please visit and has formulated a very specific program for the use of HCG. Dr. Emma s HCG Diet Program uses specific medical dosing of Human Chorionic Gonadotropin (HCG) during a low calorie diet. The HCG is a hormone that is made by the body during pregnancy. It is a natural protein hormone that acts as a precursor in the bodies of both men and women to produce hormones such as testosterone estrogen progesterone and thyroid hormones. The weight loss expected on an HCG Program is dependent upon the degree of obesity at the start of the program. The closer someone gets to their ideal body weight the slower weight loss is due to the fact that their body is leaner and doesn t require as many calories as when they are obese. Due to the nature of the HCG program it is customary to see Dr. Lisa Hunt Lisa J. Hunt D.O. is the Medical Director of Valley Wellness Center in Modesto whose mission is to build on every level of your health to achieve the best quality of life. She is Board certified in Family Medicine and Holistic and Integrative Medicine. She specializes in anti-aging treatment natural thyroid replacement menopause andropause therapy (including bio-identical hormone replacement) strengthening the immune system neurotransmitter analysis replacement and nutritional support guidance. 16 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 17 HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT A Pathway to Wellness Massage Envy Spa Modesto Briggsmore T 18 by r eb ec c a flans b u rg p h o to s by b ri g g s p h o to gra p hy ired Burned out Stressed Not looking your best Comforting relief is available at Massage Envy Spa Modesto Briggsmore. You can enjoy a therapeutic massage a rejuvenating DC Clinic Administrator explained. Massage Envy Spa clinics nationwide allow only the best of the best to work within their facilities. An affordable option for many Massage Envy Spa s therapeutic massages can offer benefits for clients ranging from the athlete who needs relief from muscle aches to the working mom who just needs some ME time. The broad selection of services offers clients a variety of therapeutic choices including Swedish deep tissue sports and prenatal massage reflexology healthy skin facials and enhanced therapies such as sugar foot scrubs deep muscle therapy and aromatherapy. Hot Stone Envy a signature service of Massage Envy Spa melts away tension eases muscle stiffness and increases circulation and metabolism. Massage Envy Spa is also in the unique position to offer our clients the option of having a massage and a facial all within the same appointment noted Dr. Itliong. Our Murad Healthy Skin facials are customized to fit the specific needs of our clients because we know that no two faces are the same. Whether guests are concerned about aging or sun damage acne or seeking products designed to benefit healthy skin our trained estheticians will work with them to create a skin care regimen tailored to fulfill their goals. Fascinated by health and wellness from a young age Dr. Itliong became interested in the Massage Envy Spa franchise while she was finishing chiropractic school. Since the age of ten I dreamed of becoming a doctor she explained. While I was going to college to become a chiropractor I worked part-time at a Massage Envy Spa clinic. I recognized that I really valued the wellness aspect of their services and how it helped so many people feel better and healthier. I also came to the realization that as one doctor skin facial and many other restorative spa services at this unique professional clinic located at 2001 McHenry Avenue Suite L in Modesto. The first of its kind in the region the Massage Envy Spa franchise has been actively changing lives in over 962 locations nationwide for the last 12 years and it features affordable therapeutic massage and spa services. Massage Envy Spa distinguishes itself from competitors by offering a relaxing and professional spa-like atmosphere superior customer service and fully licensed professionally trained staff. All of my massage therapists are CAMTC licensed by the State of California and that certification includes a thorough background check Dr. Melody Itliong HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM I could only help one patient at a time. But with the Massage Envy Spa model I could help many people at one time and that s why I opened this business. With a mission statement that reads Better lives Better families Better communities A better world... through our hands Dr. Itliong opened Massage Envy Spa Modesto Briggsmore on May 23 2013 with the intention of providing a pathway to wellness through professional convenient and affordable massage therapy and spa services. I want the Central Valley community to know that Massage Envy Spa is a comfortable secure and professional therapeutic massage clinic that will work to improve their wellness and help them find relief from everyday stresses. To accommodate our clients busy lives we are open seven days a week because stress and physical pain don t operate on a five-day-a-week schedule. Since many people feel massage is more of a luxury than a need Dr. Itliong and her team continually work to dispel that myth and share the benefits of regular therapeutic massage. At Massage Envy Spa we know that massage therapy can help to improve overall health especially when our clients experience more regular sessions. Since many people feel massage is more of a luxury than a need Dr. Itliong and her team continually work to dispel that myth and share the benefits of regular therapeutic massage. At Massage Envy Spa we know that massage therapy can help to improve overall health especially when our clients experience more regular sessions. By making massage part of their wellness routine it can help increase energy and refresh their mental attitude that s why our membership options have become so popular. With the first year anniversary of Massage Envy Spa Modesto Briggsmore occurring this month Dr. Itliong and her team are preparing a celebration filled with specials gifts and giveaways as a way of saying thank you to the community members and guests who have helped make their first year in business so successful. Our anniversary celebration will run from May 23 through 25 and we are so excited to be able to invite members and guests old and new to our clinic to enjoy our appreciation offered Dr. Itliong. I have been so blessed this last year thanks to the support of staff friends and especially my wonderful husband and children. And HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 19 for women seeking business success I would have to encourage them to find a business that empowers and inspires them. Women have powerful networks in their communities so don t be afraid to hit the ground running and always remember to have fun at what you are doing. HLM For more information about Massage Envy Spa Modesto Briggsmore visit their website clinics CA Modesto-Briggsmore. HERLIFE BEAUTY beauty product round-up by l i n d say l a d e ro u te F eeling overwhelmed in the beauty department of your favorite store is something most of us experience. Hundreds of choices available for every beauty product can make selecting the appropriate one a nightmare. But with the right information you can turn the nightmare into a beautiful daydream. For this beauty. In the realm of anti-aging try Lotus Youth Preserve Face Cream With Super 7 Complex by Fresh . This anti-aging cream helps prevent signs of aging while providing maximum hydration and improving skin elasticity. For a daily moisturizer choose a bottle of Puristics SPF 15 Daily Anti-Aging Sunscreen Lotion. It goes on light protects against UVA UVB rays and uses no harsh chemicals. Tinted moisturizers are an easy way to knock out moisturizer and foundation in one step. Try out theBalm s Balm Shelter SPF 15 Tinted Moisturizer. It s available in seven shades and gives light but full coverage sun protection and moisture. If you struggle with under eye problems such as dark circles puffiness and dryness DERMAdoctor Wrinkle Revenge Rescue & Protect Eye Balm will do wonders for all three problems. To complete your overall beautiful look you need shiny healthy hair. Start in the shower with L Or al Paris Total Repair 5 Shampoo and Conditioner. The duo will help repair weak damaged hair to give you smooth shiny healthy hair that smells wonderful. Before blow drying or straightening be sure to use John Frieda s Frizz Ease Thermal Protection Serum. Not only will it protect your hair from heat damage it will leave locks shiny and protect your color from fading. After styling if you ve created a hairstyle you don t want to budge spray on Aussie Instant Freeze Hairspray. For a softer hold use Oscar Blandi s Lacca Hairspray. If your hair needs some love after heavy processing or a weave DOO GRO Mega Thick Growth Oil will help strengthen new hair and condition your scalp. To get maximum issue we ve picked out the top beauty products from hairspray to antiaging cream so you can create a beautiful reality. The starting block of beauty is having healthy glowing skin. Get this by using products that help moisturize and smooth your skin. Start moisturizing in the shower with Olay Ultra Moisture In-Shower Body Lotion for unbelievably soft and moisturized skin. If your skin needs a buffing rub on some 100% Pure Body Scrub which is made of 100 percent natural ingredients and available in 18 scents. While in the shower get your face completely clean with Biore Steam Activated Cleanser. This mint-infused cleanser works with the steam from your shower to give you the deepest clean. After a shower is the best time to moisturize If you are a lover of body oils Philosophy Pure Grace Satin-Finish Body Oil Spray is a marvelous choice. This spray-on oil works for your skin hair and nails and is enriched with a combination of sunflower and olive oils. If you re more of a lotion lover add a bottle of Aveeno Moisturizing Lotion to your beauty routine. Known for its soothing qualities enhanced by the power of oatmeal this lotion sinks in quickly and is available in an array of special formulas. Treat your face with the best products to fully enhance your natural 20 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM moisture back after a relaxer try K rastase Paris Fiber Architecte reparative serum to make damaged rough hair strong and smooth. Complement fresh skin and healthy hair with the perfect makeup. When it comes to foundation a great choice is Maybelline s Fit Me line available in powder or cream in 18 shades. For blushing cheeks a long-lasting favorite is COVERGIRL Classic Color Blush. It comes in the perfectly sized compact with a brush you will actually use. Find your perfect eye shadow by picking out a palette by bhCosmetics with 30 palettes to choose from you re almost guaranteed to find a favorite. Lining your eyes like a pro is easy with Maybelline s Line Stylist Eyeliner. The super-thin tip allows you to trace extremely close to the lash line giving you a more natural look. Finish any eye look with Voluminous mascara by L Or al Paris for thick luscious lashes with lots of volume. Love your lips by using one of the 82 available shades from Revlon s Super LustrousTM lipstick line. The lipstick goes on smoothly and stays that way even after a full day at the office. When it s time to take it all off use Neutrogena Deep Clean Oil-Free Makeup Remover Wipes. The pre-moistened wipes clear away all makeup and leave skin feeling soft and subtle not tight or irritated. The beauty aisle can be overwhelming and being prepared with knowledge about which products to try makes it much easier to tackle. Creating a beautiful look is no problem with our product round-up. Hopefully it will make your next beauty aisle browse simple instead of stressful HLM Sources HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 21 HERLIFE PETS pet picture by candi s mi t h taking the perfect T picture. here s not an honest pet owner out there who can deny that they rush to their cameras just to capture those sweet silly seconds when their pets are posing perfectly. Or maybe they re running amok and they want to capture them in their natural state of being a pet According to the North American Pet Health Insurance Association 30 percent of Americans dress their pets up for the holidays and 67 percent include them in a holiday photo. But aside from your amateurish photos taken on the fly here are some photographer tips offered for taking the perfect pet According to Grace Chon a pet photographer in Los Angeles there are some tricks to capturing your pet on camera. First you let your pet do what they do best--be an animal Take pictures of them in places where they like to hang out and let their personality shine by giving them a favorite toy. Be sure to reward them after a few shots with a doggie treat. Otherwise you might have a hard time holding their attention for long periods of time. And pay attention to their non-verbal cues about their reaction to the camera. Some animals may view the lens as a giant eyeball staring at them. It s important to help them get used to the camera so they aren t intimidated by its sounds and appearance. Don t be afraid to act silly to get the reaction you want from a pet. Make funny noises to get them to tilt their head or perk up their ears. And if you start running around they ll want to do the same. Of course these tricks usually apply to dogs since cats are more standoffish. With felines a hands-off approach works best and allows them to take the lead in their own timing. There are technicalities to getting a good shot. Since you want details like hair strands to stand out you don t want your photos to get overexposed. If outdoors shoot in full shade and if indoors use a room with diffused light. Avoid using flash indoors because it will give your photos a harsh Hollywood look. Limit photo retouching to small increases in contrast and color intensification so they don t appear artificial. It s important to know how to operate your camera and today s new models have lots of functions that allow you to experiment. You can use the focus and zoom functions for capturing details like claws and fur. Start by filling the frame with the pet as the main subject of the photograph front and center. Later you can consider cropping and making changes but in the beginning make the pet the focus. With today s digital photography you can take as many pictures as your camera s memory will hold. So shoot away until you get the shots you like Don t be hesitant to take repetitive shots if they re photogenic. 22 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Without creating anxiety in the pet take close-up shots by using your zoom feature. There s nothing quite as cute as capturing whiskers teeth and tongues in a photo Remember to stay calm and try not to stress over the process. If your frustration level rises so will your stress. And pets will pick up on any anxiety you exude. If your subject is not sitting still for your shots take a break for both of your sakes. Patience is key when photographing pets You should develop a relationship with the pet by letting them sniff your hand and approaching them with an open genuine attitude. It s important to be caring and not fearful toward the animal. Find a neutral place where the pet can roam and open up their personality. This is a good opportunity to take a few test shots to set your exposure and shutter speed. Since most pets enjoy toys (dogs like squeaky noises and cats like toys that capture their curiosity) bring a few along to get their attention. If you can get a pet to follow simple commands such as sit stay and down it will help you as you try to create poses. This is where treats and lots of positive praise comes in Since animals don t tend to sit still set your camera to fast shutter speed and take continuous shots to capture that perfect pose. Take photos from all angles get down on the pet s level so you can see things from their perspective or take a shot above them so they re looking up. And focus on their eyes. Animals use them to do their talking and your camera should focus on them to capture what they re saying to the world HLM Sources and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 23 HERLIFE BEHIND THE WEATHER Tamara Berg KCRA 3 s Weather Darling w ri tte n by re b e c c a f l a n sb u rg p h o to s by c a r m e n sa l a z a r ph o t o gr a phy h a i r a n d m a ke u p by m e l i ssa b oye s w a rd ro b e p rov i d e d by fr e n ch cu ff sh o t o n l o c a ti o n a t o l d tow n sa c ra m e n to to call Northern California her home and is very proud of her accomplishments as a female meteorologist in the typically male-dominated field. But her journey as a weather anchor wasn t always smooth sailing. Tamara s love of broadcasting touched her at an early age. When I was young every morning as my brothers and I got ready for school my mom would have the television turned to the morning news Tamara recalled. As I sat and ate my breakfast I would watch and observe our local anchors whom I adored. This was the routine for years. Then one morning when I was in seventh grade I looked at my mom and said That s what I want to do. My mom responded by telling me that I could do anything I wanted as long as I put my mind to it. After that I never let that dream go. I just kept on chasing it. As Tamara s journey to become a respected and experienced weather anchor began to unfold she kept her mother s words of wisdom in her mind along with the words written on a plaque paraphrasing a special quote from the late Elizabeth Edwards She stood in the storm and when the wind did not blow her way she adjusted her sails. Based on the fact that I am a weather geek any saying with sky wind or water in it I can totally relate to shared Tamara with a smile. But the thing I love the most about this quote is this in life you get knocked down. That s just the way life is. But when you can truly pick yourself up adjust your sails and move in a direction that is better for you that s when you are making huge strides. You should never give up on your dreams or goals just because you ve had a setback or made a mistake that s knocked you off course. When the wind doesn t blow your way don t give up. Simply adjust your sails and find a new path for it to take you. 24 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM T amara Berg loves science. A self-described weather geek Tamara is KCRA 3 s morning meteorologist she joined the team in December 2011 after three years forecasting the weather at KION-TV in Salinas. Born and raised in Cleveland Ohio Tamara is happy Tamara demonstrated this attitude following her completion of a BA in broadcast journalism from Baldwin Wallace University in Berea Ohio. I came out of college wanting to be a reporter Tamara confided. I wanted to work for CNN and be the one who was live on Capitol Hill doing the interviews and news reports. But once I got into the reporting routine I discovered very quickly that general assignment reporting just wasn t my cup of tea. So I adjusted my sails and looked elsewhere for something within the broadcast industry that was more of my calling. Little did I know it was right under my nose. My first job in broadcasting was in Toledo Ohio as an assignment manager and my first on-air job was also in Toledo. I spent three years as a general assignment reporter and did weather only on the weekends. I loved doing the weather and I realized pretty quickly that this was what I wanted to do in my professional career. Even though I knew this was a huge mountain to climb I wanted to get a meteorology degree. I also knew that if I didn t get that degree my chances of succeeding in television and as a woman in this field were very slim. So I went for it and achieved a BS in broadcast meteorology from Mississippi State University. While she excelled in writing and creative skills Tamara shared that her biggest challenge was switching sides of her brain and mastering the math skills that are a critical part of a meteorology degree. I really struggled with that part of my education offered Tamara. I really had to work at it but it made me realize how important it is to work harder for what you want in life. I leaned on my support system of family and mentors quite a bit during those times and persevered. A strong and consistent source of inspiration and guidance in those early careers days as it is even now was her family. Her parents stepmother sisters and two older brothers always encouraged her to follow her dreams and stood by her side when she made the choice to go into meteorology. There were other mentors present in her life as well. I had mentors all around me and a lot of them were males Tamara revealed. They were the chief meteorologists at the stations where I worked they were people who genuinely wanted me to succeed and were always there to offer advice and guidance. They also encouraged me no matter how difficult the course was to stick with it and sail forward. Tamara also adjusted her sails following the unfortunate passing of her mother in 2009. Once again feeling off course and uncertain Tamara chose to make the move from Ohio to Monterey California and eventually to Sacramento. My mother s death shook me to my core as you can imagine Tamara observed. I was still in Toledo at the time and after the funeral my older brothers went back home to California. I was so unhappy. I knew it was time to pick up my sails reset my course and make a change. That s when I made the decision to be closer to my family and applied for every weather job I could find in California. Luckily for me I landed in Monterey eventually settled in Sacramento and I ve never looked back. Internal discipline was another tool in Tamara s success arsenal during the tough times and exercise was a big part of that. During my college years I used my love of running as a reward for myself to stay motivated and be committed Tamara affirmed. If I did three hours of study I rewarded myself with an hour of running. The work reward balance was so important to my success at that time as well. It s good to push yourself to stay true to your goals but you also need to know when to reward yourself for a job well done. To this day running holds a strong place in this ambitious young woman s heart and is an important part of her success and lifestyle. Having completed the Big Sur International Marathon four times Tamara is looking forward to running the California International Marathon this year as she does every year. She s proud to have survived the Tahoe Tough Mudder race in 2012 and completed her first Ultra Marathon in Cool California last month. I love a good challenge Tamara confirmed. I am one of those people who don t sit still well so I am always trying new things. Running marathons and triathlons is the perfect way to feed my need for challenge and exercise at the same time. I also love to golf and plan to get my pilot s license. On my bucket list are skydiving bungee jumping and working HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 25 with the Red Cross as a disaster relief volunteer. Though she s grateful for her continued success in the broadcasting field Tamara reveals that she still experiences difficult moments that threaten to shift her off course. The broadcasting business is not easy Tamara noted. People are going to either really like you or they are not. There are very few in-betweeners. But that s also just part of the business. With the popularity of social media there are people out there who think it s okay to say unkind things about your appearance or something you said. I truly don t understand why someone would want to be hurtful on purpose but for the times I do get what I call a nastygram I have a special trick I use to keep it all in perspective. To stay positive I keep a file folder filled with positive emails from viewers and readers. When the naysayers are being unkind I just pull out that file and read the emails from those who are positive and appreciative and that helps me to shake it off and keeps me sailing forward. What is Tamara most proud of in her career Women are making huge strides in science and three decades ago you just wouldn t see a woman as a meteorologist she affirmed. I am so proud to be able to be that role model for other women who have the same dream that I did. My advice to other women with a dream is to not be afraid to speak your mind and let it be heard. Break through the barriers that you thought couldn t be broken through and never let setbacks define you. Rise up work hard and smart and make your way to the top--even when your seas get rough. HLM 26 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE COSMETIC SURGERY JOSEPH R. BURLIN MD American Board of Plastic Surgery Stanford Trained More than 25 Years of Experience 2013 Was a Good Year for Plastic Surgery The American Society of Plastic Surgeons (ASPS) recently released their annual statistics on plastic surgery procedures performed in the U.S. during 2013. The data was compiled from polling plastic surgeons across the nation. Of note it is certain that the numbers reported are substantially less than the actual number of cases performed as the ASPS data does not include procedures performed by a vast array of practitioners who perform cosmetic surgery but are not board-certified plastic surgeons. Nevertheless the statistics reported are quite interesting. An estimated 15.5 million cosmetic procedures were performed of which 13.5 million were minimally invasive procedures and about 2 million were actual surgical procedures. The top five minimally invasive procedures were 1 Botox (6.3 million) 2 Soft Tissue Fillers such as Juvederm and VolumaTM (2.3 million) 3 Chemical Peels (1.2 million) 4 Laser Hair Removal (1.1 million) and 5 Microdermabrasion (970 000). The fastest-growing procedure was Soft Tissue Fillers (up by 9 percent in 2013 from 2012). Amazingly minimally invasive procedures are up 145 percent in 2013 as compared with 2000. The top five cosmetic surgery procedures were 1 Breast Augmentation (290 000) 2 Nose Reshaping (231 000) 3 Eyelid Surgery (216 000) 4 Liposuction (200 000) and 5 Facelift (135 000). The fastest-growing procedure was Facelift (up by 6 percent in 2013 over 2012). The estimated total money spent on plastic surgery procedures last year was a whopping 12.6 billion dollars both sides of the face there is a doubling effect. In other words if a patient has of loose skin of the right face that has dropped into the neck and of loose skin from the left side of the face that has dropped into the neck there is therefore 1 of loose skin that will accumulate in the central portion of the neck. Next there is the issue of extra fat which tends to accumulate in the central portion of the neck under the chin. Patients with saggy necks often request that I simply liposuction the fat away from this area however to do so is ill advised as it will only make the skin appear substantially looser. Finally the supportive muscles of the neck while firm and taught in youth also become lax and droopy with time. To correct a sagging turkey neck problem it is necessary to carefully analyze the specific anatomy (skin fat and muscle) of each patient to achieve the maximum desired results. Typically this requires tightening the underlying muscles (with stitches) across the neck removing unwanted fat (either under direct vision or via liposuction) and finally tightening the neck skin via incisions placed behind the ears. By pulling back on the skin from both sides it provides dramatic lifting to the entire neck especially in the area under the chin. It is important for patients to understand that it is often not possible to perform an isolated neck-lift by itself without an associated facelift. This is true because the ultimate goal of facial rejuvenation surgery is to make patients look and feel better about themselves. Patients who have excessive skin and fat of the neck typically also have excessive skin and fat issues of the cheeks and jowl areas. To do an isolated neck-lift in such a patient would result in a beautiful neck but a very strange disproportionate and abnormal overall look to the patient. This kind of outcome is contrary to my goal in creating a result that is pleasing harmonious and natural. Putting Your Neck on the Line Our faces are lies but our necks are the truth. Nora Ephron Author. In my practice we see a large number of patients in consultation for facelift surgery. Regardless of the degree of skin laxity and droopiness of the cheeks and jowls when I ask patients what it is that they would like me to correct 99 percent of patients indicate that they dislike the appearance of their neck. It is true that a sagging neckline with loss of a clean jawline is one of the most glaring indicators of advancing age. Thus it is no surprise that patients focus on this area. What then causes the dreaded turkey neck problem To understand this it is important to look at the three key structures that make up the neck skin fat and muscle. As people age they lose elasticity in the skin. The skin relaxes and is influenced by the effects of gravity. The degree to which skin relaxes is determined by lots of issues (sun exposure heredity weight loss etc.) the net result is that the skin of the cheeks and jowls begins to fall forward and downward into the neck. Because this phenomenon occurs on Breast Reduction Greatly Improves Mental Well Being A recent study published out of the Ohio State University Medical Center shows that women who undergo breast reduction surgery not only have substantial relief of breast symptoms but also a measurable increased quality of life and sense of well-being. Using a 100 point scale patients completed a questionnaire before and following breast reduction surgery. Satisfaction with the appearance of the breasts increased from a score of 20 to a score of 80. Psychological well-being increased from 41 to 84. Sexual well-being increased from 40 to 78 and physical well-being (i.e. relief of symptoms) increased from 43 to 81. The authors of the study also concluded that most of the perceived improvements in well-being occurred within the first six weeks following surgery. HLM If you have questions or would like to hear about a certain topic relating to cosmetic surgery or skin care please email your questions to Kimberly 28 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE INSPIRATIONS 30 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Journey to Motherhood wr it t en by r eb ec c a flan sb u rg p h o to gra p hy by b ri g g s p h o to gra p hy hair by jes s ic a c aldwell of jc s alon s t ud io m a ke u p by m e l a n i e c l a rdy o f p e rf e c t b a l a n c e sa l o n & d ay sp a s hot on loc a ti o n a t u n i ve rsi ty o f th e p a c i f i c Heather Maurin s T he miracle of birth and new life are something all parents anticipate and cherish. For some conceiving and carrying a pregnancy to term comes easily but for others it is a longer and more frustrating journey to achieve the goal of parenthood. A year later we were still struggling shared Heather. One of the hardest parts of dealing with infertility is that moment every month when you realize it didn t work again. Every month there is the anticipation of what if and then your cycle shows up and your hopes of pregnancy are dashed yet again. It can take a toll on your moods physical self and sometimes even your relationship. At the end of the day all you want is a baby to love and you begin to wonder if it is ever going to happen for you. Despite the constant frustration the couple persevered and continued to seek help from St. Joseph s Medical Center Infertility Specialists that included the fertility medicine Clomid and a procedure called IUI. Also known as Intrauterine Insemination IUI is a fertility treatment that uses a catheter to place a number of washed sperm directly into the uterus. The goal of IUI is to increase the number of sperm that reach the fallopian tubes and subsequently increase the chance of fertilization. After a year of interventions and many disappointments Heather and Matt were thrilled to discover they were pregnant in the winter of 2009. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 31 Heather Maurin a board certi- fied behavior analyst and autism specialist for the Stockton Unified School District and San Joaquin Valley resident always knew she wanted to be a mom. When I turned 28 I just knew I wanted to be a mom very soon Heather revealed. After being married for six years we were ready to start a family. All of our friends were having kids and we were starting to feel like we were getting left behind in a way. But month after month Heather found herself unable to get pregnant. Frustrated she and husband Matt decided to seek fertility help from St. Joseph s Medical Center. The doctor they initially consulted with offered options answers advanced testing and most of all hope. But once again after months of trying without success she found herself battling the monthly highs and lows of infertility. I was over the moon when I got pregnant Heather remembered. Every morning was like Christmas morning after we found out and we were thrilled our dream of being parents was finally coming true. Our beautiful son Mitchell was born in August 2010 and it was love at first sight A constant in Heather s infertility journey was the support and love from friends fellow church members and especially family. Everyone was so supportive through those sad and frustrating times Heather remembered. It was their love 32 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM support and prayers that got us through the tough times. They were the same people who were so incredibly happy for us when Mitchell in every conception and I believe that prayer was a large part of our success. The crazy thing was once I did get pregnant so did many of our friends Many of us were pregnant within two to three months of each other and a natural support circle was formed. We took very different journeys to get pregnant but it was so rewarding to share that special time with them. Loving and living the season of parenthood was everything Heather could have hoped for but soon the To women who are toying with the idea of seeing a fertility doctor I would say take the first step and just make an appointment for a consultation. Having information and options are so empowering at a time when you feel you are not in control of your own body. I am truly hoping that by sharing my story other couples will read it and gain hope and insight about what is available to them. I pray that it will offer hope those who dream of a family but are struggling with infertility. was conceived and born as well. Although I fully endorse science I also think there is a miracle couple s thoughts turned to the prospect of having a second child. Once again they enlisted the are so many interventions available and those options are available right here in your hometown. Heather also counsels other to seek out and talk to others who have already been through the fertility process. It s so helpful to talk to people who have been on that journey and know the language of infertility. Your best friend can certainly be helpful in supporting you but it is incredibly comforting to talk to someone who knows what you are experiencing. As someone who s been in that position I know it was very helpful for us to hear the stories of successful infertility interventions from other parents. For many women struggling to conceive the hardest part can sometimes be convincing their husband to seek infertility counsel. For men infertility can be a highly personal and sensitive subject and one that is hard for them to accept. I know of women who are facing the issue of convincing their spouse to take action and my suggestion to those women is to encourage your spouse to at least check it out and get the facts Heather reported. For the men who may be reading this finding out your options help of St. Joseph s Medical Center and this time they were paired with Dr. John Kim a respected Fertility Specialist and OB GYN. When Mitchell was around 18 months old we decided to move forward with trying for baby number two Heather affirmed. But once again we struggled with trying to conceive on our own. I knew I was in good hands with Dr. Kim but I worried I would have to start over with the testing and diagnostic parts. Luckily that wasn t the case and Dr. Kim was a great doctor for me. He is very straightforward honest and he tells you the facts. Your head can spin you in so many directions with all the information you need to process but Dr. Kim was very good at helping us through those emotional lows and encouraged us to take one step at a time. He was very perceptive to our moods worries feelings and emotions and knew what to say to calm fears and keep us optimistic. A conversation with Dr. Kim revealed the feeling was mutual. Heather was a delightful patient to treat and I firmly believe her optimistic outlook on the situation greatly affected their positive outcome Dr. Kim agreed. Stories like Heather s are why I do what I do and why I love what I do. Around 12 months from the time Heather and Matt began their infertility journey with Dr. Kim their second son Ryland came into the world on January 31 2013. Despite the long and difficult journey to conceive her two beautiful children Heather acknowledges that she and Matt are very lucky. We know we are very fortunate because there are so many couples going down a much harder road than we did. The process was difficult but we are very blessed. What is Heather s advice to other couples struggling with infertility issues To women who are toying with the idea of seeing a fertility doctor I would say take the first step and just make an appointment for a consultation. Having information and options are so empowering at a time when you feel you are not in control of your own body. I am truly hoping that by sharing my story other couples will read it and gain hope and insight about what is available to them. I pray that it will offer hope for those who dream of a family but are struggling with infertility. There HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 33 for infertility will not make you any less of a person. My husband was totally supportive and willing to do what we needed to do to bring a baby into this world and if anything it made me love him more. Baby Ryland is now one and big brother Mitchell is not quite four. Heather and Matt have settled into the daily struggle of finding a balance of work and parenthood but are loving every second of it. The best part of parenthood for me is the time when I first get home Heather noted. I love how they get big smiles and are so happy to see Matt and me. It s one of the many so-worth-it moments of parenthood. HLM L di Living 34 34 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 35 35 HERLIFE CRAVINGS Cactus Mexican Dining wr i t t e n by adriana brogge r p hot os by b r e b as zler 36 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM L ocated in central Galt Cactus Mexican Dining offers a wonderful selection of fresh authentic food worthy of celebrating with a fiesta It s the second local restaurant opened by husband and wife duo Efrain and Mia Lane-Gomez. The Gomezes opened their Galt location on Cinco de Mayo in 2013. They have owned the very successful Cactus in Woodbridge since 1992. Cactus features an impressive menu that includes something for every palate. Efrain and Mia are committed to using traditional recipes and the finest freshest ingredients available. This combination lends itself to an amazing dining experience We started with the Tocino Enchilada two flour tortillas filled with fresh grilled chicken breast bacon diced onions tomatoes peppers and their signature cilantro dressing topped with tomatillo sauce and jack cheese. This is a wonderful meal I love the chicken and bacon mix- topped with the creamy tomatillo sauce. This dish is divine. Mar y Tierra is a beautiful presentation of strips of chicken shrimp and asparagus fajitas saut ed in butter garlic shallots and spices served up on a warm skillet. It s served with pico de gallo cheese guacamole sour cream and beans with flour tortillas. This is a seasonal dish that features the crowned vegetable of the San Joaquin Valley the asparagus. I love the light spiciness of the sauce. Whether you prefer mild or hot the chefs will be happy to accommodate. The Calamari Costa Brava is a featured menu item. It is a fillet of squid prepared abalone style. The calamari is covered in a divine white wine lemon and garlic sauce that gives it a heavenly flavor. It s then topped with shrimp and mushrooms spices roasted tomatoes avocado slices and melted jack cheese It s served with a delightfully light jalape o pasta and refried beans. The taste and presentation of the food was perfect all around. Mia takes pride in letting us know that all the dishes are prepared using topquality ingredients. Efrain Mia and their friendly staff would love to have you over at either location. Guests tell HERLIFE the dining experience at Cactus cannot be rivaled. Loyal customers come back time after time to not only enjoy the food but to connect with the servers bartenders and staff that they ve come to rely on as part of the Cactus family. Cactus Mexican Dining boasts an impressive full service bar at both the Galt and Woodbridge locations. Delicious drinks to complement your meal would be the perfect way to finish off any celebration at Cactus. You can also contact Cactus for more information on their fantastic banquet facilities they can make throwing that fiesta easy-peasy Cactus Mexican Dining in Galt is located at 908 C Street Suite E. You can call them at (209) 745-4240 or find them online at One of the Central Valley s leading proponents of all things multimedia Adriana Brogger has worked as a reporter blogger producer host emcee writer and actress performer in local media for more than ten years. She teaches Multimedia Production at San Joaquin Delta College and loves it Born in the year of the monkey Adriana has a clever wit and a magnetic personality. Seriously though she enjoys good comedy spending time with her hubby and four cute boys and of course great food. If you know of a local restaurant that would welcome a visit by Adriana HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 37 please contact Kimberly Mullen at Kimberly HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 37 HERLIFE CULINARY the newest culinary gadgets by p a tty c o o k P eople who love cooking often make serious investments in kitchenware over time. Frying pans make way for saut pans that old coated skillet is replaced with a good cast iron version. New recipes call for a Dutch oven or a braising pot. Once you ve acquired basic tools for your kitchen pots pans kitchen If you ve visited a local dairy or creamery the idea of churning your own butter might have crossed your mind. You can make that happen if you have cream and salt--and a Chef n Butter Maker from Williams-Sonoma ( 14.95 online). Recipes are included to help you customize a signature blend of butter with herbs and spices that best suit the dishes you love. The summer herb garden s bounty is a blessing but if you ve picked more herbs than you can use it seems wasteful to toss them in the trash or compost pile. With the Chef n Herbsicle also at Williams-Sonoma you can freeze these flavorful leftovers in a cylinder that s about 8 by 4 inches. Once they re frozen a plunger lets you push out just the right amount needed to grate or cut. The plunger can also be marked to identify the herbs in it so you ll know if you grabbed basil oregano cilantro or mint. This dishwasher safe gadget can be found online at Williams-Sonoma for 9.95. A creative way to use up any leftover fruits juice and yogurt is the Zoku Mini Lolly Maker Set found online at Sur la Table. These tiny ice pops make nine right-sized treats. The silicone molds can be filled frozen and popped out as needed. They can be found online for about 17 and are BPA- and phthalate-free. There are a plethora of peelers on the market that create the delicate curls and thin strips of vegetables and fruits that will make your homeplated meals rival those at restaurants. Here s a look at some different styles offered by Williams-Sonoma. The Open Kitchen Sharpened Julienne knives they never become obsolete. But there are always new and inexpensive little gadgets coming on the market. If you ve ever seen a kitchen item that you never knew existed yet realized you could not live without you have fallen for a culinary gadget. Let s take a moment to look at the latest greatest glitter of kitchen tools. One of them may be an item you ll find you can t live without. Anyone who s discovered a great recipe on an iPad must then find a place to safely stow his or her electronic device in the kitchen while prepping the recipe. If you fall within this category check out the CTA Digital Bamboo Cutting Board. At 35 online this bamboo board provides a safe home for your iPad while protecting it from the flotsam and jetsam of any chopping slicing or dicing. It even has built-in storage slots for kitchen knives as well as a bamboo stylus for your iPad. One dreaded chopping-block chore is cleaning cauliflower which seems to always require at least two knives. Bring on the Cauliflower Corer sold online at Sur la Table for 9.95. This stainless steel corer is 2 by 4 inches and works like the smaller version made for apples with a push pull motion. 38 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Peeler has a 2 -inch blade for creating quick julienne strips of vegetables for salads side dishes and garnishes and it can be found online at 9.95. The Ghidini Dual Blade Peelers can handle tougher vegetables such as carrots as well as softer vegetables and fruits such as tomatoes and kiwi to create the right ribbon or garnish for each dish. Prices range from 10 to 15 online. The pricier R sle Julienne Peeler costs about 28 and is made of 18 10 stainless steel. This hardy gadget is designed to create delicate julienne slices over uneven surfaces such as butternut squash. Kitchen string is a great tool for trussing roasts or stuffed meats or fish. If spending time learning to properly truss and knot kitchen string seems daunting consider using TheFoodLoop . These flexible heat-resistant silicone loops can be used in the oven microwave stovetop or freezer. They easily connect and disconnect and they can be looped together when used on large items. Cleanup is easy and you don t need to worry about scratching any of your pots or pans. You can find TheFoodLoop at area kitchen stores or online ranging in price from 4 to 20. Perhaps these gadgets will inspire you to browse kitchen stores for new culinary tools for yourself or as gifts for your foodie friends. As you do remember to avoid becoming the crazy cat lady of culinary gadgets. Put some thought into how often a new gadget really will be used as well as where it will be stored. There is a place in the heart of every home cook for these indispensable and inexpensive tools. HLM Sources HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 39 HERLIFE WINE wine if you want to by d o u g f ro st it s your party and you ll T he wine-tasting party may be a uniquely American habit born of a society that believes there is something knowable about the diversity of wine and one that accepts its members ought to know about it. Try to imagine a French or Italian family hosting such a party. In truth many Europeans know very little about imitator at first glance. That s why you ve chosen the blind tasting format everyone gets to make up their own minds. Americans often flout traditional wine prejudices and more power to them for that. Amongst European wine writers and educators there is often a hidebound notion that only certain wines should be consumed with certain foods and only in certain glasses or at particular temperatures. The attitude in North America is often more utilitarian a looser stance that allows people to dress casually in a fine restaurant talk in slang and drink what they like no matter what food they re eating. Lest all of this seem to be patriotic preening one of the sillier traits of the American approach to wine is closely related. That s the idea that you are supposed to know about certain very important wines. By extension you re supposed to like them too a notion that is as absurd as telling someone that they are supposed to like oysters or liver and onions. We like what we like and the guests at our party are no different. So the first thing to determine is whether your guests have certain favorite grapes or styles. Some people insist that sparkling wine makes them drunk too quickly it doesn t and there s little science to support such a broad claim. But if some of the attendees don t want to drink sparkling wine don t bring three of them. If you know that some of your guests usually drink white wines and not reds don t organize a tasting of Cabernets from around the world. The goal of a wine tasting ought to be to let people discover something they haven t tasted before but try to make sure that everyone there will find at least one wine they ll like whether that wine is white red sweet or bubbly. It is wine s increasing diversity that keeps people fascinated by it. An ever-increasing number of countries produce wine from a rapidly expanding palate of grape varieties. Drinking the same wine (or grape from the same region) may be what you do with your own money but when you re organizing a tasting it s an opportunity for people to find something new. If each attendee brings a favorite bottle rest assured that everyone will taste something they haven t tasted before. You may want to set parameters no bottle less than ten dollars or perhaps half the group brings whites and the other half brings reds. Or you may choose to buy the wines yourself but if so don t push too hard your own likes and dislikes. Accept that people like different wines because each person has a slightly different palate and a set of experiences that informs their preferences. Be a good host first. The wines come second. HLM wine but that s not something they ll readily admit. They re even less likely to invite people over as witnesses. It s always been part and parcel of the so-called American can-do spirit we know what we don t know and then we set out to learn all about it. At the risk of continued bashing of our European brothers and sisters wine has long been an even stronger signifier of class in Europe than it is here. Whether in the castle or the pub one drinks what one ought to drink whether it is First Growth Bordeaux or vin ordinaire. The good ol USA allows a great deal more class mobility and any wine that you can afford you have a right to drink and even understand if you choose. That notion should give you a pretty good idea of the most enjoyable part of a wine tasting--letting people taste the wines without knowing what they are in a blind tasting. The bottles are hidden in brown paper bags and no one knows which wine is which. If you serve the wines blind you can put a very expensive wine up against a cheap wine and the wine will be judged on its own merits rather than price. Sometimes the outcome is shocking and sometimes it s merely funny. But it s a question that s implicit in virtually any wine tasting is this wine worth what it cost The media of late has crowed that wine drinkers are likely to enjoy certain wines more if they think that those wines are expensive. Big surprise huh Of course we all like to try expensive things be they wines food cars jewelry whatever. And few of us are versed enough in those toys to inherently know the great from the 40 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 41 HERLIFE RECIPES penne with sausage and mushroom ragu Serves 6 Prep time 15 minutes Cook time 15 minutes ingredients 1 pound penne pasta 1 Tablespoon olive oil 1 small sweet onion diced small 3 garlic cloves minced 8 ounces baby bella mushrooms sliced salt and pepper teaspoon red pepper flakes 1 pound Italian sausage 1 cup white wine 3 1 can (28 ounce) diced tomatoes 4 cups baby spinach cup freshly grated Parmesan cheese directions Bring a large pot of salted water to boil. Cook the pasta according to package directions until al dente. Meanwhile heat the olive oil in a large nonstick saut pan over medium-high heat. Add onion and cook until soft and translucent about 3 minutes. Add garlic cook for about 20 seconds. Add mushrooms and cook until softened about 3 more minutes. Season with salt and pepper and red pepper flakes. Add sausage and cook breaking up into small pieces until no pink remains 3 more minutes. Raise heat to high and pour in the wine cook until evaporated. Add tomatoes and their juice bring to a simmer. Drain pasta add to the sauce with the spinach. Toss to coat and allow the leaves to wilt. Add in the Parmesan taste and season with salt and pepper if necessary. Serve in individual bowls and pass some fresh parmesan at the table. HLM 42 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM potato and cheese pierogi with saut ed cabbage and apples Serves 4 Prep time 10 minutes Cook time 10 minutes ingredients 1 (16 ounce) package Monterey Pasta Potato and Cheese Pierogi 2 Tablespoons unsalted butter 1 medium sweet onion sliced thin 1 large apple cut into -inch pieces 1 (10 ounce) bag shredded green cabbage 1 Tablespoon white balsamic vinegar 1 teaspoon sugar teaspoon kosher salt teaspoon freshly ground black pepper Sour cream optional directions Cook the pierogi according to the pan-fry package directions. In the meantime heat the butter in a large nonstick saut pan over mediumhigh heat. Add the onion and cook stirring occasionally until soft about 4 to 5 minutes. Add the apple and cook for 1 minute. Add in the cabbage vinegar sugar salt and pepper. Cook stirring until the cabbage is slightly wilted but still crunchy about 2 to 3 minutes. Divide the cabbage mixture among plates. Serve with the pierogi and sour cream on the side if desired. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 43 HERLIFE BEHIND THE MENU Chef Michael Midgley of Ernie s Food and Spirits w ri tte n by h e r l i f e sta f f p h o to by br e ba s z l e r nie s Food and Spirits brings his star qualities right into the kitchen whipping up his personal takes on our favorite traditional dishes. In the kitchen since the age of 14 Chef Michael has been hard at work making a name for himself in the culinary world ever since. He has made appearances on major television networks competing on Bravo s Top Chef Food Network s Cut Throat Kitchen and appearing as a judge on Esquire s Knife Fight and Bravo s Top Chef Masters. His latest ventures include an appearance on Good Day Sacramento and January saw the release of his very own cookbook Mike Midgley 20 Easy Recipes Awesome Food Anyone Can Make (With a little help from me ). These recipes emphasize Chef Mike s philosophy behind the book creating awesome dishes that aren t too difficult to make. Be sure to find his fantastic cookbook on and start impressing your dinner guests right away Even with side projects and celebrity appearances quickly piling up on his resume Chef Michael Midgley makes Ernie s Food and 44 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM M any Central Valley residents are unaware that we have a local culinary celebrity right here in Manteca Chef Michael Midgley Executive Chef at Er- Chef M ike enforce s Er nie s Food and S pir i t s c ulinar y goal to pre sent pa t r o n s with high-quality Ce r ti fied An g u s S t ea ks and Kobe style beef alon g si d e s ustainable se afood and t h e f r esh e st produce availab le. Spirits his priority. Creating sumptuous dishes such as asparagus Rangoon appetizers 16 ounce rib eyes with black truffle compound butter just to name a few and get your mouth watering menu items change monthly and each new plate sounds more divine than the next. Chef Mike enforces Ernie s Food and Spirits culinary goal to present patrons with high quality Certified Angus Steaks and Kobe style beef alongside sustainable seafood and the freshest produce available. Next time you re in the market for a palate-pleasing lunch or dinner remember Chef Michael Midgley is cooking up culinary perfection at Ernie s Food and Spirits in Manteca and be sure to bring home Chef Mike s larger than life personality in cookbook form available on Amazon. HLM Please visit Ernie s Food & Spirits at 1351 N. Main St in Manteca call them at (209) 239-3351 or find them online at HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 45 HERLIFE WINERY Vicarmont Vineyards & Winery wr it t en by r eb ec c a fla n sb u rg p h o to s by d a ri o l eve n ti n i o f f 3 stu d i o s A Story of Soil Vines and Wine lots of wine which enables them to give focused time and attention to producing a stellar product. The Vicarmont wine brand is actually a combination of Vic and Carrie s name along with their beloved chocolate Lab Monty. Monty also makes a guest appearance on Vicarmont s wine labels a fact that the winery s customer base loves. Monty was a big part of our life so it was fitting that he would be part of the Vicarmont brand shared Carrie. I got the idea while watching Monty frolic in the vineyards snatching up grapes in his mouth while the two of us were enjoying a run. Their wine label evolved to a new and more sophisticated design in 2007 but Monty s image is incorporated in that label as well. The family s wine-growing heritage runs deep a fact of which they are intensely proud. The family settled in Lodi after emigrating from Germany Russia and then the Dakotas farming from day one and planting grapes in the early 1900s that included Tokay Zinfandel and Carignane. Growing premium grapes for over 90 years has been the family passion. The Lodi Appellation soils and weather allow the grapes to mature into bright and flavorful berries and is instrumental for making elegant wine. The sandy soils of Lodi also allow for the ideal environment for growing the finest wine grapes and crafting delicious wines. Vicarmont primarily grows Zinfandel and Merlot grapes and it was only 40 years ago that the Mettlers committed their 45-acre Locust Tree 46 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Vineyard to growing these varietals on a property that has belonged to the family since the turn of the last century. Vic and Carrie both feel that their wine-making pride is reflected in their hand-crafted wines. We work hard to produce quality grapes and maintain the family tradition affirmed Vic. We are proud to be able to create a variety of wines under the Vicarmont label such as Merlot Zinfandel Sauvignon Blanc Chardonnay Cabernet Sauvignon and Dry Ros . Though intensely proud of their carefully cultivated vineyards the family is also eager to invite Vicarmont Vineyards & Winery visitors to their boutique tasting room to sample all of the wines produced by the winery. Another popular amenity is their new VicZIN Wine Club that allows members to receive three bottles of Vicarmont wine of their choosing three times a year. Vicarmont s recipe for success includes not only the generations of family-owned vineyards and the finest advances of modern viticulture it also includes the classic Mediterranean climate and the cool bay breezes. The family s tagline of Deep Roots...Old Vines...Real Wines not only reflects their mission statement and purpose but also this family s path for the future. HLM To learn more about Vicarmont Vineyards & Winery visit their website I n a lush part of Lodi Appellation down a lane called Locust Tree Road is a hidden winery where life is full of history. Farming in the Lodi East side region since 1899 Vicarmont Vineyards & Winery owners Vic and Carrie Mettler are fifth-generation grape growers. With their small boutique winery Vic and Carrie focus on small HERLIFE FOODIES foodies Woodbridge Crossing Curry Farms EAT GATHER SHARE We pride ourselves on being the best at all we do... Lunch dinner brunch special events cocktails and your location for live music every Friday and Saturday evening. Your second home 18939 N. Lower Sacramento Rd Woodbridge (209) 366-1800 Curry Farms Country Store & Deli Specializing in fresh local produce Gourmet Deli Sandwiches and specialty groceries. We are Lodi s Everyday Farmers Market. Turner Rd. Just East of Hwy 99. Open 7 days a week 9 00am - 6 00pm 835 E. Turner Rd Suite A Lodi (209) 369-4888 currryfarmscountrystore La Strada 88 Italian-born chef Attilio Siena prepares Italian-inspired dishes made daily with fresh seasonal ingredients purchased locally or grown in-house. From fresh pasta to our famous brick-oven pizzas to fresh fish to prime rib served on weekends We strongly suggest reservations on weekends but are open 7 days a week from 11am-10pm. Book our full banquet facility for your special event 18938 E. Hwy 88 Clements (209) 603-9451 pages La-Strada-88 156268141197656 Thai Spices Chef Bun Khotakoon has long been captivated by the many ways to combine sweet and fiery spices to bring together flavors that mingle and enchant each other. Pair the traditional and monthly special menu items with a fabulous local wine or ice cold Thai beer to create a fascinating culinary experience. Mother s Day Special Come by and visit Thai Spices 2401 W Turner Rd. Ste. 224 Lodi (209) 369-8424 Whirlow s Whirlow s Tossed and Grilled specializes in build-it-yourself tossed salads cafeteria style or choose from excellent sandwiches burgers and full plate dinners. Don t forget to make us your first call for catering carry out and private parties for the holidays 1926 Pacific Ave Stockton (On the Miracle Mile) (209) 466-2823 Papapavlo s Dine in one of our 5 private banquet rooms or choose our open dining room full service bar or all season patio dining while enjoying our Continental cuisine. 501 N. Lincoln Center Stockton (209) 477-6133 48 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Macaronage Macarons For the newbies French Macarons are almond-based cookies sandwiching a concoction of filling flavors. They are light and airy on the inside and a little crunchy on the outside Macaronage Macarons make the perfect dessert table highlight at birthdays weddings and other special occasions. A box of these goodies also makes the perfect gift Open Weds-Sat 10am-7pm and Sunday 11am-6pm. 7610 Pacific Ave Suite B6 Stockton (209) 955-0857 macaronagebygrace DeVega Bros. Catering for large or small events Semi-private Banquet for all occasions Patio Seating Happy Hour daily from 3pm-6pm 5757 Pacific Ave Stockton (209) 323-4339 515 N Main St Manteca (209) 823-0947 Rolling Scones Bakery and Teahouse Come join the revolution at Rolling Scones Bakery and Teahouse. Featuring not your average Quiche Richards homemade soups along with some bloody good scones Also serving salads coffee and espresso drinks and hand pies All baked daily for you using fresh seasonal ingredients 322 N. California St Lodi (209) 747-3418 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 49 HERLIFE TRAVEL by k ri sti n o r th c u tt all aboard E veryone has heard the Gilligan s Island premise the three hour tour that turned into years. Well the little boat tour may just be the way to go especially if you want to see the city Hail a cab and see it from the ground up ride the elevator to the top of the highest tower for the bird s eye view or take to the water and The city of Savannah is following Miami s lead with historic and architectural tours by boat. In a historic riverboat the captain s intriguing tales of times gone by appeal to all ages during this two-hour ride. Tourists learn the history of Savannah and the port and see statues that tell their own stories along the way. What would river tours be without the mighty Mississippi Experience New Orleans the way our ancestors did--with paddles With tributaries stretching into more than 30 states the Mississippi has hosted passengers and cargo boats on the bustling riverfront throughout history. Today passengers experience the paddleboat as they float past the French Quarter Port of New Orleans landmarks the devastation of the 1815 Battle of New Orleans and the modern day battle scars of Hurricane Katrina. While out East don t miss the Chattanooga Riverboat Cruise aboard a 70-passenger catamaran the first of its kind in the Southeast. This scenic waterway is home to a wide variety of plants and animals each pointed out by a Chattanooga Aquarium naturalist who also narrates points of interest along the route. If history calls your name choose the Southern Belle a three-deck paddlewheel tour that highlights Confederate and Union army points of interest and the history of Lookout Mountain. One of the most well-known and popular river tours is in the Windy City of Chicago. Being dyed green every St. Patrick s Day brings fame to the Chicago River but the tours by boat are heralded as the most iconic in the land. The breathtaking skyline vibrant city history and famous architecture triumph as visitors head out to Lake Michigan and back. Slow romantic cruises by candlelight to fast fun connections between major tour destina- see it from a unique vantage point that a growing number of tourists are on board with. Touring the town by boat is a growing trend in city tourism with a resurgence and revitalization of many downtowns and canals once untouched or left behind. These tours are not limited to the coasts. In fact from the nation s boundaries all the way in there s a river (and a city) with a view. Tourists in San Diego enjoy sightseeing on the bay every day of the sunny year. Narrated tours delight explorers who are longing to see the scenery and the beautiful skylines and may want to do some waterfront shopping. The water taxi picks up at stops along the way so passengers can eat shop and play on the water. Hopping coasts Miami takes on a different vibe with their version of the river tour. Local historians narrate one route including history of the Tequesta Indians and the cargo district. This waterfront city is undergoing a complete transformation as dozens of hotels condos and buildings are popping up along the banks making it a cultural hotbed of past meets present. Modern yachts seat up to 140 people and navigate what isn t the prettiest body of water in the city it s not the clearest or the cleanest and it s certainly not made for swimming. But along its banks are remnants of Miami as it once was and as it longs to be. 50 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM tions include the Navy Pier Michigan Avenue Bridge Trump Tower the famous Corn Cobs and Union Station. Two more tours staking their claim in canal revitalization are river tours in Oklahoma City and St. Louis. People often don t consider these landlocked lands as boat-friendly but the downtown areas and their river walks are taking the Midwest by storm. The Bricktown Water Taxi in Oklahoma City runs continual service like a bus water ambassadors narrate points of interest along the way. In nearby St. Louis take a ride on a replica 19th-century paddle-wheel boat from the riverfront below the south leg of the Gateway Arch. While cruising passengers are treated to a historical overview of the area and the role this working river still plays today. Finally travel deep into the heart of Texas for the original and arguably most famous and most photographed Riverwalk. River taxis make 39 stops for passengers to board or hop off at eat meet and play destinations in iconic San Antonio. This tour set the standard for many of the others to follow and has set the stage for river tourism in America. Seeing the city from the water gets tourists outside the norm. Whether you re looking for a lesson or leisure touring the town by boat has what you need to get a new vantage point. Sit back relax and let the Skipper take you on a tour. Just steer clear of the three-hour version. HLM Sources HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 51 HERLIFE fine things pamper your feet by b re ro a c h pretty designer shoes that 25 000 or 53 per pair. And for what To wear one time for four hours because they were so high and painful that you couldn t bear to walk in them for a minute longer All women have been there. They buy a pair of shoes for a particular outfit that they have in mind with the intention of wearing them with another outfit but after the initial breaking-in of the 6-inch patent black leather ankle boots they go untouched because they never actually broke in. In fact they nearly broke your ankle. It sounds like women aren t thinking logically when they buy shoes that are barely made to be walked in but the truth is that shoes make a lot of women happy. So what s a girl to do with the shoes that shoot her up to model-height but make her feel like she just ran a marathon barefoot The solution is to find fabulous shoes that are cute and comfortable--brand name high heels boots and wedges that offer support while still looking luxurious. It s not too good to be true and with the amount of money women spend on shoes it s important to invest in some that you can wear for years to come. There s no need to compromise style for comfort because there are shoes out there that offer both. Clarks Michael Kors and Kenneth Cole offer lovely shoes that are trendy and easy to tread in. These designers can be easily found in malls and department stores and offer huge selections. Stuart Weitzman is famous for making the most comfortable dress shoes around. You can E very year the shoes get bigger and more fabulous. Glitter and sequins leather and suede a woman s shoes can be her best friend and are undoubtedly her most adorned part of her wardrobe. According to Glamour magazine the average woman will buy 469 pairs of shoes in her lifetime at about usually find this brand for sale on Amazon and they have a wide range of flats heels and loafers. There s Manolo Blahniks which are a bit more expensive but if you re able to wear them for a decade and never feel discomfort then spending the extra cash can be justified. Many of these designers create an illusion with their shoes by limiting the size of the heel and elevating the front of the shoe to still make it look as though they are several inches high. Many designers also offer an ankle strap or a thick heel for maximum support. All of these brand shoes are lined for cushion and stability. When you put on a pair of shoes you re committing to that shoe in two ways expression and protection. women. We often think of them as an acas jewelry. We use them in our lives as a way to brighten up an outfit. Much of the time they are the determining factor in our daily ensemble and we ll spend hours looking for the perfect shoe to purchase. You are what you wear and it s important that these shoes reflect your personality as well as your personal style. Shoes are style to cessory such 52 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM As far as protection goes this is often in the back of our minds. Boots are obviously a necessity against the elements but we still have to find the cutest boots and then we get bummed when they don t stand up against the rain snow and sleet like we needed them to. It s necessary to find a solid combination in that shoe one that protects and accepts your foot. According to the American Academy of Orthopaedic Surgeons (AAOS) shoes that are too tight too loose or without enough support can cause stress to the feet ankles lower legs hips and even spine. The AAOS suggests a shoe that has a square or wide toe with a heel that is lower than two inches which is exactly what these designer brands have built. No one would dare tell a woman to lose the heels but if your feet are desperate for a break after a long week at work then there are alternatives that are just as striking as the high heel. There are many flats that are just as glamorous as their taller counterparts. The flat has support that in some brands has been compared to Nike Air tennis shoes. There s nothing more rewarding than being complimented for your style. Luckily designers have answered the call to help women nourish their feet and still look splendid helping you put your foot down on personal style. Treat yourself to a great pair that will make someone else want to walk a mile in your shoes. HLM Sources and the American Academy of Orthopaedic Surgeons. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 53 St. Joseph s Women & Infants Center wr it t en by re b e c c a f l a n sb u rg p h o to s by b re b a sz l e r Welcome to Life HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT 54 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM N estled in the Patient Pavilion just off the main St. Joseph s Medical Center complex is a place where miracles occur daily. St. Joseph s Women & Infants Center provides comprehensive care for all stages of life from prenatal and pediatric services to support and education for women. St. Joseph s St. Joseph s is also very proud to be the only Baby-Friendly hospital in San Joaquin County. The Baby-Friendly Hospital Initiative (BFHI) is a global program sponsored by the World Health Organization (WHO) and the United Nations Children s Fund (UNICEF) to encourage and recognize hospitals and birthing centers that offer an optimal level of care for breastfeeding mothers and their babies. Another Women & Infants Center staffer invested in the care of the new moms and babies is Sue McKenzie RNC IBCLC a 28-year veteran at St. Joseph s Medical Center. As a lactation consultant Sue s job involves visiting new moms while they are still in the hospital to help with any issues or questions with breastfeeding. Our staff is well-educated and committed to helping moms succeed with breastfeeding confirmed Sue. It s a great place to work because of my coworkers and I can assure you the miracle of new life never gets old for us Her vast duties also include a Wednesday afternoon Mom Baby Connections class that offers support and assistance to moms who may be struggling with breastfeeding. I love the continuation of that guidance and I enjoy having the moms come back to see me and show me their beautiful babies. The entire team is expertly trained to support its new moms through the childbirth experience. Beyond that physicians and nurses at St. Joseph s offer personal comforts and encourage skin-to-skin contact togetherness and bonding helping to create a closer relationship between parents and their new babies. At a time when new parents can be a little overwhelmed with the enormous task of caring for a newborn a little kindness from the extended family at St. Joseph s Women & Infants Center is just what the doctor ordered. HLM Find more information about St. Joseph s Women & Infants Center located at 1800 N. California Street Stockton at is honored to welcome more than 2 000 new babies each year. Expectant moms and dads are invited to take advantage of the hospital s free maternity tours childbirth and breast feeding classes and newborn care programs. But the clinical excellence is just the foundation for a first-class childbirth experience in a place where physicians nurses and other staff care for new moms and families with compassion and humankindness. We work very hard to create the most enjoyable experience possible for new families shared Debbie Riisager director of maternal child services and a 25-year veteran of St. Joseph s Medical Center. Our Women & Infants Center is unique in many ways but one thing our new families seem to appreciate is our 24-hour rooming in. This means that since all new moms have private rooms baby mom and even dad are able to be together post-partum and be separated only for an occasional test or procedure. As long as everyone is healthy everyone stays together. The private rooms may be a hit with new moms but St. Joseph s also offers other important benefits to new families. A 22-bed NICU the availability of epidurals to make laboring moms more comfortable a highly compassionate staff made-to-order meals and even an afternoon milk and freshly-baked cookie break make a stay at the Women & Infants Center a comforting experience at a time when new parents are anxious and apprehensive. We have an amazing staff and that includes our NICU team Debbie added. We have the utmost respect for each other and our patients. Everyone who visits us is treated like family. Another respected member of the medical center s Obstetrics Gynecology team is Dr. Jennifer Phung. I do my best to be there for my patients and give them the support and comfort they need Dr. Phung shared. I spend a little extra time with all of my patients so that I get to know them better and really understand what their needs or situation may be. The goal is healthy babies Amy Pijl St. Joseph s market development representative revealed that Dr. Phung s commitment to her patients makes her one of the most sought-after OB GYNs in town. In fact Dr. Phung was recently presented with a Patients Choice Award and Compassionate Doctor Recognition Award from Dr. Phung is well-respected by her peers hospital staff and patients alike. She is the doctor who will always put herself last if it means she can help a patient. She is the type of physician who people feel personally connected to because she truly cares. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 55 HERLIFE TRENDSETTER STELLA BOUTIQUE 224 N. Ham Ln Suite 102 Lodi (209) 369-7231 photography by julie nicole hair and makeup by melanie clardy of perfect balance day spa model sherri zazzarino car provided by tracey and mark maier shot on location at viaggio winery 56 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 57 58 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 60 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 61 HERLIFE IN HER CLOSET In Her Closet Mary Ann Bird Closet designed by Mindy Wooley of California Closets pho tos by dee yates st ud ios 62 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM - WHAT DO YOU DO DURING THE DAY I m a lawyer and practice criminal defense here in Stockton. WHAT WAS YOUR APPROACH IN DESIGNING AND ORGANIZING YOUR CLOSET I left my designer Mindy Wooley of California Closets with those details who did a phenomenal job. My only request was ample shoe space WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE FEATURE IN YOUR CLOSET My favorite feature has to be my shoe section it s perfect and keeps everything organized. WHAT ARE YOU WEARING Today I went with Bebe pants and top. WHICH PIECE ARE YOU LOVING RIGHT NOW My favorite piece at the moment is my blue hobo purse by Donna Erhlinger. WHAT IS ONE THING EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE WHEN DESIGNING HER CLOSET My ultimate asset has been a patient husband (or significant other) NAME SOME ESSENTIAL ITEMS THAT YOU ALWAYS CARRY WITH YOU OUT AND ABOUT. I always make sure I have lipstick and blotting tissues and of course a band-aid or two. WHAT S THE ONE ITEM EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE TO COMPLETE HER OUTFIT Some people would name an accessory or shoe style but I think a subtle perfume is the perfect thing to complete a look. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 63 HERLIFE HOME the accidental garden by m a ri l y n i sa m i n ge r S everal years ago an errant tomato plant popped up in my pachysandra. I assume a bird dropped the seed it thrived and we enjoyed its fruit until frost. In the same way there are many plants in our landscapes that can through tried and true techniques expand and fill your garden and provide plants to share. or winter evergreens are best multiplied in fall or spring. Select a pliable shoot and bend it to the ground so that it touches 9 to 12 inches from its tip. Strip the leaves and make a cut or wound in the underside of the shoot. Dig a hole underneath the wound push the branch into the hole forming a sharp angle at the wound. Some gardeners use a brick to hold the branch on the ground other peg it or tie it to a stake. Fill the hole with soil mix and keep it watered. In about a year roots will have formed at the wounded spot and the new plant can be cut free from the parent and transplanted. Softwood stem cuttings can be taken during the active growing season spring until late summer. Softwood cuttings come from relatively flexible new growth and will easily propagate annuals shrubs and trees including forsythia crape myrtle geranium weigela mock orange and coleus to name a few. Sever an eight-inch side shoot from the new season s growth trim off the bottom leaves and cut straight across just above a leaf to make a cutting about four inches long. Fill a pot with a light soil mix suited for starting seeds you may root more than one cutting in a pot. Since you may lose a few cuttings start with more than you need. Make a hole in the soil for each cutting then firm around it. Keep the pot moist and in semi-shade and you should have roots in three to four weeks. Seed collection or simply letting your plants go to seed and being surprised by what rooted over the winter can be effective and interesting. Hosta flower scapes will produce seed pods that if watched carefully through the ripening process may be collected and potted. Hellebore varieties (e.g. Lenten rose or Christmas rose) will colonize their planted area quickly. Watch the flowers to see the ovaries swell these will appear as four balloon-like chambers that will be filled with black seeds when ripe. Colonized hellebores typically are not true to the parent plant but will fill bare spots attractively. The hosta seedlings that pop up won t be true to the parent plant either (the only exact reproduction comes from tissue culture or division) but may still be an interesting and attractive plant and you can be proud of providing a green environment conducive to its growth. HLM Sources Divide and multiply is a mantra of the gardener who loves to maxi- mize the power of her plantings Hostas are one of the most useful landscape plants around and one of the easiest to multiply. Hostas are best divided in spring when the leaf shoots are just popping through the soil to minimize shock to the plant. Using a sharp spade dipped in a fungicide or a ten percent bleach water solution cut a wedge out of the plant this section can be further divided for potting or transplantation into the garden. Dust the cut surface with fungicide or wash it if using bleach to prevent transmission of soil-borne diseases or viruses. Alternatively the entire clump can be dug out of the ground and further divided. This method is useful if the hosta has grown too large for its location is crowded by other plants or if the conditions around it have changed enough (increased sunlight or decreased available water) that it would benefit from a change of scenery. Bulbs are among the easiest to divide. Most bulbs and corms should be dug up and divided every three to five years. Naturalized bulbs can be left for many years but when bulbs flourish multiply and become overcrowded reduced blooming may occur. Each of the five bulb types increases in a different way so division techniques are slightly different. True bulbs and corms produce bulblets and cormels which can be separated from the parent plant by hand after the plant is lifted. Tubers include caladiums and tuberous begonias and don t create their own divisions. Large tubers can be cut into pieces with one or more growing points (eyes) and replanted. Rhizomes increase from growing points along their sides and may branch many times as they grow. With a sharp knife trim a rhizome into sections that include roots and one or two strong leaf fans. Tuberous roots such as the myriad varieties of daylilies form multiple growth points and fans that can be cut apart while the plant is growing. Ground layering is a simple way to grow a new plant from shrubs like hydrangea forsythia and spiraea. Deciduous plants should be layered in fall 64 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 65 HERLIFE REAL ESTATE first-time homeowners by l a u ra l e i va advice for H 66 olding the keys to your first home is one of life s thrilling milestones but it comes with responsibility and attention to detail. Along with owning a first home there are plenty of new firsts to consider many of which catch new homeowners off guard once the excitement wears off and reality sets in. While condo seeing the water or gas bill for a starter home can create a sense of sticker shock. Simply running a home can add hundreds of dollars to the mortgage each month in addition to repair or maintenance costs. After paying the move-in costs and handing over a large chunk of money for the down payment many first-time homeowners want to transform a home immediately with new furniture and appliances. It s important to stay on budget especially for the first few months after your home purchase. Spend time becoming accustomed to the new monthly bills the cost of home ownership is something you can t anticipate until you do it and there s no rush to remodel or refurnish right away. After adjusting to life as a homeowner start saving for projects you want to work on such as installing new cabinets in the kitchen or purchasing a formal dining set. Repairs are a part of life when you own a home so it s important to owning a home entails trial and error there are some essential tips every first-time homeowner should know which keep small issues from turning into costly disasters Moving from a rental lifestyle into that of a homeowner takes some adjustment especially when it comes to monthly costs of ownership. Owning a home is not just about paying the monthly mortgage it s about incorporating homeowner s insurance utility bills and property taxes into the budget. For those who are accustomed to paying utility bills on an apartment or HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM begin setting money aside for any repairs that may be needed. When buying a home as-is there always needs to be money reserved to make needed fixes as the previous owner won t make them before moving out. After completing any initial repairs you can place your budget money into a repair fund each month. Try to save 50 to 100 a Repairs are a part of life when you own a home so it s important to begin setting money aside for any repairs that may be needed. Try to save 50 to 100 a month or more depending on your financial plan. Having a savings account dedicated entirely for home repairs will prevent you from using a credit card during unexpected situations. month or more depending on your financial plan. Having a savings account dedicated entirely for home repairs will prevent you from using a credit card during unexpected situations. For many first-time homeowners being a do-it-yourselfer is just not an option If you ve moved from an apartment any issues were taken care of through the manager or property owner but owning a home means either doing it yourself or paying money to get it done. While some homeowners prefer to have a professional come in to make repairs or improvements there are plenty of things you can and will end up learning on your own. Learning how to do basic repairs through the help of DIY books or videos can saving hundreds or thousands of dollars and many home improvement stores hold weekly classes on how to do interior or contin ued on p age 6 8 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 67 exterior improvements. Fixing leaky plumbing changing out bathroom tile or installing new landscaping are all things you can learn to do on your own to save time and money. Use your repair savings for things you may not have the experience to fix alone such as electrical wiring. One thing will become quickly apparent when you move into your first home--there is always something to be done Unless you want to live in a perpetual state of home improvements and repairs prioritizing and planning what you want to do is recommended to save your sanity and money. Once you move in create a list of things that need to be done and work on them while creating a want list to work on slowly as you have the time and money. Becoming a first-time homeowner also means understanding everything you need to know about your property. Upon moving in locate the main water shutoff valve. In the event of a broken pipe hundreds of gallons of water can drain into the home within a short time so you need to know where the shutoff is to prevent further damage to the home and all of your belongings. Knowing where the gas line and electrical breakers are located is important in case of an emergency. Want to do landscaping or digging around the yard Always call the national dig-safely hotline (dial 811) to find information about your utilities and where the underground lines are buried to prevent damage and property fines. Owning a home is an exciting time for those making a leap from renting but it can be overwhelming if you aren t prepared. As soon as you move in work at adjusting to life as a homeowner and take it slow HLM Sources 68 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE GREEN LIVING collecting and using rain water other collection or diversion systems are green solutions to help quench the thirst of your precious plants. A raindrop is one of the cleanest sources of water available. Rainwater can absorb gases such as carbon dioxide oxygen nitrogen dioxide and sulfur dioxide from the atmosphere and can capture soot and other microscopic particulates in its journey. However rainwater is almost 100% pure before it reaches the ground. Rainwater harvesting and storage are ancient techniques to which we may apply today s technology. Archaeologists discovered sophisticated rainwater collection systems on the island of Crete while reconstructing the Palace of Knossos (circa 1700 BCE) ancient underground cisterns are found on the islands of Malta Capri and Sicily and in historical sites in Spain and Turkey. Ancient Roman water catchment systems served a dual purpose the water was used domestically and the evaporation of water in the pools had an air-conditioning effect on the microclimate. Today a rainwater collection system is used for several purposes water in the catchment could be intended as an alternate water source to reduce municipal water use to help reduce flooding and runoff and to use as another water source during dry periods. A rainwater harvesting system typically consists of three components the collection system the conveyance system and the storage system. A collection system can be as simple as a barrel attached to a down70 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM A by m a ri l y n i sa m i n ge r fter watching my landscaping fry and shrivel during the drought cycles of the last decade I affirmed to never again complain about a rainy day. I also committed to finding creative ways to conserve and save the raindrops that did fall. The rain barrel and spout or as complex as a large catchment area or reservoir from which the water is gravitated or pumped to its destination. Size and complexity will depend on whether it s in a rural or urban setting and the surfaces from which the water will be collected. One inch of rainfall on a 500-square-foot roof would fill the typical 55- to 80-gallon rain barrel three times over more barrels can be attached in a series that can easily take the excess. New urban building design includes sophisticated catchment systems for high-rise buildings whether residential or commercial. The Social Security Southeastern Program Service Center in Birmingham Alabama completed in 2008 is a Leadership in Energy and Environmental Design (LEED) Silver certified office complex with environmentally friendly design elements that are becoming the green standard in architecture. The building has a green roof spreading luscious vegetation across 85 000 square feet. A canopy covering the five-story parking garage serves as water collection system recycling rainwater for landscape irrigation on the roof and grounds. Water harvested through properly designed systems when appropriately treated can be used for hand-washing such as at the Chesapeake Bay Foundation s Philip Merrill Environmental Center in Annapolis Maryland a LEED Platinum certified project and for flushing toilets. Catalogs for gardeners offer rain barrel systems in various shapes and sizes ranging from an economical plain polyethylene container to very stylish shapely urns that could be considered garden art. A purchased barrel typically contains a spigot on the bottom and a screen to keep mosquitoes and leaves out is weather-resistant and linkable to additional barrels. The collected water isn t limited to just gardening uses either it can be used to wash the car and the dog or to water the landscape. A primary caution though is that this water is not potable directly out of the barrel. If you choose to use harvested rainwater for potable purposes such as household uses of drinking food preparation bathing and dish- or hand-washing it must have appropriate treatment to filter chemical and biological contaminants debris minerals or metals such as lead copper iron manganese and arsenic. The American National Standards Institute coordinates the development of various standards for products used to construct rainwater harvesting systems for potable water ANSI s website has detailed information about these systems and their accreditation. The handy woman who has a working acquaintanceship with a few tools and the hardware store can build a simple rain barrel herself. Components required are a barrel with a lid (preferably a material that won t rot) a drill with a circle-cutting bit a brass faucet a brass adapter a hose and Teflon tape or waterproof caulk. Drill a hole toward the bottom of the barrel attach the faucet and adapter and seal with the tape or caulk drill a hole at the top for the overflow hose and attach it. On the lid cut a hole through which you ll attach the downspout. Next cut the downspout and redirect it into the barrel. Add a screen to keep out insects and leaves and you re ready for the next rainfall. Elevate the barrel on stacked stone or cinder blocks before it fills up. And remember--measure twice cut once to eliminate costly repairs or repurchasing of materials. Now--enjoy the next rainstorm HLM Sources and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 71 HERLIFE WORKING WOMEN does it still exist the glass ceiling by m a ri l y n i sa m i n ge r N o the glass ceiling no longer exists declares Tina Savas entrepreneur and business owner. What we have in its stead is gender asbestos which is embedded in the very walls of our institutions and is very difficult to dispel. agement. Yet today discussion centers more on leadership and the styles women bring into the C-suites rather than the dismal statistics with many analysts affirming that women actually make better leaders and are more suited to the leadership styles needed in today s organizations. In addition the career ladder is no longer linear. Patricia Sellers Fortune Magazine editor-at-large has said The most successful people I know don t think of their career as a ladder but rather a jungle gym. A woman s life choices may inevitably push her along a lateral course. Sellers also opines that women tend to view power more horizontally than men tend to--less about rank and status and size. [It s m]ore about influence and spreading it broadly. Jack Zenger and Joseph Folkman authors of The Inspiring Leader writing in the Harvard Business Review Blog Network contend that based on 30 years of research on leadership effectiveness and a 2011 survey of more than 7 000 leaders from successful and progressive organizations in today s business world women may possess superior leadership capabilities compared to men. In the survey women at every level were rated by peers bosses and associates as better overall leaders than their male counterparts--and the higher the level the wider the gap grows...Two of the traits where women outscored men to the highest degree taking initiative and driving for results have long been thought of as particularly male strengths. Kellie McElhaney and Sanaz Mobasseri of the Haas School of Business at the University of California Berkley conclude in their report Women Create a Sustainable Future ...companies that explicitly place value on gender diversity perform better in general and perform better than their peers on the multiple dimensions of corporate sustainability. These comments echo Savas earlier statement and segue to her additional concern that the many stereotypes of gender asbestos and its results are ringing a death knell for businesses. A recent Catalyst study revealed that women reaching the higher levels of management are dying Savas coauthor of Women of True Grit newspaper publisher and busi- ness consultant goes further. Gender asbestos is a societal norm. For the last 60-plus years we as women have labored to establish equality in the workplace. Yet the fact that we are not equal to men has been pushed aside. Women work differently from men. Studies note differing behaviors men tend to function as solitary competitive personalities women value teamwork and validation. The old corporate values of exclusion logic and domination are giving way to inclusion intuition and coexistence. As women we are faced with shifting the old value system we helped to create by asserting equality. We must now demonstrate that we are different and that we work and lead in different ways. Agree or disagree Check the statistics. A review of Fortune 500 CEOs in 2013 reveals 22 women at the top of public corporations including well-known names like Hewlett Packard IBM Pepsico Dupont Campbell Soup and groundbreaker Xerox led by the first African-American CEO in the history of the Fortune 500 Ursula M. Burns. At the rate women are advancing Savas predicts that gender parity in the U.S. will be achieved in 2075. A 2011 Grant Thornton International Business Report notes that women now hold 20 percent of senior management positions globally in Thailand China Taiwan and Vietnam respectively the numbers are 30 19 18 and 16 percent. In 2011 there were 98 female CEOs among the 3 049 publicly traded companies in the U.S. The phrase glass ceiling has been used since the 1980s to describe an unacknowledged and ultimately illegal barrier preventing women and persons of color from reaching the higher echelons of business man72 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM of asbestos poisoning. They leave they don t perform and the business suffers. What s more telling senior management in these companies was either unaware of this fact or indifferent to it. Savas asserts This will change only if the CEO has the foresight and determination to regard and frame diversity as a business issue and not a women s issue. Hiring training promotion and retention of women and minorities create what I term the diversity dividend. The talent within a company s work force should be its first priority and its market approach its second. Ultimately I m concerned that due to lack of attention to these principles a huge dearth of talent is about to hit many CEOs between the eyes. The companies that focus in these two areas L Oreal is a prime example become gender and diversity bilingual and moreover communicate this focus well will be the ones to succeed in today s business environment. Glass ceiling or gender asbestos However one describes it the diversity dividend is good for business and smart leaders are paying attention to it. Editor s Note On January 15 2014 Mary Barra punched a hole in the glass ceiling when she assumed the wheel of Fortune 500 company General Motors. Barra started at GM when she was 18 as an electrical engineering co-op student. HLM Sources Sandberg Cheryl Lean In Women Work and the Will to Lead. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 73 HERLIFE MOTHER S PERSPECTIVE sending your child to camp to do before sending your kids out on their own. Preparation Getting prepared doesn t just mean labeling your child s underwear and buying buckets of sunscreen. It also means getting your child mentally prepared for the days without you. Even though they may be begging you to go to camp a good first step may be starting with day camps before plunging into sleepover camp. Talk to your child and explain that homesickness is normal especially during family routine times like meals and bedtime. Let them know the counselors are trained to help when they feel this way and to share these feelings if they arise. Give your child a diary to write down their feelings helping to personalize their bunk space when they arrive may be all they need to feel that it s their home away from home. If your child is going to sleep-away camp nearby a quick road trip to tour the camp would be a good way to settle some nerves. Check with 74 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM C by h a l l i e saw ye r the camp to see if they have a checklist of things your child will need while there and help them pack so nothing is left behind. Researching the Right Camp A great place to start is through referrals. Checking with friends and neighbors will give you first-hand accounts whether good or bad which may be worth their weight in gold. There s no need to make your child a pioneer when so many have gone before them. Another handy resource is the American Camp Association. You can find almost 2 400 camps that are accredited camps through their website. ACA accreditation means that a camp underwent a thorough review of its operations (up to 300 standards) from emergency management to staff qualifications and training. Camps are great ways to explore your child s interests outside of their normal activities. Do they love nature and exploring Are they a science or math whiz Have they always wanted to learn to ride a horse There are many specialized camps as well centered around sports music theater or culture that offer kids the chance to learn new skills and try new adventures in a safe and controlled environment. Do s and Don ts Do have your child look over the camp information and have them involved in the decision. It will get them excited for their upcoming adventure and give them ownership of the experience. Don t tell them you ll come get them if things get too hard or they miss you too much. This will undermine their confidence to try new things as well as their resolve to stick it out when things get tough. Do get in touch with your camp if your child has food allergies and put together a Food Allergy Action Plan. Find out what they do to keep cross-contact from happening and your child safe. Don t overstep your boundaries when it comes to communication with your child. Camp counselors are trained to handle any issues that may arise and it will show your child you trust them. Do take advantage of the alone time to reconnect with your spouse. When s the last time you went on a date Don t waste this perfect opportunity Don t let your own fears and anxieties keep your child from experiencing camp for themselves. Camp is an opportunity for your child to amp season is just around the corner and soon sleeping in bunk beds will be all the rage. Whether it s day camp or a week away from home there are some things to do and not learn independence confidence and self-assurance. Camp Costs Summer camp costs can range from as little as 150 to more than 1 000 a week depending on what they have to offer. The variation in costs often has to do with the camper-to-counselor ratio as well as the amenities provided. Overnight camps will be more expensive because of the need for 24-hour staff and sleeping facilities. Some camps offer financial assistance early bird discounts or reduced rates if siblings also attend Groupons are even out there to help defer some of the cost. Side Benefits Going to camp is actually good for your child s health. Tina Payne Bryson a PhD and pediatric and adolescent psychotherapist revealed in a recent article that going to camp actually helps develop a child s brain. An experience such as going to camp activates a specific part of the brain called the middle prefrontal cortex which is the part of the brain that regulates our body and emotions gives us insight and helps us feel empathy adapt to new situations and overcome fear. Having recurring experiences exercises that part of the brain the more they happen the stronger it gets especially when those experiences are emotional challenging and outside the norm. If that doesn t sound like camp then I don t know what does. HLM Sources HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 75 HERLIFE FINANCE O the finances of retirement until a later date and getting an increased benefit for life. If you take early benefits the amount will be reduced for life. Additionally if you turn on the Social Security income stream early and you want or need to work there is an income cap that limits how much can be earned each calendar year until your full retirement age. If your earnings exceed this cap your Social Security benefits will be reduced for that year. Also if you are married or if you were in a marriage for ten years or more you may want to review the spousal benefits that you are eligible to receive before turning on the Social Security income stream. Another source of income in retirement is savings or investments. These dollars can be set up to provide income to help offset a deficit in meeting your basic income needs. Keep in mind with interest rates low it takes quite a bit of assets to produce income and avoid invading the principal. For example a nest egg of 250 000 that produces 3% yield will provide 625.00 per month. The final step is determining when and how to take distributions from retirement accounts. Obviously if the combination of a pension and or purchased income stream Social Security and income from investments does not cover the basics you will need to start taking distributions from your retirement accounts immediately to cover those costs. Also keep in mind once you are over 70 the government is going to help you determine how much and when to take distributions. After age 70 you fall into required mandatory distributions. How much you are required to take each year from a traditional IRA account is determined by your age and the value of your retirement account the previous December 31st. That is the required minimum distribution. After age 59 you are allowed to take as much as you want to from IRAs and most retirement plans. Distributions from traditional IRA s and retirement plans may be taxed in the year of the distribution. While this article discusses the basics of funding your needs in retirement there will be variables that are specific to you that should be addressed. I recommend that you sit down with a Certified Financial PlannerTM professional to discuss these specifics and create a plan that will give you the time to address any deficits before it is too late as well as the peace of mind that you have a plan that sets you up for a rewarding retirement. Donna J. Kane First Vice President UBS Financial Services 2800 W. March Lane Suite 110 Stockton CA 95219 ne of the wonderful benefits of aging is the opportunity to retire and start living life entirely on your own terms. Well it is a benefit if you are in a position of both health and finances to do so. Of those two criteria I can help with advice as it relates to the finances of retirement. Most people dream of the day when they can travel spend time with grandchildren volunteer for a charity or service club or maybe just sit in the yard and enjoy a good book. Whatever your vision of retirement happens to be planning and understanding how you will finance it is necessary. It also will give you peace of mind once you know what it will take financially and where the finances will come from to pay for it. While everyone has different circumstances related to retirement there are some features that apply to just about everyone. Retirement funding should be broken down into basic needs wants and then dreams. When I meet with my clients regarding retirement the first order of business is determining how they plan on funding their basic needs. It is often surprising to them how much they will need to cover these needs. Due to that in this article I ll discuss identifying your basic needs and determining how to approach financing them. The first step (and maybe the most important) is to determine your basic needs. By that I m referring to mortgage rent property insurance medical insurance long term care insurance food gas utilities homeowners insurance income tax prescriptions or anything else that you need to have for your day-to-day survival. Once you have determined this amount the next step is to determine how you will finance it. Some people have a pension that is provided by a current or former employer. If so it is important to get the details as to how much it will pay annually when you retire. Also check to see if it continues to pay spousal benefits (and how much) if you predecease your spouse. If you do not have a pension or if your pension does not cover the costs of your basic needs then you may want to consider using part of your savings retirement accounts to purchase a product that will provide an income stream that will last for your lifetime. The next thing to review is Social Security. Most people use their Social Security benefits to help cover their basic needs while some will use it to fund other things in retirement. If you are eligible to receive Social Security there are several strategies that you will want to consider before turning on that income stream. These strategies include taking your benefits early (age 62 full retirement age) at full retirement age or filing and suspending Certified Financial Planner Board of Standards Inc. owns the certification marks CFP Certified Financial PlannerTM and federally registered CFP (with flame design) in the U.S. which it awards to individuals who successfully complete CFP Board s initial and ongoing certification requirements. Neither UBS Financial Services Inc. nor any of its employees provide tax or legal advice. You should consult with your personal tax or legal advisor regarding your personal circumstances. As a firm providing wealth management services to clients we offer both investment advisory and brokerage services. These services are separate and distinct differ in material ways and are governed by different laws and separate contracts. For more information on the distinctions between our brokerage and investment advisory services please speak with your Financial Advisor or visit our website at workingwithus. UBS Financial Services Inc. is a subsidiary of UBS AG. Member FINRA SIPC. 76 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE BOOK CLUB night circus by erin morgenstern review by k at hleen k r ueger T he finest of pleasures are always the unexpected ones. This quote from Erin Morgenstern s debut novel The Night Circus epitomizes the book as a whole. Although you may find the familiar elements of magic mystery and romance within its pages none of these will present Visually everything about the circus is black and white. Not just the tents but the costumes of each performer the intricately detailed clock that is perfectly positioned to welcome visitors as they enter the gate even the carousel. The realities of the circus however are never clearly distinguishable they are not so black and white. They are enveloped in a shadowy mist leaving you uncertain as to what is real what is illusion and what fits into a category entirely unto itself. As the circus travels from one unsuspecting location to another the fascination of circus-goers grows--they eventually develop into a loosely connected fan base known as r veurs. They learn to recognize one another by a subtle distinction in their dress they dress in solid black or white with one bright red accessory a scarf a hat or a flower to set them apart. When they depart they shake hands and embrace like old friends even if they have only just met and as they go their separate ways they feel less alone than they had before is the author s description. The story begins not with the circus but years before it has even entered the imagination of its creator. It begins by introducing us to the two characters with a shared destiny a little girl named Celia and an orphan boy named Marco. Celia is being trained by her father. Marco is being trained by his benefactor Alexander. Their skills are given no particular label but they involve forms of manipulation and illusion on a grand scale. Each is totally unaware themselves in predictable or familiar forms. Each chapter is a puzzle piece turned over raising more questions as to what the completed picture will look like. The title however is quite clear as to the story s setting it is a circus that is open only at night. Without advance notice the circus arrives. A previously empty field becomes populated with tents of various shapes and sizes all made of black-and-white-striped canvas. The grounds are enclosed within a fence with a large locked entry gate. A notice upon the gate informs the curious that the circus Opens at Nightfall Closes at Dawn. The name of the circus is written in scripted neon lights over the gate Le Cirque des R ves-- The Circus of Dreams. Everything about this circus is exceptional from the contortionist whose body seems as moldable as putty to tiny chocolate mice that melt in your mouth to the mazes of magical beauty that keep you enthralled from the entrance of the tent until you exit. The scent of popcorn spiced cider and hot chocolate swirl through the air creating a sweet-salty scent that you can almost taste. 78 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM of the other s existence or the true nature of the competition for which they are being so carefully groomed until the setting for the competition the circus is ready for their entrance. This is not a competition of one-on-one in a ring with spectators cheering on their favorite challenger. Only the opponents are aware of the game being played--they and the two chess players who have set them on the board as opposing pawns. The rules are minimal but must be followed. The final goal and winning move is left undefined a detail left to be disclosed at the proper time. A competition that begins as an attempt to out-do the other with their creative wonders transforms into a romance between the two challengers. As they gradually join forces the delicate balance of enchantment that holds the entire circus together begins to crumble. Celia and Marco find themselves and everyone connected with The Circus of Dreams in peril. The author is a master of description able to paint intricate scenes of perfection without overwhelming you with the details. She carefully uncovers clues to the complexities that hold the entire mystery of the circus together never telling too much and always adding new elements of uncertainty as she provides a bit of clarity to another. Fans of the book are begging for the movie. Although Summit Films bought the rights in 2011 The Night Circus has not yet hit the big screen. If and when that film opening occurs I would anticipate an audience of r veurs all dressed in black and white accented with a bright splash of red. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 79 HERLIFE CENTER OF ATTENTION NOW OPEN Planet Beach Contempo Spa located next to DeVons Jewelers offers fully automated push-button spa and UV services including massages facials hydration treatments teeth whitening guided meditation oxygen therapy weight management treatments UV therapy and Mystic spray tans. Nspire Nutrition a health and wellness club offering nutritional meal replacements is located on the south side of Lincoln Center next to Cold Stone Creamery. Code 3 Wear a public safety outfitter with full service police fire EMS and medial uniform sales and maintenance programs just opened next to Market Tavern. COMING SOON May 2014 POMP Salon an ultra-modern high-end hair salon that will provide superior service and a unique and different feel to anything you have ever experienced will open next door to Flair Boutique. June 2014 Lincoln Cellar wine bar opening between Zuesters and Sassy Pants will offer a fabulous selection of local and imported wines and beer as well as delicious tapas cheese and meat plates. The cozy fireplace and large beautiful bar will create an environment that is welcoming and relaxed. The private room will be perfect for local meetings tastings large groups and special occasions. Expansion at Flair Boutique Exciting expansion plans are under way at Flair Boutique bringing a little more of what you love...inside a more welcoming relaxed and comfortable shopping environment. The old Sassy Pants location next door opened up the opportunity for that much needed sparkling storefront you ll soon see at Flair Boutique. End of May 2014 Tio Pepe s a community staple for over 30 years which has built a reputation for high quality traditional Mexican food and service will open just next door to Best Wishes. For more information on retailers restaurants and events at Lincoln Center please visit the shopping center at Pacific Avenue and Benjamin Holt in Stockton or online at 80 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 81 HERLIFE SHE SAID YES Allison & Ross w ri tte n by m a ri l y n i sa m i n ge r p ho to gra p hy by b ri g g s p h o to gra p hy and my continuing to decline we went on our first date. Once we finally had that first date the rest was history Ross prepared thoughtfully for his proposal to Allison on June 15 2013. She reveals We decided to take a weekend trip to Tahoe and we booked a reservation with Lake Tahoe Balloons to experience our first hot air balloon ride together. Before we got in the basket Ross asked one of the crew members to snap a few pictures of us in front of the balloon. After a few pictures Ross turned to me and gave me a short and very heartfelt speech. He then dropped to one knee and asked me to marry him It was such an amazing experience and the best surprise ever more than I had ever dreamed of. We were lucky enough to have 82 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM A llison McCarthy and Ross Gutierrez are proof that persistence pays off Allison and Ross worked for the same company but in different offices. She shares We were friends first but after a couple months of Ross persistently asking me out had it all captured on camera and we relive that experience each time we look through those pictures. Allison and Ross feel their relationship is unique because they are best friends as well as partners and do almost everything together. They agree We both have adventurous personalities and enjoy not only trying new things like different cuisines and new activities but we love taking spur-of-the-moment weekend getaways because it allows us to experience new and exciting adventures together. Allison thought their engagement weekend was spontaneous but Ross had it planned for weeks The couple has set their wedding date for October 18 2014 when they plan to relax and enjoy the day to not worry about the details...and to remember to eat Allison shares It is really important to me that there are a lot of personal touches throughout the ceremony and reception. There will be a lot of DIY projects and pictures of us that will share with friends and family our journey to that day. There is also one really unique and special detail of our big day that won t be revealed until then HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 83 84 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 85 HERLIFE TIE THE KNOT Megan Michael businesses that shared in the love bridal gown bianca s bridal couture bridesmaids gowns bianca s bridal couture hair styling mayra carrillo d c & associates photography lori makabe photography DJ elite entertainment caterer viaggio estate and winery Tied the Knot May 11 2013 did since both are in the field of emergency medical care but M 86 w rit t en by m ar ily n is am inger p hot o gra p hy by l o ri m a k a b e p h o to gra p hy egan and Michael Oliver s paths might have crossed before they actually when they did meet the sirens sounded and lights flashed Megan works in the Emergency Room at Dameron Hospital in Stockton California. She loves daughter Alyssa dearly and enjoys attending her sporting events and going to Giants games with their family. Michael is a paramedic with Manteca District Ambulance in Manteca California. He loves to cook and spend time with friends and family. He s a wonderful fa- venue viaggio estate and winery cake something sweet bakery invitations and stationer costco HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM ther to their daughter loves to help her practice with her sports and of course is a huge Giants fan Megan shares We met on a blind date set up by two friends who were dating each other. We were all meeting for dinner in celebration of his friend s graduation from paramedic school and hit it off immediately We talked every day after that and were married three years later Megan vividly remembers Michael s proposal. He proposed to me in the town of Murphys on September 12 2012. We went there frequently on dates for great food and amazing wine tastings We went for a walk down by a nearby creek where he proposed. I was so happy and excited I knew it was coming but I had no idea it was going to happen that day Of course I said YES and hugged and kissed him 50 times The blissful couple tied the knot May 11 2013 on a beautiful hot day at the Viaggio Estate and Winery in Acampo. Megan s Maid of Honor was Whitney Kwan and bridesmaids were Erika Chiara Sarah Jones Betty Martinez Alyssa Oliver Whitney Peek Sarah Shirkamp and Alison Simonich. Michael s Best Man was Brian Chiara serving as groomsmen were Josh Bodeson Brayden Bodeson Jackson Fraser Rich Gonzales Brett Jones Brad Schemper Keith Scott and Jason Simonich. The wedding day was beautiful and unseaHERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 87 sonably hot-- the ceremony was at 4 30 p.m. and the temperature was 92 degrees Megan reveals We chose to take the majority of our pictures before the ceremony and they were absolutely gorgeous. We had lots of time so we could really focus on getting good photos and it left more time to spend with friends and family later in the evening The night flew by but everyone had a great time dancing and laughing. We didn t want the night to end Megan and Michael had an amazing honeymoon at Sandals Whitehouse in Jamaica. Megan remembers The food and drinks were fantastic and being the awesome guy he is Michael even got the chef at one of the restaurants to cook us a special dinner off menu just for the two of us one night. We spent time on the beach went scuba diving almost every day and were generally pretty lazy just hanging out on our beachside patio having a glass of wine. HLM 88 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE SCENE AND BE SEEN Wedding Loft Launch Party T 90 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM he Wedding Loft creators and wedding experts Stacy Vasquez and Erin Doran celebrated the launch of Wedding Loft on March 20 at their beautiful space in Modesto. Over 250 colleagues clients and members enjoyed delicious food and drink music and networking. Guests were excited to learn more about this new business an upscale wedding and special event resource center. For more informa- tion about the Wedding Loft and their future events please visit or call (209) 451-2292. HLM p hot ogra p hy by sc o t wo o d m a n HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 91 HERLIFE EDUCATION making the most of time sweat. Summer meant not seeing all of my friends but it also meant shorts tennies t-shirts a time to sleep in play little league baseball stay up a little bit later... summer It also meant summer school. I actually looked forward to summer school... it was different from those regular days. They started later. I know they ended earlier.... before lunch. I got to wear shorts tennies and t-shirts. Some of the same friends... some new ones. The teachers always seemed happier... they did really fun things. Art. Fun Science experiments. Act out plays. Write cool stories. Build stuff. Play and learn. Different. Summer was not about killing time. Summer school became some of the best times ... at least for me. It was like everyone came alive. The walk to school seemed shorter. The teachers seemed more exciting... more excited. We kids were just better... to the teacher to each other. Killing time Hardly. Making the most of time. There are still some cool things going on during summer... and they are going on the San Joaquin County Office of Education. Take a look at the May edition of Outlook at publications to see what is happening at SJCOE this summer Sign up for a great summer making the most of time. Mick Founts Ed.D is Superintendent of Schools for San Joaquin County. I t was always one of those bitter sweet days... the last day of school at Charles Wright Elementary School before summer. That last week of school in June seemed unnaturally loaded with 150-degree days one after the other. My jeans would stick to my sweaty legs and my once clean collared shirt would end up being stained with dirt and Mick Founts Ed. D. Dr. Mick Founts was elected as San Joaquin County Superintendent of Schools in June 2010. As Superintendent of Schools Founts is charged with the ultimate responsibility for all activities of San Joaquin County Office of Education. Founts was awarded his Doctorate of Education from University of the Pacific in 1995. He obtained his Master of Arts degree in education administrative credential and pupil personnel services credential from California State University Stanislaus. Founts earned his Bachelor of Arts degree cum laude in English from Humboldt State University. During his more than 30 year career in education Founts developed the one. Court and Community School program which is one of the most innovative alternative education programs in the State. He served as the President of Juvenile Court Community and Alternative School Administrators of California and authored the Charter for Venture Academy Family of Schools. He is also on the Governing Board for Doctors Hospital of Manteca. 92 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE HOROSCOPE star journeys As we move from the darker time of the year into the bright sunshine of springtime most signs are going to find themselves thinking of hearth and home love and new beginnings. Getting out into nature on a daily basis is going to increase the energy level for all signs so make a point of getting out and really seeing the beauty that is beginning to push through winter s wool blanket. This is the perfect time to reconnect with your own inner child. HLM by m e l o dy b u ssey Scorpio OCT. 23-NOV. 21 That inner restlessness isn t going to get any better until you plan a short getaway weekend. How about a girls getaway vacation With retrograde on the horizon you may already be feeling the weight of the world sitting on your shoulders. In fact your self-image has taken a hit and this short trip with friends is just the ticket. Remember you are only as old as you allow yourself to feel. Taurus APR. 20-MAY 20 Saturn is in trine with Jupiter at the end of the month giving your sign an added oomph in the relationship sectors. This is a time when you will grow closer to your mate or find one who is worth keeping around. If this is your birth month you will enjoy the benefits of the Gemini spirit which is always a fun time. Give in to your inner child and enjoy the sheer exhilaration of the season. Sagittarius NOV. 22-DEC. 21 Mercury and Venus are partnering to bring some very good mojo to your life so make sure that you aren t self-sabotaging what is a very good relationship. If you feel compelled to say something to a co-worker you should. Gemini MAY 21-JUNE 20 You are in your element this month as the planets stack up in your favor giving you the energy to begin projects at the beginning of the month and then giving you the stamina and energy to see them completed toward the end of the month. Your powers of communication and persuasion are going to rock everyone s world. Capricorn DEC. 22-JAN. 19 Your chosen career will see you shining as brightly as the springtime sun. As a result everything will feel like it is coming up roses for you. Allow others to help you if they offer. Beware of battles of ego around May 15th. Cancer JUNE 21-JULY 23 This is the month for you to truly come into your own and learn many life skills that are going to serve you well. Learn the skills that will allow you to let things go keep your temper in check and to not take on everyone else s problems. If you ve connected with a significant other they will also be good for your career. Travel is in the stars for you. Aquarius JAN. 20-FEB. 18 Your daily routine has improved and you ve managed to create a schedule and budget that is working for you. Don t stop now. You will build on this energy and it will move you past any hardships. Leo JULY 24-AUG. 22 Your family always figures prominently in your life but will more so this month. Along with the blooming spring flowers will come relationships deepening with your family members. You may find yourself going into business with them or find that you ve inherited something to cherish. Pisces FEB. 19-MAR. 20 All of the inner reflection of last month has brought you to the conclusion that you need to put the laptop down and get out there to enjoy life. Jupiter will interact with Saturn giving you a chance to enjoy life again. Virgo AUG. 23-SEPT. 22 Finances figure prominently this month. As Benjamin Franklin said Neither a borrower nor a lender be. This is a good motto to live by until the end of the month. The second half of 2014 is shaping up to be an amazing time for you financially if you can just bide your time wisely now. Aries MAR. 21-APR. 19 This month is about harnessing the power and warmth of the returning sun s rays to mend and repair your close connections with people in your life. Around May 23rd or so you will feel very close to your loved ones. May 21st will be stellar for you as well because you will discover something that will increase your bottom line. 94 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Libra SEPT. 23-OCT. 22 Springtime is a time of year that will truly energize you filling you with love for your fellow man. Make sure that some of that love is spent on yourself as your health will suffer if you don t. Spring cleaning sorting through old things de-cluttering will be the things to kick start this time of year for you and bring you to an amazing state of mind. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 95 HERLIFE CALENDAR may LOCATION Tracy Downtown Plaza 6th Street and Central Avenue Tracy DETAILS Enjoy the City of Tracy s annual Girls Night Out Purchase of your 25 ticket includes a goodie bag wine tasting food sampling shopping at the girls only vendors and admittance to the after party The best Audrey Hepburn look-alike will win a prize so be sure to dress up Tickets will be available online at or call (209) 831-6858 for more information. 3 Lincoln DATE May 3 Center Semi-Annual Sidewalk Sale TIME 9 00am-5 00pm LOCATION Lincoln Center 374 Lincoln Center Stockton DETAILS Come enjoy Lincoln Center s Semi-Annual Sidewalk Sale with great deals from over 25 participating stores Indulge in amazing shopping and fabulous finds for you and the whole family For more information please visit Lincoln Center online at 16 Laurel DATE May 16 Pointe Memory Care Grand Opening Kentucky Derby West DATE May 3 TIME 12 30pm LOCATION Sargent Equestrian Center 15757 E. Sargent Road Lodi DETAILS Join in the spirit of the Kentucky Derby with Hospice of San Joaquin Butterfly Auxiliary Enjoy a silent and live auction drinks dinner sweets and local wines. Proceeds benefit the operation of Hospice House. For tickets please visit or call (209) 922-0380. TIME 2 00pm-6 00pm LOCATION O Connor Woods 3400 Wagner Heights Road Stockton DETAILS Laurel Pointe Memory Care will serve 20 residents in a residential setting and offer services to meet the needs of those with dementia and Alzheimer s. Along with this new memory care program O Connor Woods is also opening a new social engagement program A Day Away. Licensed as an Adult Day Care the program is designed for families who need a safe and engaging environment for their loved ones while they are at work or in need of personal time. For more information call (209) 956-3402. 5 Jesse Lynch Jazz 101 Live DATE May 5 TIME 7 00pm LOCATION Hutchins Street Square Performing Arts Theatre 125 S. Hutchins Street Lodi DETAILS Jesse Lynch Jazz 101 is a virtuosic multimedia tour of America s greatest art form. This jazz through the ages performance featuring the Jesse Lynch Trio will be presented at the Hutchins Street Square Performing Arts Theatre. Single tickets are 25 and may be purchased at Hutchins Street Square until concert time. Season tickets for the four-concert series are 80. For more information please call (209) 333-0360. 24 Paso Artsfest DATE May 24 TIME 10 00am-4 00pm LOCATION 1100 Spring Street Paso Robles DETAILS Come enjoy a celebration of the arts Featuring an Outdoor Fine Art Show and Sale a Wet Painting Sale and Auction hands-on interactive art experiences musical guests dance performances and more This event is free to the public For more information please visit 7 Valley Garden Fair 26 Memorial DATE May 26 TIME 10 00am Day Ceremony DATE May 7 TIME 9 00am-5 00pm LOCATION Personal residence of Roger and Laurie Schrum DETAILS Join in the annual Valley Garden Fair presented by the Children s Home of Stockton Auxiliary Enjoy the spring debut of fashion while dining on a delicious lunch and shopping at local boutiques all set in the beautiful gardens of this grand estate. Proceeds from this event will go toward educational and social events for the Children s Home of Stockton. For more information or to purchase tickets please call (209) 466-0853. LOCATION Ebbetts Pass Veteran s Memorial Murphys DETAILS Celebrate and honor our veterans with the unveiling of a new bronze statue at the Ebbetts Pass Veteran s Memorial. The statue is being donated by the Kautz family and is dedicated to John Kautz brother Fred as well as fellow service men and women both past and present. Please contact Debbie Rocco of the Ebbetts Pass Veteran s Memorial District at (209) 728-8180 with questions. All calendar event submissions must be received by May 1st for the June issue and adhere to our guidelines. E-mail beth for guidelines or to submit entries. HLM 9 An Evening at Tiffany s Girls Night Out DATE May 9 TIME 6 00pm-8 00pm 96 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 97 98 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Begin motherhood in good hands. Looking forward to being a new mom Motherhood is an amazing journey and the Women & Infants Center in St. Joseph s beautiful Patient Pavilion is just the place to start. New moms will enjoy the comfort of their own spacious private rooms and feel pampered with small perks--like garden views a hostess who takes bedside meal orders and freshly baked cookies delivered in the afternoon. At St. Joseph s we are dedicated to your comfort supplying advanced pain management including epidurals. You ll feel reassured knowing there are new C-section surgical suites and a state-of-the-art neonatal ICU. St. Joseph s Medical Center has been awarded prestigious international recognition as a Baby-Friendly birth facility The Baby-Friendly designation honors hospitals that offer an optimal level of care for breastfeeding mothers and their babies. The birth of your baby is a story you ll share time and time again. Choose the perfect setting-- St. Joseph s Medical Center--where we ve created a special place for motherhood to begin. St. Joseph s Women & Infants Center