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Description: July 2014 - Women Serving Their Communities. & Summer Time Fun, Food, Wine & Dating

HERLIFE MAGAZINE SOUTH FLORIDA JULY 2014 cover janice and amanda HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM ON THE HOT FUN IN THE SUMMER TIME wine tastings food love and dating staff & contacts Publisher and Editor-In-Chief Vice President of Business Development Senior Account Executive Account Executive Advertising Information Editor Art Director Associate Art Directors Advertising Art Director Intern Contributing Authors Karen Alleyne-Means karen Shawn P Means . shawn Pamela Parris pamela Tara Gray tara sflsales (562) 899-0433 ext. 101 Marilyn Isaminger Paige Fisher Sarah Abend Ashleigh Thomson Elana Bell Victor Cilie Lisa Taranto Butler Patty Cook Doug Frost Judy Goppert Dr. Phil Heller Marilyn Isaminger Kathleen Krueger Laura Leiva Linda R. 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We welcome your ideas articles and feedback. 4 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE CONTENTS features 12 08 18 34 38 06 08 10 12 16 18 20 Welcome From the Publisher Health Taking Care of Your Skin Beauty The Skinny on Cellulite Inspirations America s Firefighters Mind Matters Discipline Culinary From the Garden to the Table Spotlight Marsh Landing 22 26 28 30 32 34 Trendsetter Heat Wave Real Estate Updating Your Curb Appeal Spotlight American Fine Wine Working Women Business Ethics Spotlight Revolution Dating Home What to Consider When Buying a Pool 36 Book Club The Last Runaway by Tracy Chevalier Tie the Knot Jamie and Adam Wine Finding Your Inner Winemaker Recipes Creamy Pasta with Bacon and Peas and More Mother s Perspective The Dangers of Synthetic Drugs Scene and Be Seen Events Around Town Calendar July Events HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 5 38 40 42 44 46 50 HERLIFE WELCOME purpose What sets you apart may seem like a burden but it s not and most of the time it s what makes you great. EMMA STONE to transcend the boundaries we experience today as women and people. Maya is a woman who made a difference in her community and the world. The July issue is always one of my favorites. All of you my faithful readers and friends know that this is not only because I celebrate another year of birth another year of being free from cancer--but also because it s summer and I get to showcase a woman serving her community This issue is different this July we are showcasing two women who are firefighters and are doing just that. Janice Vassalotti and Amanda Vomero are strong women not only physically but they also have mental endurance to help rescue families in need and to keep their own families on track as well. In this issue we re also sharing with you summer food wines and even a dating expert That s an unbeatable trio for a good read My wish for you this summer is that you will kick back relax and make sure you keep making a difference in the community you serve. I feel compelled to pay homage to a great woman who passed away last month Maya Angelou. Ms. Angelou was a pioneer who had the ability to make words come to life. She was a unifier of people and had the strength to express herself visually through words like no other poet I have read. She made a mark on the world and her legacy will continue Karen Alleyne-Means p h o to by da n a fr a n ce inspirational women 6 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM If you or someone you know has a great story that you think should be told please email me at karen Like HERLIFE South Florida Magazine on Facebook to stay current on great discounts special events and more hot deals HOPE HEALTH & WELLNESS JO LI NI Z ALTERATION & TAILORING 561-392-8969 33 South East 7th St. Suite J Boca Raton FL 33432 Palm Beach Gardens 4290 Professional Center Dr. 561-721-9696 West Palm Beach 655 N. 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Fast forward 20 years and the scene alters a bit. Recently one of my partners-in-sun-bathing-crime noticed a small spot on her face that wouldn t go away. The first doctor she visited recommended applying a prescription cream to the area daily. After a few weeks the spot appeared to go away but eventually it came back and my friend got a second opinion. Immediately the second doctor diagnosed her with basal cell carcinoma and an outpatient procedure was performed to remove the cancer. But 8 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM taking care of the I can clearly remember those hot summer days as a teenager. Whether we were laying out at the city pool or in our own backyards my sunloving friends and I enjoyed working on our tans under a slathering of self-made sun enhancers including (and not limited to) baby oil aluminum foil tanning lotion and even an occasional slathering of butter. The eight months later a different basal cell appeared and yet another invasive surgery was scheduled to remove it. Skin cancer gets a lot of attention. National calendar awareness dates include Melanoma Monday and Don t Fry Day while July is designated UV Safety Month. With all the promotion and awareness campaigns you would think that Americans of all ethnicities would be more diligent about caring for their skin. And they are but skin cancer is still the most common form of cancer in the United States and between the years of 1992 and 2006 treatment of nonmelanoma skin cancers increased by nearly 77 percent. Experts continue to stress that education is crucial to combating skin cancer and preventing it in the first place. To have peace of mind we should aim to make sun safety habits part of our daily health care routine not to mention passing those on to our kids. Get shady. Use a tree umbrella dark side of a broad barn--whatever you find but no matter what stay out of the sun between the hours of 10 00 a.m. and 4 00 p.m. Don t burn. Sounds easy but it still happens. Keep track of your time in the rays and use sunscreen. Everyone regardless of skin color can burn stay protected Avoid tanning and UV tanning booths. Say goodbye to 1988 and tanning beds. No matter what the manager tells you indoor ultraviolet (UV) tanners are 74 percent more likely to develop melanoma than those who have never tanned indoors. Put some clothes on Think broad-brimmed hats dark or bright colors and UV-blocking sunglasses. Check labels for an Ultraviolet Protection Factor (UPF). The number on the label indicates what fraction of the sun s rays can penetrate the fabric. Keep newborns out of the sun. There s a reason they are called newborns. Keep their new skin safe. Sunscreen should be used on babies over the age of six months. Make a date with a derm. Get a professional skin exam every year. Many of us fall short on this but it is crucial to detecting cancerous skin. Product Points Use a broad spectrum (UVA UVB) sunscreen with an SPF of 15 or higher every day. For extended outdoor activity use a water-resistant broad spectrum sunscreen with an SPF of 30 or higher. Now my friend buys only sunscreen containing titanium dioxide octinoxate or zinc oxide instead of just looking for a high SPF. Apply two ounces (about a shot glass) of sunscreen to your entire body 30 minutes before going outside. Don t skimp. During a long day at the pool or beach one person could use around one quarter to one half of an eight-ounce bottle. Reapply every two hours and after swimming or sweating excessively. You Better Check Yourself According to the International Skin Cancer Organization a monthly self-examination should be done often enough to become a habit but not so much that it feels like a hassle. For most of us a ten-minute exam is ideal. Doing a full-body exam with your doctor first may be helpful to understand what existing spots freckles or moles are normal and what may need to be treated. During your self-exam look for any new or changing lesions. Spots that are raised or irritated can also be cause for concern. Anything suspicious should be checked out by your doctor. Before long your regular skin exams coupled with prevention and protection will become a helpful habit that could save your skin and your life. With each bright and beautiful morning a darker threat is lurking but it doesn t have to keep us locked indoors. These days my childhood friend is just as carefree as when we were spraying Sun-In on our locks at the pool. But when it comes to her skin she is diligent determined and armed with the tools that will help keep her healthy for years to come. HLM Sources and doctor lawrence weinstein Dear Dr. Weinstein What is the best way to treat my fibroids M.G. Boynton Beach Dear M. G. A fibroid is an almost-always benign muscular tumor of the uterus. Fibroids are extremely common more than 50 percent of all women who reach the age of 50 will have them. They can be as small as an apple seed to as large as a grapefruit. Most women who have them don t even know it. Symptoms if present typically include excessive bleeding a sense of fullness in the pelvic area frequent urination due to pressure on the bladder and pain during relations. Sometimes a fibroid can grow so big it may look as if the woman is pregnant. Determining which treatment is best for you depends on several factors. Are you having symptoms Do you want to get pregnant What are the size of the fibroids Many treatments are age dependent. For mild symptoms medications such as Motrin Advil or Aleve can soothe low levels of discomfort. Birth control pills can reduce excessive bleeding. Implanting a medicated IUD with progesterone can reduce bleeding as well. Sometimes in order to reduce symptoms or shrink the size of a tumor for surgery a medication called Lupron can be used. Lupron is not a benign medication. It can cause hot flashes depression insomnia and a decreased sex drive. Due to its significant effect on the body Lupron can only be used for about six months. For moderate to severe symptoms surgery may be your option. If you want to become pregnant surgically removing the fibroid itself is a good option. Unfortunately fibroids can grow back after this procedure. For patients close to menopause performing a hysterectomy will permanently fix the problem. The down side is the need for a major surgical procedure and all its inherent complications. Endometrial ablation is a less invasive option where the lining of the uterus is destroyed by various methods. As with the hysterectomy a woman cannot get pregnant after this procedure. A relatively new technique is call uterine artery embolization in which the artery that supplies blood to the fibroid is blocked and chokes off the blood supply to the fibroid. More time is needed to determine the long-term effects of this procedure. These are some of the most common treatment options for fibroids. I would suggest having a conversation with your gynecologist to determine which treatment is best for you. Lawrence Weinstein MD is a Board-certified cardiologist and Chairman of the Department of Cardiology at Bethesda Hospital. His office is located at 10301 Hagen Ranch Road Suite B-4 in Boynton Beach. Please phone (561) 200-3583 for additional information or an appointment HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 9 HERLIFE BEAUTY cellulite by l i sa ta ra n to b u tl e r the skinny on L 10 umpy bumpy and basically unappealing cellulite is regarded as one of the most annoying and frustrating skin issues that people face. Women make up the biggest portion of cellulite sufferers. Men rarely get cellulite and luckily for them their gender traits (and usually a convenient layer of hair) help hide cellulite as well and they don t like it either. But hopeful cellulite suffers can be assured new treatments and procedures are always on the horizon to improve this bumpy situation. A simple Google search can reveal thousands of treatments from cellulite creams and rollers to brushes and wraps. But most of the substantial results come from more intensive procedures. CellulazeTM Cellulaze is the first FDA-approved one-time procedure that targets cellulite from under the skin. The results from Cellulaze can last two years or longer. Patients are under local anesthesia and awake during the approximately 45-minute procedure. Once the area is numb a laser is inserted directly into the skin to melt the fat cells that cause the bulges in the skin. Next the fibers under the skin are cut and vaporized and the skin is ablated allowing new collagen to form. It can take about three months to see the full results. Costs range from 2 500 for a single area on both legs to upward of 5 000 for two areas on both legs. these little indentations on the skin. But many women (seemingly always on the butt end of aesthetic woes) get the orange peel skin and anxiety to go along with it. As a matter of fact more than 80 percent of women develop it and spend millions of dollars on creams and lotions in hopes of getting rid of it. What is Cellulite Anyway Cellulite is produced by connective cords that attach the skin to your muscles below. These fibrous cords connect your skin to deep tissue structures in your body and fat substances that are located between. When the fat cells grow they begin to press against your skin and pull in a downward motion resulting in dimpling. Cellulite is often mistaken for excess weight but it is actually not weight related. Skinny girls can get HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM SmoothShapes and ExilisTM A dual cellulite treatment combining both radio frequency and laser FDA-approved SmoothShapes and Exilis treatments are used together to help patients see a reduction in the bumps and bulges of cellulite. In this non-invasive procedure a dual-headed laser and suction combine with radiofrequency energy to reshape the targeted fat deposits. Typically a series of four to six treatments is recommended scheduled once a week over a period of one to two months. Depending on the size of the area costs range from 300 to 500 per treatment. Endermologie The first treatment approved by the FDA to allow the claim of temporary reduction of cellulite Endermologie which is available at many spas involves kneading the skin with a rolling suction device to boost circulation and stimulate collagen production. When the device is rolled over the top layer of fat the skin makes a fold. This folding action stretches the connective tissue and can result in the reduction of cellulite. Typically patients need at least six sessions which cost 50 to 150 each. Results last up to a few months so maintenance treatments are necessary. SmartLipoTM The FDA-approved SmartLipo procedure involves using a highpowered laser to reduce fat cells. The laser is introduced into the skin through a small tube. The tube is moved back and forth and the laser turns fat deposits into an oily substance that is absorbed and eventually eliminated through the body s lymphatic system. Results are sometimes noticed immediately and continued improvement can be seen over several months. Treatments can last from 45 minutes to two hours depending on the areas being treated. One session is usually all that is needed and results can last for a couple of years but costs range from 2 000 to 5 000. Continual Care When it comes to cellulite it s hard to iron out the facts. Most procedures are done to minimize its appearance and getting rid of cellulite completely is still a mystery. All of the treatments mentioned here can be helpful but they may need to be performed on a fairly continual basis to see long-term results and may require down time. Most medical experts agree that by exercising on a regular basis eliminating free radicals as much as possible from your body eating healthy not smoking and limiting your consumption of alcoholic beverages you will decrease your chances of developing cellulite. But if you re weighed down by the orange peel plague research some of the treatments mentioned. And if the slightly lumpy look doesn t bother you put your shorts on and find some satisfaction in knowing that men can lose their hair as quickly as women get a dimple. HLM Sources and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 11 HERLIFE INSPIRATIONS According to statistics it takes approximately three times to pass and score high enough to be promoted on the captain s exam but not for Amanda. She and her husband studied together and during that time they only saw each other every third day with their schedules. Not surprisingly she passed the test after one try. My brother husband and I all then studied for the captain s promo exam together. There were about 120 applicants and we placed first fifth and sixth. I placed fifth and was promoted a year ago as captain on an engine she expressed. I went to a very busy station with one engine and two rescues and a crew of eight seven guys and myself. I couldn t ask for a better crew. In October 2013 I took a position at headquarters as the recruitment and human resource development officer. Now Amanda works a day job. She is still a captain but for recruitment. She helps applicants through the process. She also spends time at schools working with high school students who would like a career in the fire service. She speaks to women s groups as well. I spoke to a group of minority middle-school-aged girls and they told me I inspired them. That kind of stuff fills my w rit t en by judy gop p er t p hot ogr ap hy by d a n a f ra n c e cup That s why I took the job at headquarters to hopefully inspire people she smiled. Amanda acts as liaison between fire rescue and the county human resources department but she s clear that when she wants to go back out on the big truck the slot is there for her. So how does this petite five-foot-three gal keep up with the big boys I do the same job as these big strong guys. I ve done the same things manda Vomero had the good luck of coming to Florida at age five when her father moved the family from Grand Rapids Michigan and opened a health club. She has Palm Beach County in 2000 and I got hired Amanda noted. They sent me to paramedic school and I received my certification. They reimbursed me for my tuition which was great After I had about six or seven years on the job I was promoted to lieutenant on a rescue truck. She had her son Frankie then he is now seven and her daughter Evelyn is four. Her husband Frank is also a captain with Palm Beach County Fire Rescue. The two met working as paramedics on the same truck when she had two years on the job. They studied for the promotional exam together and were promoted to lieutenant together. I ve pulled the same hoses lifted the same ladders and used the Hurst equipment--better known as the Jaws of Life said Amanda. I think it helps break down some of that stereotypical image women have in their mind and shows women can do the job just as well. It s all in your heart and your spirit and what you desire to do. If it s something you want to do you can do it no matter your race size or gender. When I was five I remember my Dad telling me I could be anything I want to be and I have never forgotten that Amanda continued. My family has always been supportive. My mom is my biggest cheerleader and my two older brothers HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 13 been here since graduating from Santaluces High School in 1996 in Lantana then attending Palm Beach Community College for her EMT and Fire certifications. She noted that she is always taking classes and continuing her education and that when you are in the fire service you are a career student and constantly training. My first application and first interview after my EMT and fire certification training were with A When you think of a fireman you think of brawn and courage. When you think of a firewoman you can think the same thing Amanda Vomero and Janice Vassalotti both serve Palm Beach County Fire Rescue Amanda as captain and Janice as firefighter paramedic. Their worlds completely revolve around this rigorous lifestyle. have always had my back. I always wanted to be a firefighter. After high school I drove the lunch wagon at Okeeheelee Golf Course and there was a league from Delray Beach Fire Rescue that would come out on Wednesdays. I told the guys I wanted to be a firefighter and they shot me down. They told me I could never do the job. For a brief moment in my life I allowed that to discourage me and thought now what am I going to do That was the only thing I wanted Amanda mused. That is when fate stepped in. When her grandfather passed away she went to Michigan to be with her grandmother. She started running every day and got up to three miles daily. She prayed about it and got the urge to take the entrance exam into the fire academy. When she did the physical agility test she passed on the first try Fire service is so dynamic no two calls are ever the same Amanda emphasized. The call type may be the same one may be chest pain one may be a brush fire or a car fire but you can guarantee when you get there it won t be the same as the one you ran before. You have to think on your feet. Amanda shares this advice for other women thirsting for a career as a firefighter. It will be difficult at times and you may feel discouraged and it may not happen 1 2 3 like it did for me but if the fire service is your chosen career you must give 110 percent work hard and not be afraid to try again. As women we re not as strong and big as guys are but you learn the technique that works for you and your body and frame so you don t hurt yourself or get your partner hurt. And never listen to anyone else s negativity it s their own insecurity. Janice Vassalotti Janice Vassalotti is another strong lady working in the fire house. Born in West Palm Beach she graduated from Wellington High School in 1999 and moved to Tallahassee to attend Florida State University. She graduated in 2003 from the College of Business with a degree in hospitality administration. I chose this degree because I love meeting new people and enjoy making them happy and I love to travel she noted. Her parents Bob and Debby Weisman have supported and guided her every step of her life and she appreciates their opinion whether it is one I want 14 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM they have two children Axl four and Brooklyn two. We work 24 hours on shift and 48 hours off shift. There are three shifts A B and C. I m on A and my husband is on C. He s at work finishing his 24-hour shift on C when I m starting on A. He s assigned to a station but I float around the county. So every morning that I need to be at shift we have to figure out what we call Baby Swap Janice discussed. If I m at the station he will be leaving from I can bring the kids to him. If I m somewhere else in the county then I beg one of my parents or my mother-in-law to come over at 6 00 a.m. so I can be at work on time. I don t know how we will do it when they start school Janice s days are fast-paced and active. She typically rides the rescue truck and responds to all of the medical calls and also fire calls. The best part of this job is the unknown. You never know what each new shift will bring you she remarked. You never know whose life you will impact or how they will impact yours. You get to meet so many people for a very short time and hear so many amazing stories. I absolutely love it. She and her husband are bringing up their children in a firefighter household and she reflected that the kids are accustomed to not having one of them home at night. We usually attempt to do something fun all together on our together days she asserted. It s hard and we miss out on a third of their life but we have Face Time and other ways to stay in touch all day. Plus we all love Disney World and visit as a family often to hear or not and they are usually right Her father has been a Palm Beach County employee for more than 30 years and because of his position she was fortunate to meet other county employees who were part of Fire Rescue. Growing up and hearing their stories was always very exciting to me. After graduating from FSU I had an amazing opportunity to be on the opening management team for the Seminole Hard Rock Hotel & Casino in Tampa. I spent two years at the property and after the grand opening I helped manage the hotel. I went home to West Palm Beach for a weekend visit and went to a fire chief s birthday party after enjoying more stories and hearing other employees tell me how amazing being a firefighter is I decided it was time to start the process Janice explained. She left Tampa and went to EMT school in Orlando completing the three-month-long program. She went to Palm Beach State College for Fire Academy. In order to be accepted into the program applicants must pass a physical agilities test the CPAT. It s a very challenging timed physical test you are performing firefightingrelated tasks with a 75-pound weight vest on for the first three minutes and twenty seconds and a 50-pound vest for the remainder. I think one of my most satisfying moments was completing that test she affirmed. Janice was hired by the City of South Bay which then became part of Palm Beach County Fire Rescue. She has worked here for almost eight years. At 33 she has been married to husband Richard also a firefighter for five years and Janice plays softball and does crossfit to stay in shape. She has been very competitive her entire life and continues to do triathlons and races. Janice admits that being a female in this male-dominated career propels her to train harder and try to be the best she can be and to never appear weak. I always push myself to be at my top possible performance. I think every male and female in any job have their own strengths and weaknesses and we are lucky to have each other on medical and fire calls to always support each other in any capacity she noted. Any woman wanting to be a firefighter needs to follow her heart train hard and if you fail once or twice get back up and do it again. HLM To learn more about Palm Beach County Fire Rescue visit HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 15 HERLIFE MIND MATTERS discipline the secret to happiness and satisfaction w r it t en by d r. p hil heller photograp hy by k ar en alley ne- means 50 on the midterm and 52 on the final. He missed the weeks of classes where I encouraged those who wanted to improve their grade to write a paper. Once he learned of his failing grade he called in a panic telling me that he needed to pass the class to get into a special training program. Sorry A patient I was seeing for anger management told me that once he got angry he couldn t stop. He indulges in anger like one would in alcohol or drugs. As we get older our bodies are not fitting well into our clothes or we don t have energy. A diet may be needed. The above examples all have the lack of discipline in common. People roll through life trying to avoid the reality that will ultimately catch up to them. The student lived with the consequences of his failing grade. Our angry man had to face a judge for assault charges on his wife and those of us who don t regulate our diet might have to continually buy bigger clothes. Maybe discipline is not so bad. It doesn t have to mean starvation or unhappiness when self-control can give us a sense of balance and predictability in the face of temptation. We have a brainwave that controls our frontal lobe when we want volitional attention. You need to focus on not deny the problem you want to master. If your eating habits are unhealthy now is the best time to form an intent to control yourself. If you indulge in your anger affecting your children or others now is the time to gain control. 16 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM O ver the spring semester I had the opportunity to teach an early morning class in criminal psychology. At that hour in the morning not everyone shows for all classes but I admit that the 40 students did their best. One student however cut many classes and earned a It is not easy to bypass a tempting dessert at a party but the control you find at that moment will feel better than those sweet calories rushing toward your hips. When we are in the midst of stress it is easy to lose our temper but gaining control will reassure us about our efficacy in avoiding a needless confrontation. The key to discipline is developing self-efficacy. As you go through your day you will meet a high-risk situation. This is the moment of temptation for a sugary treat a drink or a fight. How you handle that moment is critical. If you give in to the temptation you will enjoy the short-term effect of the dessert or anger outburst while failing to develop your self-efficacy. Should you control the situation you are on your way to becoming stronger and disciplined. We all have those days when we just want to give up and give in. We may say Well I m just fat and it will never change. This is self-destructive because the disciplined individual tries to secure his self-efficacy as he looks toward the long-term goal of having a good physique rather than enjoying a momentary treat. Don t play games with yourself. If you find a diet allowing a small treat don t eat ten. You know better than anyone that the calories add up. If you find you have a setback try to regain your discipline as quickly as you can. Don t let this lapse allow you to become discouraged till you have given up on the gym or the diet. This strength of self-efficacy will build upon itself enabling you to move on easily toward those goals of feeling in shape or being able to manage your anger or addiction. Research has shown that disciplined people are happier unlike our student who lost that valuable training program due to his lack of discipline. HLM HERLIFE CULINARY from the garden to the table by p a tty c o o k But what is the advantage of supporting smaller local farms Is there any real benefit to the time and effort involved in finding organic foods Census data tells us that the number of farms in the United States has declined in the last 50 years from just more than 4 million to 2 million. But in that same period of time our population grew by about 140 million people which means that the size of farms has increased. Production of food has had to move to large-scale operations with food processing keeping pace with that growth. Larger farms specialize in growing a single crop using more chemicals to ensure bigger harvests. Shipping requires harvesting plants just before they ripen in order to reduce spoilage. And mass production shipping and processing mean that more resources are dedicated to food handling packaging and distribution. From a nutritional standpoint mass-produced food is measurably lower in micronutrients than food grown in a more sustainable environment. Whether it is loss of biodiversity or declining soil quality high-yield produce is lower in iron potassium calcium zinc and selenium. Large-scale processing and preparation also means an increased risk of things that we don t want in our food. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention tracks the what exactly do words like organic natural and local mean Organic is used in a generic sense with farmers explaining We don t use any pesticides or sprays. If you see or hear the phrase Certified Organic it means the farmer meets specific criteria that are set by the National Organic Program (NOP). Certified Naturally Grown means the farmer meets a standard that was created specifically for farmers who sell only directly to local customers. If livestock or poultry are described as Grass Fed or Pastured it means they are raised in the more traditional method of being unconfined on pastures and are fed primarily grains. One phrase to beware of is locally grown. This might refer to food grown on a small family farm a more conventional large farm or a corporate farm. If you feel it s important to buy direct from small farms the claim of locally grown may not mean what you think. 18 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM A s spring gives way to summer I find myself drawn to several local farmers markets. The bounty of fresh fruits and vegetables changes every week as the growing season moves into full swing. Vendors at the stalls talk about the weather their produce and whether they use pesticides or other chemicals. But number of illnesses caused by foodborne disease such as norovirus salmonella E. coli and staphylococcus aureus. CDC estimates based on 2011 data project that each year these and other pathogens cause more than 48 million illnesses 128 000 hospital visits and 3 000 deaths. Small-scale farmers must also cope with the fact that some diseases are resistant to treatment. Goats and sheep raised for cheese and meat are prone to certain parasites that have become resistant to chemical dewormers. Farmers are learning to cope by changing the crops that the animals browse and using different fertilizers to discourage growth of worms. If these health benefits inspire you to buy directly from a smaller farm Smaller local farms reduce the need for packaging refrigeration and shipping. Organically grown plants are higher in antioxidants and vitamin C. Meats dairy products and eggs from pastured animals have a higher content of omega-3 vitamins A and E and a better ratio of good (HDL) versus bad (LDL) cholesterol. In contrast sustainable farming practices tend to minimize pesticide use and increase composting which promotes good soil structure. Smaller local farms reduce the need for packaging refrigeration and shipping. Organically grown plants are higher in antioxidants and vitamin C. Meats dairy products and eggs from pastured animals have a higher content of omega-3 vitamins A and E and a better ratio of good (HDL) versus bad (LDL) cholesterol. one simple way is to get involved in a CSA program. Community Supported Agriculture programs are available locally including participation with grocery store chains. Consumers sign up for a share of a farm s harvest by paying an up-front fee weekly bags or boxes of produce are distributed either by delivery or at a central pickup location. Some CSA s offer more variety than others with choices including fruit jams honey meats eggs and cheese. This way the farmers can count on a consistent cash flow and consumers enjoy food harvested at the peak of ripeness. One drawback to CSAs is that you are a partner in risk with the farmer who is at the mercy of the weather. Storms rain hail heat and drought may make your dreams of a bountiful harvest wither along with the crops. If you want to learn more about local farms and CSAs check with your grocer Local Harvest or Food Routes for location information and reviews. Take time to talk with the farmers at your local markets and farm stands. Secretary of Agriculture Tom Vilsack has said Local and regional food systems are about opportunity. The folks who rise before dawn to harvest their crops for market just might give you the opportunity of a lifetime. HLM Sources and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 19 HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT w ritten by judy gop p er t p hot ogr ap hy by d a n a f ra n c e to comment that there are more cows than people. My sister lives in San Francisco and my brother is in D.C. so they went the opposite way to the big city life Susan commented. I like my little one-stoplight town and they crave the big city so I go visit them and they come see me The chef at Marsh Landing cooks up all the river delicacies caught fresh locally right out of the river including swamp cabbage which is the heart of the cabbage palm. Susan explained You cook it down with pork and Nothing brings minds together and inspires viable conversation like sitting around a table enjoying a meal. This is especially true when that meal consists of an array of Florida s treasured delicacies including fresh gator tail crawfish frog legs and swamp cabbage. years has lived her life as a true servant to the community. She was enamored with the rich history of this building where City Council meetings were once held and prisoners even awaited their morning transportation to jail. So when it went up for public auction in October 1995 she bought it. Now she and her daughter Susan Adams Mayor of Fellsmere Florida run the restaurant serving up sustenance for the belly and intellect. My mom grew up in the restaurant her parents had in Wilson North Carolina her mom taught her how to cook and I learned too Susan noted. The restaurant is both a meeting place and a museum. This is a small town and everybody knows where to find you when you have a restaurant. It s a lot of fun. I ll bring stuff to the table and sometimes the people have questions about the surround- T he historic Marsh Landing Restaurant in the Fellsmere Estates Building captured the heart of Fran Adams who as a County Commissioner for 12 ing area and they just say We ll just ask the mayor Susan earned her law degree from Florida State University and worked in the restaurant with her mother while home studying she fell in love with the life. So upon graduation she made herself indispensable and went to work with Mom. My dad Tom Adams was state senator then secretary of state and lieutenant governor so it s in our blood. He passed away about seven years ago right before I ran for office. He taught us that helping the community through public service is a great thing she explained. Her younger sister and brother attended the University of Florida and Susan admitted Being a Seminole is not popular around here in Gator country She was elected to the City Council in 2007 then ran for mayor in 2008 and won. My family made campaign signs for me and it was a really neat thing she smiled. Fellsmere covers a full 42 square miles and boasts 5 300 residents. Since it s an agricultural community locals are known onion and seasonings and make a very thick soup out of it. It s an old Florida traditional meal. It s delicious. Visitors also enjoy catfish and fried green tomatoes hand-cut Angus steaks ribs a wide array of fresh seafood dishes and homemade desserts. And beginning at 7 00 a.m. daily they serve up eggs sweet potato pancakes and biscuits and gravy. They re all true Southern generous portions cooked to order Every Thursday night we have a live blue grass jam and anybody who wants to join in is welcome. People visit from Tennessee and Kentucky and bring their banjos. We never really know who s going to show up to play. It s an awesome show Susan insisted. With amazing food and authentic Southern hospitality it s no wonder Marsh Landing Restaurant is a busy place in downtown Fellsmere. Drop in. You might learn something HLM Visit for more tidbits...but remember your stomach will growl Drop by at 44 North Broadway Fellsmere or call 772-571-8622. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 21 HERLIFE TRENDSETTER heat wave model jacqueline deco models hair and makeup jessica brand instyle beauty boutique all wardrobe provided by bloomingdale s of boca baton styled and photographed by christine rose of photo assistant dakota rose shot on location at nspa and the marriott hotel delray beach HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 23 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 25 HERLIFE REAL ESTATE updating your curb appeal by k a th l e e n k r u e ge r on a survey conducted with more than 3 900 appraisers brokers and sales agents from across the nation who give their opinions and estimates on current values of remodeling investments. Cost versus value The value of a project is gauged by how much of the investment is recouped during a home sale. For instance a 1 000 project that increases the value of a home 1 000 would be considered a 100 percent cost versus value recoup on the improvement. In the 2012-2013 report the majority of high percentage cost versus value projects were exterior improvements that also added to the overall curb appeal of the home. The top ten projects for both mid-range and upscale improvements were led by exterior remodeling. Steel entry door One of the highest ratios for cost versus value that can improve both the appearance and the security of a home is a new steel entry door. The F 26 irst impressions can go a long way especially when it comes to home sales. A study performed at the Texas Tech University showed that curb appeal can increase a home s value up to 17 percent. With the competitive real estate market of a recovering economy creating a positive first impression through curb appeal improvements can be the best way to attract buyer interest in your property. When choosing which home improvement projects to invest in con- sider the benefits of exterior versus interior that can increase curb appeal and provide a higher return on your investment at the same time. Every year the National Association of REALTORS (NAR) creates the Remodeling Cost vs. Value Report which outlines the percentage of return on home improvement projects. Trends within the industry can dictate change however for the last few years one element has remained the same. Exterior projects that increase a home s curb appeal create the most bang for your buck when it comes to remodeling and home improvements. The statistics in this report have been a vital resource for real estate professionals and remodelers for over a dozen years. The study is based HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM ratio was 85.6 percent return topping the list of mid-range improvements. Siding replacement Three types of siding replacement made the top ten mid-range and upscale lists on NAR s report. Vinyl siding had a 72.9 percent ratio as a midrange project and on the upscale list a fiber-cement finish was number one at 79.3 percent with foam-backed vinyl coming in third at 71.8 percent. Garage door replacement Coming in at number two on the upscale top ten garage door replacements had an average of 75.2 percent of the investment recouped. Since the garage door is usually one of the first things buyers see and comprises a large percentage of the exterior finish it makes sense that this can have a big impact on their first impression of the home. Deck addition Adding a wood deck to the home came in second on mid-range projects with the highest value. The average ratio on a 9 327 wood deck addition came in at 77.3 percent cost to value. Landscaping Keeping a neat yard can make the home appear tidy and appealing. Maintain flowerbeds keep the grass watered and mowed for a lush appear- ance and trim foliage. A little extra time spent on landscape maintenance can make a big difference to the overall look of the home. Keep it clean Not all improvements to curb appeal need to involve a big monetary investment into the home you are about to sell. Many small projects that take more time than money can go a long way in adding beauty to the exterior of a home. Pressure washing the siding and cleaning out the gutters can transform the exterior of a home in just an afternoon. Also take the time to sweep and rake extra leaves and branches from the yard drive and walkways. Anything outside the home that needs cleaning from lawn chairs to windows should be made to look as pristine as possible. Although it may seem odd that the ratio of cost can be higher than the value it brings the return on investments is improving. Beginning in 2006 home improvement costs to resale values plummeted for six straight years. However there seems to be a resurgence happening with the 2012-2013 report showing an overall 3 percent increase. Improving curb appeal is one of the best investments that you can make to ensure a quick and profitable sale of your home. Whether you spend money or just your time it is the best way to create a positive impression from the first moment a potential buyer sees your home. HLM Sources realestate. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 27 HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT w ri tte n by j u dy go ppe r t p h o to gra p hy by p h o t o s by r o o s eve l t am eric a n f i n e w i ne Gherman and her delightful cohorts at the American Fine Wine Competition certainly raise their glasses in agreement. For what is life without wine President of the organization and certified Sommelier Shari has been involved in the wine industry for more than 25 years. Buoyed by her experiences in virtually every W ine is sunlight held together by water. Galileo Gallilei penned these words and Shari aspect of the industry from marketing to distribution to supply to advertising she established AFWC as a sublime vehicle to raise money for worthy causes while at the same time melding her love for wine with her drive to give back to her community. Her wine fascination came at an early age when she learned that Blue Nun her mother s wine of choice was not suited to her young palate. She recalls My date and I were at Prince Hamlet and when the server brought the wine list my date asked me to pick. Blue Nun was on the list. Since it was the only thing I knew I ordered it and when it was poured well it wasn t okay We settled on something I had never heard of but was apparently up and coming it was Pouilly-Fuiss . And oh my I loved it Thus a new palate was born. In 2007 Shari had the opportunity while working at a local publication to present her idea for wine competitions to benefit charities. I had been selling advertising and sponsorships for this newspaper and was meeting with CEOs and business owners inevitably the conversation would turn to wine she expressed. The majority of them had either 28 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM loved wine wanted to learn more about wine had visited wine country was a collector was building a cellar etc. A wine event was inevitable The publication held events of their own so were open to her fresh idea. She met with her friends Monty and Sara Preiser who helped the idea blossom. They are Palm Beach County residents and spend their summers on the West Coast where they have a home in Napa. They honed their wine skills as they traveled the country while Monty practiced law for 20 years and for many years were wine columnists for The Boca Raton News and other publications. They are now the principal wine writers editors for numerous lifestyle magazines. Together we brainstormed and came up with an all American wine competition to be followed by a gala that would celebrate and promote the wines and raise money for charity. It would also promote and brand businesses that became sponsors of the events Shari asserted. Typically the judging takes place in January over the MLK weekend. This year s gala was held on April 4. Wine socials which are smaller public events that continue promoting and pouring the wines while raising money for different charities will take place throughout the year at upscale wine-savvy restaurants in the tri-county area and the eighth annual AFWC Competition will take place once again on Martin Luther King weekend in 2015 at FIU s Chaplin School of Hospitality. Every year the event gets better. One of the things that evolved is that now many of the winemakers come in for the Gala to show off their top-scoring wines. We build them tasting rooms so they can personally pour for the guests. This year the Best of Show Red and White were represented Maldonado Chardonnay and St. Supery Cab Shari explained. Also the Best of Show Sparkling Santana by Mumm and Best of Show Late Harvest Ceja. Also pouring were about 25 others who earned double gold medals. Deliver the Dream was the beneficiary at this event and it will be at the next one as well. In the last seven years they have raised more than 700 000 for local charities through the marketing of these great wines at associated events. Shari is originally from Miami has two adult sons a beautiful granddaughter and a wonderful husband she smiled. She has sat on wine judging panels and participated in hundreds of industry tastings. As a Sommelier she has traveled extensively throughout the U.S. to search out new wineries and products and toured the wine regions in the United States Italy France and South Africa. Fred Tasker wine writer for the Miami Herald gave her an incredible compliment remarking Her palate is one of the best I ve ever seen. With summer upon us Shari noted The heat of summer is pretty brutal so I lean toward lighter fresher white wines such as Ros Riesling Sauvignon Blanc Albarino and Gewurztraminer. Most people really enjoy reds so I also suggest Pinot Noir and red Zinfandel which should be served at about 57 to 58 degrees. Visit our Wine Social on August 12 at NYY Steak to try out some new ones Some specific favorites include Ros Rugg Family and Gundlach Bundschu Gewurztraminer and Riesling Ferrante and Eroica by Chateau Ste. Michelle Sauvignon Blanc Beltane Ranch and Red Mare Albarino Saddleback Cellars and Cellars Blend 23 Pinot Noir Shadowbox Cellars and Papapietro Perry and for Zinfandel Titus Chase Cellars Tres Sabores Handley Cellars and Macchia Mischievous. HLM Visit for information and for the upcoming Wine Social schedule during which wine aficionados can taste up to 50 different AFWC wines. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 29 HERLIFE WORKING WOMEN business ethics by ti n a sava s Wharton School conducted the study and also found that women associate business with immorality more strongly. Most people are familiar with Bernie Madoff s Ponzi scheme and Enron Corporation s Wall Street scandal just two of many male-dominated scandals. But there aren t very many well-known women-run schemes that have made national headlines other than Martha Stewart s securities fraud and resulting prison sentence which makes this study even more interesting. Of course the Wharton researchers stop short of saying that women are morally superior to men or behave more ethically than men but their findings are driving the conversation for higher ethical standards in the workplace. In one of the three research experiments subjects were asked how interested they were in jobs that carried certain responsibilities and salary but also included a conflict between acting ethically and doing well in the job. For example one situation described assigning a talented subordinate 30 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM W ith corporate scandals hitting the headlines so frequently it s no wonder everyone is talking about a recent study that suggests women are less willing than men to compromise their ethical values for financial or social gain. Researchers at the University of Pennsylvania s to peripheral projects and publicizing the subordinate s mistakes in order to prevent this person from receiving too much respect and admiration. The study participants were asked to rate their reaction in terms of how objectionable they felt it was how upset it made them and so on. In another of the study s experiments each job description outlined an ethical issue that an employee would confront for example whether to invest in money-making companies that used unethical business practices to produce profits. The participants were put into three groups 1) those who were told the company culture favored profits 2) those who were told the company favored ethics and 3) the control group who were told nothing. When the job required ethical compromises women reported less interest in it than men despite exhibiting no difference when the job did not entail ethical compromise. When ethics came into play most of the women showed less interest in the job. Jessica Kennedy the paper s lead researcher and expert in legal studies and business ethics at Wharton explains They were more likely to say I would have to sacrifice my values to do well in this job. I would struggle with the things that I m asked to do. She added We propose that women more than men find ethical compromises unacceptable. Kennedy believes men may feel similarly and have moral reservations just like women but they are taught to suppress them so they don t report them...they kind of override them more and it s questionable whether this translates directly into ethical behavior. Kennedy also reports that before this study the issue was relatively quiet and she had not ever heard anyone say that women value ethics more than men. She believes that ethics are a bit taboo in companies and that is why no one is willing to come forward when they spot unethical behavior no jailhouse snitches When ethics came into play most of the women showed less interest in the job. Jessica Kennedy the paper s lead researcher and expert in legal studies and business ethics at Wharton explains They were more likely to say I would have to sacrifice my values to do well in this job. I would struggle with the things that I m asked to do. one wants to make accusations toward their company or organization. In another experiment college students were given a list of business or legal words corporation profits prosecution attorney. They were asked to associate them with moral judgment words such as fair honest corrupt etc. The results showed that women feel more negatively about business morality (as opposed to law or medicine) than men and Kennedy s team claims that this is evidence that women s relatively strong implicit association between business and immorality may explain why they are underrepresented in business careers. Since this study shows that it is highly unlikely that women will ever be at ease in unethical workplace situations businesses may want to reassure women that ethical compromise is not a necessary workplace behavior. So then obvious questions arise out of this Wharton study is this why C-suites boards and executive levels within corporate America have a heavy gender imbalance Are ethical situations creating and perpetuating this gender gap If so could this be a practical reason for companies to actively embrace ethics Kennedy sees it this way Doing well and doing good might not always go hand in hand but I think here is an interesting case where businesses can retain talented women by acting more ethically. To the extent that businesses want to retain talented women they should be holding ethics training selecting leaders who have high ethical standards and emphasizing ethics within the core culture of the company. Businesses can allow people to value both ethics and achievement allowing the people within organizations both men and women to be more fully human. Indeed until more women arrive at the top echelons of organizations the business of ethics will not likely go away. HLM Visit uc item 0tv798kj for the referenced study. W by b. b u tl e r p h o to gra p hy by p h o to s by ro o s eve l t Ith an insider s point of view of injustices in our system I focus on another major cause of wrongful convictions informants or as I like to call them snitches. Often an informant is the star witness of the government s case. For many reasons their credibility is more than question- able. They are often drug addicts who will do and say anything to get back to the streets to feed their habit. They may be in custody with the accused and testify to what they overheard or were told. Government attorneys and law enforcement are known to give credence and great benefit to an otherwise untrustworthy individual if their information helps secure a conviction. The Innocence Project states In more than 15 percent of wrongful conviction cases overturned through DNA testing an informant testified against the defendant at the original trial. Often statements from people with incentives to testify particularly incentives that are not disclosed to the jury are the central evidence in convicting an innocent person. DNA exonerations have shown very clearly that informants lie on the stand. Testifying falsely in exchange for an incentive either money or a sentence reduction is often the last resort for a desperate inmate. When detained by law enforcement individuals are scared and threatened with the consequences of their own actions when given the opportunity to help themselves by helping the police most jump in order to avoid being charged. Providing false testimony may be a desperate measure to avoid incarceration. In some cases informants come forward voluntarily often seeking deals or special treatment. But sometimes law enforcement officials seek out informants and give them extensive background on cases essentially feeding them the information they need to provide false testimony. Larry Peterson was convicted of murder and sexual assault because four informants lied on the stand. Three co-workers agreed after threats of prosecution and other questionable tactics that Peterson confessed to them on their ride to work. In actuality Peterson did not even work that day. The fourth government witness was a jailhouse snitch facing charges in three counties. DNA finally freed Peterson in 2006. Peterson is only one of many wrongfully convicted persons. Incentivized witnesses continue to testify in courtrooms around the country. In cases without biological evidence their testimony is the only evidence of guilt. Vital reforms are needed to ensure that unreliable witnesses are not given undue weight by juries. My goal is to inform as many as possible of the flaws in our system. One wrongful conviction is too many. Help me give a voice to the voiceless. HLM Attorney Brook Butler is a criminal defense lawyer with offices in the Regus Executive Suites 601 21st Street Suite 300 in Vero Beach. Butler has been practicing family and criminal law since 2006. For more information please visit her website at She can be reached at 772-453-2820. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 31 HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT We believe in getting to know our clients personally. We make matches based on our expertise and talents and we start by building the relationship with the client first. If we know our client w ritten by judy gop p er t p hot ogr ap hy by p hot os by ro o seve l t we can help them find love come to her that they can feel good about the men or women they meet. The idea for Revolution Dating began in 1991 when she worked for a dating service in Boca Raton while attending graduate school in Miami for her doctoral degree. B eing in love is the highest form of togetherness. Know that and you ll know Kelly Leary founder of Revolution Dating. She believes this and clients know when they She had her master s in clinical psychology and while working on her doctorate she came to the realization that her calling was the dating industry. So she immersed herself full scale. Kelly calls it the lighter brighter side of psychology. She now has 23 years in this fascinating industry and she and her team of Cupids have been helping singles ages 25 to 75 become couples through their expert matchmaking service and events. A published author this amazing young woman has a monthly column The Single Scene which has been running for five years. Her insightful words have become known as the local Sex in the City column Starting in this business as a younger girl and being an idealist I always felt I could make the industry better for clients Kelly revealed. I have always wanted to do better and I knew it was possible. In the last ten years I made huge strides in the industry and the number of happy clients and couples had increased but there was still more for me to do to help the dating love process along. Kelly now over 40 has epitomized her dream company through courage and support from the community family friends and clients. Now the revolution of love is in full bloom in her new offices in PGA Commons. She has taken the best of the industry dropped the rest and added a few more exciting perks with Cupid s Arrow. She admits she s always been a matchmaker. She is originally from the Northeast and was born in Boston into a very entrepreneurial business family that is known for success in the Vermont area. As luck and fate would have it the family moved to Florida when she was five and she grew up in Fort Lauderdale. She attended prep school then college in Boca Raton where she graduated cum laude before enrolling in graduate school in Miami where she was a member of the Psi Chi Honor Society. I ve always brought people together I love togetherness. In school I was friends with everyone from the jocks to the bookish to the band to the socialites. I love seeing people together and happy. Revolution Dating is unique in that they help people find love offline. They are not an online dating site and they absolutely never pass clients onto an online database once they sign up. We believe in getting to know our clients personally. We make matches based on our expertise and talents and we start by building the relationship with the client first. If we know our client we can help them find love We often get it right on the first date but sometimes it takes four or seven or eleven...but each date is pleasant with a real person who is verified by us Kelly asserted. The only thing I can t do is guarantee chemistry. That s up to the men and women I set up. That s the X factor and eventually we find it There s every reason for a man or woman to visit Kelly and her team to find a soul mate. It s especially true for women since Revolution s team gets to know their male clients and ladies can feel as if they are meeting someone through a friend which is much safer. Online dating or e by all the sincerely happy couples she has inspired. Her advice to any woman wishing to own her own business Create your own dream team of experts prior to your inception. Align yourself with people at the top of their fields. Cut yourself off from those who bring you down. Ladies you may lose some friends who can t handle your success but as I always say The cream has a way of rising to the top. Those who stay by your side are true and that s why we are here--true connections true love. As a born entrepreneur Kelly understands that through her work she has been given a key to help and she s using it. The sky is the limit and she s changing the way lovers find love one date at a time. Isn t that what a revolution is about she smiled. Kelly invites women to find love off-line and reminds us all We only have one life one chance and it flies by. Enjoy and seek out meaningful relationships based on sincere truths of love and kindness. Have REAL MOMENTS. Make REAL MEMORIES. Live love laugh HLM Visit today to begin your journey to find real love. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 33 nt meeting men in bars can be scary to say the least. Our men are professionals with jobs and homes. Many have graduate degrees doctoral degrees and own their own businesses. To be quite candid most of the men that I work with are not players or users. Insincere dating men don t need me they are doing great on their own she wholeheartedly insisted. These types of men like to fly or shall I say slither under the radar. So women in my club are less likely statistically to meet a womanizer at Revolution Dating. When Kelly talks people listen. It is evident kel ith rachel her vi ce ly w pre sid HERLIFE HOME what to consider when buying a pool by l a u ra l e i va sink or swim sons installing a pool in the back yard is a great idea. It s a relaxing oasis on a summer day provides an ideal source of exercise and can transform the entire look and feel of the outdoor space. But there are cost and logistical considerations to think about prior to calling in the demolition crew. Before you start thinking of all the different pool styles and landscape options it s important to create a list of questions to consider. Homeowners have many different opinions and reasons for wanting a pool but when it comes to the time and cost for installing one you want to make sure it s something that will truly benefit your family and fit within a budget. Create a list of reasons having a pool is important to you and the family. Do you 34 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM W hen the temperature outside heats up there s nothing more refreshing than taking a dip in your sparkling pool But if your home doesn t feature this luxurious addition it s worth asking yourself Is adding a pool too costly or will it increase the value of my home There are plenty of rea- want it for recreational and entertainment purposes or are you interested in adding a pool to the home to increase the resale value If you re looking at installing a pool as an investment there are even more considerations to make in some cases adding a pool has no real impact on the value of the home According to real estate experts homeowners won t see much of an increase in property value often only about seven percent. Simply installing a pool isn t a guarantee that the house will be worth more on the market either. Pool style and landscape climate maintenance yard layout and space are all considerations potential buyers will look at when shopping for a home. The age of the pool will also have an impact on resale value. If you install a pool now but have no plans to sell any time soon the age of the pool by the time you do sell could mean upgrading or refinishing costs. Resale value aside if having a swimming pool in the yard will enhance your quality of life and allow you to further enjoy your home then it s a worthy in- Pool water needs frequent monitoring and maintenance to remain safe for use. Calcium pH and alkalinity levels should be checked often by either you or a professional pool cleaner. vestment. Determining the needs and wants for a pool will help you find the perfect shape size and design. Many of the aesthetic factors of a swimming pool depend on the location in the yard such as the remaining space around the pool and whether any landscaping or brickwork can be done. On average installing filling and equipping a 600-square-foot concrete pool begins around 30 000 of course when adding landscaping lighting fencing spa or waterfalls the price extends upward to nearly 100 000. Concrete (also called gunite) is one of the most common materials to use for an in-ground pool. Vinyl liners and fiberglass shells are lower budget but they require replacement or maintenance every decade. Once the pool and landscape have been installed the costs don t stop there Heating and water filtration incur monthly costs to the electric bill in addition to increased water usage for filling up when needed. Pool water needs frequent monitoring and maintenance to remain safe for use. Calcium pH and alkalinity levels should be checked often by either you or a professional pool cleaner. Vacuuming and skimming the pool is another consideration hiring a professional could cost anywhere between 15 to 25 per week with an additional 500 during the opening or closing of a pool in seasonal swimming climates. Choosing a builder to work on the pool takes homework as you want your contractor to do the job well and understand all of the necessary building requirements for your home. This includes knowing where power plumbing sewer lines or septic fields are located making necessary changes to the grading of the yard and removing any landscape. It s essential that you and the contractor be on the same page when it comes to the total costs and details well before any changes are made to the yard as any new modifications translate to spending more money during construction. Installing a pool in the yard is an exciting upgrade but there are still safety considerations to be aware of. Slip-resistant materials should be added to steps in and around the pool and lifesaving equipment must always be in an accessible place. Many municipalities require security barriers to prevent accidents. Pool safety and swimming lessons might be in order. It s also advisable to investigate what pool ownership might do to your insurance rates. A new swimming pool is something children and adults of all ages will enjoy so if it fits within the budget and is something you desire to add to the home then it s worth every penny HLM Sources HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 35 HERLIFE BOOK CLUB rev i ew by l i n d a r. p ri c e Faithwell Ohio. Grace must nurse Honor who is ill the entire sea trip yet it is Grace who succumbs to yellow fever in Hudson Ohio. Honor must now depend on her own resources and the kindness of strangers. She decides to continue her journey to Faithwell in a wagon driven by an elderly man named Thomas. Though she doesn t know it her driver is a member of the Underground Railroad and is transporting an escaped slave under the bed of the wagon. As they near the town of Wellington Ohio a solitary rider Donovan a slave hunter approaches. He is taken by the young Quaker girl but insists on looking into her trunk in his search for escaped slaves. Donovan questions Honor about the signature quilt her friends made for her before she left England. He comments that his mother made another style of quilt that Honor confirms as a Star of Bethlehem. Donovan leaves with Honor s key to 36 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM I n the novel The Last Runaway Tracy Chevalier creates the world of a young Quaker girl who travels from Bristol England to the United States during the years preceding the Civil War. Honor Bright boards a ship with her older sister Grace who is engaged to Adam Cox from their English village of Bridport and plans to marry him when she arrives in the trunk. Old Thomas hands Honor over to Belle Mills in Wellington. Belle owns a millinery shop and creates hats for her numerous clients. It will be several days before Adam Cox can come to pick up Honor so Honor decides to help Belle by working on the bonnets for which Belle has backed up orders. When Belle discovers how good Honor is at sewing an unusual friendship begins. After Cox picks up Honor he takes her to the home of his sister-in-law Abigail where he is living. Adam tells Honor that his brother Matthew died of consumption only three weeks earlier. He says that he did not receive the letter Grace had sent many months before telling him that Honor had decided to come to America with her. Honor soon discovers that Abigail does not want Honor in her house. Abigail is slovenly and Honor is neat. Abigail is full of excuses and Honor is efficient. Abigail is a poor quilter and Honor is an expert. The real problem is that Abigail is jealous. She needs a new husband and Adam Cox is now available. Honor decides she cannot stay in this house but where can she go Belle bluntly explains the options available to her--go back to England or get a new husband. Nevertheless this novel is not about Honor adjusting to her new life which includes her own marriage and carving out a place for herself on the raw Ohio frontier. It is about principles what one believes in. It was easy to oppose slavery in the safety of the Meeting House in England. Yet how can you live up to your principles when there are serious financial penalties and physical danger attached to your actions for everyone around you Honor becomes the last runaway when she continues to oppose slavery despite the consequences. The Last Runaway is Chevalier s seventh novel and she writes with ease and grace. The novel brims with details of frontier life as America approaches its Civil War. Her descriptions of the differences between the village of Bridport and strangeness of America to a young inexperienced girl are captivating. Honor encounters differences in food--cornmeal mush for breakfast and as a side dish pork instead of mutton or lamb tough beef and hard pastry. She believes the English countryside orderly with rolling hills and curved roads as compared to the flatness of Ohio with its straight roads and rough towns. Belle tells her that no one lives in Ohio for long Ohio is just a stopping place for people as they move north to escape the slavery of the South and west to acquire land. The history of quilts adds to the richness of the backstory. Honor is a talented handcrafter. She loves quilting and other kinds of stitching. She finds pleasure in the patience required to carefully stitch an elegant quilt. In America Honor discovers that the applique technique is used because the bolder design can be finished more quickly. She does not like this type of handwork. She finds the quilts crude and unsophisticated even though the colorful red flowers and urns with green leaves on a white background are cheerful. Honor welcomes the more difficult geometric patterns on which the quilter is challenged by piecing hundreds of snippets of fabric and blending the colors in a pleasing pattern. Just as a quilt comes together from hundreds of small pieces of fabric and skilled sewing Honor and her new husband rediscover their love and find a solution to the complicated pattern of their lives. HLM Nevertheless this novel is not about Honor adjusting to her new life which includes her own marriage and carving out a place for herself on the raw Ohio frontier. It is about principles what one believes in. It was easy to oppose slavery in the safety of the Meeting House in England. Yet how can you live up to your principles when there are serious financial penalties and physical danger attached to your actions for everyone around you HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 37 HERLIFE TIE THE KNOT tied the knot october 21 2012 38 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM written by marilyn is am inger photography by jam ilah p hot ogr ap hy just launched her own company Runway Gypsy which started as a simple traveling boutique and expanded to include personal styling she has styled many other entrepreneurs for their branding photos as well as magazines. One of her favorite activities is aerial silks the aerial dance popularized by Cirque du Soleil. She started training about a year ago and fell in love with this strenuous art form. Adam Gjerulff studied business and played lacrosse at University of Colorado and has been in residential and commercial finance for almost eight years. His biggest passion is lacrosse and he has coached lacrosse for almost four years recently working with a high school varsity team. Adam also enjoys running and recently completed a Spartan race. Adam and I met through mutual friends and became best friends very quickly. The rest is history shares Jamie. On my 25th birthday he surprised me with a trip to Naples. I was so excited to just be on vacation We were sitting on the beach when we saw a wedding going on a little ways down. Adam said he had to run to the room really quick to get some Advil . When J amie Lyon-Gjerulff studied set design and acting yet landed in the finance industry. She has worked in the investment advisory industry managing corporate 401(k) plans for almost eight years now. Jamie has recently letting himself get close to the water. Little did I know that he had the ring in his pocket Needless to say I won and he asked me to go on a walk with him. I was splashing in the water when he grabbed my hand from behind and turned me toward him. I felt as if we were in a movie. As the sun began to set he got down on one knee and pulled out my ring which was his mother s original engagement ring. It fit perfectly It was meant to be. The blissful couple tied the knot on October 21 2012. The bride was attended by Jennifer Donald and Katie Kunec-Gjerulff groomsmen were Matt Gjerulff Tony Kirchgessner Yash Norhashemi Zac Rice Chris Shipps and Steve Yen. Our wedding day was simply wonderful Jamie beams. My brother who has lived in the Philippines for eight years flew in to be there for us which meant the world to me. Sharing that moment at Jupiter Beach Resort and Spa on the beach under the mangroves looking out over the ocean was more magical than I could imagine. I will always remember dancing with our friends and family and just the incredible feeling of gratitude I had for the blessing of marrying my best friend Jamie and Adam took a brief honeymoon in Key Largo which was amazing. We recently took a trip to Bimini Bahamas on our one-year anniversary where we treated ourselves to an overdue honeymoon Adam reveals. We spent a week with our phones turned off and no distractions. We shared every moment exploring the island and doing what we do best--going on an adventure together. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 39 businesses that shared in the love bridal gown unique bridal bridesmaids gowns j.crew groom s and groomsmen s tux suits jos. a. bank makeup and hair styling luisabel gomez make up by lulu photography jamilah photography florist j morgan flowers dj eddie b & company caterer jupiter beach resort and spa cake cakes by betty venue jupiter beach resort and spa he came back down he said his head was feeling much better and we began to play a quick game of paddle board. Adam and I are pretty competitive when it comes to sports and I noticed he was not diving for the ball or HERLIFE WINE inner winemaker by d o u g f ro st finding your T 40 o most people winemaking is a mysterious process created by the ancients rich with vernacular and draped in arcane science--a cross between chemistry and alchemy. That may be true but here s the thing grape juice wants to be wine. The yeasts that live all around us are always ready to turn a cal records reveal winemaking alongside the creation of culture and community throughout the Middle East from 10 000 BCE to 5 000 BCE. Or somewhere thereabouts. We don t really know because making wine requires no grand temples no pyramids no Great Walls. Fill up a clay pot with some grapes picked before the birds and beasts find them make sure to squish a few and Mother Nature or magic does the rest. Aristotle called the stuff spirits because the grape juice would come alive bubble and hiss when it settled down and seemed safe the drinker took on some kind of new energy. Spirits. If cavemen can do it (and they did) so can you. You won t have to do it alone there are wine kits you can buy. They ll help you navigate the myriad possibilities Do you want to make a red wine or a white wine A Cabernet or a Chardonnay Would you like some barrel with that With the assistance of a little science you can make something ripe grape s sweet sugars into the alcoholic stew we call wine. To stop them requires far more technology than to simply let them do their work. Indeed it took years for Thomas Welch to figure out how to kill the yeast through pasteurization making a non-alcoholic drink for his tee-totaling Wesleyan brethren. We still drink Welch s empty brew. Welch went to a lot of trouble to interrupt a process that nature has perfected over millennia. Birds have been known to eat too many ripe grapes and start flopping around like it s spring break. As for humans historians have no idea who invented wine but archaeologiHERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM potable. Companies such as Advintage Cellar Craft RJ Spagnols Vineco Vintner s Cellar Wine Art and Winexpert among others sell fairly idiot-proof kits. Those can work but your best asset is a local winemaking supply store. Indeed I would recommend you start with a beer making supply store and tell them you want to make wine. The good ones will hook you up with someone who knows how to do it and they ll talk you through the process sell you a book that explains the steps and even help you source some grape juice. If you hang around enough you ll meet other people who are trying to do the same thing. People will freely share their tips with you. Before you know it you ll have a few carboys (big glass jugs) bubbling away in your kitchen. But it works better if you have a basement or a garage that s airconditioned. Temperature it turns out is what makes yeast go they can race to get the job done or they can slowpoke around leaving the wine not quite fermented leaving some sugar in the juice. That s why the old-timers mostly drank sweet wine they couldn t get the fermentation to finish. Well they also dumped bags of sugar into the juice because someone told them to. Ripe grapes were hard to come by I guess. A spoonful of sugar (more like a bucket) will fix that. When the room is too warm yeast grow too fast it s like they get going so quickly that they knock themselves (and each other) out while if it s too cold they can hardly move. Big wineries have expensive jacketed tanks that fix the precise temperature. You probably don t but neither did the ancients. They stored the stuff underground because they knew it was the coolest place in the house. If our elders were smart about temperature they didn t understand the sanitation thing. Heck they thought bathing was bad for you. We know differently and so do our winemakers. The smart ones keep wine away from the air except when they want it to get some air. Sound complicated This is the science part. Wine needs to be in a place where it s cool and it needs to get just a bit of air now and again. How often depends upon the grapes their sugar and acid levels the temperature the type of yeasts all sorts of things. Good winemakers are always tasting and analyzing their wines making certain when they need air and when they don t. So that s your job too. Sure it s not likely your first few efforts will yield anything better than the stuff you can buy for 5.99 at the store. But that s not the point. YOU made this. You harnessed the energy the life force the gods and goddesses yeast whatever you made grapes into wine. And I will guarantee you this what you ve got is a lot better than the stuff those cavemen drank. Better glasses too. HLM Doug Frost is a master of wine and master sommelier who has authored several books and has been featured on national television. He is the founder and director of the national Jefferson Cup Wine Invitational and the President of the Institute of Masters of Wine North America and selects wines for United Airlines globally. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 41 HERLIFE RECIPES creamy pasta with bacon and peas Serves 3-4 Prep time 10 minutes Cook time 10 minutes ingredients 12 ounces dried pasta of your choice 1 Tablespoon unsalted butter 2 shallots minced cup (about 3 ounces) chopped cooked bacon pieces 1 cup frozen peas thawed 1 cup half-and-half salt and freshly ground pepper Parmesan cheese optional directions Set a large pot of salted water to boil. Cook pasta until al dente according to package instructions. In the meantime in a large pan heat butter over medium heat add shallots stir occasionally until they begin to soften 1-2 minutes. Add bacon and saut for a minute. Add peas and half-and-half. Season with salt and pepper. Simmer gently until slightly thickened about 2 minutes. Drain pasta reserving some of the water. Add pasta to the sauce toss to combine adding a little bit of the reserved pasta water at a time only if necessary. Serve in individual bowls and sprinkle freshly grated Parmesan on top if desired. HLM recipes and p hot ogr ap hy by ver y c ulinar y.c om easy fish piccata with roasted asparagus Serves 2 Prep time 15 minutes Cook time 10 minutes ingredients pound asparagus rinsed tough ends chopped off 3 Tablespoons extra virgin olive oil salt and freshly ground black pepper 2 barramundi fish fillets (about 4 ounces each) skin removed all-purpose flour nonstick spray 2 Tablespoons extra virgin olive oil cup dry white wine 2 garlic gloves minced cup low-sodium chicken broth 2 Tablespoons lemon juice 1 Tablespoon drained capers 2 Tablespoons unsalted butter fresh lemon slices chopped fresh parsley Substitute tilapia if barramundi unavailable directions Preheat oven to 425 degrees. Pat asparagus spears dry and spread in a single layer on a rimmed baking sheet. Drizzle with olive oil and sprinkle with salt and pepper to taste. Roast for 10 minutes until tender but still al dente. Season fillets with salt and pepper then dredge in flour. Coat a saut pan with nonstick spray add oil and heat over medium-high. Saut fillets for about 2 minutes on one side gently flip over and saut for about 2 minutes until golden. Transfer fillets to a platter. Deglaze pan with wine and add minced garlic. Cook until liquid is nearly evaporated. Add broth lemon juice capers and butter. Once butter melts pour sauce over fillets. Garnish with lemon slices and chopped fresh parsley. Serve immediately. HLM recipes and p hot ogr ap hy by ver y c ulinar y.c om 42 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Daniel Man M.D. P.A. Board-Certified Plastic Surgeon and Reconstructive Surgery Specialist Winner 2013 Aesthetic Show Best Overall Patient Enhancement Winner 2012 Aesthetic Show Best Overall Surgical Make Over Nominee 2012 Aesthetic Show for Innovative Skin Rejuvenation - Best Non Surgical Procedure Diplomate of the American Board of Plastic Surgery Fellow of the American Society for Laser Medicine and Surgery PRPEN and PRP for Skin Rejuvenation P RPEN is a new method to rejuvenate your skin that helps patients get excellent results for aging skin. This method utilizes our body s ability to improve skin by stimulating collagen fibers to renew themselves. The micro needles in this small pen help trigger the body to make new collagen and elastin fibers refreshing Are there advantages to using PRP and PRPEN together Although the PRPEN can be used alone to boost collagen and elastin fibers the use of platelet rich plasma is accepted as a very innovative way to make the patient s skin rejuvenate even faster and better. Use of PRP with the PRPEN helps to increase the remodeling of the skin taking advantage of the many microscopic channels and challenging the body to go through rapid healing. The new collagen appears to be stronger and better organized than the old collagen. There is a significant release of growth factors that promotes scarless healing with minimal swelling allowing same day almost normal activities. The epidermis which is the top layer of the skin is preserved and remodeling of the skin is achieved simultaneously. PRP contains several growth factors including platelet-derived growth factors (PDGF) transforming growth factor-beta 1(TGF-beta 1) at high levels and vascular endothelial growth factor. Although a March 12 2013 article on the New York Daily News website noted socialite Kim Kardashian had undergone a treatment with PRP this method was described by Dr. Man many years ago in his article The Use of Autologous Platelet-Rich Plasma in Cosmetic Surgery in the Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery Journal Vol. 107 No.1 January 2001. In PRP treatments a small amount of the patient s blood is drawn spun in a specialized centrifuge and then combined with supporting agents to be applied on the micro needled skin. These popular treatments of PRP and micro needling pen are a welcome addition to our practice where both modalities can be used simultaneously to enhance our patients skin and well being. Visit our website to learn more. your skin and making it look and feel thicker and younger. How is the PRPEN used in a safe and effective way The PRPEN treatment is performed by moving rapidly almost hovering over your skin allowing the improvement to appear very quickly as early as same day or in a few days. Dr. Man monitors the minute yet significant differences while moving from one delicate part of the face to another during the PRPEN treatment. The device is a special platform with spring-loaded micro needles that are situated so close to each other that the patient does not feel any discomfort while she is receiving fractionated collagen stimulation using the micro needles. If the patient feels that the skin is too sensitive a numbing cream is applied prior to using the PRPEN for greater comfort. Between these vertically-oriented vibrating needles the skin is not penetrated and normal skin promotes a very rapid process of healing. These tiny penetrations of the skin cause the body to release growth factors that aid in rapid healing. Who is a good candidate for the PRPEN and PRP Any person who feels that their skin is aging and they need a refresher is a good candidate for PRPEN with or without platelet rich plasma (PRP). PRPEN treats fine and medium-depth wrinkles that can be treated again a few weeks for even better results. It also helps with recent or older scars acne large pores stretch marks and hyperpigmentation and can be used in conjunction with DMMD fractionated lasers Botox Xeomin and Dysport . It also improves the skin quality when used with fat and fillers. Dr. Daniel Man is a board-certified plastic surgeon with 30 years of experience who has dedicated his life s work to helping people look younger and improve their appearance through cosmetic surgery. He is a noted author artist inventor and educator. Dr. Man has been featured on major television networks as well as national and local magazines and newspapers for his work as both a plastic surgeon and an artist. Dr. Man has a private practice in Boca Raton Florida. Email your questions or comments to info or call (561) 395-5508 for an appointment. HERLIFE MOTHER S PERSPECTIVE the dangers of synthetic drugs by c a ti e w a tso n number of videos have been posted on YouTube extolling the high produced by the substance. What these videos don t talk about is the sharp increase in recent years in the number of emergency room cases of synthetic marijuana reactions with symptoms that can include vomiting heart rate elevation hallucinations and acute anxiety. Although Spice has no medical benefit and a high potential for abuse it has been difficult for the U.S. government to outlaw it since the underground chemists who make it frequently switch the chemicals they use. These chemical compounds have never been scientifically tested for safety. There is no guarantee that the amount of chemical added to any batch is safe or what the effects will be when the mixture is smoked causing drug experts to view Spice as being far more dangerous than marijuana. Bath Salts Not a Beauty Treatment Another dangerous substance that parents need to watch for is bath salts an amphetamine-like drug that s marketed as a beauty product with names such as Purple Wave Cloud 9 and Bliss. Like Spice bath salts are legal and can be easily purchased online and in head shops and convenience stores. A small packet sells for as little as 20 and is snorted through the nose or ingested orally. Bath salts are made from a combination of two new synthetic stimu- T he names sound innocent enough--Spice Molly K2 and bath salts--but the effects can be deadly. Although many parents have never heard of these substances hundreds of teenagers and young adults have been hospitalized over the past decade and dozens have died after using synthetic drugs that they believe are similar to marijuana and amphetamines. According to the U.S. Drug Enforcement Administration the biggest user population of these drugs is 12- to 17-year-olds. Synthetic Marijuana More Dangerous than the Real Thing The terms Spice and K2 are drug slang for a class of herbal concoctions that uninformed users believe are a safe way to get high. Sold as incense or potpourri in convenience stores head shops and online they consist of a mixture of dried plant leaves and stems that have been soaked in chemicals. When smoked they produce mind-altering effects that have been compared by some to marijuana. Many Spice products carry labels saying not for human consumption. Despite these labels Spice has been marketed since 2004 as a natural herbal high. Synthetic marijuana has become popular for a number of reasons. Besides being legal and easy to obtain for users who don t have a marijuana connection the drug is not detected in standard drug tests. In addition a 44 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM lants mephedrone and MDPV or methylenedioxypyrovalerone. Like methamphetamine cocaine and other illegal stimulants these synthetic drugs produce changes to the nervous system and brain. The effects of bath salts include hallucinations and violent behavior. In addition bath salts are highly addictive and can bring on intense cravings after only a few uses. According to Gil Kerlikowske director of the Office of National Drug Control Policy At a time when drug use in America is increasing the marketing and sale of these poisons as bath salts is both unacceptable and dangerous. dangerous psychoactive drug with hallucinogenic and stimulant properties similar to those found in LSD and methamphetamine. It contains the purest form of MDMA which is the main ingredient in Ecstasy along with other ingredients such as caffeine amphetamines PCP or cocaine. The name Molly has been recently glamorized in pop songs by stars such as Miley Cyrus Rihanna and Kanye West increasing its appeal among a new generation of teenagers. According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse MDMA interferes with the body s ability to regulate temperature and can cause hyperthermia and heart and kidney problems. High levels of the drug in the bloodstream According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse MDMA interferes with the body s ability to regulate temperature and can cause hyperthermia and heart and kidney problems. High levels of the drug in the bloodstream can affect the heart s ability to maintain its normal rhythms and increase the risk of seizures. Molly Glamorized by Pop Stars Unlike other synthetic drugs that were recently developed Molly has been around for a while. Despite its harmless-sounding name Molly is a can affect the heart s ability to maintain its normal rhythms and increase the risk of seizures. Studies indicate that MDMA also has the potential to cause permanent brain damage resulting in lifelong emotional and psychological problems. What can parents do to protect their kids from the dangers of Spice bath salts and Molly One of the best ways for parents to prevent kids from experimenting with drugs is to keep the lines of communication open. Parents who talk to their kids about drug abuse and stay involved in their lives can help them avoid peer pressure and other factors that lead to drug abuse. For additional information about synthetic drugs and helpful parenting tips visit HLM Sources CNNHealth the White House s Office of National Drug Control Policy the National Institute on Drug Abuse the American Association of Poison Control Centers and the Partnership at HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 45 HERLIFE SCENE AND BE SEEN Extraordinary Charities Directory Launch Luncheon xtraordinary Charities Inc. a nonprofit organization based in Palm Beach welcomed representatives from dozens of local nonprofits at a luncheon held at Caf Sapori in West Palm Beach to launch the second edition of A Directory for Charitable Giving. Throughout Palm Beach County smaller charities are making a big difference in our community. Despite their outstanding efforts many of these extraordinary charities operate under the radar said Beverlee Miller Raymond co-founder with her husband John J. Raymond Jr. of Extraordinary Charities dedicated to changing the traditional picture of philanthropy in Palm Beach County and opening the door to new donor opportunities. Six of the attending organizations received a surprise check for 2 000 each Holy Ground Shelter for the Homeless Resource Depot Sandoway House Nature Center Urban Youth Impact Women s Circle Inc. and the Youth Activity Center. For more information please visit HLM photography by jemal hayes of mr. j s media E Palm Beach Wine Auction ith paddles shaped like wine goblets guests found it easy to raise a glass for the spirited bidding during the Seventh Annual Palm Beach Wine Auction on January 30 at The Mar-a-Lago Club Palm Beach. Nearly 200 arts patrons and oenophiles toasted to record-breaking funds for the education programs at the Kravis Center for the Performing Arts as they indulged in an evening of fine wines and a star-studded menu. The Kravis Center s education programs have served nearly 2 million children of all ages over the past 21 years. In its seventh year the Palm Beach Wine Auction event has uncorked more than 2 million to provide children in our region with an introduction to the arts which they might not otherwise have had an opportunity to experience. For information about the Kravis Center please visit and to learn more about the Palm Beach Wine Auction please visit HLM photography by corby kaye s studio palm beach W 46 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Lisa April Smith Book Launch tudio E Gallery in Palm Beach Gardens was brimming with guests in February on hand to help author Lisa April Smith celebrate the launch her newest book Forgotten Tales of China an epic saga set in ancient China. In addition to writing three previous pageturners Dangerous Lies Exceeding Expectations and Paradise Misplaced Ms. Smith is a contributing editor to WeMagazineforWomen. com maintains a weekly blog on her website teaches classes at the Academy for Continuing Education at Mandel JCC and is a soughtafter public speaker. This busy lady still finds time to be a volunteer tutor to at-risk children at the Edna Runner Tutorial Center in West Jupiter. Readers can find her on Facebook Twitter and her website HLM photography by sandra friedkin S Sixth Annual West Palm Beach Veterans Day Parade eterans past and present dignitaries volunteers and citizens participated in the Sixth Annual West Palm Beach Veterans Day Parade and Lifestyle Festival. Mayor Jeri Muoio Senator Jeff Clements Representative Bobby Powell Jr. Representative Lori Berman Representative Dave Kerner Congressman Patrick E. Murphy Congresswoman Lois Frankel and Bob Nichols were in attendance. Master of Ceremonies Mike Trim from WPTV WFLX led the festivities. Event organizer Rhonda Davis of RAD Event Production Inc. noted Thanks to everyone for making this day special for our veterans. The Palm Beach County Veterans Committee is comprised of volunteers from local veterans organizations and community activists and relies on private donations to host the parade and an annual Memorial Day Ceremony. For more information please visit or contact Rhonda Davis (954) 687-3074 or (561) 316-7723. HLM photography by janis bucher V HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 47 Through the Eyes of Children at Wally Findlay Galleries International H eart-shaped peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and gum balls at the juice bar were the fare for the guests of honor at a reception at Wally Findlay Galleries Palm Beach. Students from the 5th and 8th grades at Sacred Heart School in Lake Worth parents teachers and school donors celebrated the opening of the photography exhibition The Everglades Through the Eyes of Children a program from the Arthur R. Marshall Foundation for The Everglades that gives children the opportunity to build environmental awareness self confidence and basic photography skills. Forty-one children were represented in the special exhibition hosted by James R. Borynack chairman and CEO of Wally Findlay Galleries International. Photography contest winners were Stefanos Mitchell Manheeca Lucas Martina McManus Sebastian Rich Jamario Thomas and Ahmad Byrne. The Marshall Foundation champions the restoration and preservation of the greater Everglades ecosystem through science-based education and outreach. Visit to learn more. HLM photography by corby kaye s studio palm beach 38th American Red Cross Designers Show House Preview Party t was wall-to-wall oohs and ahhs as more than 200 guests filled every bedroom bathroom and open square inch of 124 Churchill Road in West Palm Beach for the most upscale house party of the season. In celebration of the 38th Designers Show House benefit for the American Red Cross more than 14 local and national designers staged an extreme makeover of the 1920s-era estate owned by Bob and Anne Kanjian. More than 4 000 people attend this event each year one of the most important fundraising events for the Red Cross mission. The American Red Cross shelters feeds and provides emotional support to victims of disasters supplies more than 40 percent of the nation s blood teaches skills that save lives provides international humanitarian aid and supports military members and their families. For more information call the American Red Cross Palm Beach-Treasure Coast chapter at 561.833.7711 or visit pbtc. HLM photography by lucien capehart photography I 48 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Women of Tomorrow PBC Wine Dinner Benefit he Women of Tomorrow Mentor and Scholarship Program held their inaugural wine dinner at New York Prime Boca Raton event co-chairs and Palm Beach County Advisory Committee members Dr. Krista Rosenberg and Robbin Newman Esq. welcomed 140 of South Florida s community members to a sold-out event that raised more than 39 000 to benefit at-risk girls in all 24 public high schools in Palm Beach County. Women of Tomorrow leaders present included Jennifer Valoppi (co-founder) Laurie Silvers (board) and PBC Advisory Committee members Barbara Cambia and Deborah Martyn. During the silent auction guests dined on a four-course meal paired with exquisite Trinchero wines and Magic by Mio entertained. The Women of Tomorrow Mentor and Scholarship Program is designed to inspire motivate and empower at-risk young women to live up to their potential through a unique mentoring program with highly accomplished professional women and scholarship opportunities. For more information call 305.371.3330 or visit HLM photography by janis bucher T HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 49 HERLIFE IN THE CITY july 2 Learn About Africa Through Art DATE July 2 9 16 23 30 TIME 2 00 pm - 3 30 pm and 3 30 pm - 5 00 pm LOCATION 508A Northwood Road West Palm Beach FL 33407 DETAILS Explore Africa For Kids age 6 to 16. Four classes 1) African Names & Their Meaning 2) Mask making 3) Jewelry Making and 4) African Textile Art) can be taken individually or as a group. The cost is 15 each or 50 for the four classes. MORE INFORMATION Call us at (561) 290-5008 email us at info or visit our website at and savor each entry to decide on the Best of Show while the community votes for the Burger Champion MORE INFORMATION Visit for details. 21 Ocean Explorers Camp DATE July 21 - 25 TIME 9 00am 5 00pm LOCATION Museum of Discovery and Science 401 SW 2nd Street Ft. Lauderdale DETAILS Grades 7 and 8 Five-Day Camp offered July 21 25 2014. Campers will spend two days at the Museum and three days at FAU s Sea Tech in Dania Beach exploring coastal marine and coral reef ecosystems. They will conduct estuary and barrier island fieldwork and tour FAU s ocean engineering and electronics labs submarine and flow tunnel plus learn about sea turtles and marine science careers as well as designing building and racing a solar-powered boat. Fee is 300 per five-day camp and includes all workshop materials. MORE INFORMATION has the details and registration information. 4 4th of July Celebration Delray Beach DATE July 4 TIME 3 00pm LOCATION East Atlantic Avenue Delray Beach DETAILS Delray Beach s July 4th celebration has activities and entertainment planned from 3pm until our stellar fireworks display from Zambelli Fireworks at 9pm There is never a dull moment in the most fun small town in America Holiday festivities are presented to you by the City of Delray Beach and produced by the Delray Beach Marketing Cooperative. MORE INFORMATION Visit for details. 11 Sexy & Self-Made Women s Business Conference DATE July 11-13th 2014 LOCATION West Palm Beach Marriott 1001 Okeechobee Blvd West Palm Beach TIME 9 00am DETAILS Join us at the Sexy & Self-Made Women s Business Conference in Florida There will be 20 speakers and panelists from all over the country. This Women s Conference is specifically designed for women entrepreneurs who are ready to take their business to the next level. Ticket prices begin at 297 and VIP is 394. MORE INFORMATION call 888-295-2526 22 Bank of America Broadway Across America and Florida Theatrical Association present Cirque Dreams Jungle Fantasy DATE July 22 - 27 TIMES Vary LOCATION Broward Center of Performing Arts 201 SW 5th Avenue Ft. Lauderdale DETAILS The groundbreaking & critically acclaimed Broadway hit Cirque Dreams Jungle Fantasy will heat up Fort Lauderdale this summer Created and directed by renowned theatrical and circus impresario Neil Goldberg Cirque Dreams Jungle Fantasy is an exotic encounter inspired by nature s unpredictable creations that are brought to life by an international cast of soaring aerialists spine-bending contortionists acrobats jugglers and musicians. This world-class explosion of imagination athleticism and Broadway theatrics will exhilarate and entertain audiences of all ages. Tickets 34.75 and up. MORE INFORMATION Find details at All calendar events must be submitted by July 31st for consideration in our September issue. Please include event location date details and contact information and email to karen Events considered for publication are normally limited to community wide charity events or events hosted by our advertisers. We cannot guarantee that all events submitted will be published. HLM 12 Boca Burger Battle A Grilling Affair DATE July 12 TIME 6 00pm 10 00pm LOCATION Sanborn Square Park 72 N Federal Highway Boca Raton DETAILS Tickets start at 45. Guests will experience grilling sensations from Palm Beach County and South Florida s top chefs serving burgers veggie burgers and alternative burgers and featured bites Enjoy craft beers summer wines seasonal spirits live entertainment garden market a retail bazaar and view a prestigious team of grill master judges as they sample 50 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 51