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KIDS IN THE KITCHEN HOME INSURANCE 101 FALL PREVIEW SASSY PANTS CHILDREN S BOUTIQUE of ESTATE & WINERY Lawrence VIAGGIO ri Te staff & contacts Publisher and Editor-In-Chief Kimberly Mullen kimberly herlifemagazine.com 209-224-8810 Beth Dostal beth herlifemagazine.com For advertising information please call 209-224-8810 Kelly Moore kelly herlifemagazine.com 209-200-1229 Vikki Sandor-Girolami vikki herlifemagazine.com 209-629-5382 Editor Art Director Associate Art Directors Advertising Art Director Contributing Authors Marilyn Isaminger Kathryn Creel kathryn herlifemagazine.com Paige Fisher Ashleigh Thomson Elana Bell elana herlifemagazine.com Sharon Filomeo Baker Adriana Brogger Joseph R. Burlin M.D. Melody Bussey Lisa Taranto Butler Patty Cook Beth Dostal Hope E. Ferguson Stephanie Fox Rebecca Flansburg Doug Frost Dr. Lisa Hunt Marilyn Isaminger Lindsay Laderoute Tina V. 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We welcome your ideas articles and feedback. 8 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 9 HERLIFE CONTENTS features 18 38 44 32 12 16 Welcome From the Publisher Health Changing Your Circadian Rhythm Spotlight Stewart Chiropractic of Lodi Integrative Medicine HCG Diet Community Spotlight Lodi Health Adult Day Care Working Women Your Professional Website Finance Tips on Home Insurance Cosmetic Surgery Common Plastic Surgery Questions HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 46 54 Trendsetter Sassy Pants Children s Boutique Mother s Perspective Decorating Your Child s Room Culinary Kids in the Kitchen Community Spotlight The Art Korner of Stockton Spotlight Sasha Sloup Real Estate Owning a Bed and Breakfast Home Preparing Your Home for a Natural Disaster Travel Tips for International Travel 76 80 Beauty Coolest Jobs in Fashion Spotlight Doctor s Hospital of Manteca Book Club Fin and Lady Pets Service Dogs She Said Yes Amber and Peter Tie the Knot Blair and Jonathan Fisher Scene and be Seen Niello Concours Raduno at Design Galleria by Valentine Horoscopes Calendar of Events 62 64 66 68 70 72 82 84 86 88 92 32 38 40 Inspirations Teri Lawrence Cravings Casa Flores Recipes Lasagna Rolls Hash Brown-Crusted Quiche with Sausage Wine Winery Tourist Winery Upstream Wines Behind The Menu Lodi Beer Co. Foodies Garden Sustaining Sustainability Green Living Genetically Modified Foods 18 20 22 24 26 30 42 44 46 48 50 52 74 94 96 10 HERLIFE WELCOME rescue B ing for him. usy in my office in the midst of deadline I looked down at my phone and saw two missed calls from my dad. My heart sank as I frantically called him back. I hadn t even heard my phone ring and it was out of character for my dad to have called twice. He answered in a frustrated tone as I stammered on demanding to know what was wrong. I heard him shuffling around as he shared the news he had lost his keys somewhere on the golf course. I felt relieved as I continued to hear him pilfer through his golf bag unzipping every compartment and muttering under his breath. I talked slowly in a calm voice and agreed to bring him his spare key. I could hear the frustration in his voice and assured him we would find his keys. For some people this may not be that big of a deal. For my dad who never makes mistakes it was beyond annoyIn the heat of this late Thursday afternoon in my work clothes and high heels I arrived at the golf course with his spare car key. Before I knew it my dad and I were in a golf cart retracing his steps and every swing. After riding through nine holes from one side of each fairway to the next including one sand trap we gave up the search. I assured my dad if someone found them they would certainly turn them in. As the tenacious person that he is my dad insisted we head to the barn where they store the golf carts and search through each cart one by one. We searched I was a sweaty mess by this point and he finally gave up. He thanked me for coming to his rescue and I headed back to work. Later that evening a text message from my mom confirmed that someone had found his keys and turned them in to the pro shop. Coming to my dad s rescue made me feel good. Even though I complained I enjoyed helping him and liked that he now was relying on me for help. Countless times he and my mom have come to my rescue over forgotten homework lost keys broken hearts dead car batteries empty gas tanks and sometimes even a little bit of trouble. I m happy to be the one they rely on when they forget to lock the back door and are sitting in the airport in San Francisco leaving for Hawaii or when they simply lose their keys. p h o to by stu d i o m o h s o h Kimberly Mullen facebook Herlife of Central Valley twitter HERlifeCali 12 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 15 HERLIFE HEALTH can you change your circadian rhythm by lis a t ar ant o b ut ler A re you the kind of person who flings the covers back each morning and wakes full of vibrant energy ready to tackle the day Or does your daybreak routine involve hiding under a layer of bedding with only one arm emerging every nine minutes in an effort to hit the snooze button can get out of whack leaving us reluctant to get out of bed. Although our internal clocks may do most of the conducting when it comes to our sleep train it is possible for most of us to modify our sleeping habits with a bit of planning and a lot of determination. Circadian rhythm is forceful but changing some outside factors can help you over time go from being a Nighttime Nancy to more of a Morning Melody. Get Yourself READY for Sleep Turn off the media at least an hour before you want to go to bed. This includes the TV cell phone and computer. Avoid eating and drinking alcohol before bedtime as these may hamper your sleep and possibly wake you up later. Instead set your sound machine for 30 minutes of ocean waves or babbling brook or whatever soothes you. It s fine to read but stay away from horror novels heated political news articles or anything else that keeps you from winding down. If your body continues to move or your emotions run high your sleep signals may not be strong enough to override the activity. See The Light When you do wake up get some light therapy right away. Expose yourself to bright light immediately after getting out of bed. Do your health another favor by exercising outdoors. Take a 30-minute walk jog or bike in the sun or get your sunlight fix alternatively with a special light box or portable light visor. Just make sure the box carries about 10 000 lux illumination. What makes one person a morning person and the other a night owl Circadian rhythm and a mixture of genetics lifestyle choices and our environment play a big role in our sleep patterns. But can we change our circadian rhythm Can a formerly night-time-loving human wake up an early morning riser Yes we can change our shut-eye schedule but it takes some work. As living beings we carry a roughly 24-hour cycle in our physiological processes. Human circadian rhythms are generated internally and vary from person to person. However a circadian rhythm can be altered by external cues such as sunlight and other outside forces. How much sleep you have gotten over a certain time period also influences how much your body needs z s. Light exposure is a major factor affecting our circadian rhythm. Light adjusts our body s internal clock and suppresses the release of melatonin a natural hormone that signals to the body that it s time to sleep. This is why some people find it more difficult to wake in the winter. Less sunlight means more melatonin making us feel sleepy in those early-morning hours. Plus in our technology-loving world computers cell phones and televisions all provide artificial light that shifts our body clocks later making it harder to hit the hay. Combine that with caffeine consumption exercise habits and other lifestyle choices and it all 16 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Get up--Like Clockwork Just as a baby thrives with a regular routine our daily schedule is important to our overall well-being not to mention our mood. Go to bed and get up at the same time each day don t slack on Saturdays and Sundays. Even two days off of the schedule can cause a funk in our rhythm. Most experts agree that it is fine to go to sleep and awake an hour later on the weekends but trying to catch up can wreak havoc on our bodies which thrive on regularity. Waking and sleeping at set times reinforces a consistent sleep rhythm and allows the brain to release sleep and wake hormones when needed. Try Melatonin Taking an over-the-counter melatonin supplement a synthetic version of the natural hormone produced by the pineal gland may be helpful. The National Sleep Foundation notes that a typical dose is one to three milligrams follow the supplement label s instructions and take it one to two hours before bedtime after eating. Swallowing the tablets whole and not crushing or chewing them ensures the release of the melatonin slowly for a more even sleep. Melatonin is powerful so ingesting too much can actually disrupt your sleep pattern and cause waking in the middle of the night so make sure to adhere to any guidelines set by your doctor. When it comes to sleep our internal clocks may rule the roost but we can change the factors that affect whether we are a night owl or a morning person. With a little tweaking and some strength of mind we can rise and shine with the early birds and feel good all day long. HLM Sources sleepfoundation.org droz.com drfranklipman.com and washingtonpost.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 17 HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT A COMPLETE WELLNESS CENTER by re becca flans burg phot ogr ap hy by julie nic ole p hot ogr ap hy Stewart Chiropractic of Lodi If you are suffering and looking for a natural and holistic way to treat your pain chances are that we can help informed Dr. Kevin L. Stewart owner and licensed doctor of chiropractic. Back in 1997 when we were looking for a place to start my practice my wife Carol and I settled in the Lodi area because we knew it was a wonderful community and very family oriented. We have six children ourselves Shanise Tessa Autumn Taylor Sierra and Andi so that was a key factor in choosing this community to practice in. Since then we have spent the last 17 years creating a wellness W 18 center that s committed to assisting patients without the use of drugs or hen looking for a natural and effective way to achieve health and relief from pain Lodi residents need look no further than Stewart Chiropractic. Proudly providing quality comprehensive chiropractic care and natural solutions since 1997 this multi-faceted surgery. For those who aren t familiar with chiropractic care Dr. Stewart shared that it is the science and philosophy of taking the human body figuring out how it was designed and returning it to that state particularly with the bones of the back and neck. These bones can get moved out of place similar to your car being out of alignment and it can affect the nerves causing pain and discomfort along with other conditions. Chiropractic treatment involves moving these out-of-alignment bones back into place restoring movement to the joints and nerves and providing a healthy means for the patient to not only feel better but be able to function as close to 100 percent as possible. chiropractic care facility is more than a place to go when your back hurts. Dr. Stewart and his staff of six have become a resource for anyone needing advanced holistic health care for ailments including sports injuries motor vehicle accidents work injuries disc injuries arthritis failed back surgeries shoulder pain issues and of course lower back pain or neck pain and advanced back injury care. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Chiropractic is also a philosophy the philosophy of natural health Dr. Stewart shared. In my office we do a lot of nutritional counseling along with lifestyle coaching such as stretches exercises and even yoga. Our goal is to enable our patients to get the most out of life and enjoy vibrant health for years to come. Chiropractic is also a philosophy the philosophy of natural health Dr. Stewart shared. In my office we do a lot of nutritional counseling along with lifestyle coaching such as stretches exercises and even yoga. Our goal is to enable our patients to get the most out of life and enjoy vibrant health for years to come. Massage therapy is another service we offer it coordinates well with chiropractic because it works to reduce the inflammation once we get their bones aligned with the chiropractic treatment. We also offer physical therapy weight loss via laser called LipoLaser Lapex 2000 and other weight loss and wellness programs. The Yoga Center was opened by Carol in 2009 and not too much longer after that I opted to move my office in with her yoga studio to offer a more complete wellness center to our patients. We also have a Nutrition Club that is a few doors down that I created to complement the chiropractic business and to help our patients better understand healthy eating as well. We have everything from special introductory offers to specific meal plans with the end goal of helping people lose weight increase muscle and just be healthier. Everything we do at Stewart Chiropractic is focused on doing what we need to do to get patients healthy and able to live their lives to the fullest. Dr. Stewart has been practicing holistic and natural options for wellness since childhood. He grew up in a family that believed in natural remedies and the philosophy and belief of natural and holistic solutions remained in the forefront of his mind as he researched the different disciplines within the medical field. When Carol started working with a chiropractor years ago he was then able to experience the results of chiropractic medicine first hand. I was really amazed at all the options available with chiropractic and I especially like watching those who were coming in pain leave feeling dramatically better he shared. That was what really helped to convince me that the chiropractic profession was the path I needed to follow. I want Central Valley residents to know that there are many ways to begin feeling better and on the road to better health without having to rely on medications and surgeries Dr. Stewart affirmed. My favorite part of my job is when I can see my patients are feeling much better after their treatment and are leaving my office saying I can t believe how much better I feel. I also enjoy when I am teaching a patient a principle of health and they get it. They have an aha moment right before my eyes. That is just so rewarding for me and reinforces my commitment to help others get out of pain and regain their health through chiropractic care. HLM For more information on Stewart Chiropractic visit them on the web bestyoucanfeel.com or on Facebook facebook.com kevin.stewart.3367. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 19 HERLIFE INTEGRATIVE MEDICINE HCG Diet were obese. Due to the nature of the HCG program it is customary to see a minimum loss of one-half pound per day up to greater than one pound per day. Individual results vary and are affected by baseline metabolism medical conditions and compliance. The benefits of HCG include better more restful sleep lower counts for cholesterol and blood pressure improved energy levels reduced symptoms of fibromyalgia and arthritis decreased symptoms of depression boosts to self-confidence softer skin and resolution of brittle nails average weight loss of up to one-half to one pound per day and decreased hunger. Dr. Hunt and Valley Wellness Center are proud to offer Dr. Emma s HCG Diet Program along with giving patients the knowledge to implement a healthier lifestyle once they complete the HCG program. For more information on the HCG programs available through Valley Wellness Center please visit DrLisaHunt.com. HLM plan for you. Dr. Emma has spent years conducting research and clinical trials and has formulated a very specific program for the use of HCG. Dr. Emma s HCG Diet Program uses specific medical dosing of Human Chorionic Gonadotropin during a low-calorie diet. The HCG is a hormone that is made by the body during pregnancy. It is a natural protein hormone that acts as a precursor in the bodies of both men and women to produce hormones such as testosterone estrogen progesterone and thyroid hormones. The weight loss expected on an HCG Program is dependent upon the degree of obesity at the start of the program. The closer someone gets to their ideal body weight the slower weight loss is due to the fact that their body is leaner and doesn t require as many calories as when they T he kids are going back to school and many of us have a little more free time on our hands. Now is the time to focus on health and wellness and getting that bikini body we never accomplished during the summer Dr. Emma s HCG Diet Program implemented by Dr. Hunt and Valley Wellness might be just the Dr. Lisa Hunt Lisa J. Hunt D.O. is the Medical Director of Valley Wellness Center in Modesto whose mission is to build on every level of your health to achieve the best quality of life. She is Board certified in Family Medicine and Holistic and Integrative Medicine. She specializes in anti-aging treatment natural thyroid replacement menopause andropause therapy (including bio-identical hormone replacement) strengthening the immune system neurotransmitter analysis replacement and nutritional support guidance. 20 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE COMMUNITY SPOTLIGHT LODI HEALTH ADULT DAY CARE CENTER by r eb ec c a flans b u rg p h o to gra p hy by b ri g g s p h o to gra p hy Support and Resources for Caregiving Families B 22 eing an in-home caregiver for a family member or loved one with dementia or Alzheimer s is an act of love and it is also a commitment that requires 24 7 care. For many caregivers this means few breaks rare days off and possibly even a toll on health and relationships. possible. Staying active and stimulated also helps our participants stay healthy. It s an effort for many of our participants to get up get dressed and come to the Adult Day Care Center but it s an effort that needs to be made. Once they are here they laugh joke make friends stay busy and have a good time. Participants at the Day Care Center are not only able to enjoy benefits like music therapy arts and crafts group activities and a healthy meal but any medical conditions can be monitored on-site as well. All Day Care Center staff members are trained in providing basic medical support including blood pressure monitoring assistance with medications and prescribed physical therapy exercises. While the program greatly benefits older and disabled adults who cannot fully care for themselves the program also provides caregiving families support services. We know that 24 7 caregiving is exhausting confirmed Terri. Family members or spouses often feel that it is their duty to provide care for their loved ones as they age. But as time goes on they get more and more exhausted to the point that it becomes harder for them to get through the day. By encouraging their family member to come to our Day Care program they are also allowing themselves time and space to breathe relax and For 24 years Lodi Health Adult Day Care Center has been providing safe loving healthy and supervised options for Central Valley residents and caregivers. Located at the Lodi Community Center at Hutchins Street Square the Adult Day Care helps to fill the gap between senior centers and long-term care while giving spouses or other caregivers a chance to rest get a well-deserved break or even simply run errands. The program provides friendly stimulating care and support through a variety of daily activities with a common goal of providing a safe and nurturing atmosphere for participants. This program is as much for the participant as it is for the care provider affirmed Terri Whitmire a 43-year veteran of Lodi Health a fourth generation Lodian and also director of their Adult Day Care program. It s a win-win for both plus it s an affordable option that allows family members and spouses to keep their loved one in their own home as long as HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM remain healthy. We also offer a support group called Adult Children with Aging Relatives Care Providers that allows caregivers to talk with those in similar situations and offer support. A key person in the success of Adult Day Care program Terri has been working with day care participants for more than two decades. I had been working in Lodi Health s emergency department for 18 years when I saw the job posting for a director of their new adult day care center she shared. At that point in my medical career I was ready for a change and saw this position as an opportunity for a new challenge. Being a former caregiver myself I could see the benefits for family members and spouses and for those struggling with long-term illness as well. When I was appointed to the position I started with nothing more than a big room four round tables sixteen chairs a desk and a typewriter. We didn t even have a radio or a deck of cards It was a pretty basic beginning but we built a premier and model program that we are incredibly proud of. Terri and her team of six caregivers are also committed to maintain dignity and provide the participants who come through the day care s doors a loving atmosphere that fits their personality and comfort level. I love watching our participants laugh and have a good time. I also love when a family member comes in and tells me that they are so grateful for our program and that they see such a positive change in their loved one It s a win-win for both plus it s an affordable option that allows family members and spouses to keep their loved one in their own home as long as possible. Staying active and stimulated also helps our participants stay healthy. -- Terri Whitmire Terri stated proudly. It s very sad when we lose a participant but we also realize that we provided a special place for them where they could laugh joke and be around people their own age. Families need to know that they do not have to deal with care-giving alone that we are here to help and coming to the day care will benefit all involved Terri affirmed. We encourage everyone who is in a caregiver role to not wait until there s a crisis. Take the steps needed to seek out help and support now. HLM To learn more about Lodi Health s Adult Day care program visit their website at lodihealth.org index.php services adult-day-care. License 3903-13117. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 23 HERLIFE WORKING WOMEN your professional website by h o p e e . f e rg u so n what to include on situations pictures that our kids will find embarrassing or harsh and strident political positions that will only cause controversy with family or co-workers to name a few. We re savvy enough to know that nothing on the Internet ever disappears. But if you are a professional woman have you thought strategically about what ought to be included and what should be omitted from your professional website In these days of Googling this is often the first impression someone will have of your business. Dr. Liz Musil a virtual business coach professor consultant author and founder of Liz Musil Consultants LLC has been developing websites for businesses for more than 15 years in banking entertainment music social media and fashion. With mobile computing becoming more common she stresses that websites should look good on and function well across all devices computers laptops tablets and the wide variety of phones. The URL or address should be easy to remember and the navigation should be clear. The information on the homepage and the About section should clearly display what your business does and it s essential to list your expertise as well as a brief biography. On your About page (you should talk about) your mission vision and values as well as any background information experience and benefits to clients she says. Musil thinks it s essential that there should be integration to social media Facebook LinkedIn Twitter and other available platforms. She adds that a professional website 24 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM I deally we all know what should never appear on our social media sites photos of us in compromising should feature appealing images and videos that load quickly and content that is fresh and updated regularly. Many websites now also take advantage of YouTube videos to explain what the business does. The quality of the video is important as well to lend professionalism to the site. If you are selling products from your website it s essential to have a Products page a Services page with secure checkout and a portfolio with examples of your work and client testimonials. Other helpful sections are an FAQ page for quick answers a blog a link for policies and copyright information and a sitemap. JoAnn M. Lang chairperson and CMO of Information Strategies Inc. which publishes Small Business Digest one of the longest-serving websites for small businesses stresses that women should have a clear call to action prominently displayed. Keep clutter at a minimum and focus on the visitor s needs not on touting the business. She recommends a photo but one that does not dominate the page. Sisters Renee and Julie Fry developed a website for their elder care business Making Care Easier that is sleek and airy. They too feature a YouTube video and prominently displayed offerings such as private customized caring solutions that allow families to develop their own plan for caring and easy to use tools to identify and track what needs to be done when and by whom. They will soon be adding an online community of caregivers and experts also advertised on the site to share advice and practical strategies. In addition they have links to articles about Alzheimer s long-term care cancer and assisted living. The top of the page gives clients the opportunity to create a simple website outlining their loved one s care. From our experience and from our great lawyer s advice you must have terms and conditions of use indemnifications privacy notices and contact information to ask for help or give suggestions Renee adds. What should never appear on a business website In our opinion tons of information that results in the inability to take action says Renee. For us if you need a walker for your mom we want you to be able to buy that walker not have to go to ten other sites. As another example if you find a lawyer you want to talk to you should be able to see her number right there and be able to call immediately or hit an email link. The days of getting just information are limited as action is where users want to go when using a website. Musil adds that other no-no s include slow loading cluttered pages and too much animation or music. However this caution doesn t apply to a business for a recording artist a music-sharing site or a seller of similar services. A rule that applies equally to face-to-face interactions and social media and websites is that first impressions are lasting--you only have one opportunity to make that first impression. If you re not an expert entrust your site to the best web developer you can afford. Fashion designer Sue Wong who aims to use her website in fun refreshing and exciting ways drives traffic to retailers such as Saks Fifth Avenue and Nordstrom where her creations are sold. Easy action and immediate efficiency--that s the name of the game she says. It s a matter of she who holds the click holds the power HLM Sources 2sbdigest.com lizmusilconsultants.com makingcareeasier. com and suewong.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 25 HERLIFE FINANCE home insurance by ti n a v. sava s tips on inherits a big bag of jewelry or art from a distant relative. Whether it s disaster or improvement you need a home insurance plan that s regularly monitored by your insurance agent. Most of us assume too much is covered so it s important to confirm exactly what your policy insures. Basic policies usually insure against loss caused by wind fire water and theft but they typically don t cover loss of specific valuables flood or sinkholes and some may provide only partial coverage. Deductibles the amount you are required to pay out of your own pocket before the insurance policy kicks in may go up by as much as two to five percent annually. That means you will shell out more cash. As a general rule homeowners insurance protects your home and personal property from water or steam fire or lightning windstorm or hail explosion riot or civil commotion falling objects aircraft vehicles smoke damage vandalism theft ice snow sleet electrical current or freezing of Y our home has bad days...just like us. Trees fall on it pipes explode tornadoes rip the roof off or a neighbor sues because that forgotten tree falls on their house. Your home also has good days...just like us. A new driveway or deck appears a second story is added or its owner plumbing heating air conditioning and fire protection systems. Dog bites artwork data jewelry and valuable papers are generally included in liability coverage but it is extremely important for you to fully understand exactly what is covered before you purchase your policy. For example the technical term anti-concurrent causation relates to two events happening at the same time. If one of those events such as flooding is not covered by your policy then the policy might not cover damage from either event. That would mean flooding and wind damage that happen together could be your responsibility Riders and special endorsements are available for extra coverage or missing coverage but you won t know what you need unless you ask. For example one of the most common add-ons to homeowner policies is the replacement cost coverage. Since most insurance policies have caps they might not cover the cost of completely rebuilding a home after a fire for example. Surprisingly homeowners believe their policies cover the full cost of rebuilding but they have to buy guaranteed replacement cost for an additional premium. Often overlooked by homeowners are required upgrades to their home. Even if new laws require updates in undamaged parts of a home to Continued on page 28 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 27 bring the dwelling up to code insurance policies generally offer a limited amount of coverage. An ordinance or law endorsement will add coverage for this loss exposure. The most important exclusion is flood coverage especially now with the increase in hurricanes and tornadoes in this country. Many people have learned this lesson the hard way. If you need flood insurance your agent can help you get it especially if you live in a flood-prone area. Mortgage companies require flood insurance within flood zones. But sometimes your risk is not as obvious. You may not live in a flood-prone area but nearby construction in your subdivision may divert water flow and cause problems. It helps to keep up with zoning changes. There is usually a 30-day waiting period for flood insurance. No standard insurance policy covers catastrophic damage that can be caused by an earthquake. If you live in a fault area this endorsement makes good sense for you. Another good example is personal property. Most policies limit the coverage for fur or jewelry theft to 500 or firearms and computers to 1 000. It may benefit you to add a scheduled personal property endorsement to your basic policy. You can also purchase additional liability coverage and medical payments coverage for a nominal amount. Ask your agent about a separate umbrella policy which extends your coverage even more to include other risks from auto accidents to libel. Many homeowners add this protection allowing 1 million or more to protect against lawsuits. You may be able to acquire this coverage for 150 to Surprisingly homeowners believe their policies cover the full cost of rebuilding but they have to buy guaranteed replacement cost for an additional premium. 200 a year quite a bargain. If you live in a condominium this presents special consideration. Check with your homeowners association since your roof may be covered in the association s policy for example but any water damage from your water heater is your responsibility. If your child attends college and lives in an apartment you need to know whether his apartment contents are covered under your policy. If not consider renters insurance. Your policy also can pay for normal living expenses if you find yourself homeless after a severe weather event. Hotel bills and meals are often covered while your house is rebuilt. And if your vehicle is damaged it is most likely covered under the optional comprehensive portion of your standard auto insurance policy. Keep in mind that policies differ across the country depending on your climate and geography. Companies offer an array of benefits that s why smart homeowners stay in touch with their agent during good times and bad. HLM Sources insureuonline.org money.usnews.com bankrate.com farmers.com and irmi.com. 28 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 29 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE COSMETIC SURGERY JOSEPH R. BURLIN MD American Board of Plastic Surgery Stanford Trained More than 25 Years of Experience Common Plastic Surgery Questions Q. Mother Nature was kind to me in many ways but she did forget to give me a full and proportionate bottom. It really bothers me. I ve read that you can do surgery to augment or enhance this area but I find the explanations confusing. What do you think A. Gluteal enhancement (Brazilian Butt Lift) is a procedure that is still relatively uncommon but becoming increasingly popular. The concept behind this surgery is to increase the volume (and thus the size) of the buttocks in one of two ways (1) via the placement of a silicone implant or (2) via the injection of a patient s own fat. The complication rate for the implant option (infection implant malposition implant rupture poor scarring chronic pain) make this much less desirable than the fat injection option which is far more popular. In the fat injection procedure fat is harvested from other areas of the body via conventional liposuction (primarily the abdomen and outer hips) and then injected back into the buttock area. The hardest part of the surgery is the recovery as patients are not allowed to sit (standing and lying are okay) for three weeks. Q. My previous girlfriend had breast implants and they were ultrasoft and very natural feeling. My new girlfriend also has breast implants but they feel somewhat firm and certainly not natural. She loves them but I do not. Why do some breasts feel firm and others feel so soft A. The condition you describe is called capsular contracture which is simply the development of a scar tissue envelope that forms around the implant and makes it feel firmer than normal. Capsular contracture is estimated to occur in approximately 8 to 12 percent of all patients undergoing breast implant surgery. Plastic surgeons classify patients with capsular contracture into four categories or groups based on firmness and symptoms. In a Grade 1 classification the breast is very soft and looks natural Grade 2 the breast feels a little firm but still looks normal Grade 3 the breast feels quite firm and looks abnormal most commonly because the scar tissue has changed the appearance of the breast into a more roundedlooking shape which is also often positioned too high on the chest wall. In a Grade 4 classification the breast is very hard often painful and looks very abnormal. Treatment of capsular contracture is highly successful but often requires additional surgery. Q. I am 38 and have had three children. Despite the fact that I work out regularly I simply cannot get rid of my flabby stomach. I have seen two plastic surgeons about getting a tummy tuck procedure. One of them insists that my tummy muscles need to be tightened at the time of the surgery the other surgeon says that is rarely necessary. I m confused. What do you recommend A. First of all it is impossible to discuss your case specifically without examining you personally but my general thoughts and recommendations on this subject are as follows. There are two very strong muscles (rectus abdominis) that run vertically up and down the center of the abdomen one on the right side of the abdomen and one on the left side (It s the rectus muscle that forms the famous six pack look in some patients). These muscles are attached by a very strong tendon-like structure (linea alba) that holds them firmly together. During pregnancy elevated hormone levels cause the linea alba to soften thus allowing the muscles to more easily drift to the side and thus get out of the way to allow the baby to more easily come forward. Following delivery the forward pressure of the baby goes away the hormone levels fall and the muscles come back together but not necessarily back together all the way. There is often a small gap that occurs between the muscles called a diastasis recti which commonly increases with each pregnancy. Some patients can even feel this gap in their muscles if they lie on their back lift their head up and feel along the midline of their abdomen. There is nothing wrong or dangerous in having a diastasis and it is not the same thing as a hernia. However it does affect the functional strength of the abdomen if you were having a tummy tuck surgery and the surgeon was right there with the muscle and diastasis in plain view I as a surgeon find it hard to resist making the abdomen as perfect as it can be and will almost always go ahead and tighten the muscles. Patients may be a little more tender for a few days following surgery as a result of tightening the muscles but in the long run they are especially grateful for their enhanced results. HLM If you have questions or would like to hear about a certain topic relating to cosmetic surgery or skin care please email your questions to Kimberly herlifemagazine.com 30 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE INSPIRATIONS ri Te to strengthen the process of learning the art of winemaking. a visit the winery. of VIAGGIO ESTATE & WINERY w ri tte n by re b e c c a f l a n sb u rg p h o to gra p hy by b ri g gs ph o t o gr a phy h a i r a n d m a ke u p by m e l i ssa si m a s a n d l i n d say l o e b s o f p e rf e c t b a l a n ce day s pa LAWRENCE VIAGGIO MEANS JOURNEY IN ITALIAN AND ANYONE IN THE CEN- TRAL VALLEY REGION LOOKING TO experience a memorable journey into wine country will be mesmerized by Viaggio Estate & Winery of Acampo. A gorgeous winery and event center located in the heart of Lodi s Wine Country Viaggio offers secluded and private elegance nestled among the beautiful walnut orchards and the serenity of the river. At the center of the activity beauty and success of this property is owner Teri Lawrence. Along with being a successful business owner Teri is a microbiologist and scientist with a BS in microbiology with a minor emphasis on biochemistry. She is also a scientist with a lifetime license with the State of California who has spent the last two years using her extensive chemistry and microbial background Like any journey that is filled with twists and turns the Lawrences original plans after moving to Central Valley had nothing to do with winemaking or even owning a vineyard. Teri s husband Larry a real estate agent mentioned the winery when it was suddenly listed for sale. Interested in tapping into in Teri s business savvy Larry insisted she take a look at the winery so she could help him with marketing the 23-acre property. After several weeks of his insistence Teri finally conceded and the pair paid Every day I get up very early in the morning so that I can have devotion time before my day gets started. Larry and I both thank God daily for the courage and strength to live our lives to the fullest each day. We know we are so blessed in so many ways and that faith keeps us going strong. Once I got there I fell in love with the place Teri admitted. It was such a stunning property with an exquisite backdrop of the Mokelumne River. There were breathtaking outside grounds and several venues all of them with gorgeous picturesque views. I went there with no intention of HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 33 We are so proud to be able to provide highquality events that will make each couple s wedding dreams come true. One of my favorite moments when we plan weddings for couples is at the very end when it s all over and we can see how happy everyone is and how well everything went. buying a winery and we obviously knew nothing about winemaking but I left with a strong desire to run the winery and make it our own. But this time it was Larry s turn to be reluctant. After several weeks of speculation and deep thinking the business-minded couple decided to go for it. In May 2012 the Lawrences became the proud owners of Viaggio Estate & Winery. The real eye-opener came when once we owned the place and were on the premises it dawned on me that we knew nothing about winemaking Teri shared with a smile. But Larry and I love a challenge and we have never been deterred by hard work. We also decided the best way to get started creating award-winning wines would be to talk with others who were in a similar situation. One day while at a winemakers meeting I was asking some of the attendees if they knew of anyone who would be willing to teach us the ropes of winemaking. It was then that we were directed to a lovely woman named Heather. We spoke briefly and she agreed to stop by our winery to take a look. At the time I had no idea I had been talking to Heather Pyle from Lucas Winery a very well-known and respected winemaker. I was so fortunate to have someone so experienced step forward and be our guiding light in our winemaking endeavors. To this day she has taught me everything I know about winemaking and has helped us become the successful winemakers that we are today. Thanks to Heather s teachings our very first batch of wines won five awards in 2014. Since those wines were the very first batch of wines I can t wait to see what our upcoming batches will be like. We are now in our third year of winemaking and the whole experience has been very fulfilling and a vast learning opportunity. 34 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Winemaking is not the only facet of Viaggio. As a popular venue for gatherings and celebrations the winery hosts up to 28 weddings per year and the event planning and hosting is a vibrant part of the business. Teri and her staff supply virtually everything for their incoming brides and grooms including catered meals arranging for a photographer flowers entertainment and much more. The weddings are so much fun for us and we work to provide very upscale and highclass wedding experiences Teri affirmed. I tell those who book with us that Viaggio will supply everything for their wedding but the gown and the invitations Thanks to the expansiveness of Viaggio s property the Lawrences are able to offer seven different locations to choose from for wedding ceremonies including a Tuscan-style banquet hall that seats 480 people. Another unique amenity at Viaggio is a quaint river cottage for the women in the bridal party to get ready in and a man cave for the groom and groomsmen that includes a bar foosball table and big-screen TV Teri added. We are so proud to be able to provide high-quality events that will make each couple s wedding dreams come true. One of my favorite moments when we plan weddings for couples is at the very end when it s all over and we can see how happy everyone is and how well everything went. Despite her passion for the weddings that occur on their property Teri shared that her main passion is creating wines within the Viaggio Winery grounds. There s just something so amazing about the whole winemaking process Teri acknowledged. I love every part of it. From picking the grapes to watching the end product go into our private label bottles I am in love with the whole wine process. My favorite part is the harvest and the crush. When the time comes for the grapes to be picked I am right out there picking and supervising. We are a small winery so we are committed to quality and producing only the best wines and we need to be choosy about the grapes that we crush. Watching the whole process come to life is such an adrenaline rush for me and I don t think I will ever get tired of watching that creation take place. Teri feels that she is blessed to have a staff of around 25 employees who assist with everything from grape harvest and helping in the tasting room to helping her coordinate weddings and clean up after events. My staff is wonderful and I couldn t do it without them. But I also couldn t do all that I do without the love and support of my husband Larry. We are one of those couples who can work together all day long and still enjoy every minute of it. We ve been married for 12 years have worked virtually side by side all those years and we wouldn t change that for the world. Though her days are full and sometimes hectic Teri shared that she feels she has found a balance between work family and play. When we first started out with the winery it was very exhausting and we were working 18 hours a day. The main reason we were able to get through that time is that we never lost sight of our end goal. We always kept our eye on the prize which was to have a vibrant and flourishing winery. But there are days when the big picture was very overwhelming and during those times I would focus on that day and only that day. Business owners need to be willing to put in the hard work and time but also not lose sight of why you are doing what you do. Even today I keep a very detailed calendar and everything I do from meetings to my daily bike rides or dinners with Larry get scheduled on that calendar. If I don t schedule in everything especially down time something else will come along and fill up that space. What has been a key factor in their growing success Teri credits their deep faith in God for all that they have achieved. We have such a strong faith and we incorporate that in everything we do Teri affirmed. Every day I get up very early in the morning so that I can have devotion time before my day gets started. Larry and I both thank Him daily for the courage and strength to live our lives to the fullest each day. We know we are so blessed in so many ways and that faith keeps us going strong. HLM Visit viaggiowinery.com viaggiowinery to learn more about this spectacular venue and vineyard. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 35 L di Living HERLIFE CRAVINGS Casa Flores wri tte n by a d ri a n a b ro g ge r p h o to gra p hy by b ri g g s p h o to gra p hy in four different cities many Valley families have made memories over delicious plates of traditional Mexican food. I met up with mother-son duo Margarita Flores and Octavio Cruces to learn about the family traditions the love of food community and a desire to pay it forward. The story of the Flores family started in Zacatecas Mexico. Margarita tells me the familial love for cooking began with her parents especially her mother who taught her children to respect the process. My mom was always cooking. She had a passion for it. That passion was passed on to her children. In 1986 brothers Josu and Aar n Flores decided to take their family recipes and try their hand at a mobile food truck at a Stockton flea market. They did well--so well that Josu decided to enroll in culinary classes at San Joaquin Delta College to improve his skills and commit to the food industry. Josu and Aar n along with their sister Antonia Vargas opened the very first Casa Flores on Stockton s Weber Street. That location did so well that three more siblings got cooking. Efra n Flores Judith Flores and Petra Flores all opened up a second location on Pacific Avenue. Things went well at that location too. Soon Petra was able to expand the business into Lodi with a third location. All along Margarita was working as a server and learning the business in her siblings restau38 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM M ultiple generations of food family and love make a fantastic recipe for several successful local restaurants Casa Flores. Casa Flores is a name that has earned culinary respect in the area. With the restaurant s nine locations There are more than 80 varieties of tequilas to taste at Casa Flores Marina Center. In fact Octavio even hosts a local Agave Festival. It s a night of tequila tasting and education. Octavio invites other local restaurants of various genres and pairs their food with tequilas and even offers fresh fruit tequila. It s a night not to be missed This year the event is scheduled for October 11-- that s next month rants. Later Efra n moved the family business into Modesto. In 1999 it was Margarita s turn She opened Casa Flores on Hammer Lane. As a divorced mother of three it was a risk to take on her own restaurant. People told me I was crazy. They said it wasn t a good location. The shopping center wouldn t attract customers. But I thought I don t care. I need to take a risk on myself. I m going to do this Margarita said. Her children Juan Adriana and Octavio helped out in the family business. So it wasn t too surprising when Octavio decided to continue the tradition of restaurateur and opened up Casa Flores Marina Center in 2009. Each of the nine locations is individually owned by members of the original Flores family and their descendants. Octavio and his cousins are second generation restaurateurs and look forward to growing the strong family reputation of high-quality food. The food at Casa Flores is authentic and delicious. Our food deliveries here aren t cans and packages. We get whole foods. Dry rice beans vegetables and meats. From there we take these ingredients and craft them into the foods we present to our guests Octavio said. In fact Casa Flores is committed to sourcing ingredients locally whenever possible. We eat here. Our friends and family do too. We offer the finest ingredients we can Octavio shared. We started with a beautifully colorful plate of steaming hot fajitas. Chicken sirloin steak and grilled black tiger shrimp were saut ed with bell peppers and onions and served with tasty Spanish rice refried beans and a side of guacamole and sour cream. It was divine Next we enjoyed the 1 selling item across the menu chicken tacos. Simple. Honest. And oh-so-good I can see (and taste) why they are such a popular item. The tilapia was another amazing dish. It s lightly breaded seasoned with lemon salt and pepper and topped with fresh pico de gallo and served with the wonderful Spanish rice and black beans. Lastly I enjoyed a very generous serving of shrimp cocktail. The dish features shrimp diced onions tomatoes fresh cilantro cucumbers avocados and fresh lemon juice in a wonderful tomato broth. It s fresh yummy super-healthy and super flavorful. In addition to being a full-service restaurant Casa Flores Marina Center also offers a full bar and outside patio seating. The seasonal desnuda drink is a beautiful award-winning mix of 100 percent agave tequila organic agave nectar fresh fruit (that changes with the season) splashed with freshly squeezed lime juice served on the rocks with a chili-rimmed glass. Octavio has vast knowledge about tequila. His customers like what he offers them Casa Flores Marina Center has earned Best Margarita in two local Best of contests There are more than 80 varieties of tequilas to taste at Casa Flores Marina Center. In fact Octavio even hosts a local Agave Festival. It s a night of tequila tasting and education. Octavio invites other local restaurants of various genres and pairs their food with tequilas and even offers fresh fruit tequila. It s a night not to be missed This year the event is scheduled for October 11--that s next month. Call the restaurant for more information about the Agave Festival. Octavio features a 50-percent-off tequila special during his tequila tastings on any Thursday so make sure you make room for that. Octavio is part of the second generation of owners. After growing up in the restaurant industry he went to school at Sacramento State University studying business and marketing. After three years as a loan officer he knew he had to come back. It s in my blood Octavio explained about his love for food and serving others. With his degree in hand he returned to his roots to implement new ideas into the family tradition. As if running a restaurant isn t enough to keep him busy Octavio volunteers in his community. His favorite population to work with is youth. While at Sacramento State Octavio met his wife of three years Carissa. Her work as a school counselor helped Octavio understand some of the difficulties faced by today s youth. He is very involved in helping them acquire life skills through meaningful mentorship. He is also a member of the Rotary Club of Stockton is in the current class of Leadership Stockton and is a board member of The Table Community Foundation a local nonprofit that works with youth and families founded by former NFL running back for the San Diego Chargers and Stocktonian Tyronne Gross Jr. I grew up with Tyronne. We played football together. My community helped me become who I am. I know how important it is to take time out for kids. They need things to do and they need leaders to help them develop. Margarita is grateful for the man her son has grown into. She thinks so highly of him that during a recent election she decided to write his name in as a write-in candidate. I looked at the names that were there and I thought I don t know who these people are. What have they done But Octavio I know what he does and what he can do. He can do anything his proud mama exclaimed. And that includes making delicious foods for your family to enjoy. Stop in and see for yourself. HLM Casa Flores Marina Center is located at 3201 W. Ben Holt Dr. 155 in Stockton. You can call ahead make reservations at 209-451-1116 and find them online at mycasa flores.com. One of the Central Valley s leading proponents of all things multimedia Adriana Brogger has worked as a reporter blogger producer host emcee writer and actress performer in local media for more than ten years. She teaches Multimedia Production at San Joaquin Delta College and loves it Born in the year of the monkey Adriana has a clever wit and a magnetic personality. Seriously though she enjoys good comedy spending time with her hubby and four cute boys and of course great food. If you know of a local restaurant that would welcome a visit by Adriana 39 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM please contact Kimberly Mullen at Kimberly herlifemagazine.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 39 HERLIFE RECIPES lasagna rolls Serves 4 Prep time 20 minutes Cook time 30 minutes ingredients extra virgin olive oil 9 lasagna noodles 1 cups ricotta cheese 1 egg cup freshly grated Parmesan cheese teaspoon salt teaspoon pepper 8 teaspoon ground nutmeg 1 package (10 ounces) frozen spinach thawed and squeezed dry 1 cups (about 6 ounces) shredded chicken 2 cups traditional or marinara spaghetti sauce divided 1 directions Bring a large pot of water to boil throw in a pinch of salt and add lasagna noodles. Cook until al dente. After draining drizzle with a tiny bit of olive oil to prevent sticking and drape them over the colander or lay them on a cookie sheet or cutting board. Preheat oven to 375 degrees and spread a cup of spaghetti sauce on the bottom of a 9x13 baking dish. In a large bowl stir together the ricotta egg Parmesan salt pepper and nutmeg. Add in the spinach and chicken mix until combined. Spread one-third cup of the ricotta mixture on each lasagna noodle and roll up in a jelly-roll fashion. Arrange rolls seam side down in the baking dish. Top with remaining cup of spaghetti sauce. Cover loosely with foil and bake for 30 minutes. Sprinkle with some additional Parmesan if desired. Serve right away and enjoy HLM Note simply leave out the chicken for a vegetarian meal. recipes and p hot ogr ap hy by ver y c ulinar y.c om 40 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM hash brown-crusted quiche with sausage Serves 8 Prep time 10 minutes Cook time 55 minutes ingredients 3 cups Simply Potatoes shredded hash browns 4 Tablespoons ( cup) unsalted butter melted salt and pepper 1 cups (about 12 ounces) seasoned Italian ground pork sausage 6 eggs cup heavy whipping cream 1 cup shredded cheddar cheese 1 cup shredded Monterey jack cheese 2 scallions finely chopped directions Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Coat a 9-inch pie plate with non-stick cooking spray. In a large bowl gently toss the hash browns with the butter to coat. Season with salt and pepper. Press the hash browns into the bottom and up the sides of the plate to form a crust. Bake for approximately 25-30 minutes or until golden brown. Saut the ground sausage in a skillet over medium-high heat breaking it up with a wooden spoon until no pink remains. Set aside to cool. Whisk together eggs cream cheeses and scallions. Season with a dash of salt and pepper. Add in the cooked sausage crumbles. Mix to combine and pour on top of the hash brown crust. Bake for approximately 30 minutes or until set. Let cool slightly cut into wedges and serve. HLM recipes and p hot ogr ap hy by ver y c ulinar y.c om HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 41 HERLIFE WINE winery tourist you re welcome by d o u g f ro st Germany and even France have opened their doors too. But generally speaking European wineries open their cellar doors and no more. The decades long (or longer) habit is for customers to pop in that cellar door load a few cases of wine in the car and drive away. That cellar door has traditionally been little more than a loading dock for those wishing to purchase wines directly from the producer. Traditionally the fancy estates didn t stoop so low they sold their wares in hightoned joints only. To this day it can be difficult or impossible to arrange a visit to the top names in Burgundy or Bordeaux. You have to know someone who knows someone and so it was in California decades ago. It took folks like Robert Mondavi to change that. People acknowledge Mondavi s role in placing California wines on the world stage they sometimes miss that he was a great marketer of those wines perhaps more than he was a passionate winemaker. He was whip smart about the messages that wineries needed to send people Wine is meant to accompany food Wine is a crucial part of a great lifestyle and Wine made in California is as good as that made in Europe to paraphrase his most important mantras. He built a spacious and welcoming winery set up tour guides and tours. It s true that 42 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM I t s a peculiarly American institution the winery you can visit. Not that the rest of the world hasn t caught on many have. Now you can visit wineries in Australia and New Zealand. Some in Spain Italy many others did the same or did him one (or two or three) better. V. Sattui Winery a nearby Napa neighbor thrives wholly upon the visitors who flock to lunch on their beautiful lawn accompanied by Sattui wines. The lunch crowd always takes a few bottles home as well. It s a heck of a business model that precludes having to hire a sales force to travel the world hawking a winery s wares. This is all to say that any smart winery is glad you ve chosen to visit. You ll know at once if it s so the person behind the bar (that s how most of these places are laid out) should greet you with a smile and a quick tour of the wines available. Most wineries know the value of having a welcoming gregarious presence in the tasting room. In a lot of places those characters are even more interesting than the wines though it s always good to be complimentary of the wines they are pouring even if you don t buy any to take home. Often the tasting room staff are part of the extended family that runs the winery sometimes they are actual members of that family. It s one of the truly charming aspects of winery visits most of the world s wineries are small-scale operations run by a single family. When you sidle up to the winery bar you may be talking to the man or woman who planted the land who built the room you re standing in who farms the grapes or makes the wine. If you ask enough questions you may hear their life story and it s often fascinating. But therein lies the key ask questions. There is nothing more annoying to a tasting room worker and more depressing for a winery owner than someone who walks in and says I want to try your Chardonnay (or Cabernet or whatever I m not bashing Chardonnay here) and then resumes their interminable storytelling with their companions as if the tasting room staff were banquet waiters. These wines have stories if you will but take the time to listen. Someone sweated blood and tears for months if not years to make this wine you might find their tale of woe and wine worth a listen. And unless you absolutely detest a certain grape (some say love Gewurztraminer and some don t) try whatever they offer you. Even if you are on a mission to find the perfect Zinfandel there s no harm in checking out the other options. Some wineries make a dozen wines or more who s to say you won t find an unexpected beauty amongst all those You ll only know by tasting. And you ll only be able to taste all those wines that s what you re here for right if you spit. Yes spit out your wine just like the professionals do. That s why they line the tasting room bar with those brass buckets or ceramic pots. Take a mouthful swish it around let it linger and then spit it out. Of course you d like to swallow some of the wine that s how you decide which ones you want to buy and take home. The wines that seem far too good to spit--go ahead and spit them out. And then buy a bottle for later when you can swallow in the privacy of your hotel room or your own home. The wineries will thank you for it. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 43 Upstream Wines HERLIFE WINERY AT WATTS WINERY SHERI AND CRAIG WATTS JUST CAN T SEEM TO STOP WORKING. Not only have they started and maintained the well-loved Watts Winery they have added another line of wines under the name of Upstream Winery. Both lines have amazing award-winning wines included in their repertoire but what is even more interesting is the meaning these wines have to the Watts family. Watts Winery has created a series called Butterfly wines the Blue Swallowtail Red Blend and the Yellow Swallowtail Chardonnay are their current Butterfly wines. Not only are these amazing wines but 30% of the profit of each bottle sold is donated directly to pediatric cancer research. These talented winemakers extend their passion to doing their part in ensuring that no child or family should have to experience cancer. Watts Winery will also be hosting their Third Annual Grape Stomp this year with proceeds going directly towards cancer research. Local firefighters will be participating in the Grape Stomp and guests are encouraged to participate too Be sure to purchase your tickets for this year s Grape Stomp on October 4th there will be plenty of wine entertainment and fun The Watts are also promoting yet another side of their business their beautiful property Available for weddings retreats birthday parties and other special events the winery is more than happy to work with any vendor their clients request or are always pleased to add their own recommendations Enjoy a beautiful outdoor setting with large mature trees or host your event indoors. Choose from a variety of amazing packages for a wedding and relax in the beautiful Watts Winery vineyard and property before your big day. HLM 44 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM by b e th d o sta l p h o to gra p hy by d a ri o l eve n ti n i o f f 3 Stu d i o s Watts Winery will also be hosting their Third Annual Grape Stomp this year with proceeds going directly towards cancer research. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 45 HERLIFE BEHIND THE MENU Lodi Beer Co. by be th dos tal photograp hy by d ee yat es p hot ogr ap hy M ost great businesses are born out of a great love. Whether it s love for the job itself a passion for the product or a true enjoyment of the workplace. Sam Rehmke and husband Roger have found all three in Lodi Beer and Company which they founded own and operate. Once passionate about creating home brewed beers just for fun Sam and her husband decided to take the leap and turn their well-loved hobby into a fullfledged business. It s every home brewers dream to open up a brew pub I suppose Sam laughed. Sam and Roger were already winning competitions within the home brewing circle and they have taken their amazing beers and competitive spirit along with them in this venture now winning competitions for their amazing brews on a commercial level. Lodi Beer currently has 12 different varieties of beer and Sam and Roger are continuing to work on some more new varieties they look forward to surprising their fans with some new brews to celebrate their tenth anniversary in November. Also in the works are some possible new menu items everything is a team effort and collaboration between Sam Roger and their head chef. But Sam says our French Dip is and always has been our most popular menu item. With house made au jus to take it over the edge customers order the French Dip with fervor and regularity. A close runner-up is Lodi Beer s famous Deep Fried Mac and Cheese. It was off the menu for a short time but they received so many requests for the delectable side dish it is back on Sam and Roger have created a truly welcoming atmosphere at Lodi Beer Company and have always strived to be as Sam notes a stable place where everyone can bring their family and people from out of town can count on to have a great meal and good time. Be sure to ask about their banquet facilities available for any special event throughout the year. Stop by Lodi Beer Company in downtown Lodi for the perfect brew an amazing meal and a fantastic atmosphere. HLM Visit Lodi Beer Company at 105 S. School St in downtown Lodi or find them online at lodibeercompany.com 46 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 47 HERLIFE FOODIES foodies Woodbridge Crossing Macaronage Macarons EAT GATHER SHARE We pride ourselves on being the best at all we do... Lunch dinner brunch special events cocktails and your location for live music every Friday and Saturday evening. Closed Tuesdays. Your second home 18939 N. Lower Sacramento Rd Woodbridge (209) 366-1800 woodbridgecrossing.net Finally a gluten-free pastry shop is open in San Joaquin County. Macaronage Macarons believes that gluten-free baking can also be delicious Come on in and try not only our delicious french macarons but also cupcakes tarts and other delectable gluten-free desserts. Macarons make the perfect dessert table highlight at birthdays weddings and other special occations. Open Mon-Sat 10am - 7pm and Sun 11am - 6pm. 7610 Pacific Ave Suite B6 Stockton (209) 955-0857 facebook.com macaronagebygrace De Vega Brothers Italian Cuisine Happy hour every day full service bar and patio dining. Semi -private Banquet for all occasions. Catering for large or small events. Serving traditional Italian food Seafood Steak and Chicken. 5757 Pacific Ave. A140 Stockton (209) 323-4339 515 N Main St. Manteca (209) 823-0947 devegabrothers.com DeVega Brothers Thai Spices Chef Bun Khotakoon has long been captivated by the many ways to combine sweet and fiery spices to bring together flavors that mingle and enchant each other. Pair the traditional and monthly special menu items with a fabulous local wine or ice cold Thai beer to create a fascinating culinary experience. 2401 W Turner Rd. Ste. 224 Lodi (209) 369-8424 thaispiceslodi.com Towne House Towne House Restaurant at Wine & Roses is a legacy to the country farm it once was and our cuisine is made for sharing. We look forward to sharing with you the innovative dishes warm traditions and gracious service that is the Towne House Restaurant. 2505 West Turner Rd Lodi (209) 371-6160 loditownehouse.com Corner Scone Bakery and Teahouse Come visit our boutique bakery for some award-winning pie Featuring made-from-scratch daily scones hand pies quiches and other unique baked goods along with a monthly high tea service. We are also serving iced tea iced espresso drinks summer salads and lunch wraps for the warmer weather. We can accommodate special orders as well call or stop by to see what we have 322 N. California St Lodi (209) 747-3418 48 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE FOODIES foodies Whirlow s Vita Dolce EAT GATHER SHARE Whirlow s Tossed and Grilled specializes in build-it-yourself tossed salads cafeteria style or choose from excellent sandwiches burgers and full plate dinners. Don t forget to make us your first call for catering carry out and private parties for the holidays 1926 Pacific Ave Stockton (On the Miracle Mile) (209) 466-2823 whirlows.com Two Italian-Swiss sisters have combined energies to bring to Tracy a small cafe filled with high quality cookies panini s homemade soups fresh salads and delicious coffee. Topping off any time of the day would be a delicious scoop of San Francisco s very own Mitchell s Ice Cream. Come on in and enjoy some of the sweet life of Vita Dolce. 11 East 6th St Tracy (209) 834-1234 Facebook.com VitaDolce Your Restaurant Here For more information about advertising in the Foodies Section please contact Kimberly Mullen at kimberly lifemagazine.com or call (209) 224-8810 BE SEEN BY YOUR TARGET MARKET. YOUR AD HERE HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 49 HERLIFE GARDEN Sustaining wri t t e n and photographed by s har on filom eo b aker SUSTAINABILITY y niece Danielle attempted and successfully grew a garden this year for the first time. Although she has a busy schedule as housewife mother of a toddler and as lecturer at UC Davis she is loving it. We were chatting gardens when she commented Trying to live 1 mature zucchini cored peeled and cut into candy-size pieces 1c fruit juice 1 2 c sugar Food coloring if desired Boil about 25 minutes medium heat until transparent and juice thickens being careful not to scorch. Add water if necessary. Drain and dry on paper towels. Spread on parchment lined cookie sheet to dry in sun or follow directions for dehydrator. Shake in sugar. Full recipe at http sefilomeo.tumblr.com M Zucandy kid tested and approved healthy alternative to fruit snacks sustainably is time consuming. How can we fix this so more people will want to do it She pointed out that we as teachers have summers off and are able to devote time to our garden adventures and as landowners have access to garden space. But what about those who work full time or don t have the resources As an advocate for homegrown my ideal is for everyone to be able to grow a garden thus reaping the benefits of authentic organically grown food. But when it is not feasible there are a few alternatives. The most available option is to purchase organic produce from supermarkets. However the high price of grocery store organics pretty much leaves the masses out of the loop. The growing trend toward Farmer s Markets is a good alternative if the produce is indeed organic. Although most municipals do have policies the Organic Police do not patrol the local markets so we can t be sure the farmer didn t just slip in to dump a load of pilfered peaches. Many people have formed co-ops or community gardens where friends families and neighbors work together on a rented or leased property to produce their own. I believe this is closer to where we need to be but again not everyone has the time or resources to participate. Another choice is the backyard gardener setting up her stand on the roadside. This kind of fresh produce is a great idea since the grower has an abundance to sell and the customer has the desire to buy. However what gardener has the time to sit on the roadside all day waiting for customers And this is pretty much where I have found myself. When the veggies start coming I clean up my veggie stand fill the baskets hang out my sign and wait. My prices are dirt-cheap because my motive here is to humanely dispose of as many veggies as possible. I leave out a jar for self-serve so I 50 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM am not hovering while my customers decide and I am free to go about my business. Sometimes one person will come in and buy up the whole lot but other times I wait for days as the cucumbers go limp and the bell peppers wrinkle. By the end of the season I have efficiently utilized and given away a good 55% of my produce. That leaves about 45% rotting on the compost heap. So what to do with all this food I have a friend who trades me a bag of pecans every year for veggies. Another friend who works for a winery brings me a couple bottles of wine whenever she needs a zucchini fix. And still another calls ahead and takes my order. A sack of flour a gallon of milk a stick of deodorant--whatever I need in exchange for a sack of fresh garden produce. I believe this is similar to bartering and is a concept as old as Moses. I ve got stuff you ve got stuff let s get together and trade. Since I ve been on Facebook I have come across so many backyard gardeners with produce to spare as well as people who are looking for organic produce. My question is--how do we get them together If you have ideas drop a comment on my Facebook page at facebook.com sefilomeo. Come on people now smile on your brother everybody get together... and try to live sustainably. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 51 HERLIFE GREEN LIVING by l i n d a r. p ri c e modified foods genetically G and Japan. enetically modified foods have made the news in a big way recently and it seems that everyone from environmental activists to religious groups to governmental organizations has an opinion about the laboratory process of gene modification applied to the food we eat. used natural reproductive processes to improve taste yield and disease resistance. Genetic engineering uses processes that involve the addition of foreign genetic material or manipulation of an organism s own DNA. The processes would not occur naturally in nature. The food industry believes that GM food can reduce costs by reducing the need for pesticides and herbicides. Food can also be bioengineered to enhance its nutritional value. Golden rice contains beta-carotene and iron and proponents claim it would improve nutrition in countries where malnutrition is prevalent. GM corn has been altered to produce its own pesticidal protein but was approved only for use in animal feed and ethanol. Yet in 2000 StarLink corn was found in corn tortillas and other foods. It was voluntarily withdrawn from the market by Aventis Crop Science and its seed supply destroyed. B.t. corn is a common example of a GM food. Bacillus thuringiensis is a naturally occurring bacterium that produces crystal proteins that are lethal to insect larvae. Transfer of the B.t. gene into corn allows the plant to produce its own pesticide that controls the European corn borer and to some extent the fall armyworm and corn earworm. In 1995 the EPA and USDA approved B.t. corn for human consumption. Other genetically modified foods are the Rainbow papaya soy sugar beets and squash. In 1998 papayas from Hawaii were engineered to be resistant to the ringspot virus. Now 77 percent of the papayas grown in Hawaii are genetically engineered. In 2009 approximately 93 percent of GM foods and genetically modified organisms (GMOs) are terms used to describe crop plants created for human consumption using the techniques of molecular biology to alter the plant s DNA. GM food can also come from adding genes from an unrelated organism for example bacteria viruses or other plants or animals. The practice of inserting genes from one source into another organism produces a transgenic organism. Controversy over the development and use of GMOs has given rise to the pejorative term Frankenfood while the FDA has claimed that no serious food safety issues are associated with these procedures watchdog groups around the world are skeptical. GM foods are banned in the European Union Australia Groups such as Non-GMO Project reject efforts to allow GM foods into the human food supply chain. They also object to engineering of GMOs to herbicide tolerance claiming that the emergence of superbugs and superweeds actually leads to the use of more pesticides and herbicides that harm to the environment. For centuries farmers have bred crops and animals to get larger harvests and desired traits so what s the difference Specifically farmers 52 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM soybeans grown in the U.S. were from GMO seeds. The beans are a major crop that is engineered to be herbicide resistant. One major problem resides in the potential for introducing food allergies and sensitivities to unsuspecting consumers. Studies have shown that five to eight percent of children and one to two percent of adults are soybean sensitive yet the same studies claim the herbicide resistant beans present no greater risk of sensitivity than those which are not GM. Nature Magazine states ...even if one GM crop were to be shown to have serious adverse health effects that would say little about others the safety of any genetic modification depends on the crop and on the particular changes introduced. So far the FDA has kept GMOs out of our meat supply. Currently there are no genetically engineered meat fish or egg products on the market. However AquaBounty Technologies has been awaiting FDA approval since 2010 for a GM fish called AquAdvantage Salmon. The salmon was created by combining genes from Chinook salmon and an Arctic eelpout with the genes of Atlantic salmon. The salmon grow to market size in half the time of natural Atlantic salmon. Views on GMOs remain polarized. Perhaps the best solution to the impasse was offered by Nature Magazine Too often in the GM-food debate generalizations and extremism lead to sterile public and political discourse that obscures key issues what sorts of GM crops might bring true benefits to agriculture and consumers how to avoid monopolization of farming choices and what types of sustainable agriculture we want in the future. Polarized debates not GMOs are the poison to be avoided. Robynn Shrader CEO for National Co-operative Grocers Association which advocates for transparency in the labeling of food specifically the food s source and whether or not it is GM says The message nationwide from co-op shoppers has been and continues to be clear shoppers want to know if foods contain GMOs. Whether they choose to buy GMO foods or not consumers have the right to make informed choices about what they eat. And so the debate rages on. HLM Sources centerforfoodsafety.org edis. ifas.ufl.edu fs084 fda.gov nongmoproject.org motherjones.com nature.com news poisonpostures-1.11478 upennsynapse.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 53 HERLIFE TRENDSETTER sassy pants children s boutique 354 lincoln center stockton www.shopsassypants.com (209) 451-9775 photography by dee yates studio www.deeyates.com (209) 327-7164 models sophia karp peyton danelson michael scannavino hair and makeup tiffany davanis 54 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 55 56 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 57 58 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 60 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE MOTHER S PERSPECTIVE a bedroom s future decorating your child s room for the years ahead by l i sa t a r a n t o bu t l e r tions or colors that might turn off older kids. While the frame stays the same bedding and paint colors can change over time. Storage Next to sleeping storage ranks right up there in overall importance. Where else can you hide toys blankets books and later on pizza boxes but in well-designed storage spaces While larger furniture like dressers and armoires are ideal don t forget about smaller options that can change throughout the years. Trunks bins baskets and under-bed storage boxes can house a child s items from nursery to ninth grade and are fairly inexpensive to change out. Walls Those four walls can zing just by adding some spark to them. Unlike wallpaper (which is a hassle to remove) paint color can be rolled on and off in a matter of hours. Children are animated and the colors of their room can reflect their lively nature. But while bright bold colors are cool for them they may seem a little obnoxious for you. Try choosing neutral colors such as grays beige and white. Pair those with bold accent colors or even an accent wall to make the room more child cheery. Some other wonderful wall ideas are chalkboard paint removable decals ceiling stickers and faux paint. These can help hide tiny fingerprints while adding interest and fun for your wee one. Play Time some realistic choices you can take the child s room from nursery to high school without breaking the bank. Sleep When it comes to the sanity of a parent the slumber of a child is imperative. These days a baby crib can transform into a full-size adult bed so long after graduation your well-planned purchase can be used for a guest room. Just make sure to choose quality wood free of any decora62 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM O Although you may be thrilled about the new four-poster bed you ve chosen for your little princess she s probably more interested in playing with her Barbies. If your child s room is also a play area make sure to leave enough space for her to romp. Too much furniture or decoration leaves little room to spread out the checkers and the Legos . K.I.S.S. Keep it simple superstar That s right--even the most organized and creative parent can overdo the kid colors movie themes and crazy prints. When it comes to kids they certainly can be fickle so what they adore one day may be absolutely hideous to them the next. Stick to basic furniture and bedding and add a little zing with less expensive and more momentary items. HLM Sources houzz.com and hgtv.com. h the excitement of decorating a child s room No other space in the home combines the challenge of making your little one happy with an array of creative options at your fingertips. Of course you and your offspring might not share the same style but when you re armed with a plan and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 63 HERLIFE CULINARY kids in the kitchen by p a tty c o o k home. Just after you set the table. But this time Mom said As soon as the peas are cooked dinner will be ready. And this time one fine summer day I sassed back. That s no answer I don t know how long it takes to cook peas (Insert head toss and eye roll here.) Mom didn t miss a beat. She walked to the freezer. Oh you re right I ll fix that pulled out a package of frozen peas and handed it to me saying You cook the peas. Then you ll know. I spluttered excuses I didn t know how to cook peas but Mom assured me that the directions were printed on the package. I quickly learned to measure water into a pot bring it to a boil add the peas and watch that they didn t boil over or overcook. Mom kept one eye on me reminding me to move the handle of the pot out of the way and to watch out when I lifted up the lid so the steam didn t burn my hand. Guess what I cooked the peas perfectly They were bright green not undercooked or overcooked with just the right amount of salt and pepper and butter. Then Mom said From now on whenever we have peas you re going to cook them. I immediately regretted rolling my eyes my heart sank as I 64 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM M om I m hungry When s dinner I don t know how many times I asked that question as a kid but I ll never forget the very last time I did. Mom had a knack for answering me without naming an exact time. Just after your dad gets envisioned a summer of kitchen duty slaving over a hot stove. Instead something else began cooking that summer. My success with the peas inspired me to learn new things. Vegetables were easy. I moved on to baking first from a mix then from scratch. Mom sat me down with a well-worn copy of her favorite cookbook The Joy of Cooking. When I realized I could use a cookbook to learn just about anything my kitchen duty became a pleasure instead of a punishment. But in my adult life I find that many people simply don t cook or don t think they can because they never had much kitchen experience growing up. Young families with kids have busy schedules and fitting in time for a dinner together is a challenge let alone cooking together. It was a pleasant surprise recently to browse Facebook and notice a photo of a friend s little girl holding a plate of food. The girl was about the age I was the night I sassed my mom and learned to cook peas. The plate of food she held was simple--hot dogs veggies and potatoes all packaged goods that required some heating. But the photo noted that the little girl had fixed the family dinner that night all by herself. Her grin of accomplishment spoke volumes. The most impressive thing Her mom is admittedly not a fantastic cook yet had set a goal to teach her kids kitchen basics over the summer. Are you thinking of introducing the kids in your life to the kitchen Before you begin here are things to consider. Begin with the end in mind. Read a recipe together. Gather ingredients and tools. Talk about the plan from start to finish. Define kitchen manners. Wash hands before you begin wash cutting boards when needed (especially after cutting meat poultry or seafood) and clean up as you go as much as you can. Have a safe workspace. If the child stands on a stool or chair to reach the counter make sure it s stable. Can they reach the counter the ingredients the bowls and the spoons Tie back long hair and watch out for loose sleeves or jewelry that can catch on tools or drawers. Respect sharp blades and knives. Whether a child has their first turn using a paring knife a chef s knife or a food processor demonstrate how to safely use the tools. Your judgment is critical. One ten-year-old may have the skills to chop up a carrot with a large sharp knife when another child the same age does not yet have enough experience or dexterity. Apply schoolwork to the task at hand. Kids who hate math may easily learn how to double a recipe or cut it in half. Science homework about liquids gases and solids comes to life when vegetables are steamed then plunged into an ice bath to prevent overcooking. Planning menus and figuring out what meals cost are multi-step tasks that will teach your kids how to budget and manage projects. Start small. Open the fridge challenge the kids to cook and together you may find they can learn to cook a perfect pot of peas. HLM Sources kidshealth.org and Ponzek Debra. The Family Kitchen Easy and Delicious Recipes for Parents and Kids to Make and Enjoy Together. (New York Clarkson Potter 2006). HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 65 HERLIFE COMMUNITY SPOTLIGHT The Art Korner of Stockton by r e becca flansburg S FIFTEEN YEARS OF ART INSTRUCTION SUCCESS ince 1999 artist Regina Rose has been nurturing artists of all ages at her private studio in Stockton. During the last 15 years Regina s studio and business The Art Korner has been teaching artists to not only gain outstanding artistic abilities but to use the process of creating create as opposed to watching a video tutorial. It s the personal interaction and camaraderie that truly keeps an artist s creative juices flowing and that can t be replaced by an online class. Working with a wide range of students from beginners to veteran artists Regina s classes are created around that demand and need. My new fall classes will be beginning August 4 and will steadily fill up until September or October. Kids can start anytime provided that the day they requested has openings she affirmed. My Saturday classes are always full and I am adding a Wednesday afternoon art instruction class as well. We are always busy and by we I mean myself and my co-worker Miss Millie. She has been with me for six years and I simply couldn t do it without her. She is a more fun and lighthearted instructor whereas I tend to be more serious. Together I feel we create a wonderful learning experience for all of our students. As she reflected on her last 15 years in business Regina noted that most of the students she taught in the early years of The Art Korner are most likely graduating college now. I am also very proud of the fact that the young students who come to me for art instruction stay with me for four to five years. I get to know them and their families so well it s like they become my family. It s also incredibly rewarding to watch their talent evolve over the years. I strongly believe that we have reached a new age of art renaissance because of the Internet and that s not a bad thing. Our children are our future and I m grateful to be part of their discovery and celebration of art. HLM For more information about Regina and The Art Korner classes visit them online at artkorner.com. art to enhance their self confidence. An award-winning fine artist herself Regina has been studying and creating art throughout the nation for more than 20 years including The Art Students League in New York City and abroad in Florence Italy. Working with all media of art with an emphasis on paint and drawing Regina s private art school has been a mainstay for artists in the Central Valley region. At a time when online classes are abundant she finds her physical business on Alpine Avenue continuing to flourish. People often think that the popularity of the Internet will hurt my business Regina shared. But I firmly believe it has helped me and I ve come to embrace it. The popularity of art has exploded in so many ways these last 15 years and I see it in the children I teach. Because of the Internet kids see and are inspired by more amazing things than ever. Regina also shared that another perk of the online worId is that it has raised the bar with art quality and technique. I especially notice this with my young students Regina revealed. My younger students are of all ages but my average age group is around 7 to 11. I ve noticed that what they are creating these days is so much more advanced than it has been in the past. If they have access to artwork online and can see it evolve and unfold before their eyes they can see what s possible. But my students also see the value in being in a room with other artists their own age and having a live instructor by their side guiding them as they 66 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 67 HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT N Sasha Sloup FAMILY MATTERS Snider Diehl & Rasmussen LLP by r eb ec c a flans b ur g p h o to gra p hy by j u l i e n i c o l e p h o to gra p hy makeup by lin d say l o e b s o f p e rf e c t b a l a n c e d ay sp a avigating the legal system can be a very intimidating process especially when there are children involved. Sasha Sloup a family law attorney with Snider Diehl & Rasmussen LLP knows this firsthand as she works to guide people from all walks of life through some of the most trying times of their lives. Using her skill and knowledge of the legal system this hard-working associate attorney is committed to assisting families during difficult emotional and confusing phases of their lives. Family law entails areas that affect a family such as dissolving a marriage custody issues support issues adoptions and domestic violence Sasha informed. A divorce can be difficult for most people but there are ways to do it amicably and without the fighting or disagreements. Every case I encounter is different but I feel that when there are children involved it works better to get everyone involved on the same page create a stable environment for the kids and work toward a goal of co-parenting as much as possible. Although Sasha was always interested in the legal system it wasn t until her college years that a career in law became a reality. What initially attracted me to law was hearing so many troubling details of people struggling with custody and visitation issues during my college years Sasha declared. I remember hearing these stories and then having this aha moment of there just has to be an easier way. So once I earned my bachelor s degree my focus turned to working toward my law degree. I 68 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM earned my juris doctor with honors in family law at Humphreys College Laurence Drivon School of Law in Stockton. It was during her time as a legal secretary and paralegal that Sasha determined that family law would provide her with the opportunity to fulfill the same passion that had driven her to law school. I knew within a few weeks of working as a paralegal in a Sacramento law firm that specialized in family law that it was the career path I wanted to take she noted. After passing the bar exam I became an associate attorney at Snider Diehl & Rasmussen LLP fulfilling my passion for practicing law. There is nothing quite as precious as family and I wanted to be there to help guide families in need. When there are children involved I want to help parents configure their family so that even if they are no longer living together they can still interact as a family unit in order to raise children and maintain stability in their daily lives. The care and nurturing of her own family is also high on her priority list. Sasha is happily married to her husband of eight years Brent and the couple have a four-year-old son they affectionately call Little B. She also noted that although her job can be stressful at times it s the comfort of family friends and extracurricular activities that keep her fresh and focused. Brent and I work to spend as much time together as a family as possible she affirmed. I think everyone needs an outlet or two to decompress from work and enjoy life to the fullest. Our son is a huge part of everything we do as well because we want him to experience the same things we are experiencing and to make memories with him. We do a lot of outdoor activities such as boating and camping we just like being outside and being busy even if it s just gardening or playing. Life is short so you need to get out and enjoy it whenever possible and make family priority. We have a quote in our living room that reads We didn t realize we were making memories we just thought we were having fun. Sasha also shared another new-found passion that has become a key part of her away-from-work down time. I was never much of a reader especially through my law school years because you are reading so much as it is She admitted. But within these last few years I ve really come to appreciate reading as an escape. I like everything from fiction to romance and suspense. Reading gets my mind off work relaxes me and it s something I truly enjoy. What does Sasha like best about her job I think it s the reality aspects of family law that inspire me she remarked. I thoroughly enjoy being a family s rock that helps guide them in what can be an overwhelming legal process. To be able to be that person who can make a difference in a family s life when things have the potential to not work out so well is very motivating for me and I look forward to fighting the good fight for people every day. HLM Learn more about Sasha Sloup and the services of Snider Diehl & Rasmussen LLP at lodilaw.com. When there are children involved I want to help parents configure their family so that even if they are no longer living together they can still interact as a family unit in order to raise children and maintain stability in their daily lives. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 69 HERLIFE REAL ESTATE bed & breakfast by l a u ra l e i va owning a A bed and breakfast offers travelers the best of both worlds--the attention and personalized service of a luxury hotel merged with the privacy and intimacy of a home. Such an establishment allows guests to feel at home away from home as a houseguest rather than an occupant in a hotel room. consistently throughout the year especially at the start of operation something to keep in mind when calculating expenses. According to real estate experts the true profit in running a bed and breakfast comes with the sale of the home. As the bed and breakfast becomes a business there are many legal and business-related activities to factor in such as obtaining a business license tax identification numbers food certification and ample insurance for various aspects of the business. Before going forward with any plans check with the local municipality to verify how the potential bed and breakfast location is zoned. Parking ordinances and occupancy issues must be dealt with properly in order to open the business. In addition the location might require special permits to operate. The property may need capital improvements to bring the building up to local code standards verify what s required for a certificate of occupancy for the site. B&Bs are also known for serving homemade breakfasts so it s necessary to obtain both food-handling certificates and a health department inspection before opening. To keep the business running smoothly it s a good idea to use accounting and property management software to keep reservations and payments organized and easily accessed. Maintaining the ultimate guest experience is essential to staying in business. The increased use of social media and feedback websites such as Yelp make it very important to give the best service at all times to keep guests coming back for more. Provide guests with an exceptional first impression by offering accommodations that are cleaned daily even the smallest details such as setting out current magazines in the parlor or lounge will be noticed by guests Replacing bathroom amenities hanging When it comes to bed and breakfasts the historic charm and quaint setting are often primary selling points for many guests. Who wouldn t love to travel around the country and stay in some of the most beautiful homes complete with antique furniture and stunning architecture Whether a bed and breakfast is in the center of a large metropolis or on the outskirts of town quiet courtyards and cozy entertaining spaces offer a peaceful escape for guests on vacation or business. While there are plenty of benefits to owning and running your own bed and breakfast there s more to it than just opening up the home and accepting guests. First and foremost the home becomes a business and in order to be successful thorough preparation is required to keep it running in top shape. Income from guests could vary especially during the peaks and lulls throughout the year. However many bed and breakfast owners derive pleasure simply from opening up the home and allowing guests from around the country to experience the rich history and accommodations found within the establishment. For many bed and breakfast owners the establishment is not a major source of income. Earnings will be dependent on the number of rooms available at a given time. While more rooms in the home equate to higher income there are additional expenses that come along with running a larger bed and breakfast. It s also not realistic to expect full occupancy 70 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM freshly-washed robes in the guest closet and providing plenty of bedding and pillows are key in every guestroom. Running a beautiful home and offering a delicious breakfast are essential but there s much more that s needed to attract guests and create repeat clients. Marketing your bed and breakfast is essential to keep rooms full throughout the seasons. Think about whom you want to attract most are you interested in catering to business travelers or tourists with an eye for historic details and attractions your locale offers Narrowing your target market will allow you to focus your advertising budget and energy on driving these guests to you. Determining the room rates is another essential step for the entrepreneur opening a bed and breakfast. As with any business pricing rooms right means the difference between staying occupied and struggling to meet financial obligations. Room rates vary depending on factors such as location amenities and competitive rates. Research bed and breakfasts in the area do they offer similar amenities or are you in a better location Comparing and contrasting with your competition will help you price the rooms just right. Owning a bed and breakfast can be a fulfilling and adventurous undertaking but only when the proper steps are taken before opening. Take care in researching your options and ensuring that all permits and certificates are in place to start with success HLM Sources entrepreneur.com and online.wsj.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 71 HERLIFE HOME natural disaster by l i sa ta ra n to b u tl e r preparing your home for a N o one really wants to think about catastrophe and most people don t expect it to happen to them. The truth is that natural disasters can happen at any place and any time but preparing for them can mean the difference between life and death. The Federal Emergency Management Agency (FEMA) sug- Vehicle Emergency Kit Don t forget your vehicle when planning for an emergency. Americans spend roughly 100 minutes a day in the car so make a car crisis kit in case of unforeseen emergencies or accidents. You can buy a pre-assembled kit online or make your own using your supplies and a plastic tub or duffle bag. Obviously not everything in the list of suggested emergency supplies is necessary for everyone. Choose supplies that are important for your geographical area and your individual needs. Family Emergency Plan When it comes to crisis families are strongest when acting as a team. One of the most valuable things a family can do is to be a step ahead of a disaster. Meet as a group make a plan and ensure every household member is aware of it. Discuss how to prepare and respond to emergencies that are most likely to occur where you live work and play. Each family member should have a responsibility during a disaster. Discuss what happens if your family becomes separated. Where do you meet How will you communicate An out-of-area emergency contact should be chosen so that family members can regroup through one person. Make sure everyone has emergency contact information memorized in writing or saved on their cell phones. HLM Sources fema.gov redcross.org and weather.com. gests some simple steps to prepare for and respond to potential emergencies including natural disasters. The three main steps to cover are to obtain or prepare an emergency supply kit to develop a family emergency plan and to know the different types of emergencies that could occur and what to do in each individual instance. Emergency Supply Kit An emergency supply kit is a must when it comes to preparedness for a catastrophe and should include at least three days of supplies for each family member. Consider maintaining one kit at home and assembling two smaller portable kits that may be kept in a vehicle and at work. Items to consider in addition to the chart below are medications baby supplies blankets and changes of clothing. Not every household will need the same supplies and consideration should be given to where individuals live as well as other specific or unique needs that a family might require. More importantly make sure every family member knows where the emergency kit is located and understands that items are to be used for emergencies only. Emergency Supply Kit Basics Water Aim for one gallon of water per person per day for at least three days. This will be used for drinking as well as sanitation. Food Gather at least a three-day supply of non-perishable food. Don t forget a can opener. Flashlight and extra batteries First aid kit Whistle to signal for help Dust mask to help filter contaminated air and plastic sheeting and duct tape to create shelter from the elements. Moist towelettes garbage bags and plastic ties for personal sanitation Wrench or pliers to turn off utilities Local maps Battery-powered or hand crank radio and a National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration (NOAA) Weather Radio with tone alert. Include extra batteries for both. 72 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Vehicle Emergency Kit Basics Flashlights and extra batteries A folding shovel Jumper cables Enough water to last for three days per person or pet Protein-rich foods such as nuts energy bars canned foods and can opener Tools such as pliers flat and Phillips-head screwdrivers and an adjustable wrench Blanket and extra clothing All the necessary fluids for your particular car such as motor oil brake fluid and power steering fluid First aid kit Road flares Gloves wool socks and a pair of boots Electrical and duct tape Knife Individual items and medications for family members HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 73 HERLIFE TRAVEL tips for international travel by lind a r. p r ic e A Packing mericans love to travel. In 2013 U.S. travel exports were an astounding 180.7 billion according to the U.S. Travel Association. The most frequent destinations were Mexico and Canada. What are the secrets of these intrepid voyagers for making their trips successful Without exception savvy travelers travel light when flying. They can put their suitcase or backpack in the overhead bin and avoid the hefty fees of checked baggage plus avoid the baggage claim area and lost luggage. Frequent flyers study what they are going to wear and carry only necessary items. They use items for more than one purpose e.g. shoes that go with jeans and a business suit. Choose clothing that looks great when it s rinsed out in the hotel room. Jersey and stretchy fabrics are good choices and regardless of the temperature pack or wear a light jacket for the places where air conditioning can be too cool. Put toiletries medicines light clothing and snacks in a small carryon bag that can be accessed easily. This one piece of advice has saved this writer countless hours of frustration on different trips. For prescription medicines ask your doctor for a written prescription to carry with you and keep these medicines in their original bottles to avoid being hassled by customs officials. Woes And Miscreants Strive for the local look as much as possible. Halter tops and skimpy shorts are appropriate for the beach or resort but not so much for shopping downtown. Avoid looks that scream tourist such as white tennis shoes and black socks with everything and dress as conservatively as the people you see around you. Before leaving home buy comfortable walking shoes and try them out. Carefully consider your destination. Pickpockets abound in big cities and tourist resort areas. Always carry your travel documents on you and not stuffed in a backpack or purse. The same goes for cash and plastic money. Cabbies are notorious for trying to take advantage of unwary tourists by overcharging or driving the long way round. When possible travel with a 74 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Scheduling When scheduling your trip be sure to allow plenty of time between connecting flights even if you have to wait in the airport for a couple of hours. An estimated one in five flights gets delayed and if you miss one Travel Documents And Insurance Several months before traveling review your travel documents and be sure they won t expire during the trip. My son once traveled with an expired U.S. passport and added an unexpected additional 10 days to his trip Make a copy of your passport and identification to carry on your person in case you are robbed or in an accident. Leave a copy of your passport and itinerary with someone at home. The passport can then be left in the hotel safe. Without proof of your identity it could be difficult to obtain emergency documents to allow your return to the United States if your passport is stolen. Buy international health or travel insurance with live telephone assistance advises Adam Bates of Insurances Services of America. Before leaving home locate hospitals at your destination in case there is a medical emergency. Keep a list of pre-existing medical conditions and allergies with your passport. local that you trust. Women particularly if traveling solo have additional considerations. It may be safest to be accompanied by others to avoid being a target. In some conservative countries women may not be allowed to check into a hotel unless accompanied by a male relative or spouse. connection on a long trip it will throw off the entire trip. It could be days before you reach your final destination. Though travelers depend on tablets and smart phones it s still a good idea to have a hard copy of your ticket. Travel agencies offer little help if you can t show a copy of your ticket and if the ticket is not in the airline s system it doesn t exist. Avoid stress and carry a hard copy. Technology Stick a small notepad in your purse or backpack to jot down addresses phone numbers contacts and flight numbers. That way if your smart phone goes dead you can still get around because you have the information you need. Business flyers often travel with a DSLR laptop Kindle cell phone microphones cameras and tripods. If necessary check your luggage and keep your electronics with you. You can purchase clothing and toiletries if necessary but expensive electronics are harder to replace. Electrical products purchased in the U.S. won t work without the correct wall plug and adapter in many areas. Research the country to which you are traveling and purchase the correct adapter. By the same token be wary of purchasing electronics overseas. They may not work when you get them home because of the differences in voltage and programming. A little bit of planning and forethought will go a long way in making your international excursion a safe and healthy one HLM Sources dot.gov insurancefortrips.com smartertravel.com and the writer s personal experience. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 75 HERLIFE BEAUTY fashion industry by l i n d say l a d e ro u te coolest jobs in the F ashion is fun trendy ever changing intricate and an extension of personality. Since the field is always competitive and continually looking for the next innovation jobs in the fashion industry can be very intriguing and almost more fun than work if fashion is your cup of tea. Plus a career in this arena doesn t simply mean to their business or brand. Publicists get front row seating at many shows and events making this job perfect and tons of fun for the social butterfly. Public relations teams also handle social media for their brands which can be great for anyone who loves Twitter Facebook and the latest sharing platform. Personal shoppers and stylists get paid to shop for and style their clients. Who wouldn t find this fun Although these careers are tough to get into and have a relatively small market personal shopper and stylist slots can be the dream jobs for fashion lovers. These industry positions work with many different clients including those who want a makeover are shopping for a special occasion or event and may even be a celebrity needing guidance on their image. This area of fashion may also focus on organizing closets shopping on a budget updating wardrobes and styling hair and makeup. Stacy London of TLC s What Not To Wear is an example of how fun and life-changing this career can be. Art directors and photographers play significant roles in the fashion industry and have very creative fun and collaborative jobs. Both careers generally help conceptualize and plan photo shoots for look books magazines websites and promotional items. They also help create plan and work events such as runway shows store launches television shows and award shows. These two fashion categories are involved in almost all areas of fashion receiving a broad mix of work. Fashion magazine jobs encompass all areas of fashion in many different positions. Working at a fashion magazine puts writers photographers art directors editors and graphic designers in the forefront of fashion. Whether it s working on an article about upcoming trends assisting on a photo shoot styling models for events developing layouts or sampling new products those who work at fashion magazines can get their hands in all areas of fashion and collaborate with a vast array of designers hair and makeup artists photographers and writers. The fashion world provides the budding fashionista and creative entrepreneur a multitude of cool jobs from which to choose. Those who love fashion can use their skills in a multitude of ways that are both challenging and interesting. Work is always a lot of play in the fashion industry HLM Sources chron.com stylecaster.com fashioncareerstips.com and monster.com. being a fashion designer a multitude of cool professions exist for creative individuals who want to exercise their innate creativity. Without textile designers the world of fashion would be a very bland place. Textile designers are the artists who create the fabrics from silks to corduroy and leather to cotton that create the beautiful designs found in stores and on the runways. Colors prints designs and geometric patterns are all aspects that flow through the minds of textile designers. A combination of drawing technological savvy and understanding of art all intertwine into the job of a textile designer. Catch the textile episode of Project Runway to see how cool textile designing really is. A love of knowing the hottest trends and forecasting what trends will come next and a knack for negotiating are all pieces that form the career and skill of a fashion buyer. Buyers are the professionals who go into the wholesale marketplace and select the best products for their stores typically department stores retail chains and independently owned stores. Through purchasing seasons ahead and seeing upcoming fashion trends the buyer helps create the style of a store. She must be analytical and find a challenge in getting the numbers right knowing the buying habits of her market buying just the right amount of the perfect products and staying on top of current sales forecasts are some keys to success in this profession. Working in retail sales is a great job for an energetic and outgoing personality the skills learned in sales give depth to the profession of the visual merchandiser. It s the perfect outlet for those who love to organize be creative and catch a customer s eye. Visual merchandisers create instore displays style mannequins develop the flow of merchandise and are in control of the overall aesthetic and appeal of a store. This job is a large driver of sales and customer satisfaction since it creates the first impression of the store and requires innovation and creativity. Brands don t become popular overnight they have a public relations team working day and night to get their names in the correct spotlight. Fashion publicists work on press releases write industry blogs conduct interviews and help get the word out about anything and everything related 76 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 77 78 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 79 HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT DOCTORS HOSPITAL OF MANTECA Women s Health Services by r eb ec c a flans b u rg p h o to gra p hy by b ri g g s p h o to gra p hy Raising the Standard for citizens of the Central Valley area for more than 50 years. As a full-service community hospital Doctors Hospital has continued to raise the bar in regard to patient care and this is especially true within their Women s Health Services programs. 80 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM C ommitted to big city care with a hometown feel Doctors Hospital of Manteca has been setting the standard of inpatient and outpatient clinical care for These specialized programs for women include Labor & Delivery a Well Baby Nursery for newborns and also highly skilled surgeons qualified in advanced procedures such as sentinel node biopsy breast reconstruction breast-conserving mastectomies and lumpectomies. Committed to providing the best of the best in care for women Carmen Silva Doctor s Hospital of Manteca COO revealed that one of the hospital s prized achievements is their status of being a Certified Quality Breast Center of Excellence. Doctors Hospital is one of only 35 Certified Quality Breast Centers of Excellence a certification that recognizes a center s performance as meeting quality standards criteria. This is one of our bigger achievements because we are a smaller community hospital affirmed Carmen. Six years ago a group of physicians and I created some algorithms around breast cancer treatment and then took those algorithms to the insurance companies. Our ultimate goal was to create a process that allowed patients to We are very excited about the addition of an advanced wound care center that should be ready for patients in September. This wound care center is being developed to allow specialized treatment of wounds with hyperbaric oxygen therapy and other procedures that are closer to home for area residents. go from discovery to diagnosis in five working days instead of having to wait months for preapproval. It takes a lot of people working together to make a program like this work and our initiative was successful. We had a lot of push-back in the beginning when this system was first introduced but now I am happy to say that we have a 100 percent participation rate from area doctors. During her 39-years in the medical profession Carmen has worked in various medical positions including nursing director and chief nursing officer. As Doctors Hospital of Manteca s chief operating officer for the last 11 years she has been responsible for developing programs such as their nationally certified bariatric surgery program a new outpatient imaging center a laser cataract surgery program and an interventional radiology program. Originally hired as an assistant chief nursing officer Carmen accepted the position at Doctors Hospital thinking she would only stay for a year. I wanted to work in a big hospital but accepted the job at Doctors Hospital because I knew the experience would be invaluable she stated. But once I got here I realized that when you re in the building you can t really tell how big the building is or isn t. That realization along with the fact that I was drawn to the exemplary staff the community feel of the care and the support within the company as a whole made me rethink my need for a big hospital. That was 24 years ago and I still love being here. Carmen noted that much of Doctors Hospital s success is due to the fact that all team members physicians and staff are keenly aware that they are surrounded by much larger facilities in the Central Valley. Using this knowledge to continually go the extra mile for their patients the professional team at the hospital knows they must always strive to stay abreast of the latest technologies and expertise and must do so with the attention to personal services expected at a community hospital. We are always working to add new quality services and programs to this hospital Carmen The reason we have our certifications because we are providing quality care. I can honestly say that my favorite part of my job is watching those I work with succeed and do well. The team at Doctors Hospital is amazing and I am immensely proud to be a part of the success and growth of this community hospital. HLM Doctors Hospital of Manteca is located at 1205 E. North Street Manteca California. Visit doctorsmanteca.com to learn more. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 81 affirmed. We are very excited about the addition of an advanced wound care center that should be ready for patients in September. This wound care center is being developed to allow specialized treatment of wounds with hyperbaric oxygen therapy and other procedures that are closer to home for area residents. Our new Outpatient Surgery Center is also in the development process and should be open and ready by early 2015. Carmen firmly believes that bigger isn t always better when it comes to health care for residents of the Central Valley area. I know many people feel they need to go to the big hospitals but Doctors Hospital is proof that bigger isn t always better she explained. We offer very personalized care while working to continually maintain a feeling of small-town comfort for those who walk through our doors for care. Our patients are treated very well and we have excellent outcomes with those who come to us for care. HERLIFE BOOK CLUB fin & lady by cathleen schine rev iew by c at ie wat s on F 82 in s funeral suit was a year old worn three times already too small. With this intriguing first sentence Cathleen Schine draws us into the story of Fin Hadley an 11-yearold boy whose grandparents and mother have died of separate illnesses within a few months of each other. a maid named Mabel from her mother. School is still in session but she decides Fin can stay out of school until the fall. She plans daily excursions and adventures in the city to help him forget recent family tragedies. Wherever the pair goes Lady s miniskirts long legs and flowing hair make her the center of attention. To Fin She was like a racehorse...her hair flew in the wind like a mane...she was coltish even in her movements of tentative wildness and reckless dignity. Lady soon moves Fin and Mabel from the stuffy Upper East Side apartment to a brownstone in Greenwich Village. The summer becomes a series of parties and visits from Lady s suitors. Like the princess in a fairy tale she is pursued by three men but doesn t seem particularly taken with any of them. Despite the availability of three potential mates Lady is convinced that she ll be an old maid if she s not married within the year and asks Fin to help her find a husband. He takes the project quite seriously but Lady seems too flighty to ever settle down. She is a Sixties version of Holly Golightly from Breakfast at Tiffany s except she is wealthy enough to enjoy her leisure in style. Summer comes to a close and Lady enrolls Fin in the same progressive school that neighbor Phoebe attends a place where reading the liner notes of Bob Dylan albums passes for Literature Arts. He makes some Fin s father passed away a few years previously so he is now an orphan. Luckily he has an older half-sister who appears at his mother s funeral and whisks him away in her turquoise convertible from the family farm in Connecticut to her apartment in New York. The year is 1964 and Fin s sister Lady is the glamorous embodiment of the swinging Sixties. Fin and Lady have met previously when Fin was five and Lady an 18-year-old runaway bride who left her fianc at the altar and fled to Europe. Hugo Hadley Fin s and Lady s father brought Fin and his mother along when he followed Lady to Europe in an effort to avoid scandal and convince her to go through with the wedding. When they catch up to her on the Isle of Capri Lady defies Hugo and refuses to return to New York. Fin is mesmerized by his beautiful and charismatic sister a free spirit who defies convention and stands up to his stern father. Although Lady is Fin s legal guardian they are two orphans set adrift in the city. Lady has inherited wealth an apartment with a doorman and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM friends his own age and although his school is weak on academics learns about the world from a wide range of books recommended by Lady. She is not a typical hippie chick preferring martinis and cigarettes to wine or weed. Whenever she parties too much and spends most of the next day in bed Mabel is there to make sure that Fin is properly fed and looked after. Fin Lady and Mabel become a makeshift family. As the decade progresses and Fin becomes a teenager he and Lady join in civil rights and anti-war protest activities. By 1967 the carefree spirit of the era has given way to a more somber feeling. There was something menacing...not just the war...something more immediately foreboding like the kids on the street looking beleaguered and desperate and sad. When the Vietnam War intensifies and one of the suitors decides to enlist it all becomes too much for Lady. She flees once again to Capri in search of beauty and freedom acquiring a fourth suitor named Michelangelo. When she sends for Fin he arrives to find that Lady has undergone a transformation and may finally be ready to settle down. The enchanted isle has worked its magic and Lady seems headed for her version of a fairytale happy ending--until fate intervenes. Fin & Lady is a breezy read but you may find the characters staying with you for a long time. Author Cathleen Schine skillfully blends humor sentimentality and tragedy creating a memorable portrait of a tumultuous time. As the story progresses Schine gradually makes the reader aware that the narrator is someone who knows Fin well but is not a character in the story. The narrator s identity remains a mystery until the final pages of the book when this tale of orphans comes full circle. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 83 HERLIFE PETS life-changing companions by s t ep hanie fox service dogs F or some a dog can make all the difference. Preston Laase was diagnosed with autism when he was two years old. By the time he was four years old he d become a runner an autistic child who bolts in response to small distractions. He d run into the road and take off said his mother Nicole Laase. If we didn t have locks on the door he d run. If we went to a store he d run away from us or have meltdowns. We couldn t go anywhere. Everything changed in January when Kona a specially trained yellow Labrador retriever service dog arrived. The first service dogs and perhaps still the best known are dogs trained by Seeing Eye founded in 1927 for veterans blinded in World War I. Leader Dogs for the Blind founded 12 years later began offering dogs for hard of hearing and deaf-blind individuals as well. In the last decade the list of organizations providing service dogs has grown into the hundreds as the jobs these dogs are asked to do have expanded. Kona was provided free of charge by CanDo Canines one of many organizations that trains dogs for people with a variety of medical problems providing assistance dogs to blind and deaf people and to people with conditions such as seizure disorders people who use wheelchairs or crutches or who have diabetes complicated by hypoglycemia unawareness and to children who are autistic. There are 180 people on CanDo Canine s autism waiting list with a wait time of up to four years. It s 100 percent worth it said Laase. Preston used to go to bed at 11 00 p.m. and sleep only until 3 00 a.m. The first night Kona arrived he went to bed at 8 00 p.m. and slept until 6 00 a.m. Kona immediately provided a calming influence and peace of mind for Preston. If Preston has a meltdown in public people don t give us dirty looks. They see the dog and know that he s not just a naughty kid. Not all dogs can do the job. Labs and retrievers work with mobility patients said CanDo Canine s spokesman Paul Schwarzkopf. Spaniels are alert and do well as hearing assistance dogs. For autism you want a big calm dog that stays put and stays still. Many service dogs come from animal shelters. They re sent to 84 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM live with a volunteer puppy raiser for up to 18 months before beginning formal training the kind and length of training depends on the duties the dog will be expected to perform. Some organizations such as Leader Dogs for the Blind maintain specialty breeding programs. Puppies live with their mothers for six weeks and then go to puppy raisers said PR Director Rachelle Kniffen. They teach them basic obedience housebreak and socialize the puppies. When the dogs go out in public they wear a blue bandana that says future leader dog. After about a year the dogs go through a four-month training program learning to wear a harness stop at curbs and walk around obstacles Kniffen said. Until now we ve asked the dog for total obedience but the last thing we teach is what s called intelligent disobedience. If a car is coming and the dog thinks it s not safe the dog will disobey a command. For some trainers as well as for the dogs future owners working with the dogs can be a life-changing experience. The non-profit Prison Pet Partnership Program created in 1980 was the first to use inmates as puppy raisers and dog trainers. The program was such a huge success for dogs and inmates alike that 35 states have adopted similar concepts. The state-wide recidivism rate is 20 percent but it s less than three percent for program graduates said Grace Van Dyke program manager at the Washington Corrections Center for Women. The women have to show that they are dedicated to staying out of trouble. They take classes on how to work with dogs and if they pass they can apply for training classes. We have 20 women trainers now with another 15 as students. One woman came in five years ago reclusive and withdrawn. But in the program the inmates must learn to teach not only the dogs but other volunteers and the people who will own the dogs. Within a few months of release she was employed and promoted and now teaches 20 dog classes a week. It was a complete transformation. Once a rare sight service dogs are becoming part of the everyday landscape from high schools to senior housing allowing greater independence and making lives easier for their owners. In 2009 a bipartisan amendment was added to the Defense Appropriations bill for the Veterans Administration requiring the VA to provide service dogs for veterans with physical and mental disabilities including PTSD. A number of non-profit organizations have been formed to match dogs with veterans who need them. Fostering a puppy or donating to an organization that trains service dogs is a worthy goal. It could certainly transform someone else s life if not your own. HLM Sources can-do-canines.org leaderdog.org prisonpetpartnership.org and seeingeye.org. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 85 HERLIFE SHE SAID YES AMBER PETER w ri tte n by m a ri l y n i sa m i n ge r p h o to gra p hy by b ri g g s p h o to gra p hy and intervening years Amber and Peter have grown together during many stages of their lives establishing a solid foundation for their future. Peter made his proposal to Amber on A mber Luis and Peter Giles have a musical connection...in fact they actually met during a high school summer band camp The year was 2003 and in the February 22 2014 a family affair popping the question at Amber s family s cabin in Truckee California. Peter s family was there as well (do we think they may have been tipped off in advance ) and after Amber said Yes there was much celebrating and merriment. Amber and Peter have set their wedding date for May 30 2015. Plans are coming together but one special friend has already been chosen to participate in the wedding party their dog Chase will be the ring bearer And honored guests can expect the wedding celebration party to extend to midnight with music dancing and fun. We are looking forward to being fully in the moment and sharing the day with our loved ones and friends Amber smiles. It will be a very special day as we begin our forever HLM 86 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 87 HERLIFE TIE THE KNOT Blair and Jonathan Fisher B 88 TIE D THE K NOT D E CE MB E R 1 4 2 0 1 3 lair (Young) Fisher is 23 years old and is from Lodi We met at Lodi High School about ten years ago Blair reveals. I was a freshman when he was a senior and I had no interest in dating him way back then. Eight years later we reconnected over Facebook while he was stationed in Belgium. He came home on leave that summer and surprised me by showing up to my work with flowers. Before he left to go back to Belgium I drove to Aptos where he was vacationing with his family and spent the day at the beach with him. We have been together ever since Jonathan kept the setting of his proposal concealed from Blair but not those they were with at the moment he popped the question on December 16 2012. I especially love Disney Blair shares. We were at Disneyland and he surprised me and booked a special VIP tour called the Walk in Walt s Footsteps tour that concludes in Walt Disney s apartment. Everybody on the tour knew that he had planned on proposing at the end in the apartment. I was very surprised and had no idea of his intent. It was very special California. Before she was married Blair worked as a record keeper for a financial advisory office and was attending Delta College where she received her AA and certificate to teach preschool. Now that I am married I have moved 2 000 miles away to Fort Polk Louisiana and I m now a fulltime army wife and plan on going back to college in the fall to obtain my BA. Blair loves Disney reading books being outdoors and spending all her time with her new husband. Jonathan Fisher is 26 and also is from Lodi. He has been in the Army for seven years now. He is a sergeant works as a military police officer and currently plans to make the Army his career. He will be going back to college online in the fall to obtain his AA. Jonathan enjoys playing video games collecting and shooting guns being outdoors and of course spending time with his new bride. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 88 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM businesses that shared in the love bridal gown the elizabeth bridal salon bridesmaids gowns jcpenny hair styling mary nguyen makeup trang nguyen photography dee yates studios dj marquis entertainment cake frosted flour cakery and supplies ceremony venue morris chapel reception venue the women s club of lodi rentals giuffra s party rentals wri t t e n by marilyn is amin ger p hot ogr ap hy by d ee yat es s t u d i o s to me because of the location and of course I said Yes The blissful couple tied the knot on December 14 2013. Blair s Maid of Honor was Autumn Lee and bridesmaids were Melissa Harbin Natalie Wilson Heather Fisher and Breanna Null. Jonathan s groomsmen were Jeremy Fisher Kevin Foreman Christopher Clark Keith Foreman and Connor Young. The early afternoon ceremony was held at historic Morris Chapel at University of the Pacific with the afternoon reception following at The Woman s Club of Lodi. Blair and Jonathan were blessed with many family and friends present to celebrate this special day in their lives. We spent seven days in Oahu for our honeymoon Jonathan beams. We stayed at a military resort called the Hale Koa that was right on Waikiki Beach. We did all kinds of sightseeing and tourist things. We had an awesome time and can t wait to go back HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 89 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 91 HERLIFE SCENE AND BE SEEN Niello Concours Raduno at Design Galleria by Valentine D 92 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM esign Galleria by Valentine hosted the annual Niello Concours Raduno Thursday July 8. Guests enjoyed live music delicious appetizers and drinks and of course beautiful cars. Car enthusiasts and experts alike marveled at the collection of vehicles displayed from classic restored pieces to modern beauties. For more information about Niello Concours Raduno please visit nielloconcoursatserrano.com and please visit dgbv.com for more information about Design Galleria by Valentine. HLM p ho to gra p hy by h e r l i f e sta f f TH As kf or ES HI EL D CARNAUBA WAX NOW WITH The Valley can be tough protect your car with neverboring.com . HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 93 HERLIFE HOROSCOPE star journeys With two planets going retrograde this month most signs should focus on communication and be very clear about what is being said understood and assumed. Those signs whose planets are still residing above the horizon will feel the effects of the retrograde less. This is the month for forging ahead or making plans for a successful move forward. HLM by m e l o dy b u ssey Scorpio OCT. 23-NOV. 21 Pluto is in your Eastern sector which means that cosmic forces are yours to command. This is the time to strike out in a new direction take control of certain situations and create the spiritual life you ve been considering for a while. Taurus APR. 20-MAY 20 This is not the month to indulge your bull-headedness. Instead attempt to work with and through others to achieve your goals. If you will do this it will make you popular to the point that you can call in favors at any time. With two of the larger planets going retrograde in your money sector be very careful how you spend or invest your money. Sagittarius NOV. 22-DEC. 21 Almost all of the planets are going to be above the horizon for you this month making your powers of self-reliance and independence legendary. However due to the retrograde you will need to make sure that you watch your spending more closely. Gemini MAY 21-JUNE 20 This is a time to take a back seat and let others shine for a while. Trying to assert yourself and push your ideas forward right now is going to backfire in a horrendous way. Mars is going to be in your 4th house which is going to make you a very emotionally charged individual. So before going postal count to ten or remove yourself from the situation for a while until you are calm. Capricorn DEC. 22-JAN. 19 Saturn your ruling planet is going retrograde on the 12th so your pace of life will slow down. This is a great time to table family issues or social issues and focus on your career. As a result of most of your planets being in the upper half of your chart money issues will get better for you. So enjoy Cancer JUNE 21-JULY 23 Venus is camping out in your 4th house making this month the perfect time for family and friends. This is also a time when you may feel more like nesting repairing and fixing up things around the house. A shift in power is going to happen toward the end of the month that will allow previously untapped social abilities to emerge. Aquarius JAN. 20-FEB. 18 This is the month to give yourself fully over to the now of the moment. If you will do this then the future will lay itself out without your having to do much. Your mental clarity and focus are going to be at the top of their game. Leo JULY 24-AUG. 22 This is the month where you will need to focus on creating some inner peace for yourself as well as balancing the needs of others. You will find that if you give yourself some emotional comfort then career issues will right themselves. Be very wary of trying out any fad diets as they may negatively impact your body s chemistry. Pisces FEB. 19-MAR. 20 The planets are giving you the ability to customize your career and work hours this month. Some of you will choose a shorter work week while others will start up their own business. Either way seek to find a balance with emotional health and the work you choose to do for a living. Virgo AUG. 23-SEPT. 22 While other signs are struggling with the double whammy of having two planets in retrograde this situation will not faze you in the least. In fact with Mars in your sign you will have an abundance of energy and clarity and the ability to move forward on some long-planned projects. Toward the middle of the month you are especially going to realize that you are in charge of your destiny and it will feel good. Finances will be supercharged so enjoy. Aries MAR. 21-APR. 19 This is the month that the planets are urging you to work on your social skills especially in the area of compromise and empathy. Learning how to successfully negotiate is going to make this month move smoothly toward larger goals. Money issues will ease on or around the 24th. Libra SEPT. 23-OCT. 22 Generally you are willing to go with the flow but not this month. Your ability to speak up and be in charge will be enhanced. Take advantage of this to ask for a raise try something new or discuss something with your significant other that you ve been putting off. 94 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 95 HERLIFE CALENDAR september oriented event Walk run or ride your way through a 10K 2-mile run or walk a Kids Fun Run and more Learn more and register at active.com or call (209) 569-7789. 6 Bluegrass at the Lake DATE September 6 TIME 12 00pm LOCATION Lodi Lake Lodi DETAILS Celebrate the second annual Bluegrass Festival at Lodi Lake Enjoy a variety of local bluegrass performers and purchase food and beverages at the festival Bring your low lawn chairs and blankets and relax by the lake Tickets are available online at hutchinsstreetsquare.com by phone at (209) 333-6782 or at the gate. 28 5th Annual St. Mary s High School Olive Oil Festival DATE September 28 TIME 12 00pm - 5 00pm LOCATION St. Mary s High School 5648 N El Dorado Street Stockton DETAILS Come support St. Mary s High School with tons of olive oilcentered activities Listen to some amazing musicians including the SMHS Jazz Band join in the 5K or 1-mile run and enjoy the variety of tasting food and market booths Visit smhsoliveoilfestival.com for more details. 6 Walk the Mile to End Lupus DATE September 6 TIME 3 00pm LOCATION Whirlow s Tossed and Grilled 1926 Pacific Avenue Stockton DETAILS Raise awareness for lupus by walking or sponsoring this mile walk Participate in walking passports to win a 50 gift card to Whirlow s win raffle prizes and enjoy live music by Mondo Mariscal and friends Visit lupus.donorpages.com SanFrancisco2014 Team4M or call (209) 4062902. All calendar event submissions must be received by September 1st for the October issue and adhere to our guidelines. E-mail beth herlifemagazine.com for guidelines or to submit entries. HLM 17 17th Annual Power of the Purse DATE September 17 TIME 11 00am - 1 30pm LOCATION Gallo Center for the Arts 1000 I Street Modesto DETAILS Help support the United Way of Stanislaus County Women s Leadership Council This year s speaker is Carissa Phelps survivor and now an attorney youth advocate and author. Registration is available through website or email. Please visit their website at uwaystan.org power-purse email POPinfo uwaystan.org or call (209) 523-4562. 19 Summer Concerts at Stonecreek Village DATE September 19 TIME 6 30pm - 8 30pm LOCATION Stonecreek Village Shopping Center DETAILS Enjoy the summer concert Elton The Early Years and Elton John Tribute at Stonecreek Village Enjoy dinner or snacks from Stonecreek s many great restaurants and shop and rock the evening away For more information please visit shopstonecreekvillage.com. 20 Cancer Awareness Run & Ride DATE September 20 TIME 6 00am - 2 00pm LOCATION Modesto Junior College West Campus 2201 Blue Gum Avenue DETAILS Raise awareness and funds for cancer research at this fun family96 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 97