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We welcome your ideas articles and feedback. 10 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 11 HERLIFE CONTENTS features 50 44 80 32 14 18 Welcome From the Publisher Health Lose More Weight in Less Time Beauty Dealing with Adult Acne Spotlight Kevin Schimke Jewelers Pets Owning a Dog Can Be Your Best Security System Spotlight K&T Lights Cosmetic Surgery Eyelid Enhancement and Liposuction Inspirations Nicole Goehring HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 82 Spotlight Suzuki DMD & Associates Cravings French 25 Recipes Creamy Pumpkin Pecan Strudel Cups Grilled Glazed Vegetables Wine Cooking With Wine Winery Oak Farm Vineyards Culinary Fall s Fruit The Pumpkin Behind The Menu Corner Scone Bakery Foodies 56 Garden California Extra Virgin Coming to a Store Near You Trendsetter Stella Boutique Community Spotlight Camp Hutchins Mother s Perspective Modeling Self-Care to Children Home Childproofing Your Home Green Living Energy-Efficient Appliances Real Estate Making a Video to Sell Your House Working Women Surviving a Job Loss 76 Finance Finding Grants and Scholarships for College Education Fine Things Diamonds are Forever Travel Exotic Retreats Book Club The Dovekeepers She Said Yes Mandy and Joey Tie The Knot April and Jonathan Scene and be Seen St. Joseph s 4th Annual Caring For Me Event Horoscope Calendar 58 64 66 80 82 84 86 88 92 38 40 42 20 22 24 44 48 50 68 70 72 28 30 52 54 94 96 32 74 12 HERLIFE WELCOME the car cart ling even though my frustrations of navigating the extra-long cart with the car attached to the front of it so I can somehow keep my five year old entertained start to boil over. Any mom or grandma out there who has desperately hoped that a car cart is available as you approach the entrance of the grocery store in fear that your child will have a melt-down and you will be forced to wrangle your kid into a regular old grocery cart understands the complicated relationship with these carts. On the one hand these car carts can be entertaining to your children. They also give some distance between mom and kids which helps create a sound barrier if your children are particularly whiny. The down side however is the lack of steering capabilities. Because of the added length dodging the land mines of holiday displays becomes Mission Impossible. In one trip Jackson and I are responsible for the takedown of an entire Christmas cookie display a row of tomato sauce from the bottom shelf and a couple of bags of bagels that didn t fare well under the wheels of the elongated cart. The family traditions must continue so I press on with my mission. My holiday memories save me from joining Jackson in a melt-down. I remember one tradition in particular that resonates with me now more than ever. My Grandpa Bob and Uncle Jerry had the task of taking all of us kids to the movies the day after Thanksgiving. It was a yearly tradition and I always assumed it was designed for our moms and grandma to Christmas shop for us. Looking back now that I am a mother I realize they did it to give our moms aunts and grandmas a break a reprieve from the snotty noses whiny voices and constant bickering. Sure there was some Christmas shopping involved but more than anything there was a break laughter lunch and wine. Happy Thanksgiving and Happy Navigating to all of the moms and grandmas who will be pushing car carts through the crowded aisles this holiday season p h o to by stu d i o m o h s o h M y heart is full as memories of celebrating Thanksgiving with my family continue to surface today evidence of the holiday season is everywhere I turn. I walk down the crowded aisles in the grocery store and dodge and weave through vendor displays of canned pumpkin marshmallow fluff boxes of stuffing condensed milk and every other baking ingredient imaginable. I find myself smiling and sometimes chuck- Kimberly Mullen facebook Herlife of Central Valley twitter HERlifeCali 14 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 17 HERLIFE HEALTH lose more weight in less time by l i sa taranto butler you have to wiggle your way into that new swimsuit you are still lugging around that extra weight. Most experts avoid promoting rapid weight loss opting instead to encourage healthy choices on a daily basis. In the long run there is no better option. But when it comes to losing a few pounds a quick fix can be successful and healthy as long as we are mindful of our body s cues. Swap Central Losing weight doesn t have to be the all-or-nothing approach but in this case time is of the essence so be prepared to make uncomfortable changes. Switch out as many detrimental choices as possible in your daily diet for better healthier ones. For instance don t use any condiments nix the sugary coffee drinks and stop drinking alcohol and soda. Exchange your normal Sunday morning brunch for a one-hour spin class. Keep in mind that you don t have to do this forever but you may just end up busting some bad habits in the process. Water There s no magic weight loss pill on the market (although some companies make that claim) but drinking water is pretty close to supernatural. Guzzling H2O can keep you feeling full jumpstart metabolism and strangely enough flush out excess water in your body. Drink water every chance you get. If water bores you to tears then make it a little less lackluster by adding lemon wedges cucumber mint leaves or other no-calorie flavorings. Drink a Little Joe Here s one exception to that great water rule. Drink some coffee. 18 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Get Some Zs Studies show that people who sleep less weigh more. Just think about it. After a poor night s sleep how do you eat the next day We may not only consume more food but we also tend to make poorer food choices selecting items with higher fat and carbohydrates. Plus when we re tired we tend to exercise less and at a lower intensity which slows our metabolism and hampers our weight loss efforts. Skip Breakfast Yes. You read correctly. Not for the long haul but if you are trying to lose a few pounds in a short amount of time pass up the toast. At night when you go to bed there s always a small amount of energy in your body--food in your belly some in your blood and a bit in your liver. But after a good night s sleep you tend to feel hungry. If you have some extra body fat to lose you probably don t need breakfast just yet. Instead of eating before your workout exercise while your body is low on energy and burn some of that stored fat. Of course this may not work for everyone especially if you have a hard time exercising on an empty stomach. Just listen to your body. Coffee contains caffeine but it also helps you focus and adds energy to your workout. So just by having a cup of black coffee you ll burn more calories without even realizing it. Caffeine also helps fat cells open and empty into the bloodstream further prompting weight loss. I t s a common story. You ve fanaticized about slimming down before your class reunion or losing ten pounds just in time for that special beach vacation but it never happened. You couldn t seem to get on the right track. And now two weeks before the mix and mingle session with your archrival from high school or ten days before Ramp Up Your Routine While many of us do the right thing by exercising we may not be working out hard enough to lose weight. Get out of your comfort zone and do intervals. High-intensity interval training (HIIT) is working out while alternating between intense bursts of activity and less-intense activity or rest. HIIT burns more calories increases metabolism and targets fat all in a fraction of the time of longer slower workouts. Banish Late-Night Munchies Although some experts say it s the calories that count others argue eating at night is a surefire way to chalk up the pounds and disrupt your sleep. If you are trying to lose weight quickly don t eat after dinner. As a matter of fact go to bed hungry at least during this weight loss period. You may not only wake up feeling more rested but a little lighter underneath the sheets too. Work With the Camera When your big event finally arrives use the camera to your advantage and make yourself appear thinner. When posing for photos stand sideways to the camera and place one foot slightly in front of the other. Stand tall push your chin forward hold your arms away from your body and suck in your tummy. Enjoy your slimmer more streamlined physique (even if just for a snap). Most importantly smile You may have started some healthy habits you can keep for a lifetime. HLM Sources cosmopolitan.com and health.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 19 HERLIFE BEAUTY by l i n dsay laderoute dealing with adult acne clear and radiant. Having acne as a teen or young adult does not necessarily mean you will have acne into adulthood. The opposite also rings true if you did not have acne as a teen you may suffer with it later in life. For women in the latter group dermatologists refer to this as adult-onset acne. The incidence of adult-onset acne is most common in women going through menopause but it can become a problem at any age. Acne is caused by the blockage and inflammation of hair follicles by dead skin cells and the oil or sebum secreted by sebaceous glands. Bacteria thrive in this environment and can cause an inflammatory reaction in the skin. In adult women a big culprit of the overproduction of sebum is hormonal fluctuations or imbalances. While this may not be true for all women some may trace the beginning of their acne to pregnancy pre- or post-menopause the time of their periods or when they start or stop birth control pills. If this seems to be the root of your acne problem consult your physician to check your hormone levels. This can rule out some hormone-based problems such as polycystic ovary syndrome. If hormones are the culprits of your acne your physician can help you decide upon the best steps toward balancing out your 20 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM I f you suffer from adult acne you may have felt alone in your battle. But according to recent studies almost 50 percent of women deal with acne sometime during their adult lives. Acne causes us to feel insecure aggravated and annoyed especially into adulthood. Here s some information about what causes it and how to treat it so you can keep your skin hormones. This may include changing your birth control method or hormone treatments. Adult acne may be affected by diet. A 2007 Harvard School of Public Health study indicated a link between consumption of milk and acne oddly those who consumed fat-free milk had more breakouts possibly because processing increases hormone levels in the milk. Eating too many refined and processed carbohydrates may be a cause of adult acne as well. Scientists believe that foods that spike insulin such as processed carbohydrates that are high on the glycemic index may lead to a release of hormones that increase oil production. Lifestyle can contribute to the intensity of adult acne. High levels of stress can create stronger breakouts androgens produced by a stressed system stimulate oil glands and hair follicles in the skin. Beauty products may also intensify acne look for products that are labeled with a term such as noncomedogenic nonacnegenic or oil free. To keep these problems from adding to your acne try exercising or other ways of managing stress and consult a dermatologist if you believe your beauty routine may be increasing your acne. Medication may be a cause for adult acne. Some medications especially those containing corticosteroids androgens or lithium may list acne as a side effect. If you suspect your medication is causing your acne consult your doctor about other possible drugs without this side effect. If it is not possible to change medications consult a dermatologist for other options. Once you have figured out the root of your acne problem it s time to figure out a solution. One thing to keep in mind if you suffer from adult acne is that your skin changes over time. Your skin will be very different in your 30s 40s and beyond compared to your teen and early adult years. The products that worked before may not work as well or may not work at all at your current age. Adult skin is dryer and takes longer to heal and create new cells so it is important to keep those factors in mind when looking into an acne regimen. If you suffer with mild adult acne do some research into over-the-counter products. If your acne is more severe consult your dermatologist or physician to discuss your options. These include changing or starting birth control taking acne prescription medications or antibiotics and having chemical peels or laser therapies. A combination of two or more of these may be required for optimal results. Be aware that if you are prescribed medication it may take up to eight weeks to see results. Simple skin care recommendations may help too. Wash twice daily and after sweating use gentle alcohol-free products rather than those that may irritate your skin such as exfoliants or astringents. Keep your hands away from your face and let your skin heal naturally. Finally avoid the sun some medications can make the skin more sensitive to ultraviolet light. Adult acne is not something to suffer through. By determining the triggers of your outbreaks and finding the right treatments you can minimize or completely erase your adult acne for good. HLM Sources AAD.org acne.org mayoclinic.org prevention.com skininc.com and today.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 21 HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT by r eb ec c a flan sb u rg p h o to s by b ri g g s p h o to gra p hy T H R E E G E N E R AT I O N S O F J E W E L E R S 22 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM We also perform all phases of jewelry designing and manufacturing right within our own workshop and the end result is something that takes our customer s breath away and provides them with an amazing keepsake for life. A rine and topaz. s a child in the late 1950s Kevin Schimke owner of Kevin Schimke Jewelers of Stockton had fond memories of playing in the back room of his father s jewelry store in El Cerrito California. As he grew older the opportunities to learn from his father grew as well. By 1971 he was work- ing full time during the summer and part time after school in an apprenticeship role performing jewelry repairs. It was at that time his love and passion for gemstones and fine jewelry began to flourish. In 1978 Kevin now married to Bella attended the world-renowned Gemological Institute of America and earned the title of Gemologist. Moving to Stockton in 1979 he established Kevin Schimke Designing Jewelers on the Miracle Mile. Since those early days the Schimkes have immersed themselves in offering quality fine jewelry to Central Valley residents along with personalized service that is second to none. We offer a multitude of jewelry types and styles such as rings pendants earrings bracelets charms and pearls Kevin shared. We also have a deep interest and niche in providing colored stones for the customers. Diamonds are very sought after but our colored stones are very popular as well. A gorgeous palette of color is what you will see in this department thanks to the fact that we stock 50 different varieties of gemstones including birthstones and stones such as rubies emeralds sapphires aquamaWell known for their honesty reliability and quality workmanship in creating one-of-a-kind custom bridal sets men s wedding bands or other special occasion pieces the Schimkes offer a robust selection of diamonds in various shapes and sizes at reasonable prices. Their connections in countries such as Thailand allow them to get first pick of many precious stones for their customers. We also serve as diamond brokers and are able to get any size shape or quality of stones for our clients Kevin revealed. This is a very important detail for clients who are looking for custom pieces designed specifically for them. Kevin said creating these custom pieces is a labor of love as well as an in-depth process. We have been doing jewelry design for more than 30 years so we have experience in creating special pieces for our customers he affirmed. After spending some time with the individual to find out their vision and needs for the piece it then goes into the sketch process. After the sketch is approved we use it to create a model out of wax. The mold is then placed in a furnace to burn out the wax next we cast the item in yellow or white gold. The piece is then polished and set with stones. It s a very detail-oriented process that I believe not many jewelers do. We also perform all phases of jewelry designing and manufacturing right within our own workshop and the end result is something that takes our customer s breath away and provides them with an amazing keepsake for life. Our customers who request custom pieces or colored stones have a deep appreciation for gemstones. They know these stones are not just a pretty piece of glass and understand that each has its own properties color and structure. True to their tagline Three Generations of Jewelers since 1951 Schimke Jewelers is a family business to the core. Just as his father mentored and prepared him to take the helm Kevin and Bella plan on handing over the reins to their daughter Erika Schimke Reese someday as well. Erika is currently studying to be a gemologist and has a bachelor s degree in business from Stanislaus State University as well as two AA degrees. When it comes to working alongside his family every day Kevin wouldn t have it any other way. When people say they love their business I can actually say I love my business including my workmates he joked. Our family also includes Jack Reese or Baby Jack. He is Erika s one-year-old son who comes to work with her three days a week. Baby Jack is a part of who we are and we hope he will be our fourth-generation jeweler. The Schimke family also does not sell their jewelry or gemstones online instead opting to encourage their customers to come in and see the beauty of each stone in person. We are now seeing second and third generations of customers coming to us for their wedding bands and fine jewelry. For us it s not just the love of the business but the face-to-face interaction with our customers as well that keeps us going. When we have a bride or customer who comes in and is thrilled with what we create we are thrilled too because we know that they now have something they will treasure for the rest of their life. We are always ready and excited for the customer who walks through our doors and wants something special. HLM To learn more about Kevin Schimke Jewelers visit them on the web at kevinschimkejewelers.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 23 HERLIFE PETS owning a dog can be your best security system by l i n d a r. p ri c e play of force that would scare off an intruder. In this category are the German Shepherd Belgian Sheepdog Bulldog and Collie. Watch dogs are used to sound the alarm until the owner or a guard dog responds to the threat and takes action. Frequently small and noisy the watch dogs are the first line of defense but they are not expected to engage the enemy bite him or deter him. They bark or growl and wait for backup. In this group are the Shar-Pei Pug Chihuahua Pekingese Terrier Poodle Shih Tzu Miniature Schnauzer Dachshund and Chow Chow. Protective Family Dogs All dog lovers and trainers have their favorite breeds. Still it s a good idea to consider what traits you might not be able to live with when selecting one as pet. Among those considered suitable for families are the Saint Bernard Airedale Terrier German Shepherd Great Dane Boxer and Bullmastiff. The Saint Bernard is kind gentle intelligent and good-natured. He is also a large muscular dog of up to 180 pounds. Saint Bernards need outdoor exercise with a yard to stretch out in but would be nice to think that the sky s the limit when it comes to our family s safety but for most of us that simply isn t true. There are many things you can do to provide additional layers of security and one is to add a dog to your household. If you have children they will love the addition of a puppy that can be trained to provide more security for your house. When looking for the right dog several things must be taken into account. You want a dog that is protective of family members and yet aggressive enough to deter burglars. A lovable black lab just isn t going to cut it Guard Dog Versus Watch Dog There is a difference. Guard dogs (also called attack dogs) are generally more aggressive and require more training to be around families even though many of these dogs make excellent pets. Guard dogs are large dogs that make a dis24 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM W hen you think about home security systems what comes to mind Security companies are expensive the more services they offer the more they cost. It they do not like to live outdoors they crave human companionship. They re not the best choice where pristine housekeeping is prized as they are a loveable pillow of fluffy hair that sheds and they drool--constantly. The Airedale Terrier is the largest and hardiest of the terriers. The Airedale has a hard dense and wiry coat that must be brushed and stripped. The Airedale requires obedience training and daily exercise. This is a fiercely loyal dog with a sweet disposition that will not back down when challenged. German Shepherds ranked second in popularity only to the Labrador Retriever in 2012 and 2013 in the United States. The German Shepherd has been used extensively in therapy by the military and as police dogs. They are highly intelligent bold confident and fearless. The breed is energetic and fun loving. They make excellent family pets when trained and socialized. They are loyal to family members only and require supervision around guests. Regular exercise and grooming are required. The Great Dane is a large majestic yet elegant dog. With a minimum standard height of 30 in the shoulder for males it is a strong dog that is taller than many people when it stands on its hind legs. The Great Dane is a gentle and loving dog with a friendly energetic personality. This dog won t win any prizes for aggressiveness but its size will deter most criminals. Exercise is a must. Boxers look like the athletes they were named for--sleek yet rippling with muscles. The boxer is playful affectionate loyal and intelligent with patience and a protective nature that makes them a great dog around children. They are suspicious of strangers but not aggressively so. They need to be well socialized in early puppyhood. This is another active dog that requires plenty of exercise. The Bullmastiff is a powerfully built dog with an alert intelligent expression. The dog looks tough but he is calm and well behaved in the house. The Bullmastiff is eager to please sensitive courageous loyal and has protective instincts. The bullmastiff typically uses his power to block the path of an intruder (or knock him down and pin him to the ground) until help arrives. He rarely barks doesn t bite or need lots of exercise. Which One Is for You The right dog for you depends on many factors the amount of space you have whether or not there are children your experience as a dog owner and increasingly the requirements of your property and liability insurance carrier. Owning a dog brings many responsibilities so be sure you are ready to assume them and always always supervise dogs around children. HLM Sources akc.org bradanderson.org caninejournal.com cesarsway.com dogtime.com familycircle.com and petmd.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 25 HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT 28 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM K&T LIGHTS LIGHTING UP by r eb ec c a f l a n sb u rg p h o to gra p hy by j u l i e n i c o l e p h o to gra p hy mercial clients for any occasion. The Mays have been creating oohs and ahhs for the last 17 years with their creative flair attention to I f one of your goals is to make your home or business the envy of the neighborhood this holiday season making Christmas beautiful in San Joaquin County has never been easier. Kyle and Tracy May a dynamic husband-and-wife team and owners of K&T Lights specialize in customized lighting for residential or com- detail and high quality lighting offerings. A locally owned and operated Manteca Tracy and Mountain House areas. business in Stockton K&T Lights proudly serves the Stockton Lodi This flourishing business began many years ago as a fluke while Kyle and Tracy were still in college. Being that we were college stu- Life of the proceeds goes to various local charities. go the extra mile for our customers. abilities for as long as we can. HLM or on their Facebook page. years ago creating breathtaking lighting for special occasions continues to be an important part of their growing business. Along with their holiday lighting customers the Mays also work with around 20 wedding couples each summer to supply ambient lighting for their special day. Many of our customers also love the specialty lights we offer that reflect national events such as Breast Cancer Awareness Autism Awareness and American Heart Association Kyle added. These pink blue or red lights are available for clients to rent and a portion The Mays also offer services such as installation of LED lights and gutter cleaning but there is one service that is seemingly growing in popularity. We have a service in which we install outdoor lighting for clients in the spring and we don t remove it until winter Kyle reported. That way they get to enjoy ambient lighting all summer long for their special events and family gatherings without having to worry about maintenance or take-down. Kyle also shared that K&T Lights is a fully licensed and insured company. We take customer service very seriously he added. We work very very hard to give our customers what they need and treat them as we wish to be treated. Whether it is a wedding holiday light installation or lighting for a backyard event we As it does for many husband and wife business teams working together has it challenges but also yields great rewards. We spend time every night at dinnertime to come together as a family and talk about our day Kyle informed. Even when we are off on family outings we try to set aside all business-related worries and just focus on the moment to enjoy the time that we are there. There are obviously times when things get challenging but we ve been doing this for 17 years and I feel we have found a process and a rhythm that works well for our family. As for the future we plan to continue with both our lighting business as well as our teaching careers. We don t plan on dropping one to focus on the other. They are both a very important part of our lives and we intend to keep doing both to the best of our Learn more about K&T Lights via their website kandtlights.com dents who were broke all the time we started this company as a way to make some extra money to buy gifts around the holiday season Kyle shared. But how it all began was through a simple request from a friend of the family who asked us to create some lighting for a backyard wedding. From that wedding there were eight people who asked if we would do their Christmas lights for them. We both had a light bulb moment that we had just possibly identified a unique niche that could be made into a profitable business. From there K&T Lights was born. In our first year we did holiday lighting for eight homes and it doubled every year after that. Seventeen years later the Mays are still going strong with this innovative business. They currently decorate 450 homes in the Central Valley region with holiday lights. To achieve this monumental task the Mays employ a team of 12 employees to help with installing the residential and commercial lighting projects. Tracy and I both still work full time as special education teachers so we rely on our employees to do much of the installation Kyle confirmed. We are a family business so we include our children as often as possible because we want them to understand the importance of maintaining a business. Skyler our 11-year-old and Mckynlee our five-year-old help with things like cleaning out the trailer or helping us put letters in envelopes. We want to raise our girls with a strong work ethic and being involved in the family business is a big part of that. Since that very first request for special lighting for a wedding 17 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 29 HERLIFE COSMETIC SURGERY JOSEPH R. BURLIN MD American Board of Plastic Surgery Stanford Trained More than 25 Years of Experience EYELID ENHANCEMENT AND LIPOSUCTION Q. I am 42 years old and my eyes used to be my best feature. In recent years I have developed so much skin on my upper eyelids and puffiness in my lower eyelids that I know that I need to do something. I certainly do not want to grow old gracefully. What are my options A. The eyes are the pivotal focus of the face. They reflect our emotions but also our age. Aging eyelids often make us look sad or tired. Cosmetic surgery of the eyelids changes the appearance of the eyelids from sad to happy and from tired to bright and alert. There are basically three procedures that focus on eyelid enhancement. They are upper eyelid surgery lower eyelid surgery and brow lift. Upper eyelid surgery typically involves removal of the excess skin and fat of the upper eyelids. This is usually accomplished through an incision hidden within the natural fold of the upper eyelid. The incision length varies but if it needs to be extended beyond the outside corner of the eye it will be hidden within a natural facial (crow s feet) line. If sagging eyebrows contribute to the redundant skin of the upper eyelids then a brow lift procedure would be discussed in addition to the upper eyelid surgery. A brow lift is necessary when the skin of the forehead as a result of time and gravity begins to progressively slide downward resulting in a heavy sagging brow low eyebrows deep forehead creases deep furrows in between the eyes and a look that is typically described as tired or angry. A brow lift restores a youthful appearance by correcting the skin excess and drooping of the forehead. This immediately corrects the sagging brows (eyebrows) and upper eyelid skin hooding. Depending on the exact method of brow lifting performed it may also be possible to reduce the aggravating horizontal forehead lines and wrinkles that patients disdain. Lower eyelid surgery is typically focused on removing bulging fat ( bags ) as well as extra skin of the lower eyelids. This can be accomplished either by a small incision hidden under the lower eyelid lashes or through an incision made on the inside of the eyelid. Through these incisions the excess fat causing the puffiness is removed or repositioned. As necessary skin is either removed or tightened using chemical peeling agents or laser resurfacing. Following surgery as indicated I often recommend very small amounts of Botox to be periodically placed into the tissues just outside of the eyelids (crow s feet region) to maintain a smooth and wrinkle-free appearance. Recovery from surgery is usually rapid with patients being able to return to work in about one week light activities (excluding sports) in two weeks and full activities (no limitations) in about four weeks. Most patients are able to wear makeup in seven to ten days. Q. I am a 33-year-old mother of two children. I have worked very hard to keep my figure and eat healthy and work out hard several times a week. Nevertheless I still have collection of fat over my lower stomach as well as my inner and outer thighs. No matter how hard I work out and how thin I get these fat spots will not go away. Is that something that liposuction surgery can correct A. Achieving the kind of figure you want requires motivation (the will to be the best you can be) dedication (to your programs of diet and exercise) but also sometimes surgery (to take you to the next step that diet and exercise cannot do alone). I always recommend self-improvement in that order motivation (you have to want to achieve your goals and then make a plan to do so) dedication to your plan to get there) and if those steps do not lead you to your goals other options including cosmetic surgery are then considered. Liposuction is a procedure to remove fatty tissue which allows you to sculpture those undesirable fatty spots to enhance your overall shape and improve your body contour. Liposuction involves removing fat via a very small tube (containing lots of holes) which is connected to a very powerful suction device. The fat is literally vacuumed away. The incision to introduce the tube device called a cannula is only about one-quarter inch long. Liposuction is most effective for removing fat from the abdomen flanks hips chest thighs upper arms and neck. Recovery following liposuction surgery is rapid and patients typically wear a compression-like garment for several weeks following the surgery. The purpose of this garment is to diminish swelling and encourage the skin to shrink down smoothly. Liposuction should not be considered as a weight loss method or a substitute for proper diet and exercise. Liposuction will also not improve dimples from cellulite stretch marks or correct loose or sagging skin. Ideally you should have healthy skin with good elasticity to allow the skin to best shape and shrink following your surgery. If your skin has poor elasticity then it may sometimes be necessary to add a skin-tightening procedure at the same time as the liposuction surgery to achieve the best results. HLM If you have questions or would like to hear about a certain topic relating to cosmetic surgery or skin care please email your questions to Kimberly herlifemagazine.com 30 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 31 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 31 HERLIFE INSPIRATIONS Yes we are all women who share in the concerns for the well-being of our community she affirmed. But we are also committed to having a valuable experience together as women. We are an excellent support system for each other. If anyone within the group is having a tough time or is in need of help we are all there for them. Our mantra is The Transformation is Just the Beginning. ...For us that transformation was and still is only just the beginning of what we hope to achieve grow and build in this community and beyond. NICOLE Goehring w ri tte n by re b e c c a f l a n sb u rg p h o to gra p hy by d e e ya t e s s t u di o s h a i r a n d m a ke u p by m e l i ssa si m a s a n d tay l o r e i sh o l z o f p e rf e c t b a l a n ce day s pa T H E T R A N S F O R M AT I O N I S J U S T T H E B E G I N N I N G T here is strength in numbers and Nicole Goehring past president and active member of the Junior League of San Joaquin knows firsthand that great things can happen when a group of strong and like-minded women come together for a cause. As government affairs director for the Associated Builders and Contractors Northern California Chapter Nicole has always been interested in community-building and working toward better solutions for local issues. But that belief took on a new meaning in 2006 when she was first introduced to the Junior League of San Joaquin County. I used to be the district director for Congressman Richard Pombo she noted. It was during that time when I first met Shannon Ding. It was Shannon who originally invited me to be a part of The Junior League which at the time was called Junior Aid of Stockton. It took her asking me several times before I accepted but once I did I could see that being a member could be an amazing way to give back to the community. I also knew it would be a great way to meet other involved women in the community. Now in her ninth year of membership Nicole is still passionate about the work she and her fellow Junior Leaguers do for San Joaquin County. Our organization is affiliated with the Association of Junior Leagues International Inc. (AJLI). Since its founding in 1901 by social activist Mary Harriman the Junior League has evolved into one of the oldest largest and most effective women s volunteer organizations in the world encompassing more than 150 000 women in 292 Leagues in four countries. The common thread is that all of these ambitious women are working as catalysts for lasting change and the desire to build better communities. I am incredibly proud to be a part of this organization. Nicole explained that Junior Leagues are educational and charitable women s organizations committed to promoting volunteerism developing the potential of women and improving communities through the effective action and leadership of trained volunteers. The Junior League has been on the forefront of social reform identifying problems such as illiteracy human trafficking and mentoring of foster youth. I was asked to be The Junior League of San Joaquin chapter president in 2013 2014 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 33 and I was incredibly honored to do so Nicole shared. It gave me a tremendous opportunity to learn all aspects of this organization and what it takes to run a vibrant and active chapter. Being JLSJC s president was an amazing experience and very in depth. It was almost like having a second job because I needed to be involved with every aspect of the organization. But the knowledge and experience I gained from my term is something I deeply appreciate. I was honored to be the leader amongst this group of movers and shakers in San Joaquin County. As this organization of like-minded women has evolved and grown over the years Nicole revealed that there is yet another purpose for this powerful group. Yes we are all women who share in the concerns for the well-being of our community she affirmed. But we are also committed to having a valuable experience together as women. We are an excellent support system for each other. If anyone within the group is having a tough time or is in need of help we are all there for them. Our mantra is The Transformation is Just the Beginning and we created this mantra as we were transferring from Junior Aid to the Junior League of San Joaquin County. For us that transformation was and still is only just the beginning of what we hope to achieve grow and build in this community and beyond. The Junior League of San Joaquin County has a long history of local initiatives and success stories when it comes to giving back to the community and as other Leagues are doing they are moving toward a process called Community Impact 34 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM working based on an issue. Some of their identified priorities include addressing homelessness gathering and sorting school supplies for the Tools for Academic Success Homework Supply Closet helping those with special needs and helping foster youth. The Junior League created their signature iPad program for area schools in 2012. Our main focus with the iPads is academic success we believe education can be a solution for and can prevent many community problems Nicole stated. Research has shown that the ability to read proficiently by the end of third grade is a powerful predictor of future academic and life success. Children who aren t strong readers going into fourth grade tend to fall behind and often never catch up. In 2012 66 percent of San Joaquin County s third graders left that grade unable to read proficiently. We wanted to change that. With this in mind JLSJC partnered with the Crete Family Foundation to do some major fundraising and the result was enough funds this year--more than 47 000--to supply two classrooms with iPads one at Borchardt Elementary School and one at Heritage Elementary School. To date Junior League has supplied a total of four classrooms with iPads. We want to take this crucial window of opportunity and give our third graders the tools they need to help with grammar reading comprehension word recognition and multiplication tables Nicole advised. We are also implementing a Pen Pal program with the iPads so we can mentor the students via their iPad and we welcome members of the community to participate as well. Ultimately we d love to have more local businesses organizations and individuals partner with us so we can keep our iPad initiative moving forward. We want to continue to work to increase reading efficiency on a third-grade level so we re always looking to build community partnerships. Partnering can mean as little as funding the cost of six iPads or iPads for a half or full classroom. Everything helps. She also noted that the results speak for themselves. Pre-iPad to post-iPad the percent of the third grade students reading above the fluency benchmark was 75 percent in 2014 compared to the prior 27 percent. Fundraising is a huge part of the JLSJC s ability to support those in need and Nicole shared that much of the money raised for their initiatives is thanks to the proceeds from massive undertakings such as their Twice Is Nice a rummage sale held every other year. Junior Leaguers collect donations for this gigantic sale for two years to provide shoppers with the chance to shop 21 000 square feet of gently used bargains. This two-day event kicks off with a preview night during which shoppers pay a cover charge and double what the item is marked. The following morning items are regular price until the afternoon when items become half price. Local families in need are given vouchers and the chance to fill a bag with much-needed items. Not only was the 2014 sale their 57th Twice is Nice sale the proceeds from this popular fundraising event totaled 61 000. As I mentioned before we are just at the beginning of our transformation Nicole concluded. If I were to choose what the most rewarding part of being a member of the Junior League is I would have to say there are two things. One is that I get to work with some of the most brilliant women in San Joaquin County. The second is that all of us in the Junior League not only believe in our community but we also are part of the solution for transforming our community. I am proud of this League s mission of being catalysts for lasting change and I am excited to see what the future will bring. HLM To learn more about the Junior League of San Joaquin County visit their website jlsjc. org the Facebook page at facebook.com JuniorLeagueSJC or Twitter twitter.com jrleaguesjc. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 35 L di Living 36 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 37 HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT FOCUSED ON THE BEAUTY OF A SMILE by re becca flansburg p hot ogr ap hy by d ale goff p hot ogr ap hy C 38 SUZUKI DMD & ASSOCIATES of Lodi entral Valley residents looking for comfortable and affordable family dentistry services need look no further than Suzuki DMD & Associates of Lodi. This flourishing dental practice on South Ham Lane provides Lodians with quality cosmetic dentistry implants and sedation dentistry in beautiful long-lasting smiles. Owner Dr. Yusuke Clark Suzuki earned his doctor of dental medi- alized dental care and are continually working to provide the quality dental services their patients deserve. They are devoted to restoring and enhancing the natural beauty of their patients teeth by using conservative state-of-theart general dental procedures and cosmetic dental procedures that will result For patients wanting to enhance their smile Dr. Suzuki s office offers a wide variety of cosmetic dentistry options as well. Dentistry options include dental implants porcelain crowns composite fillings porcelain veneers onlays and tooth whitening. Dr. Suzuki also works closely with local orthodontists to provide the highest quality of orthodontics care. Always striving to keep their patients comfortable with the dental process Suzuki DMD & Associates provides information to their patients to help them make more informed decisions about their oral health needs. Resources include a dental along with basic family dentistry needs. cine degree from Nova Southeastern University College of Dental Medicine in Ft. Lauderdale Florida and completed a hospital-based general practice residency at Rancho Los Amigos National Rehabilitation Center in Downey California. In 2008 Dr. Suzuki moved to Lodi and began working at Dr. Bradford Dickey s practice assuming ownership soon thereafter. Since then Dr. Suzuki and his team have been offering a standard of excellence in personHERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM videos page on their website that contains a library of videos related to the dental procedures and treatment options they offer. This experienced dental team also strives to stay up to date on the latest advancements in dentistry in order to provide patients with the most current treatment options. Dr. Suzuki and his team also understand that some patients have a fear of going to the dentist. For those patients who suffer from dental anxiety sedation dentistry offers an excellent way to provide a safe anxiety-free dental experience. Sedation dentistry is often mistakenly thought to induce sleep but in fact most sedatives allow the patient to stay awake during the procedure. Sleepiness is a side effect of some medications but nitrous oxide oral conscious sedation and IV sedation only work to calm anxiety throughout the dental visit. Skill and compassion go hand in hand when providing exceptional patient care Dr. Suzuki shared. As a dental professional I stay up to date on the latest advancements in dentistry in order to provide the most current treatment options to our patients. We also recognize that our patients are unique individuals who have placed a great deal of trust in us and our team. That is just one reason why we value each and every patient relationship. Taking pride in adhering to the highest possible infection control standards Suzuki DMD s talented dental team is continuously training to stay abreast of the latest in dental changes technology and techniques. This busy dental office also knows that their patients young or old find comfort and reliability in the familiar faces that are an integral part of the team. The staff is made up of a compassionate dental team with combined 40 years of experience and Dr. Yusuke Suzuki also has 20 years of experience in all areas of dentistry. Patients who have frequented the clinic for years report a family-like atmosphere and are thrilled to not have to feel anxious about ever visiting the dentist when they are under Dr. Suzuki s care. Dr. Suzuki revealed Our patients who have been coming to our dental office since they were children are now sending their children in for comprehensive dental care. Building a foundation of trust by treating each one of our patients as a special individual is vital to our success Dr. Suzuki concluded. We understand how uneasy some patients may feel about their dental visits and we know that we can make a difference in providing a relaxing and positive experience. Our entire team is dedicated to providing patients with excellent personalized care and services to help make their visits to our Lodi dental office as comfortable and pleasant as possible. Our patients smiles are our first priority. HLM To learn more about Suzuki DMD & Associates visit them on the web at suzukidmd.com or facebook.com pages Yusuke-C-Suzuki-DMD. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 39 Building a foundation of trust by treating each one of our patients as a special individual is vital to our success Dr. Suzuki concluded. We understand how uneasy some patients may feel about their dental visits and we know that we can make a difference in providing a relaxing and positive experience. HERLIFE CRAVINGS by adriana brogger p h o to gra p hy by b re m eye r L ocated in the historic Hotel Stockton French 25 offers so much more than fresh oysters shucked to order. Although after having tried them I wondered what else is there They are that good the heart and soul is noted in every bite of food from French 25. There s something for everyone on this menu. Here s what our sample menu looked like I loved everything. The fresh oysters were wonderful. The brownie sundae was so yummy. But the entrees deserve special recognition because they were so incredibly divine. The coating on the chicken was perfect. Seriously visually it was beautiful. One bite into it and I was in love. The chicken was moist and tender and the coating was crunchy it was perfect. Add to that equation the wonderful waffle and maple syrup and it s the perfect meal. The mix of the sweet and savory is heaven. If you ve ever hesitated to try this dish wait no further I highly recommend that you try it and here specifically. Then there s the jambalaya pasta. It is so delicious All the spices the meats and pasta combine to pack a flavorful punch in every bite. It is a divine comfort food that s perfect in any season but I especially love it on a cool fall day. Because of the restaurant s close proximity to downtown city and state offices they ve made the effort to serve a lunch hour menu that is both enjoyable and efficient for people with a limited amount of time. The location is also walking distance to the Bob Hope SAMPLE MENU Fresh Oysters Served grilled or chilled with house seasonal mignonette and cocktail sauces. Chicken-N-Waffles Fried chicken malted waffle maple syrup green onions dusted in powdered sugar. Jambalaya Pasta Fresh chicken shrimp Andouille sausage peppers tomatoes Creole spices mixed over pasta. Brownie Sundae A delicious chocolate brownie served with vanilla ice cream and a wonderful coconut topping--think German chocolate brownie deliciousness. I sat down with managing partner Greg May to find out. Oh and I sampled the menu for you. You re welcome. Greg pointed out that Stockton and New Orleans have similarities the diversity and blending of cultures the waterways and the creativity to make use of local resources. Not to mention the grit and resilience of the people who live in these communities. Greg and his partners brought Creole cuisine to Stockton and have given it a California twist. We aren t trying to reinvent New Orleans. We re incorporating flavors from the South and then combining that with the fresh flavors and produce from California s Central Valley. We have a vast array of fresh ingredients to bring the traditional Creole flavors to life. Before they opened French 25 May and his team trained with celebrated Creole chefs in New Orleans. We trained to understand the heart story and soul behind the food May explained. And the attention to 40 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM The chicken was moist and tender and the coating was crunchy it was perfect. Add to that equation the wonderful waffle and maple syrup and it s the perfect meal. The mix of the sweet and savory is heaven. If you ve ever hesitated to try this dish wait no further I highly recommend that you try it and here specifically. Theater and the Stockton Arena. This means a night out to a show can include the perfect dinner too. French 25 has a fun and upscale-but-nottoo-serious ambience. Greg made sure to emphasize this is a place for everyone. The food menu offers lots of choices but it doesn t stop there there s a full cocktail menu and bar. French 25 also offers private dining and catering services. As weather permits there s even an opportunity to take in some fantastic views of the downtown Stockton waterfront and listen to live music. Check their Facebook page for more information about the schedule. Validated parking is available at the Weber Point parking garage on Center and El Dorado streets. There s free garage parking on the weekends. And don t forget that street parking isn t metered after 5 00 p.m. on weeknights. As Greg pointed out There is plenty of parking in downtown Stockton. Oh and don t forget to try the beignets. Greg raved about that saying We ll put our beignets up against anyone s. They are good I ve had them and I agree. Short of taking a trip to the Big Easy the beignets make you feel you re just around the corner from Bourbon Street or sitting at Caf du Monde. Creole with a California twist is in downtown Stockton and it s here to stay. We want to champion the cause of going downtown. We came here because we understand that downtown is not going to work unless businesses come here. We wanted to be part of the cause. It hasn t been easy with a new restaurant. But we ve gotten through the hard part. And now we are just looking at the future. HLM French 25 is located at 110 N. El Dorado Street in Stockton. Call ahead for reservations at (209) 451-0617. You can find them online at french-25.com and facebook.com frenchtwentyfive. One of the Central Central Valley s leading proponents of allmultimedia Adriana Adriana Brogger has as a reporter One of the Valley s leading proponents of all things things multimedia Brogger has worked worked as a reporter blogger blogger producer host emcee writer and actress performer in localfor more than ten years. She teachesteaches producer host emcee writer and actress performer in local media media for more than ten years. She Multimedia Production at San Joaquin Joaquin Delta College and loves it Born in the the monkey monkey Adriana has a Multimedia Production at San Delta College and loves it Born in the year of year of the Adriana has a clever wit and wit and a magnetic personality. Seriously though shegood comedy comedy spending time with her hubby and clever a magnetic personality. Seriously though she enjoys enjoys good spending time with her hubby and four cute boys and of course course great you know ofknow of restaurant that would welcome a visit by Adriana Adriana four cute boys and of great food. If food. If you a local a local restaurant that would welcome a visit by 41 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM please contact contact Kimberly at Kimberly herlifemagazine.com. please Kimberly Mullen Mullen at Kimberly herlifemagazine.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 41 HERLIFE RECIPES creamy pumpkin pecan strudel cups Makes 45 small bites Prep time 20 minutes Cook time 15 minutes ingredients 1 can (15 ounce) pumpkin puree cup brown sugar teaspoon salt teaspoon ground cinnamon divided teaspoon ground ginger teaspoon ground nutmeg cup granulated sugar 4 packages (1.9 ounce each) mini Phyllo shells thawed 1 cups chopped pecans 2 to 3 ounces cream cheese cut into small cubes whipped cream optional directions Preheat oven to 350 degrees F. In a medium bowl whisk together the pumpkin brown sugar salt teaspoon cinnamon ginger and nutmeg. Set aside. In a small bowl combine the remaining teaspoon cinnamon and granulated sugar. Place phyllo cups on nonstick baking sheets. Sprinkle a little of the cinnamon sugar mixture on the inside of each cup followed by a few pecan pieces and a cube of cream cheese finishing with a heaping teaspoon of the pumpkin mixture. Sprinkle any remaining cinnamon sugar on top. Bake for 15 minutes until phyllo is golden and cream cheese is melted. Serve warm with a dollop of whipped cream if desired. HLM recipes and p hot ogr ap hy by ver y c ulinar y.c om 42 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM grilled glazed vegetables Recipe by Papapavlo s Bistro & Bar Serves 4 Prep time 15 minutes Cook time 10 minutes ingredients Papapavlo s Classic Greek Dressing 4 zucchini 4 carrots 4 red bell peppers 4 green bell peppers 4 slices of eggplant 8 button mushrooms directions Julienne zucchini carrots and red and green bell peppers. Toss all ingredients in a mixing bowl then add 6 ounces of Papapavlo s Classic Greek Salad Dressing and Marinade and place on a hot grill for approximately 8-10 minutes. For additional intense flavor use a pastry brush and glaze vegetables while grilling. Remove from the grill and place on a platter. Serve hot or room temperature. Bon apetit HLM recipes and p hot ogr ap hy by ver y c ulinar y.c om HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 43 HERLIFE WINE cooking with wine by d o u g f ro st ers were horrified but Julia had her own agenda her own history to live out. Child had adopted a robust life of wine and haute cuisine during her billet in Europe for the OSS precursor to the CIA. With a foundation of skilled cookery gleaned from her sister-in-law and later from her friend Simone Beck she had suffered through years at the Paris-based Cordon Bleu sneered at by misogynist teachers. As may have been expected from a rebellious hard-partying social SoCal girl her infatuation for wine evolved alongside her brilliance in the kitchen. In truth Julia liked her bourbon just fine too she was catholic in her tastes and desires. She loved wine in her food and she loved wine in her chefs too. Her beloved husband Paul was her teacher in the realm of European wine the two of them threw nearly constant dinners for friends and family. Best of all Julia was unfussy about food about wine about cooking even (to a degree that puts her at odds with today s Chez Panisse-inspired current culinary scene) about ingredients. Not so much cooking equipment there she spared no expense. But she was welcoming to many different kinds of wine and was an early champion of California wine. She would drink (and cook with) Napa Cabernet as easily as with French Bordeaux. Wisely she counseled her viewers and readers not to spend too much on their cooking wine but to cook with nothing that you wouldn t be willing to drink by itself if the meal turned out to be a failure. 44 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM A t this point the story is well worn. On Julia Child s Boston-based television cooking show she would toss back a bit of wine while cooking with it. She insisted on drinking on air the produc- Wisely she counseled her viewers and readers not to spend too much on their cooking wine but to cook with nothing that you wouldn t be willing to drink by itself if the meal turned out to be a failure. That perhaps sums up the simplest advice when it comes to cooking with wine don t use it if you re not willing to drink it. So-called cooking wine from the store is wretched refuse thin and unpalatable insultingly salted to make it undrinkable for the kitchen staff. Think I m kidding It s true cooking wine is purposely over-salted so the help doesn t end up passed out on the veranda. If your kitchen staff (you have one of those right ) is that desperate for a drink get them one and then hire other help in the future. Nevertheless there is a point of diminishing returns for wines you intend to dump into a hot pan your favored bottle of Opus One is overkill like running over a bug repeatedly with your car. The inexpensive common store brands (think Yellow Tail) might be perfectly decent choices though they have a bit more sugar in them than most wines. If the recipe calls for a dry red wine Yellow Tail (and many of the world s other everyday wines have followed suit) offers their red wines with distinct sweetness to them and that may alter the flavors in your dish. Maybe for the better but who can say One of my chef mentors once told me that his red wine choice was based simply upon color the darker the better. As always he was partly mis- leading me for his own amusement but it s not a wholly crazy idea. Darkly colored red wines typically have a bit more texture to them both the texture and color tend to hang in the pan when you re reducing down a sauce. Malbec Shiraz Petite Syrah even Zinfandel can provide plenty of each. Some recipes think Childs signature Coq au Vin call for a particular wine red Burgundy was supposed to enrich Julia s pet dish. Light Pinot Noir the flavor of inexpensive Burgundy may have been there more to help break down the stringy tissue of a cock (coq) or old rooster than to flavor it but Child was not too worried about the wine. Her later versions allow for Burgundy Chianti or California Mountain Red. Don t be concerned that you can t find that last one that s a good thing. Her earlier recipes evinced even less concern with the wine. I guarantee you that she and Paul were drinking far above that grade back then. I m no chef I m not sure I can be trusted with more than one pan at a time. But while each particular wine you put in your coq au vin will flavor it in a distinct way few of them are wrong. They just make it taste differently. Cooking concentrates liquids whatever flavor your wine has is going to seem a bit more concentrated when it s been in a roasting dish. More often the recipe just says red wine or white wine and most recipes today are pretty flexible about the wine you use. Those that aren t often recommend that you use the wine of the region where the dish originates. You could do that. Or not. You can choose whatever you like. But as Julia would say make sure it s an appropriate consolation prize if dinner isn t so grand. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 45 46 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE WINERY by b e th d o sta l p h o to gra p hy by b ri ggs ph o t o gr a phy O beautiful vineyards. ne step onto the property and you ll think you re in vineyard heaven. Oak Farm Vineyards famous for you guessed it both their excellent wines and beautiful oak-covered grounds has been a Lodi treasure for over 100 years. Operating out of the DeVries house and farming 70 acres of vines every year Oak Farm Vineyards is the pride and joy of the Panella family. Owner Dan Panella is excited about Oak Farm Vineyards addition a new tasting room which opened in 2009 complete with a gorgeous looming fireplace decked in natural stone and redwood architecture creating sweeping high ceilings with exposed beams. This is the crowing jewel in the already breath-taking grounds that make up Oak Farm Vineyards. The Panella family aims to please wowing their visitors with their newly renovated Historic Redwood Barn for use as an event venue which leads guests to the seedless grape vine and white rose-laden garden patio and landing in the rich and warm Tasting room. To accommodate events looking for an outdoor space visitors are encouraged to make use of the Great Lawn studded with mature oaks or their private lake that compliments the Great Lawn and stands next to the However don t get too distracted by the perfect-for-all-occasions event facilities that Oak Farm Vineyards provides don t forget they are even better known for their amazing (read award-winning) wines Offering up nine different wines at the moment Oak Farms creates delicious reds and whites from 2011 Zinfandel (staying true to their roots pun intended) to the rich Barbera to the lighter side with Chardonnays. To indulge all of the senses Oak Farm Vineyards is truly the place to be from great beauty both in and out of doors to their sumptuous wines Oak Farm Vineyards will give you the winery experience you won t likely forget. HLM Visit Oak Farm Vineyards at 23627 North DeVries Road in Lodi or visit and shop online at www.oakfarmvineyards.com 48 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 49 HERLIFE CULINARY the benefits of pumpkin A cup of pumpkin has about 50 calories 560 mg of potassium and no fat or cholesterol. fall s fruit the pumpkin by p at t y c ook Vitamin A supports the eyes preventing damage from deterioration and cataracts. Zeaxanthin an antioxidant provides support to the macula of the eyes protecting against age-related macular degeneration. Vitamin C gives a boost to the immune system. Fiber (three to seven grams per cup) helps keep your body running smoothly. Phytosterols potassium and zinc support the cardiovascular system. Zinc also gives a boost to the immune system. Magnesium is needed for bone and tooth health. Pumpkin contains L tryptophan a chemical compound that helps produce the happy hormone serotonin which in turn helps the body produce melatonin promoting good mood and good sleep. and pumpkin patches entice visitors to pick their own. Homes begin to show off an autumn display of pumpkins on porches. The fall harvest brings recipes using pumpkin in breads and pies. Thanksgiving shoppers are sure to have cans of pumpkin in their grocery carts along with cans of cranberry sauce. Why Most of us think of pumpkin pie as being part of the tradition of Thanksgiving that dates back to the Pilgrims very first fall feast. And yet descriptions of the first Thanksgiving say nothing about pumpkin. Corn barley fowl and venison are mentioned--but not pumpkin. It could be that pumpkin was served but that Europeans had no way of knowing what it was. Palates accustomed to wheat barley rye and domestic livestock encountered culture shock in this new land whose natives used corn squash and the meat of bear and raccoon. Yet indigenous people relied on foods such as pumpkin over the centuries. As nomadic hunting tribes gave way to communities that planted and harvested crops they noticed how abundantly pumpkins grew in the wild. These plants thrived easily provided a large harvest and stored well over the winter months. The first pumpkins were about the size of a baseball and valued for their seeds rather than as a food. Through centuries of cultivation pumpkin crops 50 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM O ne of the most welcoming harbingers of fall is the arrival of the pumpkin. Coffee shops announce the advent of pumpkin spice lattes stores display pumpkins provided larger fruit which was boiled roasted or used as flour. By 2500 BCE Native Americans were cultivating pumpkin in a trinity (also known as The Three Sisters ) of corn beans and pumpkin. The corn grew tall and provided support for beans pumpkin vines had large leaves that gave shade protecting the roots of the corn and beans and preserving moisture. This knowledge was passed on to European settlers as they populated the continent. As time passed pumpkin remained a staple food of farmers and poor people. Because it symbolized the food of the poor it was ridiculed. By the late 1700s the term pumpkinhead came to mean a slow dimwitted person. At the same time popular literature associated pumpkins with the poor in fairy tales and nursery rhymes Cinderella written in 1697 featured a poor stepdaughter whose fairy godmother changed a pumpkin into a coach and Peter Peter pumpkin eater was a farmer who had a wife but couldn t keep her. The first time pumpkins emerged in the sense of a scary effigy was in The Legend of Sleepy Hollow written in 1820. In the 1800 s the Civil War brought changes to farming practices. At the dawn of the 20th century farmers ranged from poor sharecroppers to wealthier family farms and massive farming operations. Because pumpkins were still grown and harvested by hand they were difficult to produce commercially. Agricultural technology advanced but pumpkins were still considered a food of the poor. Then something else became associated with pumpkins marketing. The 1893 World s Fair featured a pumpkin on display that weighed 469 pounds. This caught the imagination of merchants who began other pumpkin displays. By 1897 the Ladies Home Journal included articles on fall celebrations that included pumpkins. Rural farmers had visitors from the city interested in buying pumpkins and farmers began selling pumpkins at market. By 1925 a pumpkin cannery was built in Morton Illinois. Pumpkin production increased as it was used more and more as a processed food as well as an ornament. During the first half of the 1900s the nation formalized Thanksgiving as a national holiday and Halloween trick-or-treating became customary. Pumpkins became a symbol of the autumn harvest fall holidays and yummy treats. Today the health benefits contained in pumpkin make this seasonal treat a year-round staple. Perhaps the most beloved pumpkin of all was one that no one ever saw. The comic strip Peanuts had a recurring theme each Halloween as Linus spent the night in a pumpkin patch. He faithfully awaited the arrival of The Great Pumpkin certain it would appear to deliver gifts to children around the world. Linus might have been on to something as the health benefits of pumpkin provide gifts throughout the year. HLM Sources Cindy Ott Pumpkin The Curious History of an American Icon (Seattle WA University of Washington Press 2012) dictionary.reference.com halloweenhistory.org mindbodygreen.com naturalhealthyconcepts.com peanuts.wikia.com plimoth.org simpletoremember.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 51 HERLIFE BEHIND THE MENU by beth dost al p hot ogr ap hy by b r e m eyer faces. That is if you re not hit by the amazing smells pumping out of this little powerhouse of a bakery first. Owner Terrie Green and her little Corner Scone family (which includes actual family her daughter and store manager Tara) have created a homeaway-from-home and provided a sanctuary for Central Valley residents (visitors are welcome too ) in the form of delicious made-from-scratch baked goods. Known of course for their namesake the dense yet moist and always bursting-with-flavor scones that are always glistening in their cases (please try a maple-bacon scone they are simply amazing) Terrie still manages to keep up with the demand for a variety of baked goods. From morning glory muffins to sugar cookies as well as providing daily soups wraps high tea service and if you manage to get in before their gone hand pies Corner Scone is fairly bursting at the seams with baked treats. Terrie long-time realtor-turned baker extraordinaire not only runs the business she is the behind-the-scenes gal as well. Her daughter Tara is often working at the counter always greeting customers with a genuine friendliness and making everyone feel welcome. If you re lucky you ll catch Terrie popping out with her infectious grin to greet customers and deliver a new batch of pure baked heaven to their display case. Not only does this dynamic duo run their day-to-day business they also take special orders and I assure you will create the cake pie cupcakes or scones of your dreams. Be sure to get your holiday orders in before it s too late their list will fill up fast Next time the craving hits for anything baked or you just happen to be in Lodi make it a point to pop into Corner Scone for the perfect bakery experience. HLM Please visit Corner Scone Bakery at 322 N. California St in Lodi find them online at www.cornersconebakery.com or like them on Facebook. 52 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM T he next time you are in Lodi make sure you hop up to California Street. Perched at the intersection North Hutchins and South California. you will find the tiny baked-good haven known as Corner Scone Bakery. You will most likely be welcomed by a little red wagon filled with adorable marigolds outside and inside a few smiling HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 53 HERLIFE FOODIES foodies EAT GATHER SHARE Towne House Towne House Restaurant at Wine & Roses is a legacy to the country farm it once was and our cuisine is made for sharing. We look forward to sharing with you the innovative dishes warm traditions and gracious service that is the Towne House Restaurant. 2505 West Turner Rd Lodi (209) 371-6160 loditownehouse.com Corner Scone Bakery and Teahouse Come visit our boutique bakery for some award-winning pie Featuring made-from-scratch daily scones hand pies quiches and other unique baked goods along with a monthly high tea service. Come enjoy the flavors of Fall with our fresh made soups pumpkin spice scones seasonal butter cream sugar cookies and hot espresso drinks. We can accommodate special orders as well call or stop by to see what we have 322 N. California St Lodi (209) 747-3418 Whirlow s Whirlow s Tossed and Grilled specializes in build-it-yourself tossed salads cafeteria style or choose from excellent sandwiches burgers and full plate dinners. Don t forget to make us your first call for catering carry out and private parties for the holidays Offering cater for the holidays and all occasions 1926 Pacific Ave Stockton (On the Miracle Mile) (209) 466-2823 whirlows.com De Vega Brothers Italian Cuisine Happy hour every day full service bar and patio dining. Semi -private Banquet for all occasions. Catering for large or small events. Serving traditional Italian food Seafood Steak and Chicken. Open 7 days a week. Sun-Thur 11am- 9pm Fri and Sat. 11am -10pm. We are open Thanksgiving Day 5757 Pacific Ave. A140 Stockton (209) 323-4339 devegabrothers.com DeVega Brothers Macaronage Macarons Finally a gluten-free pastry shop is open in San Joaquin County. Macaronage Macarons believes that gluten-free baking can also be delicious Come on in and try not only our delicious french macarons but also cupcakes tarts and other delectable gluten-free desserts. Macarons make the perfect dessert table highlight at birthdays weddings and other special occations. Open Mon-Sat 10am - 7pm and Sun 11am - 6pm. 7610 Pacific Ave Suite B6 Stockton (209) 955-0857 facebook.com macaronagebygrace 54 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE FOODIES Vita Dolce Two Italian-Swiss sisters have combined energies to bring to Tracy a small cafe filled with high-quality cookies paninis homemade soups fresh salads and delicious coffee. Topping off any time of the day would be a delicious scoop of San Francisco s very own Mitchell s Ice Cream. Come on in and enjoy some of the sweet life of Vita Dolce. Let us cater your holiday or next special event from appetizers desserts and coffee to full service catering. We deliver 11 East 6th St Tracy (209) 834-1234 Facebook.com VitaDolce Thai Spices Chef Bun Khotakoon has long been captivated by the many ways to combine sweet and fiery spices to bring together flavors that mingle and enchant each other. Pair the traditional and monthly special menu items with a fabulous local wine or ice cold Thai beer to create a fascinating culinary experience. Try our chicken pumpkin curry. 2401 W Turner Rd. Ste. 224 Lodi (209) 369-8424 thaispiceslodi.com Your Restaurant Here For more information about advertising in the Foodies Section please contact Kimberly Mullen at kimberly lifemagazine.com or call (209) 224-8810 BE SEEN BY YOUR TARGET MARKET. YOUR AD HERE HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 55 HERLIFE GARDEN COMING TO A STORE NEAR YOU For three days at the end of November the orchards are a buzz of activity and the air is fragrant with rich tannins and polyphenols as the near-ripe olives are harvested and hauled away to the state-of-the-art mill just a few miles up the road. wr it t en by s .e . f i l o m e o p h o to gra hy by s. e . f i l o m e o California Extra Virgin and use olive oil. Here are just a few of the ways I use it and bacon crumbles garlic and red pepper On beet greens with fresh mushrooms Seasoning bok choy with cilantro and soy sauce S conditions. even years ago my husband decided he needed a change. He had been in the cattle business his entire life and was tired of the dirty work the constant care required and the roller coaster prices of beef. He wanted to do something different with the land and his options seemed endless. But walnuts were just too old school and although pomegranates were trending they might prove to be just a fad. Grapes were going in everywhere and seemed at times to be nearly as fickle as cattle prices. And then he saw an article in the newspaper that got him excited about a new prospect. Olives for oil were just beginning to trend in the valley but they seemed a more viable investment than pomegranates. Formerly a staple shipped in from Mediterranean countries olive oil is now produced here in the Central Valley in modern mills with state-of-the-art equipment and science-based know-how. Olive growers here now pride themselves on producing only extra virgin oil which simply means that it satisfies specific high chemical and sensory criteria or low acidity with no defects. A higher grade extra virgin olive oil is mostly dependent on favorable weather Our own olive orchard architecture is based on the Spanish model of super-high density in which the dwarf trees are planted at about 700 per acre as opposed to the traditional grove of about 100 per acre. The Spanish variety arbosana makes up the largest percentage of our trees with arbequina and the Greek variety koroneiki acting as pollinators to help produce higher yields. Each variety has its own personality and together they produce oil that is a combination of flavorful fruitiness with a nice balance of pungency and bitterness. The traditional groves are still picked by hand or by shaking whereas SHD groves are picked by modified grape harvesters. It is quite an exciting event when those 20-foot-tall harvesters come roaring down the lane followed by several tractors grape gondolas and various other farming equipment. For three days at the end of November the orchards are a buzz of activity and the air is fragrant with rich tannins and polyphenols as the nearripe olives are harvested and hauled away to the state-of-the-art mill just a few miles up the road. Production begins by reducing the fruit to a paste by crushing or pressing. This paste is slowly churned or mixed to allow the oil droplets to bond. The oil is then separated from the fruit pulp with the use of a press or centrifuge. To ensure that it is extra virgin the oil is produced under and kept at cool temperatures hence the label cold pressed. There has been a lot of notoriety the last few years about the Mediterranean olive oils that are falsely labeled as virgin or extra virgin. A 2010 study by researchers at the University of California Davis found that 69 percent of imported olive oil labeled extra virgin did not meet the set standard. The study suggested that the samples had been adulterated with cheaper refined olive oil or were of poor quality because they were made from damaged or overripe olives or olives that had been improperly stored or processed. Earlier and more infamous studies had even proven that a large percent of imported oils labeled extra virgin were in fact something other than olive oil. But since then the olive oil industry both foreign and domestic has been working to adopt stricter laws so that what you put on your table is the real deal. But why send your money overseas anyway when you can get superior quality right here at home The oil being produced here in California now only needs to be tasted to appreciate the difference. And one would have to If you haven t yet been exposed to our homegrown liquid gem your first dip into that grassy-green elixir will change the way you think about buy Drizzled over fresh tomatoes with balsamic basil and feta On steamed or roasted artichokes with balsamic and seasoning Over fresh garden lettuce and arugula with balsamic blue cheese With saut ed Swiss chard or wild mustard greens (rapes) with fresh 56 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM have been living in a cave in Sardinia to be unaware of the health benefits of olive oil. The anti-inflammatory compounds anti-oxidants and host of other heart-healthy ingredients in pure olive oil may be old but welcome news. And that s just on the inside. I recently had a friend trade me a box of asparagus for a bottle of our homegrown Corto Extra Virgin Olive Oil. She later told me that when she took it home to her husband he immediately whipped off his shirt and asked for a massage. In his book Extra Virginity The Sublime and Scandalous World of Olive Oil Tom Mueller not only uncovers and details the fraud in the olive oil business but portrays the oil as one of life s necessities not only as something to pour over your pasta but also as medicine a beauty aid and an essential element of religious ritual. Extra virgin olive oil continues to make headlines as researchers constantly confirm the remarkable life-giving properties of true extra-virgin. Our California olive oil has gained so much popularity that oil bars are popping up just like wine tasting rooms where one can taste olive oil infused with anything from jalape os to chipotle. But personally there is nothing better than the piquant grassy flavor of cold pressed unadulterated extra virgin olive oil dripping from a piece of crusty sourdough bread. My grandmother only had access to imported Italian olive oil and I often wonder what she would say about the oil being produced right here right now. An Italian by heredity and a Californian by birth I think she would have agreed that the combination of soil and climate as well as modernized production and cutting edge science incorporated here in our valley produces some of the finest top-grade oil in the world. HLM Get more recipes at my website sefilomeo.tumblr.com. For daily garden goodness follow me on Facebook Pinterest Instagram and Twitter. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 57 HERLIFE TRENDSETTER Stella Boutique 224 N. Ham Ln. 102 Lodi 209.369.7231 stella-boutique-ca.com photography julie nicole photography location oak farm vineyards hair and makeup jennifer stearn of perfect balance day spa model alyssa loujan HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 59 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 61 62 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 63 HERLIFE COMMUNITY SPOTLIGHT HELPING TO BUILD CARING COMMUNITIES ONE CHILD AT A TIME by r ebecca flansburg photography by briggs photography L 64 ocated in Hutchins Street Square Camp Hutchins is a licensed child care and preschool program for children three to five years of age with a component for twelve school-aged children. The program is designed specifically for the preparation of kindergarten by involving kids in creative and cultural experiences in music art and literature along with group and hands-on learning activities. Taken over by Lodi Memorial Health Lodi Health in 1998 this premier program has been outstanding in the child-care field in Lodi thanks to an experienced committed and highly qualified staff. Our daily programs are designed specifically for the needs of children who are in preparation for kindergarten Rebecca Saulisberry Camp Hutchins director revealed. We also cater to the working parent who is interested in promoting school readiness within their children. We do our best to accommodate working parents by being open Monday through Friday from 6 30 a.m. to 6 00 p.m. We essentially have three programs running our three-year-old program our four-year-old program and our afterschool proHERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM grams for ages six to twelve year olds. We also offer transportation from area schools to ensure our afterschool kids arrive safely at our facility. Along with the many other benefits this community program also boasts a whopping combined 85 years of experience among the seven staff members. A longtime member of the Camp Hutchins team Rebecca shared that working this program has been a labor of love for her. I am so blessed to be doing what I love in such a quality facility she shared. I started with Camp Hutchins 16 years ago and was the lead teacher for ten years. About a year and a half ago I then stepped into the position as Director of Camp Hutchins and it has been wonderful. Contracting with Family Resource and Referral to support lower-income families the Camp Hutchins program also offers a discount for Lodi Health employees as well as City of Lodi employees. Our preschool is structured but it is still very flexible Rebecca shared. The early morning hours are for free play but the main part of the kids day consists of scheduled activities in 30-minute increments. There are Circle Time Table Time Outdoor Time and we do have a several scheduled snack times a hot lunch time and even a nap time. When nap time is over their routine starts again in the afternoon. A non-denominational and year-round center Camp Hutchins offers fun perks for kids such as swimming at the indoor on-site pool two days a week daily hot lunch and snacks many opportunities for outdoor play plus group individual and hands-on learning activities to introduce the concepts of math science and technology. Children who attend Camp Hutchins are introduced to the ideas of physical education and nutrition as well. About six months ago we added something new for our children called Fitness Fridays. Every Friday we add a fitness and health component to their curriculum that includes physical activity such as yoga or running an obstacle course along with classes on healthy eating and why it is important for our bodies. We also offer the parents special workshops around the holidays on healthy eating and Lodi Health Wellness Coordinator Kevin Vondergeest has stopped by in the past and worked with the kids and parents as well. For mom and dad there are perks such as workshops that are offered three times a year child care and summer programs during school breaks for school-age children and most importantly the peace of mind that their children are safe and nurtured in a fun and educational atmosphere. Our kids have the opportunity to participate in the arts and cultural events offered by Hutchins Street Square and we also include fun things for Easter Halloween and Christmas Rebecca reported. We also mingle our activities with the Lodi Adult Day Care Center for holidays and special events such as our Halloween Carnival or an Easter Egg Hunt. As a mother of five Rebecca knows firsthand the importance of working to build a strong foundation for learning early in life. Kids are like sponges and if you start the education process at an early age it can profoundly enhance learning throughout their school years she confirmed. I believe in what I do and take pride in what I do. I love that we are making a difference in children s lives and by doing so we are also impacting the community. Our goal is to have our kids start kindergarten confident and beginning their education journey on a positive note. We pride ourselves in the fact that we work hard to make sure our Camp Hutchins preschool students are prepared socially and academically for the next step in their education. HLM To learn more about Camp Hutchins visit them on the web at lodihealth.org index.php services camp-hutchins-child-care. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 65 HERLIFE MOTHER S PERSPECTIVE modeling self-care to children by h e a th e r n o b l e p h d D uring childhood there was so much to learn. History facts mathematical equations spelling and punctuation rules concepts of science and homework to build your vocabulary self so you will have the strength and motivation to meet your own needs first and you can then be of support to others. Another common misconception is that you simply do not have time for self care. No doubt you can get extremely busy. At the same time consider how you make and follow a schedule to some degree. Take time to really look at your routines and consider what time you spend in activities that could be better spent doing something for yourself. Aim to put self care into your schedule so that it has the same importance as many other activities and obligations. Given the importance of self care it s valuable to take occasional stock to see if and how you might need more of it and to encourage children to do the same. Think about your physical emotional and spiritual well-being. Are there particular areas of your life that might be neglected What is missing What might you need to increase that enhances your well-being What activities and behaviors do you need to decrease to enhance your overall balance Be as specific as possible in identifying what you need. Physical self care enhances functioning of your body which also has an impact on emotional well-being. Ensure your sleep is consistent and plentiful. Consider whether typical foods and drinks in your diet are truly good at sustaining health. When you experience illness or injuries be sure to practice self-compassion and slow down the pace of your life to heal and strengthen yourself. With regularity incorporate exercise into your schedule. As is possible do some sort of fun physical activity that comes naturally and is enjoyable. Children are especially inclined to be active so let them inspire you Emotional self care includes having welldeveloped tools for coping with stress and distress. Mental well-being can be quite challenging to foster and maintain. Oftentimes we are our own worst critics. In our minds we can say and repeat such awful messages to ourselves. Yet we also have the power to be accepting and forgiving of ourselves by applying gentle messages to build were packed into school days. From a very early age we were also taught the important lesson to be kind to others. After all not much can be learned and accomplished unless everyone is mutually respectful. Although it might not have been emphasized as much we are increasingly aware that being kind to yourself is an equally essential lesson. One can argue that it lays the foundation for all other learning and fulfillment to begin. Caring for one s self should be practiced across the lifespan but also if you have children in your life you can make a major impact in their learning self care as a powerful role model. Self care is often misunderstood so it is important to avoid the misconceptions. For instance by sometimes making yourself a priority are you acting selfishly Actually no. You are fueling your- 66 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM resilience and confidence. What would you say to a friend to be supportive Do you take the same advice for what you say to yourself Equally important to emotional self care ensure you choose and maintain relationships that truly are respectful and supportive of you. This is especially great role modeling for children. It s an important life lesson to learn how to choose the people in your life wisely. Spiritual self care can take different forms for each person as an activity or way of thinking that nurtures the mind and the soul. This might include meditating praying participating in religious services taking time for yourself to evaluate life values and goals enjoying readings that increase knowledge about yourself and the world around you and essentially participating in any activity that helps you find meaning and purpose. This too is an area in which children can greatly benefit from the guidance and modeling of an adult. It might not otherwise be something as strongly developed and valued. Self care is truly a learned behavior that is then actively pursued and maintained so be intentional with incorporating it in your life and encouraging it for others. If it is something you have been missing challenge yourself to begin by incorporating just one new activity or behavior in your life this week that contributes to your well-being and undoubtedly extends to benefit others. Write it down and post it somewhere to see it often and increase your adherence to it. Especially if you are modeling this for children encourage them to do the same. Occasionally discuss your progress together. This helps everyone feel inspired and increases conscientiousness for ensuring personal well-being. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 67 HERLIFE HOME your home by l i sa ta ra n to b u tl e r childproofing W hether you are a new parent grandparent or just hosting children for a long weekend you know that kids like discovering things around them. No matter if they are exploring hiding or just tending to themselves they manage to get into stuff. Unfortunately kids and acci- dents often go hand in hand. According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention injuries are the leading cause of death in children. Each year nearly 9 000 children die as a result of being injured while nearly 9 million children are rushed to emergency rooms after accidents. But many of these misfortunes and injuries can be prevented. By surveying your environment setting a plan and following a few simple steps you can rest easier that little ones are safe in your home. Survey the Scene It takes one to know one so act like a baby to start your childproofing project. Get a tot-size view of your home. Simply get down on your hands and knees so you can see how things look from a little one s perspective. What objects look tempting What unsafe or breakable items are within reach Think of your baby s current activity as well. If she is in the crawling stage she s apt to wander into some unsafe places. As your baby grows into a toddler perform another evaluation since now she will begin walking and reaching for things just a little higher. Get rid of anything you do not use that could be harmful to a child. Too many chemicals household cleaners and medicines are not only un- Think of your baby s current activity as well. If she is in the crawling stage she s apt to wander into some unsafe places. As your baby grows into a toddler perform another evaluation since now she will begin walking and reaching for things just a little higher. necessary but overly enticing to young eyes. Carefully stow the items you regularly use out of reach or locked behind a cupboard door. Little ones like to gnaw but tiny objects are definite choking hazards. Older children s toys are especially tempting to baby so keep small parts out of their 68 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM reach. Beads coins marbles and other petite knick-knacks should be stored out of sight. Go Room by Room Kitchen and Laundry Room Install a stove guard and knob covers to prevent burns. When cooking turn handles toward the back and don t hold baby while you work around the stove. Keep sharp objects such as knives scissors and peelers in a secure area or behind a locked cabinet door. Place Mr. YukTM stickers on all poisonous substances even if they are stored securely. Teach older kids that these tagged items are dangerous and off limits. Bathroom Set your water heater to 120 degrees or lower. Place antiscald devices on your faucets and showerheads. Store medicines and other harmful products out of reach and place no-slip mats in showers and tubs. Use a lock on the toilet or close the door altogether. Bedrooms Install carbon monoxide detectors and fire alarms in sleeping areas and make sure they are in working order with batteries checked regularly. Keep blind pulls electrical cords and mobiles out of reach while keeping linens blankets and stuffed toys out of baby s crib. Family Living Rooms Make certain to replace fireplace grills with a secured screen and store wood lighters or matches up high. Sit televisions on low sturdy furniture and use braces or straps to secure unstable or top-heavy furniture to the wall. Look for sharp edges on furniture and add corner guards to keep petite heads safe. Garage Often overlooked the garage can be hazardous. Paint chemicals and pesticides should be locked in cabinets while tools and sharp blades should be hung high. It s best if garage doors have a sensor feature that lifts the door if someone is underneath it. The moving parts of the door can also pinch or crush so keep children out of harm s way. Make sure the opener switch is installed out of a child s reach. All around the Abode Peruse your entire house for possible safety obstacles. Place outlet covers or safety plugs over any unused outlets and block them with furniture if possible. Use gates to keep little ones off stairs and other unsafe areas. Keep emergency numbers handy all over the home and have the Poison Control Center Help Hotline (800-2221222) in plain sight. Gadgets Galore When it comes to childproofing some projects can be done on your own while others may require a little more help. A multitude of helpful products line the department store shelves from door stoppers and locks to outlet covers and cabinet latches. Many of these gadgets can make childproofing easier and safer so choose which are best for you. But while these products are useful an adult s continuous supervision is the safest way to guard against accidents. Children are adorable but they can also be unhindered explorers and a magnet for mischief. Most injuries can be prevented and with the proper precautions planning and follow-through your child can keep discovering while staying on a much safer path. HLM Sources cdc.gov babycenter.com and spock.fcs.uga.edu. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 69 HERLIFE GREEN LIVING energy-efficient appliances by ga i l si l ve rste i n the buzz on the environment simultaneously. Advice abounds for the purchaser of new appliances with high energy-efficiency ratings. Here are a few ways to get you started on your green search. In the U.S. the Federal Trade Commission requires that manufacturers attach a yellow and black EnergyGuide label detailing the appliance s energy consumption ratings to all new appliances. The exceptions to this requirement are kitchen ranges microwave ovens and clothes dryers. The sticker states the estimated annual energy consumption of the appliance and the smart consumer will carefully review this sticker before purchase. The energy efficiency rating is shown as a sliding scale the lower the number the more energy efficient the appliance will be as a general rule. With these ratings in mind price shouldn t be the only factor for the consumer when making a purchase decision on a major appliance. In the long run the better option may be to purchase a more expensive appliance once and pay lower utility bills for many years rather than to choose a more economical less energy-efficient appliance and incur higher utility bills down the road. The U.S. Department of Energy and the Environmental Protection Agency created ENERGY STAR a program aimed at helping Americans lower utility bills while reducing pollution by using energy-efficient products. Whether you re replacing an old broken machine or building a new home ENERGY STAR-rated appliances are usually among the most efficient available today and a solid choice to improve your green living. Home 70 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM appliances and electronics make up nearly 20 percent of the average energy bill using ENERGY STAR-certified products throughout the home can save significant dollars over the lifetime of these products. If that isn t incentive enough think of the impact on the environment according to some studies the average home produces more greenhouse gas pollution than the average car Today s energy-efficient appliances are not your mother s microwave. They re more stylish than ever and run the gamut from dishwashers laundry machines microwaves refrigerators and water heaters the list goes on. Home appliances look about the same on the outside but they may differ greatly in terms of energy efficiency and operating costs. When shopping remember a few basics. Make sure the appliance fits the area designated for it and that there s proper ventilation. Ask about cash rebates low-interest loans or other incentive programs consider both purchase price and usage. Finally read the EnergyGuide labels for comparisons. The refrigerator is the biggest power user in the home. Recent improvements in compressors and insulation make new models more efficient. The newer ENERGY STAR-certified refrigerators are required to use about 20 percent less energy than non-certified models and can provide W ith everyone going green these days it makes sense for the savvy consumer to explore energy-efficient appliances to trim her overall utility bills and help significant cost savings over their lifetime. Refrigerators with a top-mounted freezer use 10 to 25 percent less energy than a side-by-side model and the most efficient size is 16 to 20 cubic feet. The fewer accessories it has the better if you can live without the convenience of an icemaker and water dispenser you can achieve another 14 to 20 percent efficiency and save dollars on your purchase. The auto-defrost feature results in lower overall efficiency because heat is used to speed defrosting. The dishwasher is a must-have feature in the kitchen. But if your appliance was manufactured before 1994 it wastes more than ten gallons of water per cycle. ENERGY STAR-certified dishwashers have advanced technology that drastically improves performance and your carbon footprint simultaneously. Soil sensors test how dirty the dishes are during the cycle improved filtration systems do a better job of removing food soils from the water. More efficient jets and improved rack designs ensure your dishes come out sparkling clean and sanitized. Plus new models are so quiet that you don t even realize they are running Water heaters are the home s secondlargest energy eater. An ENERGY STAR high-efficiency electric storage water heater known as a heat pump water heater can save a household up to 3 000 in energy costs over its lifetime. If you are building a new home give serious consideration to a tankless water heater fueled by natural gas which can save up to 2 900 over its lifetime. A solar water heater while a larger investment can pay off over its lifetime by cutting a home s annual energy cost in half. Plus the average life expectancy of a solar water heating system is 20 years far exceeding that of the typical water heater. In addition to buying energy-efficient products ramp up their efficiency by thinking through the energy practices in your home. One obvious method to reduce electricity consumption is to cut down on unnecessary usage. For example device chargers left plugged in all the time are considered electricity thieves because they are actually using electricity. Future generations will be glad you unplugged HLM Sources energystar.gov eartheasy.com inquirer.net thehcf.org. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 71 HERLIFE REAL ESTATE sell your house making a video to M ark Fitzpatrick CEO of RUHM a destination marketing firm was a young police officer with a growing family when he realized that he had an entrepreneurial spirit. So he left the police force and started his own real estate brokerage firm which is now a subsidiary of RUHM. ing of nostalgia those feelings that people attach to a property raise the perceived value and the homes are more likely to sell at a higher price. A RUHM video may include an interview with the builder who talks about the history of the construction and the special care he has put into the property or a conversation with the mayor discussing the community. The video may also include interviews with neighbors. Over the years RUHM s videos have gotten more involved. One that Fitzpatrick is proud of is a Choose Your Own Adventure script which he based on a beloved series of childhood books in which the reader can choose alternative endings. For one particular movie his firm had a crew of ten two Hollywood actors and professional sound. It starts he explains with an in-house creative meeting where concepts are fleshed out and budget established. Then a script is written a casting call sent out and director crew and actors all travel to the location. We use the same type of cameras that were used to shoot The Hobbit and other major films he notes. Afterward during the post-production phase the video is edited and the story put together. That phase is often more involved than the actual shooting. These productions are really geared toward the high-end market or else the (financial output) would not make sense Fitzpatrick noted. But it still makes sense to do whatever you can for a lower-priced house to increase the brand image for Realtors and enhance the experience for buyers he says. Doreen Nystrom of Lang Realty says that her younger Realtors take to by h o pe e . fe r gu s o n RUHM was an early adapter in creating top-of-the-line video to sell multi- million dollar homes. The firm shot its first video in about 2008 and when Fitzpatrick looks back on it he says It s embarrassing. I did it myself. His firm now pulls out all the stops creating mini-movies complete with a narrative a script on-location shoots and professional actors. The goal is to tell a story about a property not just to show off its assets. The mini-movies include information about the community and the amenities as well as beautiful shots of the properties themselves. Doreen Nystrom a top sales manager at Lang Realty in Palm Beach County Florida and her firm also utilize video. The company supplies basic video tours of homes that her Realtors can then post on their own websites if they so choose. The videos may include maps music shots of the surrounding area as well as the properties being sold. Fitzpatrick said that studies have shown people (who are house shopping) prefer videos online. As far as studies I ve read it seems to draw more traffic. Good video tells a good story and pulls on people s heartstrings like a Norman Rockwell painting Fitzpatrick explains. Often it brings up a feel- 72 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM video like ducks to water but the older Realtors are often a little more hesitant to use the latest technology. After taking classes though even the older agents are usually willing to wade into the waters. When they start seeing that it s simple and inexpensive they start to come around. The younger generation of agents knows that it s a fabulous way to show a home and is a good marketing tool. Fitzpatrick concurs. He posts video with an eye to online marketing taking care to utilize search engine optimization by carefully selecting keywords. He said that the media is more likely to use a story about a home if video is available because it s packaged so beautifully. Our marketing company is pushing out their story as well as ours so it s good for the media outlet also. The company will also use email and social media sites because when the video is online and accessible even if someone isn t in the market for their own home they can easily send a link to someone else who may be looking. And RUHM makes sure that there is human translation available given the global marketplace. Yes it works says Fitzpatrick. We have sold properties over market prices very frequently selling much higher than comparable prices in the area. It s just about getting the most exposure we can for these properties. And you don t have to be a tech expert or have a big budget to use these concepts and marketing techniques when placing your property on the market. The tools may already be at your fingertips whether you create your own video or nudge your Realtor. So are you ready Lights camera action Sold. HLM Sources msnrealestate.com ruhm.com and langrealty.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 73 HERLIFE WORKING WOMEN thriving while surviving a job loss by h e a th e r n o b l e p h d having strong relationships with co-workers Identify what will keep you energized and invested in the work you do. By taking together what you know about yourself from prior experiences pinpointing your interests from past opportunities and possible future ones and knowing what values are important for you to fulfill you can then determine if you need to explore any educational or training programs to build or augment the repertoire of competencies you can offer to the work world. This strategy will optimize your position for advertising yourself to others in the job market. While you engage in this self-assessment and pursue any additional professional development you might need attend to your current situation. Formulate a budget to keep yourself on financial track by estimating ongoing costs from typical bills the past few months and any additional expenses you might foresee. Assess your financial resources so you can be clear and very intentional for how they are best spent. It s sadness disbelief and even despair can surface along with the sensation of having your feet knocked out from underneath you. Yet it s also a time to evaluate your interests skills and career goals in efforts to recreate yourself. This process takes energy and a great deal of effort. So that you re in the best possible position to set a new course it is essential for you to preserve your self-confidence even strengthen it and to formulate a game plan for how to successfully move forward. 74 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM A possible depending upon your situation that n unexpected job loss can be devastating. It is truly a loss. Understandably if you ever encounter such change you might also find yourself grieving. Feelings of anger First take time to assess the situation and yourself. Take stock of your prior experiences that have sharpened your skills and abilities including those from work leisure and life overall along with noting any skills you might still like to learn. Aside from actual experiences consider your interests too. Maybe you followed your passions with prior work opportunities though also it s possible you had some other interests not yet pursued. At the same time be mindful of your values. Think about what is important for you in your job and the place where you will work. While income is likely high on the list push yourself to be mindful of other factors that really make work satisfying to you. Do you like a challenge Do you enjoy you might qualify for local or national programs that assist those who are unemployed and or in financial need. Consult with others including any professionals with whom you regularly do business. For example you might be able to acquire assistance with medical care and prescriptions access to food and assistance with paying for utilities. Though you can determine a path for moving forward with less income ensure you maintain a healthy sense of urgency for making progress to return to work. Unless you have taken an early retirement or for any other reason do not need to be employed it will be important that you maintain your energy and stamina for preparing yourself to re-enter the work force. Keep yourself on track by sticking to a schedule. Without a work day it can be challenging to keep some structure and consistency to your days. Nevertheless it is beneficial to keep yourself organized and productive. After you consider your knowledge skills abilities interests and values as all of them relate to work create or update your resume so that it reflects and describes you accurately. Libraries and online resources can be very helpful to guide you with formatting and effective ways to attract attention from employers on paper. When you identify particular jobs you want to pursue put thought into the cover letter. Make it interesting to someone who is reading multiple letters and applications so it is not just a summary of your resume. Along the way apply some time and effort to networking with people in career fields of interest to you. If you don t know anyone try doing an information interview by approaching someone and asking for 30 minutes to learn more about his or her job. Do this without any expectation of pursuing a job from this person rather make it clear that your aim is to learn more about the work. In the process you have established a connection that could lead to future possibilities. Transitioning to a new job can undoubtedly be stressful because change is unavoidable. Remind yourself to be patient knowing that flexibility for adjusting and adaptability for navigating different opportunities will serve you well. Individuals who prosper during such transitions are in touch with their self worth courageous for encountering new possibilities and mindful of how best to balance calm composure with steadfast persistence. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 75 HERLIFE FINANCE for college education by c a ti e w a tso n to the College Board and there is no end in sight. Average tuition and fees currently range from 2 713 per year for community college to 27 293 for a private four-year university. Despite the expense there is no question that a college education is an investment in your 76 76 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM finding grants and scholarships Y ou can never start too early when it comes to planning for your child s college education. The cost of higher education has skyrocketed during the past decade according child s future. Data gathered by the U.S. Census Bureau shows that holding a college diploma means an average of 1 million more in lifetime earnings compared to a high school diploma or less. In addition to the fund you started when your child was born you may be able to use financial aid for your child s college education. Scholarships and grants are the best types of aid since they don t need to be repaid. These awards are essentially the same scholarships are frequently bestowed for academic merit or some other type of accomplishment while grants have broader criteria and may be need based. Don t automatically assume that your child won t qualify for a scholarship or grant if you have a comfortable family income. In addition to the U.S. Department of Education which awards about 150 billion per year in grants loans and work-study funds there are thousands of scholarships and grants offered by colleges nonprofit organizations churches pri- Scholarship America a philanthropic organization that promotes college scholarships suggests that high school students keep a notebook that lists school volunteer and community activities along with awards and letters of recognition. Students should also maintain a list of personal attributes and experiences that may qualify them for a scholarship or grant. vate companies and individuals. Many are awarded based on student achievement rather than financial need. The best time to begin thinking about financial aid for college is while your child is still in high school. Scholarship America a philanthropic organization that promotes college scholarships suggests that high school students keep a notebook that lists school volunteer and community activities along with awards and letters of recognition. Students should also maintain a list of personal attributes and experiences that may qualify them for a scholarship or grant. Teachers coaches mentors parents and friends can be valuable resources when coming up with this list. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 77 The next step is to begin researching financial aid opportunities that are a good fit for your child. Financial aid experts recommend that you start your search during your child s sophomore or junior year of high school. Your child s high school guidance counselor and the financial aid offices of colleges he or she is interested in will be able to suggest sources for scholarships and grants. You can also search on reputable websites such as collegeboard.org scholarshipamerica. org scholarships.com and fastweb.com. The U.S. Department of Education and the U.S. Department of Labor provide web-based tools for scholarship searches at studentaid.ed.gov and careeronestop.org. Your state s board of education may also provide information about financial aid. Community organizations are another great resource for information about scholarships and grants. Check with your local Chamber of Commerce United Way and service organizations such as the Elks Lions Clubs International Rotary International Soroptomist International Assistance League and Junior League. Your child may be eligible for financial aid from an ethnic or religious organization. In addition some former military service members and their spouses and children are eligible for federal financial aid for college. Apply for as many scholarships as possible even small awards can make a difference in your out-of-pocket college expenses. Your child must fill out the applications and write any required essays but you can assist by reading supplemental material for each scholarship and grant and making sure your child understands the focus of the organization that is providing the award. Advise your child that waiting until the last minute to fill out applications can result in missed opportunities especially if letters of recommendation are required. It is important to set aside enough time to do the best job possible. Finally check each application for accuracy and completeness before your child submits it. If you decide to do a general search on the Internet for scholarships and grants be careful about falling prey to scam websites and phony financial aid consultants. You should never pay for scholarship and grant information that you can find yourself for free. The U.S. Department of Education advises parents and students never to give out credit card or bank account numbers in exchange for any type of financial aid service unless you know the requesting organization is legitimate. Be aware that you could become a victim of identity theft if criminals posing as financial aid consultants are given access to personal data such as Social Security numbers and bank and credit card information. As you can see finding and applying for scholarships and grants can be a time-consuming effort that requires organization and attention to detail. However it s definitely time well spent if your child is awarded financial aid and is able to lessen or avoid the burden of student loans. HLM Sources studentaid.ed.gov collegeboard.org U.S. News & World Report and Scholarship America. 78 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 79 HERLIFE FINE THINGS diamonds are forever monds. The power wielded by royals led others to curry favor with gifts in the form of beautiful and rare diamonds. The collections of many royal families or state jewel collections contain stones that are incomparable. Even so many collectors around the world have beautiful diamonds in breathtaking collections. Famous Large Diamonds The Cullinan Diamond was an astounding 3 160 carats when it was first mined. It is the largest diamond ever discovered and was cut into the Star of Africa an amazing 530.20 carats (set in the British Royal Scepter) and the Lesser Star of Africa an equally amazing 317.40 carats (set in the Imperial State Crown of Great Britain). The Golden Jubilee Diamond is the world s largest faceted diamond. It is cut in a fire cushion shape and weighs 545.67 carats. The diamond is yellowish brown and currently part of the crown jewels collection in the Royal Thai Palace. The Incomparable Diamond is golden and weighs 407.48 carats. In November 2002 the diamond was put up for auction on eBay for a reserve of 15 million pounds by an unknown owner. It did not sell. The Oppenheimer Diamond is a yellow diamond weighing 253.7 carats uncut. It was donated to the Smithsonian Institution in 1964 by Harry Winston. The Millennium Star is a Flawless D diamond weighing 203.04. It is part of the DeBeers Millennium Collection. The Spirit of de Grisogono diamond is one of only three sizeable black diamonds in the world weighing 312.24 carats. Its original weight was 587 carats it is set in a white gold mounting with 702 smaller diamonds and is reported to have been privately sold. 80 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Clarity Impurities or natural flaws in diamonds are called inclusions. These Color Color can be the hardest to determine because of the wide range of colors on the market. Fancy diamonds may be pink yellow blue brown red and many other colors. The color scale runs from Z for obvious yellow to Grades D-E-F for a colorless type. Stones graded D-E-F are usually more expensive because of their rarity. Stones graded G-H-I-J are nearly colorless and may still be relatively expensive. Fancy diamonds are graded on two scales basic hue and intensity. If two stones have the same hue clarity shape and size the more intenselyhued stone will be more expensive. Some diamonds are treated by irradiation to change the basic hue to another color. They are a pleasant change from the pure natural colorless stone and are much less expensive. However they should never be considered an investment. by l i n d a r. p ri c e A re diamonds forever Probably. Diamonds are the hardest natural substance on Earth and melt at temperatures of 5 500 Celsius. No acid can destroy them and they can be cut only by other diamonds. Given the odds diamonds will be around forever. Until the 15th century kings were the sole owners of dia- The Lesotho Diamond is the 15th-largest rough diamond ever discovered. In its uncut state it weighs 603 carats and is rated a D. The Four Cs of Diamonds Diamonds are graded by several gemological institutes including the Gemological Institute of America (GIA) the American Gem Society Laboratories and the European Gemological Laboratories. The GIA was founded in 1931 by Robert M. Shipley of Wichita Kansas. In the 40s and 50s the GIA created a scale to grade diamonds that has since become accepted worldwide. The GIA s diamond grading certificates evaluate diamonds for quality not value. A specific diamond s report includes scientific information on the Four Cs of quality color clarity carat weight and cut and includes proportion finish and any known treatments. The price of a diamond does not depend on any one element but rather it is a combination of all the Four Cs. are caused by carbon deposits or small feather cracks created when the diamonds were formed. Using a 10X magnification diamonds are graded from FL (flawless) to I1-I3 (imperfect) based on the size number nature and position of the inclusions. The fewer inclusions found in a diamond the more expensive the stone will be. Flawless or Internally Flawless diamonds are very rare and expensive. Carat Weight The carat weight of a gemstone is simply its weight. One carat is 200 milligrams or 0.2 grams. Thus a diamond weighing 1.25 carats weighs 250 milligrams. In general the price of a two-carat diamond will always be more than two one-carat diamonds all other elements being the same. Cut The cut of a diamond is the most important factor in determining the brilliance and beauty of the stone. Many different cuts are used on diamonds but the standard round is probably the most popular and the one that commands the best price all other factors being equal. Other popular shapes are the oval pear heart marquis emerald and princess. These cuts are called fancy cuts. Whether you re selecting a diamond for love remembrance or investment you can be assured that whatever your pleasure diamonds are forever HLM Sources abazias.com allcountries.org diamondsafe.com myjewelrysource.com royal.gov.uk. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 81 HERLIFE TRAVEL exotic retreats by p a tti sm i th set for two. Resorts in any of these exotic locations offer high-quality accommodations comfort style and privacy the perfect prescription for relief from daily stresses and pressures of the workplace. What attracts travelers vacationers and honeymooners to these exotic places The change of climate culture scenery and often history are powerful lures for those dreaming of a temporary escape from the ordinary vacation. The best time to travel to Bali is between April and October. Air fare for that time of year averages 1 500 depending on the airline you travel. Lodging accommodations are spacious and luxurious with rates that are as affordable as any simple beachside hotel condo or cottage on any coast in the United States. Villas in Bali range from around 500 to 5 000 per night and can sleep up to eight people comfortably. Thailand located northwest of Bali is rich in culture and is best known for surfing gourmet foods and street markets. The best time to visit Thailand is between November and February because it doesn t rain as often and temperatures are cooler. A two- or three-bedroom luxury villa in this alluring land averages 2 000 per week. If you are interested in a relaxing peaceful retreat to Morocco located 82 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM B ali. Thailand. Costa Rica. Morocco. The words alone spark thoughts of luxury romance and pure relaxation. Stay in a villa overlooking the ocean nestled in the rainforest or high on a mountaintop. Swim in a private pool and rest in a plush lounge. Desire private dining Have dinner served poolside at a table on the northwestern coast of Africa avoid going during the summer months which is when Moroccans celebrate their holiday season. At that time of year streets and beaches are noisy and packed. Spring is perhaps the best time to visit this country for a more relaxed taste of what it has to offer-- beautiful beaches historic architecture and desert tours as well as tours of the oceanside Hassan Mosque II. The impressive structure is the seventhlargest mosque in the world. In spring days are sunny but not terribly hot and snowcapped mountains can still be seen in the distance. Costa Rica is Central America s gem with lush rainforests beautiful Pacific coast and Caribbean beaches and rich Spanish history. The best time to visit this country is from January through late April to avoid the rainy season. Airfare from major cities in the U.S. to San Jose Costa Rica averages 400 per person. Luxury beachfront villas complete with private swimming pools rent for 275 to more than 2 000 per night. After a couple of days relaxing in a beach house and beside peaceful waters you might be up for some adventure or simply for exploring the local villages. Costa Rica for example is home to 67 volcanoes six of which are active and often toured. Visitors also are attracted to the country s rich rainforests where it is common to spot wildlife such as macaws tapirs jaguars spiders and monkeys. Experiencing native foods from the place that you are visiting is a great way to take in the different cultures. In Bali for instance the Chef Dean Cooking School offers a cooking class complete with a shopping experience to a local market for fresh seafood and spices. For about 91 per person guests enjoy cocktails a cooking lesson and a freshly prepared luncheon. You might also choose a tour of Balinese salt production facilities or a cacao plantation to round out your experience. Bali also is home to world-class scuba diving experiences that range in price from 99 to more than 400 depending on the number of dives desired. Divers can explore the sunken USS Liberty or enjoy a more peaceful exploration of coral reefs. Statistics show that vacationing promotes family time relief from life s stressors and rekindling of romance in a couple s relationship. The majority of adults agree taking a vacation is imperative to their physical and mental health. People long for something different whether it is a better climate fantastic scenery stimulating activities cleaner air or a more relaxing pace. After visiting such glorious places it may be difficult to return home and get back into your daily schedule. But you can keep your vacation experience alive by hosting an evening with friends and family complete with native foods and ethnic tablescapes. Prepare favorite foods for guests to sample. Have a slide show displayed on your laptop or digital picture frame that reveals the highlights of your vacation. Frame some of your favorite photographs from your destination as well. Keep them in your home and in your office at work to help you reflect on time and money well spent. The best way perhaps to keep yourself refreshed and renewed when you come back from a trip to an exotic land is to start planning a getaway to the next fascinating destination HLM Sources villas.com deanfisherbali.com and frommers.com. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 83 HERLIFE BOOK CLUB the dovekeepers by alice hoffman rev iew by gail s ilver s t ein connections between these women the author paints a vivid picture of the hardships and the heartaches they endured. This novel is a compelling heart-wrenching tale with realistic strong female characters that will ensnare the reader until its powerful conclusion. Yael daughter of an assassin is forced to leave all she knows when Jerusalem falls to the Roman Empire in 70 C.E. Accompanied by her emotionally distant and dangerous father Yael wanders through the desert encountering love for the first time as well as heartache. They travel with another family and she bonds fleetingly with the wife of another assassin a man whom she takes as her lover. Motherless since birth and having no female friendships since childhood Yael is a strong independent character who is unafraid of the typical things other women fear. She is also 84 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM A lice Hoffman s epic historical novel The Dovekeepers is told through the narratives of four women and set against the backdrop of the fortress Masada. Through Hoffman s carefully chosen words and thorough research the reader is transported back to ancient times. Building suspense about the Yael daughter of an assassin is forced to leave all she knows when Jerusalem falls to the Roman Empire in 70 C.E. Accompanied by her emotionally distant and dangerous father Yael wanders through the desert encountering love for the first time as well as heartache. plagued by a recurring dream of a lion and the author explains the symbolism of this regal creature. Red-haired like the tawny color of a lion s coat Yael is fierce in her love for her son whom she names Arieh Hebrew for lion. Dreams play a major role in this novel. Snakes fish and doves factor prominently into the story line. One night we were so near to the Salt Sea (known as the Dead Sea) I rose from sleep to discover that salt had wound through my hair and turned the edges hard and white. I had been dreaming of a path of stones and a snake so huge it could devour a city. Come closer it whispered. I longed for the lion in my dreams says Yael. When Yael and her father finally reach the fortress Masada she is assigned to work in the dovecote a structure designed to house these birds. To many readers doves represent peace and faithfulness as they mate for life. Here she encounters Shirah better known as the witch of Moab who practices keshaphim a type of ancient magic similar to herbal holistic medicine. Yael s relationship with Shirah resembles a mother-daughter one rich in its complexity and heart wrenching as the truth of their past is revealed. Hoffman s interweaving of Yael s bond with these beautiful birds and the other women dovekeepers whose lives intersect at Masada makes this novel a compelling complex read. The narrative continues through the eyes of Revka whose past is littered with tragedy when her husband and daughter are murdered by Roman soldiers. How Revka handles her grief and her perseverance is inspirational. Her secret vengeance against the Romans is a heavy burden that Revka carries alone. She comes to Masada with her two mute grandsons and her fatalistic son-in-law a scholar turned warrior. But I was wearing my white mourning shawl when I arrived at the fortress and perhaps the council members were reminded of doves as I stood before them. ...The moment I entered through the carved wooden doors of the largest dovecote a circular tower with flaps for light in the roof I was certain a curse had befallen me laments Revka. During Revka s retelling readers glimpse Shirah s illicit love affair with the Jewish people s charismatic leader. My sister you are like the dove so beautiful and so distant... begins the narrative of Shirah s daughter Aziza. After both women are violated Aziza undergoes a transformation becoming a secret warrior. Disguised as her brother she fights in battles learns to accept love from a fellow soldier and retells the tragic tale of her half-sister. The mother-daughter relationship is further explored in Shirah s narrative. My mother taught me everything a woman must know in this world and all it was necessary to carry into the World-to-Come starts her chronicle. All is revealed as Shirah flashes back to her childhood and the first time she met her cousin the love of her life and the rebels leader. The sacrifices and conflicted emotions of motherhood are poignantly described and the end of Shirah s section requires a box of tissues. Having been to this iconic mountaintop fortress myself I recognize that this novel truly captures its flavor and historical significance. Thousands of years later visitors to Masada can still feel the presence of these long-ago rebels--the nearly 900 Jews who chose to end their lives here rather than succumb to Roman rule. According to history two women and five children survived. An aura of solemnity permeates this former palace of King Herod. Meticulously descriptive The Dovekeepers is a visual treat about historical events and human emotions. Alice Hoffman is a truly gifted wordsmith who keeps her readers in suspense over who survives until the tragic end. Written in first person the prose is so captivating and the characters so realistic that the novel will linger in the reader s heart and soul long after the book is done. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 85 HERLIFE SHE SAID YES MANDY and JOEY few friends for the weekend. wr i t t e n by marilyn is amin ger p hot ogr ap hy by b r ig g s p hot ogra p hy W hen Mandy Cooper and Joey Ulricksen met through mutual friends during a Thanksgiving party there was a quick connection. Mandy was finishing a travel nurse contract in Los Angeles and Joey drove down with a Alas work intervened since Mandy was leaving just a few weeks later to start a new contract in Austin Texas. Over the next few months there was lots of travel between Texas and California When Mandy s contract ended in April she headed back to Northern California and Joey Joey enlisted the help of his parents for his proposal on August 17 2014 on the beach at Half Moon Bay. Joey and his parents had me convinced we were going to Half Moon Bay to play golf Mandy smiles. Little did I know there was much more planned for the afternoon He led me down to the beach and explained that we were actually not there for golf. Much to my surprise he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him Of course I said Yes When Mandy and Joey describe how unique their relationship is they note that it s highly unlikely that they would have ever met without the intervention of their friends. Mandy is from Mississippi and Joey was born and raised in California. He loves teaching her a little more about West Coast life and she loves sharing a little bit of Southern life with him. Mandy and Joey have set their wedding day for April 11 2015 on the beautiful white sand beach in Santa Rosa Beach Florida. They both love the beach Mandy grew up vacationing in this area of Florida. She has always wanted to get married on the beach and this location seemed like the perfect choice for a spring wedding. We are planning a day full of fun family and close friends they agree. We are excited to share this special day with the people we love most. HLM DATE OF PROPOSAL AUGUST 17 2014 86 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 87 HERLIFE TIE THE KNOT April and Jonathan TIED THE KNOT JUNE 21 2014 w ri t t en by m ar ily n is am inger photogr ap hy by b r ig g s p hot ogr ap hy A 88 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM pril VanZant and Jona- than McComb have a strong foundation for their new marriage having been high school friends before beginning to date at the end of their senior year. They have now been together more than 14 years April 33 grew up in Lodi California and attended Lodi High School. She graduated from California State University Sacramento with a major in business management. She later went through graduate school and earned her master of business administration in marketing. April is a pharmaceutical sales representative in the Lodi Stockton area. Jonathan also 33 years old grew up in Lodi attending Lodi High School as well. Jonathan works as a supervisor at a Continued on page 90 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 89 HERLIFE TIE THE KNOT businesses that shared in the love bridal gown jinza couture bridal bridesmaids gowns nordstrom hair styling celina phelan essentials salon photography briggs photography florist blossoms by lisa dj elite entertainment caterer papapavalo s mediterranean bistro cake & dessert bar kim dukes old vine bakeshop ceremony venue morris chapel university of the pacific ceremony music danny and brady rankin reception venue hutchins street square rentals bella festa local pharmacy. Jonathan and April are blessed to live in the house where Jonathan grew up in Lodi. Jonathan kept his proposal plans a surprise for April. We were in Half Moon Bay at the top of the hill looking over Pillar Point Beach she shares. We were meeting some friends for dinner but before we met them Jon wanted to show me where the Mavericks Invitational surf competition is held every year. When we got to the top of the hill overlooking the water he got down on one knee and proposed. After the proposal he had arranged for some of our close friends to meet us for dinner. The entire night was a complete surprise The blissful couple tied the knot on June 21 2014. April s best friend Alycia Green served as Maid of Honor bridesmaids were Julie VanZant Giselle Allard Lyndsay George Jasmine Riggins and Coree Foucher. Jonathan s best friend Ryan Peters served as his Best Man accompanied by groomsmen Jason McComb Jene VanZant Juan Gonzales and Mike Foucher. The couple s nephews Conner VanZant Alexander VanZant and Shane McComb were ring bearers. 90 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM April and Jonathan selected historic Morris Chapel at University of the Pacific as the venue for the ceremony. We chose Morris Chapel since both sets of our parents were married there reveals April. We had a lot of family support and participation in the wedding. The wedding was officiated by a very close long-time family friend Ron is more of an uncle to both of us and it was great having someone officiate the wedding who knew the two of us so well. Also my uncle and cousin Danny and Brady Rankin performed the music for the ceremony. It meant a lot to us to have our family involved in the ceremony. Since April and Jonathan were blessed with having so many family members from out of town attending the wedding they postponed their honeymoon trip for a week so they could spend time visiting with them. Then they left for a two-week honeymoon staying at the Sandals Regency La Toc in Saint Lucia for the first week. For the second week the couple enjoyed a cruise on the Norwegian Getaway ship out of Miami Florida stopping in St. Maarten St. Thomas and Nassau. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 91 HERLIFE SCENE AND BE SEEN more information about other upcoming events at Stonecreek Village please visit shopstonecreekvillage.com. HLM S St. Joseph s 4th Annual Caring for Me Event t. Joseph s celebrated their fourth annual Caring for Me event Wednesday October 1 at Stonecreek Village. Women were treated to a girls night out including food and wine great shopping and a health forum and expo. Attendees were also presented with a swag bag full of goodies For more information about St. Joseph s please visit stjosephcares.org and for p hot ogr a p hy by h e r l i f e sta f f 92 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 93 HERLIFE HOROSCOPE star journeys Most signs are going to experience some slowdown as a result of the solar eclipse that will occur early in the first week of November. Disrupted communications are going to cause upsets if you don t exercise patience. This is not the time for hasty decisions. As a time of reflection and a time of thinking about gratitude for all that you have it is also a time for realizing that something greater than you is in charge. HLM by m e l o dy b u ssey Scorpio OCT. 23-NOV. 21 If your birthday falls during the first week in November the eclipse will be strong in regard to its effect on your personal image work and career aspects as well as your health. You may experience a desire to make drastic changes which can be good if it spurs you to make changes that you ve needed to make. The last part of the month is going to see you enjoying life. Taurus APR. 20-MAY 20 Pay attention to your pace of life this month. Have you been pushing yourself too hard It s time to back off a bit this month and appreciate your momentum. If you don t your health is going to suffer. Share your strength with others. Sagittarius NOV. 22-DEC. 21 Uranus is squared to your spiritual planet Pluto AND there s a solar eclipse on the third of this month so hang onto your hat Sag. Those spiritual changes that have been occurring off and on all year are going to take a turn this month. Whether that is a good turn or a bad turn depends entirely on YOU. Gemini MAY 21-JUNE 20 While many signs are experiencing negative effects from the eclipse it won t affect you at all. Your career while a bit bumpy is going to experience steady growth. Make sure that you double check all things tech related. Capricorn DEC. 22-JAN. 19 Even with this being a season of family and friends that is exactly what is going to cause the most strain for you. The solar eclipse is going to fan the flames of instability in the 11th house causing you to have less patience with others. Be aware of this and take precautions to have an out if you need one. Cancer JUNE 21-JULY 23 Whatever the last eclipse didn t take care of will be adjusted and changed by this one. Make sure that you have been facing the facts doing away with those things that just don t serve you any longer. Others around you will be temperamental so do your best not to take it personally. Aquarius JAN. 20-FEB. 18 Many things are going to be tested this month. The eclipse on the third will make things at work tense for a while. Fly under the radar and cut people some slack and you ll be fine. An eclipse is good for sweeping out the cobwebs in all of your houses so if there s a relationship or situation that is teetering toward oblivion...this will put it over the edge. Leo JULY 24-AUG. 22 Because the eclipse on the third occurs in the sign of Scorpio this eclipse will place a strain on you. What you can do to lessen the effects is to be kind to yourself and others even if you don t feel like it. For this reason avoid making financial decisions until later in the month as on the 22nd things will level out for you. Pisces FEB. 19-MAR. 20 The solar eclipse in the first part of the month is going to demand extreme patience from you. While you won t directly be disturbed by the eclipse many signs undoubtedly will and they will be taking unnecessary risks becoming overly sensitive during this time. Be there for them. Virgo AUG. 23-SEPT. 22 If you have been needing to lose weight the stars support this move right now. Additionally the eclipse is not going to affect you but rather energize you threefold. Your personal charisma and skills will be heightened. Be careful to communicate carefully with others who are going through a rough time the first part of the month. Aries MAR. 21-APR. 19 While many signs are struggling with the solar eclipse it will just be a blip on your radar. What will become apparent is the need to just let some things go that no longer serve you. This is your time to show compassion to others. 94 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Libra SEPT. 23-OCT. 22 Valuable financial lessons are going to be learned this month so pay attention. Not all challenges are bad in fact they may make you stronger. The changes on your financial front will be dramatic so be patient as they will work out in your best interest. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 95 HERLIFE CALENDAR november 5 Charlotte Diamond Children s Concert DATE November 5 TIME 10 00am LOCATION Scottish Rite Auditorium 33 W. Alpine Street Stockton DETAILS Join this trilingual award-winning singer-songwriter as she brings her talent to the stage with her enthusiastic personality and a cultural mosaic of songs To reserve seats please call (209) 486-2559 or visit musicalchairsconcerts.org. DETAILS Come celebrate Macchia s new releases right before the holidays This season s theme is Brighten Your Day with Macchia So bring on your neon and wear bright colors For more information visit macchiawines.com or call (209) 333-2600. 28 Alexandra s Home & Garden Annual Open House DATE November 28 through 30 TIME 10 00am - 5 00pm LOCATION Alexandra s Home & Garden 105 N. 3rd Avenue Oakdale DETAILS Get your holiday shopping done at Alexandra s Annual Open House Happening all Thanksgiving weekend this is a great opportunity to find great deals on unique home and garden gifts. For more information about Alexandra s Home & Garden please call (209) 845-8179. 8 Upstream Wines at Watts Winery Party DATE November 8 TIME 12 00pm - 5 00pm LOCATION Upstream Wines at Watts Winery 17036 N. Locust Tree Road Lodi DETAILS Enjoy the best of Upstream Wine at Watts Winery at their Winery party Sip on delicious vino and socialize with other wine enthusiasts For more information about this and other events please visit wattswine.com or upstreamwines.com. All calendar event submissions must be received by November 1st for the December issue and adhere to our guidelines. E-mail beth herlifemagazine. com for guidelines or to submit entries. HLM 8 Incredible Edible Science and Mixology DATE November 8 TIME 6 00pm - 9 00pm LOCATION WOW Museum 2 North Sacramento Street Lodi DETAILS Enjoy excellent dishes from some of the area s best chefs Participate in an auction raffle and enjoy wine and edible science creations. Purchase tickets online at wowsciencemuseum.org or call (209) 368-0969. 14 Fashion Safari Annual Little Black Dress Party DATE November 14 TIME 5 30pm - 8 30pm LOCATION Fashion Safari 9 N. School Street Lodi DETAILS Join Fashion Safari for a fun-filled night at their annual Little Black Dress party Enjoy refreshments door prizes and tons of fun and don t forget to wear your LBD For more information call (209) 369-8222. 15 7th Annual Caregiver Symposium DATE November 15 TIME 9 00am - 3 00pm LOCATION Robert Cabral Agricultural Center 2101 E. Earhart Avenue Stockton DETAILS Come join this inner safari Healings in Motion presents the seventh annual Caregiver Symposium dedicated to a body mind and spiritual journey to health harmony and wellness. For more information please visit healingsinmotion.org or call (877) 672-4480. 22 Macchia s Fall Release Party DATE November 22 and 23 TIME Noon - 5 00pm LOCATION Macchia Winery 7099 E. Peltier Road Acampo 96 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 97