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CREATING A BUDGET FOR YOUR WEDDING YOUR WEDDING FLAWLESS BEAUTY FOR BRIDAL TRENDS OF 2015 UPSCALE-ING YOUR GARAGE SALE-ING & ErinDoran WEDDING INDUSTRY INNOVATOR staff & contacts Publisher and Editor-In-Chief Kimberly Mullen kimberly 209-224-8810 Beth Dostal beth For advertising information please call 209-224-8810 Kelly Moore kelly 209-200-1229 Vikki Sandor-Girolami vikki 209-629-5382 Editor Art Director Associate Art Directors Advertising Art Director Contributing Authors Marilyn Isaminger Kathryn Creel kathryn Paige Fisher Ashleigh Thomson Elana Bell elana Adriana Brogger Melody Bussey Lisa Taranto Butler Patty Cook Beth Dostal Hope E. Ferguson S.E. Filomeo Rebecca Flansburg Stephanie Fox Judy Goppert Marilyn Isaminger Melissa Haines Lavin Laura Leiva Helena Monica Linda R. 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We welcome your ideas articles and feedback. 8 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 9 HERLIFE CONTENTS features 30 82 34 74 62 12 16 18 20 Welcome From the Publisher Health Eat Like a Caveman Natural Health Prime Fitness Spotlight Doctors Hospital of Manteca Niche Program Travel Globe-Trotting at Your Fingertips Cosmetic Surgery Plastic Surgery Questions Spotlight Chris Phelps Inspirations Erin Doran HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 34 Beauty Flawless Beauty for Your Wedding Day Fine Things The Latest Trends in Bridal Fashion Finance Creating a Budget for Your Wedding Behind the Camera Briggs Photography Green Living Green Weddings Trendsetter 2015 Bridal Trends She Said Yes Lauren and Duane Tie The Knot Ashlee and Hayden 60 Center of Attention Lincoln Center Strolling Bridal Faire Real Estate Secrets to Home Staging Home Up-Scaling Your Garage Sale-ing Mother s Perspective Advice on Distracted Driving Working Women Body Language in the Workplace Pets Why do They do That Cravings Zin Bistro Culinary Eating to Stay Warm 78 Recipes Chocolate-Almond Oatmeal Three-Cheese Beer Soup Wine What is Viticulture Under the Cork Pasos Vineyards Behind the Menu French 25 Garden The Fruits of French Polynesia Foodies Book Club The Story of Beautiful Girl Scene and Be Seen Stockton Thunder Horoscope Calendar 36 62 64 80 82 84 86 88 90 92 94 96 38 40 42 44 52 54 66 68 22 26 28 30 70 74 76 10 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 11 HERLIFE WELCOME entrepreneur the first issues of HERLIFE Magazine. I watched Erin and her businesses grow and I was always captivated by her professionalism and that of her entire team. We worked on photo shoots together and we attended several of the same bridal shows where I found myself inspired by her positive attitude and energy. Whenever I feel overwhelmed and my To-Do list seems impossible to finish Erin is an inspiration to me. After meeting with Erin in the late fall and visiting the new wedding venue in Downtown Modesto The Century her excitement was contagious. As Erin walked photographer Dee Yates and me around the dusty construction zone her eyes lit up as she mapped out design changes and we could begin to visualize what Erin was dreaming of. I am deeply honored to share Erin s entrepreneurial journey and spirit with our readers. She is truly an inspiration to so many as she carries herself with a positive outlook and continues to grow her businesses here in the Central Valley. p h o to by stu d i o m o h s o h T he E in Erin Doran stands for entrepreneur. This young dynamo of the wedding industry has four successful businesses under her belt and continues to reinvent her business models for today s modern bride. A serial entrepreneur a smart businesswoman a wife an employer and a sister Erin wears all of these titles proudly. I had the pleasure of meeting Erin back in the spring of 2009 when I was launching K im b er ly M ullen facebook Herlife of Central Valley twitter HERlifeCali 12 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 15 HERLIFE HEALTH eat like a caveman by lis a taranto b ut ler nourishing your body much like our primitive ancestors did What is the Paleo Diet The typical American diet is often chided as being carb laden sugar heavy and overly processed. Believing that much of our modern-day diet is the root cause of most of our disease and ailments Dr. Loren Cordain an exercise physiologist developed the concept of the Paleo Diet in the by l i sa taranto butler 1980s and has written extensively about it. The diet goes back in time (about 12 000 years) to the Stone Age when hunting gathering and eating fresh meats fish fruits and vegetables was the way of life. Not on the prehistoric menu were dairy products grains legumes sugars and processed foods. So when noshing the Paleo way you basically eat like cavemen ditching Little Debbies and Big Macs for fresh meats and veggies. Paleo-Friendly Foods The Paleo diet involves eating whole unprocessed nutrient-dense nourishing foods. Paleo eaters typically opt for grass-fed meats wildcaught fish and seafood eggs and vegetables. Nibbling on fruit nuts and seeds is fine as long as caveman-like portions are avoided. When choosing oils stick to healthy oils such as olive walnut flaxseed macadamia and avocado. Long-term Paleo What Foods Are No-No s A good rule of thumb with Paleo is to gather food from the outside aisles of the grocery market. No healthy-eating caveman would make very many trips down the middle aisles--the ones full of packaged processed goodies. The Paleo diet also leaves out legumes (including peanuts) dairy soy potatoes salt and some common cooking oils such as soybean oil canola oil and cottonseed oil. Check this article s sources for comprehensive lists of Paleo-friendly foods. What Are the Benefits of a Paleo Diet A clean diet without additives preservatives and chemicals is considered easier on our insides so our bodies don t have to work as hard to digest food. The anti-inflammatory benefits from the plant nutrients in fruits vegetables oils nuts and seeds aid our everyday function while Eating Paleo isn t easy. Since this diet strays from dietary carbohydrates you may feel slow and sluggish at first because you are not eating sugar and pasta. But if you can make it past this period of yuck you will probably feel better in the long run. As with any diet or change in eating patterns check with your doctor first. Just as with any other diet being vigilant is important while trying not to overdo it. Think about abiding by the 80 20 rule. Eat healthy and smart 80 percent of the time so the other 20 percent of the time allows you room to relax. We don t live in the Stone Age and it s comforting to know that we have a little more help than our prehistoric ancestors. Check online for apps and websites that share Paleo grocery lists recipes and tips. There s no need to look for answers on cave walls. HLM Sources and Who Should Choose a Paleo Diet If you re trying to lose weight and your energy levels seem low then a Paleo diet might be just what the caveman ordered. And since the Paleo diet doesn t have you counting calories it might be more convenient than other weight loss programs you might have tried in the past. Are There Any Risks to a Paleo Diet As with most diets eating pure Paleo does have some downturns. If you take away foods and nutrients and don t find suitable replacements you can create a nutrient imbalance. While eating lean meat is good choosing fatty meats and too much red meat may lead to high cholesterol and possible heart issues. Bones are at risk if very few dairy products are consumed and not eating grains can deplete the body of energy. And if you are watching your wallet this way of eating may be pretty pricey considering the high percentage of meat included. If you re vegetarian you may want to think twice before going Paleo. Since the plan excludes beans protein is hard to come by on this diet. I f you haven t heard about the Paleo diet then perhaps you have been living in a cave. The words eat like a caveman are taken pretty literally in this Paleolithic program that has been gaining popularity over the last few years. The prehistoric way of noshing on grub is getting lots of attention but what is it exactly and what are the benefits of eating more meat means more iron is absorbed to build strong muscles and cells. Cold water fish (such as salmon) is a great source of omega-3 fatty acids helpful for the eyes heart and daily brain function. With a Paleo palate a feeling of fullness or satiety is likely because of the higher intake of protein and fats so the chance of getting hungry between meals decreases. And of course with the limited number of food choices most people will lose weight on this plan. 16 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 17 HERLIFE NATURAL HEALTH prime fitness by h e l e n a m o n i c a One of the best things you can possibly do to manage pain is to meditate. Since your mind plays a large role in how you feel meditation is a groundbreaking choice for mental emotional and physical healing. rules. When you look at fitness in your prime the one factor you have to consider is that you have some history behind you. Your history is going to play a big role in what choices you make moving forward. Very often once we hit our prime we are more soulful than we are physical as a whole. In other words we are not as fixated with what we see in the mirror as with feeling strong pain free and clear headed. Before you can make choices moving forward you have to look back. Your body has been recording every bit of information you have given it since the day you were born. I like to call this cellular soup. All that you eat think and feel has be18 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM A great many people have the desire to be in shape and feel good at any age but I ve found that as we get older this concept takes on a different meaning and has a new set of come a part of you. So moving forward becomes a matter of reversing out. Layer by layer you reverse whatever it is that you want to change by telling your body a new story. Remember that your body is always responding and adapting to you and the more times you repeat the information you give it the deeper it drives into your cellular system recording that information until it takes form. A great example of this is laugh lines and pursed lips. When we hold our expression one way long enough the lines in our face deepen showing the depth of our character and our history. Your physical mental emotional and spiritual perceptions are all causing imprints in your body that shape your overall health. Based on this model your choices for your future become somewhat simple. Physically speaking if you have been sedentary getting movement in every day is very important to keep your circulation moving as well as concentrating on eating foods that are not dense and over-processed. If you have lost muscle and bone mass start a strength-building regimen. If you are stiff take on yoga or a stretching routine. If you have been very physical all your life or have been considered Type A then you might need to find a way to recover by allowing your body to do something less aggressive or competitive. It will take more time to build the form or the flexibility because of the depth of your imprint but it will pay off as your body is always listening and wanting to work with you. Besides the act of doing something different is very good for the brain As you age pain becomes a distraction that gets in the way of what you want to focus on which is your emotional and spiritual well-being. By now you have learned a thing or two and want to enjoy the mental freedom you have gained you re in no mood to have the aches and pains of age get in your way One of the best things you can possibly do to manage pain is to meditate. Since your mind plays a large role in how you feel meditation is a groundbreaking choice for mental emotional and physical healing. You don t have to make a big deal out of it. Set aside ten minutes to start building yourself up to an hour a day 30 minutes in the morning and 30 and night and simply focus on your breath. Moment by moment you will clear your mind of old debris. You will be fascinated at the positive effects it will have on your nature Your diet is paramount to the reversal process. You should take great pride in staying away from pharmaceuticals focusing on eating a plant-rich diet that is close to the source. Pharmaceuticals have their place but the synthetics ultimately have a domino effect that can lead to mental fogginess stiffness and irritability taking you away from your spiritual ground. Do not take this part of your equation lightly. The natural pathway is easy and exciting to find and will have you feeling clear and in control of your health. Again there are times when pharmaceuticals are necessary but even then be sure to counteract them with a cleansing ritual such as juicing or yoga. Be aware of your environment which ultimately starts at home. If you are having a difficult time taking your first steps in your process start by clearing out your home. Making physical changes clearing out old furniture books or whatever it is that has been in the same place for too long will give you a breath of fresh air. Inner creates the outer but sometimes clearing the outer gives a spark of inspiration inside which is where you will need it the most HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 19 HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT there is one segment of the population Doctors Hospital of Manteca has demonstrated tremendous commitment to and that is the quality care of older adults. This growing hospital is proud to announce that it received designation as a NICHE Hospital in September 2014. The NICHE (Nurses Improving Care for Healthsystem Elders) is a special designation that indicates a hospital s commitment to elder care excellence. This designation focuses on quality care for our elderly patients Kathy Daley Doctors Hospital s Chief Nursing Officer revealed. For patients 65 and older being admitted to the hospital becomes more complex. When a patient is admitted the focus tends to be on what they are being admitted for. But we also know that a significant number of elderly patients already have underlying or chronic health conditions that need to be addressed and considered as well. These patients at times can also become very confused and disoriented when their normal routine is disrupted. Our NICHE program helps us work with each patient more closely to ensure that all of these issues are considered and acknowledged. The NICHE designation signals a dedication to providing patient-centered care for older 20 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM D octors Hospital of Manteca has always had its eye on the future and a finger on the pulse of innovative healthcare needs for the Central Valley region. But With the aging of baby boomers improving geriatric nursing competencies is more important than ever. The NICHE program is designed to upgrade the quality of care for older adult patients by increasing awareness of geriatric issues improving staff competence in nursing care of the elderly and supporting the implementation of hospital geriatric protocols. adult patients. Through participation in the NICHE program hospitals are able to offer evidencebased interdisciplinary approaches that promote better outcomes positive experiences and improved care for older adults. This leads to greater satisfaction rates for patients their families and staff. Kellie Malogan RN BSN CMSRN and Doctors Hospital s Geriatric Nurse Navigator agreed that the new NICHE Program has been instrumental in giving better care to their older patients and in working to preserve their dignity and quality of life. With this new approach to geriatric patients we feel we are part of the solution now. Fellow Geriatric Nurse Navigator Syvel Gunzon and I spend several days a week evaluating our older patients looking at their medications and looking at whether we are being proactive with their mobility. We do a thorough chart review with these patients and look at not just their diagnosis but their underlying conditions as well. We also look at the medications they are taking at home and compare them to the medications they are taking while admitted. We view these patients as a whole not just what they were admitted to the hospital for. With the aging of baby boomers improving geriatric nursing competencies is more important than ever. The NICHE program is designed to upgrade the quality of care for older adult patients by increasing awareness of geriatric issues improving staff competence in nursing care of the NICHE PROGRAM by re b e c c a f l a n sb u rg p h o to s by b ri g g s p h o to gra p hy Doctors Hospital of Manteca elderly and supporting the implementation of hospital geriatric protocols. NICHE provides an extensive array of resources and tools that guide support and educate healthcare professionals and facilities throughout the process of achieving NICHE designation. Geriatric Nurse Navigator Syvel Gunzon RN BSN CMSRN shared that even though the NICHE program is in its infancy at Doctors Hospital she has already experienced profound and positive results. A particular situation really indicated to me that this program will greatly benefit our older population remembered Syvel. I was doing my usual rounds for NICHE and I noticed the wife of one of our geriatric patients sitting in a corner. She looked so tired and very sad. Her husband in the final stages of Alzheimer s was no longer talking and didn t recognize anyone anymore. I asked his wife if we could just sit and talk a while. I introduced her to our new NICHE program explained how the program works and how it could help them. We sat for quite some time discussing the facts the options and their lives together in general. A few days later while I was doing my rounds for NICHE the patient s wife reappeared grasped my hand and said When we spoke you touched my heart so much that every time I think of my husband I think about you. You are my angel without wings. Please continue what you are doing touching other people lives. She also added that she hoped the NICHE Program continued to be successful and that she was very happy that Doctors Hospital was working to let the older population know that they are not forgotten. In that moment it was such an amazing and comforting feeling for me to know that this new designation can and will help our patients. All of us at Doctors Hospital are excited to see how this program can benefit our patients Kathy concluded. We are proud to be demonstrating this proactive approach with our geriatric patients and also to be offering a service for their families. Our doctors and staff are proud to be part of a program that not only treats our geriatric patients with dignity and respect but also sends them back home in the best condition possible. HLM For more information about Doctors Hospital of Manteca s NICHE program visit and search NICHE on the site. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 21 HERLIFE TRAVEL by pa t t i s m i t h globe-trotting at your fingertips T oday s technology makes it easier than ever to plan your next family vacation or romantic getaway just for two. There s an app for virtually every travel need and a gadget to make European travel authority Rick Steves guidebook author and TV host advises downloading Skyscanner to find the most convenient and costeffective connecting flights. He also relies on SmartTraveler a free app that offers basic information about a country as well as travel advisories. Steves who has been traveling abroad since he was a child created his own app called Rick Steves Audio EuropeTM. It s free doesn t require an internet connection and includes walking tours of dozens of Europe s top sights. Need help with what and how to pack The low-cost Packing Pro app will take you through a list of what you might need as well as help you organize your essentials. This app also keeps track of each family member s packing needs. Other apps make communication a breeze while traveling abroad. Google Translate is one of the most popular translator apps for globetrotters. It allows for conversations between 80 languages and one of the best effects of this app which is free is that no internet connection is needed. So communicating with people in Japanese Chinese Swahili Hebrew Hindi or Yiddish among many others is no problem. SpeakEasy iSpeak Interpret and Jibbigo are other apps that are either free or have low-cost upgrade versions. These apps make smart phones smarter. They allow travelers easy access to information that is important for their enjoyment and sometimes vital for ensuring their safety. Download the EmergenSee app which turns your smart phone into a personal safety device. Click a button and you can transmit audio video and GPS to selected friends and family who can contact authorities if you cannot. TravelSafe Pro is an award-winning low-cost app (99 cents for Android) that could save your life. It offers a database of emergency phone numbers to police fire ambulance and details on the U.S. Embassy where you are. Downloading helpful apps on your smart phone will eliminate the need for bulky devices such as your laptop and GPS. Some gadgets however will be worth taking along and won t take up much space in your suitcase. Luggage handle covers not only provide a comfortable grip while pulling a heavy suitcase through an airport but also make a great identi- your travel more compact and comfortable. Free travel booking apps such as Orbitz Priceline TripAssistTM and Expedia to name a few are helpful in the planning stages. They allow for flight lodging and transportation bookings. If you have a favorite airline or a reward program with one then download that airline s app for convenient flight planning. Once your travel plans are in place the Tripit app will save your travel information all in one place. Create a Tripit account so that each time you receive a reservation email it will be added to your itinerary automatically. Tripit is free but there are other similar apps available at a low cost such as FlightTrack (from 2.99 to 4.99 depending on your device) or Kayak (free) that allow you to monitor the status of international flights. They include detailed information on departure gates delays and cancellations. 22 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM fier. They are bright and colorful so it s easy to spot your bags when they come around the carousel. Kwik Tek s DRY PAK line of waterproof holders will protect your cell phone passport identification and credit cards from destructive water damage. Consider the GRID-ITTM organizer to keep your cell phone camera and accessories packed in one neat system. A must-have for international adventurers is Belkin s Universal AC Travel Adaptor which allows you to charge your laptop cell phone and PDA in 150 countries. The Turbo Charge TC2 portable cell phone charger provides a boost of emergency power while on the go. If your cell phone battery dies plug it in for a recharge and keep trekking until you get back to your hotel room s electrical outlet. Carry all of these nifty gadgets and more without straining your shoulders and back with the AIRBACTM. It s a backpack with a built-in air support system that lightens your load. It has built-in shock absorbers so that as you run or walk the weight is absorbed by the AIRBAC and not your spine. Just because you re on vacation doesn t mean you have to leave your fitness routine behind. The compact FitKit weighs only two pounds and has all the tools needed to help keep you in shape. An online exercise library reveals 250 exercises you can do in your hotel room. It s also a great gadget for the office. The apps and gadgets mentioned here are just a few of the plethora available to help you get the most enjoyment out of your next vacation. So get ready get set get planning HLM Sources play. T their own. he only rule for weddings today is that there are no rules. Today s brides have a multitude of choices and concepts from which to draw to plan and accomplish their vision for the most important day of their lives. The age of first marriages has been rising as have the costs 30 000 is the national average so it s no surprise that couples who may pay for their own nuptials want the day to be something that is uniquely Instead of deferring to their mothers decisions most brides have definite ideas of their own says Karen Petit wedding director at The Mitchell House and Gardens in Lexington South Carolina. Couples are more likely to have a theme that showcases their individual style. An upcoming event at our venue will feature the traditional wedding and a masquerade reception with elaborate decorations. However Petit cautions Wedding shows have given some brides an unrealistic expectation of what they can get with their budget. A reality check can be in order for some The no-rules concept also includes the guest list. Smaller weddings with guests who have all had a role at some point in the couple s life and have contributed to who they are today are more the norm than the exception says wedding and event designer Sasha Souza. The guest list isn t full of have-to invites it s 100 percent an A-list. A big trend is in weekday weddings says Souza. Couples are willing to marry on a weekday if it means that they can afford more get the site of their dreams or have the perfect combination of dates such as 12-13-14. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 23 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 25 HERLIFE COSMETIC SURGERY JOSEPH R. BURLIN MD American Board of Plastic Surgery Stanford Trained More than 25 Years of Experience WANT PLASTIC SURGERY DO YOUR HOMEWORK FIRST geons. Such disappointing results are not limited to reality TV we unfortunately see such cases in our office far too often. It is the purpose of this article to raise the awareness in prospective plastic surgery patients to understand how to make intelligent and informed decisions about plastic and cosmetic surgery. What are the key things that anyone considering plastic surgery needs to consider Choose a surgeon you can trust. Plastic surgery involves many choices the first and most important of which is the selection of a qualified surgeon. Make sure that he is well trained specifically in the field of plastic or cosmetic surgery. He should also operate only in a fully-accredited surgical facility have full privileges for surgery at the regional hospital(s) and faithfully fulfill continuing medical education requirements specifically dealing with plastic and cosmetic surgery. Ask your family doctor and other medical professionals for their recommendations. Good questions to ask during your consultation are How many years of plastic or cosmetic surgery training have you had Do you have hospital privileges to perform this procedure If so at what hospitals How many procedures of this type have you performed Am I a good candidate for this procedure What will be expected of me to get optimal results How long of a recovery can I expect and what kind of help will I require during my recovery Will I need to take time off work If so for how long What are the risks and complications associated with this procedure How are complications handled Do you have before and after photographs of surgical procedures you have performed that I can review Would I be able to talk to other patients who have had the same procedure performed that I am considering I t seems that we increasingly see reports in the media of unsuspecting patients who have had bad or botched plastic surgery. There is even now a prime-time TV show that features such botched plastic surgery outcomes and follows patients through the process by which their results are improved by legitimate board-certified plastic sur- Insist that your surgery is performed at an accredited facility. An accredited facility is one that meets strict national standards for patient safety. Such facilities typically screen surgeons to insure that their credentials are proper and up to date. In addition accredited facilities hold staff members to standardized levels of care including certification in ACLS (Advanced Cardiac Life Support). Facilities must also adhere to all local state and national regulations regarding sanitation fire safety OSHA and building codes. Do not choose a surgeon solely on price. In general when it comes to purchasing something whether it be plastic surgery jewelry or an automobile you pretty much get what you pay for. If a particular surgeon offers a surgery procedure at a higher price than another ask him why his procedure is more expensive. Perhaps he will explain that his unique experience makes his service more valuable or he may explain that he does his surgery in a somewhat different way that predictably makes the surgery better or safer. In such cases it is often worth the additional cost. As we tell our patients Experience is not is priceless. There is no need to travel abroad to have surgery. In recent years there has been a sharp rise in the number of people traveling abroad to have plastic surgery. Numerous companies have emerged that integrate cosmetic surgery along with all-inclusive vacation packages. The cheaper costs may be tempting but patients need to very carefully consider the risks involved. Other important points to consider are Cosmetic surgery is real surgery and does have some risks. Data gathered by the International Society of Aesthetic Plastic Surgery has shown that the risk of complications is greater during cosmetic surgery vacations. Long airplane flights coupled with surgery significantly increase the risk of certain complications such as blood clots in the legs and pulmonary embolism (blood clots in the lungs). Follow-up care and post-operative monitoring of patient progress is compromised. Surgeon and facility qualifications may not be verifiable. Many surgery centers are privately owned and operated making it difficult to determine the credentials of the surgeons anesthesiologists nursing personnel and facility. Devices and products used may not meet the FDA standards we are accustomed to in the U.S. You may not be legally protected. There is no legal recourse if surgical malpractice or negligence occurs. If you have questions or would like to hear about a certain topic relating to cosmetic surgery or skin care please email your questions to Kimberly 26 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT of schaffer CHRIS PHELPS & wr it t en by r eb ec c a fla n sb u rg p h o to gra p hy by d e e ya te s stu d i o s hris Phelps has always worn many hats. Ambitious by nature she spent many years working different jobs trying to find the right fit for her personality and active lifestyle. She s been an electron microscopy tech art teacher photography studio assistant and a stay-at-home mom. It wasn t until 2006 that she the various businesses and professions of northern San Joaquin. giving back to community c o m p a n y r e a lt o r s C nesspersons and the camaraderie among the club members. Fast forward nine years and in July 2014 Chris was elected President of the Lodi Tokay Rotary Club and has immensely enjoyed her leadership role with the group. The Lodi Tokay Rotary Club chartered in September 1977 is one of Lodi s leading community service organizations and one of three Rotary clubs in Lodi. The nearly 40 men and women members represent a cross-section of I am thoroughly enjoying this year as president. I think of it as a way to give back to those in our club who give so much of themselves and their resources Chris noted. It has been an amazing source of fulfillment as we all work together to make our community a better place. Projects we have worked on together include remodeling the local Grape Bowl Field House to be ADA compliant fundraising for Lodi House Lodi Boys and Girls Club Adopt-A-Child and supporting Lawrence Elementary with library books and with the GREAT Program (gang resistance education and training). Right now we re planning a new fundraiser a BrewFest on June 20 at the Grape Festival Grounds. This fundraiser as well as the Oktoberfest we hold every October will enable us to continue to help the community of Lodi where help is most needed. Family is another strong force for Chris. Her support system consists of her husband of 37 years Dan daughters Jill and Kimberly two sons-in-law and her two precious grandbabies. I am so grateful that this career has provided me with a great income plus the flexibility to be present for my family Chris revealed. A couple of days a week I am able to babysit my two beautiful granddaughters Norah and Noelle and it s precious time that I cherish. Admitting it s hard to believe that in February she will be celebrating nine years in the industry she loves Chris shared I honestly don t see real estate as a sales job I see it as a teaching opportunity. Having an audience looking to you for education and guidance is so similar to being a teacher. The best part of my job is being able to guide people from start to finish in the process of buying the home of their dreams. That is a true highlight for me and one I will never tire of. HLM Visit to learn more about Chris or contact her at 209-369-2213. Schaffer & Company Realtors is located at 122 N. Church Street in Lodi California. discovered what she considers her true calling a career that would fulfill her in ways she never thought possible. As a Realtor for Schaffer & Company of Lodi for the past nine years Chris not only feels that she has found her way home to a dream career but that her professional goal is helping others find their dream home. Being a real estate agent was never on my radar shared Chris. I tried various jobs and there was even a time when I wasn t working at all. During that time I remember whining to my husband that I could be doing more but I didn t know what. He suggested I get my real estate license and initially I was shocked I didn t think it was a good suggestion at all because I ve never pictured myself in sales. Yuck I remember thinking. Go door-todoor and try to convince people to buy something UGH But after pondering the idea I eventually decided it sounded like a good challenge for me. Chris completed her real estate education and with license in hand began looking for a real estate office where she could work as a licensed agent. As soon as she interviewed with the well-respected office of Schaffer and Company Realtors she knew it was the perfect fit. She began specializing in residential and commercial real estate sales. I was a little worried about finding the right office. I knew I would need a lot of training since I didn t have a business background Chris stated. But Margo Cook and Nancy Hyske owners of Schaffer & Company were graciously willing to take me under their wings and guide me. To this day I m grateful to these wonderful ladies for all they ve done for me. I adore the people I work with because they re all such caring individuals along with being strong Christians something I cherish in my life. The love and care I give to my clients is a reflection of my relationship with Jesus Christ and I feel that same reflection from this office. Around the same time Chris launched her career as a Realtor she also became a member of the Lodi Tokay Rotary Club. Invited by a friend Chris attended a meeting and was instantly drawn in by association with other busi28 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM I honestly don t see real estate as a sales job I see it as a teaching opportunity. Having an audience looking to you for education and guidance is so similar to being a teacher. The best part of my job is being able to guide people from start to finish in the process of buying the home of their dreams. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 29 HERLIFE INSPIRATIONS 30 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM ErinDoran ENHANCES THE BRIDAL EXPERIENCE wr it t en by r eb ec c a flans b ur g p h o to gra p hy by d e e ya te s stu d i o s makeup by antoine t t e k ar iegan hair by juliana ham za o f j ewe l z & c o . sa l o n v i n ta ge re n ta l s by u n i q u e b o u ti q u e s s hot on loc at ion a t th e c e n tu r y m o d e sto Never give up even when things don t work out or the going gets tough. You have to face a couple of failures before you find your true success. I would also encourage anyone desiring to start their business to keep their mind open to new possibilities. I believe everything happens for a reason and sometimes the path we need to take will present itself. You just need the courage to follow it and see where it may lead. E rin Doran is not only passionate about business this veteran businesswoman knows what it takes to build a successful organization. Her numerous entrepreneurial successes include creating cultivating and growing four current businesses with more on the horizon. Sales and entrepreneurship have been in Erin s blood for as long as she can remember. As an ambitious 12 year old she was already selling jewelry and was running a paper route at age 15. After graduating college with a BS degree in business management she found herself working in business management and account executive roles in Fortune 500 companies and then in pharmaceutical sales. These skills helped to develop her strong sense of business ethics unsurpassed passion and intense focus. Just as life sometimes does her business aspirations began to head down a new path when Erin was introduced to the wedding industry in 2000 by her husband George owner of Sounds In Motion one of the largest D.J. services in the Central Valley region. Working alongside her husband in his disc jockey entertainment company opened this ambitious businesswoman s eyes to new possibilities. Seeing the potential for endless opportunity along with the growing needs of the local bridal industry Erin soon began to create her own series of complementing and successful wedding businesses. I ve always been an entrepreneur and I ve also had the desire to create new businesses Erin shared. As with any successful businessperson there have been hits and there have been misses. But one of my first successful businesses was Aqua Bliss. After listening to the needs of brides I noticed an untapped market and used that knowledge to open Aqua Bliss in 2005. This business is an upscale image studio offering luxurious beauty and therapeutic services to Modesto residents. Once I made the decision to leave my fulltime job and commit 100 percent to Aqua Bliss things began to change extremely fast and the business boomed. Not only was this her first successful business it was the first business in the Modesto area that offered luxury spray tan services to residents and brides-to-be. In 2009 Aqua Bliss added body wrap services and later expanded again to include an aesthetician with an expertise in providing skin care and body care services. In the spring of 2012 Aqua Bliss expanded their staff once again to include a talented nail artist a HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 31 bronzing artist and a very talented make-up As Erin s discovery of the needs of brides and bridesto-be began to grow opportunities for other innovative business began to surface. artist to their glamour team. As Erin s discovery of the needs of brides and brides-to-be began to grow opportunities for other innovative business began to surface. As a former bride herself Erin shared how she vividly remembers trying to find a classy and elegant photo booth while planning her own wedding. I loved the idea of a photo booth as a way for my wedding guests to have fun and create memories at the same time she revealed. But the only photo booths I could find were bland or downright rugged looking. They looked like they belonged at the fair or in a mall instead of at something as elegant as a wedding. I couldn t find one that reflected my girly-girl style or one that was even modern looking. That s when I had the idea to create my own upscale and trendy photo booth service to offer anyone planning an event wedding or function to enhance the guest experience. That s when The Platinum Photo Booth was born in 2008. Knowing that her new business had to offer only the best-of-the-best when it came to photo booths Erin admits she took design and creation very seriously. I knew I wanted something different than the traditional photo booth design and so did my clients she affirmed. I wanted a design that would fit more seamlessly at a wedding reception and one that included soft lines gorgeous props customized backdrops and luxury elements. I also wanted something that could be customized to reflect the wedding party s colors design flowers and theme as well. Our goal with this business is to design an upscale photo booth that looks like the client designed it themselves. Typically we do around 450 events a year and these events include family gatherings corporate events and weddings. We may have started with one upscale photo booth but now I m the proud owner of 12 Erin s brother Chris has also joined the company as the Director of Creative Engineering and Regional Expansion Supervisor. His addition to the team has had a tremendous impact on the success of the company s 32 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM quality assurance and expansion projects. In September 2012 Erin and Chris completed their newest project HITCHED. After months of research and hard work the sister brother dynamic duo was happy to launch their most prized creation. HITCHED is the newest addition to their fleet of luxury photo booths that include innovative ideas such as the conversion of a custom-designed trailer into a lavish and extravagant photo booth. As guests enter HITCHED they are welcomed by beautiful wall sconce lighting custom hardwood flooring an attractive pin cushioned built-in bench gorgeous wainscoted walls a stunning detailed ceiling and high-end studio lighting. As her businesses grew and evolved Erin continued to gain an understanding of what wedding professionals needed to help promote their small businesses. She also saw a need to create a centralized location where brides-to-be could explore all options available to them while planning the wedding of their dreams. And thus she conceived and launched The Wedding Loft in March 2014. It was a perfect melding of the relationships with brides and knowledge of the expertise of wedding vendors. When I launched The Wedding Loft I knew I wanted to create a truly unique and upscale experience for wedding business professionals and also brides-to-be. I also wanted a place that would act as a hub or gathering place for wedding professionals to showcase their products and services and a onestop-shop for brides to be able to experience what was available to them dur- ing the planning stages of their wedding. While creating the best day of their life brides and family members can sip on champagne or tea listen to relaxing music use our free WiFi and shop and meet with the best wedding professionals that Central Valley has to offer. Never one to sit still and enjoy her current successes Erin admits her mind is always working on new ideas and concepts to enhance the wedding industry experience. When she noticed a majestic building sitting empty and abandoned the light bulb once again went off in her creative mind. This building had been vacant for some time Erin remembered. I peeked in the window and all I could see was potential for this grand old space. Something clicked with me and I instantly knew that this dusty dirty empty space would make an amazing wedding venue. The landlord just happened to be someone I knew very well and soon we were making arrangements to make my latest vision The Century a reality. The Century will be an urban chic venue in the heart of downtown Modesto and is slated to open in February 2015. If you can imagine yourself walking into a building built back in the early 1900s you can imagine what The Century will be like when we are done with it Erin reported with a smile. I know people will fall in love with all of the old exposed brick walls 20-foot ceilings adorned with crystal chandeliers spectacular hand-scraped wood floors private posh VIP room chic restrooms and gorgeous patios embellished with a beautiful brick candle wall. That s just the beginning of what the The Century will offer to those looking for a truly unique place to hold their event Erin admits that her dayto-day life can be a little hectic she wouldn t have it any other way. What advice does she offer to other women in business Never give up even when things don t work out or the going gets tough. You have to face a couple of failures before you find your true success. I would also encourage anyone desiring to start their business to keep their mind open to new possibilities. I believe everything happens for a reason and sometimes the path we need to take will present itself. You just need the courage to follow it and see where it may lead. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 33 HERLIFE BEAUTY by l a u r a l e i va flawless beauty for your wedding day getaway with your new spouse at the end of the reception. Throughout the ceremony and reception friends and family will be taking pictures of you so you want to make sure your hair and makeup remain flawless from start to finish. Look the absolute best on your wedding day whether you re using a professional to create your bridal style or doing it yourself These expert tips ensure your hair and makeup will stay beautiful until the very last minute. Healthy skin is always the perfect foundation for bridal makeup. Two months before the wedding make an appointment with a dermatologist or facialist to go over any trouble spots such as dry patches fine lines or wrinkles or uneven complexion. Through a series of treatments a skin care expert will clean and minimize pores rejuvenate tired-looking skin or brighten up the appearance through exfoliation microdermabrasion or glycolic acid peels. It s important to start these treatments at least two months in advance in order to give the skin time to show signs of improvement and to calm down any potential redness or irritation after an invigorating facial. In 34 34 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Y our wedding day is finally here After months of planning and preparing it s time to step into that gorgeous gown and walk down the aisle. All eyes will be on you throughout the day beginning with the photographer s capturing intimate moments of you getting ready with your favorite women all the way down to your the days leading up to the wedding keep skin hydrated by using moisturizers and serums that contain hyaluronic acid which attracts and retains water in the skin or glycerin which pulls in water and locks it in with a protective barrier to keep skin supple and refreshed throughout the day. Drink plenty of water to keep facial puffiness to a minimum and help skin stay hydrated. When choosing your bridal look it s important to enhance your own natural beauty and accentuate only one part of the face to prevent appearing overdone. Want to wear a dramatic red lip with your vintage-inspired gown Keep eye makeup to a more neutral or classic style or add drama and glamour to the eyes while complementing them with a nude or pale pink lip. Choosing the right foundation shade is also key what looks good in the cosmetic store might appear too light or too dark in natural daylight. Beauty experts recommend applying foundation to the jawline and stepping outside to see it in sunlight if the makeup disappears into the skin it s the right shade Shimmery shadows and bronzers add a beautiful glow to the skin but only if applied correctly. When there is too much shine on the skin it tends to look oily or sweaty which is not something you want showing up in your photographs. Limit the amount of shimmery highlights or powders used on the skin experts suggest applying it only in one place such as along the cheekbones or highlighting the brow bone to keep the look more natural. One essential tip shared universally by bridal beauty experts is to choose waterproof cosmetics from the foundation primer right down to the mascara. Whether you think you ll get teary-eyed or not waterproof makeup stands up to sweat as well ensuring you ll look stunning even after showing off those dance floor moves. While many brides pay close attention to makeup the hair is another important component of a bridal look. Choose a style that s appropriate for the wedding style and makeup. Getting married on the beach A loose style with chic waves or a casual chignon is still elegant while staying true to the destination. For more formal weddings a sophisticated updo or sleek style is perfect. The day or two before the wedding shampoo the hair and avoid conditioning to give your hair as much texture as possible to hold long-lasting curls. Conditioning the hair softens it too much preventing it from staying curled throughout the day. Additionally bridal hair experts recommend not overdoing the hair products as too much hair spray (or other product) weighs the hair down and causes it to look dull and oily in your photos. For those who have short or fine hair using extensions to boost volume or length is a great way to infuse new life into a hairstyle. Opt for extensions that use real hair (as opposed to synthetic) to give the hairstyle a natural seamless appearance. Hair experts also suggest keeping a stylist on hand for touchups as brides often get ready hours before the actual wedding begins. This allows the stylist to make any last-minute fixes before the bride walks down the aisle. Creating a flawless bridal look from head to toe is essential because as they say pictures last forever HLM Sources and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 35 HERLIFE FINE THINGS and unique. W hen choosing her bridal gown every bride wants the same thing to look her best on her special day. Most brides feel that only the traditional white gown with long flowing trains and a sparking tiara will do. Still fashion is a revolving door of changing styles with numerous details that make each dress special The lovely new dresses spotlighted on the runways for the spring and fall highlighted many new trends. Off-the-shoulder necklines were one of the romantic looks featured by different designers. A Grecian-inspired gown by Marchesa with an A-line silk chiffon skirt and lace trim was one of the beautiful gowns. Carolina Herrera designed a lovely off-the-shoulder gown with a lace bodice and three-quarter-length lace sleeves. Both dresses have slim bodices with flowing skirts. Color is an important trend for 2015 bridal gowns. Monique Lhuillier dramatized color in her collection by using lavender pink mint pistachio rose gold blush and even black as well as traditional white ivory and cream. One dress was a pale pink sleeveless gown with a draped bodice and back. Another Lhuillier gown was pale mint tulle with a sweetheart neckline tiered skirt and draped bodice. One Theia innovation was a spruce-printed A-line dress with a sleeveless lace bodice and transparent skirt. Tulle was the fabric of choice for skirts that ranged from full overskirts to layered tulle skirts. Cristos showed a blush tulle ball gown with a layered tulle skirt and miniature floral details. Vera Wang presented a minimal dress with a plunging back V-neckline wide straps and a touch of tulle overskirt. Several innovators dramatized their designs by adding capes. Naeem Khan used silver honeycomb to bead a full-length cape with three layers of ostrich feather trim. Another of her fabulous capes featured beaded organza shown over an A-line organza dress with a high sleeveless neckline. Angel Sanchez created both a jewel-back cape and a full-length cover-up cape in his collection. High necklines with collars turn the wedding dress into a regal gown that flatters everyone. Galia Lahav s Florentina is an evocation of chic. Her belted halter dress has a heavy lace collar thin chiffon sleeves with tiny button trim and heavy by lind a r. p r ic e lace cuffs that repeat lace in the collar. Wtoo designed a tulle wedding dress with an illusion high neckline and short sleeves emphasized by lace details. Jenny Packham winner of the 2015 British Bridal Designer of the Year showed innovative use of sparkle. Her designs were quietly understated but lavishly decorated with crystals and beading to capture the glamour of the 30s. She adds both sashes and empire waists to her floor-length designs in crepe tulle and chiffon. For the destination wedding designers created breezy wedding dresses for a romp on the beach. Theia presented a gown with a crop top and a full skirt while Reem Acra exhibited crop tops with slender skirts. Oscar de la Renta created a beautiful bikini in cotton eyelet with a matching overskirt to be worn by the barefoot bride. Fall trends include fringe and feathers. The short fringed dresses offer freedom of movement and are lovely party dresses for the reception. Theia showed a sleeveless V-neck sheath wedding dress with fringe covering the entire dress while Hayley Paige created a two-piece crop-top look with fringe covering the bare midriff and finished with a slim sheath. Metallic was popular with designers who did not limit themselves to gold silver and bronze. Johanna Johnson presented a knee-length metallic dress with 36 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM the latest trends in bridal fashion short sleeves and a scooped neckline. The neckline sleeves and hem were trimmed with metallic bands but the waistline was touched with a lighter trim. Cutouts whether at the waist bodice or skirt were shown by Reem Acra Angel Sanchez Christos Costarellos and several more. Several designers made pants rompers and jumpsuits for the bride to wear at her wedding. Victoria Kyriakides created a two-piece silk pantsuit with a long-sleeved jacket and tailored pants. The ensemble includes a floor-length train. Sheer skirts or translucent overlays on both long and short dresses are another trend for this year. Liancarlo s strapless lace sheath with a sweetheart neckline and lace over a sheer skirt was one such gown. Gemy Maalouf s sleeveless lace and tulle short gown with a long sheer skirt and deep V-neckline was a different interpretation. Pronovias daring illusion lace and tulle mermaid dress left little to the imagination For the traditionalist full-skirted dresses abounded. Oscar de la Renta created a stunning ball gown with silver threadwork embroidery over a flowing full-length skirt. Vera Wang wowed with a draped sweetheart bodice and full tulle skirt with lace details worn with boots or men s wear oxfords. Carolina Herrera s understated charm lies in the details of her slim skirts and intricate lace detailing. The discerning bride will choose a gown that reflects her personality for her wedding day. Whether she chooses a daring gown a glamorous one with a hint of sexy or a traditional gown the choice is hers and hers alone. It s her special day. HLM Sources HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 37 HERLIFE FINANCE creating a budget for your wedding by h o p e e . f e rg u so n Selecting the Venue The days of the traditional church or country club wedding seem to be passing say experts. Bride Mallory Holman 27 knew she wanted an outdoor wedding with a vintage country feel. After researching outdoor venues she and husband Chris 30 decided on a private homestead in the Adirondacks. The couple rented a tent for dinner and cocktails and used pretty mismatched vintage dishware that they collected at garage sales both on and offline scoring savings on rentals. They hired a DJ who was versatile enough to play 50s standards during cocktail hour and later switch it up with the alternative music the couple enjoys. Destination weddings are popular says Hector Rubio director of catering and conference services at Four Seasons Resorts Lana i. People are now marrying later in life. They have traveled a bit more and want a memorable experience for everyone involved in this special moment. Invitations Brides are choosing invitations that are less formal and more creative Petit says. Instead of the thick ivory paper with black calligraphy brides can choose from a variety of paper weaves colors and embellishments as well as fonts. Or handmade invitations allow brides to express their creativity and allocate resources to another segment of their budget The Dress A quick look at Brides Magazine shows that brides are getting braver about color although the dresses that aren t white tend to be champagne blush mint green silver or other soft colors. Many brides also are forgoing the long formal dress for something shorter and more flirty says Petit. Brides on a strict budget can find bargains in consignment shops online or in better department Taste for All Seasons Multi-format menus are increasingly popular with guests versus a traditional plated meal says Rubio. He suggests trying a hands-on cooking demo led by a chef for the first course followed by an action station and then a family-style arrangement. Couples are opting for elegant and very long communal tables that foster rich conversation and engagement with the entire party. Creativity extends to cakes which can either be anything from artfully designed cupcakes to a dessert spread. Weddings today reflect the personalities style culture and dreams of each couple. With good planning your special day can be all you want it to be HLM Sources and The Photographer and Videographer Hiring a great photographer and or videographer is a must for many brides to make sure their memorable moments are recorded. Or guests can use their cell phones or disposable cameras for candid shots. Your photographer should be clear about what her role is and what she will allow during the festivities. Flowers Floral arrangements are one of the largest components of the wedding budget. Metropolitan brides want bold colors says Alix Astir of Trellis Fine Florals. They want compact tight formal arrangements that are bold jewel colors such as ruby emerald deep violet. We complement these with a vibrant orange orchid or a wild berry. Other choices are to ask your florist to use local in-season materials or minimize flowers and accentuate other features of your venue. stores allowing them to splurge more on the caterer or cake. T he only rule for weddings today is that there are no rules. Today s brides have a multitude of choices and concepts from which to draw to plan and accomplish their vision for the most important day of their lives. The age of first marriages has been rising as have the costs 30 000 is the national average so it s no surprise that couples who may pay for their own nuptials want the day to be something that is uniquely their own. Instead of deferring to their mothers decisions most brides have definite ideas of their own says Karen Petit wedding director at The Mitchell House and Gardens in Lexington South Carolina. Couples are more likely to have a theme that showcases their individual style. An upcoming event at our venue will feature the traditional wedding and a masquerade reception with elaborate decorations. However Petit cautions Wedding shows have given some brides an unrealistic expectation of what they can get with their budget. A reality check can be in order for some The no-rules concept also includes the guest list. Smaller weddings with guests who have all had a role at some point in the couple s life and have contributed to who they are today are more the norm than the exception says wedding and event designer Sasha Souza. The guest list isn t full of have-to invites it s 100 percent an A-list. A big trend is in weekday weddings says Souza. Couples are willing to marry on a weekday if it means that they can afford more get the site of their dreams or have the perfect combination of dates such as 12-13-14. Nevertheless a couple s stewardship of their resources requires making choices about cost allocations. Here are some ideas that modern brides and planners have shared that allowed them to have the day of their dreams. 38 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 39 HERLIFE BEHIND THE CAMERA p hot os by julie nic o l e p h o to gra p hy sh o t o n l o c a ti o n a t w i n e a n d ro se s Tell us about your photography backgrounds. Richard In high school I picked up a 35mm Peti camera from my Dad that he got overseas in WWII. Nothing was automatic. He taught me the F Stops shutter speeds ASA and time exposures. I photographed a Tracy high baseball game and they came out great so I went to the next game to give the players the prints and ended up selling prints to their parents as well. I kept honing my craft photographed my first wedding in 1975 and I traveled to Yosemite and San Francisco taking photos of landscapes. Shawna I got interested in photography in eighth grade putting together the yearbook. At Tracy High School I was involved in photography yearbook and journalism classes. While taking photography courses at Delta I started working at a photo lab and that s where my interest took me for many years. I worked at a few different labs in the area and enjoyed photographing portraits and the occasional wedding. I also second shot for a local photographer for a few years and shot a handful of my own weddings every year but I didn t see myself doing that full time until I met Richard. How did you two meet Shawna I met Richard while managing the photo lab at Gluskin s Camera. He would bring in his film in for developing. I like that he was such a nice guy and really enjoyed life. He invited me to second shoot a wedding with him and we had so much fun together we were a couple ever since. The fact that he was a Nikon shooter was a plus Richard I met Shawna at Gluskin s Camera while bringing in my film for developing. We always chatted and one day she commented on what a nice jacket I had on. I had a wedding coming up the next weekend and invited her to shoot with me. She called it a date but it was more than that What are some of your individual strengths in wedding photography Shawna After so many years I ve gotten pretty good at looking at any location and quickly finding the best light and background. After that it s just a matter of putting our clients in that pretty light and letting them be themselves. Richard s strength is saying just the right thing to catch them off guard and get those priceless reactions Richard We have different photography back- grounds and different personalities but we complement each other and have the same shared passion for photography which makes us a great team. The best advantage shooting as a couple for weddings is that Shawna stays and photographs the bride and bridal party while I stay with the groom and groomsmen while they re all getting ready. What are your favorite moments to shoot at a wedding Shawna I love when the bride s mother is helping her get dressed and when father of the bride sees his daughter for the first time. The moment the groom sees his bride coming down the aisle. The first dance when all eyes are on the happy couple. But my very favorite is when we can steal the bride and groom away for a few minutes usually around sunset. It s often the only time during the day they get entirely to themselves. They re a little more relaxed and we can get those sweet natural expressions. Richard I have three. The first is when the bride s father walks his daughter down the aisle and gives her away so many emotions. The second is the first dance when all eyes are on the bride and groom. Shawna is a master of capturing this magic moment while my camera is trained on the parents and siblings watching. The third is the father-daughter dance when she has her face buried into his chest and they both are having the same thoughts their facial expressions are priceless. From a photographer s point of view what is the best advice you would give to a couple before their big day Richard These may seem silly but true. Groom Do not switch your shaving habits on the morning of your wedding day thinking you re going to get a closer shave. Get your hair cut about three days before the wedding and never try to touch up a haircut the day of Have black socks for your groomsmen. On the day of make sure you have a pair of scissors for tags Band-Aids breath mints a cake cutting knife (We had 9 weddings last year that didn t.) and make sure we know your must-have shots a week before the wedding day. Make sure to plan out your day with plenty of time built in for photos. HLM For more information about Richard and Shawna and Briggs Photography visit HERLIFE GREEN LIVING green weddings by a l l i so n tu r n b e rg T The Ring he wedding day is one of the most important celebrations in a person s life. But it also tops the list of one of the most wasteful events it s estimated that each wedding in the United States set on diamonds find a jeweler that uses only conflict-free ones meaning they are certified ethically sourced and traded. And if you re so blessed that a family member has shared one of their stones with you so much the greener dresses you re increasing their likelihood of using a dress they already own or buying one they truly will wear again unlike that chartreuse frock that hides in your closet. Go Digital produces around 600 pounds of garbage and 62 tons of carbon dioxide. Throwing the perfect wedding doesn t have to mean harming the environment keeping your nuptials eco-friendly can be green and chic. Before you throw the most important party of your life consider these tips to ensure you don t scorn Mother Earth in the process. The Dress The single most important dress of your life should make you feel good inside and out. Before you set your sights on this season s newest fashions consider a vintage gown. A lot of fabric is wasted making a wedding dress and certain manmade materials aren t always good for Mother Earth. Better yet ask to wear a relative s gown and check off your something borrowed category. Gown restoration companies can refresh the vintage gown to look brand new or redesign it to fit your own personality. After you ve got your dress covered make sure your bridesmaids can go green as well. By allowing them to wear different styles and shades of All wedding planning starts with one thing the ring. It should be a reflection of your personality and values so if being eco-friendly is important to you you should pay close attention to what your ring is made of and where it came from. Try choosing a ring made from recycled materials and labcreated gemstones for example. If your heart is Moving wedding communications to the Internet is a trendy paperless way to make your wedding a little greener. Find a tech-savvy friend or hire a company to make electronic invitations and a wedding website. After sending out your save-thedates and invitations electronically you can direct guests to the personalized website housing your engagement photos RSVPs information updates links to registries and more Say goodbye to snail mail this is a faster more reliable way to ensure your RSVPs are received plus guests can update their head count if need be. If you ve already said I do to more tangible communications opt for recycled paper or paperless materials for your correspondence. Personalized Glassware Give your guests a wedding favor they ll actually use and one that s better for the environment. Make a day out of DIY-ing some personalized mason jar glasses (or another kind of glass for that matter) for your guests. This way they ll never lose their drink and they can reuse the same cute glass all night conserving much of the energy and water that would be used to wash hundreds of once-used glasses. Pro tip the glasses can double as place cards if you re really feeling green. Keep It Local Use local vendors whenever possible to keep your wedding s carbon footprint down and promote the local economy. Think local food photographers flowers and clothing designers. The shorter the distance traveled the better. As a bonus local vendors usually take more care with their products and aren t as likely to use pesticides or other harmful processes. 42 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Do Yourself a Favor No one needs another koozie with your great aunt s daughter s son s name stamped on it. Consider donating money to a charity on behalf of your wedding guests instead of wasting money on favors. If your heart is set on favors though choose ones that are the least likely to be wasted. Local treats like honey cookies or candy are sure to be eaten while your guest is waiting for dinner for example. Plantable favors such as tree seeds or sprouted herbs are another great option your guests are sure to enjoy. Twice-Green Flowers Flowers are one of the largest item of the wedding budget and one of the most transient. If you re leaving town for a honeymoon enlist the help of friends to repurpose your flowers into smaller bouquets that can be distributed to nursing homes hospitals or hospice patients. Making your wedding as green as possible is a great way to make your wedding unique it s all about being creative. Even the smallest changes have an effect and will stick with you and your new spouse as you start your life together. You might even inspire your guests to incorporate similar changes into their own lives. Whether you choose just one of these tips or hire a green wedding planner to cover every detail you re making a difference in our planet s (and your own) health. HLM Sources and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 43 HERLIFE TRENDSETTER 2015 Bridal Trends photography briggs photography location the river mill hair and makeup carrie schiffer and jennifer stearns of perfect balance day spa dresses bliss bridal salon models ashley ferrua chrissy kantsois and grant kantsois spray tanning flawless tanning and a bronzed you by jamie dru HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 45 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 47 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 49 50 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE SHE SAID YES L auren Jenkins and Duane Simonich were friends first. Experts advise this is the strongest basis for marriage that plus the power of prayer. Lauren and Duane have both in their relationship. Lauren remembers well the night she and Duane met on June 9 2012. I was at a party thinking I had nothing in common with anyone there when two sharply dressed gentlemen walked in. Duane and his brother Jerry had come from a wedding and within a few minutes he and I were in deep conversation. We realized we had a lot in common farming snowboarding a great sense of humor. He texted me that night to make sure I was home safe and we had a date soon after. Sadly Lauren relegated Duane to the friend category while she attended college. Although he wasn t particularly happy about it he remained patient and their friendship grew stronger. She relied on him as a steadfast shoulder and listening ear as she completed college and began work in Bakersfield an hour from him. As Lauren settled in she found a new way to worship the Lord and spent time reading God s word and praying specifically for financial stability and for a best friend I could fall in love with. And God provided both. Duane contacted Lauren after realizing she was close (and single ). Lauren asked him to dogsit when she picked up her dog they had dinner and caught up. Duane joked that I was marriage material because I can cook clean and know QuickBooks so he wouldn t have to do the farm s bookkeeping Lauren laughs. Duane asked me to help with his QuickBooks for a little extra cash Thank you God for answering my prayer for financial stability As time went on she finally realized the answer to her second prayer. There he was my best friend for years the guy who always had my back never gave up on me never pressured me and who had waited all this time to get another shot with me. October 16 2014 was the official start of our relationship. Soon the joke about marriage became a serious discussion. We both knew we belonged together forever Lauren affirms. I gave Duane a few guidelines for my perfect proposal and perfect ring only to realize that none of that even matters. What matters is the heartfelt gesture. Duane found the perfect way to accomplish that for Lauren. His original plan was to propose on Easter Sunday April 20 2014 at his farm but Lauren being dressed nicely hair done wearing heels didn t want to get dirty. Duane moved to Plan B Easter dinner with his family followed by a swing back by the farm to check on the dogs where he had even left Lauren s engagement ring on the side-by-side during thwarted Plan A. There he got down on one knee and asked his question with Jerry recording the moment. Lauren s answer finally was Yes He proposed on the house pad where our future home will be built Lauren shares. He had the exact latitude and longitude of the spot he popped the question on so when the house is finished we can put a landmark there to always remember where the rest of our lives started Lauren and Duane have set April 11 2015 for their wedding day. It s the perfect excuse to take off our work boots and dress up Our venue is a balance between rustic and elegance that encompasses our theme and we will have personal touches to make it special. In truth to us having a marriage more beautiful than our wedding is the most important thing and we look forward to having family and friends celebrate with us HLM LAUREN and DUANE DATE OF PROPOSAL APRIL 20 2014 w ri tte n by m a ri l y n i sa m i n ge r p h o to s by j u l i e n i co l e ph o t o gr a phy 52 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE TIE THE KNOT Ashlee and Hayden TIED THE KNOT OCTOBER 19 2014 businesses that shared in the love Bridal Gown House of Fashion Bridal Salon Bridesmaids Gowns David s Bridal Hair Styling Becky McPhee Galt Beauty Supply and Salon Photography Briggs Photography Florists Silveria s Flowers and Gifts DJ Elite Entertainment Caterer and Cake The River Mill Venue The River Mill Invitation and Stationer Jeweler Danz Jewelers A 54 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM A California. others. w ri tte n by m a ri l y n i sa m i n ge r p h o to s by b ri ggs ph o t o gr a phy shlee Chard Sisneros is a health coach aesthetician and had our lunch I told him he should open that special bottle of wine. He wanted to wait until sunset but it was getting cold so he opened it anyway still not letting me see the label. He poured a glass after letting it breathe the suspense was killing me. We walked down to the ocean put our feet in the ocean and just talked about how much we love each other. I kept bugging him asking what kind of wine it was since I knew something was up. He said You can look at the label but first every step we take back up to our picnic we have to share something we love about each other. When we got back to our area I looked at the label and it said Danz Jewelers. I was a bit confused until I turned around and saw Hayden on one knee. I looked at him and said YES The blissful couple tied the knot on October 19 2014. Ashlee s Maid of Honor was Britten Stroh bridesmaids were Lizzy Byars Melissa Glover and Rachel Morgan. Hayden s Best Man was Taylor Sisneros groomsmen were James Chard and Steven Kassner. Hayden and I decided not to see each other the two days before the HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 55 and co-owner with her new husband Hayden of Core Nutrition in Elk Grove Hayden Joseph Sisneros is also a health coach and shares with his new bride Ashlee a tremendous passion for nutrition fitness and helping We met in high school and had mutual friends but we didn t spend much time together Ashlee shares. About four years after high school our mutual friends got us together and we instantly fell head over heels. Hayden walked up to me after I told our friend I liked him and kissed me right in front of everyone we have been inseparable since. Hayden planned his proposal for Ashlee s birthday weekend with particular forethought. We went to Aptos California and stayed in a beach house Ashlee reminisces. That Friday February 21 2014 we packed a picnic to take to the private beach he had a special bottle of wine he wouldn t let me carry or look at. We hung out by the beach my favorite place to be wedding to build the suspense which it definitely did Ashlee smiles. The day went by so quickly I had a great time with my bridesmaids and Mom and Dad while getting ready spying on my future husband from the building while he was in the garden. While we were waiting to walk down the aisle the suspense was intense. My dad was by my side walking me down the aisle. Once I saw Hayden we were both filled with so much love and joy that this day was finally here. We said our vows lit the unity candle and kissed We danced back down the aisle to I Feel Good and couldn t stop kissing each other and saying We did it It was wonderful celebrating with family and friends who traveled from different states to be with us. My dad and I are both pretty goofy together so we decided to do a fun dance starting with The Way You Look Tonight into The Twist our song since I was a baby. Hayden and I danced talked with everyone and enjoyed the best party of our lives. Although the night went by too fast we had a few moments when we looked at each other and just soaked everything in. Ashlee and Hayden honeymooned in Maui Hawaii where they spent ten days snorkeling exploring the beaches and enjoying the tropical paradise. HLM 56 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 59 HERLIFE CENTER OF ATTENTION Win Amazing Prizes Gift basket from Artesian Natural Foods Enjoy hair products from The B Hive Hair Salon 100 gift card to The KitchenSide at Best Wishes 300 towards wedding invitations at Best Wishes One month of unlimited personal training Pilates and yoga for the bride and groom and two 30 minute massages each from Ben Mackie Fitness Lis Simon wedding gown (of the bride s choice) from Bliss Bridal Salon 100 gift card to Bud s Seafood Grille PANDORA sterling silver bracelet with three charms from Carats Tacori earrings from DeVons Jewelers 25 gift card to DOMO Japanese Sushi Grill & Bar Gift basket of BBQ supplies including a gift certificate from FAT CITY Brew & BBQ Supply Alex and Ani lovebirds bracelet from FINA Gift certificate to Fine Wines of Stockton 50 gift certificate to Flair Boutique 2015 Training Program certificate and 25 gift card from Fleet Feet Sports Engagement ring ( 4 000 value) from Gary J. Long Jewelers Pearl earrings from Gary J. Long Jewelers Emminence Vitaskin Facial at Kym With a Y Organic Spa & Waxing Studio Brow Rehab (includes brow shaping and two consecutive waxes) at Kym With a Y Organic Spa & Waxing Studio California King sheet set from LINO BELLA Wine and gift card to Lincoln Cellar Eye makeup gift set from Merle Norman Cosmetics Two-tiered bundt cake and 5-dozen bundtinis from Nothing Bundt Cakes perfect for a wedding or shower 50 gift card to Papapavlo s Bistro & Bar One month of unlimited spa services at Planet Beach Automated Spa (Includes Massages Facials Mineral Steam Bathes Saunatox Red Light Therapy Guided Meditation Teeth Whitening and UV therapy and one body wrap per week products are not included) and Planet Beach s entire nutrition line [Includes Indulge (Meal Replacement Shake) Enrich (Vitamin Supplements) and Detoxify (14 day detox)] 100 gift card to POMP Salon Ring bearer and flower girl books from Sassy Pants Children s Boutique 25 gift card to Stage Two Bridal shower party at Theadora for the bride and 10 friends (includes 100 gift card for the bride special offers and discounts for all attendees appetizers and drinks) 50 gift certificate to Zuesters Gift basket from Viaggio Winery Family session with Mary Gillespie Photography Engagement session with Red Carpet Studios 100 Lincoln Center gift card from Elite Entertainment Ceremony package (Officiant Ceremony Coordination Ceremony Music) from Marquis Entertainment Bride s wedding day survival kit from DeBorba Events Basket with bath items from Morris Chapel 100 Wine & Roses gift card Round of golf for four at Stockton Golf & Country Club Engagement session with f3 Studio Photography Round of golf for four with carts at Brookside Country Club Round of golf for four at Elkhorn Banquet Wedding cake (up to 750) from Something Sweet Bakery 40-Picture montage on a DVD from Oyler Video OF ATTENTION Visit our 5th annual Strolling Bridal Faire Saturday February 21 2015 20 Registration for Brides 15 in advance online 60 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 61 HERLIFE REAL ESTATE secrets to home staging by ste p h a n i e f o x just need to be staged so they ll show at their very best. According to professional stagers like Karen Galler who runs Showhomes Home Staging in Eden Prairie Minnesota the key to effective home staging making a home look visually appealing to buyers comes down to the Four D s. That means declutter depersonalize deodorize and of course design Galler said. It takes a little planning and work but many sellers can do this on their own. Declutter Emphasize square footage and interesting architectural details by opening up rooms. Start packing away and storing non-essentials (including extra furniture) long before the home goes on the market. Clear kitchen counters by removing small appliances find storage places for cosmetics toiletries and medicines except when they re being used. Remove books from bookshelves and decorative items from tabletops take half the clothes and other items out of closets making them look bigger. Once the home is on the market keep beds neatly made put away laundry clean out the refrigerator (buyers will look) keep dishes out of the sink and the counters wiped. Your home should look like you re about to have a party. Less is more when it comes to showing a home Galler said. Depersonalize According to the National Association of Realtors nearly 90 percent of 62 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Deodorize Buyers will often say that something about a house just doesn t smell right. Sometimes they mean this literally. Any off odors or anything dirty will discourage buyers and make them think that there s something seriously wrong with the house. Start by cleaning everything from corner to corner and from top to bottom. Clean out ducts change out carpets if possible and take down draperies (but not blinds) that are older than three years which also increases light in the rooms. Then keep everything pristine. While a dog bed in the master bedroom or a cat dish by the door may have buyers thinking warm fuzzy thoughts cat or dog smell doesn t. Musty smells from basements strong scents such as last night s dinner and the smell of stale tobacco can keep a home on the market far longer and allow it to sell for less. The best option Hire a professional deodorizing service to get rid of odors throughout the house. Design First fix anything that s broken. Then to maximize a first impression O ne of the first questions potential home sellers ask their real estate agent is What do I need to do to get my home ready for sale The answer is often simpler and less costly than most people think. Most houses don t need expensive upgrades they buyers can t visualize the potential of a house if it s filled with other people s memories. Many sellers find that packing up personal items can be an emotional process so adopt the mindset of selling a property and not a home. Let buyers imagine themselves living there. To do this remove all personal articles such as family photos refrigerator art religious and political items trophies and awards collectibles and of course anything that might be seen as controversial. Try to have rooms set to type by relegating toys to the children s bedrooms and sports equipment to the workout room. even on a budget Galler recommends that the seller approach the front entrance with a buyer s eyes. Does the front door need painting Do the windows need cleaning or is the trim peeling paint In the winter keep the walks clear of snow or leaves and keep the grass trimmed in the summer. These are some of the most important yet least expensive things a seller can do. It s also economical to add fresh paint to walls. Colors trends come and go but an out-of-date color choice can make a home seem that way too. Right now gray taupe and khaki are in style. Choose a paint swatch with several choices and keep within that palette Galler said. Even an expensive home can look worn out if bed linens towels cupboard and drawer pulls or lamps look old or cheap so find inexpensive in-style replacements. Use small spots of color such as a strategically placed vase of flowers a bright pitcher on the kitchen counter or colorful throw pillows on a couch. But don t set the table with your finest china or put napkins in red wine glasses. A home should be staged but it should look like a home not a showroom. For homes selling in higher price ranges Galler recommends hiring a professional stager. A stager will come in just for one or two days and consult or can help set the entire house so that it shows to its greatest potential. A staged home will sell 78 percent faster than one that hasn t been staged. Buyers can make the decision to buy or not to buy in just a few seconds which makes first impressions critical. Hiring a professional can be a really effective investment and it s so much easier and less stressful for a seller. HLM Sources and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 63 HERLIFE HOME up-scaling your garage sale-ing by l i sa taranto butler little garage sale-ing to the mix and for some the weekend becomes ideal. Whether you catch a subdivision tag sale on the way to a soccer game or precisely plan your perusing with a map of must-sees and a dependable GPS searching for secondhand gems can give the weekend a whole new meaning. So whether you enjoy shopping for home d cor or finding that perfect vintage necklace to top off your Saturday evening outfit take a few tips to upscale your fabulous finds. Decide What You Are Looking For Some experienced shoppers thrive on vying for vintage goods while others search for collectibles and one-of-a-kind pieces. Maybe you are on the hunt for like-new table linens or enjoy browsing antique jewelry. Have a mindset of what you might like to purchase and plan your sale-ing around your goal. Timing Your Tag Sales Check the local paper craigslist and online sources such as yardsales. net and for sales happening near you. If you know you have a Saturday morning blocked off for perusing garage sales then block out a few hours and take your time. Of course some of the most tantalizing treasures are found on a whim or when you are actually looking for something else. Just be open to uncovering great stuff on the go. Find Your Style Just because you are shopping someone s cast offs doesn t mean you can t find your own diamond in the rough. Before your treasure-hunting experience determine your style Are you midcentury modern contemporary or French Country Try scouring your favorite magazines for design ideas check out online sites for inspiration or pin some DIY projects on Pinterest. Analyze all of these things and then determine if there are particular patterns or themes. This is a great place to start. Research (A Bit) If you are looking for specific antiques or decor that might be valuable make sure to do your homework. Check online for similar products that you might be milling over in your mind. What kind of pricing does some of these items bring Sometimes the most valuable items are purchased at a sale and then brought home only for the purchaser to find that the piece is worth quite a bit more. And if you are just not sure about purchasing a particular item then move on. Take some time to ponder your potential purchase and come back if you can t stop thinking about it. Of course if your prize is gone when 64 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM W hen it comes to weekend favorites a few things come to mind. A casual dinner with close friends morning coffee on the patio a leisurely stroll around the neighborhood and of course a bit of shopping can make the end of a long work week a welcome sight. Add a you return then it might have not been meant for you anyway. Bring Your Cash When it comes to garage sales owners of the goods want the green stuff. Make sure to have plenty of cash on hand or keep a stash in your locked car. No one wants to hold items for a perfect stranger while she tries to locate the nearest ATM. Arrive prepared with small bills and some change. It makes the day run more smoothly for everyone not to mention giving you a little advantage if you are trying to negotiate on a price. Negotiate Speaking of getting the best deal ask for a discount if you think the pricing could be a bit more fair. Bargaining is usually a bit easier if you are already buying a couple of items at the given price and asking for a better deal on the most expensive item. The garage sale owner will be more apt to come down on the price if you are helping to deplete her inventory. Set Your Limits You can t adore everything and if you do then you might end up buying too much not to mention having no place to put it. If you truly love something that needs some TLC such as a new paint job change of fabric or minor repairs then make sure you have the time and resources to complete your project. And don t buy something just because the price looks right to you. Save money and time by getting things you really like. Know Yourself If you absolutely love something buy it because contemplating too long may result in another shopper managing to take it off the market. Sometimes even the experience of perusing a perfect garage sale can be exhilarating. Be open to ideas but keep your goals in mind as you linger over could-be treasures. And above all have fun. Even if you come home empty handed there s always the possibility of next weekend s fabulous find. HLM Sources and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 65 HERLIFE MOTHER S PERSPECTIVE distracted driving by j u dy go p p e r t over for the horse and buggy. Now as then driving that moving vehicle whether it s a lifted truck snazzy convertible or family-sized SUV is a responsibility like no other. The metal surrounding you can be referred to as a weapon of destruction if not handled with the respect it warrants. Driving is primarily a thinking task and you have many things to think about when you re behind the wheel watching the road conditions keeping track of your speed and position observing traffic laws signs and signals following directions being aware of the cars around you checking your mirrors and the list goes on. Staying focused on driving and only driving is key. When texting first came along we all jumped on the bandwagon. The problem is that texting behind the wheel has created havoc ranging from fender benders to untold horrors. But distracted driving is not limited to texting. When drivers are distracted by any activity their attention is diverted making it more likely that their inattention will endanger the lives of passengers bystanders and themselves. In fact multitasking while behind the wheel of a moving vehicle is one of the most dangerous things we can do. As reported by The New York Times drivers talking on their cell phones are just as likely to have an accident as someone with a blood alcohol level of .08 percent which is the equivalent of driving after having four beers. According to the National Highway Transportation Safety Administration s website additional distractions that 66 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM advice for everyone on R emember the first time you started a car and put your hands on the steering wheel What a feeling of freedom. The excitement has been the same since motorized vehicles took can lead to serious injury or death are eating and drinking talking to passengers grooming reading using a navigation system watching a video or adjusting a radio CD player or MP3 player. A recent Virginia Tech Transportation Institute study shows that engaging in visual manual tasks such as reaching for a phone dialing and texting increased the risk of getting into an accident by three times. Text messaging doubles the risk of a crash or near-crash and results in the driver taking their eyes off the road for an average of 23 seconds total. At 55 mph that s like driving the length of a football field completely blind In 2012 an estimated 420 000 people were injured in motor vehicle crashes involving distracted drivers and the under-20 age group has the largest proportion of crashes due to distracted driving. Impact Teen Drivers began as a California- based program that partnered with the California Highway Patrol to deliver the teen safe driving message to California high schools and it has developed into a nationally respected program working with various first responders educators health professionals and traffic safety advocates throughout the United States. Impact s website states that the organization s mission is to change the culture of driving forever thereby saving lives not only in this generation of drivers but also in all future generations of drivers. Their What Do You Consider Lethal campaign is an easy-to-use free program for teachers safety educators law enforcement students and parents designed to bring home the facts to teens about reckless and distracted driving. Its interactive website encourages teens to take the lead in fighting the battle of preventable car crashes and to sign the pledge at The X campaign sponsored by AT&T encourages teens to text X to their friends when they re about to drive letting them know they will be unavailable until they arrive. The website also offers an app that silences message alerts and auto-replies and it offers a pledge to stop texting and driving that as of this writing had 5 590 910 commitments. Similar pledges may be made on and As parents we do our best to model appropriate and safe behavior to our children and their peers. When it comes to reckless or distracted driving the best and basic rule of thumb for us to model is to drive. Period. HLM Sources and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 67 HERLIFE WORKING WOMEN body language in the workplace by c a t i e w atson I n a perfect world the most qualified candidate would get the job and career advancement would be based on merit alone. In reality the image we convey through body language may have more to do with whether we succeed than most of what we do or say. Most people hold on to cultural biases that associate leadership with male traits which means that women in the workplace are especially vulnerable to negative judgments about feminine body language. According to Carol Kinsey Goman PhD a business coach and author who focuses on what social scien- tists call nonverbal behavior many feminine gestures are viewed as non-powerful in the workplace. Take for example the simple head tilt during a conversation. Women tend to do it as a sign of interest and involvement in what the speaker is saying says Goman in an article on the American Management Association website but quite often the gesture is interpreted as submissive rather than powerful. Additional nonverbal no-nos at work cited by Goman include girlish moves such as twirling your hair and playing with a necklace or earrings. Smiling too much is another body language issue for women especially when discussing a sensitive subject hearing negative feedback or expressing anger. In general a woman s body language in the workplace should always come across as professional and competent instead of flirtatious. Besides advising women what not to do Goman provides tips about positive body language that women should adopt. In a business meeting the people who take up a lot of room by spreading out their arms legs and work materials are demonstrating confidence while those who sit with the arms and legs crossed and all of their materials in a neat pile may be viewed as less confident or closed off. Goman also suggests that women focus on the eyes rather than the mouth during conversations especially with men and make sure handshakes are firm and assertive. Trying to remember all the body language do s and don ts for the workplace can be tricky. If you want to make one body language change that will deliver the biggest impact consider the power pose. Many women assume that because we don t feel confident and powerful we can t present ourselves as such to others. New research suggests that adopting powerful body language can actually change our attitude. Social psychologist Amy Cuddy explains how this works in one of the most-viewed TED vid- Assuming a powerful posture for as little as two minutes before going into a meeting where you will be judged can actually change the way you feel about yourself making you feel physically stronger more dominant and even taller. 68 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM eos of all time. Pretending to be powerful by standing with your hands on your hips and your elbows turned outward (like Wonder Woman) or with your arms raised overhead in the universal victory pose changes the levels of two important hormones in your body. Your level of testosterone which makes you feel younger and more vigorous is raised by about 20 percent while your level of cortisol which is released in response to anxiety and stress drops by about 25 percent. Assuming a powerful posture for as little as two minutes before going into a meeting where you will be judged can actually change the way you feel about yourself making you feel physically stronger more dominant and even taller. Since Cuddy published her initial findings numerous additional follow-up studies have backed up her research. Cuddy an associate professor at Harvard Business School believes that practicing powerful body language affects not only how others see us but may also change how we see ourselves by changing our body chemistry. She backs up her research with her own life experience. She sustained a serious head injury in a car accident when she was a college student at the University of Colorado and was told by doctors that she probably would never be able to finish her degree. Through sheer determination she was able to graduate several years after most of her classmates and was accepted by Princeton for graduate school. Despite her success she lacked confidence and felt like an imposter. On the verge of dropping out an advisor told her to fake it. Cuddy took the advice and found that pretending to be confident helped her keep going. After earning a PhD and joining the faculty at Harvard Cuddy was passing on the advice about faking it to a student who lacked confidence when she suddenly realized she no longer felt like an imposter. Cuddy had truly become the successful powerful person that she wanted to be. Now her advice to those who feel powerless is not just Fake it but Fake it till you become it. So the next time you have a job interview or important meeting coming up try taking two private minutes beforehand for power posing. Let your body tell you you re powerful and deserving says Cuddy and you become more present enthusiastic and authentically yourself. HLM Sources The Washington Post and The New York Times. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 69 HERLIFE PETS why do they do that by h o p e e . f e rg u so n H ow cute Many of us have said that when viewing funny animal videos on the Internet such as the dog that opens and closes doors and puts dishes in the dishwasher. active 81 percent believe their pet alleviates stress in their life. Thirty-eight percent attribute pet ownership to making them more social especially 18- to 24-year-olds. We ve all observed interesting behaviors in our pets. For example why are dogs so easy to train Why are they protective of their owners and territory Why are they sociable to humans and other dogs while cats have a reputation for being aloof I remember the day a Doberman charged me as I collected my mail. I could hear my dog Jupiter a small scrappy terrier barking and in a flash he charged out of the house toward the larger dog. Expecting fur to fly I was amazed when he chased the larger dog a half mile down the road the Doberman s stumpy tail pressed between his legs. Sarah Fougere s Golden Retriever Buff walks a neighbor s Lhasa Apso Shih-tzu by gingerly taking her leash in his mouth and guiding her outside. When she falls behind he looks back and gently pulls on the lead. Dogs are pack animals with the instinct to affiliate. Some behaviorists speculate dogs diverged from wolves when gentler wolves decided to hang out at the perimeter of the campfire and eat rubbish instead of hunting their own food. Dogs are extremely sensitive to our facial cues moods and direction. Even a dog with minimal training will learn basic house rules such as what furniture not to jump on and which door to be let out of. There also could be a selfish side to their love dogs may feel that if their human is endangered their source of food and water may be also. More than 60 percent of American homes host either a cat or dog or multiples thereof. Animals are our companions they relieve our stress make us laugh protect us and sometimes even save our lives. Primatologist Frans de Waal believes that we are drawn to what he calls furry carnivores because they seem to mirror our emotions. With families today far apart more people depend on their pets for companionship. According to a survey by Wellness Natural Food 62 percent of dog owners credit their pets with keeping them more 70 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM In her book Inside a Dog Alexandra Horowitz says humans have selected dogs for our purposes. In response to our care dogs will hunt herd guard police guide the blind and deaf engage in sport and rescue people from burning buildings. Our relationship with cats is different. Cats are known to be independent. In the wild they hunt alone. But they can also be wildly affectionate head butting rubbing and kneading. They were first domesticated as mousers but have been prized companions as far back as the ancient Egyptians. Scientists believe that when cats butt or rub against an object they Some behaviorists speculate dogs diverged from wolves when gentler wolves decided to hang out at the perimeter of the campfire and eat rubbish instead of hunting their own food. are depositing their pheromones marking their territory. Besides expressing love they may also be claiming you as theirs. Have you ever wondered why cats purr It s been hypothesized that purring plays a role in healing as well as in expressing pleasure. But cats also purr when afraid so one scientist believes that purring is the equivalent of a smile just as humans smile when we re happy or nervous. Dogs and cats aren t the only treasured companions. Writer Linda Ellingsworth s first horse a Quarter Horse mare was a smart wily veteran trail horse who knew I was fairly inexperienced. I swear she sat up at night thinking of things to do to mess with me. For instance her horse would always make sure Linda got good and wet when passing through a familiar small lake. In her book Country Love and Laughter Jaqueline Gordon tells a poignant story of how her family s horse let them know of the illness of an older horse by coming to the gate and whinnying. Horses were first hunted for meat before humans found them useful for transportation racing agriculture and war. Yet as valued as they are as domestic animals horses exhibit stubbornness and displeasure at times. Horses are also capable of great affection showing this with each other by gently nuzzling each other and by sharing breath an intimate gesture in which two horses put their noses together and share the air. When a horse approaches a human in curiosity and affection our instinct is to reach to touch that silky nose. The horse likely will respond by moving his head sideways or up and down signaling that his personal space has been invaded. It s best to stand still and accept the horse s behavior mirroring his show of affection. Although we tend to anthropomorphize our pets the study of animal behavior is fascinating. We can become more empathetic with the animals in our lives as we learn more about exactly why they do what they do. HLM Sources and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 71 L di Living 72 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 72 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 72 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 73 HERLIFE CRAVINGS by a dr i ana brogger pho t ogr ap hy by b r e meyer Zin Bistro I t s never as easy as one thinks Melissa Ng said with a laugh as she told me what the last six months have been like for her and her husband Walter. The couple are co-owners and co-chefs (she admits it gets a little competitive) of Lodi s Zin Bistro. To say that I loved the food at Zin Bistro is an understatement. It is such an incredible little spot. I have had this great job of writing for HERLIFE Magazine and eating all over the Valley for almost three years and I am not exaggerating when I say there is something uniquely amazing happening over at Zin Bistro. The food is exquisite. This is the kind of food that you bite into with more and more gratitude because you just can t believe how good it is. Melissa explained what the difference in taste is. We make everything here. From beginning to end everything is fresh. If you call and order eggplant parmesan you should know that it s going to be fresh because I don t even take the eggplant out to be cut until you ve ordered it. Both Walter and Melissa grew up in Stockton. Walter comes from a family with a long history of restaurant experience. For someone like me who grew up eating all over Stockton hearing him list establishments he and his family have worked at is like taking a walk down a delicious memory Melissa takes advantage of the local fruits and vegetables available in the area. I can t tell you how many people stop by here with boxes full of produce fresh heirloom tomatoes eggplants zucchini and so much more. lane. He brings a wealth of knowledge to his bistro. They worked together in Napa gaining even more culinary experience and came back to the Lodi area after their daughter was born. Zin Bistro is the first time they ve been in it for themselves and their food is evidence that they are giving it all they ve got. With black and white checked floors gorgeous faux finishes and an impressive stenciled wall the bistro is smartly decorated. The space is small but very inviting. There are only four employees so this tightly knit team is dedicated to ensuring a great time. Walter and Melissa describe their food using uncomplicated words fresh whole simple. Melissa takes advantage of the local fruits and vegetables available in the area. I can t tell you how many people stop by here with boxes full of produce fresh heirloom tomatoes eggplants zucchini and so much more. Under Melissa and Walter s masterful culinary skills those fresh veggies become glorious delights to the palate. The eggplants tomatoes and zucchini star in the classic country dish from the Provence region of France the ratatouille. And with one bite you are whisked away to heaven. Walter emphasized the commitment to freshness. We don t have premade anything. Everything is made from scratch our sauces our dressings everything. There are no packages here. I can tell you every single ingredient 74 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM in any one of the dishes that comes out of our kitchen. The fish of the day on our visit was divine We enjoyed a perfectly cooked salmon over saffron rice served with a side of crisp green beans. The wild mushroom tamale is a treat to the taste buds. It is a wonderful vegetarian option and the smoky flavor is divine. The pan roasted chicken was an uncomplicated but unparalleled entree of perfection. (I highly recommend it ) The high quality Halal chicken is the perfect starting point for the dish and Walter says it s one of the reasons the flavors are so savory. Another winning dish is the bistro filet with blue cheese and mushrooms. The classic red wine sauce just sings when paired with the blue cheese And to top it all off we devoured the perfect chocolate mousse and homemade almond biscotti. On Tuesday nights Zin Bistro offers a three-course chef tasting menu for only 12. The menu offerings vary with the seasons. One week might offer chicken and grits with Cajun flair and another week s listing might be seafood risotto. You will enjoy a salad an entree and a special dessert made from whatever ingredients are in season and available at the time. This is a fantastic opportunity to try something new. You will not be disappointed Reservations are recommended and although space is limited Melissa says everyone is welcome including kids. Zin Bistro is open Tuesday through Saturday for lunch from 11 00 a.m. to 2 00 p.m. and for dinner from 5 00 p.m. to 8 30 p.m. The restaurant is closed on Sunday and Monday. You can call ahead for takeout and there are a few small tables outside for patio dining. Zin Bistro also offers great selections of local wines and beers. HLM Zin Bistro is located at 722 W. Lodi Avenue Lodi call (209) 2248223 for more information reservations and current menu specials. One of the Central Central Valley s leading proponents of allmultimedia Adriana Adriana Brogger has as a reporter One of the Valley s leading proponents of all things things multimedia Brogger has worked worked as a reporter blogger blogger producer host emcee writer and actress performer in localfor more than ten years. She teachesteaches producer host emcee writer and actress performer in local media media for more than ten years. She Multimedia Production at San Joaquin Joaquin Delta College and loves it Born in the the monkey monkey Adriana has a Multimedia Production at San Delta College and loves it Born in the year of year of the Adriana has a clever wit and wit and a magnetic personality. Seriously though shegood comedy comedy spending time with her hubby and clever a magnetic personality. Seriously though she enjoys enjoys good spending time with her hubby and four cute boys and of course course great you know ofknow of restaurant that would welcome a visit by Adriana Adriana four cute boys and of great food. If food. If you a local a local restaurant that would welcome a visit by 75 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM please contact contact Kimberly at Kimberly please Kimberly Mullen Mullen at Kimberly HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 75 HERLIFE CULINARY to sweeten the drink. This promotes production of digestive enzymes in the stomach which helps to digest and expel waste. Lemon juice also supplies vitamins A and C as well as beneficial trace minerals such as potassium. Drink plenty of water throughout the day too. A large glass of water before each meal helps your body get the message that your stomach is full before you reach for that second helping. Analyze the foods you choose on a daily basis. The best foods for supporting your body are whole unprocessed foods with an ingredient list that is the food itself (apple carrot egg). Processed food and fast food are often low in nutrition high in sugar and sodium and have a host of chemical additives. These chemicals aren t there for your health. Rather they make food more flavorful and visually appealing and they give it a by p a tty c o o k Add these foods to your diet for optimal thermogenic effects Protein Chicken fish lean meats Vegetables Asparagus broccoli cauliflower Complex carbohydrates Beans lentils sweet potatoes Spices Cinnamon ginger pepper Healthy fats Coconut oil ghee olive oil Beverages Green tea lemon juice water eating to stay warm weather of the season. One way to cope with a dismal dreary latewinter chill is of course through food. Most of us overindulged through the holiday season and at least thought about recommitting to a healthy diet and exercise plan in the New Year. By February those plans may be a dim memory. All this makes February a good month to consider foods with thermogenic properties foods that take more energy to digest and assimilate than the calories they provide to keep you warm and keep your metabolism humming. Keep in mind that thermogenic foods are not magical. Despite the fact that Americans invest over 60 billion each year on weight loss 76 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM thermogenic foods I f you get tired of winter before it even begins February may seem like the longest month of the year instead of the shortest one. Even though there are more hours of daylight each day February can bring some of the worst programs and products no single food or supplement can live up to the claim of being a guaranteed fat buster. Any food will keep you warm but some foods and food combinations are more beneficial than others. There are small steps you can work into your daily life right now that will help boost your health over time. First let s look at circulation not your blood circulation but another system that is crucial to your health your lymphatic system. Your volume of lymph fluid is twice that of the amount of blood in your body. Lymph fluid supports your immune system nervous system and digestion by carrying away waste on a cellular level. There is no central pump for this lymph fluid you must keep it moving through activity exercise deep breathing and massage. One way to jump-start lymph function and digestion each morning is by drinking the juice of a lemon in warm water with a teaspoon of honey long and stable shelf life. Do your body a favor avoid these foods as much as possible. Focus on the healthy choices of whole foods organic foods and raw foods. Humankind has evolved over centuries on a diet of fruits vegetables meats and fat. Ironically dietary fat has come to be regarded as the enemy of good health when in fact fats are crucial for a properly functioning body. But it s important to focus on fats that are healthy as opposed to unhealthy fats such as corn oil canola oil and soybean oil. Instead use fats that are optimal for good health such as avocado oil olive oil ghee (which is clarified butter essentially pure butter fat with the casein protein removed) and coconut oil. Yes coconut oil is actually beneficial. It provides medium-chain fatty acids (MCFAs) that are not found in other fats. Studies have shown that these MCFAs have a thermogenic effect that lasts for 24 hours so using a couple of tablespoons of coconut oil each day may help your metabolism over time. Ghee and coconut oil also have a lower smoking point which means they tolerate higher heat than other oils making them a good choice for high-heat cooking such as a pan-seared steak or stir-fry vegetables. Although diet is only one component of good health small changes in your daily habits will add up over time. Now s the time to start HLM Sources C. Phillips PhD and P. Manfory MD. 101 Ways to Supercharge Your Metabolism L. Bosch and J. Colquhoun Hungry For Change Ditch the Diets Conquer the Cravings and Eat Your Way To Lifelong Health S. Rigden MD and B. Schiltz RN The Ultimate Metabolism Diet and HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 77 HERLIFE RECIPES chocolate-almond steel cut oatmeal Serves 4 Prep time 10 minutes Cook time 5 minutes ingredients 1 cup Steel Cut (Quick and Easy) Irish Oatmeal teaspoon salt 1 Tablespoon unsweetened cocoa powder cup brown sugar 1 large ripe banana sliced cup chopped almonds or hazelnuts cup chopped semi-sweet chocolate cup heavy cream directions In a medium pot bring 3 cups water to a boil. Add oats and salt reduce heat and simmer uncovered for about 6 minutes stirring frequently. Remove from heat and stir in cocoa powder and brown sugar. Divide among 4 bowls and top with sliced banana and 1 tablespoon each of heavy cream almonds and chocolate pieces. Enjoy while it s hot HLM recipes and p hot ogr ap hy by ver y c ulinar y.c om 78 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM three-cheese beer soup Serves 8 Prep time 20 minutes Cook time 20 minutes ingredients cup unsalted butter 1 medium sweet onion finely diced 1 medium carrot sliced into thin rounds (or finely chopped) 2 green onions thinly sliced 3 cloves garlic minced cup all-purpose flour teaspoon dry mustard 5 cups low-sodium chicken broth 1 cup bottled or canned beer 1 cup whipping cream 1 cups frozen diced hash brown potatoes 1 cups small broccoli florets 1 cups shredded sharp cheddar cheese room temperature 1 cups shredded white cheddar cheese room temperature 1 (3 ounce) package bacon pieces 1 3 cup grated Parmesan cheese teaspoon hot pepper sauce teaspoon Worcestershire sauce directions In a 4-quart Dutch oven heat butter over medium heat until melted. Add onion carrot green onions and garlic. Cook for 8 to 10 minutes or until vegetables are tender stirring occasionally. Stir in flour and dry mustard (mixture will be thick). Add broth cook and stir until bubbly. Add beer and cream stir in potatoes and broccoli. Bring to a boil reduce heat and simmer uncovered for 5 minutes stirring occasionally. Gradually stir in sharp cheddar and white cheddar cheeses stirring after each addition until cheeses are melted. Stir in bacon Parmesan cheese hot pepper sauce and Worcestershire sauce until combined. Ladle into bowls and enjoy HLM recipes and p hot ogr ap hy by ver y c ulinar y.c om HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 79 HERLIFE WINE what is viticulture by m e l i ssa h a i n e s l av i n L et s face it--when you first hear the word viticulture it might sound as foreign and strange as the amazing health elixir Vitameatavegamin pitched by Lucille Ball with such enthusiasm in an I Love Lucy broadcast in May 1952. Easily put a viticulture region is a wine grape region ture dryness soil runoff and elements such as natural phosphorus sand rock and elevation. It s impossible to have successful viticulture programs without applying the uniqueness of the terroir specific to the vineyard location. Viticulture and terroir combine in the United States as American Viticulture Areas or AVAs that by definition contain unique water sources elevation and seasonal weather aspects. These aspects are unique to a specific area where winegrapes are grown. Profound influences truly create growth and flavor differentials for the same grape grown in two different AVAs. For example the California wine grape regions of Napa Sonoma and Paso Robles with proximities to the ocean breezes all have unique degrees of temperature that vary into evening hours creating distinct AVAs that are reflected differently in the grapevines. History and Value of Viticulture Many notable viticulture areas started out with an agricultural focus and then were settled and managed by multiple generations. Example the Clarksburg wine grape region in Northern California was originally founded after Robert C. Clark first settled in the area in 1849. Prominent wine growing families still exist in the area today such as the sixth generation of the Bogle family managing their vineyard. Overall the viticulture area can be an indicator of the wine quality because that unique AVA has an effect on the grapevine management harvest and subsequent wine. As you likely already know some viticulture regions have more cach or panache than others for a variety of reasons. Why do we use viticulture labels to price and select wine The reason is simple quality and value. Consider your next purchase of a special bottle of wine. Let s say you ve narrowed your choices down to three bottles of nice wines (a frequently difficult task ) a Burgundy from France a Malbec from Argentina and a Barolo from Italy. How do you choose between three distinctly different AVAs if factors such as food pairing price and pretty labeling are similar Perhaps you ve traveled to one of the regions or you just love Barolos no matter what Now let s make it fun. What if one of the versus an agricultural region focused on crops and livestock farming. Viticulture areas are located throughout the wine regions of the world including highly acclaimed California the Pacific Northwest New York State s Hudson Valley region New Zealand Australia Spain France Germany and so on. Cool evenings and warm days tend to be an ideal starting point that allows a range of both red and white grape varietals to flourish. Growers try to obtain consistent levels of growth from year to year adjusting to changes in rainfall and heat. Ideal grape regions have less rainfall during the most critical stages of bud growth and consistent quantities of spring rainfall so that grapevines adjust creating the ideal flavors the grapevine manager has in mind either to sell or to produce wine on the estate. Viticulture vs. Agriculture vs. Terroir The study of viticulture is the study of cultivating grapevines. Typically and not surprisingly top educators of viticulture are located in highly acclaimed wine-producing regions such as University of California at Davis and California Polytechnic State University San Luis Obispo. Often viticulture and agriculture coexist because what s good for grapevine cultivation is often good for happy cows as well. Perhaps that s why wines and cheeses of the world are so well matched (stay tuned for next month s issue ) for flavor texture and aroma. Terroir is critical to grapevine cultivation and must be included for just a moment. While it s important to tend grow and harvest the highest-quality or volume from the grapevines it s the terroir that affects just how the vineyard experts achieve their desired results. This third component considers daytime nighttime temperatures fog frost mois- 80 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Viticulture and terroir combine in the United States as American Viticulture Areas or AVAs that by definition contain unique water sources elevation and seasonal weather aspects. These aspects are unique to a specific area where wine grapes are grown. choices is a Cabernet Sauvignon from Rutherford of Napa California Whether it s a sophisticated decision or not many folks will go for the name-brand AVA regardless of the other high-quality options. Whether we re selecting a wine for tonight s dinner or a special celebration the pressure is on. The truth is there s so much innovation in grapevine management that many viticulture areas provide immense value per dollar that we may have previously overlooked due to biases or not placing an adequate level of quality on certain wine-producing regions. As wine enthusiasts let s explore as much as possible. Without a passport this can be accomplished by asking our retail wine expert about the quality of the viticulture region and terroir listed on the labels. Try a few and make a night of it don t let your assumptions about wine regions get in the way of your enjoyment and education. Then let us know what you ve discovered HLM Sources HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 81 HERLIFE UNDER THE CORK Whisky Barrel Saloon Every Saturday you ll find entertainment with a barrel tasting along with seasonal events such as a wine and chocolate pairing for Wine and Chocolate weekend. wr it t en by b et h d o sta l p h o to s by j u l i e n i c o l e p h o to gra p hy like to educate people about my winemaking philosophy enthused Antonio. This connoisseur has an overflowing abundance of knowledge about all things wine easily impressing visitors with tidbits such as rattling off eight different kinds of Bordeaux grapes with little effort to casually and modestly listing his impressive resume within the wine business. All the while Antonio Pasos love for all aspects of the wine industry comes across loud and clear. Even though I came from one of the largest wineries I prefer to work in one of the smallest wineries in the world shares Antonio. By keeping his winery small Antonio can ensure that his winemaking process remains very hands on he stays involved in every aspect from instructing when to pick the grapes to selecting the barrels (he uses a bigger variety than the typical pulling wine barrels from countries such as Hungary and Bulgaria as well as the usual American and French barrels). It s like a spice rack just like with cooking says Antonio. He also emphasizes the importance of both patience and diligence when it comes to winemaking. Bottling wine for quality and taste rather than quantity is Antonio s philosophy The wine will tell you when it s ready and that s when I bottle. 82 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM W alk into the Pasos Vineyards tasting room and you are nearly guaranteed to see owner founder winemaker and viticulturist extraordinaire Antonio Pasos. Should you get the opportunity to chat with Antonio a word to the wise get ready to take notes. I like to talk about the wine I Pasos Vineyards is truly the place to come to get the full experience too. Every Saturday you ll find entertainment with a barrel tasting along with seasonal events such as a wine and chocolate pairing for Wine and Chocolate Weekend. Look for regular live entertainment here at Pasos and be sure to head upstairs and tour the art gallery featuring local artists paintings as well as lithographs. Better yet book the private dining room for a private dinner or winemaker s dinner. Antonio in keeping with his hands-on approach also loves making appetizers and other treats for guests to pair with his wines such as stuffed baby portabella mushrooms or goat cheese stuffed and bacon-wrapped Medjool dates. These are paired with some of Antonio s favorite Pasos wines such as Albarino Sirah Malbec his Bordeaux blend Distarte (Latin for rising sun ) or Barbera. Pasos gives the full effect of being in a Mediterranean-focused winery I like to combine art food wine and music says Antonio. Pasos turns out unique wines such as Tannat a wine and grape usually only found in Uruguay and it s the first in San Joaquin County to create a sparkling Brut ros in the true m thode champenoise style. At Pasos Vineyards you ll find a true amalgamation of preserving traditional wines and methods along with innovative practices and blends all culminating in an experience that showcases Antonio Pasos love for art food wine music and life. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 83 HERLIFE BEHIND THE MENU by be th dos tal photos by b r ig g s p hot ogr ap hy Orleans with its sleek interior soft glowing jazz club-esque lightinag and subtle nods to French influences such as fleur-de-lis scattered throughout. Greg May a culinary biz veteran and now managing partner of French 25 knew this was exactly what Stockton needed and he was right French 25 has helped breathe new life into the downtown area. The restaurant industry is different these days you really have to think outside the box says Greg and we really wanted to keep it affordable for everybody as well as to create something fun and exciting. And Stockton was the place for Greg. This beautiful building was vacant and it was a crying shame that it was we wanted to come down and really champion the cause of downtown. It s fun to come down here downtown Stockton has a lot to offer. New Orleans was the perfect theme. In New Orleans you have seafood at your back door but you don t get the produce selection like we have in California says Greg. Pulling from parallels between the Stockton area and New Orleans such as both areas easy access to fresh seafood because of our waterways and Delta and tweaking to fit our West coast palates French 25 serves up Californian Creole to rave reviews. So what s next on the menu for French 25 We started our music series last year up on the roof that was a really big hit. We want to expand and do more events up on the roof Greg enthused. We re looking forward to expanding our calendar and increasing our special events. We really want people to know that they don t have to leave Stockton to have a nice event. We ve done everything from cocktail parties to full-on wedding ceremonies and receptions we ve done it all. In a nutshell Greg has combined the best of both albeit an unusual combination worlds the flavorful seafood-heavy Mardi Gras-partying New Orleans style with California s wonderful seasonal fresh produce-centric flavors to create the perfect result French 25. HLM 84 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM V enture down El Dorado Street in downtown Stockton and the place sure to get your attention with its ultra-cool d cor and divine smells is French 25. This restaurant perfectly captures New HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 85 HERLIFE GARDEN Tahitian Fruit Po e 4 c. fruit pur e (banana papaya taro pumpkin) c. brown or raw sugar 2 tsp. vanilla 1 c. tapioca flour arrowroot or cornstarch Blend all ingredients in a food processor until smooth making sure there are no starch lumps. Pour into buttered 9 x 13 baking dish. Bake in preheated 375 oven 30-40 minutes until firm and edges pull away from pan. Cool completely cut into small pieces and top with coconut milk. Get the directions for making fresh coconut milk at For daily garden goodness follow me on Facebook Pinterest Instagram and Twitter. by s. e. filomeo The Fruits of French Polynesia ying here on the beach with a mai tai in my hand it s hard for me to think about anything besides sun sky sea and... fruit. There is a pineapple slice gracing the rim of my glass and it s the best any of the islands of French Polynesia will be an exciting adventure as you pass mango papaya and banana trees growing alongside the road seemingly untended by any human being. Although no Polynesian garden is without these most basic of fruit trees many of these sumptuous fruits grow wild and no one will think worse of you if you hop out of your car to snag a mango or banana that has been left on the tree to nature s will. The warm climate and gracious people notwithstanding I have always found the organic abundance of ambrosia one of the most important factors in my decision to return every year for the holidays. The thrill of walking along a road winding between a pristine turquoise lagoon and a lush green mountainside where I might stumble upon a tree hung with tart golden star fruits resembling Chinese lanterns is indeed a heady intoxicating experience. But that s just me. If you were not blessed with the foraging spirit not to worry as there are plenty of fruits to be found for sale by the locals along the streets. On islands where flat farm land is scarce the inhabitants make the most of every inch of growing space. On a discerning tour around the islands one might spy watermelons cantaloupes and pumpkins crammed together in small patches lovingly tended by local farmers who take them to town to sell or trade for other products. This is the epitome of the farmer s market and roadside produce stand. Many fruits can be found at the grocers but they are expensive and not the quality one would expect of farm-fresh naturally ripened produce. And then there is the coconut. This primeval prodigious island staple has found its way to mainland consumers in the form of everything from bottled detoxifying water to scented massage oil. It has become almost as trendy as kale. Just try to explain this fanatical phenomenon to a native and she will be completely confounded. The coconut is as mundane to them as acorns and chestnuts are to us. Although it seems to be taken for granted as it grows everywhere in abundance every part of the plant and fruit is appreciated in a thousand ways. To me there is nothing like coming upon a local selling ice-cold coconut water in a freshly-hacked coconut on a hot and humid afternoon of sightseeing. The taste of poisson cru la Tahitienne (raw fish) or fe i po e (banana pudding) drenched in fresh coconut milk has no comparison. As I recline here now on the sugar-white sand next to the gently lapping lagoon under the warm tropical sun the palms sighing a soothing sonata I long for a chunk of crisp sweet coconut meat to munch with my mango mai tai. HLM L Pacific. pineapple I have ever tasted. How does it differ from the pineapples we get in the States For one thing it is allowed to stay on the plant until it s perfectly ripe and although they are grown here in French Polynesia as a commercial fruit they re only shipped locally rarely making it out of the South Tahiti s sister island Moorea is well known in the archipelago as the pineapple center of French Polynesia. The bromeliads flourish in the rich volcanic soil of the mountains where they are endowed with amenable amounts of precipitation and drainage to ensure extraordinary flavor and perfect maturity. There s a good chance that one s first introduction to this sweetest of fruits will be served as juice on the puddle-jumpers from Tahiti to her other islands. It is a small but welcome gesture after the eight-and-a-half-hour flight from LAX. A trip to the romantic magical island of Moorea is not complete without a visit to the Rotui Juice Factory where one can sample various fruits made into jams and jellies as well as juice. If you came here for the fruit a drive around 86 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 87 HERLIFE FOODIES foodies Towne House Towne House Restaurant at Wine & Roses is a legacy to the country farm it once was and our cuisine is made for sharing. We look forward to sharing with you the innovative dishes warm traditions and gracious service that is the Towne House Restaurant. 2505 West Turner Rd Lodi (209) 371-6160 Corner Scone Bakery and Teahouse Come visit our boutique bakery for some award-winning pie Featuring madefrom-scratch daily scones hand pies quiches and other unique baked goods. Treat your sweetheart to a plethora of decorative delights this month along with our wholesome classics Join us for a Sweetheart Tea February 21st from 3-5pm Call to reserve 322 N. California St Lodi (209) 747-3418 Whirlow s Rolling Stones Tribute Valentine s Dinner Show Call for reservations Whirlow s Tossed and Grilled specialized in build-ityourself tossed salads cafeteria style or choose from excellent sandwiches burgers and full plate dinners. Don t forget to make us your first call for catering carry out and private parties 1926 Pacific Ave Stockton (On the Miracle Mile) (209) 466-2823 De Vega Brothers Italian Cuisine DeVega Brothers Happy hour every day full service bar and patio dining. Semi-private banquet for all occasions. Catering for large or small events. Serving traditional Italian food Seafood Steak and Chicken. Open 7 days a week. Sun-Thur 11am- 9pm Fri and Sat. 11am -10pm. Make your reservations for Valentine s Day 5757 Pacific Ave A140 Stockton (209) 323-4339 italian cuisine Ciao Bella Ciao Bella Italian Cuisine Come taste the best of Italy at Ciao Bella Enjoy excellent pasta dishes chicken parmigiana veal and much more Top it off with our great selection of wines and desserts. 5644 N Pershing Ave Stockton 209-474-2100 Thai Spices Chef Bun Khotakoon has long been captivated by the many ways to combine sweet and fiery spices to bring together flavors that mingle and enchant each other. Pair the traditional and monthly special menu items with a fabulous local wine or ice cold Thai beer to create a fascinating culinary experience. Come join us on Valentine s Day 2401 W Turner Rd. Ste. 224 Lodi (209) 369-8424 88 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM foodies Macaronage Macarons Vita Dolce HERLIFE FOODIES Finally a gluten-free pastry shop is open in San Joaquin County. Macaronage Macarons believes that gluten-free baking can also be delicious Come in and try not only our delicious French macarons but also cupcakes tartlets and other delectable gluten-free desserts. Macarons make the perfect dessert table highlights at birthdays weddings and other special occasions. New location now open 2111 Pacific Ave Stockton (on the Miracle Mile). Open Mon-Sat 10am-7pm and Sun 11am-6pm. Visit us for the perfect Valentine s Day gift 7610 Pacific Ave Suite B6 Stockton (209) 955-0857 macaronagebygrace Two Italian-Swiss sisters have combined energies to bring to Tracy a small cafe filled with high quality cookies panini s homemade soups fresh salads and delicious coffee. Topping off any time of the day would be a delicious scoop of San Francisco s very own Mitchell s Ice Cream. Come on in and enjoy some of the sweet life of Vita Dolce. Call us to cater your next event and be sure to ask about our sundae of the month 11 East 6th St Tracy (209) 834-1234 VitaDolce HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 89 HERLIFE BOOK CLUB the story of beautiful girl by rachel simon review by mari ly n is am inger ping blankets. Who are you Martha asked. The woman slowly lifted her eyes then jerked them back down. The man caught the gesture but did not acknowledge Martha s voice. He rubbed his companion s shoulder tenderly and looked at Martha with pleading. He opened his free hand and flicked his fingers toward the interior Martha realized that he could not hear. She ushered them in to the fire. What are they running from Should I ask Should I just give comfort The couple shed their dripping coverings as Martha prepared food. When she returned she realized that the woman held a tiny baby as the man gently wiped blood from its face. As Martha gathered her thoughts the couple retreated to the home s attic. Martha set out clothing her deceased husband s garments for the man and her own for the woman who emerged from the attic and dressed. Then there were more harsh loud knocks on the door. Police ma am looking for runaways from the State School. As the officials swarmed through the home searching Martha noted that a window was open and saw the man Number Forty-Two running into the darkness. The woman 90 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM O n a rainy November night in 1968 Martha Zimmer warily opened her front door to a quiet but insistent knock. She found a black man and a slight pale woman staring at her covered in drip- Lynnie is bundled into the institution s car but not before she is able to whisper two words to Martha Hide. Her. Thus begins the new life of the childless widow and retired teacher Martha Zimmer with the baby the couple has hidden in the attic whom she names Julia. As a teacher Martha had maintained contact over the years with her students and it is to these individuals that she reaches out in an unfamiliar journey to both hide and raise a child with whom she quickly bonds. She leaves her farmhouse and its lighthouse mailbox that night and over time she learns much more about the reasons Julia must be hidden. Lynnie returns to the School to the protection of staff member Kate who quickly recognizes the truth. Kate protects Lynnie s secret but eventually she reaches out through her own detective work and forges bonds with one of Martha s student protectors. In this way she learns more about the baby s life as she grows up. Lynnie continues to yearn for her daughter and the return of her precious Number Forty-Two who had opened a new view of the world to her during their time together. Kate strives to develop Lynnie s innate artistic gifts which are part of the last threads woven together by Simon in the novel s conclusion. Number Forty-Two whose name we learn is Homan is assumed to be dead drowned in a swollen river. He is in fact living a life of survival on the run from one place to another simultaneously searching to return to Lynnie Beautiful Girl in his sign language. In 1972 journalist Geraldo Rivera with a stolen key and a hidden camera entered the Willowbrook State School on Staten Island in New York City his special report horrified the nation. The fictional Pennsylvania State School for the Incurable and Feebleminded is exposed in a similar way by events set in motion by Martha Zimmer and one of her students. As the self-advocacy movement gathers steam into the 1970s and 1980s the State School is closed and its residents move to find meaningful places in the community. I read The Story of Beautiful Girl twice mesmerized during the first reading by the unfolding of Simon s story. The second reading revealed the nuances of each character. There are revelations about Martha s marriage to Earl and his grief over the loss of their child an event that irrevocably changed their lives and the tenor of their relationship. The glimpses of Lynnie s childhood demonstrate her capacity for love and attachment her internal life and dialogue that she chose not to verbalize. Homan is fully drawn with resilience and intelligence he possesses an abundance of both street smarts and native ability that are at last realized fully. Kate is steadfast and persistent in her love for Lynnie she takes the role of parent and advocate for Lynnie even after the school is closed. Martha forges a new life for herself as Julia s grandmother knowing that she may be gone before Julia fully reaches adulthood and writing letters that she collects for her to read at some point in the future. And finally we see the significance of Martha s lighthouse mailbox as the novel concludes. Rachel Simon is best known for her memoir Riding the Bus with my Sister a national best seller that became a seminal work in the disability community and was adapted as a Hallmark Hall of Fame movie in 2005. Her other works include the memoir The House on Teacher s Lane and the novel The Magic Touch. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 91 HERLIFE SCENE AND BE SEEN Stockton Thunder Presents Hockey with Heart the American Heart Association and Go Red for Women. For more information about future Stockton Thunder events please visit HLM O n Saturday December 6 Stockton Thunder hosted its fourth annual Hockey with Heart. Stockton Thunder fans were treated to plenty of booths plus opportunities to win fun prizes and raffle baskets donated by the vendors Designed to promote hearth health as well as spread awareness of illness prevention proceeds were donated to p h o to gra p hy by H E RLI F E sta f f 92 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 93 HERLIFE HOROSCOPE star journeys February the month of love will find most signs yearning for reconnection or connection with others on a deeper level. With a Grand Trine happening in the Fire and Air sectors many signs will find their emotions heightened and their ability to achieve elevated. This enthusiasm needs to be tempered with caution as it will be too easy to throw logic to the wind. HLM by m e l o dy b u ssey Scorpio OCT. 23-NOV. 21 After the 18th of the month things will pick up and play out nicely for you in the areas of career and spiritual issues. Home may become one giant soap opera if you don t find constructive ways to express yourself. Taurus APR. 20-MAY 20 The Sun and Mars move away from your sign which will bring much-needed relief from the stress that you ve been feeling. Follow the inclination to do something good for someone as the return you will experience will be worth it. You are entering a period where you can choose to live by design rather than by default. Choose well. Sagittarius NOV. 22-DEC. 21 The fact that most of your planets are moving forward is going to give you amazing energy and a boost in confidence. Use it wisely. You will be able to get your way as long as you stay focused on your goal. Don t listen to those who say it can t be done you know it can. Gemini MAY 21-JUNE 20 A rare cosmic event is taking place that will boost your health finances and love life. A Grand Trine in the Fire and Air quadrants will occur on the 7th to the 12th bringing with them a chance for you to surge ahead with plans. However not all signs will benefit from the light twin as the shadow twin will also have her way. Career and love may come into conflict and temptation will surface. Be sure of what you really want. Capricorn DEC. 22-JAN. 19 This is not the time for calculated risks or gambles. Make sure that your ambitions have good solid evidence before committing to a course of action. This is a better month for laying the groundwork for future endeavors. Help others to prosper as it will also help you. Cancer JUNE 21-JULY 23 Focusing on career is supported this month so it will be okay to allow relationships to coast for a while. The Grand Trine in Fire and Air will move you forward to new achievement. Family will rise to support your goals. Go for it. Aquarius JAN. 20-FEB. 18 The light at the end of the tunnel is finally here Most of the major stresses will lift and you will be able to move forward with many of your projects. Make sure that in your rush to finally enjoy the fruits of your labor that you don t damage others. Others are going to notice you especially a secret crush. Don t let money matters come between you and a friend. Leo JULY 24-AUG. 22 Although it will be tempting avoid power struggles and offering to do more than you should. Most of the planets are in the lower portion of your chart meaning that you will best serve yourself by taking the time to regroup and focus on yourself for a while. Pisces FEB. 19-MAR. 20 With most of the planets in the top portion of your chart Mars will move into your Career sector this month meaning that you should not put off career issues. You will find yourself having to stand your ground and work harder but you will be up for it as your energy will be increased. This energy will allow you to break through obstacles but be careful that you don t trample others while doing so. Virgo AUG. 23-SEPT. 22 With Mercury in retrograde until the 25th you would do well to not engage in power struggles or try to force things to happen. The Grand Trine will foster a new-found romance or rekindle an old one. Balance is the key to success this month. Aries MAR. 21-APR. 19 Mercury will go retrograde from the 4th to the 25th so make sure that you are taking the time to read everything twice leaving earlier than you normally would and being patient with all things electronic and motorized. Despite Mercury s influence most of the planets are above the horizon on your chart which will make this a time of great achievement and success. 94 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Libra SEPT. 23-OCT. 22 Many of your planets are below the horizon on your chart so focusing on inner harmony and what would bring balance into your life is the key to success and happiness this month. If you ve been wanting to learn something new this is the time to do so. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 95 HERLIFE CALENDAR february 42nd Annual Omega Nu Crab Feed DATE February 7 TIME 5 30 - 10 00pm LOCATION Church of the Presentation Community Center 1635 W. Benjamin Holt Drive Stockton DETAILS Support Omega Nu in their 42nd Annual Crab Feed Enjoy nohost cocktails a delicious crab dinner and dancing to the ParTime Band Purchase your tickets from any Omega Nu member at Stage Two in Lincoln Center or Quail Lakes Nursery at 3404 Shadowbrook Dr. third anniversary Enjoy excellent drinks and music with performances by tons of tribute bands from ACDC to Bon Jovi to Iron Maiden and much more. Stop by and join in the fun or visit for information. World of Wonders Night with the Stockton Thunder DATE February 13 TIME 7 30pm LOCATION Stockton Arena 248 W Fremont Street Stockton DETAILS Education is so important to both WOW Museum and Stockton Thunder Stockton Thunder has partnered with Jose M. Hernandez Reaching for the Stars Foundation to put on a fun educational promotion Attend the pre-game event at 5 30 and meet former astronaut Jose M. Hernandez. WOW Museum receives 4 from each ticket purchased. Order tickets online at Lodi Wine & Chocolate Weekend DATES February 7 and 8 TIME 11 00am - 4 00pm LOCATION Lodi DETAILS Celebrate Lodi s 18th annual Wine and Chocolate Weekend Travel from winery to winery and participate in activities such as wine and chocolate pairings live music barrel tasting and more Each attendee will receive an event wine glass a chocolate treat by Brix Chocolate and an event map and guide with wine tasting at 50 participating wineries Purchase your tickets in advance online at for 55 or the day of for 65. Rolling Stones Tribute Show Valentine s Dinner Shows DATE February 14th 2015 TIME Doors open 5 15pm 1st show 9 00pm 2nd show LOCATION Whirlow s 1926 Pacific Ave. Stockton DETAILS Enjoy a Valentine s Day treat at Whirlow s Tossed and Grilled First show includes dinner and dessert at 50 per person. Doors open at 5 15 pm. Second show includes hors d oeuvres and dessert at 40 per person. Doors open at 9 00pm. Call to make your reservations today 209 466-2823. Lodi Community Concert Series SAXational DATE February 8 TIME 2 30pm LOCATION Hutchins Street Square 125 S Hutchins Street Lodi DETAILS Rob Verdi shares his rare and unusual instrument collection of saxophones at the first of 2015 s Concert Series. Rob will be accompanied by the Lodi Community Band with Arthur J. Holton as the director. For tickets and more information please visit or call (209) 333-6782. Lincoln Center s 5th Annual Strolling Bridal Faire DATE February 21 TIME 10 00am - 4 00pm LOCATION Lincoln Center Ben Holt and Pacific Avenue Stockton DETAILS Brides wedding planners and wedding enthusiasts can enjoy a relaxing day of strolling from store to store in Lincoln Center. Find everything you need for your perfect wedding from invitations and bridal gowns to wedding gifts and catering. Register online at or register at Lincoln Center the day of the event. 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