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THE VIRGINIA HOME EDUCATOR WWW.HEAV.ORG 1 Lana s story Heel injury Member for fourteen years Echocardiogram Go to Lana We re going to give up on this concept of insurance and trust God and His people Yeah of course That s a no-brainer For more than twenty years Samaritan Ministries members have been sharing one another s medical needs without using health insurance through a Biblical model of community among believers. Samaritan members share directly with each other and do not share in abortions and other unbiblical practices. Come see what our members are saying and start your own Samaritan story today at More than 48 000 families (over 161 000 individuals) Sharing over 14 million in medical needs each month The monthly share has never exceeded 405 for a family of any size 888.268.4377 samaritanministries samaritanmin As of July 2015 Biblical community applied to health care 2 THE VIRGINIA HOME EDUCATOR FALL 2015 HEAV Board of Directors Anne Miller President Williamsburg Patrick Ryan Vice President Purcellville Kevin Mulhearn Treasurer Omaha Linda Linder Secretary Manassas Rick Boyer Board Member Rustburg Cherrie Moore Board Member Virginia Beach Advisory Board Lauren Bell Virginia Beach Yvonne Bunn Murfreesboro Kevin & Katrina Hoeft Goochland Craig & Stephanie Konicki Midlothian Joseph & Tiffani Miller Newport News HEAV Staff Anne Miller Interim Executive Director Yvonne Bunn Director of Homeschool Support & Government Affairs Lauren Bell Convention Director Helen Wright Finance & Administration Manager Ann Miranda Office Manager Lora Howard Assistant Office Manager Lisa Workman Director of Special Events HEAV BOARD & STAFF 13 Publications Staff Maureen Bittner Director of Publications & Marketing Mary Kay Smith Magazine Editor editor Melissa Barnes Editor Kathleen Lansing Advertising Director advertising Kathleen Dillie Update Manager Karen Sweeney Update Content Editor update Linda Mesibov Update Editor Arielle Potter Copy Editor & Above-the-Fold Writer Maya Barnes Update Layout Laurie Sitterding Editor Michael Grice Webmaster Alyssa Mulhearn Web-Content Editor Linda Mesibov HTML Coder Susannah Miller Graphic Designer Jennifer Covington Social Media Manager Kelly Pedone Communications Coordinator SEND ADDRESS CHANGES TO Home Educators Association of Virginia 2100 W. Laburnum Avenue Suite 108A Richmond Virginia 23227 Fax 804-278-9202 E-mail office Phone 804-278-9200 or Web For fastest service send your former and new addresses. Check your mailing label to see if you are a member if not join today The purpose of the Virginia Home Educator is to provide information resources and encouragement to Virginia homeschool parents. The views expressed in this magazine do not necessarily reflect those of the Home Educators Association of Virginia. All Scripture quotations are from the King James Version unless otherwise noted. The Virginia Home Educator is sent quarterly to Virginia s homeschooling families without charge. To receive a free subscription sign up at To inquire about advertising or submitting an article please contact HEAV at PO Box 6745 Richmond Virginia 23230-0745 or e-mail us at advertising or editor HEAV reserves the right to edit for style and space or to refuse any submission deemed inappropriate for our publication. Permission is granted to reprint any news items from this magazine providing proper credit is given all other material is copyrighted. For reprint permission please contact the editor at editor 2015 Home Educators Association of Virginia SUBMISSION DEADLINES Winter 2015 (Issue 4)--September 15 Spring 2016 (Issue 1)--December 15 Summer 2016 (Issue 2)--March 15 Fall 2016 (Issue 3)--June 15 Cover Image michaeljung 10 14 FEATURES Phil Waldrep 10 Dealing with Prodigal Children Loving Wayward Children Even When You Don t Approve of Their Behavior 13 When You Feel Like Giving Up Crystal Paine DEPARTMENTS 4 5 6 7 8 From the Editor Mary Kay Smith From Our Facebook Page... From the Director of Homeschol Support Yvonne Bunn 14 When a Child Doesn t Remember What He Reads Dianne Craft MA CNHP 2015 Convention Photo Collage Freedom Watch 17 Planning the Perfect Cake Michael Grice 18 ClassifiedAds THE AMAZING RAISE 5K COME RUN WITH HEAV SEPTEMBER 10TH n 6PM THE VIRGINIA HOME EDUCATOR WWW.HEAV.ORG 3 FROM THE EDITOR Mary Kay Smith F all is the time of new beginnings for the homeschooler we have new ideas new plans new books new supplies a new schedule and hopefully renewed energy. If you attended the HEAV convention you probably have renewed passion and some new ways of thinking too. It is exciting to put it all together and start a new year This summer I was idly watching a mother red-bellied woodpecker taking care of her baby when I noticed that she does a lot of the same things we homeschool moms have to do. When she first swoops into the yard the woodpecker checks for danger. Only when she believes she is safe does she chuck for her baby to come. She knows her needs and aims straight for one of the suet feeders. She does not bother with the nijer seeds the sunflower seeds the flowering plants or the sugar water. Homeschool moms need to know their children s unique needs too--which curriculum to use what schedule to keep what hobbies to pursue. The bird is on a mission--feeding her baby. She stays focused on that mission holds her ground and does not allow herself to become distracted. We also can t allow ourselves to become distracted during school hours. Homeschooling is a serious commitment and requires our time presence energy and resources. We have to turn off the phone say no to other activities and focus on the day s plans. The woodpecker is willing to share space but if another bird becomes too bold she chases it away. For the homeschool family there are a lot of good activities out there and some great co-ops with which to do them but if those activities become too bold and require too much time that detracts from the good of your family you have to chase them away. The bird shares with others. Now I ll be the first to admit that the woodpecker doesn t plan to do this sharing thing but her eating is sometimes messy enough that pieces of suet fall to the ground. The robins and catbirds waiting below get the benefit of her care too. That s how homeschoolers are with our books educational games equipment and expertise. It s great to be able to share them with other families coming behind us The bird does not view her squawking baby as a nuisance. Taking care of him is her job her duty and her delight. And so it is with us. Have a happy homeschooling year I AM APOLOGIA SCIENCE The biblical worldview of the Exploring Creation series and its authors is refreshing. These are real scientists who present God s creation in all of its awe and splendor. References to God s handiwork are intertwined throughout the texts at appropriate times. As we learned science we were reminded where the earth and all of its creations come from. Sue Mercer Homeschooling Mom Apologia Science was a great launching point that helped me succeed throughout college. I would absolutely recommend Apologia to parents and students looking for an effective and interesting science curriculum. In fact I already do whenever I meet homeschooling families Allyson (Mercer) Martin Associate Food Scientist Professional Certificate of the Culinary Arts Culinary Institute of America-Greystone Bachelor of Science in Food Science Purdue University 4 THE VIRGINIA HOME EDUCATOR FALL 2015 from our Facebook page... Homeschooling for the First Time Alyse I am going to homeschool my children for the first time this year and I m nervous. My third-grade daughter is a very strong reader but struggles with math. My second-grade son is very strong in math but struggles with reading and spelling. Any suggestions on curricula Anne Make sure your daughter knows the basics. Go back to the beginning with easier math and build fluency. Don t worry as much about grade level as mastery of math facts and operations. Let her use math manipulatives for as long as she likes so she can see and feel how numbers work. Read good books to your son (daughter too) and get him recorded books to listen to when you cannot read to him. (LOVE recorded books ) Don t worry about grade-level reading--let him read many easy books that are below his grade level. This helps build his fluency and confidence. Having lots of successful reading experiences can really make a difference (said the mother of eight). Julie I think you ll save yourself a lot of work if you can combine your kids in science and social studies. I love My Father s World but there are tons of options that are great for both second and third grade. Cathy Duffy s 102 Top Picks breaks down different learning styles planning time and what works best for different kids...because a good fit for someone else may be a terrible fit for you. Formal...or Not So Much Amy Last year I didn t follow any particular curriculum. We had a very successful year but now I m wondering if I should become more formal in my approach. Do most homeschoolers follow curricula in each subject Kari I stay away from K12 or anything public-school related--I pulled my daughter out for a reason. But last year was my first year homeschooling and I felt more comfortable picking a curriculum that pretty much tells me what she needs to know. For now this satisfies my brain s need to make sure she is getting what she needs. If you were successful last year then keep going. Jennifer A very wise woman told me to enjoy have fun play games read do field trips and learn with them while they re young. She said to consider getting more structured when you get in middle school around grade six or so. Great advice. If it worked for you last year keep going. A love of learning is an awesome thing join the online conversation AP EXAM HELP Thank you for your help to set up the AP exam in Japanese at our local base school. I m happy to report that the guidance counselor was very professional and friendly and our kids were able to take the exam without a hitch. We couldn t have done it without your encouragement and expertise. Sachiko Fry South Chesterfield Editor s note Mrs. Fry thought her daughters could not take an AP Japanese test because the course was not offered at the school. However the law says a school must provide AP tests for homeschool students it does not say they must teach the course in order to provide the test. Outside the Box So many little time Capture those fleeting--and perhaps ill-timed-- I wonder questions on a Wonder Wall. Some paint a box or wall a stack of Stickies and your child s imaginations is all it takes. Reprinted with permission from Nurture Store. (http wonder-wall) THE VIRGINIA HOME EDUCATOR WWW.HEAV.ORG 5 From the Director of Homeschool Support Yvonne Bunn E veryone has a first year--a first year of school college or a new job a first year of marriage a first year of being a parent and a first year of homeschooling. First years are usually hard because there are so many unknowns. We see the value we want the outcome but it s the how-to-getthere that leaves us feeling a little muddled. We know where we want to go but sometimes we re not sure we re putting the right information in our GPS. It can be very exciting but also a little scary to drive off into the unknown when we re the ones responsible for getting where we want to go. You re not alone on this journey. If you were at the How-toBegin Homeschooling sessions at the convention you might have been surprised when you saw hundreds of other parents--just like you--looking for answers to make the best educational decision they can for their children. Besides you and me close to 39 000 other Virginia parents are choosing home education as the best educational option for our children. Since you ve made the decision to begin you may be overwhelmed with the thought of the task at hand. Try not to be take one day at a time. Choosing curriculum is usually at the top of everyone s to-do list. What type What method What learning style Or maybe you ve already purchased your books and now you re having second thoughts about the money you ve invested. It s okay. Give it a try and see if it fits. If it s not right for you or your child try another one. You re not locked into using it. You can usually recoup most of your money by selling it to someone else who might find it s a perfect fit for their child. Is your brain filled with great information from homeschool books you ve read but figuring out how to implement these ideas is another story Should you get involved in a co-op or support group What sports teams or social opportunities are available Are you going to be able to work those opportunities into the family schedule Take it easy. As opportunities come you can decide what is best for each child. Don t put yourself under pressure to do everything. There is nothing wrong with your children spending quiet thinking time at home that can be a super creative time for children and teens. Now that school is about to begin have you thought about how you will schedule your day What about lesson plans Have you thumbed through your so-far-empty teacher plan book and wondered what to put down For starters use a pencil and keep it simple. If you re using textbooks or workbooks begin by setting yearly and semester goals and then divide the book accordingly. From that point on you can plan one week at a time. That s not too much to erase or move over to the next week if life interrupts your pre-planned teaching schedule. Are you feeling the need to clear the clutter and get organized Maybe you d like to reach out to The FlyLady to do a clean sweep of the entire house. Is there a teaching space you haven t had time to pull together Did you plan on having a bookcase but haven t been able to find the right one The ideal is always nice but often unattainable. What s important is that you have a designated space. That can be anywhere you decide--the dining room table the den couch or a converted bedroom. Work with what you have right now and gradually make the changes you want. It s ALL OKAY Everyone has a first year. Start where you are. Don t wait until everything is perfect--it never will be because we re all real people in real families with different challenges. Remember you re not alone--you re joining thousands of like-minded parents across the country who are also taking off on their first-year s trip Hang on--it s going to be lots of work but it can be the journey of a lifetime HEAV is here to help Call our office at 804-278-9200 Monday-Friday between 10 a.m. and 4 p.m. Our experienced office staff and counselors will be happy to respond to your questions and offer you words of encouragement Virginia Department of Education Home-Schooled Students and Religious Exemption 2014-2015 Statistical Report www.doe.virginia. gov statistics_reports enrollment home_school_religious_exempt 6 THE VIRGINIA HOME EDUCATOR FALL 2015 THE VIRGINIA HOME EDUCATOR WWW.HEAV.ORG 7 NEW TESTING OPTION IMPLEMENTED Since July 1 2015 parents of high school homeschoolers have an additional option for providing evidence of progress. They may provide a score from the ACT SAT or PSAT test that is equal to the 4th stanine on a standardized achievement test. A parent may submit the results of an ACT SAT or PSAT test administered at any time during the school year. Although the ACT SAT and PSAT report may not provide stanine scores percentile scores are usually reported. According to the Virginia Department of Education students with a composite score at or above the 24th percentile on the ACT SAT or PSAT will meet the requirement for academic achievement. CHANGES IN ACT DATA ANALYSIS The ACT is moving into new territory--analyzing college admission data. Beginning this September students will not receive the same ACT reporting documents that colleges will receive--documents that include information regarding projections for success. Information will be analyzed to project the likelihood by percentage that the student will receive a B or better in his major or specific areas of study. It will also project by percentage the likelihood of the student receiving a C or better in the same courses. The ACT will analyze student potential based on demographic information provided by the student along with scores and historical data from the college. Students may want to be careful when providing detailed information in order to prevent being labeled a potentially unsuccessful student before having an opportunity to prove otherwise. FEDERAL IMMUNIZATION MANDATES INTRODUCED The Vaccinate All Children Act of 2015 H. R. 2232 was introduced in Congress by Representative Frederica Wilson (D-Florida) on May 1. If passed this federal legislation will impact parents rights to make immunization decisions for their children. In its present form the bill is limited to public elementary and public secondary school students. Immunization policy for public school students has always been left to individual states. If passed this legislation would completely remove parental involvement in immunization decisions and set the vaccination schedule for all public school children. Neither religious nor secular exemptions would be allowed. Medical exemptions requested by physicians would require approval from the individual in charge of the health program at the student s school. At the present time this legislation does not directly affect homeschoolers but it could be amended to include ALL children or stronger legislation could be created. H. R. 2232 has been assigned to a subcommittee with no committee action so far. You can call or write your congressional representative and express Co-ops established around the Southeast Reduced shipping & Quantity Discounts Call or email for co-op locations. Also visit our website for online store special offers and free cooking class videos. 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TEACHING LICENSE RENEWAL CHANGES License renewal requirements have changed for all teachers including certified teachers who homeschool under the certified tutor statute 22.1-254(A) or the homeschool statute 22.1-254.1(A)(ii). As of July 1 2015 those holding a teaching license will NOT be required to take a college or university course to renew a Board of Education teaching license. Teachers will still need to complete 180 professional development points and other renewal requirements as described in the License Renewal Manual. (Superintendent s Memo 156-15 June 26 2015) VIRTUAL VIRGINIA EXPANSION Beginning this fall the Virginia Department of Education (VDOE) will pilot a full-time online high school program for up to 100 students. The program previously provided fifty-four Advanced Placement (AP) and elective courses to students who did not have access to particular courses. It will now include an additional fourteen high school courses and lead to a standard or advanced public school diploma. Students in the program will be enrolled in their local public high school and receive online instruction and grades from Virtual Virginia instructors. Virtual Virginia is not homeschooling--it is not parent-controlled education. Parents cannot choose the appropriate curriculum based on their teen s interests and future goals they cannot choose curriculum with content that is consistent with their family values and they will not have the flexibility to pursue special interests. Virtual Virginia students will be required to meet the Standards of Learning (SOL) requirements and must take SOL tests. VISIT TO YOUR LEGISLATOR Now is a great time to visit your state legislators and make yourself known as a homeschool constituent. If legislators know homeschoolers personally they are more likely to support homeschool legislation during the General Assembly session. It s good for legislators to know that homeschoolers are typical families who care about their children. The only difference is our choice in education. Legislators are now in their district offices so you won t need to travel far. You can call and speak to their assistants to schedule a short appointment. Thank them for their service and ask if they have any questions about homeschooling that you can answer. If appropriate you could offer to help with their next election campaign. Also invite your legislators to speak at your support group or co-op meeting. They are glad to visit their constituents and share information about how state government works. Be sure to include a Q&A session at the end of the presentation. This makes a great civics lesson for parents and students alike Not sure who represents you in the Virginia General Assembly Go to http and you ll find contact information. A CHAMPION IS MORE THAN A VICTOR -- a champion is an advocate and a defender. FIND YOUR PLACE AS A CHAMPION AT LIBERTY UNIVERSITY SCHOOL OF LAW. Liberty teaches law from a distinctively Christian worldview which is very different from other law schools. I was looking for a school that taught natural law and recognized where the law comes from as well as how it affects us today as attorneys. Legal Director Liberty Center for Law and Policy -- Mark Trammell 12 Mark uses his education to advocate for religious liberty protect the sanctity of life and preserve the biblical view of marriage. LawAdmissions (434) 592-5300 Law HEAV THE VIRGINIA HOME EDUCATOR WWW.HEAV.ORG 9 DragonImages LOVING WAYWARD CHILDREN EVEN WHEN YOU DON T APPROVE OF THEIR BEHAVIOR PHIL WALDREP THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN TWO PRODIGALS There were two fathers whose families attended the same church in Tennessee. Both had daughters who ended up pregnant in high school. The first dad Joe reacted to his daughter s news with great anger. He denounced her for shaming him and then he kicked her out of the house and told her not to return. The other dad Frank was the pastor of their church. Six months after Joe s daughter announced her pregnancy Frank found out his own daughter was pregnant. He told her he would stand by her and provide whatever assistance she needed. He didn t approve of her behavior and he even thought he might lose his church over it but he told her she would always be his daughter and he would always love her. Guess which daughter is walking with God today Joe s daughter is lonely bitter and has experienced several failed marriages. She feels far away from her father who is still ashamed of her and far away from God as well. Frank s daughter is a vibrant Christian who has a wonderful ministry to unwed mothers. Love and bitterness are both incredibly powerful. One has the power to heal the other has the power to kill. Parents of prodigals are challenged to respond like the father of the prodigal in Luke 15 with unconditional love. We don t have to approve of the prodigals behavior but we affirm that we love them no matter what they ve done and continue to do. WHY DON T WE LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY Embarrassment Many parents are terribly embarrassed by their prodigals. Sometimes after I talk about this parents tell me I don t understand. They explain in whispers that their child is a homosexual...or in prison...or living with another woman...or whatever. Then they follow this revelation with the self-evident disclosure And I am so embarrassed. 10 THE VIRGINIA HOME EDUCATOR FALL 2015 Let me make this very clear Just because your child is living in sin you have no right to love him or her less. Unconditional love means we love our children for who they are--not what they have done. Did God insist that you and I straighten up before He loved us Paul tells us clearly But God demonstrates His own love toward us in that while we were still sinners Christ died for us (Romans 5 8 NKJV). While we were still sinners. Do you think Jesus loving actions meant that He approved of our sins Of course not but Jesus didn t demand that we stop sinning before He loved us. If He had we would be in terrible shape. Bitterness A second reason we may fail to love our prodigals is because we become angry with them for acting so foolishly. Our anger gradually turns to resentment and resentment festers into bitterness. The writer to the Hebrews recognized the threat that bitterness poses to relationships Follow peace with all men and holiness without which no man shall see the Lord Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you and thereby many be defiled (Hebrews 12 14-15). Bitterness prevents any closure or healing of pain. It leaves us desiring revenge instead of healing and compassion. We may not think of our angry behavior as revenge but that s exactly what it is when we gossip about our prodigal when we withdraw from her when we find subtle ways of hurting him by giving a better gift to the good child or when we feel joy when the prodigal experiences hardships. We call it justice when he gets what we think he deserves but revenge is a more accurate term. Self-Protection A third reason we fail to love our prodigals is that we have developed a habit of living at arm s length from them. In the beginning we tried everything we knew to do to help them change. When that didn t work we felt resigned to a degree of JESUS DIDN T DEMAND THAT WE STOP SINNING BEFORE HE LOVED US. coolness and distance in the relationship. We avoided talking about the real hurts and problems because they were just too painful. And besides discussions about those things only brought more anger and discouragement. It was easier just to back off. You may struggle with bitterness and you may be embarrassed by your prodigal s behavior but love covers a multitude of sins--yours and your prodigal s. Let me give you some specific steps to take to begin to show a deeper level of love. STEPS TO TAKE BE HONEST WITH GOD. If the Holy Spirit has let you know that your attitudes words and actions have been unkind toward your prodigal agree with Him. Maybe your sin is that you have failed to love your prodigal with the unconditional love of Christ. All of us have failed that supreme test to some degree but some of us have failed it miserably. Let God s Spirit shine His light on your heart and give you insight about the quality and depth of your love for your prodigal. Ask God to open your heart to comprehend His love more deeply than you ve ever known it before. Focus on your own experience of agape love before you try to express it to your prodigal. GIVE A BLESSING. In their excellent book The Blessing John Trent and Gary Smalley outline the ways the patriarchs gave blessings to their children. They suggest that all parents can give a blessing to their children that will provide confidence hope and strength. I want to adapt their suggestions for parents of prodigals. We can give our sons and daughters a blessing by offering affirming words meaningful touch third-party compliments meaningful gifts and quality time. Affirming Words What we think influences what we say. Analyze your thoughts to determine if they honor God and edify the person who hears them. If they meet that standard keep on thinking them If not replace them with positive thoughts. Many of us think we have no control over our minds but that simply isn t true. We are stewards of our minds just as much as we are of our wallets and schedules. You can t expect to speak words of grace if all your thoughts condemn a person. The battle is fought primarily in our thought-life. Fight hard trust God and win the battle. Look for things your prodigal does well. You may have to look hard to find something positive to say and you may have gotten out of practice after years of bitterness. But learn again how to find and speak affirming words. If you practice diligently and trust God for wisdom they ll come. Be sure you don t go overboard when you start using affirming words. If you say too much too soon it will sound phony. It is better to say a word or two sincerely. When you begin expect nothing in return. Your prodigal may be caught off guard and might even get angry because you waited so long to say things he longed to hear years ago. He may have even given up on hearing them and will feel uncomfortable when you do express yourself. So speak simply and sparingly and with complete honesty. Meaningful Touch Physical touch is one of the most powerful ways to communicate love to someone. A kind hug or a pat on the back can mean more than you know to one who considers himself an outcast. In families that hug a lot not hugging a prodigal communicates that he is cast out unwanted and unaccepted. So in your attempt to reconcile you may need to ask for permission to hug him again. Don t despair if he refuses out of his deep hurt. Your attempt is the first step toward opening the door to meaningful interaction Blue Ridge Cabin Rentals 1 2&3 BR Find Your Truly Restful Getaway at Request Information Packet download Insider Secrets to Exploring Central Virginia or Check Availability (540) 943-8552 THE VIRGINIA HOME EDUCATOR WWW.HEAV.ORG 11 including hugging again when the time is right. In the families who never tended to hug much try a pat on the hand or the back or simply a handshake. Third-party Compliments Have you ever noticed how children beam with delight and pride when their parents tell a friend about their accomplishments in their presence Third-party compliments are powerful when wanting to assure someone you are sincere in your appreciation. Tell a friend neighbor or family member what you admire about your prodigal. If he s standing there fine if not maybe he will hear about it later. Either way you are sowing seeds of kindness and confidence. Who knows when and where they will spring up and bloom Meaningful gifts Some of us have used gifts as attempts to manipulate wayward family members. We have given in order to get something or we have withheld gifts to make a point or to punish them. Some of us have given our prodigals audiotapes on topics such as How to Turn Your Life Around Stop Being Foolish or Repent You Prodigal If you re guilty of such giving stop. Instead think about what the person values and give a present that says I understand what s important to you and I love you. Consider giving a present at a time that doesn t require one. The gift doesn t have to be expensive at all just something thoughtful. Quality time Some parents manage to spend lots of time in the proximity of their prodigals--perhaps taking care of their kids or helping out in some other indirect way. Other parents have been so angry so long that they have lost touch with their prodigal sons and daughters. If your relationship is distant and strained begin by writing letters. Later try some phone calls and as the comfort level rises for both of you consider face-to-face visits. Make the first personal visit very brief and positive. As your relationship is strengthened you can begin to spend more time together. TAKE THE RISK OF LOVING. The kind of love Jesus speaks of in Luke 6 is risky. He instructs us to give sacrificially expecting nothing in return. If we harbor hopes that our prodigals will change magically we will probably be very disappointed. Genuine love always involves risk the risk that we won t be appreciated the risk that we will receive anger in return for kindness or the risk that as we move toward our prodigals they will move farther away. We also take the risk that others will criticize us if we display unconditional love toward a prodigal. Their scorn toward the prodigal quickly spreads to anyone who supports him or her. We need to remember that Jesus took a lot of flak from the Pharisees for showing kindness to sinners. If you show love to your prodigal you may catch flak too. But God s heart was big enough to forgive sinners so should ours be. The risk of loving is always a risk worth taking. Jesus took that risk with every person on the planet. Some embrace His offer of love but many more reject Him. Yet no matter how we respond He keeps reaching out again and again. He is the example we should follow in our relationships with those to whom we desperately want to communicate love and peace. Adapted from Phil Waldrep s book Parenting Prodigals. Used with permission. 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I m so tired of dealing with the same issues and attitudes again and again. It seems all of my efforts aren t going anywhere. I m ready to give up God. Right at that moment when I was feeling exhausted spent and at my wits end a still small voice spoke to my heart and asked What if I had given up on you My mind immediately was flooded with so many examples of times when I stubbornly refused to follow where God was leading. When I went my own way even though I knew it was the wrong way. Yet when I least deserved it God extended His grace toward me. When I failed Him He didn t fail or forsake me. When I made a complete mess of things He didn t stop loving me. He s had every reason to give up on me as I ve bumbled stumbled grumbled and fumbled my way through life. But He hasn t given up on me. I left my closet with a renewed appreciation for how much my Lord loves me and a renewed dedication to keep loving my difficult child in the same way my Heavenly Father has loved me. This child is still struggling and there are still moments that I feel like throwing in the towel but the Lord continues to whisper to me I didn t give up on you and it gives me hope and strength to press on in this rough season of mothering. Crystal Paine is a child of God homeschool graduate wife to Jesse homeschool mom of three founder of and author of the New York Times bestseller Say Goodbye to Survival Mode. If you missed her at the recent convention you can still order an MP3 of her talks THE VIRGINIA HOME EDUCATOR WWW.HEAV.ORG 13 REMEMBER WHAT HE READS DIANNE CRAFT MA CNHP bokan O ne of the most puzzling situations in which a homeschooling mother finds herself is when she has a child who can read the words in a book but cannot answer the questions or tell her what has just been read. These moms frequently hear the phrase I don t remember when queried about the reading material. CONVERTING WORDS TO PICTURES When a child or teenager regularly reads a passage well but can t remember what is said we know that he is using an inefficient strategy for comprehension. He often is trying to remember exact words rather than converting the words into pictures as the rest of us do when we read. Word calling (remembering exact words) is a left-brain auditory task while creating a picture or movie of those words is the responsibility of the right-brain hemisphere. Whether a person is reading for recreation or information he must change the words he reads into images in his mind. The more these images involve the senses (sight sound smell feel) the greater will be the comprehension of the passage. WHETHER A PERSON IS READING FOR RECREATION OR INFORMATION HE MUST CHANGE THE WORDS HE READS INTO IMAGES IN HIS MIND. DAILY TRAINING SESSIONS Movie making is a skill that can be developed using an easy fifteen-minute-a day exercise. This exercise does not involve paper or pencil but only the use of the brain. You can very easily show a child how to create a seamless flow of words to pictures as he is reading and you will be surprised how fast his comprehension skills improve after just a few weeks. This method works well with just one child or with a group of children or teenagers. STEP1 14 PARENT READS A PASSAGE ALOUD Choose material to read to the child that is interesting and very descriptive. Standing in front of him as you read have THE VIRGINIA HOME EDUCATOR FALL 2015 the child sit upright and keep his eyes upward creating a movie in his mind. You can pretend that you are looking at the projection screen in a movie theatre to further aid him in his movie making. Read a sentence or two aloud. Then ask him a few questions until you are sure he is seeing detailed pictures of the words you read. For example this is how your training session might look if you are reading a passage about a beaver Your first sentence may be The beaver is the largest rodent in North America. Stop reading point to the imaginary screen and say On our screen let s draw a quick sketch of North America. Now put the beaver on that map. Your next sentence in this passage will read An adult beaver weighs from thirty-five to seventy pounds. Stop reading and point up to the imaginary screen and say Now use the zoom lens of your brain camera and write 35-70 on the beaver s coat. Let s use white paint to do this. Is your paint dripping Oh well he ll wash it off soon. The next sentence in the text will be Because of its large lungs a beaver can remain submerged in water for fifteen minutes. Stop reading look up at the screen and help the child see this in his head by saying Now we need to change our scene. Let s make a picture of a pond with beavers around it. Do you see it on your screen Now have one of the beavers slip into the pond. See him down on the bottom of the pond Picture a large clock next to him. Have the hands of the clock move from 12 00 to 12 15. As you do this training instruct your child how to move his pictures and freeze them when he wants to notice something. You both will have great fun with this When you get to the end of a passage you re reading instruct your child to rewind the movie to answer some questions about the passage. As you ask the questions direct his gaze upward as he reviews his movie for the answers. This is the exciting part. Your child will be amazed at how easy it is to answer the questions. STEP 2 STEP 3 THE STUDENT READS ALOUD TO YOU After your child has demonstrated proficiency in converting words to pictures as he hears them he is ready to read the words himself while creating his movie. Select a reading passage that is easy for him to read so that he can concentrate on making pictures rather than sounding out new words. Repeat the process you used before stopping him after he has read a sentence or two to ask him some questions about his movie. Direct his gaze upward to see what he just read. Be sure he gives you detailed pictures. As this becomes easier and more accurate for him you can increase the number of sentences he reads before you ask questions. THE STUDENT READS SILENTLY When your child is successfully reading aloud while making good pictures in his mind you can have him read a passage silently asking him to stop every few lines or so to tell you about the pictures he has made. If the pictures are detailed and accurate you can have him read to the end of the passage uninterrupted. At the end of the reading have him rewind his film and tell you all that he has read. You will be surprised at the things he remembers His words to pictures process will soon become automatic. The upward eye movement will soon be unnecessary for the storage and retrieval of reading material. Remember No pictures no answers Few pictures few answers Great pictures great answers. This strategy is simple but very effective. Expect to see great changes in the comprehension and retention of reading material in your children. Dianne Craft has a master s degree in learning disabilities. For a demonstration of the Right Brain Reading Comprehension Daily Training Session see her Teaching the Right Brain Child DVD. To learn more about Dysgraphia and how to correct it at home see her DVD Smart Kids Who Hate to Write. To learn more about how to help your child with Dyslexia see her Brain Integration Therapy Manual. Visit her website for many articles on children and learning and to download her FREE daily lesson plans for the struggling reader and writer. E-mail Dianne short questions at craft THE VIRGINIA HOME EDUCATOR WWW.HEAV.ORG 15 biblical values classical approach unmatched apprenticeships impacting culture for Christ patrick henry college PLANNING THE PERFECT MICHAEL GRICE baibaz O nce upon a time a homeschool student went to her mother wanting to make a cake to take to an enrichment class. Mom thought this was a great idea. But it would be much more than just a cake--this would be a chance to learn They began by researching the history of cakes. Beginning with Neolithic cultures they eventually moved onto the Greek and Roman era ancient European civilizations and finally into the modern-day traditions. Mom was getting excited. The student was not. Two months had passed. Next came the types of cakes. It turns out there are five basic types. Now five is such a simple number but when you consider the various combinations of ingredients you soon realize there are actually thousands of recipes. Thousands is a large number. Winter came. And passed. At last they settled on the cake they would make. Red velvet. Red velvet. Such a deceptively simple sounding name isn t it Until you come to that tricky first ingredient cocoa powder. Do you know just how much there is to learn about cocoa powder The student does. Now. Unfortunately the second ingredient was just as bad. Red food coloring. This led to all sorts of studies like the visible-color spectrum the red-dye 3 scare of the early 1990 s and the attraction of hummingbirds to the color red. There was a brief hope for cake success except for two setbacks. The first was when Mom discovered that red beets were used as a color substitution during the early 1940 s. This led to a slight detour in studies better known to most as World War II. The second setback came when the school year ended. Having rested over the summer Mom and child poured new energy into the cake project that September. Mom thought it would be best if they started light. So they began with the recipe s urban legends which took them from the Waldorf-Astoria Hotel in New York to Canada. All in all not a bad start. 1 to 4 Years Behind in Reading Make a Two-Year Leap in One Year Using A Totally Di erent Approach to Reading Right Brain Reading Package Become Your Child s Own Reading Specialist Brain Integration Therapy Right Brain Teaching Strategies Daily Reading Lesson Plans Discounted Price Colored Reading Transparencies Make THIS the year your struggling reader actually breaks through the reading barrier No rules No writing No memorization Even the student s interest revived when they looked at Red Velvet Cake in Popular Culture. Mom always did like that Steel Magnolias movie. And episode twenty-one in season three of Grey s Anatomy --where the various choices for a wedding cake were explored--was one of the student s favorites. Common ground had been found. The subject of salt proved no match for this duo. And vanilla A breeze. Now truthfully that one could have been tricky. But disaster was avoided when Mom decided they could skip the history of Madagascar where most vanilla comes from. She did however require a digression to cover geography and a study of the rain forest. After all what s another week Flour. Sugar. Shortening. Hope was in sight. There wasn t even snow on the ground yet. Then came the egg. Or more importantly that nagging philosophical question Which came first the chicken or the egg Together they poured through books online resources and DVDs. Providence even smiled on them with a guest lecture by a traveling philosopher. They did it all. By the way their efforts paid off. They did once and for all answer that question. But it s not central to my story here so I will leave that part out. It looked like the cake was close to being made. But two sinister forces conspired against them. First the homeschool student was getting ready to graduate. This called for drastic action. It was decided that the cake project would become the cake served at graduation. Euphoria broke out. Then that other obstacle arose. Baking soda. Do you realize how many kitchen experiments can be done with baking soda Even if you cut that number in half there just was not enough time left. But Mom was determined there would be a cake for her baby s graduation day. Two days beforehand she ordered one. The cake was a success. Michael Grice is HEAV s webmaster. He and his wife Nancy have been digressing during the homeschooling of their five children since 1992. He writes from Virginia Beach. 17 For use with teenagers adolescents and young children. You re not alone. Email questions to craft Dianne Craft is president of Child Diagnostics Inc. Denver CO THE VIRGINIA HOME EDUCATOR WWW.HEAV.ORG JOIN HEAV TODAY MONA PITTMAN MS ED. 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