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HERLIFE MAGAZINE FEBRUARY 2016 BEAUTY SHOW OFF YOUR NEW SPARKLE FINE THINGS FINANCE FEBRUARY 2016 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM WEDDING TRADITIONS YOUR WEDDING BUDGET WHAT S MISSING 2016 BRIDAL ISSUE LAUREN DICAPO WE SAVED KANSAS CITY HOME OWNERS OVER 549 172 IN REAL ESTATE FEES FOR 1 995 Listing on local listing services & national Licensed Broker Agents Pro Active Marketing Evaluation of home value Showings conducted by agents LIST YOUR HOUSE Assistance with contracts Yard Sign Professional photography Lock box for showings Negotiation support THE EXPERTISE OF OUR AGENTS CAN HELP YOU SAVE MONEY TOO BUYING info NEW WORLD REALTY 7535 W. 160TH ST. OVERLAND PARK KS 66085 Licensed agents in Kansas and Missouri. On all listings there is a required buyers agent commission in addition to the 1 995. The calculations on savings were based upon the assumption of a 6% listing fee. 913-534-8686 10 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE FEATURES A Storybook Wedding Lauren DiCapo Lauren DiCapo and Luke Marvine married on a perfect fall day in November with a ceremony and reception that will always be memorable for the love and attention to detail that fills their relationship. You ll be inspired by their story and delighted by their creative ideas. 34 16 20 20 24 42 46 Welcome From the publisher 74 89 The Gown Gallery Trendsetter Love songs & romance Staff Picks Trends to avoid on your wedding day Fashion Blog The Therapy House Therapeutic massage and pain resolution Spotlight 100 Events around town Scene & Be Seen Leawood Village Cleaners Attention to detail creates loyal clientele Spotlight Lynne Weilert Leawood Counseling Center Spotlight 114 116 120 Jenny Matthews Just Sayin Complex relationships Ask the Expert Kelsey & Steven Tie the Knot 57 Ask the Expert 60 Cravings Addressing child psychiatry questions Watts of Love Leaving no one in darkness after sunset Helping Hands 122 Grand Street Calendar of events In the City 12 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE DEPARTMENTS 68 30 Health Seeing a rainbow of numbers 40 Beauty Show off your new sparkle 58 Culinary Pop-up dining 66 Recipes Strawberry shortcake scones Kahlua-hazelnut chocolate truffles 30 68 Wine Dolce vita sweet life 70 Book Club The Marriage of Opposites By Alice Hoffman 72 Mother s Perspective Blended families 82 Green Living A sustainable way of living 84 Fine Things Wedding traditions 92 Working Women Boost your career 94 Finance Your wedding budget What s missing 84 96 Real Estate New mortgage forms and timelines 104 Home Hers his home 108 Pets Flying with your fur friends 110 Travel Romantic honeymoon destinations 124 Star Journeys February horoscopes 14 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 104 110 HERLIFE WELCOME My heart is full February is the month of love as we celebrate Valentine s Day and the beginning of wedding season it s the perfect time to express your love and admiration to your significant other. I feel it is also a time to reflect on loved ones around us be it be a spouse family friends or kids. I love Valentine s Day because it focuses my attention on the people whom I love my husband my kids my family and friends. I joke with my six- and three-year-olds about the holiday because I know I won t be their only Valentine forever so I will hold onto these years while I can. I also instill in them that their love extends beyond their mom and dad and encompasses grandparents and others around them. Now that the major holidays are behind us we will use this month to reflect on those who fill our hearts. My family just took our annual trip. This year we went to the Bahamas and memories were made that will last a lifetime. This trip meant more to me this year than years prior because our kids are at an age when they will remember it forever. I can never erase the images from my memory or my heart that came from this year s trip. Carter learned to swim by himself albeit not very far but he thought he was the king of the world. Quade spent most of every day swimming in the pool with a beautiful beach yards away but he took in every minute with a smile on his face eager to learn the tricks the big kids were doing. Brooklyn swam with the dolphins and she will never forget the baby dolphin that stole her heart. They got to island hop on a boat something many will never get to do in their lifetime but something they will never forget. The smiles on their faces filled my heart every day that we were on vacation. I will hold on to those memories those feelings and those days when we were surrounded by loved ones and had nothing to worry about or do but take in the fresh salt air and the breeze off the ocean. I couldn t feel more love than I do now and I m so honored to have the love of someone we call Nana to fill my heart with memories that we will always hold close. I wish you all a loving Valentine s Day and I will spend the day reflecting on how full my heart is with those around me. Cherish it Tammy Crystal McDonald HERLIFEMagazine instagram herlifemagazinekc twitter herlifemagkc pinterest herlifemagazine 16 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Staff & Contacts Publisher Editor Office Manager Art Director Advertising Art Director Advertising Tammy Crystal McDonald Marilyn Isaminger Kathy Carreira Janet Crouch Elana Bell Michelle Carder michelle (816) 516-9888 Gretchen Hayes gretchen (913) 787-4812 Contributing Authors Melody Bussey Lisa Taranto Butler Lisa Chism Patty Cook Terri Clinton Dichiser Hope E. Ferguson Stephanie Fox Marilyn Isaminger Carrie Rowlands Johnson Dr. Poonam Khanna Melissa Haines Lavin Laura Leiva Jenny Matthews Cindy McDermott Linda R. 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It is available in selected specialty stores doctor and dental offices medical spas hair and nail salons tanning salons public libraries and numerous other high traffic locations. Please call for a location near you or if you would like copies placed at your business. We do not necessarily endorse the views expressed in the articles and advertisements nor are we responsible for the products and services advertised. We welcome your ideas articles and feedback. 18 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE READERS PICKS Heroes by David Bowie Rebecca Schult I m Gonna Be (500 Miles) by The Proclaimers Laura Fletcher Let s Stay Together by Al Green Irene Hughes No One by Alicia Keys Tricia Oppold Wolf The love songs that express deep emotions longing excitement joy sometimes convey best the feelings we share this month. From classic Beatles hand-holding to pledges of walking a thousand miles we find melodies and lyrics that resonate within our relationships. HERLIFE readers and staff have shared some of their favorites and we re sure you all have ones you love. Winner of the Gasligh t Grill giveawa y Angel Eyes by The Jeff Healy Band Amy Keith Waiting for You by Richard Marx Michael Aaron Schriber I Will Always Love You by Whitney Houston Jackie Reynolds I Know What Love Is All About by Anthony Hamilton Taukia Askew A Woman A Lover A Friend by Jackie Wilson Lauren - Photographer A Thousand Years by Christina Perri. Cyndi - Art Director Forever My Friend by Ray Lamontagne Gretchen - Advertising Sales Run by George Strait. Heather - Photographer HERLIFEMagazine instagram herlifemagazinekc twitter herlifemagkc Thinking Out Loud by Ed Sheeran Kathy - Office Manager 20 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE FASHION BLOG photography by heather morrow Seven makeup trends to avoid on your wedding day by shimika kennison Every bride wants to look her absolute best on her big day. Here are seven makeup trends brides should avoid on their wedding day. 5. Letting your bridesmaids go without 1. Wearing sparkles and glitter They can catch the light or camera flash and create hot spots and stars in photos. Instead opt for an eyeshadow finish that is satiny and luminous. 2. Wearing too dark or Kardashian eyes They can make your eyes look small and or look messy. Who doesn t want perfect smoky eyes like Kim Kardashian What we don t see is her personal makeup artist following her around touching her eyes up every 30 minutes to prevent raccoon eyes. If sultry is what you re going for then choose shadows in medium shades such as light gray or soft browns. 3. Coordinating your shadow with your wedding colors Unless it s an 80s-themed wedding don t do it. It will not be flattering and is unnecessary. If you MUST coordinate use colors sparingly. Pick one feature and go with it. You also want to make sure the color works well with your skin tone. 4. Choosing the wrong color of foundation Your face and neck should blend so use a foundation that is your exact skin tone to eliminate the obvious two-tone appearance of foundation. The best method of choosing the correct foundation color is to test a section on your neck right below your chin. The foundation should disappear without having to blend at all. If you are going to be tanning before your wedding match your foundation after you have tanned to your desired color. Remember looking good doesn t necessarily mean wearing a lot of makeup. Beauty starts from the inside out and the right makeup artist for your wedding makeup will enhance what s naturally there. So find a makeup artist you trust to get your face picture ready and make you happy. HLM 7. Not feeling like you look like yourself on your wedding day In order to look beautiful you need to feel beautiful so having a trial run of your wedding day look before the big day is important. This gives you the opportunity to see how you will look but to also make changes if necessary so you are comfortable with what you re wearing. 6. Using J Lo bronzer Bronzer is meant to mimic where the sun would naturally kiss your face down the bridge of nose across the forehead tip of chin and high-est part of cheeks. It is not meant to be worn over every inch of your face to look like a tan. Choose a bronzer that is matte and use sparingly. makeup Every woman whose picture will be taken needs to have makeup on. Period. It brings color to your face covers imperfections and makes you look better in photos. Shimika Kennison Shimika Kennison started her career in the beauty industry in 2002. In just a few short years her talents have been showcased in People CBS Survivor Guatemala Finale the Regis & Kelly Show Tony Danza Show The CBS Morning Show and Miss USA. She traveled to NYC for 2014 Spring Summer season s fashion week and traveled to London where her work was showcased to thousands. She also provided her makeup talents for Fox Sports during the 2015 World Series in Kansas City. Shimika is dedicated to staying involved in the community. She started Lily Jolie Skincare & Cosmetics which focuses on creating natural skincare and makeup with anti-aging properties for women who suffer with autoimmune issues and sensitive skin. She is Vice President of Quickstart The Eddie Kennison Foundation and an ambassador for the Alliance for Lupus Research. D 22 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE SCENE AND BE SEEN Aestheticare Med Spa holiday open house W hen the Aestheticare Med Spa office is filled with holiday cheer smiling faces and even Santa himself you know it s holiday party time Favorites in the house included lululemon athletica Leawood Lily Dawson Designs Drew Six Success Meals KC SmallCakes Cupcakery and Be The Match. Aestheticare Med Spa appreciates everyone who joined in the festivities especially all who donated to our favorite charity Rose Brooks Center. HLM p h o to s p rov i d e d by a l l i so n tay l o r 24 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE SCENE AND BE SEEN Plank for a Purpose at Fusion Fitness T hey say it s better to give than receive and they are right Fusion Fitness at Mission Farms was the location for the Plank for Bo contest and these darling kids gave their all Kids 12 and younger planked to win a Lorenzo Cain signed baseball and those 13 and older held on in competition for a Fusion gift card. Donations benefited Variety the Children s Charity and helped a five-year-old boy called Super Bo get a diabetes dog Visit to learn more. HLM p h o to s p rov i d e d by a l l i so n tay l o r 26 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE SCENE AND BE SEEN New Year s Eve at Power & Light T 28 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM housands of partygoers rang in 2016 at the Power & Light District s annual NYE Live Bash in the Kansas City Live Block. The party featured a live band DJ s exclusive access at 10 venues a Champagne toast and the city s most anticipated countdown to midnight complete with a Times Square ball drop. HLM p h o to s p rov i d e d by d a n i e l we l c h & p a tri c k b i n de r HERLIFE HEALTH seems to be increasing. This could be due to an actual increase in the condition or an increase in self-reports generated by greater public awareness. People with developmental synesthesia are called synesthetes and typically report having the condition since childhood. They generally cannot provide an explanation of how or when they may have learned to associate the experiences. More common in women than in men synesthesia is often hereditary and although it can occur later in life adult onset synesthesia is rare. Left-handed people tend to be more synesthetic than right handed folks but the reason for this has not been clearly determined. Often synesthetics have excellent memories but may experience difficulty with math or navigation. Synesthetes may see sounds taste words or feel a sensation on their skin when they smell certain scents. Some who possess what researchers call conceptual synesthesia see abstract concepts such as units of time or mathematical processes as shapes projected either internally or in the space around them. And many synesthetes experience more than one form of the condition. by l i sa taranto butler Although the condition is being researched more now than ever no one really knows what goes on in the synesthetic brain. One explanation is that the region of the brain that normally receiving information from the ears also gets some information from the eyes. It is also likely that neural pathways allow cross-talking between two different sense centers in the brain and this causes the condition. Synesthesia is extremely individualized it doesn t occur the same way in the people it Seeing a rainbow of numbers Valerie has known something was different about her ever since she could remember. As a child she would tell teachers the gender of letters and numbers and recalls getting curious looks. She also would tell family or friends that a certain song sounded like winter or that the number four was yellow. She didn t realize what she was experiencing until years later when she began researching her symptoms. Valerie has synesthesia a rare neurological condition in which the senses are crossed. S ynesthesia is a perceptual condition in which the stimulation of one sense triggers an automatic involuntary experi- ence in another sense. Its name derives from the Greek meaning to perceive together. Synesthesia has many varieties and can occur between just about any combination of senses or cognitive pathways. Approximately 1 in 25 000 people are affected by synesthesia although the number of cases 30 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM affects. In fact it takes on many different forms since it involves various parts of the human brain. It can range from tasting colors to smelling sounds. Some of the most common forms of synesthesia are described below. Grapheme-color aynesthesia In the most common type people see or hear words in color. A person who experiences this may associate or see individual letters or numbers with a specific color. Usually two people won t report the same color for letters and numbers. However many synesthetes will see some letters the same way for example A is likely to be red. Number-dorm synesthesia A number form is essentially a mental map that consists of numbers. When a person with number-form synesthesia thinks about numbers a number map is involuntarily visualized. It is sometimes suggested that the number forms are a product of cross-activation between regions in the parietal lobe a part of the brain that is involved in numerical and special cognition. Personification In this form also known as ordinal-linguistic personification or OLP an individual will associate ordered sequences with various personalities. Ordered sequences may include numbers letters months and so on. For example a person with OLP may look at the letter A and think that A is a rude letter while other synesthetes may feel the same letter conveys HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 31 happiness or loneliness. In addition to feeling that some numbers have a personality a synesthete may also perceive a personality from an object. Lexical-gustatory synesthesia Lexical-gustatory synesthesia is a rare form of this condition. For people who experience this kind of synesthesia hearing certain words or phonemes evokes different tastes. According to research the tastes experienced by synesthetes with this form of the condition are flavors they experienced early in life. Do you relate to synesthesia If you re reading this and some of the symptoms or issues of synesthesia seem familiar you may want to take a simple ten-question quiz at test-yourself to help get answers. Although the test isn t official it may provide a better understanding of whether your experiences are synesthetic in nature. Many of us may feel sorry for people like Valerie. How can someone walk around all day with various colors shapes and sensations bombarding them Isn t that burdensome Perhaps but in most instances synesthetes find their condition enjoyable and not an interference with normal life. In fact some pity non-synesthetes for having what the synesthetes consider one-dimensional sensory perceptions and not being able to see the world as they do. HLM 32 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE INSPIRATIONS 34 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM L A U R E N D I C A P O written by cindy mcdermott photographs by tracy routh cover hair & makeup by bechic bride FRIENDS FOR MANY YEARS BECAME A COUPLE FOR LIFE WHEN 31-YEAR-OLD LUKE MARVINE AND 28-YEAR-OLD LAUREN DICAPO WERE MARRIED ON NOVEMBER 7 2015 IN KANSAS CITY. My best friend is Luke s cousin so we ve known each other since we were in college. During the years we spent time around each other at college sporting events Chiefs games during summers in Kansas City and even on a few vacations revealed Lauren. But it wasn t until Easter weekend of 2012 while I was visiting from Arizona where I was living at the time that we realized we had feelings beyond just friendship. morning helping him set up a charity event at Zona Rosa remembered Lauren. But after driving past Zona Rosa I realized there was no charity event. We were headed to the airport where we would fly to Chicago. Although I was completely unprepared I had about ten minutes to get ready that morning I couldn t help but think he was going to propose. The couple landed in Chicago taking the train into the city and spent the day shopping at Lauren s favorite stores. After an insane amount of shopping we had lunch on the top of the John Hancock building which is not something we would normally do she laughed. I had to assume it was going to happen then but it didn t. SPECIAL BEGINNINGS During the time she was in town from Arizona Luke took Lauren on their first date to dinner at Grunauer Restaurant in the Crossroads Arts District. Then it was onto an adventure at Sea Life because as Lauren puts it Luke s a big aquarium person. Eventually that first date grew into a relationship spanning nearly two years with the couple engaged for more than 12 months before tying the knot. During that time Lauren had moved back to Kansas City and secured a job in medical sales with a company out of St. Louis. Luke is on the management team of Midwest Distributors-MillerCoors. Luke s management skills were certainly called into play when it came to devising his elaborate strategy on popping the question to Lauren. The day started with a charitable diversion to keep her guessing about when the proposal might come. Luke had asked me a few months prior to October 11 if I would be willing to spend that Saturday ANOTHER SURPRISE TO FOLLOW When lunch was over Luke rushed her to a spa day complete with mani pedi blow out and make up. Once we were done there Luke didn t tell me what was planned next. I was even more confused when he walked us back to the train heading to the airport to fly home she recalled. At that point although the day was beyond amazing I had psyched myself out of thinking we were getting engaged. However when they arrived home in Kansas City and changed to dine out Luke took a detour to the World War I Liberty Memorial which was restored with the help of Lauren s grandfather. It was there that he finally got down on one knee and asked her to marry him. After accepting HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 35 The wedding was held at the Jarvis Hunt room at Union Station on November 27 2015 performed by Rabbi Stuart Davis. Eight bridesmaids and a junior bridesmaid made up the wedding party along with Luke s eight groomsmen. Luke s niece filled the role of flower girl and the ring bearer was Luke s nephew. his proposal Lauren began calling family members to share the news. I called every single family member with no answer stated Lauren. So I headed to dinner with my best friend her husband and Luke. When we arrived at Anton s Taproom Restaurant I walked into a giant surprise party planned by Luke with all of my friends and family. Everyone in the family was at the dinner waiting for us. I couldn t have dreamed of a better day. PREPARING THE PERFECT DAY With the engagement in place now it was Lauren s turn to call upon her management skills and plan the wedding. She enlisted Christine Darden to help her through the huge planning task. She s amazing and she kept me on task. She s energetic positive and a great person to have not only the day of the wedding but also through the entire process she noted. Of course my mom played huge role in the planning as well. Overall not a detail missed. As for her gorgeous wedding gown Lauren s family assisted in the decision-making process. My sister lives in Beverly Hills and she wanted to be a part of the process of selecting my gown she remembered. My matron of honor sister mom and I flew to Beverly Hills and went to every bridal store there. I wound up with this one which was actually a dress that I had tried on in Kansas City but in a different color. I topped it off with a gray and white mink capelet from Alaskan Fur. The wedding was held at the Jarvis Hunt room at Union Station on November 27 2015 performed by Rabbi Stuart Davis. Eight bridesmaids and a junior bridesmaid made up the wedding party along with Luke s eight groomsmen. Luke s niece filled the role of flower girl and the ring bearer was Luke s nephew. We also had Luke s other nephews walk down with signs that said This is your last chance to run Uncle Luke and Here Comes Your Bride laughed Lauren. A beautiful chuppa a canopy under which a couple stands during their Jewish wedding ceremony was covered in vines and flowers. More flowers in various shades of light pinks and white with just a touch of green lined the entire aisle. The bridal party walked down to Somewhere Only We Know by Lilly Allen and the acoustic version of Isn t She Lovely by Stevie Wonder heralded Lauren down the aisle. 36 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM LUSH AND CREATIVE WEDDING RECEPTION Our reception was the most beautiful thing I have ever seen. We rented the other side of The Guild which is normally a photo studio for our cocktail hour remarked Lauren. We draped the entire space and our florist Dan Meiners created a giant chandelier that immediately caught everyone s attention when they walked in. Lounge areas and two bars accommodated our guests with walking appetizers being offered. On the other side of the reception was The Guild s ballroom which was closed until cocktail hour ended at 7 00 p.m. Guests were greeted with umbrellas of flowers on every table hundreds of candles and very dim lighting. In one corner of the room an amazing candy table with Italian cookies was showered in light pink and gold candles. It sported tree branches laced with cotton candy. Four food stations featuring Italian American Mexican or finger foods such as small sandwiches meatballs cheeses and more were offered to their guests. Menus were on each place setting to give them an idea of what foods were at the different stations. It was buffet style but with a twist noted Lauren. The various food stations were the ideas of my family. We re big foodies so we decided to offer this setup to everyone. Later in the evening snacks from Grinders Luke s favorite plus snow cones and fresh cotton candy on sticks arrived for the guests. The idea originated with Lauren s mother based on themes of the circus and baseball. Besides Lauren readily admits she s the biggest candy person in the world. While the couple s first dance was to Baby I m Yours by the Arctic Monkeys the newlyweds followed Jewish tradition HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 37 and later in the evening were hoisted onto chairs during the Havah Nagilah. Lauren s uncle and her grandfather sang it to them. She recalls that she wasn t scared being lifted into the air although Luke did manage to slide off his chair but with no injuries. REMEMBERING WHAT S IMPORTANT While her big day was absolutely glorious she offers a bit of advice for those planning their own wedding and reception. On your day don t stress the small stuff because it really doesn t matter. Just appreciate every part of the day. Take in every moment it goes by so fast she added. I m glad I was able to see the reception area before everyone else went in and I was grateful to have that moment with my husband. The honeymoon has not yet occurred because the young couple has been so focused on house hunting. For the last two years they ve called a condo next to Union Station home but now they re looking for a house in the Kansas City area. We re at opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to picking a honeymoon spot. I m thinking Hawaii because I m a beach person but he s thinking Iceland she laughed. But the house is the biggest thing we want to accomplish right now. Down the line we definitely want children but the most important thing is that we want to enjoy being together. HLM 38 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 39 HERLIFE BEAUTY Exfoliate your skin weekly Do you exfoliate your skin diligently but often forget to give your hands a good rubdown The skin on your hands tends to be very thin and delicate which makes it even more important to remove dry skin patches and keep them looking healthy and soft just the way you want when you re showing off that sparkly ring. There are numerous sugar scrub products you can purchase at your favorite retail store or you can make simple sugar scrubs at home to smooth and deeply hydrate skin. Mix a few drops of olive oil with sugar to create a paste then massage the scrub into your skin. The olive oil hydrates skin and cuticles while the sugar gently exfoliates dry skin cells away for youthful and fresh-looking hands. Hydrate frequently Dry skin doesn t just feel bad. You don t want to detract from your beautiful new engagement ring by having patchy or rough skin. Hydrate your hands throughout the day with a rich lotion especially during the winter Show off your new sparkle An engagement is one of the most exciting times in your life You re getting ready to plan a wedding to the love of your life and you have a gorgeous new ring on your hand. When it comes to sharing your engagement news you need to be ready for the enviable request that always seems to follow Let me see your ring months when skin is prone to even more drying and cracking as a result of cold and dry temperatures. Look for a hydrating lotion containing deeply moisturizing oils such as jojoba or avocado oil grape seed oil and olive oil are other good options. When you want an ultrahydrating treatment apply a liberal layer of cream to the hands and use glamour gloves to seal in the moisture during a deep treatment. by l a u r a leiva A s beautiful as your ring is the last thing you want to do is present your hand to your friends and family and have dry skin Don t forget cuticles While you want to pay attention to the skin on your hands don t forget cuticles The skin around your nails tends to dry out quickly and become peeling or jagged two things you don t want accompanying your new ring. A deep or cuticles. Here are some tips for putting your best hand forward and showcasing that beautiful new stone friends and family are eager to see. 40 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM WHILE YOU WANT TO pay attention to the skin on your hands don t forget cuticles The skin around your nails tends to dry out quickly and become peeling or jagged two things you don t want accompanying your new ring. hydrating hand treatment is perfect for skin and cuticles but make sure to also hydrate the cuticles throughout the day. Simple things such as washing dishes or bathing can quickly dry out skin and cuticles. Use a cuticle oil pen throughout the day to offer a healthy dose of nourishing hydration to the cuticles the oil will also keep nails healthy and gleaming. Stash the cuticle pen or oil drops in your purse or office desk to treat the skin every few hours. Highlight with polish Just as we often choose a nail polish color to match a season or special occasion certain polish colors look especially beautiful with various metals and stone settings. If you re getting ready to share the big news with friends and family take your engagement photos or just show your new ring off on social media it s always a good idea to find the right nail polish hue to complement your stunning ring. Here are a few stylish options to consider during your next visit to the nail spa. Apple red Go for the classic and elegant candy apple red when you want a timeless look. A vibrant red nail polish complements rose gold rings and gives the overall look one of Hollywood glamour and sophistication. If you have an Art Deco-style ring or a vintage-inspired piece classic red polish is a beautiful option. Sheer pink Let your ring make the statement by choosing a sheer pink or nude polish. These hues look beautiful with a yellow gold ring and they dress up your nails without taking all eyes off the timeless style of the engagement ring. A sheer pink polish looks flattering on all skin types and gives nails that classic and healthy appearance. Natural or nude A solitaire engagement ring makes all the statement you need Opt for a nude or neutral shade to keep all the focus on the stone. When you want an overall clean and simple look a neutral nail polish on a beautifully groomed hand complements the ring without distracting attention from it. Getting engaged is wonderful and showing off the ring is part of the excitement Take care of your hands and nails with a few simple steps and everyone is sure to be impressed with your ring as well as your beautiful supple hands. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 41 HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT D Lynne Weilert Licensed therapist at Leawood Counseling Center 42 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM A MULTI-FACETED Lynne Weilert of Leawood Counseling Center RELATIONSHIPS wr it t en by c indy mc d er m o tt p h o to gra p h s by l a u re n f ri sc h p u sa te ri APPROACH FOR F ebruary is known as the month of love. But what if it seems Cupid s arrows are tipped with unhappiness bitterness and distrust for your relationship To see you through your woes talk with Lynne Weilert a licensed ther- INFLUENCE OF TECHNOLOGY Lynne advises that you put away your smartphones or computers and take time to think about things reflect on the day and learn how to manage technology appropriately. Take the time to interact on a more personal level or you ll miss out on important information which can impair a healthy relationship with your spouse and children she states. Many individuals have successfully used the Internet to reach out to others and start new relationships. But Lynne advises caution. Be careful to look beyond the superficial and really get to know the people you meet on line. Making the wrong choice can end up being a disaster for you and or your children. apist at Leawood Counseling Center to provide helpful guidance to see you through those tough times. Every couple has issues to work out noted Lynne. But good communication is the most important tool to employ to help you make positive changes. If you do that you ll have a greater chance to enjoy a healthier long-term relationship. LEARNING HEALTHY COMMUNICATION SKILLS She also points to an individual s willingness to compromise and accept adversity in life to make the best of a difficult situation. A positive approach is critical in achieving a healthy relationship. If both parties are willing to grow those characteristics then chances for success are solid. With Lynne s guidance many couples find that learning to manage conflict in a healthy way is very beneficial to their relationship. The bulk of the issues Lynne helps clients through include financial disagreements an extramarital affair alcohol abuse child rearing and problems with in-laws. She s also observing a big increase in the negativity that technology overload can bring to a relationship. Instagram emails from work Facebook Twitter. Keeping up with them is like having another job because we re constantly checking our phones trying to stay in touch with everyone commented Lynne. Many aren t paying attention to their personal connections because of this obsession with the Internet. Children are too busy texting to participate in family discussions and that s not healthy. MEETING CONFIDENTIALLY When couples come to her Lynne will normally begin the process by seeing each person separately because clients are usually more willing to be open about themselves and their relationship. After the initial assessment is made she will see both of them together. It s up to the couple but whatever the situation it s important they realize I cannot take sides stated Lynne. I stay neutral and offer ideas and various professional approaches to each of them that will help them understand their differences and work to find common ground. Lynne s office within the Leawood Counseling Center 11100 Ash Street Suite 100 offers a very comfortable environment for her clients that s relaxing and most importantly all discussions held there are confidential. She encourages clients to feel safe in sharing thoughts voicing concerns and exploring new ways to think about the challenges life brings and the choices they make. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 43 RECOGNIZING COMPATIBILITY Lynne can help you explore your options grow realistic expectations and look past the notion of the perfect companion. Rarely do they exist but some people set their expectations so high they never find the right person she commented. I help clients determine the human qualities that will bring them long-term happiness such as ethical behavior a sense of empathy a willingness to compromise similar opinions on child raising religion and saving or spending money. I recommend avoiding individuals who are controlling difficult or abusive who possess destructive or addictive behaviors or who seem to lack a moral compass. People who have characteristics of desirability or wealth but lack the human qualities needed for a healthy long-term relationship are a recipe for disaster. If Cupid s arrows seem to be missing their mark contact Lynne at the Leawood Counseling Center. She ll point you in the right direction and help you build a healthy loving relationship. In addition Lynne feels it is important to stay current on various treatment strategies and she frequently attends professional training seminars to enable her to provide the best possible service for her clients. She also offers special rates for students and seniors. Lynne also works with individuals seeking help for depression anxiety PTSD bi-polar disorder a serious personal or family health crisis grief and loss workplace or adult bullying assertiveness training and many other personal or mental health concerns. HLM For an appointment call Lynne at 913-221-1038 and visit her website at Your first visit is complimentary. 44 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 45 HERLIFE ASK THE EXPERT tionships will be for 20 30 40 or more years. Often one partner says we can figure this out and don t need to talk with a stranger about our problems. These are complex interactions that need wisdom and we need to seek out the best knowledge to achieve an ideal relationship. You receive no formal training about intimate relationships. Before problems arise I encourage couples to do annual marital check-ups around their anniversary. Just like your physical and dental health the more proactive you are the higher likelihood of success and reducing major crisis. You go to a doctor with health issues so don t treat the most important relationship in your life with avoidance or only the few tools you know. Q. We argue. Does that suggest we are not meant for each other A. As human beings our experiences and brains our different. We have different fears needs and wants. Human relationships are very complex and conflict will occur. Avoiding conflict does not mean there is no conflict. It is important to figure out how to address the conflict instead of letting damaging patterns develop and continue. You can both learn ways to discuss and address your partner s needs. Learn how to be accessible responsive and engaged with each other. Based on our relationship history and negative interactions with our partner we often have difficulty with trust and expressing our emotions to our partner. Relationships go through different stages. In the beginning of a relationship we have positive changes in our body and hormones and less conflict. Over time the body goes back to normal. Couples then need to learn how to create long-lasting attached love. This requires work as does anything in life. This relationship work demonstrates our commitment and investment and does not mean that we are not in love or picked the wrong person. Complex relationships Q. We are intelligent. Why can t we figure out our relationship difficulties ourselves A. In a comprehensive 75-year study the Harvard Grant Study found there are two pillars of happiness. The first is love and the other is finding a way of coping with life that does not push love away. Your intimate relationship is the single biggest investment that is the most impacting in your life. We live longer than ever and our rela- Terri Clinton Dichiser MA JD LCPC is president of Take Charge Inc. She believes in the power of collaborating with clients to help them achieve their goals for a fulfilling life and has helped thousands of individuals and couples figure out their path including pre-marriage marriage counseling separation divorce and blended families. She also works with individuals living with depression anxiety and hopelessness. A former attorney professor and executive director of the Mediation Center Terri works with attorneys and other professionals in collaborative divorce cases and co-parenting cases as needed. She is certified by the Whole Health Medicine Institute founded by Dr. Lissa Rankin author of Mind Over Medicine and The Fear Cure. Contact Terri at 913-239-8255 or 46 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 47 2016 Resources Bridal You get one chance to make a lifelong memory at your wedding and HERLIFE shares fresh eye-catching products and services with you. Our specialty vendors will make your one-of-a-kind wedding day incredible with a wide variety of options in attire floral caterers venues photographers and more Top 3 Women and An Oven Congratulations You re engaged and ready to start planning the big day. Now that one big decision is followed by so many others... reception flowers music. At 3 Women and an Oven we d love to be a part of your celebration with a beautiful one-of-a-kind cake creation that represents everything about YOU. Our professional bakers ensure that you will have everything on your special day just as you envision. Our designs are hand made by our award-winning cake artists. 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Sullivan s Steakhouse offers the perfect venue if you are celebrating a special occasion for a large or small group and are looking for a lively intimate setting. Sullivan s offers a variety of private and semiprivate dining and reception spaces perfectly suited for any occasion. Let Sullivan s host your rehearsal dinner bridal shower bachelorette parties and more. Sullivan s provides a romantic atmosphere custom menus featuring our finest steak and seafood and our personalized beverage service. Our dedicated sales and event planner Stephanie Chiles will help you plan and personalize your event so that you and your guests can enjoy a truly special time leaving a lasting impression on your guests. Get started planning your upcoming event by contacting Stephanie at schiles Visit our website at for a preview of what you can expect. Sullivan s in Leawood offers an experience you won t soon forget. We look forward to exceeding your expectations Sullivan s Steakhouse is located in Town Center Crossing across the street from Town Center Plaza on the southeast corner of 119th and Roe. 4501 119th Street Leawood KS 66209 913.345.0800 SPECIAL ADVERTISING SECTION HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 49 Top Bridal Resources Crews Jewelry Something old something new something borrowed something blue. Crews Jewelry is a family owned and operated jewelry store serving the community since 1971. Our experienced staff is on hand to help customers mark memorable occasions in their lives. Specializing in bridal remounts and custom designs. Crews Jewlery turns your family heirlooms into something new that will last forever In addition to offering personally selected fine jewelry we provide jewelry and watch repair pearl restringing engraving and appraisals. Turning customers into friends and family for over 45 years Classic Catering From simple to extravagant Classic Catering is proud to produce events designed uniquely for the bride and groom. Producing perfectly polished plates succulent hors d oeuvres and beautiful buffets is our delight. We use superior food purveyors and locally sourced breads meats and produce to create our custom mouthwatering menus. Classic Catering is consistently recognized as one of the best wedding caterers in Kansas City by The Knot and Wedding Wire. Our Culinary and Service Staff would be honored to be a part of this most important occasion providing you with a lifetime of memories on your special day. 13003 13th Street Grandview Missouri 64030 816.763.9666 9112 Cody Street Overland Park Kansas 66214 913.492.2632 50 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM SPECIAL ADVERTISING SECTION The Journey Home Wedding Retreat and Event Venue The Journey Home is the premier place for a weekend wedding event in Kansas City. The 1800 s renovated colonial home acreage and tobacco barn provide the perfect place to hold a relaxing weekend wedding event. Arrive on Friday with time to decorate relax and enjoy your rehearsal and dinner. Then spend the evening around the firepit sharing memories of your relationship with family and friends. You have the entire day on Saturday to prepare for the event and then a beautiful home to enjoy overnight before leaving for your honeymoon on Sunday. No hurrying no worrying. Close to the city and the airport yet far away from responsibilities. You rent the entire home and grounds which includes a library two fireplaces large kitchen sunroom four bathrooms and has a total of 21 beds. The gourmet kitchen in The Journey home boasts two full size refrigerators two ovens two stoves and is available for your full use. You can completely relax in one of several outdoor seating areas. The wide-open lawn between the home and barn provides the perfect place for any outdoor wedding activities. The antique tobacco barn is stunning with or without added d cor. We are open to vendors so you can create the wedding of your dreams. You can be sure that you will make memories that will last a lifetime. Dearborn Missouri 816.501.6350 SPECIAL ADVERTISING SECTION HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 51 Top Bridal Resources Zuzu s Petals Our creative experts at Zuzu s Petals can help you complete your wedding look with bracelets necklaces and earrings for the bride and the bridal party. You ll find the perfect jewelry that you and your bridal party will love to wear on your wedding day and for years to come. We have an extensive selection of Mariana Clara Beau and La Vie Parisienne to suit your individual style and pocketbook. 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We ensure each gown fits perfectly since Mia herself does all alteration fittings. Mia Dohrman owner of Mia s Bridal & Tailoring has been a tailor for over 35 years. Her beginnings were humble. At her downtown Olathe alterations business nearly 20 years ago she found herself altering many formal gowns particularly bridal and prom attire. She had an idea to provide the Olathe area a personalized wedding boutique with prom dresses and bridal wear. Through much determination Mia s Bridal & Tailoring was born in 1996. Five years later Mia s Bridal moved to the Crossroads shopping center in East Olathe. The focus shifted toward bridal attire and emphasizing men s formalwear. In September 2013 Mia s Bridal moved to a free-standing building at Kansas City Road and Renner Blvd. permitting convenience for customers and keeping the business deeply rooted in the Olathe community. At Mia s Bridal our focus is always on the customer. We believe you don t have to spend a fortune to receive top-notch service. We re excited for 2016 our 20th year in the bridal business. More importantly we re excited to be a part of one of the most important days in the lives of our customers. We look forward to being a part of your bridal experience 2235 E Kansas City Road Olathe KS 66061 913.764.9114 SPECIAL ADVERTISING SECTION HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 53 Top Bridal Resources roadshows LET US BRING THE PARTY TO YOU Ernie Biggs Roadshows Ernie Biggs Roadshows is the perfect entertainment choice for weddings. It is unique and memorable. We offer multiple 5 hour customized packages which include pre-recorded background music for cocktail hour dinners dances (1st father daughter) and a live interactive piano show. DJ s available with some packages. 305-546-5312 frisbee Photo by Healther Brulez We re just here to make it extraordinary It s Your Occasion... Whatever your special event may be a fundraiser a birthday party a business event and of course the most special event of your life A WEDDING we are passionate about making it the event of your dreams. In just over 4 short years Town Square has served as host to countless weddings and receptions parties showers and rehearsal dinners. Every event is different than the last and we are always excited to see it come together. Town Square is a beautifully restored two-story building located on the Historic Park Square in the heart of Paola Kansas. The moment you arrive you can t help but feel the warmth and charm of the space while the gorgeous hardwood floors exposed brick walls and tin stamped ceilings take you back through history the amenities we offer make you and your guests feel right at home. 15 West Wea Paola Kansas 913.827.2005 54 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM SPECIAL ADVERTISING SECTION Dr. Levi. Young Every bride wants to look her best on her perfect day. 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The better we look. 11620 Metcalf Ave Overland Park KS 66210 913.491.4861 56 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM SPECIAL ADVERTISING SECTION HERLIFE ASK THE EXPERT Addressing child psychiatry questions Q. I am 15 years old and for the last couple of months well-versed in ADHD. Often there are other things that may mimic symptoms of ADHD but have a different etiology and are not ADHD-related. I have had issues with not being able to pay attention in my classes. I am easily distracted and don t feel that I am Q. My 8-year-old son needs to see a psychiatrist. Should present when others are talking to me. Does this mean I take him to mine or should he specifically see a Child & that I may have attention deficit disorder Adolescent Psychiatrist A. There are three specific features of attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) that can impact one s functioning and ability to learn A. There is a significant shortage of Child and Adolescent Psychiatrists inattention hyperactivity and impulsivity. Thus the three presentations of ADHD combined-type predominantly inattentive-type and predominantly hyperactive-impulsive-type. Those with ADHD may have difficulty with listening getting distracted easily forgetfulness losing things making careless mistakes excessive motoric activity restlessness fidgetiness excessive talkativeness interrupting others or blurting out without thinking. However symptomatology begins early in childhood. There are consistent patterns that usually come to light at home and in the school from an early age. If you have concerns it is important that you be evaluated by a professional in the US. However if you have the ability to access a Child Psychiatrist for your son that is what I would recommend. C&A Psychiatrists have two years of additional fellowship training beyond their residency. This allows us to have the specialization needed to evaluate and treat children throughout their development and to have expertise in the medications that are used in children. Certain medications dosages and treatments are not appropriate to use in children though they may be used in adults and there are others that are warranted. Often times C&A Psychiatrists are also board certified in General Psychiatry and see adults as well. Dr. Poonam Khanna founded Minds That Matter in Overland Park Kansas to better serve the needs of the community. She was on faculty at The University of Kansas Medical Center for many years before that and continues there as voluntary faculty. She has also been an Assistant Professor at KCUMB. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 57 HERLIFE CULINARY to those hosting the dinners. Confirmation would be given on short notice with no guarantees. The dinners were held in private homes illegally in that they were unlicensed and no taxes were paid. This business model proved unsustainable. One vibrant club enrollment was the Wordpress website of The Ghetto Gourmet. A visit to the site today about two years later notes that it no longer holds events. Scroll to the bottom of the page and you ll see why a Health Department form states You are hereby ordered to cease and desist from selling food to the public. But this unique social dining experience was so popular that it evolved into yet another trend. If you think about the people who frequented secret supper clubs in the early 2000s it s likely that many of them were born before 1980. Now young diners with disposable income were likely born before 1990. If you consider how much technology has changed between 2000 and today it s no surprise to learn that technology has helped supper clubs morph into pop-up dining experiences. Today s 20-somethings are likely to view email as archaic and they see Facebook as something only old people enjoy. Browsing the web I found a Twitter account for the Cleveland Dinner Club that offered links for upcoming events with a Doodle poll for diners to choose regular vegetarian or gluten-free entrees. Some pop-up events such as Dinner Lab Inc. depend on patrons signing up online to receive information via email. by pa t t y cook Who are the people most likely to be patrons of pop-up dinners Statistics show that they are primarily women age 18 to 34 with disposable income in the range that allows them to spend 100 or more at these events on a regular basis. More than half of them eat out at least twice a week and nearly half report attending pop-up dining experiences at least four times a year. They also tend to be the organizers in their social circle serving as administrators who succeed in getting others to join them in the social experience. What are the venues being used by chefs in this social dining experience The events have moved from pay-as-you-go dinners in homes to prepaid tickets that are a bit more commercial. Pop-up dining I recently had a pleasant surprise in the day s mail a coupon for a restaurant near our home. Their specialty Down-home Southern fried chicken dinners with all the fixings. I order carryout dinner there about twice a year. Our guilty pleasure of comfort food is satisfied yet our kitchen remains clean which is a win-win. As I filed it away I wondered how soon will coupons in the mail be considered quaint and outdated A couple of years ago this column took a look at the trend of secret supper clubs. That concept was promoted in the early 2000s and a couple in Portland Oregon were credited with launching it. Michael Hebb and Naomi Pomeroy opened their home by invitation only to diners willing to pay a fee for a meal prepared by an up-and-coming chef. It wasn t just about the food there was also the component of the social interaction when people came together to enjoy something that was not available to the general public. Secret supper clubs evolved around technology with prospective diners sending emails 58 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Locations are often off the beaten path in abandoned warehouses for example. Worldwide pop-up experiences range from ten-seat diners in Portland to beaches in England houses in France and picnics in Canada. Music lovers can attend BYOH (bring your own headset) pop-ups that pair courses with music that enhances the meal. One can travel the world with tours such as those offered by Outstanding in the Field where diners enjoy a sense of community with farmers ranchers and vintners during long-table meals in settings ranging from farms and vineyards to rooftops. How do chefs choose to establish pop-up dinners They often have a vision sometimes bringing together local food providers with diners to create a social farm-to-table experience. Some chefs enjoy being able to showcase the foods they are passionate about without the stress of running a full-time restaurant. Still others use events to increase awareness for a cause. WastED New York designs a meal focused on food waste. Chef Dan Barber turns fish heads cast-off vegetables and stale bread into memorable meals priced at 15 a plate. One word of warning about pop-up dining regulations. If an event has bypassed laws regarding food preparation consumers could be at risk for food-borne illness. Chefs patrons and local government can work together to craft reasonable regulations that ensure this dynamic entrepreneurial experience will continue to evolve. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 59 HERLIFE CRAVINGS 60 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Grand Street s t or y by l i sa c h i sm p h o to s p rov i d e d by gra n d stre e t c a f A Family Favorite for Special Events Celebrates 25 Years A hhh...February. The season of love. It s a good thing our hearts are warm because winter in Kansas City can be a brutal thing. And wind Located off Renner Road the newest Grand Street Caf has an enviable location. As you enter the parking lot you can t miss their rounded fa ade. And the nearby covered parking garage is a nice treat especially on rainy days. You ll be surprised when you enter. This isn t your average place. You might find yourself second guessing if you re still in Lenexa or if you ve suddenly clicked your heels like Dorothy and somehow landed somewhere a bit more trendy than Kansas. Impressive mirrors blue and silver tones and a sunken bar area give this place the allure of a four-star restaurant in a much larger city. Owners Kristi and Rick Ghilardi have a put a lot into this concept. Not only is the restaurant a great place for regular dining but the Lenexa location has three private rooms that each seat 14 22 or 100 persons. So whether you are hosting a small wedding or a large business meeting this restaurant has the banquet space to elegantly impress your guests. The space is very reasonably priced and is a great option for brides on a budget. For hosts needing more space the Plaza location s Grand Room can occupy up to 300 persons with two full bars and a spacious dance floor. The Plaza location celebrates its silver anniversary in business this year and it also boasts a three-level parking garage underneath the building so parking is never an issue. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 61 chills of below zero in January were enough to make this girl hibernate for a while. But with the promise of spring on the horizon I have an extra bounce in my step and an urge to explore beyond the bubble of my own little suburban nest. One of my favorite Plaza restaurants has always been Grand Street Caf . Reliable food and service accessible parking and a great ambiance make this an old standby kind of like curling up with your favorite blanket on a chilly day. My husband and I have celebrated more than one anniversary here and it s a frequent destination for couples for wedding receptions rehearsal dinners and bridal luncheons. Grand Street Caf stands out as an independently owned and quality choice for business or personal dining. Whether it s having lunch with coworkers or something more special with loved ones they excel at having a menu to please everyone and service that is above par. There is a sea of options when choosing special event space in a city as large as Kansas City. But when you start breaking it down the number of restaurants that can comfortably accommodate a large crowd is really quite small. Grand Street Caf has two locations now one in Kansas City on the Plaza and their two-year-old location in Lenexa. Grand Street Caf introduces guests to something a bit more classy but not in a pretentious or stuffy way. The open feel of the formal banquet spaces is very refreshing. With round white-linen-draped tables your guests will be able to comfortably mingle as they dine on an assortment of dishes customized by you. Choices include plated and buffet options for breakfasts brunch lunch or dinner. Bar packages are also available so that you can limit alcohol consumption of guests if desired and remain within your budget. Grand Street Caf also rocks a Sunday brunch. Guests get to choose one main entr e plus make a run through a buffet line of salads saut ed vegetables shrimp and assorted pastries. Kids can do the same for a smaller price. Don t just settle for black coffee. They have an impressive selection of fresh-squeezed juices specialty coffee drinks mimosas and other drink items to complement the food. For 25 years locally owned Grand Street Caf has been a Kansas City favorite for its modern American cuisine. The food is simple and elegant. Paired with the upscale d cor of the newly opened Lenexa location or the classic tones of the Plaza original an experience at Grand Street Caf is a dining experience you will remember. HLM Grand Street Caf of Lenexa is located at 8815 Renner Road 913-601-3500 and in Kansas City at 4740 Grand Avenue 816-561-8000 Lisa Chism is a freelance writer and photographer specializing in food and restaurant work. She also handles marketing PR and social media for a number of clients through her company Creative Communications She teaches fitness classes part-time and enjoys activities with her busy family in suburban Kansas City. 62 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM McLain s Bakery andCoffeehouse st or y by lis a chis m p hot os p r ov id ed by m c lain s b a ke r y Nothing quite invigorates the senses like walking into a bakery. There is just something about walking into a traditional bakery with the cases lined with goodies that makes you feel like a kid again. Fresh buttery rolls giant cookies sugary icing it s almost too much for the eyes to comprehend. One of my favorite Kansas City bakeries has always been McLain s. Reliable baked goods such as their well-known chocolate cup cookies (think pecan sandie cookie with a huge dollop of chocolate frosting in the center) service at the counter accessible parking and a great ambiance make this an old standby. Those cookies were loved so much in my family that we had them at my wedding reception in addition to our wedding cake. My dad grew up nearby in this neighborhood of cute bungalow houses. And while the original Waldo location that began in 1945 moved in 2011 to the corner of Grand and Gregory the newer owners have maintained tradition. So just like the nostalgic homes you pass by on your way there when you walk in you are greeted by the old McLain s signage on the wall. I love that the focus is on freshness here. Everything is made from scratch. From elaborate wedding cakes to the original McLain s pastries they do it all. Recently the bakery has added a superb line of breakfast sandwiches and a full-service coffee bar. The space is also available for private rental for meetings and small events. Biting into baked goodness from McLain s evokes a lot of strong memories for many in Kansas City. I am so glad this tradition is being carried forward to delight generations of families to come. HLM Visit McLain s Bakery and Coffeehouse at 201 E. Gregory in Kansas City Missouri call 816-523-9911 or visit Hours are Tuesday through Friday 7 00 a.m. to 4 00 p.m. Saturday 7 00 a.m. to 1 00 p.m. and Sunday 8 00 a.m. to 1 00 p.m. closed Monday. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 63 HERLIFE FOODIES Celebrating fine food and drink HERLIFE is proud to share with you some of our favorite local eateries Whether you crave something sweet or savory we guarantee you ll find something to please your palate. HLM Paulo and Bill 16501 Midland Drive Shawnee KS 913.962.9900 Established in 1996 Paulo and Bill Restaurant offers a comfortable friendly atmosphere a festive bar and most important a made-from-scratch menu. There s something for everyone on our menu handcut steaks fresh seafood salads wood-fired pizzas and our own uniquely flavored Italian dishes. We offer reservations and catering services. We hope to serve you soon Chez Elle Creperie and Coffeehouse 1713 Summit Street Kansas City MO 816.471.2616 Chez Elle Creperie and Coffeehouse is a welcoming cafe serving fresh crepes robust coffees and friendly smiles. We start with only the freshest hand selected fruits vegetables meats cheeses and our made from scratch batters. You can see and enjoy your meal as we create our crepes right in front of you The Grille at Park Place 5270 W 116th Pl Leawood KS 66211 (913) 766-0920 The Grille at Park Place is a contemporary American dining experience. The neighborhood feel and traditional menu favorites makes The Grille at Park Place a true lunch and dinner destination. Be sure and check out The Rooftop at The Grille with lounge seating and a retractable roof to enjoy your evening over a Rooftop menu and drinks. Sullivan s Steakhouse 4501 W. 119th Street Leawood KS 913.345.0800 Every Thursday and Sunday Sullivan s is the place to be for a swingin good time. Enjoy live music and great happy hour features. All night we feature 7 signature cocktails select wines and bar entrees. Come join the party in our lounge and patio Mama Resch s A Gluten-Free Bakery 12635 Metcalf Avenue Overland Park KS 913.213.5355 Mama Resch s is a gluten-free and allergen friendly bakery. We bake from scratch daily and specialize in hand-crafted small batch breads and gourmet sweets and treats. Our products are free from gluten dairy corn soy peanuts and tree nuts. No artificial colors or preservatives. Welcome to the gluten free revolution Crazy Good Eats 16695 W. 151st Street Olathe KS 913.905.2744 The sweet aromas of barbecue fill the air at the corner of 151st Street and Mur-Len in Olathe as Crazy Good Eats BBQ smokes its signature burnt ends ribs and more. Known for its award-winning barbecue on the circuit and in the restaurant this familyfriendly restaurant also is wowing KC brides with an elegant sophisticated menu and hands-on consulting. 64 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 65 HERLIFE RECIPES Strawberry shortcake scones Makes 12 Prep time 20 minutes Cook time 18 minutes Ingredients 2 cups all-purpose flour 1 tablespoon baking powder 3 tablespoons granulated sugar teaspoon salt 6 tablespoons chilled unsalted butter cut into 1 4-inch cubes 12 strawberries hulled and diced cup half and half For the glaze 3 cups powdered sugar cup half and half teaspoon vanilla Directions Preheat oven to 425 degrees F. Line a baking sheet with parchment paper. In a large bowl combine flour baking powder sugar and salt. Add butter and cut in with a pastry blender until mixture resembles crumbs. Toss in strawberries and coat lightly. Add half and half and fold together gently until the mixture just begins to form a soft dough. Do not knead or over mix the dough. Turn out onto a floured surface and pat into a 1-inch thick rectangle. With a sharp knife cut into 6 squares then cut the squares on the diagonal to form 12 triangles. Place on baking sheet and bake 16-18 minutes or until cooked through and golden. Place a cooling rack over a sheet of parchment. Remove scones from pan to rack cool about 10 minutes. Make glaze by whisking together ingredients until smooth. Drizzle scones with the glaze and enjoy HLM recipes and p hot ogr ap hy by b elly 66 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Kahlua-hazelnut chocolate truffles Makes 20 Prep time 20 minutes Ingredients 5 ounces dark chocolate chips 3 tablespoons Nutella 2 tablespoons Kahl a 1 tablespoon light-colored corn syrup teaspoon vanilla dash of salt 1 3 cup finely chopped toasted hazelnuts Directions In a medium-sized microwave safe bowl combine all ingredients except the hazelnuts. Melt the mixture in 30-second intervals stirring in between until combined and smooth. Stir in the chopped hazelnuts. Let cool for a minute or so. Using a small cookie scoop form single tablespoons of the mixture and knead with your hands until they stay together. Roll into balls. Keep in an airtight container at room temperate for up to 2 days or refrigerated for up to 2 weeks. HLM recipes and p hot ogr ap hy by b elly HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 67 HERLIFE WINE on the vine past regular harvest are good possibilities for dessert wine Rieslings chardonnays and viogniers make lovely late harvest dessert wines but they also have a food-friendly function when bottled as regular still wines. Why is the alcohol level of the wine important During fermentation the alcohol levels rise. Higher sugar content in the grapes when they re harvested generally results in higher levels of alcohol. Table wines range from 9 to 11 percent alcohol by volume. White wines and red wines with moderate levels of alcohol will pair well with meals and not overpower the palate with alcohol. Recently however these levels have been increasing even in the cabernet sauvignons malbecs syrahs and zinfandels often landing in the 15 to 16 percent range which affects their companionship with food. White wines such as chardonnay and sauvignon blanc have retained their usual levels under 12 percent making them very food friendly. Nevertheless the rising alcohol levels have spurred many discussions on the subject of properly classifying today s wine offerings for the consumer s discernment. Ports and dessert wines are a great way by mel i ss a haines lavin to enhance your meal or holiday gathering. Due to the density of flavor and alcohol ports and dessert wines are often served in cordial glasses or snifters rather than a standard wine glass. Because fortified wines have the additional enhancement of brandy in the fermentation process the intense sweetness of port can make it a dessert of its own but it s often paired with dense rich and intensely sweet chocolates and desserts. Port although fortified is aged as is any other red wine. The styles of tawny and ruby port differ Dolce vita sweet life Blame it on Cupid or fabled stories of love spurred by magical chocolates and sweets It s the time of year when jewelry stores chocolatiers and wineries pair their wine offerings with truffles bittersweet bits and items dipped in various confections with dessert wines and ports. A lthough February tends to have the calendar focus for these pairings they have thrived for centuries. Enjoying a sweet bit of libation around mealtime is a tradition for many cultures whether it s a cream Sherry after dinner or the more food-friendly Riesling served with or without a meal. Typical dessert wines contain at least 14 percent alcohol and these days table wines can be found with 15 to 16 percent alcohol which can make their distinction from dessert wines a bit challenging. Wine grapes that are kept 68 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Quick guide to dessert wines PORTS AND DESSERT WINES are a great way to enhance your meal or holiday gathering. Due to the density of flavor and alcohol ports and dessert wines are often served in cordial glasses or snifters rather than a standard wine glass. by age but also in how they re stored during the aging process. Ruby port is brighter in color and aged less than five years in airtight non-oak containers such as stainless steel or even ceramic vessels before bottling. The taste is lighter on the tongue with bright berry. Tawny port on the other hand has been aging in oak barrels picking up deep toasty flavors while oxygen circulates through the aging process. When you pour two cordial glasses side by side the darker color of the tawny port illustrates the age difference from ruby port. Buying port can be a fun exercise in geography. When you see Porto on the bottle it denotes that the red wine grapes came from a region in Portugal named Douro. If the grapes didn t originate in Portugal you ll often find the words dessert wine. Aside from this distinction some vineyards have been grandfathered to allow the use of port due to vineyard lineage and other factors. That s always an interesting conversation to have with your favorite winery or wine shop. Whether you re celebrating Valentine s Day or the Super Bowl enjoy the season s sweets by exploring ports and dessert wines as a fun adventure for your palate HLM A port by any other name is a dessert wine. Look for these favorites at your local wine shop Sancerre is a pleasant sweet white wine a surprising little gem with blue cheese almonds figs or apricots for dessert. It s also lovely to sip on while selecting your appetizer. Madeira wine also derived from Portugal and rumored to be Thomas Jefferson s favorite toasting wine pairs with cooked fruits such as baked apples pears and dates. Sherry is a classic that can be confused with the dry version used for cooking. Serve it not too chilled with your most steadfast cheeses such as truffle cheddar or triple cr me blue cheese. Ice Wine is delightfully credited to the German culture grapes are left on the vine past late harvest to increase their sweetness with the cold temperatures. If you love making homemade apple donuts or strudel this is a great treat. Late Harvest Wines made from chardonnay viognier and Riesling have intense floral and honey components making them perfect additions to desserts cheeses and fruits. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 69 HERLIFE BOOK CLUB The Marriage of Opposites by Alice Hoffman Alice Hoffman is a master of historical fiction thoroughly researching locale and personalities building a vivid and absorbing portrayal of her characters. In The Marriage of Opposites she brings to life a forbidden love story with protagonists who are willing to defy society for their love. Rev i ew by m a ri l y n i sa m i n ge r T hus Alice Hoffman introduces Rachel Pomi protagonist of The Marriage of Opposites her 2015 novel. As with The daughter of Adelle a beautiful woman of African heritage and the family s cook. Rachel s relationship with her mother is stormy and the two girls wish that they were sisters forging a lifelong bond that weaves its threads closely throughout the events of their lives. Rachel longs for France her father teaches her to read English Spanish and Hebrew and she takes refuge in his library full of maps and books from France. But as her father s business falters he finds a solution in arranging a marriage for Rachel to Isaac Petit a recently widowed merchant 30 years her senior with three young children the youngest a girl less than a year old. As Rachel falls in love with the children she develops an affectionate relationship with her husband still not the passionate love that she longs for. She settles into a familial life that is interrupted by Isaac s untimely death when she is pregnant with their fourth child. Her husband is gone her father dies and Dovekeepers Hoffman provides a lesson in history that is constructed around Rachel the granddaughter of Jews who fled France and religious persecution settling in the New World on Sainte-Domingue. But there was no peace in societies where sugarcane was king and people were enslaved. On the Danish-ruled Caribbean island of St. Thomas the King of Denmark had proclaimed religious freedom outlawed slavery and given Jews the civil rights of other men. Rachel s mother and father Sara and Moses Pomi a merchant escape to St. Thomas Moses is hidden in a wicker basket carried by his trusted clerk Mr. Enrique. Rachel was born in 1795 into a society constrained by the written and unwritten rules of religion race and class. She grows into adolescence roaming the island with Jestine the 70 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM AS WITH THE DOVEKEEPERS Hoffman provides a lesson in history that is constructed around Rachel the granddaughter of Jews who fled France and religious persecution settling in the New World on Sainte-Domingue. But there was no peace in societies where sugarcane was king and people were enslaved. Rachel learns from Mr. Enrique that the business is faltering. They develop a plan to rescue the business and present it to Sara who replies You don t think the business will be entrusted to you and Enrique do you You could never accept the fact that you were a woman and nothing more...Your husband s family is sending his nephew from Paris. What happens next will be his decision. Fr d rick Pizzarro arrives in Charlotte Amalie St. Thomas at the age of 22 with the burden of acting as the executor of his uncle Isaac s will and deciding the fate of the business and nearly a dozen relatives all but three unrelated by blood. It was his responsibility to turn the business around as it was a family enterprise owned equally by Isaac s widow who had no voice in business matters and the family in France who did. Fr d rick was tall with dark hair and an easy gait so handsome that women often chased after him even on the street much to his embarrassment... It is the moment in which Fr d rick and Rachel first meet that sets the course for their future sparking a fiery scandalous affair that with their persistence despite the resistance of their community of faith is eventually solemnized in marriage. Jacobo Abraham Camille Pizzarro is born to Rachel and Fr d rick in 1830 and grows into a child whose temperament is much like his mother s. From early on I was aware that just because something was a rule it wasn t necessarily fair he rails but also recognizes the intensity of the love between his parents unaware of their history. Jacobo sees the world in vivid color as if it is a puzzle whether it is a scene a landscape or a person and in drawing he says I felt I had come upon the core of the meaning of life to discover and re-create beauty. Hoffman s prose and descriptions burn with the intensity and heat of St. Thomas climate. The island s terrain lush foliage folklore sea life food and quality of light are drawn with an artist s brush. The reader is drawn in from the opening page I cracked the book at 9 00 p.m. and was still reading at 3 00 a.m. Every sentence and phrase convey meaning and abound with allusion and emotion as the lives and relationships of her characters emerge old secrets are revealed and cultural and historical events play out. You may also have guessed that Camille later changed the spelling of his surname to Pissarro. On my desk is a volume describing the French Impressionist movement and containing dry uninteresting biographical facts of the painter s life. The Marriage of Opposites is much more soul satisfying. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 71 HERLIFE MOTHER S PERSPECTIVE Blended families When Denise Perkins a single mom sat down with her fianc Darrell to tell his girls then 8 11 and 12 that they were getting married the first thing they asked was if she d take their daddy away. I was shocked she recalls assuring them We are all going to share him. place in your heart for their other parent. Then explain that you re so very lucky to have found new love and to be able to share that new love with your children. Don t try to replace their other parent with the new stepparent. It will backfire. Blending families can be a challenging enby h o pe e. ferguson terprise says Andrew E. Roffman LCSW cliniorty percent of married couples with children in the U.S. are step-couples one-third of all weddings in America form stepfamical assistant professor at NYU Langone s Child Study Center. It s important to remember that you and your partner are the two people who are volunteering for this new family configuration. So recognize that it can take time for kids and others such as one s own parents new in-laws ex-spouses and even former in-laws to accommodate to this change. The more time and space you can give for this accommodation and the less pressure you put on yourself and the kids to get used to it the more likely that accommodation can take place smoothly. Masini adds Try not to alienate the other parents. Children who feel that the other parents F lies. More than 100 million Americans are part of stepfamilies. A blended family by definition consists of something that has been broken. But sometimes when Plan A fails Plan B can be just as sweet in its own way experts and stepparents say. But sweets aside how do you break the news April Masini a relationship expert and author says Explain that your marriage to their mom or dad ended and that you re very sad about that but you will always have a special 72 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM are hurt or troubled will tend to feel that they have to take care of them. So if you establish a healthy relationship with your ex the blending will be easier. Don t give disciplinary duties to the new stepparent April cautions. By doing so you may think you re showing your confidence and unity but in reality it s jarring for the children to suddenly be disciplined by the stepparent. Very gently and gradually add in mutual disciplining. You may feel it s a Brady Bunch situation but your kids may not. Stepsibling rivalry is another land mine. If anyone felt left out they could call a family meeting and no matter what anyone was doing we had to stop and meet says Denise Perkins. Of course my son called the first meeting because he felt the girls were getting more stuff than he was. A certain degree of rivalry is to be expected said Roffman. You and your partner can do a fair amount of preventive work by establishing clear and fair house rules that apply to everyone. Being a blended family does entail in many cases that each set of kids has another parent outside this home that they spend time with receive (or not) gifts from travel (or not) with on vacations. Things are likely to never be completely fair and even. It may make matters worse to try to compensate for unevenness in this domain. What makes more sense is to work hard to develop good communication within the family so it s possible to talk about and reckon with these challenges. Cassie Graham didn t bring children into the family. At first her husband wanted her to take a motherly role she was uncomfortable with. MY COUSIN MONIQUE knew her future stepdad as a handsome gentleman in the neighborhood who gave the only child ice cream and candy (this was back in the 50s). When they met formally she was predisposed to accept him as her father. In the beginning my husband expected me to have innate mothering organizational skills which are typically developed over time. I had never had to keep track of family birthdays appointments and school stuff. I went from being single to having four kids to consider. I also had to remind him that they have a mom and she s a good mom. I am not that person in their lives but I used instinct and perception to guide how I related to the kids. I let things happen organically rather than force myself on them. For all the challenges blended families have their own sweet spot. For Denise it s been the love we share we never use the word step. We were also blessed to have two girls together. I always wanted a big family lots of children a dog and white picket fence. I am now a grandparent and that gives me great joy says Cassie. They don t call me step-grandma. I m just Grandma to them and that s nice. When I talk about the kids I refer to them as my daughter or son not my step-daughter or step-son. It just doesn t feel right. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 73 HERLIFE TRENDSETTER photographs Heather Morrow models Bayleigh Dayton and Kelsey Hayes of Exposure hair Kristyna Snyder and Karlie Nulik of Oliver s Hair Salon makeup Shimika Kennison location the gown gallery KANSAS CITY gown Romona Keveza the gown gallery accessories Lindsay Marie Design 74 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Gown G a l l e ry HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 75 gowns Romona Keveza (left) Ines di Santo (right) the gown gallery accessories Lindsay Marie Design 76 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM gowns Hayley Paige the gown gallery accessories Lindsay Marie Design HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 77 gown Jim Hjelm the gown gallery accessories Madison Avenue Designs 78 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM gown Hayley Paige the gown gallery accessories Lindsay Marie Design HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 79 gown John Paul Ataker the gown gallery accessories Lindsay Marie Design 80 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM gown John Paul Ataker the gown gallery accessories Madison Avenue Designs HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 81 HERLIFE GREEN LIVING of recycled and low-VOC materials. Food production systems integrate the microclimate soil nutrient levels animals or aquaculture composting wastewater treatment and multi-use plants into a sustainable ecology that provides for the local community or for larger production needs. In the mid-1970s David Holmgren an Australian ecologist and his associate Bill Mollison encapsulated the ethical principles of permaculture into three foundational concepts Earth Care which views the earth as a living breathing entity and emphasizes caring for the soil People Care focusing on the needs of people in simple and compassionate ways that help the environment to prosper and Fair Share the idea of taking what one needs and sharing abundance with others. The permaculture designer is concerned with observation attention and listening to the natural patterns of the site or ecosystem and then using information gleaned to create sustainable buildings and agricultural processes. Just as common sense indicates it s an inefficient use of water resources to farm in a desert permaculture employs common-sense and site-specific methods of cover crops rotational grazing vermicomposting rainwater catchment systems solar technology and companion planting. Discerning readers will again see the trend an urban garden by ma r i lyn is aminger small or large can be as sustainable as a largerscale farming operation. The dozen books of the Foxfire series a project started by English teacher Eliot Wigginton at Rabun Gap-Nacoochee School in Georgia s Appalachian Mountains to engage his students in writing published interviews with local residents about the agricultural and livestock practices that sustained their families. Members of the 70s backto-the-land movement used information from these volumes as well as Stewart Brand s Whole Earth Catalog and John and Jane Shuttlesworth s Mother Earth News as guidance for living an ecologically sound and sustainable lifestyle whether personally or in community with others of like mind. A core principle of permaculture is sustainable agriculture. Leah Penniman and Jonah A sustainable way of living Solar energy storage. Vertical gardening. Organic agriculture. Rain catchment systems. Recycling. Composting. Straw bale gardening. Renewable resources. Aquaponics. H ERLIFE readers will recognize these phrases as concepts and practices that we have described and encouraged over the past several years. If any of you have participated in one or more of these principles or ideas you have also taken part in the action and philosophy of Permaculture. The word was coined in the mid-seventies as a contraction of permanent agriculture or permanent culture and describes a system of designing ecological human habitats and food production systems. In an environment intentionally impacted by the principles of permaculture living spaces are built using passive solar strategies for cooling and heating with buildings sited to take advantage of natural light and constructed 82 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM JUST AS COMMON SENSE indicates it s an inefficient use of water resources to farm in a desert permaculture employs common-sense and sitespecific methods of cover crops rotational grazing vermicomposting rainwater catchment systems solar technology and companion planting. Vitale-Wolff founders of Soul Fire Farm in Petersburg New York have established a Certified Naturally Grown family farm using sustainable techniques that have transformed rocky marginal clay soils into highly productive micronutrient rich black gold that produces impressive amounts of food per square foot for their communities. Soul Fire Farm s website states We bring diverse communities together on this healing land to share skills on sustainable agriculture cooking and natural building and contribute to the movements for food sovereignty and community self-determination. As a foundation for their community that focuses on food justice and empowerment for marginalized farmers they built a straw-bale timber-framed passive solar home plus a barn cooler animal housing and irrigation system and have hosted 491 youth for their farm and food justice programs. They have trained 58 farm apprentices two-thirds of whom are people of color. Several have gone on to manage justice-oriented farming programs around the country. Penniman earned a Fulbright Distinguished Teacher scholarship that she is using to develop a curriculum based on the best agricultural practices of Oaxacan farmers and indigenous communities. The environmental stewardship encouraged by Audubon International dovetails into permaculture principles. To be certified within their Sustainable Communities program a community develops an individualized program based on the three pillars of a healthy local environment quality of life for citizens and economic vitality. Public and private communities extend from Riverside California and Huntsman Springs Idaho to Hilton Head Island South Carolina. The impressive success story of Stowe Mountain Resort Stowe Vermont chronicles practices such as local food sourcing conservation of more than 2 000 acres of natural habitat that protect peregrine falcons moose and bear and the installation of energy-efficient lighting and heating and cooling systems. Stormwater runoff is collected and stored in two ponds and is used for golf course irrigation and snow-making. The resort partners with local environmental groups to provide educational events such as birding events and nature walks that highlight the use of native vegetation for the resort s landscaping. These and other communities across the United States and around the world provide awareness of green principles of sustainable behavior and the opportunity for all of us to think globally act locally in our own lives. Let s be aware of the simple actions we can take to care for our living breathing Mother Earth. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 83 HERLIFE FINE THINGS Even if you don t have such a dress you can still have a traditional wedding gown that exudes extravagance. Modern dresses change the styling but not the sentiment. Today s dresses are often strapless showing off the beautiful shoulders and cleavage of the bride. The bridal party The tradition of a best man likely has its origins with the Germanic Goths when it was customary for a man to marry a woman from within his own community. If no eligible women lived within a town a man might have to seek out and capture a woman from another community seizing her forcibly. The groom would naturally select a strong male companion for the task. Today the groom selects his best man to assist with the many responsibilities that occur during the period leading up to the wedding such as Wedding traditions Today s weddings may be a blend of ancient modern religious and cultural traditions that are individualized by the bridal couple. We ve taken a look at the origins of customs that brides and grooms weave into their lives as they approach marriage. by l i n da r. price The dress Long flowing white gowns say bride to everyone. Traditional white gowns with full or slim skirts veils and trains an abundance of chiffon and lace a high bodice with cap sleeves and covered buttons accessorized with white silk pumps create visions of old-time charm. The tradition started with Queen Victoria and women followed her lead. Your grandmother s dress carefully handed down to each generation of new brides is a lovely family tradition. 84 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM providing support and assistance and keeping him calm. In ancient Rome the bride s attendants dressed identically to the bride to protect her and distract the evil spirits from harming her in this superstitious culture. In today s weddings bridal attendants give emotional support to the bride before the wedding day host wedding showers and a bridal luncheon and help her attend to all the details that lead up to the moment when she walks down the aisle. A plethora of flowers Brides in ancient times carried herbs to ward off evil spirits. In Europe in the midfourteenth century brides carried garlic and dill to block odors and to protect them from the plague. Slowly the bride began replacing the repugnant herbs with more beautiful flowers and more pleasant scents. The floral industry responded with flowers imported year-round. Why stick with just roses and snowdrops when you can have your choice of orchids baby s breath lilies carnations tulips peonies anthurium calla lilies clematis daisies freesia gardenia hyacinth Protea Queen Anne s lace ranunculus stephanotis and sweet pea to go with the blossoms. Some of these flowers have blushes of pink yellow peach green and blue that make them ideal to complement the wedding s theme colors. The symbol of lasting love Many of our supposed traditions are newer than you might realize. Some believe that the wedding ring tradition has its origins in the Roman belief of Vena Amoris or the ring finger being directly connected to the heart by a blood vessel. Others say this is more likely a modern tradition. In 860 CE Pope Nicholas decreed that the future bride should have an engagement ring to signify the groom s financial commitment it had to be made of gold to be considered valid. In 1215 Pope Innocent III declared that the engagement period should be lengthened and couldn t be skipped to avoid the engagement ring The ring protected the bride but it was a DeBeers advertising slogan in 1947 A Diamond Is Forever that began the tradition of the diamond engagement ring. The groom s wedding band is HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 85 another modern tradition that appeared in the early 20th century in the United States. The ceremony The wedding ceremony follows cultural and religious beliefs of the engaged couple. In a typical American wedding the ushers seat the guests before the ceremony. The bride s mother is seated last unless she accompanies her husband and daughter in the processional. The groom the best man and minister take their places at the front of the gathered guests. The ushers enter in pairs followed by the wedding party. The bride enters escorted by her father and possibly her mother. The officiant conducts the ceremony and vows and rings are exchanged followed by the officiant pronouncing the couple husband and wife. Following the ceremony tradition dictates a wedding reception or breakfast. Rituals include speeches by the groom best man father of the bride and possibly the bride the newlyweds first dance and the cutting of an elegant wedding cake. The top layer is carefully preserved for the newlyweds to enjoy on their first anniversary. Traditions present in other religious wedding ceremonies may include tying a knot walking around an altar or breaking a fragile glass each of which has meanings within the religion. Modern couples incorporate traditions and create their own but the most lasting remembrance is the love and support of the couple by their family and friends. HLM 86 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT therapy the house 88 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM therapeutic massage and pain resolution wr it t en by c indy m c d er m o tt p h o to gra p h s by l a u re n f ri sc h p u sa te ri t here it is your upcoming massage appointment on the calendar. But you re wishing it I teach my therapists to be body detectives and assess your particular ailment remarked Jordan. Maybe it s pain in a client s shoulder or a low back injury. Maybe it goes back to a high school sports injury or perhaps you have neck pain because you sit at a desk all day or maybe your back is aching because you re carrying children. We ll put together a plan to help you resolve your issues. were today dreaming of how the stress and grind of everyday life will melt away under the skilled hands of your masseuse. But while the relaxation is key wouldn t you like to take it to the next level of actual healing At The Therapy House we try to understand your lifestyle and your life so we can be more effective noted Jordan Woodson owner The Therapy House. We can do relaxation massages but the average person is wanting more resolving the reason for their pain. You can trust our therapists because they have been trained to listen and understand what you want and need. We re not a revolving door of therapists offering cookie-cutter massages. We are driven by the need to understand the therapeutic needs of our clients. massages to meet your needs The menu of services at The Therapy House can meet just about anyone s needs. The House Massage is your ultimate relaxation and stressreducing experience. The therapist uses varied gliding and kneading strokes with light to medium pressure to promote circulation and a complete release of tension leaving you with a renewed sense of well-being. A Master Therapist Massage is tailored to relieve or eliminate your symptoms by primarily treating the areas responsible for your pain. This means your entire session is focused on relieving your core symptoms. By working with a Master Therapist our clients experience more immediate and longer lasting relief than previously achieved through massage physical therapy or chiropractic treatments alone revealed Jordan. At the advanced end of the spectrum of services is the Medical Massage which is massage therapy prescribed by a physician and performed by a qualified therapist following the directions of that doctor. Depending on your situation medical insurance may cover the costs associated with Medical Massage. The staff is happy to work with you to determine your coverage with these services. We do amazing work with people suffering from fibromyalgia. In fact massage may allow a client to cut back on pain medications commented Jordan. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 89 individualized massage experience Therapeutic massage is a process of maintaining your body in peak condition much in the way you maintain your car. At The Therapy House the staff takes great pride in achieving a deeper level of therapy for every client. While relaxation massages are certainly offered by Jordan and her highly trained staff they deliver so much more. We specialize in body repair work with structural integration and body rebalancing as our forte. The Therapy House has six highly trained and effective therapists each one with a master s level of certification and a particular area or areas of the body they focus on revealed Jordan. Perhaps you ve been injured in an accident you re dealing with a nagging sports injury or you re suffering from over-extended muscles we can address your concerns and help you solve those problems. The Therapy House offers studio coordinators trained to match the patient with the therapist who specializes in meeting that need. body care and aromatherapy Not only does Jordan offer incredible massage therapy services she is also on the cutting edge of all-natural no-chemical-component products used in the sessions and available for purchase. This is my own private body line that I ve been creating for more than 12 years she shared. The oils and body butters have fewer than nine ingredients in them. They re ideal for the person who has allergies. Her Nature By The Drop line is an amazing collection of artisan body care products hand crafted exclusively by The Therapy House using only the finest all-natural ingredients. The Zendle candle not only gives off a calming aroma but it can also be used as a body butter after massage or your own bath at home. Whether you re looking for natural products or massage therapy you can find it with Jordan and her staff. At The Therapy House we feature a safe place to come and discuss your health concerns advised Jordan. It s great to get a massage but here you ll find a home to help you with your overall well-being. We will be the last place you need to visit for therapy because we are driven to make a difference in the lives of our clients. That s what I went into this business to achieve. HLM D Jordan Woodson Owner of The Therapy House Visit The Therapy House at 7620 Metcalf Overland Park Kansas or call 913-362-4800. 90 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE WORKING WOMEN When it comes to eye contact during business conversations try to strike a balance. Avoiding eye contact can make you seem uncomfortable or unprepared while too much eye contact can be seen as aggressive or hostile. According to Goman you should strive to maintain eye contact about half the time during a business conversation. If you are by nature shy about making eye contact when first introduced to someone start out by meeting their eyes long enough to note their eye color. Gestures are an important part of effective communication and can definitely be used to your advantage in the workplace. Dr. Susan Weinschenk a behavioral psychologist who writes for Psychology Today suggests that using no hand gestures while speaking can make you seem indifferent while relaxed open arm movements that show the palms of your hands send a message of honesty and openness. On the other hand repeatedly using exaggerated gestures that are larger than the outside of your body can be overwhelming to others and make you appear frantic or nervous. In the United States the handshake is still one of the most important gestures in the business world. Since it incorporates the sense of touch it s an important tool for connecting with others. Make sure your handshake is firm without being bone crushing and that your hand is at a vertical angle. According to Allan and Barbara Pease authors of The Definitive Book of Body Language a person who shakes with their palm facing down is attempting to signal by c a t i e w ats on dominance while a palm-up handshake communicates submission. The best type of handshake leaves both parties feeling comfortable and a bit more connected. The old adage that it s not just what you say but how you say it holds true in the workplace. Listeners interpret both our words and our tone of voice when we speak. Although you don t want to become too self-conscious about how you speak try to pay attention to how you sound. Timing volume and inflection all contribute to how our speech is received. Stress can be one of the biggest enemies to a relaxed tone of voice learn to take a time out and listen to the conversation when you re feeling overwhelmed by stress. Boost your career Body language can play a major role in your career success especially when it comes to networking and interviewing. When you meet someone for the first time your posture facial expressions tone of voice gestures and even your eye movements all combine to make a lasting impression. You have only a few seconds to make that impression positive so it s important to use every tool at your disposal. Y our posture speaks volumes about your self-image. Standing or sitting straight with your head held high and shoulders back will exude an air of confidence. Adopt an open-arm position and avoid folding your arms across your chest which can make you look indifferent or closed off. According to Carol Kinsey Goman PhD a business coach who writes about body language for Forbes you should put away your smartphone before a big meeting or interview since you probably bend your neck and shoulders while looking at it. This type of posture can subconsciously convey defensiveness or lack of confidence to those you are about to meet. 92 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM In addition to being aware of positive body language you can help your career by avoiding negative language. This includes nervous gestures such as twisting your hair playing with your jewelry clicking a pen or jiggling your leg when sitting. If you catch yourself fidgeting take a deep breath and try to relax. Calming your body will help convey the message that you are confident and in control. One thing to remember about business body language is that it s not always universal. Different cultures may interpret body language differently. When in doubt about cultural mores mirror the other person s body language. For example as a female software engineer working in a multicultural office I noticed that some men from other cultures backed up when I approached them for conversation. At first I wondered if I needed a mint. Now I recognize that different cultures have different ideas about appropriate physical space especially between men and women and I conduct my conversations with these individuals from a greater distance than I normally would. A friendly smile is one element of body language that is universal. Numerous studies have found that the smile is recognized as denoting happiness and good will throughout the world. Smiling when it s appropriate is a great move for any career and it can provide the added benefit of making you feel good. Scientists have found a correlation between making a face and experiencing the emotion that it signals. So if you want to look and feel relaxed in the workplace don t forget to smile. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 93 HERLIFE FINANCE Alterations After you say yes to the dress you ll need to say yes to a seamstress. Most wedding dresses require at least a small number of alterations in order to get that perfect fit. Consumer and money-saving expert Andrea Woroch says that depending on how much work needs to be done alterations can cost 500 or more. Plan ahead for these extra costs in your wedding dress budget and you won t suffer from sticker shock later. Accessories The dress may be beautiful but you ll still want some accessories to go with it such as shoes to walk down the aisle in some shiny jewelry to pull your look together and even lingerie and shapewear for underneath. Cake cutting You re likely to incur fees if you want the servers to cut your wedding cake if it came from a different vendor from the one that s supplying your service staff. According to expert planners this adds extra time for the staff who have to slice and serve each piece and then clean up the dishes so expect anywhere from 2 to 5 per guest in fees. Cleanup If you re going with a full-service venue that includes all fees and services in one charge this is most likely already included in your wedding costs. But if you ve simply rented a space for your reception plan on spending around 500 for cleaning the venue and around 250 for garbage removal. Hair and makeup trials You want to be sure your wedding day by a l l i son tur nberg look is perfection and practice makes perfect so plan on spending a little extra to have your hair and makeup professionals test drive some looks before the big day. Costs can vary depending on the service and some professionals even include this in the wedding day fees so ask your stylist about this when you book the services. Your wedding budget what s missing Many brides dream of their wedding day for years. The beautiful dress the first dance the music the celebration of love it s easy to get lost in the romanticism of it all. But before you do you need to work on a very unromantic wedding task the budget. It may seem like a simple undertaking but many services have hidden fees that can slip through the cracks until it s time to pay the bill. C reating a thorough budget can be tedious and frustrating but if you ask the right questions and stay diligent about sticking to what you ve agreed to you ll find yourself glad you put in so much work ahead of time. After all who wants to spend their gift money paying for the wedding 94 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM YOU WANT TO BE sure your wedding day look is perfection and practice makes perfect so plan on spending a little extra to have your hair and makeup professionals test drive some looks before the big day. Photo prints You paid for the photographer to be there on the big day and capture the special moments on film but be sure to set aside some money to print those beautiful wedding photos after all is said and done. Many photographers offer album packages or you can print them on your own to save some money. Postage You likely budgeted for your save-the-dates and invitations but did you plan for the cost of getting them to their destination Oversized and awkwardly-shaped invites can cost up you to 2 a piece to mail Woroch says. Skip the fancy boxed invitations and bulky multilayer cards to keep postage costs down. Rental shipping There are countless wedding warehouses that rent out almost anything you could need for a wedding from chairs to linens to flatware but they often don t include shipping and transportation costs in their per-item rental fees. Be sure to ask about these fees up front so you re not surprised later. Gratuities You probably already have agreed upon the costs for the services your wedding vendors provide but many people are unaware of how much they should tip these vendors or if they should even tip at all If your vendor is also the owner of the business you re generally not expected to tip but if that s not the case five to ten percent of your overall budget should be reserved for gratuities for your DJ transportation driver servers and bartenders hair and makeup artists officiant musicians during the ceremony and band. Taxes and fees If your vendors include sales tax in the service quote you re in luck. Be aware that not all of them do and be sure to factor this into your overall budget. Keep in mind that there are often fees for paying with a credit card that the vendor will tack on to your bill as well. Budgeting for your wedding can be a stressful process but if you do your research ahead of time you ll have far fewer surprises at the end of the day. When it comes to your big day it s better to be a fiscally responsible fianc e than a bankrupt bride. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 95 HERLIFE REAL ESTATE New mortgage forms and timelines For most people buying their American dream is the biggest financial investment they ll make. But the home buying process can be stress filled and confusing. During the last 20 years as the paperwork grew from a few pages to dozens buyers were often asked to sign on the dotted line with less than enough information to truly understand what they had agreed to. lenders didn t explain. While legal these practices helped fuel the housing bust of 2008 and triggered the Great Recession. As part of the Know Before You Owe rules the new disclosure forms are a result of the Dodd-Frank Wall Street Reform and Consumer Protection Act which created a new Consumer Financial Protection Bureau part of the Department of the Treasury. The CFPB combined four different forms into two documents the Loan Estimate presented at the beginning of the process and the Closing Disclosure at the end in a similar format so that buyers can easily compare them and understand changes that might occur. s mortgage analyst Holden Lewis told USA Today that it was once almost impossible for a borrower to compare the costs but the new paperwork has changed that. The new Loan Estimate allows buyers to compare loan offers by showing the interest rate monthly payment and total closing costs on the front page. Instead of bundling the costs the new forms show exactly how much borrowers pay for each service separately making comparisons easier and letting buyers better see not just the initial interest rates but also lender fees fees by by ste phanie fox B ut now things have changed mostly for the better. As of October 2015 new federal rules were implemented that ushered in some of what experts are saying are the biggest changes in the mortgage and real estate industries in decades. These changes include easier-tounderstand forms and new timelines and are expected to make the home buying process easier and more transparent. The new rules were a response to lending practices that occurred during the housing boom when some lenders offered terms that many borrowers didn t understand and the 96 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM THE NEW LOAN ESTIMATE allows buyers to compare loan offers by showing the interest rate monthly payment and total closing costs on the front page. required third parties such as appraisers title insurance and closing cost estimates. There are also new timelines. The Loan Estimate now has to be in the hands of buyers no more than three days after they apply for a loan giving buyers from seven to ten days depending on the lender to review the figures. The five-page Closing Disclosure once often presented at closing now has to be presented three days before the close. Before the new rules were implemented a homebuyer might receive a quote from a lender then find out at the closing that the rate or fees originally quoted had risen leaving them stuck with the new terms and having to unexpectedly spend thousands of dollars. Now if there are any major changes to the loan such as a rate change (of more than one-eighth percent for a fixed-rate loan or one-quarter percent for adjustable-rate loans) a change from fixed rate to variable rate or an added prepayment penalty the three-day waiting period kicks in making it difficult for lenders to make lastminute changes. Minor changes though do not require a waiting period. Most changes can still be made at the closing table. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 97 Nevertheless the new rules might end up causing problems for the unwary. In many markets the time between the final purchase agreement and the day of closing was about 30 days. Now the National Association of Realtors is telling their agents to advise their clients to allow 45 days or even two months until a closing at least until the bugs are out of the system. Many real estate agents are concerned that if one or more buyers and sellers have to sell a home before they can get the bugs out even a short delay can have a ripple effect and might jeopardize a series of transactions. The three-day rule can t be shortened even if the buyer requests it. To add to the confusion mortgage lenders real estate agents and lawyers are still deliberating what the various provisions actually mean for them and for consumers. It might take a while until the legal interpretations are decided once and for all. Carl Leatherman a Realtor in Harlingen Texas says that the biggest challenge for many agents and lenders is to get their clients to adjust to a longer time between the purchase agreement and the close. It takes longer at the beginning and at the end of the process he says. We are asking for more time between the finalized purchase agreement and the closing. And we need to be certain to get the documents to the title company in a timely manner. The National Association of Realtors notes that more than 80 percent of Realtors have taken training on the new rules and lenders have upgraded systems and provided training. As a result your Realtor or lender will be your best advisor in closing the deal. HLM 98 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFE SPOTLIGHT L EAWOOD V I L L AG E C L E AN E R S AT T E N T I O N T O CREATES LOYAL CLIENTELE wr it t en by c indy m c d er m o tt p h o to gra p h s by l a u re n f ri sc h p u sa te ri D E TA I L W hat began as a couple finding love during a Peace Corps assignment in South Korea eventually resulted in But what began as an accident for Oeki has blossomed into a long-term successful business focused on meeting the needs of customers. Leawood Village Cleaners was purchased from the Wallaces in 1997 by Oeki and her brother thanks in part to a small business loan from Bank of Blue Valley. Before they left Bill and Raleigh trained us how to do everything by the book. They helped me understand the quality of the work that was needed by customers commented Oeki. Also the four dry cleaning and shirt pressers that she personally trained stayed with us. In fact they re still here today. establishing one of the premier dry cleaning businesses in the KC-metro. Leawood Village Cleaners 13009 Stateline Road Kansas City Missouri is co-owned by Oeki Rieper who has the leading role in this romance story. I grew up in South Korea. Forty years ago I married a Peace Corps volunteer a young college man from Detroit. He taught English and my brother was his student. That s how I met this blue-eyed blond-haired young man laughed Oeki. After marrying we lived in Hawaii for eight months and then Detroit so he could get his doctorate. His first job was in Blue Springs and we thought we would be here for a few years. But we wound up staying and now KC is my home. Creating a Family Partnershi p Eventually both of Oeki s brothers followed her to Kansas City and then her mother and father. It was her brother Soon Yong Hong who wanted to get into the dry cleaning business. We heard this nice couple had a drying cleaning business for sale. I met the owners Bill and Raleigh Wallace and explained to them that my brother was interested in the business remembered Oeki. We talked for about an hour as they showed me around. Mrs. Wallace said to me Why don t you and your brother purchase this 100 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM We are more quality conscious than quantity focused and we offer extra attention to detail. I do the final inspection before the order goes into the plastic bag and it takes time revealed Oeki. But 99.99 percent of our customers are regulars. I know what they like and I treat them like family. You would be good in customer service and your brother could run the rest of the operation. You would be perfect for this business. So I got into the business quite accidentally. Longevity Builds Confidence When you add up the experience of these employees at Leawood Village Cleaners it s incredibly impressive. Oeki notes that two of her two pressers have been here for 30 years with the third presser logging over 20 years. The shirt presser boasts 20 years of experience. I was so lucky to inherit them as my employees noted Oeki. In addition my brother does spotting and cleaning and I do quality control and inspection. When you open your bag of garments from Leawood Village Cleaners it s ready to wear. This attention to detail is what drives Oeki and her staff at Leawood Village Cleaners. Her business philosophy is to provide excellent dry cleaning services for her many customers while HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 101 understand that quality clothing can last nearly a lifetime if it s cared for properly. My customers own very nice garments and want to take care of them. Many times I ll see some clothes that are 20 years old but they re good pieces that need to be cleaned well she said. Not all cleaners are the same but at Leawood Village Cleaners we ensure our processes are in top shape because of our attention to detail. Oeki affirms that you should be smart about your dry cleaners and chose the right one. Whether your needs are for clothing tablecloths meeting their individualized needs. Efforts can be tailored to their exact specifications. We are more quality conscious than quantity focused and we offer extra attention to detail. I do the final inspection before the order goes into the plastic bag and it takes time revealed Oeki. But 99.99 percent of our customers are regulars. I know what they like and I treat them like family. I credit my customers with my success as a business owner. They re well educated and well-traveled and they re very nice to me and my employees. Customers Are a Priority Knowing customers giving attention to detail providing great service and accommodating rush orders are the guiding principles for Leawood Village Cleaners. I really want to go the extra mile because I want to help my loyal customers. I cannot take care of your marriage and financial problems but I can take care of your garment issues laughed Oeki. Oeki and her employees at Leawood Village Cleaners are focused on helping their customers maintain their clothing wardrobes. They comforters curtains or other items this small business should be at the top of your list when it comes to servicing your dry cleaning needs. What began decades ago as a Peace Corps affection in South Korea and blossomed into a lifetime commitment can now positively impact you and your fine clothing. If you love your clothes visit Leawood Village Cleaners. HLM Visit Leawood Village Cleaners 13009 Stateline Road Kansas City Missouri or call 816-9423838. 102 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 103 HERLIFE HOME Hers his home With the excitement that comes with getting married and moving in together have you slowed down to take a moment and talk about the type of space you want to create Amid apartment or house hunting or checking your wedding registry or attempting to merge two lifestyles into a cohesive one it s all easier said than done. spend the most time Are you a couple who likes to lounge together in the living room or do you spend more time reading relaxing and streaming in your bedroom Answering questions such as these can help you decide where to invest. Once you feel that you both have a good by me r r itt rethlake handle on the furniture and accessories you re hoping for go shopping together. Even if your aesthetics are different shopping together could lend more level-headed decisions with your differences of opinion. And equally importantly it could help avoid arguments later on down the road. Listen to each other. While you might not agree on everything the other says try to distill down to what the other is trying to get out of your new abode. Focus on personal collections Another great way to blend his and hers coLive in your new space first The absolute first suggestion is to spend some time in your new home before picking paint colors selecting all your furniture or taking a trip to IKEA that inevitably ends in bright yellow bags of unnecessary goodness. Understand how you both are using your new home. Where do you 104 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM hesively is creatively incorporating personal items in a new way. Do you have band posters that have stayed with one of you since college A collection of quarters Stacks of magazines you refuse to part with Consider framing some choice posters parts of that collection or a few pages out of those magazines and making a totally unique B ecause it s no longer the dark ages you probably won t have to worry that his stuff is all blue and yours all pink and oh my goodness what are we going to do with all of his bachelor-pad oversized leather furniture and lava lamps But there will inevitably be pieces each of you has accumulated throughout your years of living alone or with friends that you can t imagine giving up. Read on to learn some quick tips on how to blend his and hers into a cohesive inviting space. DOES A MIX OF dining chairs create a cool eclectic look during meal time Don t be afraid to let things go but giving certain items a chance may inspire a totally one-of-a-kind look for your new stomping grounds. gallery wall that still shows off both your personal styles in a connected beautiful way. Blend creatively Don t be afraid to mix materials This is a great tip for any home but is especially prevalent when you re trying to fuse his leather and brass with your soft fabrics and woods. The beauty of these natural materials is that they inherently complement each other. Gone are the days of all mocha-stained furniture needing to match and only one type of metal accent in a room. Try incorporating a natural wood coffee table with metallic legs a fabric sofa and a leather chair tied together with colorful accent pillows and throw blankets you both enjoy. You might also find yourselves doubling up on certain items such as end tables lounge chairs dining chairs and more. You don t have to necessarily start from scratch or toss one of these out. Can you nest your end tables Does a mix of dining chairs create a cool eclectic look during meal time Don t be afraid to let things go but giving certain items a chance may inspire a totally one-of-a-kind look for your new stomping grounds. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 105 Find something new Understand that you might not need to blend everything. Instead of trying to seamlessly integrate your tastes find common threads or your in-between styles. Get inspired together and learn that Pinterest is a friend to everyone. Opt for updated versions of both your preferred pieces. Recliners are not nearly as reminiscent of Grandpa s style anymore modern and sleek recliners keep him comfortable and your place looking up to date. In a similar regard if you love tons of color and can t imagine scrimping on hue-heavy walls explore those colors in softer tones. Keep the color and encourage the compromise. Freshen and renew Be willing to change things up. Accent pillows greenery and florals table lamps and throw blankets are all easy to change out as seasons go by. This will give each of you the opportunity to add or subtract items throughout the years making your space feel more collaborative than ever. And always remember your person is more important than any one thing. Try not to let decorating dilemmas trick you into thinking you re not meant for each other. Maybe cohabitation is where the time-honored adage of compromise rings true. Maybe you lucked out and have the exact same aesthetic as your partner. Either way creating a space that feels as at home to you as it does to your significant other will create a healthy happy oasis for years to come. HLM 106 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 107 HERLIFE PETS surprises. Some airlines allow only cats and dogs others also allow birds and rabbits. Safety Airlines have specific regulations concerning pets. In all cases check with your carrier to be sure of their policies. Temperature is one. Pets will not be carried if it is too cold or too hot during any leg of the flight. Some carriers restrict pet travel during specific months of the year and to certain destinations. Another concerns health certificates. When Flying with your fur friends When you go to the grocery store or the pet shop does Blackie hop into the car Does he stick his head out the window thoroughly enjoying the wind in his face or does he curl up on the seat and snooze away What s the difference when flying The animal will enjoy the flight and you ll both arrive safely at your destination. If you plan correctly this scenario might happen but planning is the key. applicable health certificates must be issued by a licensed veterinarian. The certificate will contain such information as general health of the animal vaccinations if the bitch is pregnant if the pups are over ten weeks old and weaned a vet s signature and the date. Don t try to avoid getting the certificate what could be worse than being told you cannot ship your pet when you are ready to board Remember all airlines are independent and have their own regulations. Check with your car- by l i nda r. price T hree major tips will go a long way to ensuring success in flying with your pet. First always use direct flights. A dog experienc- rier to be certain that you are in compliance with all their regulations. Some carriers have prohibited the snub- or pug-nosed breeds from flying as checked baggage. These breeds are at risk when flying because they suffer from excessive heat and have problems with breathing. Carriers may permit them as onboard luggage. International travel is a different ball game. Not only must you comply with the regulations of the airline carrier you must be aware of the regulations of the country of destination. Many countries es less stress with fewer stops. Second always travel on the same flight as your pet. This way you will be able to pick up your dog immediately after disembarking. Finally when you board the plane notify the captain and at least one flight attendant that your pet is traveling in the cargo hold. With today s tighter security this may not be possible. Even so it s better to advise the flight crew when possible to avoid unexpected 108 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM TRY TO RELIEVE your pet s travel anxiety by getting them used to the carrier or kennel before travel time. Place something familiar in the carrier such as an old towel or a favorite toy. have stringent quarantine regulations to prevent the spread of rabies and other diseases of pets. The International Air Transport Association regulations do not recommend sedating or tranquilizing pets for transport as it can be dangerous to their health. Drugs act differently at the pressure of 8 000 feet above sea level which is the approximate air pressure in an aircraft during flight. Refer to the IATA website for further information on sedating animals during travel. Many countries and carriers require pets be microchipped. At a minimum make sure your pet s identification tags are current. Allergies At this time it seems that the pets win. That is passengers who are allergic to cats and other animals have few rights when flying with pets onboard. The pets can fly and passengers must deal with their problem. If the passenger makes his or her discomfort known then the airlines will relocate the passenger if possible or reschedule the passenger s flight. Behavior Try to relieve your pet s travel anxiety by getting them used to the carrier or kennel before travel time. Place something familiar in the carrier such as an old towel or a favorite toy. You should have a first aid kit for emergencies in case of an accident during transportation. It might be a good idea to include a disposable pee pad in the kennel for the comfort of your pet. Special airline carriers dedicated to pets Flying commercial airlines can be difficult for both the pet owner and the pet. Charter jets might be a solution for you and your pets. Magellan Jets Priority One Jets and others are designed to accommodate the needs of their passengers both human and furry. Advantages include no standing in long TSA lines schedules that meet your needs no temperature and seasonal restrictions no size or breed restrictions no limit on the number of pets that can travel at one time and menus for you and your pet that you choose. The cost of private charters can run from several hundred dollars to several thousand for overseas travel. Consider traveling in a group such as a pet holiday with friends to reduce costs. Though prop planes take slightly longer they are much less expensive than jets. Whatever you decide plan carefully so that you and your pet will enjoy the trip and arrive safely at your destination. HLM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 109 HERLIFE TRAVEL as luxurious as Little Palm Island in the Florida Keys. The only way in or out of this exclusive resort is by sea plane or boat. With suites nestled inside bungalows decorated with mosquito netting and appointed with thatched roofs and outdoor bamboo showers you ll feel like you ve landed smack in the middle of an insanely decadent tropical oasis. The five-acre island offers a beauty all its own with majestic green waters native wildlife and lush green foliage that provides both privacy and beauty. Be prepared to leave your cell phones in your rooms and shut yourself off from the world around you precious time connecting with your new life partner awaits in this adults-only retreat. Ritz Carlton Bachelor Gulch Colorado The majestic mountains of Colorado provide the perfect backdrop to romance when you visit Vail Valley and Beaver Creek Mountain in Bachelor s Gulch. The Ritz Carlton one of the most luxurious resorts in the area offers ski-in ski-out access to Beaver Mountain and village-to-village skiing. Whether you bond through skiing hiking spa treatments or gourmet meals you and your true love will discover a new level of intimacy at this world-renowned resort. Calistoga Ranch Napa Valley California Romantic honeymoon destinations The planning is finished. You ve danced laughed and cried. Your memories have been digitally captured and await your photographer s edits. Your guests have retreated. Your walk down the aisle has ended in a coupling you believe is divine. Couples can t help but find romance when they visit the exclusive Calistoga Ranch nestled in Napa Valley. Harnessing the gorgeous natural surroundings the resort is set on 157 pristine acres and offers the ultimate refined rustic experience. You ll find luxurious outdoor living with massive stone fireplaces rich cedar decks outdoor showers and hot tubs. The ranch boasts its own private lake on-site vineyard and a selection of cooking classes you may not want to leave though they make it easy to explore with free Mercedes loaner cars and bikes. With wine tastings and candle-lit world-class dining you certainly can t go wrong when you look for romance in Napa Valley. St. Tropez France Fabulous is the only word to describe St. Tropez. Located on the French Riviera this oceanside city is a sight to behold. Lavish yachts share real estate in the waters of the Mediterranean by c a r r i e row lands johnson I t s time for you to relax to reap the ultimate reward with the partner you ve chosen to accompany you for the rest of your life in a mem- orable escape for two. Think about exploring a few of our favorites. Little Palm Island Florida There aren t many places more secluded than a private island. There aren t many islands 110 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM A DISNEYLAND FOR ADULTS and the once-upon-atime-home to Princess Grace Monte Carlo is what fairy tales and happily-ever-after are made of. Built on stilts overhanging the Mediterranean The Fairmont Monte Carlo offers guests spectacular views of the deep blue waters just steps away for sunbathers. their inhabitants pouring champagne by day and traveling to shore for posh dining and night life after sunset. Just beyond the harbor docks are littered with dozens of talented artists whose plein air paintings are hungrily devoured by curious eyes. Sunbathing is taken to a new level here many beaches allow the sun to kiss every part of your body without a shred of clothing required. Rent a yacht or stay in one of the many upscale hotels here. Either way there are plenty of opportunities for romance while indulging in the decadence that is St. Tropez. The Fairmont Monte Carlo Monaco A Disneyland for adults and the once-upon-a-time-home to Princess Grace Monte Carlo is what fairy tales and happily-ever-after are made of. Built on stilts overhanging the Mediterranean The Fairmont HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 111 Monte Carlo offers guests spectacular views of the deep blue waters just steps away for sunbathers. Another option is the exclusive rooftop pool with a prime view of the sea where celebrities are known to party day and night. Book a massage at the famed Willow Stream spa and you ll never let another pair of hands touch your body. The Grand Prix the yacht-lined harbor sparkling champagne grandiose casinos a wealth of history and the royal palace are well-known icons in this glamorous cliffside city. If you enjoy warm Mediterranean air beautiful people decadent restaurants palatial architecture and lavish shopping you and your new partner will feel as if your honeymoon was pulled from the pages of a story book. Bora Bora We simply cannot write about romance and luxury without mentioning Bora Bora a small South Pacific island northwest of Tahiti in French Polynesia. Picture the most exquisite shade of blue waters you ve ever laid eyes on filled with brightly colored aquatic life and corals surrounded by white sandy beaches and lush greenery. The turquoise and emerald lagoon surrounds thatched-roof bungalows that are perched over the water on stilts. This oasis is a dream for scuba divers and snorkelers and really just about anyone. While you probably can t go wrong at any of the resorts you ll find the InterContinental especially lovely. You are so far from reality here the only problem is that your honeymoon most likely has an end date. HLM 112 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 113 HERLIFE JUST SAYIN Just sayin I ery possible way. Mix 93.3 personality Jenny Matthews would like to dedicate this article to my Valentine Matthew. The dude who totally changed my life in evI was not a believer in true love or marriage. My parents divorced when I was eight and it was ugly. I never really got to see what the good stuff looked like because it definitely wasn t happily ever after in my world. I dated some real losers if I m being completely honest. I dated guys who didn t treasure me. They didn t build me up if anything they tore me down. They didn t have a ton of aspirations of their own so maybe that made them feel better I ll never know and I don t care. All of those roads led me directly to the best man I ve ever known. I remember after our first date thinking to myself this guy can t be for real. He has to have some weird skeletons in his closet or SOMETHING Guys like this don t find me. The insecure part of me wasn t even sure if I was deserving of him. Cut to 14 years later. Here we are Married with two children and a beautiful life we have built together. We are a team. He has given me confidence stability and security and not a day passes that I don t feel like the luckiest girl in the world. The fragile part of my soul also doesn t go a day without worrying that somehow the happiness I have found will be snatched away. So thank you Matthew Matthews for finding me. For helping me to find myself. And for bringing me to your hometown Kansas City where I finally feel at home myself. HLM Jenny Matthews is Mix 93.3 s radio darling She is the host of The Jenny Matthews Show and has been happily married for 10 years to caller number 9 (... ask her about that sometime ) 114 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM photography by phillip flores photography HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 115 HERLIFE TIE THE KNOT K Kelsey and Steven wr it t en by m ar ily n is am in ge r p h o to gra p hy by tra c y ro u th p h o to gra p hy elsey Nicole Ross 24 graduated from Oak Park High School and recalls. We pulled up at Brio where we had our first date five years before. He blew right by the host stand saying he had a table reserved upstairs. At the top of the stairs we were standing in front of a red curtain he said Close your eyes and opened the curtain. My family his family and all of our friends were there and I assumed they were there to celebrate my birthday. Before I knew it he was on one knee and popped the question Of course I said Yes Steven had arranged for someone to film and take photos of Kelsey s memorable moment. The blissful couple tied the knot on June 6 2015. Kelsey s Maid of Honor was Tracy Miller and bridesmaids were Jessica Mitchell Lyndee Blades and Allison Sullivan with Katie Schneider as junior bridesmaid. Steven s Best Man was Ben Ross groomsmen were Scott Angevine Kevin Murphy Neil Smith and Ryan Gros. The wedding day began early as the wedding party dressed at the Hilton. It was such a relaxing day for both Steven and me we were both able to spend time with our friends and family notes Kelsey. I did a first look with my dad which was such a magical moment for us to share. Then we went in separate groups around KC taking photos and taking care for Steven and me not to see each other. continued her education at Maple Woods Community College. She Steven Ross 26 graduated high school from Blue Valley Northwest While Steven was playing baseball at Maple Woods Community Col- earned her degree in dental hygiene in 2014 and works at a dental practice in Kansas City Missouri. High School and then went to three different universities playing baseball at all three. He graduated from the University of Arkansas-Fort Smith with a degree in business administration and works as a marketing consultant in addition to sharing a real estate business with his father and brother. Steven and Kelsey live at the Country Club Plaza in Kansas City where they love the convenience of the area s restaurants and shops. lege I was taking classes for dental hygiene smiles Kelsey. Let s just say that Maple Woods is not a very large school so we were going to cross paths at some point. We ended up running into each other at the gym. He turned to one of his baseball friends and said That girl s mine as he pointed at me. Before you knew it we were going on our first date For his proposal Steven created a praise-worthy surprise for Kelsey. For my 23rd birthday he said he had a nice dinner date planned Kelsey 116 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Businesses that shared in the love bridal gown Ida s Bridal and Tuxedos bridesmaids gowns Bella Bridesmaids groom s suit tux & groomsmen suits tuxes Todds Clothiers & Tailor Shop hair styling Jessica Davies & Valerie Runyan makeup Sara Armel & Gabby Palonimo photography Tracy Routh Photography videography Chris Olson florist Good Earth Floral Design Studio dj Your KC DJ caterer The Hilton President cake Aces Cake Shop venue The Hilton President jeweler Shane Co. wedding coordinator Events by Nellie HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 117 June 6 2015 We returned to the hotel for the ceremony and as I walked down the aisle with my dad my breath was taken away by how beautiful the room was and seeing all of our close family and friends present as we were about to take our vows and then seeing Steven for the very first time that day. We both had tears in our eyes. It was such an unforgettable moment. After the ceremony our guests enjoyed cocktail hour and hors d oeuvres as a limo took the bridal party to scenic locations for photos. Then we returned to the Hilton for dinner speeches toasts and dancing it was truly our fairytale wedding and we wouldn t have changed a thing. Kelsey and Steven honeymooned in Cabo San Lucas at an all-inclusive resort where they swam with the dolphins took a sunset dinner cruise and relaxed by the pool and beach. HLM 118 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 119 HERLIFE HELPING HANDS Watts of Love Leaving No One in Darkness After Sunset wr i t t e n by meredith mack in r illey pho t o gr aphy by kevin kust er W atts of Love founder Nancy Economou began her epic journey to design and deliver 1 000 solar lights to one of the additional bamboo skewers after dusk. She sold them at market the next day thereby providing more food for her family. Students seamstresses midwives and fishermen created the same kinds of successes. Aside from providing up to 130 continuous hours of reliable light WOL lanterns feature charging capabilities via an innovative USB port that charges cell phones and other small electronic devices. Cell phone service providers distribute free basic phones knowing even the poor will buy service in order to stay connected with family. However for many there is no way to charge cell phones other than walking great distances to remote charging stations. The Watts of Love philosophy is that no one should be left in darkness after sunset. Enabling sustainable change through renewable energy is the fastest way out of poverty in remote places in the world. In only four years WOL has distributed lights to Mozambique Haiti Nepal Ghana Kenya and the Philippines with plans to revisit almost all of those countries in 2016. Donating 50 provides a family with a lifechanging light. But if now isn t your time to give donate your social equity Follow Watts of Love on your social media channels and share their story. To donate or for more information go to HLM poorest islands in the Philippines after a business trip with her husband John. There she met a young girl severely scarred by kerosene lamp burns which compelled her to develop a sustainable lighting source to bring to those living without basic access to electricity. When Nancy and her WOL team arrived on Ilin Island in February 2013 for its pioneer solar light pilot project the team met scores of villagers suffering in extreme poverty and ill health who were forced to sit unproductively at night. For many living in a world of darkness means relying on toxic and costly fuels such as kerosene for lighting which is also deadly. In addition to lung disease it is responsible for causing horrific Light in Today s World 1.1 billion people live in darkness more than the world s population when Edison invented the light bulb Exposure to kerosene s toxic soot kills nearly 2 million people annually Each year more women and children are severely burned by kerosene lamps yearly than are diagnosed with HIV and TB combined Light provides up to a 30 percent income increase Light increases children s daily study time by up to 78 percent and about 2 years more of formal education disfigurements that few can afford to treat with medical attention. WOL s intention was to enable families to save the money otherwise spent on toxic fuel and also to provide the opportunity to increase productivity and income well into the night. Literally overnight the team learned that the first solar light recipients had used their new tools to achieve an unimagined level of success. One mother of seven children proudly reported more than doubling her daily income in just 24 hours by using her lantern and whittling 1 000 120 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 121 HERLIFE CALENDAR February 9 Wines of Italy 23 DATE February 9 TIME 7 00pm LOCATION Paulo and Bill 16501 Midland Shawnee DETAILS Paulo and Bill presents the Wines of Italy full dinner event with Chef Apprentice Fernando Aguilar. Enjoy delightful wines selected for each dinner course with a delicious dessert of classic tiramisu. 70 per person plus tax & gratuity. Please call 913-962-9900 to reserve a table. Steve Winter Photographer On the Trail of Big Cats DATES February 23 TIMES 7 30pm LOCATION Kauffman Center for the Performing Arts DETAILS Go around the world in search of big cats with awardwinning photographer Steve Winter. A determined explorer Winter will lead you from Asian jungles where resilient tiger populations persist to the Himalaya home of the rare snow leopard. He ll share both dangerous and lighter moments from getting stuck in quicksand to mishaps with remote-controlled cameras. Co-author of the new National Geographic book Tigers Forever Winter s mission is to share the beauty of big cats while working to save them. Visit for more information. 12 Women of Faith DATES February 12 and 13 TIMES February 12 7 00 - 10 00pm Saturday 9 00am - 5 00pm LOCATION The Sprint Center DETAILS Long before reality TV Women of Faith speakers were candidly sharing their real problems and challenges all the while reassuring those in the audience that God is with us even in the pain of life. Uplifting and inspirational messages from world-class authors and performers offer relevant personal stories and practical applications for spiritual renewal authentic connection with other women and a deeper faith experience. For more information visit 23 Newsies Broadway Across America DATES February 23 through 28 TIMES Vary LOCATION Music Hall 301 W. 13th Street Kansas City Missouri DETAILS Set in New York City at the turn of the century Newsies is the rousing tale of Jack Kelly a charismatic newsboy and leader of a ragged band of newsies who dreams only of a better life far from the hardship of the streets. But when publishing titans Joseph Pulitzer and William Randolph Hearst raise distribution prices at the newsboys expense Jack finds a cause to fight for and rallies newsies from across the city to strike for what s right. Visit for info and tickets. 13 Valentine s Day with Saxophonist Kim Waters DATE February 13 TIME 8 00pm LOCATION Gem Theater 1615 E. 18th Street Kansas City DETAILS Saxophone superstar Kim Waters who is celebrating his 25th year as a recording artist will be performing his smooth jazz with a special Valentine s Day concert as part of the Jammin at the Gem series. Silver Soul is Kim s recent solo album and follows 16 Top 10 and 14 1 singles and 4 1 CDs. Visit and for more information. 24 VENUS Beauty Event DATES February 24 TIMES 4 30 6 30pm LOCATION 11409 Ash Street Leawood DETAILS Join us for Premier Vein & Body s Beauty Event. RSVP for your free consultation by February 19. Get 25 percent off the purchase of any Venus facial treatment package at the event and receive a FREE mini treatment. Call 913-451-8346 or email events The Women s Center at Menorah Medical Center Open House 16 DATES February 16 TIMES 4 00 - 6 00p.m. LOCATION Menorah Medical Center Overland Park DETAILS Come see the newly renovated Women s Center at Menorah Medical Center You won t want to miss the fun at this free event food and drinks tours of our spacious patient suites free gifts drawings for prizes physician exhibit tables and local vendor booths. Enter through Entrance B and follow signs to Elevator B to Floor 3. 26 Blake Shelton DATES February 26 TIMES 7 30pm LOCATION The Sprint Center DETAILS The reigning five-time CMA Male Vocalist of the Year and coach of NBC s hit show The Voice will hit the road with a stop at Sprint Center with special guest Chris Janson. Tickets will be available at the Price Chopper Box Office at Sprint Center and charge-by-phone at to learn more. All calendar event submissions must be received by March 5 for the April issue and adhere to our guidelines. E-mail admin for guidelines or to submit entries. 122 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 123 HERLIFE HOROSCOPE in turn make you very frustrated and angry with everyone. Not good. Instead focus on relationships with your besties and don t sweat the romance stuff. Your system could use some TLC so focus on eating more alkaline foods. Taurus APR. 20-MAY 20 You are feeling your bullish nature this month which is making you more restless than usual. Your personal filters are set on low which might be bad for everyone including you. However some of this inner restlessness comes from your need to balance the scales. People have taken advantage of your easygoing nature and this is the month to set the record straight. If you burn bridges make completely sure what you re doing before striking the match. Gemini MAY 21-JUNE 20 All of the stars indicate that this is the month to move forward with creative endeavors. You are at your charming best and the world is literally your oyster. Given this feeling there is also the potential to act rashly and impulsively. Best to stay away from temptation. Cancer JUNE 21-JULY 23 Star Journeys This is the month to become organized and most signs will feel the need to clean throw out and restructure their home office finances as well as their own interior landscape. Give in to this because with the physical organization will come emotional spiritual and mental realignment that the stars support this month. Everyone s diplomacy is going to be challenged but most signs are going to rise and shine being a pleasure to be around and an inspirational force. HLM by mel ody bus s ey Some of your more strongly held beliefs may be challenged and tested this month. This will also coincide with a desire to do more with your life whether this means to grow in a spiritual physical mental or emotional way is totally up to you to decide. You will finally become aware of the limitations that you ve been placing on yourself and take steps to remove them. Leo JULY 24-AUG. 22 There will be no doubt as to your opinion on any matter this month. Make sure to temper this determination with kindness so that you don t alienate those around you. You don t feel compelled to play by the rules this month. Choose wisely which rules to adhere to and which ones beg to be bent. Virgo AUG. 23-SEPT. 22 You feel as if you want to make a difference in the world around you but you aren t exactly sure how to go about that. Take your inspiration to help others and to teach and see where they might fit in this month. Libra SEPT. 23-OCT. 22 This will be a very busy month for you Libra. Multitasking will be the name of the game and when divine inspiration strikes make sure you are in a position to take advantage and act on it. You will be the chief troubleshooter at work and at home and you will excel at it. Aquarius JAN. 20-FEB. 18 The feeling that you need to be organized will hit you. Give in to it. Clearing away clutter and bringing organization into your life are good not only for your home and office spaces but for your inner spaces as well. This will open up the door and create room for new opportunities on the career and romance fronts. Scorpio OCT. 23-NOV. 21 You will either be everyone s best and brightest blessing or their worst nightmare this month. This is because all of your insecurities are going to surface to be examined and you will not enjoy it. Learning to love yourself is where it s at. Pisces FEB. 19-MAR. 20 This may be a month during which disappointments seem bent on destroying your bliss. Take heart most of the hiccups that will occur are easily fixed and many of them are actually blessings in disguise. You will have an opportunity to be social toward the middle of the month. Definitely go to the party. Sagittarius NOV. 22-DEC. 21 Working solo is your best option if you are given the choice. This is because your energy level is going to outstrip that of all those around you which others may resent. Shine be yourself but don t do so at the expense of others. Aries MAR. 21-APR. 19 You know that tendency you have to let little things become big things It s going to happen again this month if you aren t careful. If you give in to this instant drama gene then it will in turn increase your feelings of insecurity which will 124 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Capricorn DEC. 22-JAN. 19 While there may be a few money hiccups this month you are more than able to take care of them. Trust yourself. In fact some opportunities will arise for you to make some money using the internet. Go for it. You will be very successful. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 125