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KEEPING WOMEN CONNECTED AUGUST 2017 MADE IN KANSAS CITY Sierra Otto Brooklynn Anderson Emily Reinhardt Trendsetter Health Mother s Perspective Travel Cravings 4 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 5 6 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 7 CONTENTS HERLIFE 10 WELCOME Note From the Publisher 72 BOOK REVIEW One Way or Another by Lisa Adler 14 FASHION BLOG Back-to-School Cool 74 TRENDSETTER KC Clothing Company EMILY REINHARDT SIERRA OTTO BROOKLYNN ANDERSON 16 18 SCENE AND BE SEEN 80 HIGHLIGHT The Vicki Welsh Fund In Loving Memory GREEN LIVING Breaking the Mold Green Tips for Combating Mold and Mildew 22 HIGHLIGHT Jennifer Davisson PA-C MPAS 82 FINE THINGS Ladies Start Your Engines 26 HIGHLIGHT Eat Well Travel Often Anna Petrow 84 SPOTLIGHT Brain Balance Achievement Centers Foundation for Future Success 30 HEALTH Baby on the Way Now What 88 WORKING WOMEN Signs of a Hostile Work Environment 32 SPOTLIGHT Patients are the Priority at Johnson County OB GYN 90 FINANCE Strategies to Tax Savings for 2017 36 SILVER LININGS Common Myths About Aging 92 38 BEAUTY Beauty From Your Pantry ASK THE EXPERT A.B. May Selecting the Right HVAC Team 42 SPOTLIGHT Dr. Levi Young Skilled in Procedure Artistic in Nature 94 HOME Easy Ways to Refresh Your Space 54 SPOTLIGHT Brill Eye Center A Passion for Eye Care Innovation 96 REAL ESTATE Sell Your Home Faster with a Tech-Savvy Realtor 46 INSPIRATIONS Made in KC Inspiration from Earth Prairie and Sky - Emily Reinhardt Sierra Otto and Brooklynn Anderson Beginning a business or career with a dream requires grit and determination to succeed and our Kansas City metro provides a wonderful environment that fosters all the arts. The annual Made in KC issue features Brooklynn Anderson Emily Reinhardt and Sierra Otto who share their unique talents and perspectives and encourage all of us to tap our creative reserves. 58 MOTHER S PERSPECTIVE Wigglers and Daydreamers Options for the Child with ADHD 98 PETS Controlling Feral Cat Colonies 100 TRAVEL Hop Aboard for a Caribbean Island Cruise 60 CULINARY Alternate Food Sources 102 JUST SAYIN 62 CRAVINGS Talk of the Town Leawood Homemade Goodness in a Family Atmosphere Jenny Matthews 104 TIE THE KNOT Jessica and Heath Brunton 68 RECIPES Spinach and Feta Turkey Burgers and Mexican Rice and Grape Salad 108 HELPING HANDS Youth Volunteer Corps Builds Leadership 110 IN THE CITY 70 WINE Grill and Chill Calendar of Events 112 HOROSCOPE August Horoscopes 8 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM WELCOME PHOTOGRAPHY BY RENEE MERCER HERLIFE Summer Memories S FACEBOOK.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE HERLIFEMAGKC ince the day Quade decided he wanted to play baseball I have sworn that I would never spend a weekend in the summer heat at a baseball tournament. I have always looked forward to the summers because it means taking some extra time to swim play outside and enjoy the break from the weekly grind of school and all that comes along with it. A baseball tournament was something I thought I would never do or want to do. I didn t want to sit at the fields all weekend fearing that it would take away from time that we would have to spend quality time with the kids. I was wrong so wrong. We just experienced our first baseball tournament and it was probably one of the most amazing experiences for Quade and for us as his parents to witness. It was one that created a memory that I know I will never forget. Quade is modest thoughtful sensitive and he doesn t like to attract attention to himself. He found comfort with his team as they fought their way into the championship game. Previously he wouldn t have been the one cheering the loudest or outwardly getting physically excited but you could hear him cheering on his team and watch his excite- ment with huge claps or fist pumps. HERLIFEMAGKC I realized that he will always remember his first tournament and the fun he had with his team and it happened right here in KC I m always questioning if I spend enough time with my kids. I wonder if we are making memories that they will remember forever or if we are going to enough events. The truth is my boys don t know the difference between spending more money or time in planning a trip but they remember the quality of the time we have together. I look forward to creating more quality memories. Most memorable events occur spontaneously they re usually not the ones we spend the most time or effort planning. We don t remember every moment of our childhood but we remember the highlights. My fondest memories of my childhood all happened right here in KC. Kansas City we have everything we need right here to create the best memories of a lifetime. Another summer went by too fast but I will hold on to these memories as Kansas City will provide endless opportunities to create more special moments as the year progresses. Enjoy this city and make more memories as one season comes to an end and the next one begins. Cherish it HERLIFEMAGAZINE TAMMY CRYSTAL McDONALD 10 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 11 Staff & Contacts PUBLISHER EDITOR Tammy McDonald Marilyn Isaminger OFFICE MANAGER Patsy Crystal ART DIRECTOR Elana Bell GRAPHIC DESIGNER Casey Olson Michelle Carder michelle 816-516-9888 Gretchen Hayes gretchen 913-787-4812 ACCOUNT EXECUTIVES CONTRIBUTING AUTHORS Ann E. Butenas Lisa Taranto Butler Patty Cook Rebecca Flansburg Stephanie Fox Lauren Hedenkamp Jesyca Hope Marilyn Isaminger Kellen Jenkins Tina Klugman Melissa Haines Lavin Laura Leiva Maria Marsh Jenny Matthews Cindy McDermott Linda R. Price Merritt Rethlake John Sandbach Tina V. Savas Catie Watson Abby Wood CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS Bill Artman Photography Chris Campbell Sander Cha Marissa Cribbs Photography Lindsay J.C. Lack Dustin McEntarfer Heather Morrow Lauren Frisch Pusateri Colleen Ring Mark Stuecheli Brandi Wisdom CONTACT HERLIFE MAGAZINE 7535 W. 160th St. Overland Park KS 66085 913-402-6994 SUBSCRIPTIONS Subscriptions are available for 20 (for 12 issues). Please go to or mail a check made out to HERLIFE Magazine to the above address. 2017 by HERLIFE Magazine. All rights reserved. Although some parts of this publication may be reproduced and reprinted we require that prior permission be obtained in writing. HERLIFE Magazine is owned by KLP Enterprises and is a free publication distributed locally and is supported by our advertisers. It is available in selected specialty stores doctor and dental offices medical spas hair and nail salons tanning salons public libraries and numerous other high traffic locations. Please call for a location near you or if you would like copies placed at your business. We do not necessarily endorse the views expressed in the articles and advertisements nor are we responsible for the products and services advertised. We welcome your ideas articles and feedback. 12 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 13 FASHION BLOG WRITTEN BY ABBY WOOD ABBYWOODWEAR HERLIFE Abby Wood is a wardrobe stylist and style blogger in Kansas City and her education in design plus retail experience make her an expert in fit fabric style and trends. Her professional experience in fashion began with an apprenticeship with a bridal designer shifted to creating and showing her own line moving up to management and training at a retail level and now professional styling as an independent consultant. Abby loves to work with individuals and help them develop and evolve their own sense of style. Find her at abbywoodwear. com. For daily style finds and tips you can find Abby instablogging as abbywoodwear on Instagram and Facebook. DO YOU FEEL LIKE YOU NEED A LITTLE REFRESH BEFORE SCHOOL STARTS I OFFER BACK-TO SCHOOL SHOPPING FOR ALL AGES AND WOULD LOVE TO HELP YOU OR YOUR CHILD LOOK THEIR BEST. EMAIL ME AT ABBY ABBYWOODWEAR FOR MORE INFO DON T FORGET TAX-FREE WEEK IN MISSOURI IS AUGUST 4 THROUGH 6 Back-to-School Cool B ack-to-school shopping has always been a big deal. In my early years this meant a trip to the mall and a visit to Gap Kids and to pick up some brand new white Keds . There was an employee at the Oak Park Mall Gap Kids my own personal shopper that always helped me. He put together cute outfits that he knew I would love and that would be mom-approved. He always found quality basics as well as some fun and unique pieces that made me feel on trend. Together the three of us found items that would mix and match and get me through the school year. My mom knew that I loved fashion and she also knew that my style was a way to express my creativity and to feel confident to do my very best. As I got older this translated into other important events in my life first day of college first interview first day at a new job and so on. The look good feel good mantra that my mother taught me is still in my head every day. With back-to-school right around the corner there are lots of fun styles trending for fall. As you grab your new backpack or handbag here is a quick edit of the go-to trends that you can look for when shopping 14 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM ABBYWOODWEAR B A C K T O S C H O O L M U ST H A V ES 1 2 3 4 5 6 Overalls (yes they re back ) Oversized Sweaters Distressed Denim Velvet Everything Sporty Sneakers The Bomber Jacket 7 8 9 10 11 12 The Slip Dress Jean Skirts Silky Neck Scarves Metallic Chokers Embroidered Denim and Shirts Old School Logo T-Shirts HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 15 SCENE & BE SEEN PHOTOGRAPHY BY SANDER CHA HERLIFE Healthcare Goes High Tech with New Imaging Clinic On June 5 Diagnostic Imaging Centers P.A. opened its brandnew state-of-the-art clinic in Overland Park. This move merged one clinic that was housed in three different suites with the company s administrative offices business center and call center. More than 350 employees patients partners and community members attended an open house event on June 20 at the new location at 6650 West 110th Street in Overland Park. The event featured physician-led tours of the new clinic Jack Stack Barbecue a kids zone music from 99.7 The Point and tours of the Mobile 3D Mammography Coach. Dr. Linda Harrison said Our new facility was designed from the ground up with an eye for patient comfort privacy and state-ofthe-art imaging so we are really excited for this day. 16 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 17 HIGHLIGHT HERLIFE In Loving Memory LINDSAY SHARP Lindsay was a beautiful bright sassy funny 32-year-old who was an avid softball fan player college coach and coach for girls age 12 through 18. After a nine-month battle against mucinous ovarian adenocarcinoma she passed away on September 22 2016 a month prior to her wedding. No one should suffer as she did. We her family chose to be involved with the Vicki Welsh Fund s efforts to raise awareness of this terrible disease. MARY T. MEYER In 2003 I lost my mother to ovarian cancer right before I graduated from college. My mom was a nurse and believed in advocating for ovarian cancer awareness. In 2015 my 10 years of volunteer efforts paid off a past professor wrote to thank me for all I had done to raise awareness in KC. At age 42 she pressed her doctors for additional tests and caught her ovarian cancer very early she s now cancer free - Katie Martinovic KELLIE NEWBOLD Kellie Newbold passed away on May 13 2015 after a heroic seven-year battle against ovarian cancer. She was a devoted wife mother daughter grandmother sister aunt and friend. Those who had the pleasure to know her were inspired at how illness did not stop her from focusing on others and displaying grace bravery and an insatiable will to live every day to the fullest. Kellie s main passions in life were her family friends and faith. She relished being a wife and mother and was overjoyed to be a beloved grandmother known as Mimi and to be the mother figure to nieces nephews and countless others. SPECIAL ADVERTISING SECTION 18 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 19 SCENE & BE SEEN PHOTOGRAPHY BY MARK STUECHELI HERLIFE Stems A Garden Soir e The ten-year celebration of Stems A Garden Soir e was on June 24 at the beautiful Overland Park Arboretum & Botanical Gardens. More than 2 000 guests enjoyed good food drinks entertainment and a fireworks display as they strolled through the gardens. All proceeds benefit the Arts & Recreation Foundation of Overland Park so they can support the OP Arboretum & Botanical Gardens Deanna Rose Children s Farmstead and city installations. Save the date for June 23 2018 20 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 21 HIGHLIGHT WRITTEN BY JESYCA HOPE HOPE COMMUNICATIONS PHOTOGRAPHY BY COLLEEN RING HERLIFE Jennifer Davisson PA-C MPAS Jennifer Davisson PA-C MPAS has a passion for protecting and preserving your skin. As such she is a vibrant essential part of the office of David Kaplan MD Adult and Pediatric Dermatology. She has 13 years of professional dermatological experience since earning her Master of Physician Assistant Studies from Saint Louis University where she completed a dermatology preceptorship. She lectures nationally is an Adjunct Clinical Assistant Professor for the UMKC Physician Assistant s program and a member of various professional organizations. W 22 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM hile her primary passion is her medical practice Jennifer also provides cosmetic treatments such as Botox and Juv derm and she s excited to share she now offers Kona LHE Intense Pulse Light IPL is a non-invasive non-abrasive treatment with the highest industry safety ratings that works to 1) reduce acne breakouts 2) tighten pores and reduce wrinkles 3) lighten or eliminate pigmented lesions such as red blood vessels or brown spots. It is FDA approved for permanent hair reduction. This team of professionals including Jennifer invites everyone to benefit from their years of experience innovative treatment options prompt scheduling and superior personalized care. That superior care includes their Direct Pay Model. This patient-friendly practice diminishes costly interference from insurance companies and bypasses your high deductibles and co-pays. PLAN THE BRIGHT FUTURE OF YOUR SKIN CALL TODAY AT 913-469-1115. SPECIAL ADVERTISING SECTION HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 23 SCENE & BE SEEN PHOTOGRAPHY BY CHRIS CAMPBELL HERLIFE Tacos and Beer on the Boulevard It was brew with a view as a sold-out crowd gathered for cold beer on a hot night and live music by local jazz sensation Megan Birdsall. Dinner was provided by several local restaurants and guests enjoyed an amazing silent auction. Event co-chairs for the Boulevard Brewing Company-sponsored event were Laura Koepnick Hill and Ember Trubin emcee was Chris Hernandez. Event proceeds benefit Southwest Boulevard Family Health Care a nonprofit family health clinic that provides more than 1 million of charity care annually to residents of both Kansas and Missouri. 24 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 25 HIGHLIGHT HERLIFE Eat Well Travel Often Anna Petrow While many of us aspire to build a meaningful career and simultaneously balance our hobbies and passions culinary and travel photographer Anna Petrow has managed to make them one and the same. A KC native and graduate of the University of Missouri Anna Petrow has built a career photographing two of her greatest passions travel and food. Her work has been featured in the New York Times Jetsetter and Fathom and it regularly appears in Feast Magazine. This spring Anna added the title of Editor as she teamed up with Made in KC to launch a new Kansas City lifestyle website MIKCexplore ( The website which launched this summer seeks to highlight the city s greatest neighborhoods restaurants shops museums and art while also featuring many creatives in the Kansas City scene. We recently sat down with Anna to ask a few questions HLM WE HAVE TO ASK DO YOU GET TO EAT ALL THE FOOD YOU PHOTOGRAPH AP (laughter) Everyone always asks that. Most of the time the food s been sitting out for so long and we ve touched it so much that you wouldn t want to eat it. But I think I have a constant curse where if I don t eat before a shoot thinking that I ll get to eat there then I m not fed. But if I have a big lunch before a shoot they ll offer me everything. HLM WHAT ARE THREE OVERLOOKED SPOTS IN KC AP Columbus Park The area as a whole is really fun to walk around. Every time I take people to places like Happy Gillis and Columbus Park Ramen they re surprised the area exists. Rico s Tacos Lupe They re the best overlooked tacos by far. Crazy affordable and they have the best homemade hot sauce. Broadway Butcher It s easy to just drive by it in Midtown traffic but if you stop in there you can tell them what you re making for dinner and they ll hook you up with the perfect cut of meat. HLM WHAT S THE MOST UNEXPECTED THING THAT S EVER HAPPENED ON A SHOOT AP I was doing a photo shoot at Mesob and my lighting equipment caught on fire. No one was hurt. HLM WHAT ARE YOUR TOP THREE SURPRISE CULINARY TRAVEL DESTINATIONS AP Dallas Texas It s more than just TexMex there s great ethnic food from all over the world there. Columbia Missouri Not your standard college food scene. There s a big artisan food movement with a heavy emphasis on farmto-table restaurants. Three of my favorites are Bard Owl Uprise Bakery and Cafe Berlin. Santa Fe Although Santa Fe s known for its art scene the artistry extends to the food with options like modern New Mexican and innovative tapas at La Boca. HLM WHAT CAN WE EXPECT FROM YOU IN THE NEXT FEW YEARS AP I m still deciding whether I want to continue my journalistic pursuits with publications like the New York Times and keep aiming towards the likes of Travel & Leisure or if I want to focus on the restaurant marketing side of the business. I love that work and think there s a great opportunity in Kansas City to help owners and chefs reach a hungry audience. But who says I can t do both for now I m going to begin releasing travel guides soon on my website which will be a nice combination of the two. SPECIAL ADVERTISING SECTION 26 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 27 SCENE & BE SEEN PHOTOGRAPHY BY DUSTIN MCENTARFER AND BILL ARTMAN PHOTOGRAPHY HERLIFE SAFEHOME Saturday Night Presents Dueling Pianos SAFEHOME raised nearly 251 000 at SAFEHOME Saturday Night on June 10 thanks to its generous sponsors in-kind donors 408 attendees and volunteers The gala at the Sheraton Overland Park Hotel featured a gourmet dinner open bar and silent and live auctions. Emcee entertainment was provided by Missy Koonce and Dueling Pianos by Howl at the Moon. AMC Theatres served as the lead supporter of the event while Kay Sprague served as the committee chair. Net proceeds of the signature gala will benefit SAFEHOME the only Johnson County domestic violence agency. SAFEHOME s mission is to break the cycle of domestic violence and partner abuse for victims and their children by providing shelter advocacy counseling and prevention education. In 2016 9 273 victims and their families received assistance through SAFEHOME. To learn more about SAFEHOME s services or upcoming events visit 28 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 29 HEALTH WRITTEN BY LISA TARANTO BUTLER HERLIFE BABY ON THE WAY NOW WHAT Congratulations You re having a baby What could be more exciting than anticipating the arrival of a little nugget of joy A lthough you may live a pretty healthy lifestyle taking care of yourself has never been more important. It s no wonder everyone mind when choosing your doctor or midwife. You may want to do your research ahead of time to make sure the hospital suits your approach to labor and birth. from your Aunt Angela to your well-meaning manicurist spews fountains of unsolicited advice your way. Paying attention to your wellbeing during pregnancy is vital for a healthy baby so thank everyone for their wonderful words of baby wisdom and reign in the pregnancy myths and facts by arming yourself with good information. CLASSES You ve got a big day ahead so why not prepare for it Taking classes on childbirth isn t the real thing but it certainly will prepare you for what lies ahead. While many moms-to-be opt for birthing classes at their hospital you can also register for sessions from private organizations. Check into other classes that may be helpful everything from fit pregnancy and breastfeeding to sibling classes might be beneficial for your growing family. PRENATAL CARE Hopefully you have taken care of yourself since long before you got pregnant. Knowing your own health risks or medical conditions even before your baby is conceived is important. Some foods lifestyle choices and medicines can be harmful so make sure to have a thorough health exam by your doctor before trying to get pregnant. Finding out you are pregnant is exciting but you may be a little angst-ridden. Choosing an obstetrician is important so ask friends and family for recommendations. See your doctor at the first knowledge of a pregnancy for the best prenatal care. Even if you have had children before regular doctor s visits will keep you and your baby s health at the forefront not to mention being a great way to bond even more with your partner. NUTRITION While pregnancy may seem like a green light for gorging on whatever is in your pantry there is no more important time to eat nutritiously. While an occasional chocolate milkshake-pickle combo (no judging here) is okay eating a variety of healthy foods such as fruits vegetables and whole grains ensures a more balanced diet this will keep you feeling good and hopefully back to a healthy weight once baby is born. And don t forget the water. Drinking plenty of fluids will fight dehydration which can lead to cramps headaches nausea and even preterm labor in the final trimester of pregnancy. HOSPITAL Typically you will deliver your baby at the hospital where your provider has privileges so keep this in 30 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM EXERCISE Exercise is more critical now than ever before. Unless your doctor tells you not to work out you should aim for at least 30 minutes a day. Now if you weren t taking kickboxing classes before you got pregnant this is probably not the time to start. But doing familiar exercises walking and performing other low-impact exercise will be beneficial for you your baby and your peace of mind. NO-NO S Be careful when it comes to well-intentioned friends and family doling out baby advice. Pretty much everyone is an expert even men who have never had a baby are raring to educate you on their baby wisdom. If you get bleary-eyed from all the old wives tales just blame it on your obstetrician. Starting with the phrase My doctor says is a nice way of telling someone that you are paying a professional for superior advice. Hopefully that keeps everyone quiet at least until baby actually shows up. TAKE YOUR TIME Not every woman feels good during pregnancy. As a matter of fact most women will say they have felt stress over everything from preparing for baby to finishing everyday tasks. It is very normal to feel anxiety with the arrival of a bundle of joy but too much stress can affect you and the baby. Take some time for yourself to unwind and regroup. Get a massage meet a friend for lunch leave work early and hit your favorite yoga class have sex with your partner or just take a nap. All of these things (and you will think of more) will be a welcome release. No one is a perfect pregnant person so expect some super successes and a few failures over the next nine months. Remember to not be too hard on yourself. When we actually reflect on what is happening inside of us and the growth of that tiny little miracle it is truly a terrific triumph. Stop and smell the roses and relish the next nine months. SOURCES BABYCENTER.COM FITPREGNANCY.COM AND WOMENSHEALTH.GOV. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 31 SPOTLIGHT WRITTEN BY CINDY MCDERMOTT PHOTOGRAPHY BY LAUREN FRISCH PUSATERI HERLIFE PATIENTS ARE THE PRIORITY AT JOHNSON COUNTY OB GYN OB GYN the knowledgeable staff has successfully delivered tens of thousands of babies during its decades of service to the KC community. The facility s seven physicians have more than a hundred years of combined experience focused on obstetrics gynecology and overall women s health care. At Johnson County OB GYN we provide the highest quality of care with great compassion for our patients. When our group delivers a baby our goal is to make that the patient s best day of her life noted Corinna Cooper MD FACOG. We want our patients to feel that we listen to them and they know they are our priority. We re patient inclusive. The staff presents options and participates in the decision that needs to be 32 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM I t s been said it takes a village to raise a child. It also requires a quality healthcare system to welcome those little ones into the world. At Johnson County made but we don t tell our patients what to do stated Melanie Martin MD. In the end they understand what they re doing and why they re doing it. Of course certain guidelines are established as best practices and we abide by those but that doesn t mean there can t be some customization within the guidelines. LONG HISTORY OF WOMEN S HEALTHCARE Johnson County OB GYN was founded nearly four decades ago by Dr. Cranston Cederlind. Three years later Dr. Randy Sheridan joined him followed by other doctors over the years. The practice specializes in all areas of women s health including pregnancy infertility menopause birth control adolescent health pelvic prolapse and more. The physicians employ minimally invasive surgical techniques whenever possible including robotic and total laparoscopic hysterectomy endometrial ablation and incontinence procedures. A point of emphasis this year has been the goal of decreasing patient wait times by increasing the teamwork approach within the staff. The doctors and staff recognize the value of the time patients spend in the office and how busy their lives are. One of the advantages of our location is easy access from Interstate 35 commented Dr. Martin. In addition we re not on a huge hospital campus which means we have our own parking close to the door. When you re pregnant that s a big plus. I d add that it s a non-threatening environment. We re the only people here advised Dr. Cooper. You don t have to navigate to the third or fifth floor of the building. You don t have to figure out where your doctor s practice is located. At Johnson County OB GYN you walk through the door and we re right there. ACCESSIBLE OFFICE LOCATION The physicians at Johnson County OB GYN deliver primarily at Shawnee Mission Medical Center. Twelve years ago they built their own office building which provides convenience and easy accessibility. The facility affords patients some protection from exposure to viruses sometimes present in sick patients visiting larger medical office buildings. WELCOMING ATMOSPHERE Additionally the facility was remodeled about three years ago. The resulting environment is far from clinical but fresh WHEN OUR GROUP DELIVERS A BABY OUR GOAL IS TO MAKE THAT THE PATIENT S BEST DAY OF HER LIFE NOTED CORINNA COOPER MD FACOG. WE WANT OUR PATIENTS TO FEEL THAT WE LISTEN TO THEM AND THEY KNOW THEY ARE OUR PRIORITY. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 33 welcoming and inviting with a spa-like atmosphere and soothing interior colors of turquoise and blue. Drs. Cooper and Martin emphasize that Johnson County OB GYN offers its own ultrasound rooms which provide patients with convenience and immediate results. The ultrasound rooms are a huge asset shared Dr. Cooper. They re large enough that family members can be present without being crowded. There are comfortable beds and large TV monitors to watch the ultrasound taking place. Because they re at the facility ultrasounds are available all day every hour and can be coordinated with a patient s appointment added Dr. Martin. If something comes up in the exam we can have an immediate ultrasound with immediate results. It helps us alleviate the patient s anxiety and address the problem much more quickly. Another convenient service is a LabCorp operation that does blood work and handles pathology. It s convenient for patients and they get to know the phlebotomist so it s more comfortable for them shared Dr. Martin. If the doctors have questions we can quickly access that information. NEW STAFF MEMBER DR. MEGAN BROWN Johnson County OB GYN is proud to welcome Dr. Megan Brown who has joined the team this month. Dr. Brown will be accepting new patients as she assimilates into one of the leading practices in the KC-metro. We re pleased to have Dr. Brown join us and our solid team environment. At Johnson County OB GYN each of the physicians has someone just down the hall to ask questions of and confer with noted Dr. Cooper. We re a team you can ask about things you haven t seen before and that s especially important for a new physician or our nurse practitioners. I ve never hesitated to ask for help from my partners. I can count on them at any hour of the day or night. No matter what your women s health VISIT THE OFFICE AT 7440 W. FRONTAGE ROAD MERRIAM KANSAS THE WEBSITE AT JOCO-OBGYN.COM OR CALL 913-236-6455. concerns are the caring staff and experienced physicians of Johnson County OB GYN will be delighted to assist you in a relaxed comfortable environment. 34 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 35 SILVER LININGS WRITTEN BY ANN E. BUTENAS HERLIFE COMMON MYTHS ABOUT AGING My late 108-year-old grandma used to lovingly joke Tease me about my age and I will beat you with my cane Always good for a laugh and a hug Grandma never identified with her advancing age over the years. W hen she was sliding into the home stretch of her youthful 90s she was asked by a kind young parishioner at her church those who think negatively and expect the worst usually have the outcome they anticipate. When we think about getting older the images we have seen through various media platforms usually make us think of slowing down napping in a rocking chair and even possessing a somewhat negative and cranky personality. That s not necessarily true. Regardless misconceptions about aging and the elderly are prevalent. Here are a few of the top myths about aging and their rebuttals. Every older person is the same. In reality this segment of the population demonstrates far more variety than any other age group. They have a wealth of experiences that set them apart and demonstrate diverse stories and backgrounds. More than 50 percent suffer memory loss disorientation and strange behaviors. Roughly 80 percent of older adults are fully capable of carrying Would you be interested in the services of Meals on Wheels Without missing a beat Grandma replied Nope I don t have time to volunteer She went about her busy day with the same tenacity and ambition she had when she was years younger. She never consulted her mind about how old she was because she wouldn t believe it anyway. It s true that what we think will happen happens and as we age we tend to become what we think we will become. If we think we re tired overweight and worn out that s what we will most likely become. The Journal of the American Medical Association suggests seniors with a positive bias are 44 percent more likely to recover from a bout of disability. It is important to remain upbeat and optimistic embracing the will to live when those forces are in place the prognosis no matter the diagnosis typically improves. Conversely 36 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM out their normal day-to-day activities. Most older adults are unproductive. Even though they may not be fully employed at this stage in life seniors have much to offer and are often found giving of their time in volunteer roles as caregivers to others taking care of grandchildren and staying involved with a variety of civic and social activities. As people age they are unable to learn as effectively as in the past. Not all older people shy away from technology. In fact many embrace it and love to learn new things. Yes learning patterns do change over time and the speed of learning may diminish as one grows older but the basic capacity to learn remains intact. Older people just sit around and watch television all day. Older adults have a wide range of interests and actually sleep fewer hours per day than their younger counterparts. Most older people live in nursing homes and are incapable of getting around by themselves. You never rode in the car with my grandma when she was 100 In reality only about five percent of older adults reside in nursing homes and most are highly mobile. Older adults who continue to work are inefficient and miss multiple work days because of illness. Older adults typically tend to be extremely productive and are rarely late or absent. They possess a work ethic honed by many years of experience. Older adults are always lonely isolated and depressed. When older adults have families and friends nearby and interact regularly with them they are far more likely to be satisfied with their lives. The aging population suffers from a variety of diseases and disorders that limit their ability to do what they want to do in life. It s all in the mindset. My grandma lived a fit active and healthy lifestyle and hardly took a pill in her life. She could outwalk and outpace people half her age. Many senior citizens are in far better shape than the younger crowd. Certainly there are many negative attitudes about adults over the age of 65 but most of these are purely based on stereotypes and myths. We may realize a loss of function to a degree when we get older but there is so much we can do to prevent that or at least slow it down when it comes to how we age both physically and mentally. Regular physical exercise helps to retain muscle and encourage bone integrity. It is equally important to exercise the brain too by continuously learning new things. SOURCES AGINGCARE.COM SENIORPLANET.ORG AND PSYCHOLOGYTODAY.COM. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 37 BEAUTY WRITTEN BY LAURA LEIVA HERLIFE BEAUTY FROM YOUR PANTRY Have you ever looked at the ingredient list for your favorite beauty treatments and been hard pressed to pronounce them let alone begin to know what they do While some ingredients come with a fancy scientific name yet perform simple and important functions the truth is that many products are filled with ingredients and chemicals that are best avoided. W ant to do a beauty treatment at home using natural and pure ingredients Look no further than the pantry and everything in terms of beauty treatments. Use it as a deep conditioner for your hair rub it into dry cuticles throughout the day to hydrate and nourish nails apply it to dry elbows and knees for a powerful moisturizer and even consume it as a part of your daily diet Use melted coconut oil (leave it outside of the refrigerator) as a weekly hair mask massage it into the scalp for an extra-soothing treatment and then rinse with your favorite shampoo. When you re done with your shower rub a thin layer into towel-dried skin to lock in hydration for a healthy glow. refrigerator Chances are a number of basic staples in the kitchen are all you need to hydrate hair moisturize and brighten skin and even reduce the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles. Sound too good to be true It s not these everyday ingredients contain nutrients such as vitamins minerals and amino acids which work to hydrate skin and encourage cell turnover. You can get a purer form of the nutrient from food in the pantry plus it s economical and takes up minimal space in your house. Here are some of the most common ingredients that do a marvelous job at doubling as beauty treatments. TURMERIC This wonderful spice is a powerful antioxidant so it makes perfect sense that you would want to use it on your skin. Turmeric features more than 300 different antioxidants and it was used as a beauty treatment in ancient cultures. It works to purify skin and reduce a number of skin ailments such as acne oily and dry skin wrinkles and stretch marks. Create a simple turmeric face mask to fight back against dry skin and wrinkles by combining only a pinch of the spice with an egg white two drops of oil either olive or avocado oil and a squeeze of fresh lemon mix it together and then apply it to the skin. Once it dries wipe it away with warm water and use your favorite moisturizer. COFFEE How often do you empty out the coffee or espresso grounds from the coffee machine each morning Stop Save the grounds and use them as an exfoliant for the skin Coffee while it has some amazing physiological effects when we consume it also has beneficial perks when rubbed into the skin. The grounds gently slough away dry skin cells from the entire body and the caffeine content boosts circulation it also provides a temporary tightening effect which reduces the appearance of cellulite. Each morning add used coffee grounds to a small jar filled with a nourishing oil such as coconut or avocado oil and then use it daily in the shower. MAYONNAISE Yes you read that correctly. This popular sandwich spread also works well as a beauty treatment especially if you use an organic or homemade version. Egg yolks one of the primary ingredients in mayonnaise contain nutritional and hydrating properties COCONUT OIL Truth be told coconut oil is the antidote for nearly 38 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 39 that work well to moisturize skin and hair. Use mayonnaise as a deep-conditioning hair treatment or facial mask (especially when it s chilled from sitting in the refrigerator ) or massage the product into nails and cuticles for a strengthening treatment. EGGS If applying mayonnaise to your skin or hair sounds too frightful you can also use eggs in a variety of beauty treatments. Egg whites are beneficial for tightening the skin and smoothing pores while the entire egg when added to a face mask with mashed avocado banana and a few drops of olive oil deeply hydrates and nourishes skin and hair. Have you been out in the sun too long Soothe and calm skin by combining shredded fresh carrot with a few drops of pure aloe gel followed with one egg white. Apply the concoction to the sunburned area and allow it to set for 15 minutes before rinsing with cool water. These are just some of the most common ingredients that may also be used for beauty treatments. Any number of fruits vegetables and dairy products which contain beneficial lactic acid can help soften and nourish skin. The next time you take a look at the ingredients in your favorite beauty product consider switching it with something more natural SOURCES COVETEUR.COM AND REALSIMPLE.COM. U.S. Breast Cancer Statistics states in 2017 an estimated 252 710 new cases of breast cancer will be diagnosed in women and 2 470 new cases of breast cancer in men. American Cancer Society estimates that 230 480 new cases of invasive breast cancer are diagnosed every year in women of which about 1 200 women under the age of 40 die every year from breast cancer. Thermography - Digital Infrared Thermal Imaging (DITI) is an early detection screening tool that is FDA approved. Scans identify alterations in the cells for effective early signs of breast changes. It is safe quick radiation-free contact-free state of the art tool for men and women of all ages. As an EARLY breast disease detection tool it can afford detection of early stages of cancer and other breast diseases. In fact DITI is a radiation free adjunct screening tool to mammograms and can identify patients at high risk and therefore increases effective usage of mammographic imaging procedures. Please call and make an appointment...take charge of your health 40 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 41 SPOTLIGHT WRITTEN BY CINDY MCDERMOTT PHOTOGRAPHY BY COLLEEN RING HERLIFE DR. LEVI 42 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM YOUNG Skilled in Procedure Artistic in Nature of Advanced Cosmetic Surgery in Overland Park Kansas to achieve that exceptional and distinctive outcome. I m driven energetic and work hard at what I do. Every case is a personal reflection on my abilities. I m as invested in the final look as much as the patient. It s a reflection of my life s work stated Dr. Young. I m a unique surgeon. I m in practice by myself and I m among the youngest cosmetic surgeons in the area. Most others are in a group or older solo surgeons looking toward their careers completion. This offers me a unique advantage. I m just building my reputation and growing my practice. W hen considering cosmetic surgery you re going for a look that is totally you simply enhanced. Many women and men in the Kansas City area are turning to Dr. Levi Young EXCEPTIONAL QUALIFICATIONS Dr. Young obtained his medical education in the KC area and he s a life-long Kansas City resident. With board certification in plastic surgery he specializes in a wide range of cosmetic procedures from breast augmentation abdominoplasty and mommy makeovers to breast lifts rhinoplasty facelifts and eyelid surgery. To accomplish his success Dr. Young builds an individualized treatment plan for every patient that is well explained and set to deliver amazing results. I build a personalized care plan for each patient. To do that we discuss the look and outcome the patient wants. I genuinely listen to them about their goals and how they want to look Dr. Young shared. I believe it is important to educate patients. I take the time to fully describe the complete experience. My patients understand the risks and what the procedure entails. After surgery I make a follow-up phone call myself to check on the patient. I m very focused on educating the patient about all aspects of their procedure. My staff and I make ourselves available at every step of the process and are dedicated to providing a great experience. INVOLVED STAFF Dr. Young is supplemented in his mission by caring staff members who share his commitment to providing patients with highly individualized personal experiences. While customizing every procedure to each patient s goals is an important part of the process the Advanced Cosmetic Surgery team focuses on helping patients become comfortable with their surgical decisions. The office features dedicated staff caring for patients from first consultation through completed recovery with patients fully satisfied with their results. According to Dr. Young his real strength comes not only from his experience knowledge and compassion but also from his artistic abilities. He s a highly accomplished artist and his pieces are on display at his office and visible on his website He transfers those skills to his surgeries crafting enhanced looks for patients. MY ARTISTIC NATURE LENDS ME THE ABILITY TO ANALYZE EACH PATIENT AND DEVELOP THE BEST PLAN FOR THE DESIRED OUTCOME DR. YOUNG NOTED. MY ARTISTIC ABILITY IS AN INCREDIBLE ASSET IN THE OPERATING ROOM ENABLING ME TO SEE AND CREATE THE BEST AESTHETIC RESULTS. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 43 VISUAL ARTISTRY My abilities as an artist do set me apart from the competition. I m able to provide highly individualized cosmetic results that exceed patients expectations. My artistic nature lends me the ability to analyze each patient and develop the best plan for the desired outcome he noted. My artistic ability is an incredible asset in the operating room enabling me to see and create the best aesthetic results. An active member of the American Society of Plastic Surgeons Dr. Young has been recognized with the Ten Best Client Satisfaction Award in 2015 2016 and 2017 from the American Institution of Plastic Surgeons. He has been voted one of the top three plastic surgeons in the greater Kansas City area by Pitch Weekly honored as a Top Doctor in Overland Park and recognized by the acclaimed website RealSelf for his outstanding contributions to the RealSelf community. Dr. Young is one of only 500 doctors across the nation to receive this prestigious award. RealSelf is the leading online community helping people make confident choices in cosmetic procedures. CONFIDENT AND SUCCESSFUL PATIENTS Dr. Young believes his patients gain confidence as they work through their cosmetic surgery process. Guiding patients to a stronger healthier and more confident lifestyle is definitely a gratifying experience for both the patient and me he noted. In addition Dr. Young was proud to sponsor the American Heart Association s Go Red event in Kansas City this year and he worked with the first runnerup to Miss Kansas USA 2016 preparing her for competition. In 2017 Dr. Young sponsored Mrs. Kansas in the national competition held in Orlando Florida. While he s a leading cosmetic surgeon in the KC area his first priority is being Dad to his daughter. We take piano lessons together every Friday. It s 45 minutes for her and 45 minutes for me shared Dr. Young. It s an incredible opportunity for us to bond. Although Dr. Young is having trouble persuading his daughter to perform a duet with him at the next piano recital he can discuss a lifeenhancing procedure with you. The consultation is complimentary. At Advanced Cosmetic Surgery in Overland Park Kansas you ll be in the best hands possible skilled in procedure and artistic in nature. ADVANCEDCOSMETICSURGERYKC.COM 14340 METCALF AVENUE OVERLAND PARK KANSAS 913-299-5100 44 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 45 INSPIRATIONS HERLIFE WRITTEN BY CINDY MCDERMOTT PHOTOGRAPHY BY HEATHER MORROW HAIR BY COLLEEN QUICK OF RUMORS SALON & SPA MAKEUP BY ERICA JOHNSON OF EMJ HAIR STUDIOS WARDROBE STYLIST ABBY WOOD 46 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM MADE IN KANSAS CITY Emily Reinhardt Sierra Otto Brooklynn Anderson Inspiration from Earth Prairie and Sky There s something extra special about a product that s home grown. Many restaurants tout menus featuring local ingredients freshly prepared. Some shoppers feel a sense of duty to buy things created with a hometown flair. Our Made in KC entrepreneurs are filling that niche by crafting and creating their own products. For them success started with a dream and the ability to see that vision to fruition. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 47 My works are unique because I can t replicate the same pattern or design allowing that imperfection is nice Emily shared. I call my style earthy organic with a touch of glamour and it s very feminine. CERAMIC ARTIST EMILY REINHARDT For Emily Reinhardt who lives in the Brookside area of Kansas City Missouri the fantasy is to find the artful in the ordinary for her ceramic creations. Emily is the owner of The Object Enthusiast a website featuring many decorating pieces and showcasing her amazing ability to fashion purposeful home goods from a mound of clay. All of my pieces are in the pottery category but are functional home goods. I don t see my work sitting on a shelf in a gallery she said. I make everyday objects that are being used in the home. A collector of things she s always looking for something to bring home. This drive 48 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM sparked her desire to make objects. Her vases platters trays cups ring dishes and more offer touches of glamour with the gold she features in her work. But Emily is careful to craft finished pieces that can be perfectly imperfect organic and free form. I run with that a lot. My works are unique because I can t replicate the same pattern or design allowing that imperfection is nice Emily shared. I call my style earthy organic with a touch of glamour and it s very feminine. Emily s dream job started as a blog after she graduated from Kansas State University with a degree in fine arts with an emphasis on ceramics. She had no studio and no access to a ceramics facility but she wanted to stay active in the field. The blog was her answer. In 2010 she started selling ceramics on Etsy and then she decided to move to Omaha in 2013 to launch a ceramics studio growing it into a full-time business. However her longing to return to Kansas City and the support she received here brought her back to the community in 2015. It s exciting to have this as a full-time job. I have so many ideas in my head that I haven t even had time to create. That s the motivating factor for me she commented. Sure there are lows when you don t have everything in place but right now in this season I have so many ideas that it keeps me thrilled and excited to be out in the studio every day. As advice for other promising entrepreneurs Emily offers these thoughts. It s pretty easy to get bogged down and negatively compare yourself to others in the business. I ve looked at other artists and they re at a point where I want to be in the future. But I ve learned that each of us has a different path to take Emily noted. My business is unique and my direction isn t the same as someone else s. It s nice to have other businesses to aspire to but I don t compare myself in a negative way to others. I keep my eyes forward and I m growing in my own way. There s no book about doing it the right way because the business is so unique. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 49 described as boho chic with some modern flair. Her style is influenced by a Southwest JEWELRY CRAFTSWOMAN look sporting global motifs and patterns. I was born in the Flint Hills of Kansas and showroom in New York said the wife and mother of six-month-old daughter Opal. I was very active in meeting people and networking. I didn t have time to be shy. My mom said you never know if you don t ask. So I asked. I stepped outside of what I am normally. Being outside her comfort zone paid off with the establishment of her company in 2016 and an extensive number of retailers carrying her work. Sierra s pieces can be that s a special spot for me. My family has a ranch there and I draw inspiration from the Kansas prairie noted the 2010 Kansas University grad. I work in sterling silver gold vermeil which is 14-karat gold on top of sterling silver and 14-karat gold. I use pure quality metals that won t irritate the skin. Sierra makes many of the pieces in Brookside but much of it is fashioned in Los Angeles and New York. Some of the fine jewelry is crafted in India SIERRA OTTO For Sierra Otto also of Brookside in Kansas City Missouri pounding the pavement brought her vision of Sierra Winter Jewelry to life. The high-quality fine jewelry designed by Sierra is so versatile it can be worn to a kid s soccer game and then on to a nice night out on the town. I knocked on doors. I emailed. I took trips and brought product with me visiting dozens of different retailers. I attended trade shows and then signed on to a 50 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM and a few pieces are produced in Thailand. Three-quarters of her line is made in the United States. Empowered by a bachelor of fine arts degree with an emphasis in metalsmithing and jewelry design Sierra spent five years as a designer at the Lenexa Kansas-based Silpada jewelry company. But Sierra wanted something more owning her own jewelry business. Her plan of starting a family with her husband Jeff was the basis of that dream. I kept thinking about what my life would be like in five years. I wanted to be my own boss with flexibility and I wanted to start my company before we had children. I wanted to go off and do my own thing. I spent a lot of time researching and planning. Then I dived in head first at 100 miles per hour she commented. I found out I was pregnant the week before I launched the company. Last year was a really busy year for us. Sierra set some lofty goals for her company and she achieved those marks. Kansas City really embraces my jewelry she remarked. I didn t know what to expect but I m a big goal setter and I reached every goal I had set for myself last year. What s ahead for this Kansas City entrepreneur In five years she envisions being a nationally recognized jewelry line and brand. She intends to keep her base in Kansas City but grow a team that she will train to produce more of her collection in the U.S. Sierra is proud of her success and she offers advice that focuses on moving out of your comfort zone. You ll never know if you don t ask she advised. Open your own doors. Put yourself out there because no one else will do it for you. Sierra is proud of her success and she offers advice that focuses on moving out of your comfort zone. You ll never know if you don t ask she advised. Open your own doors. Put yourself out there because no one else will do it for you. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 51 People should follow their dreams and it s really true for me. It s okay to do that regardless of what people say because nobody knows you better than you Brooklynn shared. Do something that you love and have fun with it. interest from California and New York and I m looking forward to getting my career in music solidified. The Olathe North graduate has deep roots in the KC metro. Her mother Jodi is functioning as her momager. The rest of her family including a brother who s ten and sister who s seven along with her dad Jermaine offer great support. In fact they ll cheer her on as she competes in the KC Superstar show set for later this month. As for the future this songstress will continue to focus on her vocal lessons and recording songs. She offers that the music business is a tough field to break into. But she s confident that she has the foundation to make it she especially holds a deep faith in her ability to make things happen. People should follow their dreams and it s really true for me. It s okay to do that regardless of what people say because nobody knows you better than you Brooklynn shared. Do something that you love and have fun with it. I d rather be happy doing something I love than going to work everyday doing something that makes me miserable. She also adds that the backing of her parents is a key factor in her success. I d encourage all parents to support their child s dreams she said. If I didn t have my family s support I wouldn t be here today. Whether you re a budding entertainer who s committed to mak- OLATHE SONGSTRESS ing her own kind of music a potter who finds the ordinary extraordinary or a jeweler who sees the glitter in going above and beyond the KC metro offers incredible opportunities for those who dream big. It s the place where homegrown visions can become reality reaching far beyond your own backyard. BROOKLYNN ANDERSON Many teenage girls might be dreaming of being surprised with a new car or special piece of jewelry for their Sweet Sixteen birthday. But in Brooklynn Anderson s case her ultimate birthday present featured a great start on her professional singing career. I started my professional career when I turned 16 recalled the now 18-year-old from Olathe Kansas. It was then that I met my producer Anthony Saunders through a family friend. Together we talked about my breaking into the business and how to make it happen. Anthony was excited to work with me and it gave me confidence. He got me lined up with voice and performance lessons. He had recording equipment and led me through the process. In June Brooklynn released her first single that she co-wrote with Saunders titled Get It Back. She describes it as pop but a tune that people of all ages from little girls to older fans could enjoy. I want to be proud of my work and I want my family to be proud of it too. I want to stay true to myself and my music Brooklyn stated. I won t change myself to make it in music. Get it Back is available on all of the major music streaming sites. In fact she s getting radio play in the major market of Chicago. I have three other songs waiting to be released she shared. I ve received 52 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM SHOT ON LOCATION AT CHAPMAN RECORDING & MASTERING IN LENEXA KS HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 53 SPOTLIGHT WRITTEN BY CINDY MCDERMOTT PHOTOGRAPHY BY COLLEEN RING HERLIFE BRILL EYE CENTER EYE CARE INNOVATION In 1983 Brill Eye Center was developed with the concept of providing state-of-the-art professional eyecare at reasonable fees in a warm and friendly environment noted Dr. Raymond J. Brill Diplomate of the American Board of Optometry. That philosophy of care has stood the test of time for 34 years. PATIENT CARE WITH A FASHION TWIST Dr. Brill has a long and impressive career in the eye health field beginning with military service in the United States Army as the Division Optometrist at Ft. Riley moving to a pediatric eye care practice and then starting his own practice in 1983. We have an attractive 7 600-square-foot practice filled with high-technology equipment and a showroom of 2 500 of the most unique European high-style fashion frames. It feels like you are in an art gallery or high-end jewelry store. We want patients to say Wow when they walk in the front door commented Dr. Brill. At Brill Eye Center everything s done in a first-class manner to deliver the best possible experience for our patients. Our bottom-line is that we want patients to return and refer others. A PASSION FOR M 54 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM ore now than ever it is difficult to know where to seek health care. Do you ask a friend look at reviews online see who your insurance recommends Dr. Raymond Brill and his team pride themselves on being able to provide the full scope of routine and medical eye care. We have always had a high tech and high touch approach to individualized care in an unhurried manner. We will spend as much time as we need with each patient to reach a diagnosis and treatment plan that makes sense and fits the pocket book said Dr. Brill Optometrist in downtown Mission Kansas. TECHNOLOGY AHEAD OF THE CURVE Nowhere is that more evident than his groundbreaking work with Overnight Corneal Reshaping Or- EXPERT STYLING ASSISTANCE IS AVAILABLE FROM HIS HIGHLY TRAINED STAFF. WE WILL OFTEN PICK OUT THE PERFECT STYLES FOR YOU IN MINUTES ONES THAT YOU WOULD NEVER EVEN TRY ON. THERE S AN ART AND SCIENCE TO PROPER FRAME AND LENS TECHNOLOGY SELECTION. THE RIGHT FRAME CAN TOTALLY GIVE YOU A DIFFERENT IMAGE DECLARED DR. BRILL. thokeratology. I think of it like Invisalign braces for the eye. This process simply involves wearing custom-designed contact lenses that reshape the eye while you sleep it s like LASIK but without the risks of surgery he stated. Remove them in the morning and see well all day long without the use of daytime contacts or glasses. It costs about half of LASIK and it s totally reversible. Brill Eye Center is acknowledged for its effective treatment of dry eye syndrome in their dedicated Dry Eye Spa. Specialized FDA-approved equipment is used to first diagnose and then definitively treat the root cause of this problem and not just cover it up with eyedrops. Stop suffering from dry eye. EYEWEAR FASHION MEETS FUNCTION Fashion meets function when a patient is selecting an eyewear wardrobe Expert styling assistance is available from his highly trained staff. We will often pick out the perfect styles for you in minutes that you would never think to try on. There s an art and science to proper frame and lens technology selection. The right frame can give you a totally different image declared Dr. Brill. Most patients will leave with their contact lenses the same day due to a huge inventory of soft and gas permeable lenses. Patients travel from far away to see us. We want to make it worth the trip The practice works with col- DR. RAYMOND BRILL HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 55 and meets with leading designers of eyewear from France Germany Denmark Italy and other countries to cut out the middlemen to give patients extra value. We avoid selling fake Italian frames that are actually made cheaply in China Dr. Brill emphasized. We now can 3D-scan your head and customize every aspect of the frame style shape and make it from horn wood or acetate according to our computerized design. It s how frames will be made 10 years from now--but done today in our practice. INSURANCE COVERAGE Most major types of insurance are accepted by Brill Eye Center for your convenience for routine care and medical services even Medicare and KanCare Medicaid. BOTTOM LINE When you re searching for eye care excellence with an impressive selection of fashion eyewear and contact lenses visit Dr. orblind patients. Eight percent of American males have some form of color deficiency (1 out of 12 men). We can help 80 percent of these folks to allow them to live a more normal life Dr. Brill says proudly. Dr. Brill learned early that if a patient is happy with her service and materials she will tell many of her friends and family. Their fashion frame leadership began with displaying the exclusive Cartier collection of jewelry eyewear. Dr. Brill is a fashion-forward thinker VISIT BRILLEYE.COM OR CALL 913-432-7676 TO LEARN MORE. Raymond Brill at Brill Eye Center. You ll discover a practice combining the best of professional care at reasonable fees in a warm and friendly environment. As Dr Brill summarized with his motto We Put the I Care Back in Eyecare. 56 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 57 MOTHER S PERSPECTIVE WRITTEN BY REBECCA FLANSBURG HERLIFE WIGGLERS AND DAYDREAMERS OPTIONS FOR THE CHILD WITH ADHD Finding focus can be difficult for anyone these days no matter what age you are. Even adults working or playing online are likely have numerous tabs open at all times hopping among them like flipping TV show channels between commercials. now become a nationally recognized crisis in our young learners. Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder or ADHD is a mental disorder that most often occurs in children. The symptoms include difficulty concentrating paying attention staying organized and remembering details. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention studies indicate that 6.4 million children between the ages of 4 and 17 are diagnosed with ADHD. Attention deficit disorder or ADD and ADHD are often lumped together even though ADD sufferers typically don t have issues with hyperactivity or disruptiveness. While some parents choose to attribute their child s constant movement or lack of focus to simply being a kid many take a proactive approach to assuring their offspring get help and support. Here are some options worth discussing when attempting to navigate the sometimes slippery slopes of an ADHD or ADD diagnosis. O ur children are also affected by our overstimulated and technology-based world. What was once labeled as naughtiness has option. However medication affects everyone differently while a certain type may seem to work in one case it doesn t always mean it will work for someone else. Working with a doctor is imperative when trying medicine to help monitor doses and side effects. The most frequently prescribed ADHD medications are stimulants such as Ritalin and Adderall. They ve proven to help decrease the visibility of symptoms by making it possible for a child to sit still for longer periods of time. They also help with concentration and may make social situations such as school or work easier to manage. EDUCATIONAL While medication is the most common form of treatment it s far from being the only one. Students with this disorder find it extremely challenging to complete their work and pay attention in a classroom setting. It s important that teachers are aware and can adapt their teaching style accordingly. On-site professionals are now available at most schools to address the needs of students who struggle with focus and hyperactivity. An individualized educational plan or IEP is a plan or program developed by schools to ensure that a MEDICAL Medication can help control and limit the symptoms of ADHD and is often the most common treatment 58 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM diagnosed child receives specialized instruction and related services. This plan creates open communication among teachers parents and school counselors or behavioral specialists. spinners and fidget cubes items designed to keep restless little hands busy while increasing focus. Be aware that some schools and teachers are barring the gadgets from campus so check on policies in your child s schools. The fidget cube is a small six-sided device that students can hold in their hand and click roll and spin their way to better focus. The fidget spinner is a triangular spinner with a bearing in the center that allows it to spin and glide quietly. Similar to stress balls for adults these two effective tools are finding their way into more classrooms and schools with positive results. An increasing number of educators are adding wobble chairs or bouncy ball chairs known as flexible seating to their classrooms to let students wiggle while they work. Teachers who have implemented these new seating items note that students on the ADHD ADD spectrum learn and focus better when they can move their bodies in a way that doesn t disrupt the whole class. Having ADHD is hard and so is living with it. Parents need to be their child s advocate by talking to teachers and doctors to keep the lines of communication open. The main thing parents need to remember is that helping their child find focus might be difficult but it doesn t mean they re lost. Luckily finding help for kids with ADHD ADD has never been easier. SOURCES CDC.GOV DALLASNEWS.COM HEALTHLINE.COM HELPGUIDE.ORG AND THE EXPERIENCE OF THE AUTHOR. HOLISTIC For those who aren t willing to risk the side effects associated with medications there are alternatives. As with many conditions and disorders symptoms can be affected by diet. Avoiding preservatives such as sodium benzoate and food colorings such as FD&C Red 40 or FD&C Yellow 5 can help curb forgetfulness or organizational issues. Restriction of possible allergens such as dairy or gluten may help improve less-desirable behavior. Experts also agree that nature is an excellent tool for reducing some attention and hyperactivity problems in kids and adults alike. Author and child advocacy expert Richard Louv directly links the lack of nature in the lives of today s wired generation to some of the most disturbing childhood trends including ADHD and depression in his book Last Child in the Woods. Another benefit to implementing more outdoor time for kids with ADD ADHD is that nature and fresh air are free and readily available. GADGETS AND AIDS Some teachers love them some don t but within the last few years a plethora of ADHD-friendly gadgets have become available for educators parents and kids. Wildly popular among kids are fidget HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 59 CULINARY HERLIFE WRITTEN BY PATTY COOK ALTERNATE FOOD SOURCES Waiter there s a bug on my plate. Well be quiet or everyone will want one. I f you garden you see a parade of insects over the seasons. Digging up the soil in the spring brings up grubs. As summer follows spring beetles and cat- about the ideal time to harvest cicadas capture them newly emerged from the ground just before they shed their shells. And in the New World in the mid-1800s Paiute Indians were observed making cricket flour. First they dug large trenches then filled them with straw. After driving crickets into these traps the straw was set on fire. Once cooked the crickets were gathered and ground up to use as a high-protein flour. Today many cultures still enjoy dining on insects. In Africa termites may be fried or roasted. One favorite dish in Japan is inago fried grasshopper. And in Brazil a special dish features dragonflies de-winged and boiled in coconut milk with ginger and garlic. Some Latin American countries roast tarantulas and ants. More than 2 billion people about 80 percent of the world consider insects a food source. Yet in America and most of Europe people don t erpillars are inspected so that pests can be banished from plants. The songs of cicadas punctuate lazy summer days and the nighttime is filled with the chirping sound of crickets. There is an abundance of insect life all around us. But before people ever tended gardens or crops or livestock insects were a part of their diet. It s a fact the bugs we seek to dispatch in our yards and gardens were once valued as a source of protein and served as the main course. The merits of feasting on bugs are well documented throughout history. Pliny the first-century Roman author noted that upper-class Romans enjoyed eating beetle larvae. The Greek philosopher Aristotle wrote 60 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM feast on insects. The closest they get are the ocean arthropods shrimp and lobster. If you ve ever cleaned shrimp it s easy to see that they are in the same family as crickets flies and spiders. Yet I have never heard of a traditional recipe passed down from generation to generation that features crickets or grubs or grasshoppers. Why is it that certain cultures reject eating insects One reason we prefer livestock and crops may be that we evolved thinking of insects as the enemy. Insects can destroy the crops that we rely on to feed people and livestock. Therefore insects are adversaries that must be destroyed. But no one is keen about eating them. The idea is so taboo that reality shows such as Fear Factor feature people being challenged to eat gross foods including beetles and spiders. Does the thought of eating insects turn your stomach Well the truth is you already are. Insects that live in and on our crops are harvested and processed along with our food. Insect parts are found in processed foods such as rice flour tomato sauce peanut butter coffee and herbs. And a culinary trend toward eating bugs is just beginning in New York and California some restaurants and food trucks offer meals of grasshopper tacos and silkworm soup. Have you seen protein bars made by Exo or Chapul They re made with cricket flour. But does it make any sense to think of bugs as a sustainable food Let s see how traditional protein compares with insects. Each pound of hamburger you buy requires 10 pounds of feed and a minimum of 1 800 gallons of water to bring to market. That same amount of feed produces nearly five pounds of cricket. Cricket-farming operations use a minimal amount of water in a fraction of the space that livestock require. Bugs don t produce methane they can feed on food waste that would otherwise be discarded as garbage and they can be harvested in less than two months. How about the nutritional value of insects Ground beef is made up of about 18 percent protein and 18 percent fat. Contrast that with cooked grasshopper which provides 60 percent protein and only 6 percent fat. Cricket flour supplies more than twice as much protein as sirloin steak or salmon and it offers greater amounts of amino acids omegas magnesium vitamins A and B12 than traditional protein choices. If you compared the two nutritionally without knowing what the food product was which would you choose You may think you ll never be able to swallow the idea of eating bugs. If so consider sushi. When sushi was first introduced in America many people swore that they d never eat dead raw fish. But today sushi is widely available in restaurants and it s a popular fastfood choice at cafeterias and grocery store delicatessens. So when you come across snacks or dishes made of cricket flour mealworms or grasshoppers just think of insects as the new sushi. SOURCES ENTOMOPHAGY.COM NEWS.NATIONALGEOGRAPHIC.COM TECA.FAO. ORG AND WATER.USGS.GOV. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 61 CRAVINGS WRITTEN BY CINDY MCDERMOTT HERLIFE Talk of the Town Leawood HOMEMADE GOODNESS IN A FAMILY ATMOSPHERE Cindy McDermott is filling in this month for Erin Jones with our Cravings feature. Cindy has written Spotlight and Inspirations for HERLIFE Magazine for the last four years. She has 25 years experience in corporate communications and served in the U.S. Navy achieving the rank of Commander. In 2016 she co-founded the Moral Injury Association of America offering support to military veterans with Moral Injury. She organizes veteran writing workshops and volunteers for the Missouri Humanities Council. Cindy s fourth book humorous fiction with mystery and romance comes out this fall. Visit her website at T alk of the Town in Leawood is an eatery that deserves to be on the tip of your tongue no matter if you re singing the praises of this hometown family restaurant to friends and neighbors or enjoying the tastes from its delicious menu offerings or the extensive list of hand-crafted beverages wines and craft beer. A knowledgeable Talk of the Town has been a go-to spot in the Overland Park area for nearly 20 years. and attentive wait staff is sure to please. About six years ago the owners decided to expand to Leawood. The restaurant opened to great success maintaining its goal of superb food and drink with the family in mind. General Manager Nicole Marx says Talk of the Town Leawood features a family-friendly atmosphere that promotes a fun environment for people of all ages from the youngest to the oldest. We really have a family atmosphere here parents can kick back and relax and enjoy a cocktail before leaving for a movie or a Royals game. We feature pinball machines and patio games for the little ones and a kids menu with kid-sized pizzas cheeseburgers chicken fingers desserts and many more items she shared. Overall our food is reasonably priced and the highest quality. We make a lot of our products in house rather than getting them pre-made. One of those made-from-scratch items appearing in the appetizers section of the menu is the mozzarella sticks. Thick and hand battered with a crunchy goodness they re a gooey delight and PHOTOGRAPHY BY COLLEEN RING Colleen Ring is a published and award-winning natural light photographer who specializes in newborn portraiture and themed children s sessions. Colleen is a mother of two coffee lover adventure seeker hashtag hater and she loves everything about Kansas City She enjoys discovering hidden gems in the city whether it s a location for a photo shoot or a local eatery. quite filling. The marinara sauce alongside is sure to please. They re a must-have to start the meal or to complement your beer. If a sandwich is more to your liking check out Talk of the Town Leawood s Avocado Chicken Panini its most popular sandwich. The grilled chicken is moist and tender highlighted by the avocado strips of crisp bacon touch of ranch dressing and fresh jack cheese. It s layered on a bed of tasty sourdough bread locally created by long-time KC-staple Roma Bakery. Crunchy sweet potato fries complement the dish. To-die-for offerings at Talk of the Town Leawood are the Baja Fish Tacos featuring cod lightly coated in a unique Boulevard Wheat beer batter that s made in house. Corn salsa cabbage and jack cheese enhanced by a tasty chipotle sauce are piled onto the generous portion of fish resting in a flour tortilla. Spanish rice and refried beans are offered as sides. Baja Fish Tacos are specially priced on Fridays at 8.99. If you re not in the mood for this dish Friday-feature items also include Fish and Chips or Country Fried Chicken. Nicole has just finished tweaking the Talk of the Town Leawood menu by bringing on a special favorite 62 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM TO-DIE-FOR OFFERINGS AT TALK OF THE TOWN LEAWOOD ARE THE BAJA FISH TACOS FEATURING COD LIGHTLY COATED IN A UNIQUE BOULEVARD WHEAT BEER BATTER THAT S MADE IN HOUSE. CORN SALSA CABBAGE AND JACK CHEESE ENHANCED BY A TASTY CHIPOTLE SAUCE ARE PILED ONTO THE GENEROUS PORTION OF FISH RESTING IN A FLOUR TORTILLA. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 63 that is now a staple the Mahi Mahi Salad. The fish is perfectly grilled offering a firm flesh that s really more like a steak than a fillet. It s complemented by blueberries cranberries almonds and goat cheese on a bed of mixed salad greens. It s served with a grilled lemon as a suggested dressing for the dish. Placing the lemon on the grill tones down its tartness which makes it delightful on the taste buds. Consider pairing it with a glass of Dark Horse ros wine light and not overly sweet and a top seller at Talk of the Town Leawood. The hours of operation at Talk of the Town Leawood 11 00 a.m. until 2 00 a.m. are sure to fit just about any schedule. Booths and tables are great spots to dine and an outdoor patio is also offered. The kitchen remains open until midnight each evening to help quell your late-night munchies. The eatery also features a breakfast menu on Saturday and Sunday with service from 10 00 a.m. until 1 00 p.m. Our breakfast menu includes a little bit of everything noted Nicole. Build your own omelet biscuits and gravy eggs to order and a kids menu. We also have a buildyour-own Bloody Mary bar created with our own mix recipe. One item sure to please is the Anti-Oxidant Breakfast two eggs over easy guacamole and two slices of delicious 64 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM wheatberry toast which totally makes the dish with its slightly sweet crunchy texture. Skillet potatoes are served on the side. Pairing this plate with the Bloody Mary is a great way to start the day. While food is the highlight at Talk of the Town Leawood Nicole is quick to point out the outstanding selection of handcrafted drinks prepared to delight the eye and tickle the taste buds. The eatery is a huge supporter of locally crafted beer. Nicole has also expanded the wine list to please the most discriminating. Nicole shares that Talk of the Town Leawood can host your next event in its private meeting room. Enjoy your own TVs for watching videos and games or have a business meeting. Best of all there s no minimum fee to use it. Nicole suggests that if you want a weekend date call to reserve at least a month in advance. For a weekday event seven days is usually enough time. Schedule your next weekend breakfast family night or lunch date at Talk of the Town Leawood. An extensive menu of delicious food paired with excellent drinks beers and wines will please every palate. Word of mouth says Talk of the Town Leawood is the place to be. TO LEARN MORE VISIT TALKOFTHETOWNGRILL.COM. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 65 FOODIES HERLIFE CELEBRATING FINE FOOD & DRINK A GLUTEN-FREE BAKERY 12635 METCALF AVE. OVERLAND PARK KS 913.213.5355 MAMARESCHS.COM Mama Resch s is a gluten-free and allergen friendly bakery. We bake from scratch daily and specialize in hand-crafted small batch breads and gourmet sweets and treats. Our products are free from gluten dairy corn soy peanuts and tree nuts. No artificial colors or preservatives. Welcome to the gluten free revolution TRADITIONS STARTING DAILY AT 860 NW BLUE PARKWAY LEE S SUMMIT MO 816-347-1881 BIGWHISKEYS.COM LOCATION LEES-SUMMIT-MO Big Whiskey s American Restaurant & Bar is simply a great place to hang out meet friends & family and share a meal or drinks or both. Offering great lunches refreshing happy hour cocktails and delicious dinners you ll love our atmosphere both inside and on the patio. We re open late too 8815 RENNER BLVD. LENEXA KS 913.601.3500 4740 GRAND AVE. KANSAS CITY MO 816.561.8000 WWW.GRANDSTREETCAFE.COM For over 25 years locally owned and operated Grand Street has been a Kansas City favorite for its modern American cuisine. Grand Street s chef driven menu delivers seasonally inspired dishes in a contemporary style. Located in the heart of the Country Club Plaza and in Lenexa City Center our restaurants are the perfect retreat for unforgettable dining. MARGARITASAMIGOS.COM Margarita s Mexican Restaurant has been a favorite in Kansas City since 1985 and boasts five locations. Serving original family recipes Margarita s has won numerous awards not only for its Mexican favorites but for its namesake drink the MARGARITA Hosts Dave and Larry invite you to choose one of their locations for lunch happy hour or dinner the original Downtown on the Boulevard Lenexa Gladstone Liberty or Martin City. 48TH & ROANOKE KANSAS CITY MO 64112 816.561.7136 JJSRESTAURANTKC.COM JJ s is a fine dining tradition with a contemporary American menu featuring locally sourced produce and meats house-cut steaks fresh seafood and the best thin crust pizza and pork chop in the city. The expansive wine list has earned multiple honors from Wine Spectator magazine and Zagat rates JJ s as one of Kansas City s best restaurants. All the more reason to make JJ s part of your Country Club Plaza dining experience. 66 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 8721 RYCKERT STREET LENEXA KANSAS 913.955.3473 IGNITEWOODFIREGRILL.COM Ignite is a contemporary Midwestern wood-fire restaurant featuring steaks seafood and other rotisserie meats with an energetic vibe. Executive Chef Bradley Gilmore s inviting menu delivers exceptional wood-fire and rotisserie flavors and is accompanied by a stylish cocktail menu. Whether you re planning a night out with friends or a dinner for two Ignite is the perfect host for any occasion. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 67 RECIPES HERLIFE RECIPES & PHOTOGRAPHY BY BELLYFULL.NET SPINACH AND FETA TURKEY BURGERS INGREDIENTS 1 pounds lean ground turkey 1 cups packed fresh spinach finely chopped 4 ounces crumbled feta cheese 2 cloves garlic minced cup Italian seasoned bread crumbs teaspoon black pepper 1 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil 4 hamburger buns toasted Mayonnaise Cucumber slices Thin red onion slices DIRECTIONS In a large bowl mix together with your hands the turkey chopped spinach feta garlic bread crumbs black pepper and olive oil until combined. Divide into 4 equal portions approximately 4 inches in diameter 1 inch thick. Transfer to a plate and chill in the refrigerator for at least 4 hours. Preheat a grill to medium. Oil the grates and grill burgers until no longer pink and juices run clear about 5 minutes per side. Serve on buns with mayonnaise cucumber and red onion. Serves 4 Prep time 15 min. Chill time 4 hrs. Cook time 10 min. MEXICAN RICE AND GRAPE SALAD INGREDIENTS 1 cups uncooked basmati rice teaspoon salt 3 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil 3 tablespoon lime juice 3 tablespoons honey teaspoon sea salt 1 cup small red grapes halved 1 cup pico de gallo homemade or store bought 1 3 cup chopped fresh parsley or cilantro DIRECTIONS Place rice in a medium saucepan rinse and drain under cold water 3 or 4 times. Bring the rice the teaspoon salt and 2 cups water to boil. Turn heat to low cover and cook 15 minutes. Remove from heat and let sit 5 minutes. Uncover and fluff with a fork. Transfer to a baking sheet and gently spread out to cool 10 minutes. In a large bowl whisk together olive oil lime juice honey and sea salt. Fold in the cooled rice grapes and pico de gallo. Chill in the refrigerator for at least one hour. Stir in the cilantro just before serving. NOTE Rinsing the uncooked rice removes surface starch and helps prevent clumps and overall stickiness once cooked. Serves 6 Prep time 15 min. Cook time 20 min. Chill 70 min. 68 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 69 HERLIFE WINE WRITTEN BY MELISSA HAINES LAVIN GRILL AND CHILL Barbecuing is quite an American pastime. We take in the aromas wafting around the neighborhood we bond over the ritual of stoking coals and placing precision grill marks on prime beef. T his ritual is a conduit for bringing families and communities together. We have block parties in August to celebrate as neighbors sharing portabellas zucchini squash asparagus and pizza cooked right on the grill. Backyard and patio beverages have enjoyed the addition of summer fruits such as watermelon and berries now we have even more reason to enjoy them with a variety of fresh sangria recipes. Let s add some wine to the mix Two of my favorite summer wines are ros wines and rieslings both of which come in sweet or dry styles. potluck items stories and yes barbecue recipes that earn bragging rights until the next grilling competition. With August upon us we may think summer is passing us by with baseball games soccer matches and earlier school shopping we may not have had time to organize an official family vacation. The summer barbecue can make us feel the relaxation of a proper holiday at a fraction of the planning. Choose your meats vegetables salads beverages and games and you re grillin and chillin in no time at all. Barbecue menus have evolved since we grew up with hamburgers hot dogs steaks and corn on the grill. Today s outdoor chefs are proficient with grilled ROS ALL DAY We can t talk about summer barbecue without talking about summer in a bottle also known as ros in my house. Ros comes in a variety of formats from dry to sweet varieties with a few slightly effervescent gems that deliver just the right balance of fun and fla- 70 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM vor to go with the essence of summer living. What makes a ros wine different from red wine In the traditional method of making ros the skins of the red grapes will sit not longer than three days in contact with the juice before the mixture is pressed and the skins are discarded. With red wine the process of fermentation includes the grape skins. This explains the lighter pinkish color of ros rather than the deeper red color in red wine which relies on the longer fermentation and soak of the grape skins to impart color and other great qualities found in red wine. We can find ros wines in a few styles including still wine sparkling wine and blush wine all ranging in sweetness and dryness from a variety of grapes from around the world. Ros wines are available in single varietals or blends that may include mourv dre or cabernet sauvignon to round out the body and mouth feel of the wine. Cultivate your garden of ros At your next barbeque set out a few ros wines for folks to enjoy. Some of my favorite are grenache ros zinfandel ros tempranillo ros and syrah ros just to name a few. SUMMER OF RIESLING Rieslings are amazing wines for summer for a variety of reasons. Restaurants throughout the United States carry a variety of rieslings by the glass beginning in June and lasting through August. Before you assume that all rieslings are sweet think again. What s amazing about these wines is the acidity that pairs well with all those lovely barbecue sauces spices and cooking techniques including smokers. The best part is that the acid in the wine may come across as a bit tart but that means it won t leave a sugary coating on your tongue when you bite into that spicy-peppered sauced-up babyback rib or bratwurst sausage. Seafood No problem those oysters on the grill were nature-made to enjoy with a fresh crisp glass of riesling. The domestic wine regions of Washington State and the Finger Lakes Region of New York produce lovely rieslings. These northern areas provide a great environment for growing this extraordinary varietal that s held in high regard for its complexity and ability to age well. Why Much of the flavor profile of rieslings includes aromas and textures reminding our palates of apricot pineapple melon and sometimes peach with a bit of tart on the finish yet smooth like honey on the tongue. Barbecue sauces come in a variety of spice and smoke which makes the wine pairings even more fun. Making the wine portion of the BBQ a pot luck could be a fun way to explore the varieties of ros s and rieslings. Cover each one with a decorative bag and let the group decide which one is the overall best wine. My secret summer tip is to keep a bottle or two of prosecco chilled at all times for those occasions when you need to add a little flair to your iced fruit teas sangria or lemonade. SOURCES FOODANDWINE.COM AND WINEFOLLY.COM. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 71 BOOK REVIEW REVIEW WRITTEN BY LINDA R. PRICE HERLIFE One Way or Another BY LISA ADLER On Lisa Adler s website she states In my books I often describe the clothes my women wear their perfumes and scented candles their sofas pillows and beds and rugs simply because it seems to me to tell you a lot about who they are. I couldn t conjure up characters so well without those details and besides they are exactly the sort of intimate things you would know about a friend. A s Angie sinks below the aquamarine waters off Fethiye Turkey she vows revenge on the ones who put her in her watery grave one and radioed for help. A black yacht looking like a ship from the gates of hell answers picks up Angie and takes off almost swamping Zacharias smaller ship. Marco is still bothered by the incident with the red-haired girl but after talking with Zacharias and hearing his story Marco is at a dead end. Weeks later he goes to the airport to fly off to Paris to meet Martha. The flight is delayed because of engine trouble and he meets billionaire Ahmet Ghulbian who offers him a lift to Paris. On the flight Ghulbian spins a tale about Angie s drowning while trying to hire Mahoney to paint her portrait. When Mahoney refuses Ghulbian asks Marco to paint his portrait. Ghulbian invites Marco to his country estate Marshmallows. All of the main characters come together at Marshmallows. Martha is invited to redecorate the mansion and her sister Lucy comes along as her assistant. Marco is beguiled by Ghulbian and agrees to visit. Angie is hidden away in the mansion. Mehitabel watches over her and does Ghulban s bidding. The novel is told in third person. Adler tells Angie s story in chapters devoted to Angie s point of view narrating how she met Ghulbian how he seduced her with way or another. One Way or Another adds to Elizabeth Adler s list of best sellers. Her novels are filled with romantic trysts and intrigue she makes you feel as if you are in the middle of her scenes by describing the sights and smells that heighten the suspense of the story. Artist Marco Polo Mahoney sees a red-haired woman fall into the ocean and tries to rescue her. He grabs his old orange inflatable and chugs out to where she went under. He dives and dives but is unable to find her. Marco reports the incident to the Coast Guard but he has few details other than the girl s red hair and the black hull of a yacht. A few days later at his favorite bar Marco notices the barkeep s wife has a beautiful chain with a platinum panther around her neck. Artemis says she found the necklace on the beach. Martha Marco s girlfriend recognizes the necklace as a signature Cartier piece. Martha offers to have a friend who works for Cartier try to trace the necklace by its initials AM. Marco never found Angie or her body but Zacharias a fisherman did. He pulled Angie from the ocean 72 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM kindness and wealth Mehitabel s true role in the novel and how she finally escapes from her imprisonment. This romantic thriller borders on noir fiction. While similar to film noir noir fiction is according to George Tuttle an American sub-genre in which the protagonist is usually not a detective but rather a victim a suspect or a perpetrator. Another characteristic of noir fiction is the use of sex to advance the plot. Adler has followed the basic premise of the genre without its hard-boiled detective characteristics. Ghulbian and Mehitabel are as creepy as antagonists get. We observe their maneuvers to keep Angie prisoner while at the same time Ghulbian pursues and woos Lucy just as he did Angie. Martha Lucy and Marco thwart Ahmet and Mehitabel s evil intentions without really knowing what is going on. Martha and Lucy remodel the mansion while Marco paints Ghulbian s portrait on his yacht. Adler skillfully weaves in the threat imposed by Ghulbian and Mehitabel yet simultaneously allows the protagonists to continue working for Ghulbian. The lure of high fees overcomes their distaste for the man and their misgivings. It s hard to say what attracts in the novel. There is a good story line for those drawn to plot. The characters are strong and well defined. Angie for all her faults and predicaments has a strong will to live. Lucy is an unemployed would-be actress yet she s clear headed and savvy about what Ahmet wants. The sense of place is excellent. It would be hard to imagine a mansion and its grounds more menacing than Marshmallows except for Bronte s Wuthering Heights. And there is glamour a signature Cartier necklace two lavish parties and the jet-set life style of the rich and their employees entice the reader. Adler has done a superb job of creating a mysterious yacht and eerie mansion for Ghulbian. She has given him the perfect cohort to help him with his nefarious plans. It is the feeling of noir fiction that distinguishes the novel from others and makes it worth reading. Enjoy HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 73 TRENDSETTER PHOTOGRAPHY BY HEATHER MORROW MODELS SAIGE PETERSON AND MIKE SPERO OF VOICES& HAIR BY DAVID BARTRAM OF OLIVER S HAIR SALON MAKEUP BY LORA DEVINE WARDROBE STYLISTS ABBY WOOD AND HEATHER MORROW HERLIFE THE KANSAS CITY CLOTHING COMPANY PARK PLACE 11547 ASH STREET LEAWOOD KS 913.906.9477 ALYSARENE.COM 74 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM THE (KC) CLASSIC TRUCKER HAT SONS OF MONARCHY T-SHIRT THE (KC)ROWN RACERBACK TANK MERCHANDISE AT THE FOLLOWING LOCATIONS Brant s Clothing - Liberty The Bunker - Westport Etiquette Boutique - Prairie Village & Leawood Houndstooth - River Market Made in Kansas City - Prairie Village Briarcliff Prairie Fire and inside the Country Club Plaza s HMK Scheels - Overland Park Sunlighten Sunlight Day Spa - Overland Park The Garment District - Downtown (Power & Light) ULAH - Woodside Village Westside Storey - Kansas City (Westside neighborhood) New Crossroads store will be opening late this summer at 2020 Baltimore Suite 102 KCMO KANSAS CITY REPUBLIC DEEP V-NECK T-SHIRT THE (KC) T-SHIRT HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 75 THE SUPERHEROES COLLECTION A PORTION OF THE PROCEEDS FROM THIS COLLECTION BENEFITS SUPPORTING KIDS FOUNDATION IN KANSAS CITY. 76 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 77 LAKERS OF KC UNISEX TANK 78 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM THE (KC) SNAPBACK FLAT BILL HAT POCKET T-SHIRT THE (KC) CAMO WOMEN S MUSCLE TANK SONS OF MONARCHY TRUCKER HAT HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 79 GREEN LIVING WRITTEN BY REBECCA FLANSBURG HERLIFE BREAKING THE MOLD GREEN TIPS FOR COMBATING MOLD AND MILDEW If you re a homeowner the word mold can cause apprehension worry and maybe even a little stomach rolling. But the reality is that mold has been part of our existence since the dawn of time. I t s also important to keep in mind that not all molds are bad and in fact some are quite useful. Some forms of mold are used in the production of chees- also advise wearing rubber gloves to protect hands from mold and mildew as well as from the cleaning product being used. Here are some green ways to get rid of pesky mold and mildew es and others are used to make medications such as the antibiotic penicillin. Mold can be found anywhere there are thousands of known species. The most common types that homeowners can identify with are the white molds the furry-looking stuff we find on the leftovers that get lost in the abyss of the refrigerator and black mold stachybotrys chartarum the dark-colored substance that requires professional eradication. Certain kinds of mold can cause people and pets to become sick so finding the mold and figuring out whether it s toxic is a very important task. Molds are decomposers of organic material such as wood animals and plants. Mold and their spores are found in high concentrations in piles of leaves manure and compost. Mold can enter your home through doorways windows and air conditioning and heating vents. It is common for airborne mold spores to attach onto pets shoes clothes or bags. The mold spores will drop onto moist places where they will continue to grow. Mold is usually fuzzy in appearance and it can be many different colors including blue green yellow brown gray black or white. Mold also has a close relative mildew which usually grows in a flat pattern and may appear either powdery or downy. Like mold mildew can also cause health problems including respiratory issues and headaches. Unlike mold mildew has no beneficial uses. When eradicating mold and mildew make sure your work area is well ventilated and wear a facial mask to prevent breathing in mold or mildew spores. Experts VINEGAR SPRAY White vinegar is a delightfully versatile household item that not only cleans but can also be used as a mold preventive. Use vinegar to clean your home on a regular basis it s especially good for mopping the floors and wiping down shower stalls every week. Straight vinegar reportedly kills 82 percent of mold and it is an affordable and non-toxic way to wage war on mold and mildew. Pour some white distilled vinegar straight into a spray bottle spray on the moldy area and let the mixture soak for a while without rinsing. TEA TREE OIL Tea tree oil Melaleuca alternifolia is an essential oil found in health food stores. This oil has many uses including being effective in eradicating mold. Tea tree oil does have a strong smell and it s a bit more expensive than vinegar but is widely available. Make a natural spray by mixing two teaspoons of tea tree oil with two cups of water in a spray bottle. Shake to blend and then spray on the problem areas in your home without rinsing. GRAPEFRUIT SEED EXTRACT Grapefruit seed extract can also be found at health food stores and unlike tea tree oil it has a minimal odor that s refreshingly citrus. The best recipe for using this extract for mold removal is to add twenty drops of grapefruit seed extract to two cups water and 80 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM shake to blend. Spray on the affected area and let dry. Prevention of mold is on the mind of every homeowner but unfortunately there is no way to completely get rid of mold spores. However with these tips you can greatly reduce the chance that there will be mold growth in your home and do so in an environmentally friendly way. SOURCES BLACKMOLD.AWARDSPACE.COM FAMILYHANDYMAN.COM HOMEGUIDES. SFGATE.COM AND MOLD-ADVISOR.COM. WHERE DO MOLDS LURK This unappetizing substance hides in numerous spots in the home. - Refrigerator drip pans Underneath your fridge there can be moisture from spills and from condensation. - Front-loading washing machines The door of a front-loading washing machine will get wet when in use. When it s not in use and the door is closed mold can and will collect on the door. - Dishes When you stack dishes that are still wet in the cupboard it provides the perfect environment for mold to grow. When you re done washing the dishes dry them completely before putting them away. - Air conditioners When running these trap dirt and dust and then collect moisture from the air. This provides food and moisture for mold to grow. - Bathroom tub After a shower or bath moisture collects on the sides of the tub. This makes a perfect place for mold to collect and grow. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 81 FINE THINGS WRITTEN BY LAUREN HEDENKAMP HERLIFE FORD MUSTANG Convertibles from the mid 1960s are the most prized since this is the first generation of Mustangs that Ford produced. The three alternatives of hardtop convertible and sports roof and an engine range from 2.8 liter Thriftpower 16 to 4.7 liter Windsor HiPo V8 allow women to have a variety to choose from. The classic television show Charlie s Angels featured the Mustang with a female driver Farrah Fawcett in 1976. This depiction of a female hotshot driver in the 70s merely adds to its favorability among women who enjoy driving vintage cars. CHEVROLET CAMARO LADIES START YOUR ENGINES Like the Mustang convertibles are the most coveted. This classic vehicle is the quintessential sports car making it the perfect vehicle for the woman looking for speed. It comes with various engines from 4.9 liter to a I feel the need the need for speed The clas- 7.0 liter V8. sic quote from the movie Top Gun illustrates that being a hotshot means you don t follow VOLKSWAGEN BEETLE the rules you break them along with the Beetles are the ultimate choice for the first-time colsound barrier. lector as they are inexpensive to maintain while fun to that women are breaking barriers in the industry and becoming hotshots themselves in their desire for luxury vintage automobiles with speed. Although top television shows and movies featuring cars usually maintain all-male-led casts 30 percent of subscribers to Popular Mechanics magazine are female along with 10 percent who subscribe to Car and Driver magazine and insurance agencies have taken note of the rise in female classic car owners. Portrayals of female drivers in classic films include Angelina Jolie in Gone in 60 Seconds and Janet Guthrie and Danica Patrick demonstrate competence behind the wheel. Female classic car clubs include the Iron Maidens Miss Shifters Hell s Belles and countless more around the country connecting women who are a respected part of the classic automobile collecting community. The nation s largest insurer of classic cars Hagerty Insurance lists the top five most favored classic cars among female collectors as the Ford Mustang Chevrolet Camaro Volkswagen Beetle Chevrolet Corvette and the Ford Thunderbird. Here are a few reasons these vintage cars are popular among female collectors N drive. The classic air-cooled Beetle convertible was sold in the U.S. until 1980. The charming design is the biggest attraction for collecting this vehicle with its details such as the headlights featuring eyelids and its smooth frame. Expect to invest between 17 000 and 30 000 for a Beetle in excellent condition. o longer is the classic-car-collecting industry a boys club as the number of female collectors has been on the rise for years. This shows CHEVROLET CORVETTE America s longest-running sports car is considered the queen of its category. The Corvette s first generation was in the 1950s starting with a 4.34 liter V8 engine. The 1973 film Cleopatra Jones featured a Corvette Stingray driven by secret agent Tamara Dobson wearing fabulous 1970s fashion. FORD THUNDERBIRD Classic T-Birds are dependable and favored among women. The dazzling white 1956 two-seater T-Bird featured in American Graffiti with Suzanne Somers as the driver might be a contributing factor for the vehicle s popularity. The 1958 Thunderbird was redesigned to fit 4 passengers increasing the weight of the vehicle to 1 000 pounds. This larger size provides ample interior space and the 5.8 liter V8 engine makes the vehicle equipped to produce 300 horsepower. This list barely skims the surface of classic models that women are collecting today. Vintage MGs and Fiats 82 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM particularly the sleek Fiat 124 Spider with its five-speed transmission four-wheel disc brakes and easily opened rag top also maintain popularity among women. The best way to learn more about the classiccar-collecting hobby is to attend a classic car show. These events make it easy to view unique models in person and connect with other female collectors. National shows are supplemented by local shows in every state and they usually occur between April and September. Passionate collectors often combine their hobby with traveling to shows and swap meets. The Lola Old Car Show and Swap Meet in Lola Wisconsin combines a car show with swap spaces focusing on historical automotive artifacts. The Charlotte Auto Fair is a national show hosted at the Charlotte Motor Speedway in Concord North Carolina. Elegance at Hershey in Hershey Pennsylvania hosts a vintage race along with the car show. The Southwest Street Rod Nationals Plus is a three-day event located at the State Fair Park in Oklahoma City Oklahoma. Telluride Festival of Cars and Colors Telluride Colorado is fairly new but it has become extremely well known. If you re interested in becoming a collector look up a vintage car group in your area or attend a local vintage car show to connect with other female owners. Embrace your need for speed beauty and class and break some barriers. SOURCES BENDBULLETIN.COM DRIVERWEEKLY.COM GLOBALCARSBRANDS.COM AND HAGERTY.COM. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 83 SPOTLIGHT WRITTEN BY CINDY MCDERMOTT PHOTOGRAPHY BY LINDSAY J. C. LACK HERLIFE FOUNDATION FOR FUTURE SUCCESS riences enhance their skill sets and establish healthy lifestyles. Many see it as an investment in their future. For Overland Park Kansas mom Micaela Widman and her husband Jerad Brain Balance was that investment and a very worthwhile one. If you can fix their teeth for 7 000 why not fix your kid s brain for that same amount or even less Thanks to Brain Balance my son Kai will be happi- F rom soccer games and ballet lessons to math tutoring and doctor visits parents spend a lot of money for their children to enjoy new expe- er more productive and function in positive ways. It is an investment in him the foundation of his future success noted the mother of six. If you met him today you would never believe what he went through and what he did. If he hadn t gotten the help he would have been at zero functioning. It was grim. KAI S STORY Sixteen-year-old Kai was struggling with behavioral issues. In fact he was so disruptive in class his school asked the Widmans to not bring him back. He started having anxiety and then moved to OCD and bipolar irrational behavior but he was off the charts for intelligence recalled Micaela. Kai would lie down on the teacher s desk and talk out in class. He micromanaged his siblings and picked fights with them. He would repeat phrases over and over and have a faraway look on his face. He was combative and very negative accusing people and picking fights. In fact he was suicidal he couldn t stop the torturous thoughts in his head. Micaela was introduced to Brain Balance by a friend whose child had experienced tremendous improvements in the program. Her recommendation and the potential for Kai to enjoy a normal life was the hope the family had been seeking. Following the assessment Kai began his individualized program at 84 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM Brain Balance in Overland Park. Additionally he was referred to Dr. Alex Nelson a functional neurological chiropractor to address his medical issues. The program helped him get better and the results were amazing shared Micaela. program that incorporates sensory motor and cognitive programming. In addition families commit to a supplemental home program. Brain Balance is a joint commitment that leads to a healthier and more active lifestyle for the whole family ultimately improving the child s quality of life. the right and left sides of the brain so they re synchronized and working together. The nutrition program Balance 360 gives families step-by-step guidance toward a clean-eating system. This integrated approach is what makes Brain Balance unique and effective. At Brain Balance you have people who understand the brain. Through the program they get the two sides of the brain aligned commented Micaela. They find the root of the problem and dig it out just like you do when you weed your garden. There are no medications. With Brain Balance Kai s WIDE-SPECTRUM SUCCESS Brain Balance Achievement Centers offer a cutting-edge drug-free approach to help children with academics behavior and socialization. Brain Balance serves a population of children with or without a diagnosis but the firm commonly sees children that have been diagnosed with ADHD autism spectrum sensory processing and many other neuro-behavioral disorders. Essentially Brain Balance addresses the root cause of the child s struggles by improving brain function. The Brain Balance whole-child approach begins with a comprehensive assessment to evaluate the child s strengths and weaknesses. The assessment determines if there is a functional disconnection between the two hemispheres of the brain. An objective and quantifiable measurement of each area of function motor sensory behavioral social emotional and cognitive that encompasses over 900 different functions is assessed in a single three- to four-hour session. Each child receives an individualized FOCUS ON BRAIN DEVELOPMENT The Brain Balance Program integrates three key areas of brain development sensory motor cognitive and nutrition. The program is about restoring balance between THE BRAIN BALANCE PROGRAM INTEGRATES THREE KEY AREAS OF BRAIN DEVELOPMENT SENSORY MOTOR COGNITIVE AND NUTRITION. THE PROGRAM IS ABOUT RESTORING BALANCE BETWEEN THE RIGHT AND LEFT SIDES OF THE BRAIN SO THEY RE SYNCHRONIZED AND WORKING TOGETHER. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 85 problems went away. Micaela was so excited about the program that when she noted some minor issues with her other children they were enrolled in Brain Balance as well. It s the best money we ever spent she noted. As for now Micaela says that Kai is doing well. He s carrying straight A s in his junior year of high school he has a job and gets along with his siblings. Kai is just a fabulous teenager with a bright future. At times he still feels on edge but he s in complete control of it and he is highly functioning she shared. He enjoys life and he s not depressed or suicidal. In fact he just placed fifth in the state diving tournament. As for Brain Balance all I can say is it saved our family. It was the best investment we ever made in our kids. VISIT THE CENTER AT 6406 COLLEGE BLVD. OVERLAND PARK KANSAS CALL 913-627-9400 OR VISIT THE WEBSITE AT BRAINBALANCEOVERLANDPARK.COM. 86 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 87 WORKING WOMEN WRITTEN BY TINA V. SAVAS HERLIFE SIGNS OF A HOSTILE WORK ENVIRONMENT Hearing the words hostile work environment is enough to strike fear in the heart of any business owner. Immediate thoughts of state and federal regulators showing up at your door with accusations of harassment and discrimination and all the unsavory byproducts and labels that could result send shivers up the spine. I f you aren t familiar with what constitutes a hostile workplace you should take steps to understand it. It s important for you the owner to identify the A true hostile environment is created by actions communication and behavior that make doing the employee s job impossible. In other words the alleged behavior has changed the customary and reasonable expectations of a comfortable work environment for the employee. Your employee must be suffering from abuse regularly and it must be intentional and hurtful enough to cause distress and interference with her ability to do her job. It could be inappropriate rude or obnoxious behavior or sexually explicit jokes from a coworker. It could be a supervisor who verbally assaults an employee about her religion or race. Even if the behavior is disguised as joking it could still result in a hostile environment. In addition there are anti-harassment laws that cover hostile work environments. If one of your employees is creating a hostile situation for another this is harassment and it is covered by Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964. The actions communication or behavior could prove discriminatory as defined by the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission. Harassment and dis- elements of a hostile workplace and work to legally eliminate them immediately. Having a clear company policy will go a long way in protecting you and your company. Speak with your attorney and know your responsibility going forward. What is the definition of a hostile work environment In a hostile workplace one or several employees feel threatened in some way by management or other employees. According to the employment mediation website Mediate a hostile workplace is also an environment in which abusive conduct prevents an employee from doing her job. Many employees mistakenly believe that just having a bad supervisor or not getting a company car translates into a hostile environment but that isn t true. Certain legal criteria must be met but not getting a promotion or having to put up with a rude coworker don t count. 88 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM crimination statutes and legislation focus on the fact that your employee is a member of a protected class such as her race gender religion or disability. One of the surest ways to avoid a hostile work environment is to hire employees who will be likely to succeed and thrive within your business model. Pay careful attention to prospective employees personalities and work ethics that fit your environment. Consider accommodating your employees to avoid a hostile work place such as time off for family issues or a flexible work schedule. Flexible scheduling goes a long way to show your employees that you are in touch with their personal needs. In addition review your own attitude with your employees. Be willing to assist your employees growth and success and be ready to tackle issues when they arise. Communicating with your employees is crucial if you want to avoid a hostile workplace. Newsletters memos company-wide meetings and personal communication lead to an open environment. Employment agreements could prove a useful tool to clarify tolerances among staff. Creating company policies on how to deal with employees who fall short of expectations and job goals opens a channel of communication. If however problems do occur you simply can t afford to look the other way. An employee who experiences a hostile environment and has attempted to make the behavior stop without success will most likely end up at your door. You then have the opportunity to investigate the complaint and eliminate the behavior. Acting quickly and decisively will prove to your employees that you consider this an important situation. On the other hand if your employee comes to you with a complaint and you fail to resolve it she can file a complaint with the EEOC or your state s employment commission. She could also file a civil lawsuit against you. Sexual harassment racial discrimination and intimidation among employees are heavy burdens for any business owner to bear but following certain guidelines will bring back order to your business and rebuild a productive workplace. SOURCES DOL.GOV EEOC.GOV AND NOLO.COM. RECOGNIZE AND PREVENT Here are the legal requirements for a hostile work environment - The actions or behavior must discriminate against a protected class such as age religion disability or race. - The actions must be persistent and not infrequent. - The problem escalates as it targets an employee continues in duration and does not stop even with employer intervention. - The hostile communication behavior and actions must be serious enough in nature to interfere with the employee s current job performance or future with the company. - If the employer did not take sufficient action the employer can be liable for the hostile work environment creation. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 89 FINANCE WRITTEN BY TINA KLUGMAN HERLIFE complete a new form W-4 and submit it to your employer who will make the adjustment. UNDERSTAND REQUIREMENTS FOR TAX DEDUCTIONS Consider itemizing deductions to reduce your taxable income instead of claiming a standard deduction. You may be able to lower your taxes by doing so. For example if you buy a home or refinance a mortgage you may be able to deduct interest points and mortgage insurance premiums. There are tax deductions available for families and parents homeowners employees business owners students teachers car and travel charitable donations and more. It is important to keep receipts for qualified medical expenses childcare expenses unreimbursed workrelated expenses and self-employment expenses in order to maximize your refund and in case of an audit. STRATEGIES TO TAX SAVINGS FOR 2017 Many people don t think about their taxes until tax time from January to April. As a result they often wait until the last minute to gather documents prepare and file their tax return and pay any taxes they owe. T ax planning is something that ideally should be done throughout the year and it is never too late to start. Think of it as part of your normal LEARN ABOUT TAX CREDITS A tax credit is a dollar-for-dollar reduction of your tax liability that can reduce the amount of income tax you may have to pay. Tax credits change frequently and they may save you hundreds or thousands of dollars on your tax return. Examples include credits for homeowners credits for families parents credits for employees medical tax credits green energy tax credits and more. You can find a list of tax credits and deductions at financial planning routine. Planning ahead is the best way to pay the least amount of income tax each year. Here are some ways to start planning now in order to minimize impact for your 2017 taxes. GET ORGANIZED Set up a filing system to keep your documents safe and easily accessible. Retain records of all receipts and transactions that may affect your tax return. However keep in mind that most of the papers you need to document income interest and withheld taxes come in the mail during January. You can also set up a spreadsheet dedicated to tax records as many records are paperless these days. Consider downloading and printing records throughout the year that are only available online for a limited time. The IRS recommends keeping tax records for three years in case of an audit. CONTRIBUTE TO A RETIREMENT SAVINGS PLAN If you have a 401(k) an employer-sponsored deferred income plan try increasing your contributions to reduce your taxable income. Instead of making a larger contribution at the end of the year spread out your contributions over more pay periods which will reduce your take-home pay less. Individual Retirement Accounts are another way to save for retirement and save on taxes. Instead of putting your money into a savings account use an IRA. If you deposit money into a traditional IRA account instead of a savings account the interest will accumulate tax free. In addition contributions you make to the account each year may entitle you to a tax deduction. Contribution limits are much higher for 401(k)s than IRAs so many people prefer to use 401(k)s. IRAs also face income limits on tax deductibility or eligibility. CHECK YOUR MONTHLY PAYCHECK WITHHOLDINGS Most Americans receive a tax refund each year. While that may sound like good news the truth is that most people pay an average of 200 too much in income taxes every month. Try adjusting your monthly paycheck withholdings to spread out your refund. Doing this means that you get a tax refund as part of your regular paycheck instead of in one lump sum. If you would like to adjust your paycheck tax withholding 90 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM CONSIDER TAKING A CLASS Tax service companies frequently offer classes at their neighborhood offices to teach people how to prepare their taxes. Community colleges also offer various tax courses from introductory classes to in-depth studies that often require prerequisites. These classes are often much less costly than meeting one-on-one with CPAs attorneys or financial planners. You can even deduct the cost of tax-related seminars consultations and books. HIRE A TAX PREPARER If the idea of filing your taxes is too much for you a professional tax preparer can ease your pain. If you currently use a tax preparer ask her to show you areas on your last tax return where you could have reduced your taxes. Start shopping now to find a preparer with qualifications that you prefer. You can find a list of tax preparers in your area who hold professional credentials recognized by the IRS on their website. Keeping up with taxes should be a year-round endeavor. These strategies can help you minimize your taxes and make filing your taxes each year a much less stressful situation. Plus stay abreast of current events as there may be changes coming to the tax code for 2018. SOURCES IRS.GOV EFILE.COM AND ACCOUNTINGWEB.COM. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 91 ASK THE EXPERT HERLIFE WRITTEN BY MARIA MARSH A.B. May is Kansas City s leading home services company with expertise in heating and cooling electrical plumbing indoor air quality and more. The company has more than 13 000 whole-home agreements with metro area households. Locally owned and operated A.B. May employs more than 250 trained skilled and dedicated employees who are committed to serving their customers. Kansas City homeowners have trusted A.B. May since 1959 to improve their home s comfort and efficiency. Selecting the Right HVAC Team Not all heating and cooling companies are the same. Experience training and service are the keys to look for in an HVAC contractor. Q. HOW DO I PICK A QUALITY PROVIDER A There are a lot of great service companies in Kansas City but there are also some that may not always have your best interest at heart. When choosing a company to take care of your home service needs here are a few questions to ask Do all of your employees have background checks Do you pull permits on your jobs Will I know the cost of the job before you begin any work What happens if there s a problem during or after the job Q. WHAT IS THE BENEFIT OF HIRING A LARGER ESTABLISHED COMPANY VERSUS HIRING A HANDYMAN A. Sometimes you may just need a simple repair but HVAC systems can be complicated. If you don t have a trained professional working on it it could lead to problems down the road. Established companies often have continuous technician training experts to troubleshoot problems standard billing practices and an established protocol for quality customer service. Doing a little research on the front end will give you peace of mind about the company you choose. 92 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 93 HERLIFE HOME WRITTEN BY MERRITT RETHLAKE EASY WAYS TO REFRESH YOUR SPACE Some of the best home refreshes don t require a renovation all you need is a plan and a weekend. From switching out easy accents such as throw pillows and blankets changing the paint color of your walls or furniture to adding a plant here or there we ve got just the fuel to feed your new home decor vibes. T 94 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM ry painting a piece of furniture or a wall with decorative Chalk Paint . Skim readers be warned Chalk Paint is not synonymous with chalkboard the need for sanding or priming Chalk Paint gives new to life to furniture not to mention walls ceilings and floors. Its matte velvety finish has a smooth look that gives even the oldest of furniture or materials a fresh appearance. Or to get more of a washed look you can simply add water to the paint before beginning your project. If the furniture or material you re working with is a darker color it s best to use a darker shade of paint. You can easily find types of chalk-finish paint at your choice of retailer and paint. Chalk Paint was first branded by Annie Sloan but other companies offer a similar type of paint that gives a chalky vintage appearance with distressed details. The paint is known as a friend of both professional designers and DIY-ers alike as it requires very little preparation pre-painting. Perfect for indoors or out and eliminating in a variety of color options. Do you hear that callout for paint It s your ceilings talking Ceilings account for one-sixth of a room and they can act as a statement in the space for dramatic appeal whether painted light or dark. Painting your ceilings a lighter color will generally make them feel higher or as if you have an increased amount of space while darker ceilings evoke a more closed in or intimate feel. The trim wall color and natural light in the space will play an important role either adding contrast to the overall room or enhancing its lightness or darkness so keep that in mind. A cozy inviting trend that s easy to incorporate is layering area rugs. No matter whether it s over carpet or hardwood floors this addition of color texture and size will make any room feel unique and cozy. Choose rugs that are in the same color or pattern family to create a cohesive yet distinctive look. Find the subtle or abrupt contrasts between shades of blue or stay within a soft neutral palette such as gray whatever evokes your emotions or adds the right vibe to the space is the correct answer when layering rugs. If you start with a more neutral rug or have neutral carpet in your home it s easy to incorporate colors and patterns on top. Natural hides lend themselves to layer over any other carpet or rug as their organic shapes go with any size and their colors are usually within the neutral brown blonde black tan or white palette. You ll want to allow at least 12 to 18 inches of space on all sides of the first rug you lay down so you can see the contrast between the two rugs. Similar to layering rugs layering your throw pillows also falls within a few guidelines to make your space feel both personal and purposeful. Scale color and texture or pattern will ensure your mix of pillows looks cohesive. Opt for pillows in the same color family whether it s a color already incorporated in your space or one that you want to mix in and then choose a variety of sizes and patterns or textures for that eclectic look. Generally a square pillow a rectangular pillow and an oversized pillow create the trifecta of timeless appeal. Once you have your colors and sizes selected you can have some fun with the patterns and textures. One of two done-in-a-weekend projects is to spruce up with plants. Jade aloe spider plants and various succulents all thrive indoors and require little maintenance. Create a terrarium or fill a planter to sit on top of your coffee table or across your window sills to maximize your indoor greenery. Or hang your plants at varying heights to add easy visual interest to your space. The second project is to swap out the photos or artwork in your frames. Change them to reflect your musings of the moment to show your favorite parts of the current season or to include friends or family members who might be making a visit in the coming weeks. Arranging a frame or gallery wall can tell the visual story of things that are important to you whether it s an eclectic or measured grid arrangement it s easy to lay out the look by first taping off parts of your wall to outline your arrangement and hanging once you re satisfied with the wall. SOURCES ANNIESLOAN.COM BHG.COM AND HGTV.COM. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 95 REAL ESTATE WRITTEN BY STEPHANIE FOX HERLIFE SELL YOUR HOME FASTER WITH A TECH-SAVVY REALTOR As the world has gone increasingly high tech so has real estate. There are dozens of new tools real estate agents are using to sell houses and to help buyers connect to their dream home. A decade ago agents focused marketing their listings toward other agents who would pass along the information to their buyers. Now take the videos themselves using easy-to-use editing software programs specifically made for selling real estate. It s also possible to use regular still photos and turn them into an animated property tour highlighting special features of the home. Some agents are even taking advantage of the ubiquitous virtual world by creating a website for each home they list with a dedicated and unique website. The website address is included in a rider on the real estate sign outside the homes as well as in other marketing. This website can include the standard Multiple Listing Service information sales copy photos and videos. One of the hottest pieces of state-of-the-art techniques sweeping the real estate industry is the use of drones. According to MLS statistics homes with aerial images sold 68 percent faster than those without. Drones can take still and video photography with prices for drone services ranging from a few hundred dollars to more than 1 000 depending on the city the size of the home and the additional services the drone company offers. The use of drones is more suited for high-end or larger homes marketed to high-end buyers. Drone shots can show an entire property and they work best for a multi-story home with a large and attractive lawn gardens or a pool outbuildings or woods. Drone shots can feature whole neighborhoods and local amenities such as parks trendy nearby corners mountains or lakes a dramatic way to tell the whole story of a home including location location location. Using drones for commercial purposes requires 89 percent of buyers use online tools when searching for a home finding what they like before contacting their agent to say Here s one I want to go see. For sellers this means that having their home looking as good as possible online is the key to selling quickly and for more than the asking price. Each house and each neighborhood is unique so sellers should talk with their agent about how to handle their home s online marketing asking them what high-tech tools they use and why. There are a lot of choices. One of the new ways for home sellers to reach buyers is through online videos including video tours used by a small but growing number of selling agents. According to Google 51 percent of homebuyers are using YouTube to do research and most say they find video tours helpful when looking for a home. These virtual tours allow prospective buyers to walk through a home seeing the best of the property and giving sellers a huge advantage over those listings that don t feature this technology. Virtual tours allow hundreds of buyers to see a home instead of just those who actually visit the property. And if buyers view online and like the home they will show up with their agent for a live showing. For sellers this is an inexpensive way to get the attention of a greater number of prospective buyers to their home instead of one down the street. Real estate agents can hire a professional videographer or 96 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM special approval by the FAA. Drone operators need to hold a Remote Pilot Certificate with a Small UAS Rating or face a high fine that can extend to the person who hired them. Drones can t operate in Washington D.C. near sports stadiums during papal or presidential visits and within five miles of an airport. Neighbors might object as well. Hiring a professional who will not only follow the law but will know some of the tricks of the video trade is important to show the house in the best light. Be polite. Let your neighbors know your plans and assure them that they and their property will not be filmed. One very innovative sales technique currently available in only a limited number of markets is the live-streamed video walkthrough. These allow an agent to do a live broadcast to a buyer much like a personal podcast showing off each room and every special feature while answering questions about the property live while the buyer stays home. Expect the use of this cutting edge tool to be available everywhere very soon. Real estate sales techniques will continue to evolve at the speed of the internet. Real estate agents are evolving as well and will continue to offer newer and better multimedia experiences for clients providing more powerful new ways to sell homes. Be sure to ask your Realtor what they can offer. SOURCES CURBED.COM LATIMES.COM MONEY.USNEWS.COM RISMEDIA.COM AND SPROUTVIDEO.COM. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 97 HERLIFE PETS by or escaped from their owners. The stray cat is more accurately called a homeless or wandering cat. Some of these cats are socialized and can be put up for adoption. WRITTEN BY LINDA R. PRICE ADVOCATES Studies show that cat colonies are reduced over years. A 2014 study by the University of Florida s Dr. Julie Levy claims that the TNR program helped reduce animal control cat intake by 70 percent and euthanasia by 95 percent in the target area. A Texas A&M study from 1998 to 2003 noted that in the second year of the study no nursing mothers or kittens were found. The CONTROLLING FERAL CAT COLONIES Trap-neuter-return is a program designed to reduce the feral cat population that exists in many countries around the world including Great Britain Italy Canada and the United States. U.K. animal activist Ruth Plant began the first documented TNR program in the 1950s and groups in the U.S. initiated it in the 1960s. Atlantic City Boardwalk Cat Project undertaken in 2000 by Alley Cat Allies stabilized the Boardwalk s wellknown cat colony at around 175 cats. OPPONENTS Individuals veterinarians and organizations are opposed to TNR for reasons that include wildlife predation and public health issues. PETA believes that it is not in the best interests of the feral cat population and offers guidelines for appropriate program management including veterinary care vaccinations spaying and neutering and recordkeeping. Otherwise they recommend euthanasia since the cats struggle to survive in a hostile environment. Opponents also note that the resources and logistics required for a successful program are difficult to maintain. A primary objection is the questionable quality of life for cats that struggle with predation infectious diseases and kitten mortality. ness and nuisance complaints from residents in the areas studied. S ince TNR s inception the study of different feral cat colonies shows positive results in reduction of the colony size aggressive- WHAT IS IT In a trap-neuter-return program feral cats are captured by authorities the local humane society or concerned citizens using humane traps. The animals are taken to a veterinarian who neuters the cats including those as young as nine weeks and pregnant females. The left ear is either notched or the tip cut off to help identify neutered feral cats. The recovery period is usually 24 hours and the cats are fed and watered before they are returned to their territory. The colony will probably be skittish for a few days but over time the colony will decrease in size and fewer kittens will be seen. MANAGING A TNR PROGRAM PETA offers guidelines for monitoring a program after proponents allocate sufficient time and resources to manage a feral cat colony. The weather should be temperate and the cats should be in a safe place away from roads people and other wildlife. Establish a regular feeding program with the feral cat colony and develop a good relationship with a veterinarian. Decide when to set out the traps then capture neuter vaccinate ear tip and return the cats to the colony. Continue to monitor health of the cats and maintain veterinary records on each cat. Set up a covered feeding station away from sleeping and eliminating areas and provide fresh water at all times away from the feeding area. If the cats do not already inhabit an abandoned building construct a sheltered area where they are not exposed to the elements. Use straw or hardwood shavings for bedding. Build and clean (daily) a FERAL OR STRAY Feral cats are wild cats the feral cat has escaped from domestication and is living the life of a wild animal. A feral cat may also be a cat born in the wild to wild parents. Stray cats on the other hand have been abandoned 98 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM large covered litter box filled with sand. Be accessible for emergencies questions and problems. OTHER PRACTICES Is there really an alternative to TNR other than euthanasia Animal control for years has captured and euthanized stray animals with little success. My father s farm had a fairly large feral cat colony. The county animal control officers came out regularly to check the vaccination papers of the cats. Since there were no papers the officer would put out traps to capture the animals to be euthanized. In a couple of years the whole process would be done again. The failure here was resources neither my father nor the county had enough resources to capture and neuter all the animals in the colony so the colony was never under control. It was reduced but not controlled as it could have been with a well-planned TNR program. The most successful programs have been those associated with schools of veterinary medicine with strong research programs. Where there is good community support and adequate resources from local agencies the Humane Society PETA Alley Cat Allies or other organizations TNR programs have successfully reduced the feral cat population and neighborhood complaints about the cats. SOURCES ALLEYCAT.ORG NEIGHBORHOODCATS.ORG PETA.ORG PETFINDER.COM VETMED.TAMU.EDU AND VETMED.UFL.EDU. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 99 TRAVEL WRITTEN BY CATIE WATSON HERLIFE A bareboat charter is one that you and your travel companions crew yourself. This can be a more adventurous experience than a crewed charter with greater responsibility as well as more freedom and privacy. You don t need a formal license or certification for this type of charter but one or more passengers should have some knowledge and experience in boat handling navigation and basic seamanship. Expect the charter company to ask about your boating background before approving your bareboat charter. If your heart is set on a bareboat charter but your boating skills are a little rusty you can brush up with courses available through the American Sailing Association or the United States Power Squadron. An alternative offered by some charter companies is a combination of the crewed and bareboat experiences with a skipper who helps the passengers crew the boat for one day or the entire voyage. This takes some of the pressure off and lets you enjoy cruising without worrying about mishaps at sea. HOP ABOARD FOR A CARIBBEAN ISLAND CRUISE If you ve been dreaming about a relaxing escape imagine exploring the Caribbean s crystal blue waters pristine sandy beaches and picturesque island communities by boat. POWER OR SAIL In addition to deciding on a crewed or bareboat charter you ll also need to decide on the type of charter yacht power or sail. Although bareboat charters are traditionally sailboats the Caribbean is suited for both types of vessels and powerboat charters are available in many areas. Many people prefer the ease and speed of powerboats but a sailboat charter can be less expensive since less fuel is needed. Some say that sailing is for those who enjoy the journey while powerboating is about the destination. In the end the choice is individual and should be based on passenger preferences and skills. Y ou re not on a giant cruise ship with hundreds of other travelers but on a sailboat or power boat that you ve chartered with family and friends. You re free to explore the sea surrounding beautiful tropical islands dropping anchor to go for a swim or bed down for the night. Does it sound too good to be true You d be surprised at how easy and affordable charter cruising can be providing you do your homework and know what to expect before you embark. WHERE TO GO CHARTER TYPES CREWED VS. BAREBOAT There are two main types of charters to consider when it comes to Caribbean cruising fully crewed or bareboat. A fully crewed charter is a yacht rental that includes a captain or skipper and one or more crew members who are responsible for operating and navigating the boat. The crew also plans the itinerary based on passenger input. This type of charter is frequently a luxury experience with an onboard chef preparing gourmet meals for passengers. In addition the crew may be in charge of scheduling onshore excursions and setting up water activities such as snorkeling and kayaking. Your only responsibility is to relax and have fun. 100 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM The Caribbean Sea stretches from Florida to Venezuela and includes approximately 7 000 individual islands arranged in a crescent-shaped chain more than 2 000 miles long. The area is the ideal cruising location because many of the islands are clustered together in groups making it possible to cruise by day and spend each night anchored in the shelter of an island cove or bay. Top destinations include Puerto Rico the Bahamas Jamaica Cuba the Cayman Islands Aruba Barbados British Virgin Islands and the U.S. Virgin Islands. WHAT TO EXPECT Weather is an important consideration when it comes to planning a Caribbean vacation on the wa- ter. Hurricane season lasts from June to November so most people who charter cruises avoid those months. Before you depart you should expect your charter company to provide complete information about expected weather conditions as well as detailed navigation charts showing anchorages cruising grounds and prevailing conditions along your planned itinerary. You should also expect to be given a full tour of your charter yacht and if on a bareboat charter receive a demonstration of your charter yacht s features and operating systems. GETTING STARTED The best way to begin planning a Caribbean island hopping vacation is by focusing in on the area you want to visit and researching available boat charters in that area. You ll find a wealth of information online. One tip when choosing a charter company--take the age of the company s fleet into account. An older boat may be less expensive to charter but it also may be less comfortable or more difficult to operate. Some people avoid charter surprises by working with a charter broker who can visit and inspect a yacht before they decide. This service is usually offered free of charge to the client with the charter owner picking up the fee. So do your homework and planning and happy cruising SOURCES THEMOORINGS.COM CRUISINGWORLD.COM AND BUSINESSINSIDER.COM. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 101 JUST SAYIN BY MIX 93.3 PERSONALITY JENNY MATTHEWS PHOTOGRAPHY BY BRANDI WISDOM OF BNW PHOTOGRAPHY HERLIFE Jenny Matthews is the host of Mix 93.3 s Jenny Matthews Show 10am 3pm Monday - Friday. She is also the co-founder of She lives in the Northland with her husband Matthew and their two kiddos Julianne and Miles. Connect with Jenny at jmatthews Just Sayin How in the world is it back-to-school time already This summer seemed to fly by As a kid I remember the extreme anticipation of several months off to sleep late and hit the pool. As a mom it looks a little different. That thing called a job still requires me to get up and out the door on time B ut I do remember that nervous excitement of the upcoming school year as summer started to wind down. Maybe this makes me a little nerdy. It s cool I can own that but to this day I love the smell of school supplies Filling up my kiddos backpacks with new folders notebooks pencils and crayons makes me so happy. And I m not gonna lie the thought of getting everyone back on a schedule makes me want to do a few cartwheels. I think the debate of year-round school has been happening since I was a kid. I feel like it s not likely to happen or at least not any time soon. But this is one thing my younger self and my current self can agree on we shouldn t do it. I love watching my kids learn watching my daughter learn to read was one of the coolest things I ve experienced as a mom But as much as they need to soak up all of the knowledge they can they also need to play. They need to be kids. Because as I tell mine often life gets a lot harder Enjoy the pure sweet innocent freedom that can only be found in childhood. 102 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 103 TIE THE KNOT HERLIFE WRITTEN BY MARILYN ISAMINGER PHOTOGRAPHY BY MARISSA CRIBBS PHOTOGRAPHY BRIDAL GOWN NOLTE S BRIDAL BRIDESMAIDS GOWNS NOLTE S BRIDAL GROOM S TUX TIP TOP TUX GROOMSMEN TUXES TIP TOP TUX HAIR BY SCOTT SCHAEFER SALON VIDEOGRAPHY TOWER STUDIOS FLORIST THE FIDDLY FIG BAND KOLOGRAD DJ MATT MEIRON CATERER BLUE HILLS COUNTRY CLUB CAKE MCLAIN S BAKERY CEREMONY CHURCH OF THE NATIVITY CATHOLIC CHURCH RECEPTION BLUE HILLS COUNTRY CLUB JEWELER MAZZARESE JEWELRY WEDDING COORDINATORS MICHAEL NOLTE AND JENNIFER PESTINGER Jessica & Heath Brunton TIED THE KNOT OCTOBER 15 2016 104 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM J essica (Kumpfer) Brunton 27 daughter of John and Carol Kumpfer III of Overland Park Kansas earned a BA in speech language pathology from KU. She is currently working as Heath s parents. The blissful couple tied the knot October 15 2016. Emily Carter served as Maid of Honor bridesmaids were Lyndsay Cochran Stephanie Curran Natalie Curran and Courtney Drane. Levi Brunton was Best Man and groomsmen were Brady Bean Andy Diegel Bill Kumpfer and Drew Proctor. Serving as ushers were Jake Brunton Tyler Elliott Nathan Figgs and Zach Figgs. The Kiewiet children Grace Evelyn and Clara were the precious flower girls and their brother Will was the ring bearer. The blending of modern elegance with old world traditions made our wedding and reception unique Jessica describes. My simple elegant gown and the veil with intricate handmade detail reflected the traditional and elegant look that I desired. At our reception my Slovenian and German heritage was evident through the music and foods of the historic neighborhoods of Strawberry Hill and Dutch Hill. Many of the traditions were a part of my parents and grandparents weddings. Growing up these ethnic weddings were what I became accustomed to and therefore wanted to pay tribute to my family history in my own wedding. A strolling accordion HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM a nanny as she prepares to begin work on her master s degree in speech pathology. Heath Brunton 28 son of Kevin and Kristine Brunton of Topeka Kansas received a BS in civil engineering from K-State University. He works for Wynne Homes a local homebuilding company alongside Jessica s dad and brother. While attending K State Jessica and Heath met through mutual friends and started dating in March 2010. Their relationship blossomed and Heath proposed on January 8 2016. We had gone out to dinner to celebrate Heath s new job Jessica relates. He had the ring with him the entire night and thought about proposing in the middle of the restaurant but he knew how much I dislike being the center of attention. Once we got home he presented me with a framed picture of the quote Will you marry me as he bent down on one knee and proposed. We shared a toast to us and went to my parents house to surprise them and the next day we shared the exciting news with 105 polka band and ethnic songs played during the greeting of our guests and through the dinner hour. Guests had a taste of a few ethnic dishes one was my grandfather s recipe that the caterer made to perfection One song that was played is the Darovajte which means to give. The song traditionally introduces the bride groom and wedding party and leads them in song to a donation line to allow their parents siblings godparents and guests to congratulate and give their gifts to the couple. In return the bride and groom gift guests with food drink cake music and dancing. After experiencing a bit of the old world we switched to a DJ for a more modern music style. A perfect blend of old and new was reflected throughout the evening. Jessica and Heath honeymooned in beautiful St. Lucia enjoying the sun and sea. And they have learned that they are expecting a new arrival a baby girl at the beginning of October 106 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 107 HELPING HANDS WRITTEN BY KELLEN JENKINS HERLIFE JOIN THE YOUTH VOLUNTEER CORPS CELEBRATION WHAT Celebrate youth volunteers as Youth Volunteer Corps marks 30 years of service. WHEN Saturday October 28 6 30 p.m. to 8 30 p.m. WHERE InterContinental Kansas City at The Plaza 401 Ward Pkwy Kansas City MO FOR TICKETS Call 816-472-9822 or email questions to info Youth Volunteer Corps Builds Leadership tey believed in 1987 when he founded Youth Volunteer Corps with the mission of creating volunteer opportunities to address community needs and to inspire youth for a lifetime commitment to service. It was a risk said Battey president and founder of Youth Volunteer Corps. Few people thought that we d be able to convince teenagers to volunteer over the summer instead of working a job. But we took the chance. It was the right call. Now 30 years later YVC has grown from a summer program in Kansas City into a national volunteer service organization with more than 30 affiliates across North America. It s also grown into a respected wellknown program through which young people ages 11 to 18 participate in team-based service learning opportunities. YVC has helped more than 300 000 young people take ownership of problems in their communities by developing deeper connections to their neighbors and a greater understanding of the world. YVC volunteers have delivered meals to those who are hungry they have played with kids who were lonely and have lent their strength to people who simply needed an extra hand. They ve given nearly 5 million hours of service and have been honored by mayors GET INVOLVED TODAY BY VISITING YVC.ORG. Y oung people have the potential to make a real meaningful difference in their community. That s what Kansas City native David Bat- governors and even presidents. I m in awe of everything these youths have accomplished Battey said. But I m even more amazed when I think of all they will accomplish in the years to come. As Youth Volunteer Corps celebrates its 30th year Battey encourages people to look for inspiration from the young people in their lives. Their energy and passion can be infectious and with a little guidance they have the power within them to change the world. 108 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 109 CALENDAR HERLIFE 5 19 AUGUST 2 Adult Scavenger Hunt WEDNESDAY AUGUST 2 5 30 - 6 30PM NKCH WELLNESS CORNER AT ZONA ROSA 7322 NW 87TH TERRACE Night Tours at Holladay Distillery 8 00PM HOLLADAY DISTILLERY 1 MCCORMICK LANE WESTON MISSOURI The experience includes two seasonal cocktails appetizers a souvenir Holladay lantern for each guest and a progressive sampling of Holladay bourbon at different points of maturation. A second tour is on August 19. Tickets are 75 person and can be booked at night-tours. Put your sleuthing skills to work hunting for hidden clues around Zona Rosa s streets and shops. 5 - 26 123 Kids Yoga SATURDAYS AUGUST 5 - 26 10 00 - 11 00AM NKCH WELLNESS CORNER AT ZONA ROSA 7322 NW 87TH TERRACE 8 No Place Like Home Christopher Kennedy Lawford 7 00PM HILTON PRESIDENT HOTEL 1329 BALTIMORE AVE KCMO Yoga can help kids clear their minds and calm their bodies. SAVE Inc. will host actor author and activist Christopher Kennedy Lawford speaking to the mental illness and substance abuse side of SAVE s mission. Individual tickets are 100 per person and sponsorship packages are available. For more information please visit 110 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 17-26 4th Annual Charlie Parker Celebration AMERICAN JAZZ MUSEUM AND KC JAZZ CLUBS DOWNTOWN LEE S SUMMIT MUSIC IN THE PARK EVERY FRIDAY NIGHT TO LABOR DAY WEEKEND Enjoy free Friday night concerts featuring a variety of musical genres in Howard Station Park in Downtown Lee s Summit. Guests are encouraged to bring lawn chairs and or blankets for seating. FARMERS MARKET Through August 26 this ten-day event again explores and recognizes Charlie Parker the Kansas City native and arguably the most influential saxophonist and jazz icon ever to perform. For more information visit 26 Moon Shine on the Farm 7 00 - 11 00PM ADULTS ONLY DEANNA ROSE CHILDREN S FARMSTEAD 13800 SWITZER RD. OVERLAND PARK KANSAS EVERY WEDNESDAY AND SATURDAY 7AM Get the freshest produce in town by visiting the Downtown Lee s Summit Farmers Market located at the corner of Second and Douglas streets. More than 50 vendors featuring a variety of fresh produce plants baked goods handmade goods and much more. AUGUST 25 FOURTH FRIDAYS ART WALK ART IN THE ALLEYS Packed with a variety of activities including artist receptions artist showcases Music in the Park street theater Yoga in the Streets and even some surprises AUGUST 25 AND 26 FALL OPEN HOUSE Join us for the fourth annual Moon Shine on the Farm it s a barn raiser an evening on the Farm filled with food beverages games and an old-fashioned gazebo featuring The Suburbans This year proceeds from the event will help us build a Draft Horse and Discovery Barn. For more information visit PARK PLACE JULY 31 - AUGUST 6 WINE AND DINE WEEK 117TH AND NALL LEAWOOD KANSAS Prepare your palate for a collection of culinary delights as Park Place restaurants come together to feature specially priced lunch ( 15) and dinner ( 30) multi-course meals. Event provides donation to Community for Kids a charitable organization that addresses the reality of food insecurity for children in elementary schools in Johnson County. PARK PLACE FARMER S MARKET EVERY WEDNESDAY 4 00 - 7 00PM BARKLEY SQUARE IN PARK PLACE Vendors will feature such products as lamb herbs fruits vegetables pork free-range chicken grass-fed beef free-range eggs and more. Retail products include handmade soaps lotions candles and more. Merchants will feature new items for fall 2017 and customers can enter to win a Downtown shopping spree SAVE THE DATE SEPTEMBER 9 Gardens at Sunset 5 30 TO 8 30 PM AT KANSAS CITY COMMUNITY GARDENS 6917 KENSINGTON AVE. KANSAS CITY MO Gardens at Sunset is a unique and beautiful evening celebrating locally sourced food made by Kansas City chefs beer from local breweries and creative and enticing silent auction items. KCCG clients will share how gardening has improved their lives and their community. All proceeds support KCCG s mission to assist low-income households and community groups to grow their own produce. Buy your tickets now HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 111 HOROSCOPE BY JOHN SANDBACH HERLIFE STAR JOURNEYS The time is right for much that has been held back to break free but we don t want it to unleash too quickly. Pace yourself. Everything feels rather unstable now which is in no way a bad thing for the stability that s been going on for a while now has created a lot of stagnation and boredom that s ready to be dispersed. LEO (JUL. 24-AUG. 2) AQUARIUS (JAN. 20-FEB. 18) You have a great need now to make yourself comfortable. Realize this and then proceed to support yourself in any way you can. This may mean shutting out certain people and situations and rather than trying to extricate yourself gracefully from sticky situations it may be best to arbitrarily say no and leave it at that. Peace of mind is a valuable commodity and you need it now. There are all sorts of elusive subtleties going on now and you re probably aware of them but maybe just can t quite get them to hold still long enough so that you can really see them. Let your imagination loose and see what you come up with and if you get the hunch that something hidden is going on it probably is. VIRGO PISCES (FEB. 19-MAR. 20) (AUG. 23-SEPT. 22) Engage in lots of preparation now which is something you re good at. Take the time to really do a good job especially if it is something you like to do and into which you can pour your creativity. You have a great ability this month to perform successfully and to make others happy. How gratifying it can be to do what you do so artfully People and situations that you were formerly involved with can come back into your life in new ways. This is a great time to reaffirm what is most important to you and to engage in activities that reflect the real you and your strongest desires. Don t worry so much about details now core essentials are what you need to focus on. LIBRA ARIES (MAR. 21-APR. 19) (SEPT. 23-OCT. 22) The more you take a light and gentle attitude to whatever situations you re involved with the better they will go and the more satisfied you will feel. Be firm with people and hold your ground. Do not hook into any negativity they re putting out. But on the other hand be very easy-going and mild for such an attitude is likely to lead you to success. You very much need to use your creativity this month and you have to apply it to as many of your life situations as possible. This can mean making lots of changes both big and small which will help to fine-tune everything you re doing. Bring renewal to as many different aspects of your life as possible. SCORPIO TAURUS (APR. 20-MAY 20) (OCT. 23-NOV. 21) Don t be afraid to allow yourself to be vulnerable. Take time to be alone with your own thoughts and feelings so you can sort out your reactions to what s going on around you. When the turbulence is allowed to settle the water comes clear and then what may have been confusing is so much easier to see for what it is. Don t get bummed out if progress is not as swift as you would like it to be. Take little steps and once you ve taken them take a few more. This is not a time of things moving quickly but it s a time when you can make steady and sure progress. Push but push gently. GEMINI (MAY 21-JUNE 20) SAGITTARIUS (NOV. 22-DEC. 21) There may be a lot of stuff floating around in your life that doesn t mean much to you. Now is the time to dispense with it so you can get down to the really good stuff the stuff you love and that sparks your passion. Seek out some intensity something that will stimulate you and make you feel more alive. It s time for that kind of renewal. Focus on prep work. Do not wait until the last minute to get things done. A problem dealt with now will make your life so much easier in the future. And though you like to connect it can be good this month to spend some time being detached so that you can get some rest from all that s going on. CANCER (JUNE 21-JULY 23) CAPRICORN (DEC. 22-JAN. 19) Really get into things now don t just think about them but actually do them. You may want to start something you ve been contemplating for a long time. Contact with the earth can help you now as well as any hands-on effort that you make. Don t let complexities get in your way push them aside if you have to and dig in directly to what s going on. 112 HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM You have resources you may not even be aware you have. Use what s there around you and when friends offer to help you take them up on it. The more receptive you are the more you can take in and then the more you ll have to use. Think prosperity and it will attract to you the abundance you ve been wanting. HERLIFEMAGAZINE.COM 113